MEN & FEMININITY
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- Опубліковано 9 тра 2012
- oh, just another one of those sex negative double standards...
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A big thanks to Anna for making this video more accessible with English and French captioning!
VIDEO SUMMARY
In this video I talk about the aversion to femininity as expressed through product marketing, increased violence toward male bodied people who are feminine, and shaming of women who are very feminine. I urge everyone to question these notions and explore the sexist sentiments underlying them: that masculinity is more valuable and femininity is shameful. Do what you want, be what you will, and to hell with the gender police. ;) - Розваги
Being a man as myself, I really appreciate this video because I like a lot of 'girly' things which is seen as socially unacceptable for men. It's discrimination. that isn't necessary
Dramas, cutesy animals like Hello Kitty. The way I speak too, I'm not afraid of calling things adorable, or cute, sometimes I casually say "I love you sooo much" to my guy friends or girl friends, I frequently hug my friends, etc. :p
Fashion as well ... the list goes on.
Dude rock on! I think its fantastic you feel so comfortable with what you like!!! Keep it up & stay proud of what you like ♡♡
***** fuck you
you can fuck yourself
okay have fun with that you sexist pig
Totally agree. I got mocked in school for being friends with a lot of girls and playing the trumpet. It's completely ridiculous that some men get judged on their masculinity instead of their personality.
Playing the "trumpet". Heh.
That's weird, because I'm a girl, and I was laughed at for playing the trumpet, too.
Stephen Butchard
You mad bro?
Nathan Williams
Every person? Ain't nobody got time for that
Is it lonely under your bridge?
Ughhhhhh people who don't understand... She isn't saying men shouldn't be masculine, she's just saying that men should not feel like they have to reject or demonise anything feminine out of fear of seeming like less of a man. All she is saying is that women can dress or act masculine, so why can't men do the same? So much for the man hating argument...
shes talking for men who can talk for themselves and then calling herself an ally. she saying we get disrespected but truth is I dont and im thinking more people dont then what you all think. I wear dresses every saturday and never get looked down on. Its not man hating but to me it perpetuates the idea that i should be looked down on because most people do according to her look down on me. So when saying these things remember it falls on ears that want to hear that we are different and not deserving of respect to and when they hear from her that men who use fem products are looked down on then it says well it must be normal to look down on them and therefore people do. Here is a crazy thought maybe you should talk to someone who wears dresses before deeming that soceity looks down on them by watching a video. But IM sure Social justice warriors would never do that because then they would see there is less of a problem then they think and there existence would stop.
Jason Kelley So if she talks only about women, she's sexist against men, but if she talks about "men too!!!" once in a while, then she's still sexist against men. Can she ever win?
Kaleidalee
It isn't that she is being sexist against men by talking about "men too," as you put it. The real problem she sees with men being stigmatized for being more effeminate is that she says that it is bad for women. She doesn't say that it is bad for us, but instead goes on about how it is really a societal perception of women.
I never said it was sexist although teacher in training has a point I just said she doesn't know what she's talking about bc she has Pronably never talked to a gem guy just heard from her teacher we are looked down on because that pushes the narrative of women are looked down on
As a transgender, I've always hated the fact that men are not allowed to be feminine. Hell, my stepfather would never let me grow my hair out, and I was never able to buy makeup or carry anything even remotely purse-like. Even now, as a 19 year old, I get weird looks all the time because I have really long hair, I giggle, and I walk/stand/sit in a feminine way. Gawd, I hate society.
Screw what other people think and live your life. You being a transgender isn't hurting anyone only those who can't mind their own business. On a side note, it's always so weird to me why girls are free to explore both feminine and masculine roles without that much ridicule but if a boy does it he's shunned. -.-
please tell me that you did it... you ...... o/ff/ed yourself pleassssssse people like you should be in china
As a side note about femininity being "shameful". Strong female characters seem (to me at the very least) to have to throw away their femininity. Girly characters are often seen as silly or weak. Why can't we have a kick ass princess who also love things like pink, or makeup and such?
Buffy
Dario Casas Buffy is awsome. But she, and others like her are far in the minority of kick ass female characters.
What about Sailor Moon ? 💕✨🌙
Dario Casas
Buffy The Vampire Slayer ( Sarah Michelle Geller as Buffy Summers ) is a strong character, she can look girly with something of a tomboy, but kicks the vampires back into their graves.
Charmed ( Alyssa Milano as Phoebe, Shannen Doherty as Prue, Marie Holly Combs as Piper, Rose McGowan as Paige ), they are beautiful but have courage, know how, and powers to kick demons and monsters ass, while looking pretty.
I love these older tv shows.
I miss the mid 90's up till like approx 2005, the time that the tv shows and dance music were great and worth-while watching, listening, now most tv shows and music, seem to be downhill, compared to back then.
The newer remake of 90210 is pretty good, but it will never be as good or the same as the original 90210, with the original characters and places.
Also I miss watching Sabrina The Teenage Witch, and other great tv shows.
Feels like it was yesterday but was many years ago, where did the time fly and why did ii pass by so fast and how ?
If I could relive those glory days, it be great.
Wish to travel back in time someday.
I guess this is now, at least until a time machine is possible, who knows when and where, how and so on.
+Estarile Agreed
I hate it when people assume all feminine girly girls are mean, high maintenance Regina George type of girls, huge difference between being girly and being a bitch. My little sister is girly but she's very sporty and athletic and isn't afraid to get her hands dirty
Why thank you :)
I really hate when people/movies say that just because your girly your dumb
Me too!,that's another stereotype that negatively portrays girly girls that needs to stop
+Sophie Taylor oh the irony!
+foxxy moon who doesn't hate bad presumptions, but then again, beautiful women tend to be more high maintenance, just for the sheer reason of lowered expectations by everyone involved, often excluded and shamed by people from their own gender, leading to strategies to cope with this and still have friends of the own gender, men have to deal with similar problems
michel houellebecq describes it in the case of men as something that will make the just naturally beautiful male have to cater to certain needs and diminish his own worth constantly or all socialization he'll have will be with females
anyway, people are more and more high maintenance and it's no wonder that young people, growing up on the internet are even more special, if you compare the valency of nutjob insanity to other peer groups who use the internet considerably less, it's mindblowing that ~four out of ten online socialites (tumblr, failbook, twitter, etc) denote themselves as having serious mental illnesses, with two out of ten having medium and another two out of ten mild, while the people not using such media at all have about eight in hundred with serious and those that only use social media
Thank you so much for the video! This world needs a lot more femininity which comes peaceful and loving. And I feel it inside: I want to wear skirts and beautiful clothes, want to be vulnerable, want to appear as a sensitive person. I guess this is just a reaction to a cold world.
If you want to wear a dress and heels you should get a sex change buddy. It's ok for men to be feminine and women to be masculine but you don't want a man to be MORE feminine than a woman and you don't want a woman to be more masculine than a man.
Schuster Junge i think that's beautiful! just be yourself okay. The right people will respect you for that but the wrong people won't. that's how you'l realize who are the people to be around and not to be around.
bleeding papercut
yeah that doesn't mean the yourself is okay ,
dingojerk *asexual humans exist*
dingojerk Some women do want to be masculine, in fact. And some men do want to be feminine. And there's nothing wrong with either!
*This, children, is a classic example of femmephobia - the assumption that if I were a man (I'm not), I would be "lowering" myself by wanting to wear a dress and feel feminine and pretty.*
Im a really feminine guy. I dont wear dresses or makeup or anything but im just comfortable with my sexuality and am really not masculine and thus my high school thinks im gay, I get people coming up to me constantly going "Luke your gay?" nope just feminine thanks tho for your consideration about my personal life
you are going to do great things! :D
thanks :)
Hana Yi
Like make a fool of her self
Confidence will take you where you want to go.
There's a term for that. it's called beta male
Yes exactly, even though women face lots of issues but this issue of the society putting down feminine men is double standards, when women can get away with masculine clothes or attitudes.
Yeah, but why can a women get away with masculine clothes? =... Because masculine is seeing as a GOOD and COOL thing while a guy in a dress is just something to laugh about because feminine things are weak, "cute" and no-cool.
*****
Lawrence if your perception of weak is based on strength then you are flawed
***** If you are talking about strengt, NO, not all women are weak as not all men are strong, but MORE women are weak and more men are strong - but it has nothing to do with clothes. Just because youre strong or tough you're not biological drawn to black blue and grey, and just because youre ""weak"" youre not drawn to pink.
***** up untill 40 years ago women couldnt even vote! In a male dominated society uptill mid 20th century women authors had to use MALE names to sell their books! And you talk about PROOFS lol women are just slowly coming into the science, technology, engineering and political field..And its men like you who tell their daughter this chauvinistic things and ruin their lives...I rest my case.
You think being off the time by 20 years makes me dumb while you stand there refuting facts about gender inequality... go troll somewhere
I completely agree on this. I'm tired of femininity being seen as something terrible. When my friends or my sisters wear male clothing like a men's t-shirt or men's jeans, no one says anything. But when I wear tight jeggings or wear make up, I'm immediately bashed and called a bunch of names. Like when women have masculine traits or present themselves in a more masculine way, they aren't bashed and are sometimes praised yet as soon as a guy presents himself in a more feminine way they're immediately bashed.
+Bey Xtina Minaj I know and sadly a lot of gay men also do the bashing nowadays, or "just don't get it". I wanna to choke this guy because I was explaining to him all this and its like everything I said went in one ear and out the other. I don't want to promote gender stereotypes but this was very stereotypical. Perhaps men in society just haven't been disciplined enough to listen to other people and hence why this stereotype is observable. idk it just annoys me.
i think it's weird that "boobs" are feminine ... because the only difference between male fat sacks and female fat sacks is that we produce the hormones to make milk. they have the equipment too, so technically, a male breast and a female breast (when not lactating) is the same thing. just had to say
I've actually seen videos about a trans-woman, that CAN lactate, due to the hormone replacement therapy.
i know o.o it's just the hormone that makes it possible
Lirk Ravnsgaard Hormones that men produce, too. Men can lactate with proper technique if they spend some weeks at it, without taking any hormones or other chemicals. Some men spontaneously lactate, especially when their children are born.
yea. guys even get breast cancer!
Ang3linahJ OK F#CK THE WORLD
I really like this. I am female and do have some very feminine personality traits. My hair and dress, however, often gets me mistaken for a male. So when I speak people tend to freak out and ask if what gender I am, as well as other strange questions. It weirds people out.
Also, I personally like guys with more feminine features. Guys who can be gentle and open about their feelings. As well as guys who take care of their appearance, even if they do wear makeup. I also am not really attracted to the whole body builder thing, it just doesn't work for me on a personal level.
I love it when my male partner wears a skirt. It makes him feel happy to try out things that are supposedly "feminine", and none of it makes me any less attracted to him. If he's happy that's all I need to love him for the way he is.
ha! gaaaaay!
It's really ridiculous how agressively many guys protect their masculinity and it's funny how people also expect men to do that. People often tease me about my girlish side and I often get "cmoon seriously? Get more manly" - comments and they often seem little confused because I don't care and that I'm proud of my girly side :D I guess everyone are just so used to guys protecting their masculinity with any cost that it's weird for people when someone isn't. Therefore I've started to bring out my girlishness much more to increase the tolerance. It's actually quite surprising how well it works! :)
There definitely is a fear or almost hatred of the feminine, I agree. Somehow we see these things as okay for women to do, but not men. We want equality? We need to start by educating people against a fear of the feminine. Not with hate, not with anger towards the masculine, but with acceptance and tolerance towards the feminine.
I like you, Laci. You discuss issues important to everyone of any gender, and you do it in a calm, rational way, which is a lot more than I can say for a lot of people online who discuss gender politics, sexual issues, and all the baggage that comes with it. Feminists and MRAs, take note - more this, less of the angry insult wars. :)
Actually we need to educate the opposite, feminine people fear being seen as masculine.
JoeOnWoW How about we focus on both and try to remove the rigid gender constructs plaguing men and women?
Gideon Ezekiel
Why though, haven't they kept us alive for millions of years?
JoeOnWoW Nope. Until the advent of agriculture, the roles men and women played were equally as important to the survival of the species. Even though women did rear the children and so took gathering of food instead of hunting, food is food.
My dad does the cooking in my house and has all my life, he also took care of me when I was little because my parents decided they wanted my mum to go back to work instead of my dad and whenever I tell people this they say things like, "why doesn't your mum do the cooking? That's what normal people do." and I also have a friend who's dad does the cooking but that is the only other person I've heard of who's dad does cooking and it disgusts me that in the all boys school near by they don't continue food tech (cooking) after year 9. COOKING IS LITERALLY PART OF SURVIVAL, why is it suddenly 'wrong' when men do cooking?????!!!!!
Men should watch this
Watch... But not listen... You see her Shoulders???
Randy Ross what?
Boys will be boys
+Idinikle's Identical you like what you like/enjoy... If I'm a guy and I like dresses, flowers and perfume I'm not going to tell people I'm a woman... Because I'm NOT. And vise versa, gender has nothing to done with these characteristics. Make and female end of story , you people are fucking insane
I am a dude and not all men act like that
Thanks for mentioning how women are being looked down upon for being girly girls. There's NOTHING wrong with dresses! Just look at Game of Thrones. Arya is considered more badass than Sansa for running around with a sword and wanting to do anything but be a lady.
In fact, both do nothing for the plot. They're equally useless and equally filled with potential for use. They're both strong, too, though handling situations very differently.
The sansa-hate is scary.
***** Sansa changed her mind about Jeoffrey after she grew up a little and realized life wasn't a fairy tale. But people forget that and just think about her pre-character development.
Laci doesn't like "hypermasculinity," but doesn't like when wome are crisiticized for being too feminine. Yeah, that's not a contradiction at all. LOL!
Andy Harglesis Amen. She clearly hates "objecitfication" but, yet, makes a video called "Boobs and Butts." LOL
Andy Harglesis Ugh, I totally understand what you're saying. That's why I'm MGTOW lol!
Andy Harglesis
Well, MGTOW's get called "women haters" when it's not that at all. I don't hate women, I have a sister, who's lesbian, and I would die for that woman. Love her to death. But what I DO hate is women OR men, who use the system (divorce court, marriage laws, child support, feminism, etc) to fuck men over. Yeah, men have privileges and rights, but we also have issuses of our own. Feminism doesn't give three shits about those issues unless it's how to point out that those issues "perpetuate female sterotypes" and other such nonsense. Fuck all that. LOL!
***** "being overtly masculine means you can be hateful, ignorant or violent and still be accepted for it" WHO is "accepting this?" Not I. As if women can never be hateful, ignorant or violent.
If women are not "pussies," or "girlish" physically weaker, and so on, than how is it that they get raped more often? According to feminists, 1 in every 4 women on earth get raped.
Who said men and women aren't "socially" equal? What definition of "equal" are you using, because from a biological standpoint, they're not. Otherwise, define equality. Besides, no one is asking a woman to be "masculine," or at least, it's not a law, of any kind. Men have a right not to engage in "femininity" as much as women have a right not to accept sexual advances.
If someone tells women to "get back into the kitchen," to women, it doesn't mean they have to. Again there is no existing law that says that they should. Otherwise, it's just people talking. The last time I checked, speaking, and opinions are not a crime, but neither are they law.
Macoutes Gabber You're confused and wrong. All of your arguments are misinterpretations of what's being said here.
Here is the thing. I am totally 100% for both sexes, woman and man to express whatever kind of feminine or masculine traits they want. Because those things are social constructs. If a man wants to wear a dress, fine who cares. What I have a problem with is when a man says, "I feel like a woman because I wear a dress" because this is offensive to women. Not all women like feminine things - such as dresses. It's a bad stereotype, and like Laci said. Embrace whatever feminine or masculine traits you want. But don't say that you're the opposite sex just because that sex is tied together with a social construct. Sex =/= gender. Gender is a social construct, i.e, feminine and masculinity.
I'm a guy and I wore a purple kimono on my first day of senior year of high school, and there were a number of people who posted pictures of me on Twitter and Instagram with captions like "shit like this smh". Girls at my school, though, wear guys' clothes all the time, like button-up shirts or male-cut t-shirts, and are treated no differently for it. Thanks for the video, Laci.
When girls make fun of guys for wearing makeup, especially if it's like stage makeup for performing, I find it ridiculous. I'm like "So your vagina enables you to put minerals on your face but his genitals prevent him from putting minerals on his face?" but apparently that satirization is too silly to address. Or maybe they just can't think of a way to address it without giving in/admitting they're wrong.
If masculine image rather than the male sex is the stronger symbol of power, then that means the whole feminist movement of women being more man-like in the workforce is actually empowering men, not women. Mind. Blown.
That is not what feminism is about. It is about women not being seen as "lower than" a man. NOTHING to do with women wanting to be masculine.
Yeah it sucks that even in this day and age men and women are still oppressed into gender roles and are not free to act the way they feel in the moment as all of us have masculine and feminine feelings.
I like the Taoist way of thinking - instead of "masculine" and "feminine" existing in hostile opposition (as we do it here in the West), they see "Yin & Yang" as complimentary, opposite sides of the same coin, BOTH are necessary components of a balanced personality...
***** We in the west definitely need to be influenced in that way of thinking...
Can we all just be androgynous already?
love it
i personally am a crossdresser, though i do it privately because i do not think i am good enough to go out in public wearing skirts and dresses xD
i think it would be good for people to start being more open and enlightened and less sexist. i personally would like to feel confident enough to walk outside at least in a skirt, but i definitely think the social pressure does affect me, but also my own bias. i won't criticize strangers i meet on the streets, but i personally judge people's looks, i judge myself the hardest. if a guy looks good all feminine orientated, that is cool, and in fact, i find it interesting and exciting, but it sort of puts me off as awkward when they are not good looking, it can be a distraction xD not that i have the right to play fashion police though, it's just how i feel, and if i know the person well enough i will make critiques ;p
xeronik69 Same.
+xeronik69 Your ability to perceive and judge is one of the most human traits one can have and also extremely important, do not feel shame because you are human. Embrace that this is how you function and except it...realize it and you can overcome it. Instead of doing this however you essentially blame society for your 'affliction' and suggest everyone should conform to your dogmatic views because you're intolerant of other viewpoints....this is the definition of bigotry.
As for the part about perception, I will say that I don't have an inherent issue with cross dressing (I'm a guy.) but I do find it pretty unsightly......I do often cringe...but why let that stop you? Aren't people allowed to dislike....is it ill informed to feel a certain way about visuals? Perhaps you have to learn to leave people to their preferences and work on your own instead!
Gosh, I'm glad you are on the internet Laci. you talk sense, and I hope I will meet someone like you someday
yes, femme phobia. it's a powerstuggle like a man is considdered the stronger sex and if a man challange that, like being feminine or transitioning that' a threat to the gender binary or to men as we challange the manlyness.
I feel like every person in the world should watch this video.
I'm an adult male and yet I'm a huge and proud fan of things like magical girls, cute animes, pink and adorable things, and My Little Pony. And I don't have any insecuries about it either... if anything, you could say I'm a bit TOO proud about my love for it. :)
At the same time, I do not like to sing, dance, or go shopping, and I'm not interested in things like clothing and make-up.
That's just who I am, and I'm proud of it. :D
Good job
You are amazing Laci!! =')
THANK YOU! :D
Laci, I graduated as a (nurse) RN BSN in 1982, played football, baseball, basketball, played trombone in the band, cherished women my whole life. Busted more than a couple heads when other guys disrespected a woman. I'd sooner jump off a cliff than put a woman down. I come from a family of male and female professionals going back to the atleast the late 19th century. Though my dad drove a fork lift and both my grand dads were coal miners, the females in my life made the difference. Women are wonderful! Sweet, wonderful, intelligent, caring, strong WOMEN who this heterosexual man adores. I've been with my sweetheart 19 years, and Barbara is her name; she's more than wonderful, warm and intelligent...beautiful in every way. She's mine and I'm hers. Plus if a guy wants to paint his nails or wear a dress, or feel up another guy, etc., more power to him. Accept each other: That's what living a fulfilling life is all about.
the Philippines and Thailand are different. also, I have a 2 feminine male friends and in Australia, they basically can't be themselves in public. they get laughed at by both men and women by the way
I come from eastern Europe and i can tell that here dudes in dresses and other female stuff are considered gay and discriminated by both men and women. Except for Scottish kilt.
Arturs paulausks Gays that may dress "masculine" are still discriminated in Eeastern Europe, its kinda scary...
Historically, we were more of a peacock culture, where the men prettied up and the women drabbed down. ...Or so I've heard, I always fell asleep in history classes. I'm sure we can reach a happy medium, if we don't end up just rubberbanding back and forth forever.
A lot of people look at my brother weird because he's in ballet. But I mean when he gets older he's going to be one of the few men surrounded by tons of pretty girls. Who's really the winner here?
Thank you for creating this video. As a male who's always had a particularly strong feminine side (I didn't realize until around high school that it wasn't so much the young boys who generally enjoyed Disney films such as Cinderella, Beauty & the Beast or Little Mermaid (I remember getting that first edition VHS at the age of 5, and the 2-disk DVD set when I was in college). I always felt more comfortable around female friends, and had vague thoughts of mild androgyny.
But it was in high school where the social structure was batshit crazy. There are many great things about the Catholic all-boys school that I attended (strong role models, some greatly inspirational teachers, and a strong bond between some alumni), but there was also WAY too much testosterone in the air. Cyber bullying before a term for it was coined, a teacher who didn't let up on bullying people, another teacher who gave students beers as payment for mowing his lawn, ... And IT-GOT-WORSE. One teacher was harassed by students to the point where he had a mental breakdown in class, and left teaching that summer. Since I wasn't the picture of masculinity, my St. Francis of Assisi poster got censored for having plantlife that was deemed as too feminine (he's widely seen as a naturist, and none of the plants were flowering). People would speculate that pinfeathers in a painting an eagle were too phallic (Anything long and slender can be seen as phallic). One student cornered me, and started dancing suggestively singing a Bloodhound Gang song in a homoerotic way. Another asked me if I would like him to give me a "golden shower" and then continued to explain what it was.
I don't consider myself attracted to men, but if I ever was, that pretty much turned me off from being intimate with one. (women however... :) ) ... But, making things worse is the stigma on males who endure sexual harassment. You can tell a teacher, and the other student could even be expelled, but that won't prevent gossip spreading, or the student returning as a guest at school dances.
Over the years, I've come to feel that all that subversive homophobia was probably the school system trying to compensate for what they may feel in themselves. Strangely it was phallic and not yonic drawings that were all over campus after all.
Things came to a head (no pun intended), years after I was out of college, and the school found itself in the midst of a scandal. The basketball team was playing a team from a mostly Jewish school, and the two student bodies were chanting against eachother instead of for their schools' athletes. It escalated to the other school's students shouting "Where are your girls?" Feeling their heterosexual image so threatened, they came up with "You killed Jesus!". Honestly, they didn't mean to sound so antisemetic. Unlike compassion and acceptance of LGBT people, combating antisemitism is something more emphatically taught in the school. The antisemitic chant is the only thing that was addressed in journalism reaching around the globe, but I can only hope that both problems are more firmly and compassionately addressed.
I'm gay male and like doing manly things is that a problem
n i m n i. m nim there a war on masculinity
YAY!
You actually addressed an issue of sexism towards men!
*claps* You're now one of the few I can honestly show some respect towards.
I started wearing feminine clothes six years ago.. skirts, dresses, blouses, and recently, feminine trousers... best thing I ever did for my soul.
Sure, a lot of people laugh, mock, and ridicule me, but I feel more in tune with myself, and generally feel better all around.
Why can people, who ever they are just be who they want and not give a dam what others think? We always hear what this person or that person perceives LETS CHANGE IT! How about we teach people just to be who you are and not give a dam, be proud of it too no matter what "they" say????
It's so cool that she owns up to past mistakes. You go, Laci!
I love the way you talk about sexism... It's been something that's been eating away at me for an unknown amount of time, before I even knew it was a thing, I always hated the expectations put on me as a "man" in society, to act a certain way and do certain things, to like sports and hunting and going to the gym, and if I didn't like those things I was queer. But as I'm learning more about myself, I realize that.... I like looking beautiful, I want to wear nice clothes and wear makeup, pierce my ears and have smooth skin and not have to be this scruffy, tough cold hearted bastard who doesn't take no shit from anyone, it's a joke!!!! But yet I'm mortified to do the things I want to do, from fear of complete rejection from my peers. And NO, IM NOT GAY, even I thought I was gay for a while because of the things I liked, I figured "I must be gay!" And People think I'm weird cause I like to clean, and cook and sew, and take care of children, and how it's weird that I hate sports and hunting and trucks and pigheadedness, I just can't take it anymore. But to speak out about the way I feel is to speak to an empty room... I swear no one sees it!!
Right on! Breaking out of gender expectations is very scary and hard to do. This stuff is so deeply engrained in our society that most people can't see it and never question why they are uncomfortable with a man acting in a feminine way. Also you're absolutely right, gender expression has nothing to do with sexuality. Some gay men are extremely masculine, aggressive and macho and some heterosexual men are extremely feminine.
The important thing is to live your life the way you want to and if people want to hate on you for it... well I personally pity them, because they're all so miserable and constrained in their little gender-policed boxes.
I too get frustrated with the expectations put on us by other people. the looks you get when you say you don't want to watch the game, being called gay for not wanting to participate in "Which of our co-workers would you sleep with/is the hottest?", it sucks when guys just blurt this shit out and then are surprised when they find out I don't want to.
Don't get me wrong I love girls and how sexy they can be, and I'll play a game of soccer (the only sport I don't completely suck at) every now and then because I like being active, but I don't always think of sex as soon as I meet a girl, and sometimes I want to sit and watch Moulin Rouge for the feels rather than get sweaty.
7StormyLines7 As frustrating as it can be you gotta take a breather and do something about your situation. Meet people with interests like yours and slowly start to be more open about your interests with the people you care about. Your new friends will give you a place to feel safe and at home and if the people you care about accept you then you'll be sooo much happier, but if they don't then its gonna suck to lose them but there is no way you can be close if they don't respect you and your interests.
I really hope you find happiness, and don't worry there are so many people out there (like Laci for example) educating others and slowly changing society so one day you won't have to hide your interests just to fit in.
This video has helped me explain a HUGE problem that I have been going through. THANK YOU SO MUCH.
From the time I was 7 to around the time I was 12 I totally refused to wear girls clothes, I hated everything girly or pink or anything associated with being feminine. I was so worried about being tough and being one of the guys, I hated the fact that I was a girl, I don't remember this but I had someone else tell me this recently, I 100% stopped the "Girl Clothes" thing after a boy in my class thought it would be funny to unzip the front of my dress in front of everyone. I was totally traumatized, I felt so vulnerable and I hated it. I don't think like that anymore though thank god, I dress "like a girl now" I guess haha whatever that means! Thanks for making this video Laci! much appreciated!
Thank you for this message !
Hi Laci. You make some interesting points. However, there is something I want to point out. I feel like essentially, both men and women, too often anyway, tie their masculinity and femininity to their identity -- the manly cereal and razor was a good example for men, but what about, say, hair removal products for women. Products that "ensure that the hair never ever grows back, because that would be the worst thing ever!" Is growing facial hair bad because it's associated with men?
I don't have an intention of trying to say who has it worse or anything, but I think feeling like one has to be feminine if they are a woman is not so different from a man who feels like he has to be masculine. Would you be ok with doing things associated with men, such as wearing no makeup, having facial hair, being bald, or would this threaten your femininity, in the same way that a man wearing a dress threatens his masculinity?
If you are ok with this, that's great! Personally I think men shouldn't feel like they have to be masculine, and women shouldn't feel like they have to be feminine. But then, while I don't see many men with dresses, I don't see many bald women either.
(You of course gave examples where masculine things like women wearing men's work clothing was viewed as progress, which does support your point, but on the other hand I felt like you were ignoring some counter examples so I wanted to point those out)
A teacher of mine once wore nail polish, and it looked stunning on him. More men need to start finding those greyer areas to both expand fashion, and open the floor up to more traditionally daring things like dresses.
So glad to hear you address this. My Husband and I get into discussions all the time about the double standards of men and women and the "Socially acceptable" Stereotypes/stigmas. Guys compare each other constantly and judge very harshly if they see something too "Feminine"
how about the standard wre woman don't get roused to feminize men. You need to start calling them out.
I'm guy, I'm not really embarrassed to say that I actually like the movie Twilight, but I also have a beard and mustache, like manly action movies and being logical.
Well, guys don't really like being called cute. =/
PS, it sounded more like you were just making fun of me to be honest.
Well, ehm, yes, I am a... very rare individual. And okay, sorry, it's hard to know on the internet and in text, people are often assholes. Though you shouldn't take things like that too serious, it's common for people on the internet to express themselves like that and guys do it a lot when others are being too silly, often in real life too. No harm done but I can assure you that most boys/guys/men *don't* actually like being called cute or something like that. Many though kind of joke around about it. But sure, some might like it. But I've always never really liked being called cute because that's just not who I am.
Wow, a rare case of conflict resolution...good job guys.
You sound pretty normal. People think that acting less like your gender and acting more ways to the other gender is seemingly gay, but in real life, gay means the same gender. So saying you like twilight makes you more hetrosexual, due to it being made in mind of the other gender. If you say you like something made for men, you seem targeted to the same sex, meaning homosexual. I'm say Twilight is a straight thing than gay.
Wait a minute, if I like something made for men then I'm gay? I like the game GTA and it's basically targeted to guys, it doesn't make me gay.
Well said! I consider myself a feminine guy. I love doing my nails, wearing makeup and dresses and girly outfits, and want to grow my hair out. However, I have masculine traits as well. I love to skate, I love cars, motorcycles and off-road vehicles, I like my snapbacks and hoodies and I play guitar and would like to be in a band. It's like damn, can't I just enjoy all of these things and find a woman who loves me no matter what I do?
nigga if u wear make up u gay
+Tyler Barker Just ignore the other guy, he's being an idiot. I think it's great that you're willing to admit you do all those things and it upsets me greatly that there are men out there afraid to admit it. People need to remember that stuff like make-up and clothes have no gender. You should be able to enjoy all those things and there will be someone out there who shares the exact same traits as you :)
Cat Thank you for ignoring me, That was a completely serious comment. Good on you, very supportive.
Edit: Unless you meant Mohamed then NM, my bad.
I'd love a guy like that. I'm a very masculine girl so we'd bond over our masculine traits and I could even learn how to be more feminine from him lol it'd be great.
Ps. Thank you for making such a real honest video on a subject that needs way more attention. Xo
I think part of the reason why men are so afraid of doing anything that could be considered "feminine" lies with our perception of male vs female sexuality.
Often, a woman's sexuality is seen as more fluid, while men's is seen as permanent and rigid. A girl can kiss other girls, or even go further than that, and still be seen as straight. But a guy so much as looking at another guy is immediately branded as "gaaaaay".
These ideas are pretty deeply ingrained in our society and they have some unfortunate consequences. First, like you've mentioned already, there are loads of men who feel unable to truly be themselves, out of fear they'll be put in a box without their say-so. And on the other hand women's sexuality is not taken very seriously anymore.
I'm a gay woman, so you can believe me when I say that mentioning you're gay doesn't hold much weight any more these days. Loads of people are convinced that gay women are still capable of having sex with men, and even enjoying it. Of course, there might be a select few who that applies to, but I sure as fuck haven't met them yet.
Also, my straight friends encounter similar problems. It seems like a lot of people have gotten it in their heads that most, if not all, straight women have "experimented" with people of the same gender at some point.
This bullshit should really stop. A man that likes to moisturize, or dares to compliment his male friend's appearance, isn't automatically gay. And not all women kiss their girlfriends or go through a "gay phase".
But as long as popular media keep portraying things this way, these ideas will persist I'm afraid.
I don't think people understand what she's talking about and are looking way too deep into it.
She is just really stating facts: In this society, masculine traits in both men and women is being seen as more desirable than feminine traits. It has NOTHING to do with politics, who's in power, etc. it has to do with perception by the general population. As a biological male that is very feminine, I've been bullied by both men and women. I've also been "oppressed" by both. I've seen women who are very feminine also get bullied by so called "feminists" to be more masculine.
I know why that is too. People are more impressed with masculine accomplishments than feminine accomplishments. Having a hard high paying job for 20 years is seen as a bigger accomplishment than raising 4 good kids for that same amount of time. It's just all messed up.
Or perhaps it is seen as a threat to a man's masculinity because of the simple fact that feminine is the opposite of masculine when looking at the stereotypes. Ergo if you are more feminine then you are less masculine. It has nothing to do with feminine traits being inherently bad, it has to do with the stereotype that men are supposed to be as masculine as possible. Because feminine is the opposite of that, any amount of femininity thereby makes you less masculine, which reduces society's view of you as a man.
This is yet another issue of gender stereotyping on both sides - labeling personality traits or clothing as masculine/feminine implies that one gender is supposed to wear them or portray them while the other isn't. If it doesn't matter which gender displays which, then they aren't inherently masculine or feminine and we need to stop labeling them as such.
Sometimes I want to hear the comment wars for Laci's videos acted out in melodramatic voices. Maybe with a musical score behind it. Like an unholy cross between Shakespeare-style monologues, Epic Rap Battles, and Half Life: Full Life Consequences. With a hint of War of the Worlds.
Your videos just make me so happy. Thanks for all that you say and do, the world becomes a better place with each video =)
women say they don't mind men who act feminine...
... but how often do they form a sexual relationship with these men?
Ice-Sama god... "i know a person who is like X, therefore, these people are the norm"
go and look at the sales figures for 50 shades of grey. read any women's erotic novel. how often do they feature feminine or passive men?
men in women's fantasies are often masculine men in stable jobs, and they often follow the "beauty and the beast" theme (cold exterior, warm loving interior).
+33LB
Eh, I'm actually a little more into feminine dudes? I find that dudes are seen as feminine will be more likely to relate to me more and treat me more as equal while guys that present has very masculine can buy into this "macho man" culture and think of women as lesser or conquests (which obviously, doesn't appeal to me). I also find guys that are skinny and not muscled or lightly muscled more attractive that guys that look like body builders, and like guys that fit into the 'pretty boy" description better than completely masculine. Now, this could just be me but I've heard other women expressing the same sentiments, so I'm definitely not the only one.
+33LB
50 Shades of Grey isn't the best example to use. Yes, it was popular (all fads are) but it also had a HUGE backlash started up by women too, even women actually in the BDSM sphere. If you don't believe me, check out the article on the "Ask E.L. James" AMA and see how well that went.
+ari G if you find feminine men attractive, that's just you. just because YOU like something doesn't mean everyone else does. the huge success of 50 shades of grey makes it pretty clear what most women want in a man.
likewise, my taste in women is completely different from most men; i don't like huge tits, rubber lips, huge asses, or orange skin... but i don't project my preferences in women onto other people and pretend that men don't really like the women they see in magazines and in porn. there's obviously a large number of men who DO like huge tits, rubber lips, fat asses and orange skin.
as for the BDSM criticism of 50 shades of grey, i think it's stupid. i don't think James ever said the book is an accurate representation of BDSM. it's just her own sex fantasies.
33LB
Thing is that "most" may not be as huge as you might think. Look at One Direction (or Justin Bieber or other boy band in the past), they are considered to be feminine and yet they are hordes of fangirls who lust after them. Even if the majority of women do prefer masculine guys (which I can accept) there are still a significant amounts of women who don't. Saying that women won't want a relationship with feminine guys isn't accurate. Even if the majority doesn't, a good chunk will.
As for the 50 Shades of Gray...thing is it was supposed to be. It's still marketed as BDSM erotica, Christain Gray was still called a dom and Anastasia Steele a sub, a contract with limits was supposed to be signed...it was definitely supposed to be accurate BDSM. It was when the creator had the male lead ignore her limits, get upset at her whenever she used safe words, and stalk her did people get pissed off. But up until then, it followed the "rules" of actual BDSM relationship.
Can you please do a video on erectile dysfunction?
Is it possible for males age 21 to have it?
Thanks!
it is possible for males to have ED at any age, it can be due to a few different reason but its normally tired to one of 3.
1. mental, basicly performance anxiety run amuck, being overstressed, or depressed can all have effect on your drive/performance
2.cardiac, blood pressure issues/clotting can both can cause ED. if you never have erections (even first thing in the morning) this is normally the problem
3.Low Testosterone, some guys just have the shit luck of having their hormones out of whack. some guys do it to themselves by using roids
But if you think you/your partner is having issues consulting a Doctor is never a bad idea
Look up porn-related erectile dysfunction. This is the usual cause for ED in your age group. My bf (24 y.o.) has it.
I hardly watch any porn.
That reminded me of The Cement Garden, one of my favorite movies:
'Julie: Girls can wear jeans and cut their hair short, wear shirts and boots, because it's OK to be a boy, but for a boy to look like a girl is degrading, because you think that being a girl is degrading. But secretly you'd love to know what it's like, wouldn't you? What it feels like for a girl?'
Hey laci, do you think when you put the link to other videos as a click on screen thing (I know that's not what they're called but ah well) do you think you could link in the description too for us on mobile/tablet viewers? Thanks xx
Apparently I have to start wearing makeup and I have to piss sitting down now. How many women would I get if I started acting and dressing more feminine? ZERO!!!
+Daniel Mendoza Don't try to be masculine or feminine. Highlight your good qualities that are already there. Just be yourself and accept others regardless of how masculine or feminine they are and don't hate on femininity. False machismo isn't attractive in the first place. Authentic masculinity is.
+Daniel Mendoza Makeup can look good on guys tho
+Grace Truth I guess to each their own. I don't think it does.
You shouldn't worry about how many women you will get just focus on what you Fucking want to wear no ones forcing you to wear makeup or be more feminine but we're trying to make it more socially acceptable for men to be able to do such things
men like having sex
Yeah thanks, can't eat apples now.... Too manly for that.
I have yet to hear a woman say 'Oh, girly boys just really turn me on'.
There's a reason us blokes try to be masculine (my missus would probably kill me if I lost the beard too for that matter).
On the other hand, I do agree you should be able to do what you want within reason without fear of ridicule.
thank you Laci for brining these ideas with a true understanding.
Lacy, are you making things up again. sweetheart?
But if men and women dress the same or do the same things, what is then the distinction betweent the two? We have to see men and women differently because at their origins, men had to hunt and be strong and kill as opposed to women who were the ones being chased by males and giving birth and so there has to be a distinction.
***** It was long ago but even so that's imprinted in our DNA. Idk it's just my opinion
+Maddie C finally, someone with a sense of biological reality, and how that relates to our behavior. There are differences between men and women that serve a biological and adaptive evolutionary function, and are not merely the products of arbritrary social norms. We see them at the societal level because they exist within each and every one of us at a genetic and pyschological level. Feminism is barking up the wrong tree thinking these are only "ideas" with no substance beyond that.
Holy shit you're stupid.
Lestrange And you`re uneducated and rude. Cleary you have some issues to take care of. So I pity you
LACI!! You are a goddess!! Spoken from the heart with humility! I love it keep it coming!! We need more of YOU!!!!
Please tell you've seen the TV commercial for a certain feminine soap line named after a particular season and Adam's BFF? Where a man uses it for body wash my mistake and then has to "recover" his masculinity by mowing the lawn , etc. It is overtly displaying what you discuss in this video. Very on point. Love your videos! Perfect combo of entertainment and solid information and/or food for thought :)
+lacigreen So... Are you saying that advertisers are doing wrong by not doing things like trying to market dresses and pink shower loofahs to men? Is the fact that men, typically, don't wear dresses and that women, typically, don't wear suits really a big issue in today's society? The point that you're trying to make seems pretty pointless and silly.
No, I'm pretty sure she's saying that it's not okay that that kind of marketing even exists. And women DO wear suits, and it's seen as normal or- dare I say- empowering. While I may not necessarily agree with everything she's saying, she is making some very good points, and it's sad that you feel like you have to wave a woman's argument as being "silly." (The very same mindset, mind you, that men have had for centuries)
Her argument is silly because it's silly, not because she is a woman. Good point that women wear suits regularly, I agree that that part of her argument is really a non issue.
I think what she's trying to say is that these are all symptoms of the wide societal issue of gender stereotypes where we are all expected to fit into one size fits all boxes that really, don't fit all of us. In the case of men, society in general dictates that they must dress like men and most critically - behave like men. The most damaging side effect of this could be argued to be that men are taught to shun their emotions and as such do not learn how to deal with them, affecting their happiness and the happiness of those around them. And the effects of the culture of making being 'like a girl' a criticism can damage young women and make them feel that their prospects are lower because they are girls. This of course does not affect everyone in the same way and it does penetrate all areas of society to the same degree but it is a problem.
This video may focus on some of the lighter sides of these issues and if you haven't spent much time listening to/reading/watching arguments on this societal problem as a whole it may seem 'silly' to you, but I would implore you to see that it is part of a wider problem that I would venture to say affects all of us in some way or another.
Thank you, Becca. You said it perfectly.
I love your videos, but I think you're missing the point this time.
The main reason why a man is ashamed to show his feminine sides is that most women would reject him because of his feminine sides. If women expect a man to be manly to consider him as a potential partner, men are obliged to comply to the "real man" standard.
So women are enforcing that aspect of male domination.
I love wigs, dresses, makeup, shoes, flowers, and the color pink.
+Jack Slayer Cool!
Man i love this. You make so much sense. This basically sums it up!
Thanks!!! Titles are overrated it looks like you're pretty self evolved yourself!
Your sexism is truly disturbing. You openly mock male(or masculine) behavior while claiming to be gender supportive...
Nazi or feminist....both felt that they had the right to openly discriminate against and demonize a particular status of people. However, I don't believe she is a racist; however, I don't know her position on "white men." If her position on "white men" is anything like most feminist, then your statement is correct.
Haha, yes, you are correct. She shows many signs of Misandry. However, shaming a man that has been an MRA for over six years, studies psychology, and is truly passionate about improving the male status is not the answer. I don't need to resort to stupidity to be able to show how Lacy is misandric. I don't just say it--I demonstrate it.
*****
I mean really....how is what I said wrong? Can you prove your point?
She spoke out against male genital mutialtion. That's a step in the right direction.
Personally, I LOVE LOVE LOVE feminine men! Makeup and girly things on a man are huge turn ons, even high heels. ;D I want the man to play the male role of course and be head of the house but he can do it in a sexy pair of heals and with a bit of nail polish, eye shadow and possibly lipstick on too, lol. But, finding a straight guy that'll do it... Eh, I'll probably end up with a woman beforehand.
*HEELS =_= Bleh, brain's not working with me tonight.
But why should a man have a male role. Why should a man be the head of the house?
ImaRamblingman Some men prefer to be the head of the house and some don't. So as long as she finds a man that shares the same preferences as her, it doesn't matter. I didn't see her say that is how it should always be for everyone, she just expressed that as her preference.
AshiyaWann That's fair enough, but her choice of words seems to suggest there is a pre-defined role for men - "I want the man to play the male role of course and be head of the house". Of course she is free to her opinion. I won't begrudge anyone that, but if she is a supporter of feminism then she needs to reassess her thought process, thus the leading question.
I'm not sure exactly what she meant by "the male role" actually. If she means "main supporter," then yes if she is feminist, she needs to re-evaluate her stance.
You make me think of one of my classmates actually. You said something he would say and his blog title for our class mentions his "ramblings."
Excellent video! Excellent arguments! You address a real issue here! Great. I love your work Laci
I like your shirt, where did you get it? I want one :) Also, I love your videos, they have made me a better person to myself :D Thank you! *thumbs up*
Gender roles are crucial to a functioning society.
Laci, I hate to break this to you but men and women are different. It's ok for men to be masculine, and women to be feminine. It's not a sign of weakness, or lowering yourself to what society expects you to do. We have this thing called testosterone in much higher quantities than you have. So I have a need to be aggressive, go to the gym, to shoot guns, and play rough sports. I work out not because society is telling me I need to, but because it makes me feel and look good. Which helps me in my health, and my esteem. It's ok, it has no bearing on my intellect, or my ability to be compassionate and empathetic towards other people. What I find ironic, is that you seem to want to make this ambiguous gender on earth. Where people are neither male or female, and I find it disturbing. You're all of 25 years old, and are "teaching" sex and other subjects in schools and on youtube. You haven't even begun to live yet, you are no position to teach anything. You do not define what masculinity, femininity or even what feminism is.
iamanoldblanket Well then why does she make fun of "tough guy stuff"? I get what you are saying, and I agree. I don't expect every guy to be like me, some aren't into sports and don't frequent the gym. I get that but she tends to frown on any sign of masculinity or femininity like it's some kind of extreme or pressure coming from society. I get stereotyped myself, because I'm a former boxer and like to workout, people think I'm a meat head, I'm far from that. I love to read, see myself as an intellectual and am a champion for equal rights for everyone. I just hate when some 25 year old little girl, thinks that she is the one to define masculinity, femininity or even feminism. There's a serious irony in what she does, and what modern feminist do. In an other video she talks about how it's wrong to "slut shame", instead of giving the advice of not being promiscuous, she thinks that female equality comes from women being like men. It's equally wrong for men and women to be promiscuous, for a myriad of reasons.
iamanoldblanket Peace
***** I have to say I was enjoying the discourse here, but then we came upon the 'dressing sexy, so you deserve sexy attention'. I have to strongly object to that on a certain level. Its very odd, because I dislike girls who dress promiscuously, as a moral creature myself. However, you cannot cannot cannot give yourself rights and protections because of how someone dresses. I will amend that if you wear practically nothing, you should totally expect guys or lesbians to swarm to your side because if you are dressing to 'look good', you are asking for attention to particular assets, and cannot expect to not have everyone else's appreciation too. I'm saying you CANNOT give yourself the right to touch, grab, assault or stalk a girl/guy because of what they wear, and to me, that's when 'men are pigs' enters into my head. Heck, I've been in high school, walking to class in a t-shirt and jeans, and had men catcall at me, which made me feel unsafe. I did not ask for attention, and I found it rude. I have also been hit on by a girl at work, inappropriately and grossly, so please don't think I'm attacking just men here. I have been grabbed three times in my life, forced a kiss on me, then told me it was okay to just admit that I liked it. I even switched schools because a guy just wouldn't leave me alone. It's women like me that take these 'stupid women crying about men' comments to heart, because its very real. I can't speak for women who go nuts, or say they hate men, or seem to want women to rule the world. I myself like a guy to be the protector, but I'll fight like a tigress to protect him too. All I want from this world is to be able to walk the dog at night, walk to my car at night, pass through an alley, and not feel as if the men lurking through the night might hurt me. Or work at the office, and not have the men make sexist comments about my body parts, or make fun of women. I'd like my body parts not to be an insult- i.e. "Don't be a vagina." I'm sure its the same for men- "Don't be a dick." is a phrase meaning someone is being rude, a jerk, and unpleasant. Anyway. Politics, Religion and social issues are hotbeds for internet fighting and name-calling. I never expect to 'convert' someone to my way of thinking, but maybe interject a bit of thought here and there at the very least.
***** Well that was a lot to take in and with all due respect, I think you missed my point completely. I never once said that a man or woman has the right to touch you or violate you if you dress provocatively.
I said that you will get attention for it. Maybe guys approaching you, wanting to talk to you or get your number. That is expected because you are bringing that attention on your own. In no way did I say it was your fault if you were assaulted or worse. So let's make sure we clarify that.
Second, you are not going to change the world over night. We don't live in a Utopia, and humans are flawed. Saying that we should strive to be better and understand the plight of all people, but we also need to be smart about the ways we go about doing things.
If you are alone, in a bar and get drunk and pass out. Then some guys sexually assault you, they are criminals and should go to jail. BUT, that was also not a very smart thing for you to do. Not saying it was your fault but you need to be more aware of the places you are at and what you are doing if you are a single female. .
It's the same as if I was walking around a bad neighborhood with a wad of cash in my hand for everyone to see. If I get robbed, the people who robbed me are wrong, but I was also pretty stupid as well.
It's pretty obvious that the femisn
I love this video! the message is so true and the video is so funny :)
To me this has a great deal to do with advertisement. We are constantly having to fight the pressure to think a certain way and advertisement is constantly changing our thoughts. This is one of the reasons why I really hate advertisements because they force stereotypes and I think they make people think in negative ways.
I just discovered your videos and want to thank you for being smart and awesome ^_^ I look forward to watching and learning more
This is so true. At a concert I went to, some girl was giving one of my guy friends shit for wearing a pink shirt. She kept saying it was a "girl colour". She then dug herself deeper by listing all the colours certain sexes shouldn't wear. Now, up until this point no one had even realized, or cared that my friend was wearing a pink shirt. It just really pissed me off.
The men who wrote the Constitution in the 1700's in Philadelphia wore what businesswomen wore a couple of years ago. The top men in rock music dress like elderly lesbians. Phil Specter, at his murder trial when he should have worn an expensive business suit, wore a fluffy sweater.
I love your videos, great job
I spent about 10 minutes trying to find a lufa the other day and was about to give up before it occurred to me that I needed to look in the females section. I hadn't realized until then that a lufa was a female only product
Like Eddie Izzard said, "They're not women's clothes, they're my clothes, I bought them."
you summed it up so well, thank you
There's a Summer's Eve commercial that exhibits this perfectly, where the guy washes with Summer's Eve wash without noticing, and then afterward he immediately goes and eats raw eggs, lifts weights, etc.
I'm imagining laci with the "mustache" and hat starting a bunch of seemingly unrelated sentences with "and then there's"... :-)
i love what your all about-- keep it up and educating us all :)
Great video, Ill admit that I have a pretty famine shape (short, skinny guy) and I appreciate the way that you address problems in society it needs to change. Great job on the body image for guys video also.
and then watch the woman want nothing to do with you.
Personally a razor is a razor, cereal is cereal, and personal hygiene products (shampoo, soap, etc) are the same to me (just a different smell). I buy a mix of "male" and "famale" products, and I never care about what otherd think. I like to use certain products that may be marketed for the opposite gender. Point is I use products based on my needs, likes, and wants, and I dont care what anyone thinks.
This was amazing! Lacy, you have helped me develop the person I am today, and helped me find some of the things I believe in. Thank you! By the way, I thought you might like to know that I am now writing my research paper on birth control, even though my last paper was pro-abstinence education. I totally don't believe that at all anymore, so now I'm writing a refute to my own paper!
She seems emotionally distraught in all her videos?
Oh, did I ask for your useless opinion? No I did not.
***** Oh yeah. Deep research on why "Guys don't like wearing pink". Guys don't like wearing pink, so now that is that's called fem-phobia. What bullshit.
Lot's of guys wear pink. It's no big deal. Advertisers change their message depending on demographic. Young, old, man, woman, babies, professionals, students, black, white etc. She's just overly sensitive. Typical feminist.
it's not sexist. why doesn't laci style her hair in a crew cut fashion? Is she sexist?
I think her eyes just look moist :)
Yes, this is definitely a societal issue.. Howover, in a positive light, the kids at my school (or at least the ones in the drama department) are very open to guys wearing dresses.. No, really, my friend flat out asked the director if he could wear a dress and be the flower girl in our play. And yes, he's straight. He's also one of my best friends, and I couldn't be more proud! :)
There is so much real talk in this video I can't even handle it. Yes, yes, and yes.
l loved this video! you're awesome!
I'm starting understand on what she's saying which is men should be able to express their emotions and their preferences without their masculinity defining them on who they are as human beings and the end of the day.
The way the audio is louder on the left channel hurts my soul
Hahaha, I'm normally deeply offended by kind this thing (that Axe ball-scrubber or whatever especially)… but that bag of cereal was hilarious. I think I would buy that at least once.