Why You Should Let Go Of 80% Of Your Life
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- Опубліковано 28 тра 2023
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ABOUT DR. BENJAMIN HARDY
Dr. Benjamin Hardy is an organizational psychologist and is the world’s leading expert on the psychology of entrepreneurial leadership and exponential growth. His PhD research focused on entrepreneurial courage and transformational leadership. Before completing his PhD, his blogs were read by over 100 million people, he published his first major book Willpower Doesn’t Work, and he was running a 7-figure online training business. Since finishing his PhD in 2019, Dr. Hardy has published 5 additional books, including three co-authored with the legendary entrepreneurial coach, Dan Sullivan. His books have sold hundreds of thousands of copies and he is a sought-after teacher and speaker at corporate and entrepreneurial events as well as Fortune 500 companies. He and his wife Lauren are the parents of six kids and live in Orlando, Florida.
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I can think of right now: quit the endless scrolling on social media, that alone should eliminate about 40, 50 % of that 80% I need to quit. Great content!
Part of my morning routine has been getting ready while listening to your videos 🙏🏼
Does anyone else here really struggle with horrible ADHD, I listen to these videos, but really cant get started, I have so many things I want to achieve and pick one to start with, but play it safe and eternally daydream of another life. Literally years go by
I believe in you. Start small and go from there.
Start with journaling. That one thing has clarified what I should be doing and has helped me to take small daily steps in the right direction.
What part of the country are you in? Consider doing a QEEG brain map at a neuro feedback training center.
I have adhd and I have to be on a schedule and it's not easy. We are procrastinators. I have always been all in or all out!! I get overwhelmed very easily! I have to make myself start one thing and break it down into manageable steps and see it all the way through before I start the next thing. Once people like us start we are unstoppable!!!
Same here severe ADHD 😢 self help has failed me.
Sorry for so many comments but “you are not your past self” just hit me like lightning. I heard someone say, “Discipline is a pinch but regret is a crushing blow.” Though I’ve been a fairly disciplined person I have so many regrets that haunt me often leading to depression. When my focus is on the failures of the past it really can destroy my present and subsequently my future. Discipline of mind requires a focus on the future self, not the past self, and allowing that to determine the present.
I agree that being able to stream music and have millions of songs at your fingertips is a 10x or possibly a 100x leap. But on an artistic level there was something wonderful about albums and the collective experience of that product. Having a CD or vinyl of songs opened you up to the full artist expression of the artist. If not for that I would have missed some of my favorite songs that weren’t hits.
Thank you for making these videos. I’ve already listened to the audio book and plan to Re listen many times- but I’m also loving these reviews of core aspects and the way you’re presenting them. Phenomenal book!
Thank you for your feedback. What is a key takeaway that you can apply immediately?
@@dr.benjaminhardy I had 3 goals at New Years. Lose weight by eating healthy, not that successful. Save money, easy by paying myself first. Practice blackjack. This was really my 10X . So much of what is taught or sold does not tell you how to win. Which is different than how to play. I devised several different systems and realized I had to combine two for a fighting chance. So I will go to the casino next month. My immediate 10X will be from Peaks and Valleys. (Which you recommended!) I anp
I will have a definite floor or valley. Not chase my losses and learn. I realize I'm a lot different than your usual followers, but we are playing against the house, one way or another.
I’ve been struggling with applying the 80/20 rule to my life and this video couldn’t come at a more perfect time! Thanks so much Dr. Hardy, I bought most of your books recently and am reading one of them!
Excited to hear your progress on that 80/20 principle going forward. Where are you removing the 80% today? Which book are you currently reading and applying?
Another great video. I have been trying to let go of my 80%. Im really not celebratory or angry at my past self. BUT I sure ask "What was I thinking!!!"
Excellent thinking and reflection. How are you removing that 80%? What has to be true to let even one thing go this week?
SUPER EXCITED for the Future Self video series!!! 🤩😍🥳🤓
Awesome! Make sure to hit subscribe to get the upload updates and be the first to watch.
This book changed my life and business. Thanks Ben and Dan.
You are welcome. How have you applied your learning from the book this week?
I wrote out my future self and what that would look like, and used it to determine and filter out the aspects of my business I want to be responsible for, which was much shorter than originally. Then, worked with my business partner to come to an agreement on a new configuration of the responsibilities of the business. The result is so much clarity on where I'm going and what I really should be focusing on, and what's just busy work, and also I realise it's a great opportunity to practice trust in others, which Ive previously struggled with. The trust is easier now that I know the bigger picture.
We are sharing this video with people who appreciate personal growth and development. Thank you for producing it. 🙂
You're welcome. Thank you for the shares. What did you gain from this video?
Wowwwww the self-talk portion at the end 🤯 resonates so hard. Thank you so much for clarifying that the process doesn’t have to involve an inner conflict. And emphasizing the power of how we narrate our lives impacting the process. 🤩 Needed this.
Incredible insights and they resonate deeply with me. Thanks Ben for this video.
Lovin' this series!!
Thank you for your feedback. What is a key takeaway that you can apply immediately?
Thanks much Ben. Love your content! Letting go is a gain not a loss! Great concept.
Thanks for the feedback. Letting go is truly gaining so much more.
Thank you man,your videos are really helping me change my life. Your 10x is easier than 2x principle is Godsent.
Like the thought: Multiplication by subtraction". Really encourage others to read 10X but also Immunity to Change , both really good. Ben, your pace in this video was a little slower whch was better
Thank you.
Thank you Dr. Ben
My pleasure!
Thank you very much! Love your content
You're welcome! What was a key takeaway that you had from this video?
@@dr.benjaminhardy The main lesson I take away from this video is that in order to achieve my goals, I must first become the person I mentally review myself in the future, with characteristics and qualities, to make it easier for me to observe my current version and remove 80 % of this persona, which does not match the future version, and with this it will be easier to remove the blocks, characteristics, habits and old mental models, (mostly unconscious) that would make it difficult or impossible to reach my future version 10x. If I understood correctly.
I loved your new book. Finished it in a week. Love the topic of exponential growth.
Thanks you! Where have you seen exponential growth in your life?
In my business. Hiring the right EA has allowed me to make quantum leaps. I came to understand there's a big difference between an EA (from a fortune 500 company) and a general assistant I had before
Ben, I’m reading your 10X book now. Well done.
Thank you. What piece are you implementing your life for future learning?
Excellent!! Thank you!
You are welcome. What 80% items are you letting go quickly?
Really great video, thanks! 😎
You're welcome. What is something in your 80% you are going to be letting go of in the month of June?
Wow! This is a game changer. Thank you!!
You're welcome. What will you apply from this for further learning?
@@dr.benjaminhardy So I ended up getting your book, 'Be Your Future Self Now,' because I think I need to learn some lessons from that first. But given where I am right now in achieving my goals, one thing I'm doing is taking the 20% that's most impactful and leaving the 80% that isn't. Like you say, being flexible in the approach but not the destination.
I had to pause, reflect and rewind throughout the video. GOLD content. I am buying your book just because of this.
Plenty rewinding. So much value that could go over our heads if we don't pause or rewind.
Thank you! Enjoy your book.
I love every single thing about this ❤absolutely game changer!!!
Absolutely! What are you going to let go of starting today?
Thank you very much for all your helpful information! I just think that the Itunes-example is not very a good one - yes, it was a 10x to the way we listen to music, however, it was really bad for musicians. So the question remains: Whom will the 10x serve? I think it´s important to consider before we go and transform big stuff.
I’ve read all three books even one or two twice. I gave The Gap and The Gain to my kids for Christmas. Absolutely life improving. By the way, and speaking of shirts, what brand shirt are you wearing?
thank you for sharing god bless❤❤❤
You are so welcome. What is something you can commit to letting go of to allow additional whitespace in your life?
Are you own personality is not permanent book . It is really helpful
Reading your book now!
Awesome! Which one are you reading?
@@dr.benjaminhardy 10x is better than 2x!
Ben, you're way wiser than your age. If you let your beard grow, you'll match your wisdom with your appearance.
Thank you! What was your key takeaway from this video?
@Dr. Benjamin Hardy well, how do I turn the current 20% into the future 80%? My current 9-5 job takes up a good part of my time. My therapist says that even 5 min dedicated to improving my future helps to build up, but I think it's not enough.
@@hbbstnmindset and bravery. Change yourself and everything else will change around you. But you can’t doubt it. Any rebuttal won’t get a response from me lol
Technical question; you have a mic and air pods in. What’s the reason for two mics?
Great content. I’ve read all of you and Dan’s books. Working towards your solo books.
I like to listen to music when filming to stay focused!
Would love to know your biggest takeaways from the books!
@@dr.benjaminhardy that the present doesn’t dictate the future. Change your thoughts so the future dictates the present. Choosing what that 20% is going to be is where I am today.
Playback speed 10x. 💪🧠
I am because of we. Thanks Doc,again and again. Will you give us a step by step of your journey as an author/writer/bestseller?
I will see what we can do in the future. I do mention some of the steps in several previous videos.
Is this only for business? I just started reading it but I'm a student. Is there any way I can use it in my life?
I thought it would be interesting to analyze this as if it were intended to be a literal mathematical formula. If I understand correctly, according to Dan Sullivan, your 10x goals should be over a 25 year period, which allows for multiple transformations to get there. Mathematically, if each transformation is the result of applying the 80/20 principal, you would achieve 4x with each transformation, and a total of 16x after 2 transformations. Here is a breakdown of the math. 80% of the results come from 20% of the causes and 20% of the results come from 80% of the causes. Let's say you are currently producing 100 "points" each 25 years. That means 80 points are coming from 20% of your actions / current self and 20 points are coming from 80% of your actions / current self. If you shed the less valuable 80% and fill up that empty space with the more valuable 20%, well that 20% can now fit into the 100% 5 times (100 / 20 = 5). So the 80 points that previously came from your 20% are now multiplied by 5, and 80 * 5 = 400 points. So for each tranformation, you multiply 80% of the points by 5. 80% of 400 points is 320 points. 320 points * 5 = 1,600 points, a 16x jump from the 100 points you started at. A simpler way to calculate this is, for each transformation, you multiple the current points by 4 since it is always a 4x jump with each tranformation. So for that last example, 400 points * 4 = 1,600. The next tranformation would be 1,600 * 4 = 6,400. So by the 3rd tranformation (20% of the 20% of the 20%) you would have done 64x!
Then I wanted to have fun tweaking this strategy to try to achieve even more. I think cutting out 80% and focusing on the remaining 20% is good the first time around. After you do this you will create more freedom for yourself, giving yourself enough room to focus on just the 15% that is creating...okay I'm too tired now to calculate what 15% must generate, but it's higher than 80%. Each time you make this transformation, you could focus on even less of what got you there, 10%, 5%, 4%, 3%, 2%, 1%, exponentially becoming more unique and valuable in your exponential transformations (not literally, but you get the idea).
Taking this to the level beyond that, you could choose not to shoot for a pre-chosen percentage to shed. Instead, you could analyze what parts of you and your actions are bringing the most value, and then feel out how much you can get away with shedding at once, constantly trying to create more freedom to shed even more. I still think it might be helpful to analyze it percentage wise, once you pick some things to shed and some things to focus on, ask yourself what percentage that actually makes up, and see if you can shed/multiply even more at once, or if that would create too many problems or if that would take too long to get the results or if it would require too much transformation to be enjoyable.
Great work here! It is amazing how you can create multiple jumps within.
@@dr.benjaminhardy @Dr. Benjamin Hardy Thanks. One part of what I said was wrong. Focusing on the most effective things you do but going lower than 20% would not yield more than 80% of the results. To get more than 80%, you need to do more than 20%, because to get 100% of your current results you need to keep doing 100% of what you are currently doing. But even so, at 20/80, that is 4x leverage, and you could still increase your leverage even more, according to this theory, by focusing on less than 20%. For example, if you instead immediately focused on the most effective 4% (20 % of 20 is 4), you would be following the 4 / 64 rule, which is 16X leverage.
I am struggling with letting go of my job to pursue my goals. I carry the insurance and as a teacher at my kid’s private school I also get the tuition discount. If I quit (my 80% change) my family is really affected. Now, in time, after pursuing and achieving my goals we will most likely be in a better spot than right now, but it takes time and until then...I don’t know how we would live without my income, insurance and tuition discount. I can keep changing 20% for now, we only have one left and she is a sophomore, so just 3 years left (but in 3 years I want to be different!)it’s so hard!
This is can be a tricky situation. It sounds like you are committed to graduating her through and that is fantastic. What would have to be true to work just 1% on that true 20% that you desire to do in the future? Compounding those 1% items will adjust and move that needle point just enough to stay the course until you can release that 80%.
@@dr.benjaminhardy I am a teacher who makes almost nothing literally, after insurance and tuition so I have a home business (job) that I am giving up to pursue this better goal that provides passive income and I think being Uber initial during my summers and breaks will be helpful. I am trying to speed things up this summer and create a lot of content that can be more slowly released throughout the school year so that I can keep momentum moving on the design side throughout the year. Then next summer be ready to even 10x what I did this summer. I know it won’t have the same results as quitting but I don’t know that quitting is an option yet. Maybe even after this year I could replace enough of my income to quit next year? It’s definitely a goal!
What can you let go today, to start working towards that 20%? Do you watch a couple of shows each night? Maybe only watch one show and use that extra 30-60 min a day to work on that future now. Rather then waiting for your daughter to graduate in 3yrs. Start building the foundation now. Good luck! It’s tough, I know.
BE, DO, HAVE. This sounds like LIFESPRING back in the 1970s? Have you heard of it?
Yes- it branched into other names but still exists today. Powerful training.
Yes, it has evolved over time.
@@dr.benjaminhardy thanks for confirming.
@Faith Deeter yes powerful, I learned to take everything with a grain of salt.
How do you let go of your beliefs, identity etc? What is the procedure or what are the steps you take?
Letting go of beliefs and identity involves a gradual process of self-reflection and conscious effort. Start by questioning the origin and validity of your current beliefs. Are they serving your growth and well-being? Experiment with alternative perspectives and expose yourself to diverse ideas. The process may feel uncomfortable, but it's essential for personal evolution. How comfortable are you with challenging your existing beliefs, and what specific beliefs do you find most challenging to let go of?
Where can I get copy of slipstream hacking? loved the audio
Here is is a link for amazon. www.amazon.com/Slipstream-Time-Hacking-Enhance-Happiness-ebook/dp/B019MZ6BRO/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=slipstream+time+hacking+by+benjamin+p.+hardy&qid=1685370469&sprefix=slipstream+time%2Caps%2C226&sr=8-1
Hey Dr., This idea reminds me of the essentialist philosophy. I love it.
I like the correlation. Thanks for sharing.
Do you have a list of book recommendations Ben?
Related to what topic, so that I can suggest related to a current growth area. I have several videos of book suggestions related to a variety of topics as well.
Anything related to exponential growth / achieving big goals in short time.
Am I understanding the concept right? If I have 5 big goals in life, and I never really focused on one long enough to build it; I should be 10x-ing on just one for 3-5 years or long enough to build it / achieve it, then my next 10x would be the next goal on my list? These goals are also related in a sense that when I achieve one, it’ll make the rest a lot easier to achieve.
Jim Collins stated that, "If you have more than three priorities, you have none." Looking at those goals, select the 1-3 that you want to deep dive into now, choosing those that if completed will change everything (or make the others easier).
@@dr.benjaminhardy Thank you for this. Especially the choosing 1-3 that will change everything or make the others easier. It makes things a lot clearer. My issue was trying to build 2 creative careers at once. So I am now focusing on building one that when successful will make the others easier. And I’m setting 3 big goals a year for the one career. Thanks for all the value you put out there, Dr. Hardy!
please share some wisdom of Robert Greene too
Will see what I can do in future videos. Thanks for the suggestions
I understand the 80/20 concept, but the words "new" and "existing" are a bit confusing--is that "new effort" vs. "existing effort" or habits, or something else--please clarify, thank you.
New and existing relates to the tasks and/or focus points in which you are working on.
Basing your present upon your 10x vision; doesn’t that fly in the face of The Gain verses The Gap, Ben?
I also struggle with this.
The gap and the gain is the act of measuring backwards and comparing your growth to you and you only. 10x is future minded.
@@dr.benjaminhardy Thank you for giving clarity to this subject.
100% of my life seems essential to me
I would invite you to write down everything you do each day, of those items what can you delegate out to allow more whitespace? If you could go deeper on the things you truly enjoy what would that do for you?
@@dr.benjaminhardy thank you! Will do