I had a miscarriage early October 2020 and I had to deal with it alone. The amount of carnage I seen shocked me to the point that when I got to the hospital and actually passed the baby, I was numb to it. Nobody ever explains to you just how traumatic it is so I really appreciate you being so open about it.
I’ve had two trans vaginal ultra sounds- one by a dr who I really liked, one who I didn’t, and I have to say, the difference in pain was significant. Having nice doctors really does make a difference.
I’ve met a few Kathy’s in my time in healthcare, they’re terrible. My goal as a nurse is to never be a Kathy 😅 I’m so sorry you had that experience, but I’m glad you had supportive doctors and other providers!
I lost a friend of mine who used to call me dad about a month before you guys had your miscarriage, and while I’m sure it’s very different, it’s been nice to have someone on the internet going through similar feelings and similar healing. I’m so sorry for your guys’ loss, but thank you for being so open and vulnerable so I don’t feel so alone in grief
Also I will say that it is super appreciated when people take the time to write thank you notes, especially in departments like the ER where they see so many people who are assholes. I always love getting thank you notes.
Thank you for sharing this. I had a miscarriage at 19 and the rhetoric that it isn’t a big deal or is just like a period is so incredibly harmful and really made me question my sanity for years until I heard from others who had experienced something similar to me. My physical experience was similar to yours based off of what you described - you are not alone! I am sending you healing love ❤️
Also - I have been a CNA for years and am in school to be a nurse right now - the thank you notes, while obviously not necessary, really change our lives. We rarely hear from patients again or get to know how they are doing now and the notes we do get are absolutely treasured and help us push through the daily traumas and remember what we are doing it for.
Commenting again because I didn’t wait until the end to make the first comments - this Portland jew is sending prayers and vibes to you, your blueberry, and any future pregnancies!
I had the experience that you mentioned earlier in this video where I had a twin pregnancy but miscarried one at nine weeks. It was late February 2020 and my spouse could not come back to the room with me. It was so traumatic, but I am so grateful everyone at the ER treated me with kindness. It is really the hardest day and I’m so sorry that this happened to you. I wish you many blessings with growing your family so that you guys can have your own little redhead munchkin (remember hearing that in your q&a I think) like we have 🥰
I'm so sorry loves. I conceived my kids in the the same way as you and I also lost my first pregnancy. OMG, 'Kathy's' like that are the worst! Sending hugs and going forward all very best of luck for TTC.
As a sweet pea going into medicine, it is so great to hear both that your doctor is great and how much of a difference it made. Something I really appreciate is that y'all are able to be critical and give feedback while recognizing the larger scope of the medical system. It is so helpful to hear what really is helpful to patients so that I can carry that with me. I also hope with all my heart that next month is the month for y'all. - getknittywithit
Coming from the perspective of a firstborn watching their mum go through multiple miscarriages I am so incredibly inspired that you both can talk so openly about the situation and I truly hope you guys get your happy ending🦆❤❤
I’m sorry you had to deal with this, it’s a brutal experience in every way and coming to terms with the loss is an ordeal all on its own. Kathy sounds like a monster.
You're doing so many good things to move through and forward. My spouse and I are cheering you on and lighting a candle for your blueberry. We've been there and our hearts are with you. Your light shines ❤️
I'm so sorry you all went through this. I'm sending you both lots of hugs and my fluffy dogs send you puppo cuddles. Thank you for sharing your life with us. Your story really will help end the stigma around miscarriage. Love you both!
I am so sorry for your loss, but I want to thank you for sharing your experience. I have been there. Not many people speak about it despite it being so common, so it always helps when I see others sharing their experiences. Lots of love to you both.
Thank you both for sharing your story. We lost our first pregnancy in May 2021 and our experiences were similar. It feels much less lonely to have a shared experience with someone else. It really was the worst day of my life, and I feel so understood listening to you speak on your experience as well. You are making a difference in strangers' lives.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending heaps of queer love your way. I think all your views on the ultrasound tech are valid, it's ok to be frustrated by their behaviour. I know you know that, but sometimes it's nice to have these things validated xx
So happy to have had another podcast upload, but so sad you all had to go through that. Thank you so much for being so vulnerable and sharing your lives online. I used to listen to your podcasts just to have background noise in a difficult time in my life so just know the comfort you’re feeling from your community you’re getting because you gave the same comfort to them first, and I’m just very grateful for that.
thank you for sharing something like this, its really important for other couples to see that this happens. I'm sorry for your loss and for everything you both went through, this sounds incredibly traumatic
I always listen to your podcasts on my way to and from work. I am so sorry for the topic of this one but I thank you for letting us listen to the journey. I’m putting all the positive vibes out there for you guys and a future little goof. It was nice to have your voices join me on my little travel to work again. 💛
. Im really sorry for your loss but Im glad you were taken care of in that time of need. My aunt works at salem public hospital and she has all kinds of stories from the ER waiting room it really is a trip
I love this UA-cam channel and I love that you guys are being so open about something that a lot of people deal with. Love you both. Sending you all the love and good vibes babes 💕✨
You two are incredibly strong to share your story, and even more so that you do so in order to encourage others who may be experiencing similar things. I’m sending all of the baby dust and good vibes your direction ❤️✨
1. I’m so so sorry, I wish I had more eloquent things to say 2. One time my fiancé peed out his kidney stone into the pee cup, while at the ER for a kidney stone, and his nurse through it out instead of testing it I’ve never seen a doc rage that bad 3. “We’re gay kathy” made me giggle quite a bit
I’m so sorry for your loss. Cathy is an asshole. Sending you all the vibes and energy that your little being makes it you both. ❤️ will be keeping you both in my thoughts.
I absolutely hate that we have to wait until at least 8 weeks to be seen by an Obgyn. I’ve had a miscarriage, a preemie, and now I’m 6 weeks pregnant again. It makes me feel like “oh if I miscarry before 8 weeks, when I’m due to be seen for the first time, I just have to deal with it alone. Hate.
i hate to say anything in kathy’s defense because she genuinely sounds like she sucks, but ultrasound techs aren’t allowed to interpret the results. only physicians are allowed to interpret the images and make diagnoses based on them, bc the techs don’t go to med school, often they just have an undergrad degree and/or certification. that’s why she was being cagey with you, and it’s also why she clammed up once the ultrasound began and it became clear that it was a miscarriage. i’m so glad there were parts of this horrible day that you can look back on and laugh about - kathy’s complete inability to read the room might have been the result of any number of things but i think it’s perfectly ok to laugh about it and make jokes at her expense anyway (especially since she thought phoebe was morgan’s mom - like lmaoooo what??? people are gay, kathy!!!). i’m so sorry for your loss, and i’m sending good vibes for your next attempt. 💗✨
I had a miscarriage early October 2020 and I had to deal with it alone. The amount of carnage I seen shocked me to the point that when I got to the hospital and actually passed the baby, I was numb to it. Nobody ever explains to you just how traumatic it is so I really appreciate you being so open about it.
I’ve had two trans vaginal ultra sounds- one by a dr who I really liked, one who I didn’t, and I have to say, the difference in pain was significant. Having nice doctors really does make a difference.
I’ve met a few Kathy’s in my time in healthcare, they’re terrible. My goal as a nurse is to never be a Kathy 😅 I’m so sorry you had that experience, but I’m glad you had supportive doctors and other providers!
I lost a friend of mine who used to call me dad about a month before you guys had your miscarriage, and while I’m sure it’s very different, it’s been nice to have someone on the internet going through similar feelings and similar healing. I’m so sorry for your guys’ loss, but thank you for being so open and vulnerable so I don’t feel so alone in grief
Also I will say that it is super appreciated when people take the time to write thank you notes, especially in departments like the ER where they see so many people who are assholes. I always love getting thank you notes.
Thank you for sharing this. I had a miscarriage at 19 and the rhetoric that it isn’t a big deal or is just like a period is so incredibly harmful and really made me question my sanity for years until I heard from others who had experienced something similar to me. My physical experience was similar to yours based off of what you described - you are not alone! I am sending you healing love ❤️
Also - I have been a CNA for years and am in school to be a nurse right now - the thank you notes, while obviously not necessary, really change our lives. We rarely hear from patients again or get to know how they are doing now and the notes we do get are absolutely treasured and help us push through the daily traumas and remember what we are doing it for.
Commenting again because I didn’t wait until the end to make the first comments - this Portland jew is sending prayers and vibes to you, your blueberry, and any future pregnancies!
I had the experience that you mentioned earlier in this video where I had a twin pregnancy but miscarried one at nine weeks. It was late February 2020 and my spouse could not come back to the room with me. It was so traumatic, but I am so grateful everyone at the ER treated me with kindness. It is really the hardest day and I’m so sorry that this happened to you. I wish you many blessings with growing your family so that you guys can have your own little redhead munchkin (remember hearing that in your q&a I think) like we have 🥰
I'm so sorry loves. I conceived my kids in the the same way as you and I also lost my first pregnancy. OMG, 'Kathy's' like that are the worst! Sending hugs and going forward all very best of luck for TTC.
As a sweet pea going into medicine, it is so great to hear both that your doctor is great and how much of a difference it made. Something I really appreciate is that y'all are able to be critical and give feedback while recognizing the larger scope of the medical system. It is so helpful to hear what really is helpful to patients so that I can carry that with me. I also hope with all my heart that next month is the month for y'all. - getknittywithit
Coming from the perspective of a firstborn watching their mum go through multiple miscarriages I am so incredibly inspired that you both can talk so openly about the situation and I truly hope you guys get your happy ending🦆❤❤
I am so sorry this happened to you. I am so glad you had an amazing ER team!
I’m sorry you had to deal with this, it’s a brutal experience in every way and coming to terms with the loss is an ordeal all on its own. Kathy sounds like a monster.
You're doing so many good things to move through and forward. My spouse and I are cheering you on and lighting a candle for your blueberry. We've been there and our hearts are with you.
Your light shines ❤️
I'm so sorry you all went through this. I'm sending you both lots of hugs and my fluffy dogs send you puppo cuddles. Thank you for sharing your life with us. Your story really will help end the stigma around miscarriage. Love you both!
Thank you for sharing your story with us. You both speak with such love and kindness. I’m sending you all the good vibes and love ❤️
I am so sorry for your loss, but I want to thank you for sharing your experience. I have been there. Not many people speak about it despite it being so common, so it always helps when I see others sharing their experiences. Lots of love to you both.
Thank you both for sharing your story. We lost our first pregnancy in May 2021 and our experiences were similar. It feels much less lonely to have a shared experience with someone else. It really was the worst day of my life, and I feel so understood listening to you speak on your experience as well. You are making a difference in strangers' lives.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending heaps of queer love your way. I think all your views on the ultrasound tech are valid, it's ok to be frustrated by their behaviour. I know you know that, but sometimes it's nice to have these things validated xx
I’m so sorry you had to go through that. Thank you for sharing your story ❤
So happy to have had another podcast upload, but so sad you all had to go through that. Thank you so much for being so vulnerable and sharing your lives online. I used to listen to your podcasts just to have background noise in a difficult time in my life so just know the comfort you’re feeling from your community you’re getting because you gave the same comfort to them first, and I’m just very grateful for that.
thank you for sharing something like this, its really important for other couples to see that this happens. I'm sorry for your loss and for everything you both went through, this sounds incredibly traumatic
I always listen to your podcasts on my way to and from work. I am so sorry for the topic of this one but I thank you for letting us listen to the journey. I’m putting all the positive vibes out there for you guys and a future little goof. It was nice to have your voices join me on my little travel to work again. 💛
. Im really sorry for your loss but Im glad you were taken care of in that time of need. My aunt works at salem public hospital and she has all kinds of stories from the ER waiting room it really is a trip
i’m so sorry for your guys’ loss i’m sending you guys all my love and good vibes
I love this UA-cam channel and I love that you guys are being so open about something that a lot of people deal with. Love you both. Sending you all the love and good vibes babes 💕✨
You two are incredibly strong to share your story, and even more so that you do so in order to encourage others who may be experiencing similar things. I’m sending all of the baby dust and good vibes your direction ❤️✨
1. I’m so so sorry, I wish I had more eloquent things to say
2. One time my fiancé peed out his kidney stone into the pee cup, while at the ER for a kidney stone, and his nurse through it out instead of testing it I’ve never seen a doc rage that bad
3. “We’re gay kathy” made me giggle quite a bit
I’m so sorry you both went through this. Thank you for sharing your story
Sending you all the love. 💚
I’m so sorry for your loss. Cathy is an asshole. Sending you all the vibes and energy that your little being makes it you both. ❤️ will be keeping you both in my thoughts.
I absolutely hate that we have to wait until at least 8 weeks to be seen by an Obgyn. I’ve had a miscarriage, a preemie, and now I’m 6 weeks pregnant again. It makes me feel like “oh if I miscarry before 8 weeks, when I’m due to be seen for the first time, I just have to deal with it alone. Hate.
Love yall
✨*baby dust* ✨
My wife and I are TTC with Mosie as well. Feels like we’re in it together. I check in on ur TikTok everyday.
love you Mays
omg the cruise talk im dead
i hate to say anything in kathy’s defense because she genuinely sounds like she sucks, but ultrasound techs aren’t allowed to interpret the results. only physicians are allowed to interpret the images and make diagnoses based on them, bc the techs don’t go to med school, often they just have an undergrad degree and/or certification. that’s why she was being cagey with you, and it’s also why she clammed up once the ultrasound began and it became clear that it was a miscarriage. i’m so glad there were parts of this horrible day that you can look back on and laugh about - kathy’s complete inability to read the room might have been the result of any number of things but i think it’s perfectly ok to laugh about it and make jokes at her expense anyway (especially since she thought phoebe was morgan’s mom - like lmaoooo what??? people are gay, kathy!!!). i’m so sorry for your loss, and i’m sending good vibes for your next attempt. 💗✨