A look at the rise of widespread loneliness and its impact
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- Опубліковано 9 лип 2024
- A Gallup survey reports that 23% of people worldwide experience loneliness, intensifying feelings of physical pain, worry, sadness, stress and anger. Dr. Sue Varma offers insights on coping with loneliness and stress.
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I'm a loner, all of my friends are long distance. I have learned that people will not be there for you when you think they will. I stopped making friends years ago and have so much to keep me busy like volunteering, work and life. People just don't put in the effort to maintain friendships anymore, too busy selling their image on social media.
I can attest to this.
Or being psy whipped
There's no such thing as loneliness when you're surrounded by people unless you're all by yourself in a desert than that is loneliness.
@@josebravo834If you are surrounded by people but don't interact with them, and they don't want to interact with you, how would you then call it?
i am your friend julia
there are many reasons for widespread loneliness
but #1 is social media
its created a very disconnected world for everyone
UA-cam too
100% social media ever since I started to work my first job I’ve became more happy and occupied and away from social media a lot. Your body belongs outside and connecting with others.
@@visaiahwoods Netflix and UA-cam
Also women need to start being more proactive and making moves on meeting men and initiate interactions. Women need to start initiating reactions/conversation. Period. Relationships are a 2 way street, can’t be reliant on the man ALL THE TIME
Loneliness is one thing but putting your trust, and happiness, in the wrong people is worse.
Ahhh can’t for them ai dolls
I love being alone. People are so unpredictable and unstable these days. One second they’re happy with your presence, 5 seconds later they’re tired of it and want you gone for no reason. People are extremely judgemental as well. They can’t tolerate being around a single opinion that’s different from one of theirs.
I made a new friend last year. And both occasions when I met her, she indirectly called me ugly. What do you get from calling somebody else ugly?! 🙄
Ya being a alone is a blessing honestly
@@EB-gt1pq that’s definitely not a friend 😬 Keep in mind, people who verbally attack others, do it because they’re insecure with themselves. People who like themselves don’t feel the need to hurt others, they do the opposite. You’re not the “ugly” one, she is.
Oh no there’s most certainly a reason. They don’t want the relationship to be that close but they’re not gonna directly tell you that because they want to control you and manipulate you.
Some people can enjoy others company but not need it on a daily basis because it becomes draining especially when you have other things you want to pursue
Better to be alone (not lonely) than in a room full of people you can't trust.
Get rid of social media and its false friends and expectations of living your “best life” and live a real life. My life is far from perfect but I don’t live it online and I’m happier for it.
Yeeeeeeeeeessssss! So much happier once I got rid of Instagram and Facebook
Same
@@alligatorseverywhere7233Same. One of my best decisions.
Yes, get rid of fb,ig,tktk,snpcht,twttr, all dating apps
That’s a good start, but a greater effort is required by everyone to put their phone down or away and to actually speak in person with someone else instead of having contact by texting or phone conversation, etc. We must all do better and set a much greater example of in person contact, conversation and communication for our children, friends and family members, etc.
None of this works when the people you are inviting are declining your invite in the first place.
Exactly. Those people aren't your friends
I came here to say this, I would invite and people can never join me for anything
@@fairy7101 Same here
@@fairy7101same here! I started doing things solo.. I got tired of ppl declining
@@viviannaContreras me too, I’ve done concerts and city days and flea markets all on my own
I don’t have any social media, I had Facebook for six months in 2012 and just made me feel worse about myself. I also lived alone for five years, and I have been single for 16 years. I moved back home with my family. It is better not to compare your life to others because it can literally destroy you. But now I just stay active, I work full time and just try to stay busy.
This gets worse if you work from home, live alone and don’t have roommates. I experienced this before. I basically have to make an effort to go out and see people.
People think people are disposable and quickly replaceable these days. Marriages and longterm relationships are undervalued by our society. Divorces are initiated on whims when collaborating or working on the relationship with your partner could quickly improve the marriage. People are shooting themselves in the foot and creating their own lonliness.
Absolutely right.
It’s a loss of patience and it’s purposely being done to us
It’s only gonna get worse folks. People would rather be glued to their screens than to have human interaction. I’ve literally tried for almost 15 years to befriend people, but nobody really wants to do anything. Best thing to do if you’re lonely, is pick up some hobbies, stay healthy, exercise, eat right, surround yourself with positivity.
Get a Pet or Something!
@@hurricane7727 If you're feeling lonely, the problem is with you. Forcing another conscious being into your life like a pet dog or cat is just not right. This is because what happens to that being when you're at work or doing something else without them? Then they will then suffer from loneliness. If you're feeling lonely, try to solve this within yourself without dragging another third party being into your misery as a "solution".
@@irrelevant2235 My relation with Pets are none of your business( They Like meplus you present nothing to solve the Loniless of People. What about Ugly people( Burn victims, Born with Genetic issues , Missing Limbs Et) whom Would be deemed Unsavory to look at for a Mate by Normal People who won't give them the Time or Day. Pets are Also Companions and would solve the Epidemic ( Dogs, Cats, Hamsters, turtles, Cow, Chicken, Birds, Etc) since it's being saddened by being on your lonesome.
Also women need to start being more proactive and making moves on meeting men and initiate interactions. Women need to start initiating interactions/conversation. Period. Relationships are a 2 way street, can’t be reliant on the man ALL THE TIME
@@irrelevant2235not everyone leaves their pets alone. Some people like someone I know rescue pets and give them the best life ever. How can you give such false assumptions?!
the thing is once you start struggling, no one wants to be around you.. so you have to pretend to be ok to get any human contact. and then you think you've made friends, let on that you're not doing well, and then all of a sudden everyone has somewhere they'd rather be.
100%. I’ve been sick for almost 2 years now and learned its best to keep it to myself.
Also women need to start being more proactive and making moves on meeting men and initiate interactions. Women need to start initiating reactions/conversation. Period. Relationships are a 2 way street, can’t be reliant on the man ALL THE TIME
For Americans,
Toxic Hyper Individualistic Culture
Car Centric Infrastructure
Lack of affordable of third places
It’s all about the individual over community, change my mind
American here. I can confirm this as true
100% no lies told. President needs to fix these things first
@@dailybible5426 I don’t think the president has that kind of power
Facts, I absolutely envy European culture and long for that human centric infrastructure. I unfortunately live in a state that experiences this phenomenon in its worst form.
Time to jump ship?
@@dfluke1693have you been abroad anywhere? There are lonely people everywhere, including Europe. This isn't unique to the US.
I can confirm loneliness can absolutely make you physically sick. Those three years of COVID-19 i felt so useless and hopeless i was always alone. I decided to go to south America for two years to see if it would be different it absolutely cured me. These days hanging out in a simple cafe is extremely social and extremely satisfying. Im not aure what happened in America but everything has changed dating became impossible. These days dating feels normal again life in general feels normal again. People are definitely more social in south America. The best part about it is i rent a gorgeous high rise condo in a brand new building for 300$ a month. Life is way better here x10000
what area are you in? Is it safe for single older women there? TY.
Yeah Cuz you make american wages and inflate the local economy. the people living around you can’t afford that rent you easily do. causes issues for the locals. but you don’t care.
Bible study class replaces loneliness with peace. Didn't have to move. Thanks Lord for your peace
@@Shaolin91z in my eyes religion is a fraud 💯
South America region got a collectivist culture
People are energy vampires.
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its the media and big pharma in cooperation with govt. i dont not blame anyone other than that. its only a mystery to the people causing the problem
Volunteer! Get out and about and see how you can be of help to others - library, schools, churches, food banks, animal shelters, hospitals, etc.
Some of us don't have time. We're working overtime at our jobs.
The tipping point is on.
This is why I will move out of the US. Loneliness is an epidemic here because most people are self-absorbed and are unable/unwilling to give freely of themselves unless there I something in it for them. I was lucky to find a couple of really good friends here but I've made more friends during a visit in Europe than a lifetime in the US.
I spent a couple of years as a 50+ year old digital nomad (2017-2019) and hopped around to 9 different countries. During my time living in Wales for a longer stretch of time, it was easy to make friends there, and easy to find men for dating. I've been back in the USA now for 5 years, and really impossible to even find a friend for coffee once a month. As you said, it's that "what's in it for me?" attitude, which isn't at all how real friendship works.
Thanks Lord for bible study class
Bible study class replaces loneliness with peace
I am fully convinced capitalism and social media have turned the majority of human relationships and friendships into transactional and conditional business contracts, people can't appreciate you for who you are anymore, nope gotta always have some "I got to prove myself" energy
Have you been to every town or city in the US to make that observation? The grass always looks greener on the other side.
Its sad to say, but could be a good thing too, if something tragic happens to this country then we will have no choice but to come together
I think, with all of the political upheaval of the past, several years within our country that has contributed to the loneliness epidemic as well. So many friendships were lost because of people being on opposite sides. Also, economics come in to play. With the increased price of everything and the stagnation of wages, countless people don’t have the funds to go out and have a good time.
Thank you for this message of concern about loneliness.
Nope peopl are crazy. There are so many dangers being around people
Being alone is more dangerous.
@@darinherrick9224 speaking from experience, people are more dangerous than loneliness by a large margin
Yup makes life interesting and exciting 😊
There is nooooooo way it’s only 23 percent
Women /social media have ruined this having huge egos on their looks & think they deserve. A guy that’s 8 to 10 on looks & makes at least 80,000 a year or more. In the 90’s it was so easy to date & socialize even early to mid 2000’s. Once the clubs seen started to die off & social media blew up. Society especially in the U.S has become toxic & anti social. Online shopping /amazon also has ruined things making many retail stores go out of business.
Another thing is young people never think about the future or plan ahead. They dont plan to fail but they fail to plan.
I’m 100% lonely really just don’t know what to do anymore don’t feel a sense of connection to anyone. Even off social media feels like social media is my only way to connect with ppl these days but that gets depressing too. I never leave my room or my bed. Literally feels like I’m just waiting to never open my eyes again smdh it’s sad I’m sad lost confused lonely hopeless all these things. But I’m still trying everyday I am but I still have these feelings ugh 😓
Go outside immediately. Go get some fresh air, go for a long walk. Go volunteer, perhaps get a pet. Go help people… Lots of people need help at nursing homes.
Personally, I'm just trying to be ok alone for now without feeling lonely. Making meaningful relationships takes time and effort. It's hard but not impossible.
Not really a great Doctor, reducing expectations and being happy with less is the key, i havent really spent time with my friends in the past 3 yrs, just been at home chilling, i dont need socialization, its optional for me
When i was in my 20s i did need it as i felt depressed, but now i just have no expectations for anything really and im happier, buddhism and the path of monks is key, i used to go to meet people about 5x per wk, now its basically 0 lol and im so much happier
The Doctor doesnt talk about how making friends is difficult so for people with no friends her advice doesnt help
ive tried making a new friend and succeeded at meeting one at work. we would hang out regularly and have dinner. after 2 years of friendship i purchased concert tickets for which she never remimbursed me for as we had agreed. she basically ghosted me and never repaid. i guess my point is that its not necessarily hard to meet people but it's very difficult to find quality people that have genuine intentions.
I remember Freddie Mercury saying in an interview in 1985 ”I'm the loneliest person in the world." You can be the center of attention of 100000 people and still feel alone. It's just a state of mind. The heart is a lonely place.
not at all similar. Hiv/aids in the 80s-90s would make any sane person avoid gays. His same sex attraction isolated himself
Bible study class replaces loneliness with peace. Thanks Lord for bible study class. Thanks Lord for your salvation
Interesting cause i have no problems being alone
Me either...for the most part.
Prolong times alone will eat you alive. Been there.
I attended a rural college and it was isolating on the weekends.
That statistic is not true. It's a higher number than 23%. People just don't want to admit it, they are ashamed of it or embarrassed to tell a stranger something so personal. There is so much isolation in this country. It doesn't have the social connective tissue that you see in other countries. This country is all about good, services and money. The main engine that fuels this country is business, but it is deficient in many other areas.
Money and greed over people and relationships.
@@breal7277 Agreed bro. The relationships here are purely to get money or networking. It's not real relationships.
I honestly think the biggest reason is that a lot of people are incapable of truly listening to the other person. They are quick to speak about themselves. I don’t think people are introverted they just haven’t found people who can have equ
Most people are Fake is hard to trust, had to learn how to enjoy, have fun by myself and really love it🥰
31 and have my own home
Live paycheck to paycheck with no wife and kids
My last girlfriend I was 20
Find an immigrant woman
I started getting rid of social media over a month ago and it’s starting to make a big difference.
I don’t have a social life. I’m an introvert but I hate prolonged moments of loneliness.
I've been dealing with this for 33 years. these fools have no effing idea what they are talking about.
Bible study class replaces loneliness with peace. Thanks Lord for your peace. Thanks Lord for bible study class
With prices of everything going up and people now needing to work longer hours to pay their rent and keep food in the fridge, it's not a surprise that loneliness so happens to be a huge thing now.
Loneliness is not a medical problem, it is the inability the person has to get out of entrenched patterns of social isolation. There needs to be a strong desire to change that and having a victim mentality doesn't help at all.
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It’s the phones. People are so attached to their phones that they forget how to interact with humans.
I use Facebook only for finding out about things like death, reunions, local events and following group discussions. I post very very little. I watch UA-cam videos on a wide variety of topics. It's much better than TV. I have no other social media. I have a flip phone no smart phone. Keep life simple.
I went through divorce, abusive physical and verbal relationship child hood trauma. Lost all my “friends”. Recently I was feeling sad and had a whole conversation with AI😂😂 I ended up feeling good after. wtf😂
How do you have a conversation with AI? Asking for a friend 🥴
In other countries they're too busy to be depressed...in other countries they preach God
During my lonely stages in life, playing music never made me feel like I was lonely. It was like I was still communicating with something. Luckily, i have a family now, and it is great. I do not miss being alone all of the time, and i still play music when i want to be alone. I think that picking up an instrument would be beneficial for a lot of lonely people.
I'm favoured, $22,000 every week! I can now give back to the locals in my community and also support God's work and the church. God bless America
Thanks to Mrs. Elizabeth Regina Nelsen's time in my life, which had a profound impact on me.
She's a licensed broker here in the states
No doubt Elizabeth Regina. Nelsen Trading services are undoubtedly excellent.
I'm really interested, does she work with clients outside the USA, I'm from France?
Yes she works with people all over the world, she's the best you can ever come across.
Yes We must fight & battle loneliness!😢😿😩😕😔
There’s a difference between loneliness and being alone. I choose to be alone. I get lonely but witnessing the current state of mind of people, that feeling doesn’t last very long.
i moved to albuquerque from madison to turn a new leaf. 3+ years in i've never felt so lonely and hopeless in my life.
It’s self inflicted, stop being so antisocial and afraid of everything that moves around you and you’ll be okay..
I’m 23. The rise in AI has me coding and working on it at my job everyday without stop (including sat and sun). The lack of wife material, has me thinking that I can only now get a woman/girlfriend at a bar (but we know how that ends), and so I don’t want that life style. Even though the majority of people are stupid, they expect young people like me to be a genius. Also, family does not help either.
only going to get worse when AI improves....your working against yourself
@@mybedroomtv your right. But I have to make money with my knowledge. It seems money is in AI.
"Wife material" you're not entitled to a 20 year fashion model. Lower your expectations. Women are imperfect just like men. It's not about finding the perfect woman, it's about finding one with imperfections you yourself can live with. Loneliness is mostly lack of compromise with reality. Other factors play in to it but you're not finding a virgin, untouched, undamaged 20 something with 10/10 looks for a Christian marriage anywhere anymore. If you expect that you'll be lonely forever.
@@dirge8982 haha, your completely right. But I don’t necessarily think a 20 year old fashion model is “wife material” per se. I just love how you assume my type. Usually, I don’t know for everyone, people who say such statements are saying it to themselves. Don’t you think I might be referring to lack of commitment? Women (all type) are very much afraid of commitment at this young age, and that’s something I can’t fix. Anyway, thank you for your comment, I’ve learned so much.
@IsGoing True lol. Fair enough. Lack of commitment is an issue. I am a bisexual. I have walked both sides of the tracks. I know men as well as I know women. Men too are afraid of commitment. And often have unrealistic standards. Women do want to commit more often, but they fear men. They fear our lack of commitment, and our lack of reasonability in terms of our own expectations. Women are equally fearful. It's not just us.
I am so glad that Dr. Varma outlined the toxicity of competition in America, especially among children. The fact that the average person is now considered your enemy rather than your friend when you don’t even know them is an immediate setup for letdown. Because at the end of this pointless competition (whatever form it may take), there will be ONE “winner” and everybody else automatically becomes “losers”. Since when can there only be one happy, successful person in a circle of talented, wholesome individuals?! And what the heck is everybody competing over anyway?! I think most people don’t even know THAT! They just get so caught up on trying to be the best and perfect at everything that they forget that it’s more important to be human and to treat others as human beings as well!
I can’t force people to want to be around me. I haven’t had a close friendship my whole adult life
Every day!
What a surprise!!
People like moving to the suburbs and live as isolated as possible.
With all my personalities, im never alone...never
I'm 20 and l feel lost and confused in this world.
I feel that too
Interesting.
The man alone on top of the hill is happier than the men in the valley
Life is hard man
Bro loneliness is messing up my head man!!!
When I was in prison I used to get jealous of other inmates when their wives and girlfriends would send them letters and cards I always did my time by myself and wish I had a girlfriend, then when I got out of prison a woman that drove me crazy then for 4 years I stayed with her in a living Hell and I broke up with her and I got with my wife now and this marriage I am not happy in either. I would love to go back to being alone just to have peace in my life. I don't want women in my life no morez after this the only way I will have peace is by being alone again by myself. I now wish I was in their shoes, not only that but when you're alone you only have to spend money on yourself. Every time I want some food or drink I got to buy her the same thing too, now I spend double every time I want to eat, it is cheaper to be alone, at least for me. I can't wait to go back to being by myself.
The good doctor sure is physically attractive. Maybe get someone who isn’t to make the rest of us feel uhhh normal.
There's no such thing as loneliness when you're surrounded by people unless you're all by yourself in a desert than that is loneliness.
A few months ago, it was only men who were having an epidemic of loneliness, and everyone (mostly women) treated it like a joke. _Now_ it's not just men so we have to do something about it.
Good info! "Not nice to have, but need to have."
I'm a loner but I go to the gym and lose weight to keep me motivated. I don't have many friends nor having a girlfriend, but I always find ways to keep myself occupied.
Even on support forums, people make fun of people that are lonely and assume it's their fault.
I’m one month from 20 never had a girlfriend in my life. No idea what that’s like. Certainly makes me feel like 💩 I thought drinking would help but it only makes everything worse .I totally feel disconnected everyone else can drink and socialize I just end up in my own world until I black out.
Virtually no one who is retired has any real friends. If you are still working, you will find out later that your coworkers are not real friends. I mean friends you can trust and count on, not mere acquaintances. Mature people learn to value their solitude. It's peace, tranquility and sacred solitude; not loneliness. Deep, meaningful relationships are rare at any age and the truth is they are not that important.
I’m 45 and have been living alone since age 25, I dated someone a long time who didn’t want to commit or get married. I’m dating someone now but he still hasn’t moved in with me. So am I doomed for an early death?
dont feel alone. You are perfectly ok. Healing with you
@@seed.meditation thank you ☺️
There isn't a lot of a community aspect especially going from middle America to up. And then the lower half everything is more spread out with having a lot less siblings.
15 Cigarettes a day? Idk if thats a stretch or just cap.
Loners don't even want to hang out with each other.
I’m going to guess that Dr. Sue Varma has never been lonely.
Bible study class replaces loneliness with peace. Thanks Lord for your peace. Thanks Lord for bible study class
boring for me
Then don't go. Find something else that works for you. Been doing it since 2010. Haven't felt loneliness since then. Worked wonders for me🤗
I am aged 45, I am very lonely .
Bible study class replaces loneliness with peace. Thanks Lord for bible study class. Thanks Lord for your peace
@@Shaolin91z I agree that bible study is great, but it's not a relationship.
How did we end up the loneliest generation
Also women need to start being more proactive and making moves on meeting men and initiate interactions. Women need to start initiating interactions/conversation. Period. Relationships are a 2 way street, can’t be reliant on the man ALL THE TIME
@@CGMiamiMoods002 I agree. Just like trinity in the matrix
No hope, no cope
i’m on my ipad 13 hours per day. i have my therapist.
Where's Tony Sadiku
Hypergamy and social media lead to women's "standards" becoming unrealistic. There's always a taller, better-looking guy out there. Likewise easy access to quality adult content gives men an escape from all the rejection. The only winner is the super good-looking guys who have endless choices without need for a commitment.
In a world where people trust and love animal than others, loneliess is inevitable
What does climate change have to do with someone feeling lonely? 😂
They always have to put that in…
Climate change has people (young people especially) feeling hopeless and depressed about the future. Depression leads to isolation, and isolation often leads to loneliness. Can't say I blame them. Our sense of urgency when it comes to stopping climate change is pitiful.
Being lonely is also racist they forgot to mention that.
@@theeclecticlifewithsam young people do not give a damn about climate change, they talk about it, but their actions about it say otherwise. Quit the bs.
Where to find quality humans‽
natalie morales w cbs now? she sooooo pretty
They should interview Bruce Wayne, he has solutions for everything
Idk how this is a bad thing. I’d be so happy owning little place and being left
Alone. The real story should be people renting apartments to make landlords rich
Loneliness is a medical condition? Are you kidding me? There's being alone and there's being lonely. I choose to be alone. Having friends is like having kids, you can choose not to have them. It's called being an introvert which is what I am. It's a personality trait, not a psychological condition. My story is a long one but let's just say by not having friends my mind is clear. I don't have to hear about religion, politics, kid problems, defending your life or any of that. Not that I won't be friendly, just choosing not to have friends. No complaints on my behalf.😀
“Talking to your dog walker” this lady really knows what daily life is like for the average American 😂😂
Also women need to start being more proactive and making moves on meeting men and initiate interactions. Women need to start initiating reactions/conversation. Period. Relationships are a 2 way street, can’t be reliant on the man ALL THE TIME
Get you a left or right hand that loves name brand Vaseline and you’ll never feel lonely again 😏
Sofia Coppola films in a nutshell.
I remember when they said technology would bring us together
Jfc, I had no idea that loneliness was so dangerous.
same here
@@seed.meditation word. When they listed all the things that can occur I was like holy moly.... I need to reach out to my people. 💓
I think loneliness is happening because of being overworked, upset, and angry
you can be in a relationship and still feel lonely 😒... Also, cost of living going up 😂
What a genius. The problem is fractured families. Two roleful parents working together for the same valued outcome in the best interest of family. But naw they want every age appropriate human paying into the tax system. Create spiritualless expectation then manipulate the ignorant to achieve greed. Hell of a business.
This is what happens when women want you to make $300,000 a year
It's pathetic how people don't know how to be alone anymore
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I do agree with that to a point but constantly being alone as some people are, is a horrible thing.
It’s pathetic how people don’t know how to empathize anymore.
is the doctor paying $$$ for all of us ??? its nice she can afford it. zooom, pushing the screen button in a living room for 4 years indoors might be where you wanna start.