It's funny, because my Ex is PURE CHAOS when she is on her own. She thinks "independence" is her "thriving" area - and she doesn't thrive at all - she really doesn't function. We broke up three months ago and she sent me an email about every area of her life that has fallen apart ( I mean EVERY: health, lost her job, getting evicted)
It doesn't help you heal perhaps, but that's about the perfect mixture of disaster for a wake up call. It's going to change her life, and hopefully she hears the bells ring to fix it for the better.
@jaxbchjim 1b% ! I received compliments like... I feel so safe around you, you're so calm and relaxed... But, brought in an ex addict 💀 I personally understand why it happens, but it's an absolute mind f%&£
@@jaxbchjim Wow, true words spoken. It's amazing to see her parents know it, she said it a few times - and LIVED it with me - she was genuinely happy after we moved in together (and rode out some early turbulence). I was a rock, and her turbulence was always crashing against me. And I refused to ever fight her with her toxic tools - when she would inevitably start drama.
I thought my FA was suppressing and deactivating during the slow fade, seemed she spent time finding fault with me, us and the relationship before the discard. Is there a time when it's okay to break no contact or do I just wait for her to reach out?
This video helped me a lot. Thank you. We are no contact at the moment…. Even though he never officially breaks up with me but infers it and goes silent. We’ve been together for 6 years and his avoidance has been an issue the entire time.
I broke up with him first as I did not know about avoidants but grovelled back after less than one day. Then he broke up with me 2 days later. Will he come back after no contact? Altho we are also ldr :c
Dude, your videos are so insightful and helpful.
Thank you Alexis. So much wisdom in this. Really helpful ❤
It's funny, because my Ex is PURE CHAOS when she is on her own. She thinks "independence" is her "thriving" area - and she doesn't thrive at all - she really doesn't function. We broke up three months ago and she sent me an email about every area of her life that has fallen apart ( I mean EVERY: health, lost her job, getting evicted)
It doesn't help you heal perhaps, but that's about the perfect mixture of disaster for a wake up call. It's going to change her life, and hopefully she hears the bells ring to fix it for the better.
But she won’t acknowledge to herself that you are the most positive influence in her life (been there)
@jaxbchjim 1b% !
I received compliments like... I feel so safe around you, you're so calm and relaxed...
But, brought in an ex addict 💀
I personally understand why it happens, but it's an absolute mind f%&£
She is NOT an avoidant then.
@@jaxbchjim Wow, true words spoken. It's amazing to see her parents know it, she said it a few times - and LIVED it with me - she was genuinely happy after we moved in together (and rode out some early turbulence). I was a rock, and her turbulence was always crashing against me. And I refused to ever fight her with her toxic tools - when she would inevitably start drama.
I thought my FA was suppressing and deactivating during the slow fade, seemed she spent time finding fault with me, us and the relationship before the discard. Is there a time when it's okay to break no contact or do I just wait for her to reach out?
This video helped me a lot. Thank you. We are no contact at the moment…. Even though he never officially breaks up with me but infers it and goes silent. We’ve been together for 6 years and his avoidance has been an issue the entire time.
What happens inside the avoidant head when you break up with them.
I broke up with him first as I did not know about avoidants but grovelled back after less than one day. Then he broke up with me 2 days later. Will he come back after no contact? Altho we are also ldr :c
THANK YOU!!🙏 This video has been very helpful. Since I've been going through a separation of a 32-year marriage. ❤️🩹❤️