Difficult Family - Nouman Ali Khan - Khutbah at Dar Alnoor
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- Опубліковано 22 чер 2022
- Allah describes family as a blessing that we should be grateful for.
In this Khutbah Ustadh Nouman offers advice from the Qur’an on how to approach difficult families with love and compassion.
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Family trauma and problems are the hardest test ever. May Allah give us strength to pass this test.
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Ameen
Ameen
Ameen
There needs to be more frequent lectures & conversations about this topic. People are living a life of hell, not knowing how to manage family relationships. May Allah reward Br Khan.
Maa Shaa Allah!
Exactly
So true
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I personally find problems inside the family the toughest of all. Because of you want to please Allah SWT you should never let go and abandon the family or cut ties. Especially if they are your parents. It's a great test and may Allah give us the strength to pass it.
I made a mistake
I left my so called Muslim family
And now I have got the true meaning of Islam.
Now it's the time to go back and teach them
*Our family big or small*
But it's stand and performance like a Pakistan Cricket team, some time doing best of best and occupied number one position won the 1992 World Cup. Some time invole in match fixing or just a blame business, losing the matches with very weak teams, even the stars players scores not even double Figure even the world-champion team all out just like phone number. But all these mixture of good and bad performance it is called Pakistan National Cricket Team, class is permanent but form is temporary.
Here Class is our family and form is our disputes.
Bottom line, nothing granted in our material life, the permanent life have to come hereafter.
All the best in 2023 more happier than 2022.
Ameen
ameen
It's really toughest test 😭
Sometimes i would wish to have a normal family but then i realise that im not normal too, so how can i have a normal family.. so i just get on with my life. Another thing is that, ive stopped putting any expectations on my family members and do things for the sake of Allah, that has saved me from a lot of pain.
Masha'Allah
I have been doing this for several years it helps alot...but sometimes i get really frustrated..😒
Mashallah. May Allah reward you with best ❤
I hope you're okay sis:)
Agree
Takeaways from the video:
1. Do not associate Batil with your family members who have caused conflicts, because their views, ideas, and character can change
2. Maintain hope in Allah, that the problems in your families can be solved
3. Try to look at the bigger picture to all conflicts in your families, and contemplate on solutions to the problems within the family
4. Be grateful to Allah for not only the existence of your family, but the relationships that you have with your families, regardless if they are bad or good.
5. Remember your purpose in life
Nice summary
Ty
Living with a narcissist is beyond explanation to top it all co-parenting with narcissist is literally living hell every day. But hikkmallah, we know less, Allah plans. Trust Allah🤲
I’m so thankful for Allah for sending Ustad Nouman into this life. He’s opening access to understanding the Quran DEEPLY in second language, not arabic, for millions. May Allah grant him Jannah. Ameen.
Ameen ya Rabb
Ameen
It also depends how you define severing ties. You can keep a healthy distance but still keep them in your dua, or send help when needed. Being concerned about their welfare (even when you are not physically present) is not severing ties i believe. 🙏✨
*Our family big or small*
But it's stand and performance like a Pakistan Cricket team, some time doing best of best and occupied number one position won the 1992 World Cup. Some time invole in match fixing or just a blame business, losing the matches with very weak teams, even the stars players scores not even double Figure even the world-champion team all out just like phone number. But all these mixture of good and bad performance it is called Pakistan National Cricket Team, class is permanent but form is temporary.
Here Class is our family and form is our disputes.
Bottom line, nothing granted in our material life, the permanent life have to come hereafter.
All the best in 2023 more happier than 2022.
I wish your believe is true....
Even if you are born in difficult family, don't give up. One day, even if it's 20 years from now, you will see sense in everything and be happy to be alive. You have a power to direct your destiny no matter how insignificant or small that power looks to you now 😊. Keep on moving however it looks for you
my take away:
don't put a "batil sticker" to anyone coz human beings can change,grow and evolve 💫
Thank you
Cute
True indeed
Forget and forgive is the way forward, but it's easier said than done. May Allah guide our heart to repent and forgive and make our hearts soft towards our family and their relations.
Ameen summa Ameen
*Our family big or small*
But it's stand and performance like a Pakistan Cricket team, some time doing best of best and occupied number one position won the 1992 World Cup. Some time invole in match fixing or just a blame business, losing the matches with very weak teams, even the stars players scores not even double Figure even the world-champion team all out just like phone number. But all these mixture of good and bad performance it is called Pakistan National Cricket Team, class is permanent but form is temporary.
Here Class is our family and form is our disputes.
Bottom line, nothing granted in our material life, the permanent life have to come hereafter.
All the best in 2023 more happier than 2022.
What about when it’s just keeps on repeating? The same scenario or the past recreating itself? I distanced myself and got close again and that’s when the familiar started to occur again
@kingh8163 at best, we could express how we feel so that it makes them aware of how we feel or try avoiding situations like that but maintain a hi / hello / bye relation to keepup the relationship tie 👔 😊
But some family members won't stop until they break you
I think his is the most diffucult Thing to muslim family speciallly in the pakistan
To Fix family issue
The pain, the humiliation,the stress
The trauma,the drama, the unjustified and evil culture that Burden us more than anything else
The useless talk
The hatered and then jelosy
It all so diffucult and sometime you Just have to know the limit and what is possibile
I Mean in other hutbah Nak Said that its ok to have space and to get distance from abusive People even if They are They parent and relative
But regardless
...
Just Fix what you can
At you Best,With Wisdom
And if cant Just distance
Even if its Just silence.
May Allah relive you from whatever difficulty you are in,you are speaking from experience,I can sense that.
Not only in pakistani but also in Indian families
@@hustleronamission2548 ameen,May Allah forgive us and Make Easy ours affairs and give us stability in the Heart.
Jaza k'Allah hu khair
@@somebodyy32 yeah i Guess in the South Asia in general
You summarized the pakistani desi families so well
I listened to this at such a hard time and moment in my life. I will keep listening until it’s engraved in my head! Because I never saw it this way!! 😢😣😞 May Allah Swt bless you brother for this lecture.
Our family big or small, but it's stand and performance like a Pakistan Cricket team, some time doing best of best and occupied number one position won the 1992 World Cup. Some time invole in match fixing or just a blame business, losing the matches with very weak teams, even the stars players scores not even double digits even the world-champion team all out just like phone number. But all these mixture of good and bad performance it is called Pakistan National Cricket Team, class is permanent but form is temporary.
Here Class is our family and form is our dispute.
Bottom line, nothing granted in our material life, the permanent life hereafter.
All the best in 2023 more happier than 2022.
Allah puts us in difficulty for us to find a way of seeking Allah.
True indeed sister
Turn challenge into ni'mah.Allah has brought us together in a family for a reason.Allah wants us to stick together
Being grateful & iman
سلام عليكم..
سبحان الله العظيم..
Sometimes we are Tested by Allah..
In ways we don't understand..
Thank you so much for this, I've been dealing with this issue all my life and got no one to talk to, may Allah give us strength to find the hikmah and guide us along the way. May Allah bless you.
I grew up with a very abusive father both physically and mentally. My father traumatized my whole life. My father hit would beat on my mother and us (me and my siblings). Every memory I have of my father are just memories I don’t wish upon any child. I stopped talking to my father. I tried to forgive him but I know if I let him back into my life the abuse will continue. Everyone I know tells me I’m a bad muslim for this and I should let him abuse me and my family. I know that Islam would never be okay with men like my father and that’s all I need.
Subhanallah, Allah is not unaware but all seeing in what happens, May Allah protect you and have mercy upon you!
That's the most painful thing. I person or child can experience I wish you to heal from this trauma.but I just want to say one thing. Because i need it to. When someone does something wrong.. why do we distance from Allah . He is most loving we should distance our self emotionally from people not from Allah.
I hope my sins be forgiven by going through all of this test. I think this trial is a blessing for me as it was an option for me to be able to be forgiven. Allah know best.
There are times when I feel the "reality" is so harsh, I tend to run from reality by believing in "fiction (baatil)" such as movie/cartoon etc (it's just an act/lies). I think I was lacking patience to face reality and to forgive. May Allah help me.
The hope to be forgiven is what makes me feel stronger to move on.
Based on my experience, communicating with pious person heal the heart very fast.
I hope Allah forgive me for any mistake I wrote on this comment.
May Allah forgive us, and heal our heart which is scarred by our sins.
May we never give up on our families, communities, and ourselves. Ameen. Thank you for this lecture. May Allah bless your wisdom and families. Ameen /Amazing lecture.
Salaam alaikum! I believe that the 'difficult' people ALLAH AWJ put in our lives are part of our growth and we become part of theirs. We all are ways to get closer to ALLAH because of the charity we give each other. We are also given opportunities to develop 'beautiful patience' when we interact especially when we disagree over many things. ..that sort of things. And ALLAH AWJ knows best. 🙏🙏🙏✨ Wassalam
Mas shaa Allah, Allah has bless you with wisdom, I pray that you may test the sweetness of it ameen
Im tired not gonna lie exhausted, no energy to fight anymore
Mashallah Mashallah God bles you Brother Amin ALLAH love from Kosova Albania 🇽🇰🇦🇱
Thoroughly apprciated from Bukhari borned city , uzbekistan . May Alloh bless you Nouman Ali Khan and grant with jannatil Firdavis 🤲
Please share with Turkish subtitles. I would very much like to listen and understand these beautiful conversations...
Im so blessed alhumdulilla i needed to hear this. Perfect timing.
Oh finally a lecture on real worldly problem!
And I so wish I can break that wall, but a wall against a strong narassist mother is pretty hard one 😥😥
Io actually figured her out at age 41, how am I suppose to change now after grieving that I never had a normal mother.
And brother never forget your family might be a lot different than my mine:)
I know it's easy for someone to say "try your best, and let Allah take care of the rest" but yeah, that is the only way. Even Noah (a s) tried for hundreds of years.
same here! i was crying in prayer today saying all the things said in the video 'why did I get a mother like that' after finally learning that she is a narcissist. However much I try to not see her with batil she constantly reaffirms to me through her actions that she is an unyielding narcissist. I will try to implement the things said in this video though it will be tough. I do believe once I get enough space from my mother it will help heal things and perhaps improve my perspective of her and improve our relationship. I think in these cases keeping a good amount of distance from such people is key.
I've come to realize that a narcissist being a person with multiple masks, it corresponds to the description of Munafiqun in the quran, and so in that aspect I started reading quran to seek guidance on how to deal with Munafiqun, and there is plenty in the quran. Surat Al Anfal, Yusuf, Al-Imran and even Al-Tawba have so much advice for that regard. May Allah guide us and help us.
No these lectures are not for everyone he’s just coming from his own personal experiences and views. With all due respect I don’t have to do anything he says i
Mean no where in the Quran it says that you let people walk all over you!
Allahu Akbar I thought I was the only Muslim that gd a covert narcissist mother. It’s the hardest thing ever dealing with that bullying etc, I found out at 33, 2 years and I’ve been grieving since I went into a nervous breakdown all alone when I came to the sudden realisation that I had a mum that was not normal but for the past 3 decades allah has been protecting me. You are not alone my dear I went thought the worse experience with her and guess what I forgive her but I will never be able to forgive and being Muslim it’s all about the mother, but tell me how that fits in when the lady will never ever change.
I finally heard what I need to hear. Alhamdulillah.
The word of Allah!
SO SO POWERFUL!
This was truthful and painful in the same time… thank you Bayyinah 👍
Jazakumullahu Khoiran Kathiran Ustaz...I am a 67 yr old wife and mum of 4. Allahu Akbar. I needed this so much...Alhamdullillah for this lecture...I shall share this with fmly and friends.
Beautiful perspective mashaAllah. A big knock back for the modern family-eroding trope of "narcissistic" parents/family/spouses etc
Jazaq Allah khair shaikh 💐💐💐💐
Jazaka’Allah. This changed my life.🙏🏽
I prefer to keep silent. I'm not good at talking and connecting with people. I'll just worsen the situation.
May Allah protect you and bless you Ustadh. Thank you so much
The best part of bayyinah videos is that, there is no kind of halal or haram music in the beginning or the end of the video.
Mashaallah. Excellent khutbah. Shukran
Ameen Sheikh, waouh great understanding from this
Salam Nouman
BarakaAllah ou fik
I'm exactly in this situation
I don’t know how to deal with my family
I will try to make a step and see how it goes
Me too
Alhamdullilah!❤🤲
Jazakumullah khairan ustadh NAK, love from Nigeria, west Africa...
I always listen to your khutbah mashallah my allah bless you
الحمدلله رب العا لمين ما شاء الله والله الكبر ♥️
Thank you so much Sir, I really needed it to hear this. May Allah bless you for all you do.🦚
May Allah azzawazal bless you enormously 🥺
Masha'allah
Masha'Allah
My God protect you
Very nice talk
Thank you
Jazak Allah khier
Thank you for being here for us right on cue, May Allah increase you in knowledge & reward you, thank you
Thank you 😭 MasyaAllah my dua has been answered ✨
This is definitely one of the best khutbahs in a long time. On the other hand there were some assumptions made that need to be made plain. One assumption is that to exercise or experience Allah's favor or blessing it's important to acknowledge or be aware of the stories we make up about other people. Other people say and do what they do and we have an opinion or a judgment about it and then we impose that opinion or judgment on them and use that opinion and judgment to determine our behavior towards them. If we're not clear on that and we fall into or rather we are not accepting or exercising Allah's blessing.
Every family has a problem, difficulties between its people... I got the notification and I was literally stressed then... And it felt so good so relaxing so surprising too... That Allah doesn't want me to go into sin... He doesn't want me to be despair... Subhanallah... There are always signs for us to come closer to him... As we do that...we are doing for ourselves... If we do good it will give us good... If we do bad... The bad will come to us... Allah loves us that's why He always make us to make it... And He will continuosly do that until we the end if we also co-operate... And ask for sabr... Subhanallah 🌸✨
Assalamu aleykum
Going trough hardship later gives a better life
Masha Allah Sir Nouman Ali Khan. You really place things into perspective. Subhana Allah
Ustadt Nouman Ali Khan conveys the DAWAH so profoundly and proffesionally knowledgeable ALHAMDULLILAH AMEEN May ALLAH SAW PROTECT you ALWAYS AMEEN
Aameen Yaa Rabb 🤲
On point as always ❤️ MashaAllah
Salamat rahin 💗
Aameen to all duas
May ALLAH SWT guide all of us and all our families and all teh generations to come till Do J Aameen
Beautiful khutba as always
جَزَاكَ ٱللَّٰهُ خَيْرًا ❤️
Nauman you are doing great Alhamdolillah.Your knowledge is an immense treasure. Subhan Allah
No words just golden words may Allah bless u happiness Aameen
Jazakallah khair brother Ali
Listening to hutba of ustath, I thought Allah teaches us the psychological aspects of our life
it is literally an awesome khutba
جزاك الله خيرا
I don't have these blessings, and I pray to Allah to bless me with these neamts/blessings in this tough period of my life while I am feeling so lonely and I am tired of living alone far from my family and in a open environment that sins are really easy to do.
May Allah protect me and all other Muslims.
Alhamdulila Alhamdulila. Thank you!
Thankfully, I have watched this. I hope Allah guides us all to see the wisdom behind all fights 🙏🏼🙏🏼
Amazing lecture on a much needed topic. May Allah bless you all.
Alhumdulillah, Jazakumullahu Khair brother.
Those Ayats are like magical. Which has changed the way l think.
Subhanallah
Barak Allahu feek!
Thank you so much for this lecture!
May Allah bless u brother u changed my narrative completely coz of which i was going through pain since years
Wonderful lecture but surely the Islamic conversation is a bit different when you have family members that are incredibly toxic to a degree where you are physically and emotionally sick dealing with their emotional manipulation and abuse.
Jazak Allah khair
We need more on this....
NAK is now becoming a brand....
MASHAALLAH jazak ALLAH, and love you sir........
Alhamdulillah ❤💐🥺
Jazakillah khair for giving these kind of khutbas. They really benefit our inner believes. May Allah reward you immensely for bringing up real issues and their solutions.
A Father who was a strong sociopath narcissist and then raised a selfish dumb son who married a dangerous, meek acting narcissistic. They isolated my children and Myself marked us as dirty people. My children have been cut off from famlly. In the end it’s better bc they could of poisoned my kids against me. Meanwhile btw this toxic family acting they are as perfect as possible Muslims. So although I am broken inside I feel blessed I saved my kids and we are blessed with following Islam and my kids get a chance to experience peace. Allhamduallah
Sorry to read that. We are human and cannot endure everything. Allah does NOT like Injustice.
Barakallohfiikum
I really need this khutbah at this time jazak Allah NAK.....
I ask Allah to reward you with the best reward and increase you in knowledge, understanding and faith.
Aameen
And then there are people like you sir, blessing by Allah. May Allah give hidayat to all of us.
Wallahi very deep understanding Allah bless and guide us all,in sha Allah my kids who watched this video will now understand why my nature is the way it is, it's not me but by the mercy of Allah
Ya Allah make us shaakireen aameen
Subhan Allah brother beautiful bayan may Allah grant understand of ALLAHS BOOK N LAWS TO every human being alive on this earth Aameen..specially all the men husbands on earth AAMEEN
Subhanallah.....such an eye-opener....need to listen multiple times to get it engrained....Jazakallah khair Brother
May Allah make us among His pious believers, and may He accept all our right duas.
May Allah protect us from every evils of people, May Allah make a way out of our difficulties with khair o afiyat & shower his mercy upon us 🤲
Very important topic to every human being.
Knowledge is the key and been open minded is the key to salvation.
جزاك الله خير الجزاء شيخنا الفاضل
Beautiful khutba
Very inspiring
Jazak Allah
an eye opener rlly
I m 49 years old in my life till now I have found peace only with my parents n I can say alhamdulillah they are ablessing allah has given me I have not found any thing peaceful in this world prayer n parents
Jazakumullah hukayran🤲🏼🥰💐💐💐🌷🌷
He really gave me some things to think about in this lecture. This was very helpful. Jazakallah kheyr.
May Allah Al Muizz preserve you ustaad, Jazakallahu Khairan kaseera :))
بارك الله فيك يا شيخ وجزاك الله خيرا أرجوا أن تستمر هذه المحاضرات والدروس وشكرا لك يا دكتور
Jij hebt dit zooo mooi uitgelegd dank je..belgium
MasyaAllah Barakallahhu fik bro,we need this .May Allah bless us with beneficial knowledge 💚. AaminX3
Wish I could attend Bayyinah Institute with you, Ustadh.
U can attend the Dream Program online
They don't conduct onsite studies now.
Me too insyaa ALLAH
Dream program is still going on
@@aimanfatima5698 how can I access ? Any link to it?
الحمد لله على الهداية.