There needs to be more frequent lectures & conversations about this topic. People are living a life of hell, not knowing how to manage family relationships. May Allah reward Br Khan.
I personally find problems inside the family the toughest of all. Because of you want to please Allah SWT you should never let go and abandon the family or cut ties. Especially if they are your parents. It's a great test and may Allah give us the strength to pass it.
*Our family big or small* But it's stand and performance like a Pakistan Cricket team, some time doing best of best and occupied number one position won the 1992 World Cup. Some time invole in match fixing or just a blame business, losing the matches with very weak teams, even the stars players scores not even double Figure even the world-champion team all out just like phone number. But all these mixture of good and bad performance it is called Pakistan National Cricket Team, class is permanent but form is temporary. Here Class is our family and form is our disputes. Bottom line, nothing granted in our material life, the permanent life have to come hereafter. All the best in 2023 more happier than 2022.
@dawah_sister_1 sister as someone who has been in a toxic abusive family since I was born and now I'm almost 25 I say Allah does not burden a soul more than it can bear, it's all a test, and nothing lasts forever....how many oppressors walked this earth and now they are beneath it as if they never existed.... So patience is key sometimes this is the harsh reality... Patience is not impossible knowing the clock is ticking and days are passing and time does not have mercy on anyone... So... I hope this helps because I wish I heard this when I was younger
Sometimes i would wish to have a normal family but then i realise that im not normal too, so how can i have a normal family.. so i just get on with my life. Another thing is that, ive stopped putting any expectations on my family members and do things for the sake of Allah, that has saved me from a lot of pain.
I’m so thankful for Allah for sending Ustad Nouman into this life. He’s opening access to understanding the Quran DEEPLY in second language, not arabic, for millions. May Allah grant him Jannah. Ameen.
Takeaways from the video: 1. Do not associate Batil with your family members who have caused conflicts, because their views, ideas, and character can change 2. Maintain hope in Allah, that the problems in your families can be solved 3. Try to look at the bigger picture to all conflicts in your families, and contemplate on solutions to the problems within the family 4. Be grateful to Allah for not only the existence of your family, but the relationships that you have with your families, regardless if they are bad or good. 5. Remember your purpose in life
I listened to this at such a hard time and moment in my life. I will keep listening until it’s engraved in my head! Because I never saw it this way!! 😢😣😞 May Allah Swt bless you brother for this lecture.
Our family big or small, but it's stand and performance like a Pakistan Cricket team, some time doing best of best and occupied number one position won the 1992 World Cup. Some time invole in match fixing or just a blame business, losing the matches with very weak teams, even the stars players scores not even double digits even the world-champion team all out just like phone number. But all these mixture of good and bad performance it is called Pakistan National Cricket Team, class is permanent but form is temporary. Here Class is our family and form is our dispute. Bottom line, nothing granted in our material life, the permanent life hereafter. All the best in 2023 more happier than 2022.
Living with a narcissist is beyond explanation to top it all co-parenting with narcissist is literally living hell every day. But hikkmallah, we know less, Allah plans. Trust Allah🤲
Forget and forgive is the way forward, but it's easier said than done. May Allah guide our heart to repent and forgive and make our hearts soft towards our family and their relations.
*Our family big or small* But it's stand and performance like a Pakistan Cricket team, some time doing best of best and occupied number one position won the 1992 World Cup. Some time invole in match fixing or just a blame business, losing the matches with very weak teams, even the stars players scores not even double Figure even the world-champion team all out just like phone number. But all these mixture of good and bad performance it is called Pakistan National Cricket Team, class is permanent but form is temporary. Here Class is our family and form is our disputes. Bottom line, nothing granted in our material life, the permanent life have to come hereafter. All the best in 2023 more happier than 2022.
What about when it’s just keeps on repeating? The same scenario or the past recreating itself? I distanced myself and got close again and that’s when the familiar started to occur again
@kingh8163 at best, we could express how we feel so that it makes them aware of how we feel or try avoiding situations like that but maintain a hi / hello / bye relation to keepup the relationship tie 👔 😊
Even if you are born in difficult family, don't give up. One day, even if it's 20 years from now, you will see sense in everything and be happy to be alive. You have a power to direct your destiny no matter how insignificant or small that power looks to you now 😊. Keep on moving however it looks for you
It also depends how you define severing ties. You can keep a healthy distance but still keep them in your dua, or send help when needed. Being concerned about their welfare (even when you are not physically present) is not severing ties i believe. 🙏✨
*Our family big or small* But it's stand and performance like a Pakistan Cricket team, some time doing best of best and occupied number one position won the 1992 World Cup. Some time invole in match fixing or just a blame business, losing the matches with very weak teams, even the stars players scores not even double Figure even the world-champion team all out just like phone number. But all these mixture of good and bad performance it is called Pakistan National Cricket Team, class is permanent but form is temporary. Here Class is our family and form is our disputes. Bottom line, nothing granted in our material life, the permanent life have to come hereafter. All the best in 2023 more happier than 2022.
Thank you so much for this, I've been dealing with this issue all my life and got no one to talk to, may Allah give us strength to find the hikmah and guide us along the way. May Allah bless you.
May we never give up on our families, communities, and ourselves. Ameen. Thank you for this lecture. May Allah bless your wisdom and families. Ameen /Amazing lecture.
Salaam alaikum! I believe that the 'difficult' people ALLAH AWJ put in our lives are part of our growth and we become part of theirs. We all are ways to get closer to ALLAH because of the charity we give each other. We are also given opportunities to develop 'beautiful patience' when we interact especially when we disagree over many things. ..that sort of things. And ALLAH AWJ knows best. 🙏🙏🙏✨ Wassalam
I think his is the most diffucult Thing to muslim family speciallly in the pakistan To Fix family issue The pain, the humiliation,the stress The trauma,the drama, the unjustified and evil culture that Burden us more than anything else The useless talk The hatered and then jelosy It all so diffucult and sometime you Just have to know the limit and what is possibile I Mean in other hutbah Nak Said that its ok to have space and to get distance from abusive People even if They are They parent and relative But regardless ... Just Fix what you can At you Best,With Wisdom And if cant Just distance Even if its Just silence.
I grew up with a very abusive father both physically and mentally. My father traumatized my whole life. My father hit would beat on my mother and us (me and my siblings). Every memory I have of my father are just memories I don’t wish upon any child. I stopped talking to my father. I tried to forgive him but I know if I let him back into my life the abuse will continue. Everyone I know tells me I’m a bad muslim for this and I should let him abuse me and my family. I know that Islam would never be okay with men like my father and that’s all I need.
That's the most painful thing. I person or child can experience I wish you to heal from this trauma.but I just want to say one thing. Because i need it to. When someone does something wrong.. why do we distance from Allah . He is most loving we should distance our self emotionally from people not from Allah.
No, you do NOT need to let yourself be physically abused! Do what you can but your father needs to do better if he wants a relationship! I'm sorry you had a bad childhood, I hope you find peace and happiness in your life.
Jazakumullahu Khoiran Kathiran Ustaz...I am a 67 yr old wife and mum of 4. Allahu Akbar. I needed this so much...Alhamdullillah for this lecture...I shall share this with fmly and friends.
This is definitely one of the best khutbahs in a long time. On the other hand there were some assumptions made that need to be made plain. One assumption is that to exercise or experience Allah's favor or blessing it's important to acknowledge or be aware of the stories we make up about other people. Other people say and do what they do and we have an opinion or a judgment about it and then we impose that opinion or judgment on them and use that opinion and judgment to determine our behavior towards them. If we're not clear on that and we fall into or rather we are not accepting or exercising Allah's blessing.
stop fighting 😢 because you will end up by exhausting yourself and nothing will change. stop fighting and just pray to Allah for making things easy for you. sometimes it is wise to back off than trying to prove your self on the right side.
Every family has a problem, difficulties between its people... I got the notification and I was literally stressed then... And it felt so good so relaxing so surprising too... That Allah doesn't want me to go into sin... He doesn't want me to be despair... Subhanallah... There are always signs for us to come closer to him... As we do that...we are doing for ourselves... If we do good it will give us good... If we do bad... The bad will come to us... Allah loves us that's why He always make us to make it... And He will continuosly do that until we the end if we also co-operate... And ask for sabr... Subhanallah 🌸✨
Jazakillah khair for giving these kind of khutbas. They really benefit our inner believes. May Allah reward you immensely for bringing up real issues and their solutions.
I hope my sins be forgiven by going through all of this test. I think this trial is a blessing for me as it was an option for me to be able to be forgiven. Allah know best. There are times when I feel the "reality" is so harsh, I tend to run from reality by believing in "fiction (baatil)" such as movie/cartoon etc (it's just an act/lies). I think I was lacking patience to face reality and to forgive. May Allah help me. The hope to be forgiven is what makes me feel stronger to move on. Based on my experience, communicating with pious person heal the heart very fast. I hope Allah forgive me for any mistake I wrote on this comment. May Allah forgive us, and heal our heart which is scarred by our sins.
May Allah make us among His pious believers, and may He accept all our right duas. May Allah protect us from every evils of people, May Allah make a way out of our difficulties with khair o afiyat & shower his mercy upon us 🤲
Wallahi very deep understanding Allah bless and guide us all,in sha Allah my kids who watched this video will now understand why my nature is the way it is, it's not me but by the mercy of Allah
I m 49 years old in my life till now I have found peace only with my parents n I can say alhamdulillah they are ablessing allah has given me I have not found any thing peaceful in this world prayer n parents
I don't have these blessings, and I pray to Allah to bless me with these neamts/blessings in this tough period of my life while I am feeling so lonely and I am tired of living alone far from my family and in a open environment that sins are really easy to do. May Allah protect me and all other Muslims.
Don’t worry brother I dealt with the same exact thing a year ago… i really was struggling even though i had friends and stuff … but really, i know what you feel about everything around you the temptations and what not
Oh finally a lecture on real worldly problem! And I so wish I can break that wall, but a wall against a strong narassist mother is pretty hard one 😥😥 Io actually figured her out at age 41, how am I suppose to change now after grieving that I never had a normal mother. And brother never forget your family might be a lot different than my mine:)
I know it's easy for someone to say "try your best, and let Allah take care of the rest" but yeah, that is the only way. Even Noah (a s) tried for hundreds of years.
same here! i was crying in prayer today saying all the things said in the video 'why did I get a mother like that' after finally learning that she is a narcissist. However much I try to not see her with batil she constantly reaffirms to me through her actions that she is an unyielding narcissist. I will try to implement the things said in this video though it will be tough. I do believe once I get enough space from my mother it will help heal things and perhaps improve my perspective of her and improve our relationship. I think in these cases keeping a good amount of distance from such people is key.
I've come to realize that a narcissist being a person with multiple masks, it corresponds to the description of Munafiqun in the quran, and so in that aspect I started reading quran to seek guidance on how to deal with Munafiqun, and there is plenty in the quran. Surat Al Anfal, Yusuf, Al-Imran and even Al-Tawba have so much advice for that regard. May Allah guide us and help us.
Allahu Akbar I thought I was the only Muslim that gd a covert narcissist mother. It’s the hardest thing ever dealing with that bullying etc, I found out at 33, 2 years and I’ve been grieving since I went into a nervous breakdown all alone when I came to the sudden realisation that I had a mum that was not normal but for the past 3 decades allah has been protecting me. You are not alone my dear I went thought the worse experience with her and guess what I forgive her but I will never be able to forgive and being Muslim it’s all about the mother, but tell me how that fits in when the lady will never ever change.
@@treetop711 yes it’s the only way that’s what I done I went no to limited contact she messed up my whole life ya Allah to the pains I had to go through. I was made homeless half my life for no reason. Anyways it’s hard as it is to heal but you need to heal and it can take years, it’s been 2 years since I found out about what she has done to me all my life and I’m still healing I don’t know how many more years I need to heal may Allah help and help anyone else that has had to suffer with a narc mother it’s the worst thing ever!!!
Thanks a lot, feeling the same pain that u r discussing among family relationships,u r wonderful person,may Allah give us hidayat through u,Dr khan,,,want a lot of lectures on this topic in Urdu too
MashaAllah, his khutbah gives me goosebumps because there is one friend who was disliked by most of my friends. and they like to judge her and that she will never change... do who are we can decide the future? :"(
Lâ Hawla wa lâ Quwwata illâ billâhi'l aliyul Aziim. Assalaamualaykum (peace be upon you). Alhamdulillâhi Rabbil âlamiin. Allâhumma Salli alâ Seyyidinâ Mawlâna Muhammadin wa Sallim. Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us. May ALLÂH SWT Reward you. May ALLÂH SWT Make it easy for all and Guide, Protect, Bless, Help us and Grant all of us Jannah. Ameen Ameen Ameen Ameen Ameen Ameen…
I cut my family relationship after 9 years they had been ignored, bullied, fitna and zhalim to me when I was broke, lost my future husband, friends and lost my mom. Only in the worst time you finally found the true colors of your people surrounds you. They forgot what I have done for them when I was UP. Alhamdulillah.
I find this topic a really interesting one and always have always learned a lot from Nouman Ali. I get what you are saying in this speech and it is very good advice; however it doesn't take into account the fact that no matter how many meetings you have with some family members to address issues of concern to establish peace, the outcome isn't going to be a desired one and actually nothing is going to be resolved. Even if you sit down and have a conversation with some people, always being respectful, people that are narcissistic are going to avoid accountability and responsibility for any hurt or pain that they have caused. In my experience, it is best to acknowledge that these people are the way that they are and Allah knows best; but for your own peace and mental health, just pray for these people but keep your distance. This way, you can't keep getting manipulated and gaslighted by these people and you're protecting yourself from ongoing abuse.
The only way to be continually grateful to Alllah SWT is to acknowledge and give thanks for each and every grants that we are given and for each and every lack we are deprived of. Alllah SWT knows best what we need and what we don't need الله علم
Subhan Allah brother beautiful bayan may Allah grant understand of ALLAHS BOOK N LAWS TO every human being alive on this earth Aameen..specially all the men husbands on earth AAMEEN
There needs to be more frequent lectures & conversations about this topic. People are living a life of hell, not knowing how to manage family relationships. May Allah reward Br Khan.
Maa Shaa Allah!
Exactly
So true
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Family trauma and problems are the hardest test ever. May Allah give us strength to pass this test.
💯
Ameen
Ameen
Ameen
Ameen
I personally find problems inside the family the toughest of all. Because of you want to please Allah SWT you should never let go and abandon the family or cut ties. Especially if they are your parents. It's a great test and may Allah give us the strength to pass it.
I made a mistake
I left my so called Muslim family
And now I have got the true meaning of Islam.
Now it's the time to go back and teach them
*Our family big or small*
But it's stand and performance like a Pakistan Cricket team, some time doing best of best and occupied number one position won the 1992 World Cup. Some time invole in match fixing or just a blame business, losing the matches with very weak teams, even the stars players scores not even double Figure even the world-champion team all out just like phone number. But all these mixture of good and bad performance it is called Pakistan National Cricket Team, class is permanent but form is temporary.
Here Class is our family and form is our disputes.
Bottom line, nothing granted in our material life, the permanent life have to come hereafter.
All the best in 2023 more happier than 2022.
Ameen
ameen
@dawah_sister_1 sister as someone who has been in a toxic abusive family since I was born and now I'm almost 25 I say Allah does not burden a soul more than it can bear, it's all a test, and nothing lasts forever....how many oppressors walked this earth and now they are beneath it as if they never existed.... So patience is key sometimes this is the harsh reality... Patience is not impossible knowing the clock is ticking and days are passing and time does not have mercy on anyone... So... I hope this helps because I wish I heard this when I was younger
Sometimes i would wish to have a normal family but then i realise that im not normal too, so how can i have a normal family.. so i just get on with my life. Another thing is that, ive stopped putting any expectations on my family members and do things for the sake of Allah, that has saved me from a lot of pain.
Masha'Allah
I have been doing this for several years it helps alot...but sometimes i get really frustrated..😒
Mashallah. May Allah reward you with best ❤
I hope you're okay sis:)
Agree
This why setting boundaries with families is a must !!!! I won’t cut ties but limit my communication with them .
I’m so thankful for Allah for sending Ustad Nouman into this life. He’s opening access to understanding the Quran DEEPLY in second language, not arabic, for millions. May Allah grant him Jannah. Ameen.
Ameen ya Rabb
Ameen
Takeaways from the video:
1. Do not associate Batil with your family members who have caused conflicts, because their views, ideas, and character can change
2. Maintain hope in Allah, that the problems in your families can be solved
3. Try to look at the bigger picture to all conflicts in your families, and contemplate on solutions to the problems within the family
4. Be grateful to Allah for not only the existence of your family, but the relationships that you have with your families, regardless if they are bad or good.
5. Remember your purpose in life
Nice summary
Ty
I listened to this at such a hard time and moment in my life. I will keep listening until it’s engraved in my head! Because I never saw it this way!! 😢😣😞 May Allah Swt bless you brother for this lecture.
Our family big or small, but it's stand and performance like a Pakistan Cricket team, some time doing best of best and occupied number one position won the 1992 World Cup. Some time invole in match fixing or just a blame business, losing the matches with very weak teams, even the stars players scores not even double digits even the world-champion team all out just like phone number. But all these mixture of good and bad performance it is called Pakistan National Cricket Team, class is permanent but form is temporary.
Here Class is our family and form is our dispute.
Bottom line, nothing granted in our material life, the permanent life hereafter.
All the best in 2023 more happier than 2022.
Living with a narcissist is beyond explanation to top it all co-parenting with narcissist is literally living hell every day. But hikkmallah, we know less, Allah plans. Trust Allah🤲
Forget and forgive is the way forward, but it's easier said than done. May Allah guide our heart to repent and forgive and make our hearts soft towards our family and their relations.
Ameen summa Ameen
*Our family big or small*
But it's stand and performance like a Pakistan Cricket team, some time doing best of best and occupied number one position won the 1992 World Cup. Some time invole in match fixing or just a blame business, losing the matches with very weak teams, even the stars players scores not even double Figure even the world-champion team all out just like phone number. But all these mixture of good and bad performance it is called Pakistan National Cricket Team, class is permanent but form is temporary.
Here Class is our family and form is our disputes.
Bottom line, nothing granted in our material life, the permanent life have to come hereafter.
All the best in 2023 more happier than 2022.
What about when it’s just keeps on repeating? The same scenario or the past recreating itself? I distanced myself and got close again and that’s when the familiar started to occur again
@kingh8163 at best, we could express how we feel so that it makes them aware of how we feel or try avoiding situations like that but maintain a hi / hello / bye relation to keepup the relationship tie 👔 😊
But some family members won't stop until they break you
Even if you are born in difficult family, don't give up. One day, even if it's 20 years from now, you will see sense in everything and be happy to be alive. You have a power to direct your destiny no matter how insignificant or small that power looks to you now 😊. Keep on moving however it looks for you
It also depends how you define severing ties. You can keep a healthy distance but still keep them in your dua, or send help when needed. Being concerned about their welfare (even when you are not physically present) is not severing ties i believe. 🙏✨
*Our family big or small*
But it's stand and performance like a Pakistan Cricket team, some time doing best of best and occupied number one position won the 1992 World Cup. Some time invole in match fixing or just a blame business, losing the matches with very weak teams, even the stars players scores not even double Figure even the world-champion team all out just like phone number. But all these mixture of good and bad performance it is called Pakistan National Cricket Team, class is permanent but form is temporary.
Here Class is our family and form is our disputes.
Bottom line, nothing granted in our material life, the permanent life have to come hereafter.
All the best in 2023 more happier than 2022.
I wish your believe is true....
Allah puts us in difficulty for us to find a way of seeking Allah.
True indeed sister
That shouldn't be used or said to justify their toxic / oppressive actions
Thank you so much for this, I've been dealing with this issue all my life and got no one to talk to, may Allah give us strength to find the hikmah and guide us along the way. May Allah bless you.
The word of Allah!
SO SO POWERFUL!
My sister is going through a tough time and is in sever depression, please pray for her.
How is she?
سلام عليكم..
سبحان الله العظيم..
Sometimes we are Tested by Allah..
In ways we don't understand..
May we never give up on our families, communities, and ourselves. Ameen. Thank you for this lecture. May Allah bless your wisdom and families. Ameen /Amazing lecture.
Salaam alaikum! I believe that the 'difficult' people ALLAH AWJ put in our lives are part of our growth and we become part of theirs. We all are ways to get closer to ALLAH because of the charity we give each other. We are also given opportunities to develop 'beautiful patience' when we interact especially when we disagree over many things. ..that sort of things. And ALLAH AWJ knows best. 🙏🙏🙏✨ Wassalam
Mas shaa Allah, Allah has bless you with wisdom, I pray that you may test the sweetness of it ameen
I finally heard what I need to hear. Alhamdulillah.
Im so blessed alhumdulilla i needed to hear this. Perfect timing.
❤
I think his is the most diffucult Thing to muslim family speciallly in the pakistan
To Fix family issue
The pain, the humiliation,the stress
The trauma,the drama, the unjustified and evil culture that Burden us more than anything else
The useless talk
The hatered and then jelosy
It all so diffucult and sometime you Just have to know the limit and what is possibile
I Mean in other hutbah Nak Said that its ok to have space and to get distance from abusive People even if They are They parent and relative
But regardless
...
Just Fix what you can
At you Best,With Wisdom
And if cant Just distance
Even if its Just silence.
May Allah relive you from whatever difficulty you are in,you are speaking from experience,I can sense that.
Not only in pakistani but also in Indian families
@@Crescent-313 ameen,May Allah forgive us and Make Easy ours affairs and give us stability in the Heart.
Jaza k'Allah hu khair
@@somebodyy32 yeah i Guess in the South Asia in general
You summarized the pakistani desi families so well
Beautiful perspective mashaAllah. A big knock back for the modern family-eroding trope of "narcissistic" parents/family/spouses etc
Turn challenge into ni'mah.Allah has brought us together in a family for a reason.Allah wants us to stick together
Being grateful & iman
Thoroughly apprciated from Bukhari borned city , uzbekistan . May Alloh bless you Nouman Ali Khan and grant with jannatil Firdavis 🤲
I grew up with a very abusive father both physically and mentally. My father traumatized my whole life. My father hit would beat on my mother and us (me and my siblings). Every memory I have of my father are just memories I don’t wish upon any child. I stopped talking to my father. I tried to forgive him but I know if I let him back into my life the abuse will continue. Everyone I know tells me I’m a bad muslim for this and I should let him abuse me and my family. I know that Islam would never be okay with men like my father and that’s all I need.
Subhanallah, Allah is not unaware but all seeing in what happens, May Allah protect you and have mercy upon you!
That's the most painful thing. I person or child can experience I wish you to heal from this trauma.but I just want to say one thing. Because i need it to. When someone does something wrong.. why do we distance from Allah . He is most loving we should distance our self emotionally from people not from Allah.
No, you do NOT need to let yourself be physically abused! Do what you can but your father needs to do better if he wants a relationship! I'm sorry you had a bad childhood, I hope you find peace and happiness in your life.
Mashallah Mashallah God bles you Brother Amin ALLAH love from Kosova Albania 🇽🇰🇦🇱
I always listen to your khutbah mashallah my allah bless you
Jazakumullahu Khoiran Kathiran Ustaz...I am a 67 yr old wife and mum of 4. Allahu Akbar. I needed this so much...Alhamdullillah for this lecture...I shall share this with fmly and friends.
May Allah protect you and bless you Ustadh. Thank you so much
Masha Allah Sir Nouman Ali Khan. You really place things into perspective. Subhana Allah
This is definitely one of the best khutbahs in a long time. On the other hand there were some assumptions made that need to be made plain. One assumption is that to exercise or experience Allah's favor or blessing it's important to acknowledge or be aware of the stories we make up about other people. Other people say and do what they do and we have an opinion or a judgment about it and then we impose that opinion or judgment on them and use that opinion and judgment to determine our behavior towards them. If we're not clear on that and we fall into or rather we are not accepting or exercising Allah's blessing.
The best part of bayyinah videos is that, there is no kind of halal or haram music in the beginning or the end of the video.
Ustadt Nouman Ali Khan conveys the DAWAH so profoundly and proffesionally knowledgeable ALHAMDULLILAH AMEEN May ALLAH SAW PROTECT you ALWAYS AMEEN
Aameen Yaa Rabb 🤲
Alhamdulilah thank you Nouman Ali , you have helped me since I was a teenager
This was truthful and painful in the same time… thank you Bayyinah 👍
Alhumdulillah, Jazakumullahu Khair brother.
Those Ayats are like magical. Which has changed the way l think.
Subhanallah
my take away:
don't put a "batil sticker" to anyone coz human beings can change,grow and evolve 💫
Thank you
Cute
True indeed
Nauman you are doing great Alhamdolillah.Your knowledge is an immense treasure. Subhan Allah
No words just golden words may Allah bless u happiness Aameen
it is literally an awesome khutba
جزاك الله خيرا
Im tired not gonna lie exhausted, no energy to fight anymore
stop fighting 😢 because you will end up by exhausting yourself and nothing will change. stop fighting and just pray to Allah for making things easy for you. sometimes it is wise to back off than trying to prove your self on the right side.
No energy to fight anymore? Then the exhaustion is a blessing from Allah..... No one marries anyone to fight
I feel the same at the age of 33
Me too.I am done explaining myself
Thank you 😭 MasyaAllah my dua has been answered ✨
May Allah bless u brother u changed my narrative completely coz of which i was going through pain since years
Ya allah make is easy for everyone who is struggling with not nice parents
I ask Allah to reward you with the best reward and increase you in knowledge, understanding and faith.
Aameen
Every family has a problem, difficulties between its people... I got the notification and I was literally stressed then... And it felt so good so relaxing so surprising too... That Allah doesn't want me to go into sin... He doesn't want me to be despair... Subhanallah... There are always signs for us to come closer to him... As we do that...we are doing for ourselves... If we do good it will give us good... If we do bad... The bad will come to us... Allah loves us that's why He always make us to make it... And He will continuosly do that until we the end if we also co-operate... And ask for sabr... Subhanallah 🌸✨
Assalamu aleykum
Jazakillah khair for giving these kind of khutbas. They really benefit our inner believes. May Allah reward you immensely for bringing up real issues and their solutions.
Thankfully, I have watched this. I hope Allah guides us all to see the wisdom behind all fights 🙏🏼🙏🏼
May Allah azzawazal bless you enormously 🥺
I hope my sins be forgiven by going through all of this test. I think this trial is a blessing for me as it was an option for me to be able to be forgiven. Allah know best.
There are times when I feel the "reality" is so harsh, I tend to run from reality by believing in "fiction (baatil)" such as movie/cartoon etc (it's just an act/lies). I think I was lacking patience to face reality and to forgive. May Allah help me.
The hope to be forgiven is what makes me feel stronger to move on.
Based on my experience, communicating with pious person heal the heart very fast.
I hope Allah forgive me for any mistake I wrote on this comment.
May Allah forgive us, and heal our heart which is scarred by our sins.
Masha'allah
Masha'Allah
My God protect you
Very nice talk
Thank you
Jazak Allah khier
And then there are people like you sir, blessing by Allah. May Allah give hidayat to all of us.
Fantastic way to change our view of human beings. All of us have done good and bad. May Allah Forgive our bad and Increase our good Ameen
May Allah make us among His pious believers, and may He accept all our right duas.
May Allah protect us from every evils of people, May Allah make a way out of our difficulties with khair o afiyat & shower his mercy upon us 🤲
Jazakumullah khairan ustadh NAK, love from Nigeria, west Africa...
When you are grateful to Allah you find positivity in everything
Wallahi very deep understanding Allah bless and guide us all,in sha Allah my kids who watched this video will now understand why my nature is the way it is, it's not me but by the mercy of Allah
Beautiful khutba as always
جَزَاكَ ٱللَّٰهُ خَيْرًا ❤️
Having father is blessing but having islamic father is more blessings😢
We need more on this....
NAK is now becoming a brand....
MASHAALLAH jazak ALLAH, and love you sir........
Aameen to all duas
May ALLAH SWT guide all of us and all our families and all teh generations to come till Do J Aameen
I m 49 years old in my life till now I have found peace only with my parents n I can say alhamdulillah they are ablessing allah has given me I have not found any thing peaceful in this world prayer n parents
Amazing lecture on a much needed topic. May Allah bless you all.
May Allah bring family members closer and solve the problems between.
Very important topic to every human being.
Knowledge is the key and been open minded is the key to salvation.
جزاك الله خير الجزاء شيخنا الفاضل
Please share with Turkish subtitles. I would very much like to listen and understand these beautiful conversations...
Ameen Sheikh, waouh great understanding from this
I don't have these blessings, and I pray to Allah to bless me with these neamts/blessings in this tough period of my life while I am feeling so lonely and I am tired of living alone far from my family and in a open environment that sins are really easy to do.
May Allah protect me and all other Muslims.
Don’t worry brother I dealt with the same exact thing a year ago… i really was struggling even though i had friends and stuff … but really, i know what you feel about everything around you the temptations and what not
Subhanallah.....such an eye-opener....need to listen multiple times to get it engrained....Jazakallah khair Brother
Thank you for being here for us right on cue, May Allah increase you in knowledge & reward you, thank you
I really need this khutbah at this time jazak Allah NAK.....
Jazakallah khair brother Ali
Oh finally a lecture on real worldly problem!
And I so wish I can break that wall, but a wall against a strong narassist mother is pretty hard one 😥😥
Io actually figured her out at age 41, how am I suppose to change now after grieving that I never had a normal mother.
And brother never forget your family might be a lot different than my mine:)
I know it's easy for someone to say "try your best, and let Allah take care of the rest" but yeah, that is the only way. Even Noah (a s) tried for hundreds of years.
same here! i was crying in prayer today saying all the things said in the video 'why did I get a mother like that' after finally learning that she is a narcissist. However much I try to not see her with batil she constantly reaffirms to me through her actions that she is an unyielding narcissist. I will try to implement the things said in this video though it will be tough. I do believe once I get enough space from my mother it will help heal things and perhaps improve my perspective of her and improve our relationship. I think in these cases keeping a good amount of distance from such people is key.
I've come to realize that a narcissist being a person with multiple masks, it corresponds to the description of Munafiqun in the quran, and so in that aspect I started reading quran to seek guidance on how to deal with Munafiqun, and there is plenty in the quran. Surat Al Anfal, Yusuf, Al-Imran and even Al-Tawba have so much advice for that regard. May Allah guide us and help us.
Allahu Akbar I thought I was the only Muslim that gd a covert narcissist mother. It’s the hardest thing ever dealing with that bullying etc, I found out at 33, 2 years and I’ve been grieving since I went into a nervous breakdown all alone when I came to the sudden realisation that I had a mum that was not normal but for the past 3 decades allah has been protecting me. You are not alone my dear I went thought the worse experience with her and guess what I forgive her but I will never be able to forgive and being Muslim it’s all about the mother, but tell me how that fits in when the lady will never ever change.
@@treetop711 yes it’s the only way that’s what I done I went no to limited contact she messed up my whole life ya Allah to the pains I had to go through. I was made homeless half my life for no reason. Anyways it’s hard as it is to heal but you need to heal and it can take years, it’s been 2 years since I found out about what she has done to me all my life and I’m still healing I don’t know how many more years I need to heal may Allah help and help anyone else that has had to suffer with a narc mother it’s the worst thing ever!!!
Going trough hardship later gives a better life
Jazaka’Allah. This changed my life.🙏🏽
الحمدلله رب العا لمين ما شاء الله والله الكبر ♥️
Thanks a lot, feeling the same pain that u r discussing among family relationships,u r wonderful person,may Allah give us hidayat through u,Dr khan,,,want a lot of lectures on this topic in Urdu too
Jazaq Allah khair shaikh 💐💐💐💐
Jij hebt dit zooo mooi uitgelegd dank je..belgium
MashaAllah, his khutbah gives me goosebumps because there is one friend who was disliked by most of my friends. and they like to judge her and that she will never change... do who are we can decide the future? :"(
Lâ Hawla wa lâ Quwwata illâ billâhi'l aliyul Aziim. Assalaamualaykum (peace be upon you). Alhamdulillâhi Rabbil âlamiin. Allâhumma Salli alâ Seyyidinâ Mawlâna Muhammadin wa Sallim. Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us. May ALLÂH SWT Reward you. May ALLÂH SWT Make it easy for all and Guide, Protect, Bless, Help us and Grant all of us Jannah. Ameen Ameen Ameen Ameen Ameen Ameen…
Salam Nouman
BarakaAllah ou fik
I'm exactly in this situation
I don’t know how to deal with my family
I will try to make a step and see how it goes
Me too
I cut my family relationship after 9 years they had been ignored, bullied, fitna and zhalim to me when I was broke, lost my future husband, friends and lost my mom. Only in the worst time you finally found the true colors of your people surrounds you. They forgot what I have done for them when I was UP. Alhamdulillah.
hi how ar u doing?
HASBUNALLAHU WA NI’MAL WAKEEL
Sufficient for us is Allah, and [He is] the best Disposer of affairs
Alhamdulila Alhamdulila. Thank you!
Thank you so much Sir, I really needed it to hear this. May Allah bless you for all you do.🦚
اسلام علیکم ورحمته الله استاد گرامی متشکرم ممنون شما سلامت باشید ❤
I find this topic a really interesting one and always have always learned a lot from Nouman Ali. I get what you are saying in this speech and it is very good advice; however it doesn't take into account the fact that no matter how many meetings you have with some family members to address issues of concern to establish peace, the outcome isn't going to be a desired one and actually nothing is going to be resolved. Even if you sit down and have a conversation with some people, always being respectful, people that are narcissistic are going to avoid accountability and responsibility for any hurt or pain that they have caused. In my experience, it is best to acknowledge that these people are the way that they are and Allah knows best; but for your own peace and mental health, just pray for these people but keep your distance. This way, you can't keep getting manipulated and gaslighted by these people and you're protecting yourself from ongoing abuse.
Very enlightening lecture. I learned a lot from it. Bottom line is to understand where they coming from rather than putting a label on them.
The only way to be continually grateful to Alllah SWT is to acknowledge and give thanks for each and every grants that we are given and for each and every lack we are deprived of.
Alllah SWT knows best what we need and what we don't need
الله علم
Masha Allah ❤❤
Subhan Allah brother beautiful bayan may Allah grant understand of ALLAHS BOOK N LAWS TO every human being alive on this earth Aameen..specially all the men husbands on earth AAMEEN
Aap Sabse Guzarish Hai Ki Mere Abba Amma K liye Magfirat Ki Dua Kare
Listening to hutba of ustath, I thought Allah teaches us the psychological aspects of our life
He really gave me some things to think about in this lecture. This was very helpful. Jazakallah kheyr.
Thank you so much Allah bless you always ❤
SubhanAllah! Brilliant explanation; May Allah Reward u infinitely and May He Help us to understand and behave as He wants us to, Ameen
Assalamualeikum so beautiful lesson love you all for the sake of Allah
Salamat rahin 💗
Allah azidi kukuhifadhi imam Nouman tunapata faida kubwa ktk hotuba zako