Jeannie was 23 in the girl scouts? Lol ... oh, and Adrienne. Jada Pinkett Smith said it best, "Worry about being respected, never worry about being liked because that's the trap. That is where people manipulate you." It took me a long time to learn that as well. Love you ladies.
I think she used the Girl Scouts as an example of how she never let anyone come over her house so maybe she continued on being embarrassed of where she came from well into her 20s and it wasn't until she had a house of her own did she realize she should have been proud all of that time.
Jada is a woman of wisdom I'm 19 and I realized this my junior year in high school it was like the Lord opened my eyes and showed me what I was doing wrong, which was trying to be liked rather than be respected.
Completely shade free: this was one of the most real, intellectually stimulating segments I've seen here in a while. I love how the ladies can reflect back on their lives and teach us how we can better ourselves....DANG, y'all make me have feelings! What are you trying to do to me, make me human?!
I wanted to write the exact same thing. So nice to see how everyone let the other speak and and there was NO shade at all. A perfect conversation. Go girls.
I Loved this! I so feel Jeannie! For years my family of 3(my mom and sibling) we lived in a small one bedroom apartment! All my mom asked and prayed for continuously was a 3 bedroom house!! (God is so good) and she got it! I remember always being embarrassed in those days, always wondering why in my entire family we were always the ones struggling. Years down the line I went to college. My best friends invited me to visit their home . Little did I know their family of four lived in a one bedroom apartment as well. You just never know what people go through or how they live. We are share the same stories.
Jeannie's story made me tear up. She was being completely real and honest...and I think her co-stars and everyone hearing her story could feel that moment
This was a really great girl chat. You could tell that Tamar could relate to what Jeannie was saying. I remember she said or one of the Braxtons said that they would use paper plates and cups, and lived in a small home etc. So she really understands her viewpoint, and appreciates/cares for her mother too. I've really seen that through bfv and t&v. I could relate to all of them in one form or another. It was nice hearing such powerful words of wisdom from these strong ladies!!!
I'm 22 and very shy and quiet, so I try to avoid people. People like to laugh at me and sometimes I hear they call me mute and I always worry about what they're saying. I'm realizing that I'm quirky and strange and I can't change myself just to please people who will never be in my life. I'm working on not worrying and focusing on being successful so I can have my my mom quit her two jobs, get us out of debt and just let her experience the world. That's all I really want in life!
I really enjoyed this segment...I'm in my 20s now (21 yrs old) and I worry a lot about the things the ladies were talking about. Gotta learn to live in the moment, let stuff go and stop worrying so much! Everything will fall into place.
you are blessed! you have an opportunity to listen, learn, and apply. I didn't have anyone to tell me at 23 some of these nuggets. Stuff we take for granted #age46
riyan ali Lol that's easier said than done, I'm similar to Tamera in the way that I worry so much! But I'll try to be young and dumb (in a good way) for once in my life :)
Adrienne was speaking my heart.... Lawd, sometimes I cringe at how much I was a yes woman in my teens and current twenties up until last year. Till this day I still hate saying no to things but I do now. It's so important that you do what's in your heart and not try to please everyone around you.
See, segments like this make this a really thought provoking show. If I could go back and tell my high school self something it would be to not worry about what others think of me like Loni was saying. Also, while it's great to get all your work done it's also OK to have fun every now and then. I would get so wrapped up in school work it barely left me leisure time to enjoy my city and have fun. Thankfully, I found a good balance now.
I would tell my younger self to stand up for herself against bullies! I was bullied so bad that I couldn't even defend myself. I was already being abused at home so the fear crippled me to where I couldn't fight back. If somebody is bullying you TELL SOMEBODY THAT CAN DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!!!
I love Tamera! Even though i'm only 22 turning 23 soon I look at life the way Tamera did when she was in her 20's. I need to stop worrying. Just live in the moment. Your only young once.
tameras' advise stood out to me the most. i am about to turn 21 and i never had a real boyfriend so i worry if i ever find the right guy. my dream is to get married to someone whom i love and who also loves me, i want to be a mom one day, but for now these dreams look kind blurry to me....
I am 21 years old going turn 22 in November, THANK YOU SOOOOO MUCH for this video. Tamera the fact that you wanted to marry at 23 but didn't until 29 and I see from what you share what you have now lets me know the wait is worth it. I really wanted to marry at 19 but it didnt happen and like Tamar said its VERY important to get to know oneself and know how one should be treated. Again thank you and many blessings y'alls way always!
I can gladly say that at 25 I'm at the point where I definitely live for myself and I've gotten to the point where society doesn't run me like a puppet. I care less what people think of me and it's nothing to cut a person off because the negativity in my life isn't needed. I came out completely as a bisexual last year and I'm loving it. Either you accept it or you don't. I'm not gonna lose any sleep. My family loves me. My close friends love me. I'm content and happy with that. If i could tell my younger self anything, I'd tell him to be true to himself and actually LIVE life more. I worried about people way too much growing up.
Tamera is just such an amazing person. I re-watched her part of this over and over again. I can relate to what she's saying so much and her words are always so comforting.
I just turned 20 and I'm really intimidated about moving further and I'm just terrified of failing but because of college I am starting to realize who I am, what I want, and how to work hard to obtain my dreams.
I'm almost 21 and hearing all this. I'm going through almost everything they mentioned. It's really made me realize I need to live my life at this age and not WORRY so much,
I have listened to this 3 times over. This is extremely helpful because sometimes you need a reminder of what's important in your life.Thank you very much
This got me emotional. I'm in my 20s and I'm trying to work on just being the best version of myself, and not worrying so much about what other people think of me.
Tamera just spoke directly to me! I'm 21 and just went through my first real heartbreak last year. I worry so much about the future and who I'll end up with. it's crazy she sounded almost exactly like me right now!
Well I am 21, turning 22 on Apr 15 (Do ya taxes people). I have been through a lot of things that people three times my age couldn't imagine. I have come to the point where I have become calloused and nonchalant to things and it is easy to just dismiss people that I don't deem "good" for me or my growth. It is bittersweet, I guess. Looking back on my short time on earth, this has caused me to judge people prematurely or not even judge them at all. I had to learn to take people for who they are. It's not my job to change anyone, but to love people. That doesn't mean be stupid and invite everyone you meet into your bubble, obviously. That is absurd. I am a much happier person and have learned so much about my own self. I've learned to accept that sometimes humans suck. Life is hard. I've found resiliency and passion is easier to come by since that realization. I'm not going to wait until I am old and crusty to do what I can do now while I still have my youthful exuberance. Rant over. Bye.
I will say that Tamera makes me feel ok not being one of those super datey people. I'm still a virgin at 26 and sometimes I worry that makes me somehow less desirable. But with her being mostly ok with her waiting until she was 29 makes me kind of ok with waiting until I find the right person or the right person finds me.
She wasn't ok waiting until she was 29. As a Christian, she wanted to wait till marriage but she slept with Adam then regretted it and waited till they got married to be intimate again. Just wanted to clear that up.
Same here girl I'm 24 and willing to save myself to marriage! It's not easy because people pressure you into the norm but the thing is everyone is different and that's ok! And if guys can't seem to accept that then they are not right for me! I put my faith in GOD that he will direct me in the right path!
I know that she wasn't like 100% yay ok, but she still held it together for years and years. That's what I mean. I'm not waiting for marriage like she did, but its not something I'm going to take lightly.
MrsTatertots girl never feel pressured bc at the end of the day it's your...not anybody else's. Wait until YOUR READY and that he actually deserves it bc trust many ppl wish they wld have waited
lovelyd9 Yup. That's the truth she said those exact words. Her intentions were to wait until marriage but she gave in to society ( im assuming) not sure why if you wait until you darn near 30 what's a few more years tbh. But she regreted it... fixed it before the Lord.....they waited ..... got married.... and now she is on baby #2.
I'm 23 years old and I can really relate to what these women was saying. I actually was feeling bad at myself for telling someone that I couldn't be in a relationship with them because I wanted to get to know myself first. And it's ok! Thanks ladies. I love this segment.
I'm a guy, but Tamar's story hit me in the spot. I just need to let myself live a little while I'm in my twenties and not let my passion to find someone to enjoy life with hamper me from doing that, Cuz I am so hung up on finding and searching for the one that it prevents me from doing anything else Cuz all my time is invested there and not enough is invested in bettering and propelling me.
This video just helped me! I LOVE watching The Real! I am in my 20s, and I'm always worried about my unknowingly past mistakes in childhood , my present and future. It's like I want to make so many accomplishments now while I'm in my young 20s, before I get too old, but I have to remind myself of not worrying about the future and have faith in Jesus, because he will work everything out for me. God bless these ladies and everyone on this comment thread who relates.
your comment alone almost made me cry! I'm 20 yrs old as well and I worry so much and just like you i ask myself a lot haha about wanting to accomplish so many things before it's to late but yea we gotta remind ourselves to chill and of course have faith that everything will work out
I love Tamara. I'm 19 and still a virgin. Sometimes I feel odd, because all of my friends lost their virginity. Tamara makes me feel better about waiting!!
Brezhana Reed I know it's a year later but I hope you still waited I say that because I didn't wait and I regret it If I could do it over I would wait for marriage
I can relate to Jeannie so much. My family always had very little and we always struggled to pay bills and afford groceries. I never had my own room, but i also never knew how much my parents were suffering because they never said NO to my siblings and i, and there were families in my neighborhood that had it waaaaaaaay worse. It wasn't until i moved away from the San Fernanno Valley to Orange county that i noticed the difference and felt ashamed at times, but now looking back i'm eternally grateful for what i have and what i had. although we stuggled i always had food and shelter and never had to live in the streets.
This really touched me. Im 21 and married and i feel like idk myself. Im happy with who im with but not happy where I'm at. I feel stuck and afraid, and i worry alot. I guess this is all apart of growing up. Nice to know that im not the only one. And wit time it'll get better.
In time you'll figure it out hun, everything doesn't happen in your twenties; accept that fact. Live everyday and don't second guess yourself too much. Worrying wont fix a damn thing. All the best in your marriage.
i felt the same way when i got married at 23..i was scared because even though i love my husband i felt like i was taking that huge step into marriage way too soon..plus i was a unemployed loan burdened graduate.
Great segment but I hate that Tamar felt that the only way to get to know "herself" was through dating multiple men. A lot of girls make that mistake and end up with multiple sex partners or with babies from men they don't like because of their insecurities. I think it's important to know early on that it's okay to be yourself and there's nothing wrong with focusing on YOU!
I think she was mostly getting at not being attached to one guy and making him her be all end all. She got trapped in that situation before and ended up feeling stuck with a guy who physically and emotionally abused her. So I def understand that.
I guess that that may happened to alot of people but clearly isnt the case with Tamar most of these ppl that do have multiple baby daddy are just plain irresponsible. Come on. Most ppl actually around so that comment was a bit off. Be serious now.
This was a REAL segment I loved it and everything the ladies said, I can relate I am 21 work and go to school but I always find myself down and worried everyday about life especially worrying if I am going to meet the right one and marriage or who like me and don't like me... I am glad they had this topic to help me stop worrying about certain things I am still young and should enjoy life.
This hits me hard right now because I just finished my first year in college and I still am not quite sure what I want to do. People are constantly saying I'm wasting my time if I don't have it figured out. I really love writing so I want to write books, and I love fashion, so I'm majoring in both English and Marketing. I'm just scared it won't work out since people say only STEM majors make real money. I come from a home like Jeannie's and I just want to be successful.
Bryanna Walley That's not ture. You are not waisting your time, because I'm in the same boat. As long as you are going to school too better yourself and receive a higher education you are already succeeding. You have more than enough time to figure things out. Don't rush it. You'll find out soon enough. And don't do things just for the money do it becuase you love it and your passionate about it. Yes, money is important, but don't let that be your main focus and drive. Do what you love not what other's think that you should do. This is your life don't let other people dictate it.
I just turned eighteen and I've always worried about people's opinion on me and I still do, but after hearing the ladies' advice it really made me thinking! Worrying is a total waste of time, especially when youre so young.
I definitely can relate to the girls on their experiences! I wish some of the things I know now, I knew then for my 20 year old self. I can morally relate more to Adrienne. Worrying about what people think can be hard! But now I'm more like ''Chile Bye''! lol Experience is the best Teacher!
Did nobody catch that? Loni was an Engineer! An Electrical engineer. Gosh this woman is my hero. I'm in school for that right now. I wish she'd talk more about it more
I so know how that feels. This makes me understand so much more how important you should be to you self. How you value yourself should be a question you ask yourself everyday.
i needed this. first day on a new job and boss is so rude want to quit. ima stick it out nobody's gonna make me leave Im not gonna worry. also a full time student in college and a senior at that i worry so much about being successful and its stressful
I love these women SO much because they remind me that my mistakes won't define me. I can be a better person and definitely successful. 🙈 21 and I'm worried about who I'm going to marry w/o truly loving myself *sigh*
They should do segments like this more often. I love the fun and crazy topics that they do but topics like this really can help the audience connect more with them and might even help someone who is going through something.
I was 21 when I had my first heartbreak, and just needed that time to learn about myself. and I'll admit, now at 24 its hard. I remember thinking I'd be engaged at 22, married at 24, have kids by 27. but life doesn't always work out how you want, but it works out how its suppose to. I did think I'd never get married because I was 16 when I first started dating him. but you know what, I learned to stop worrying about it. I'm with you Tamera!
omg...i feel like we have the same exact story and you touched me. i dated from 16 and heartbreak at 21 and am 25 now without a bf but i know its fine cuz i will rather take my time than rush and make the biggest mistake of my life...tamera is almost the best btw :)
I would tell my 20 year old self, just do it. I was (and am) afraid to do things because of what other people would think and say. Now I regret not taking risks when I want to
just reading what it's about first and already lov Tamera's advice hands down it's the most important ! 🙌 we should remember that like damn haha I gotta remind myself everyday
I'm loving Loni's hair it's beautiful. I love this segment it was so deep and real. I feel like I'm having a conversation with my girlfriends. Love love the real
Jeannie and Tamera were my fav. I went through hell back in 2015 with false feelings a person had for me. I never dated and got to know what it was that I liked (just as Tamar said). I thought it was the end for me because I had huge feelings for this person but man, what a heartbreak. Especially when you notice such good chemistry and bond like no other. Like Tamera said, everything will be okay.
Tamera thought she'd die lonely and loveless because she was 23 and single? ..... OK then Tam. 😅 Anyway, if I could give my 20-year-old self any advice: Your life is just starting to blossom, so enjoy your youth. Learn to love yourself, now is the time to do that, and you will open many doors for yourself and settle into life just fine. Plus I agree 100 💯 to stay true to yourself and not worry about what other people think.
I am 19 now in college...and found a really great guy...I would tell my high school self.....slow down and not try and join every club or go to every party after school... I was a cheerleder...I was in choir...I was on the yearbook staff...I was always passing out at home....just enjoy high school...and most of all dont date jerks ...just because they are popular or cool or bad boys..find a nice guy...like the one I have now..who is not a jerk but a really nice guy
I love this comment especially dating jerks or the popular dude at the school. I'm 19 as well but I barely dated in high school but one thing I did wish was to always join something at my school not as much like you stated but at least one activity
Just entering the "season" of being in my 20s and its true u do worry about alot of things ur kinda uneasy about life. But as in my late teens i felt it too.
For everybody going in on Tamar I don't think she meant as a women to find yourself you need to date men or relay on men to be found or know yourself. I think she meant as in expanding her range in men knowing what kind of men she wanted or deserved. We all know Tamar has been in abusive and horrible relationships. I think she meant as in allowing herself to date other men and knowing what type of man was subtle and deserving of her. Finding herself in what she knows she deserves to be treated like and what she will tolerate. I think as women knowing that is important.
Jeannie was 23 in the girl scouts? Lol
... oh, and Adrienne. Jada Pinkett Smith said it best,
"Worry about being respected, never worry about being liked because that's the trap. That is where people manipulate you."
It took me a long time to learn that as well. Love you ladies.
I think she used the Girl Scouts as an example of how she never let anyone come over her house so maybe she continued on being embarrassed of where she came from well into her 20s and it wasn't until she had a house of her own did she realize she should have been proud all of that time.
I could not agree more with Jada's words. So many women fall in that trap and never get out.
Jada is a woman of wisdom I'm 19 and I realized this my junior year in high school it was like the Lord opened my eyes and showed me what I was doing wrong, which was trying to be liked rather than be respected.
It was hard in high school cause you had to be funny, have the latest clothes, Jordan's in order to be liked.
THANK YOU for posting these words of wisdom. It was well needed.
Completely shade free: this was one of the most real, intellectually stimulating segments I've seen here in a while. I love how the ladies can reflect back on their lives and teach us how we can better ourselves....DANG, y'all make me have feelings! What are you trying to do to me, make me human?!
I wanted to write the exact same thing. So nice to see how everyone let the other speak and and there was NO shade at all. A perfect conversation. Go girls.
shade free ? when tamera said marrying.. they closed in on adrienne lmao
AGREED! They all had amazing amazing stuff to say. So....loved it.
+HeyMyLifeIsLibby Shade free? What about when Adrianne said she wished she had said No, and Lani Made that loud "OOOH"?? That was suuuper shade.
Lmao I meant shade free on my end. But these ladies however know how to cast shadows. And I live for it.
I Loved this! I so feel Jeannie! For years my family of 3(my mom and sibling) we lived in a small one bedroom apartment! All my mom asked and prayed for continuously was a 3 bedroom house!! (God is so good) and she got it! I remember always being embarrassed in those days, always wondering why in my entire family we were always the ones struggling. Years down the line I went to college. My best friends invited me to visit their home . Little did I know their family of four lived in a one bedroom apartment as well. You just never know what people go through or how they live. We are share the same stories.
Yaaas! Mhmm (:
All the time!
Tamar's smile when jeannie was talking was priceless!! It seemed so sincere!
Tamera is so much like me!! Literally LOVE HER!
Frllllll she is just like me I don’t kno y ppl don’t like her she just real and ppl cant take realness
Same
Jeannie's story made me tear up. She was being completely real and honest...and I think her co-stars and everyone hearing her story could feel that moment
This was a really great girl chat. You could tell that Tamar could relate to what Jeannie was saying. I remember she said or one of the Braxtons said that they would use paper plates and cups, and lived in a small home etc. So she really understands her viewpoint, and appreciates/cares for her mother too. I've really seen that through bfv and t&v. I could relate to all of them in one form or another. It was nice hearing such powerful words of wisdom from these strong ladies!!!
This was the most Real segment on the Real!
yup, especially when they can relate and not just give their opinion...the other baggage episode was great too
I'd tell myself to be confident and to not let people push me around and to not let other change what I think of myself
I'm 22 and very shy and quiet, so I try to avoid people. People like to laugh at me and sometimes I hear they call me mute and I always worry about what they're saying. I'm realizing that I'm quirky and strange and I can't change myself just to please people who will never be in my life. I'm working on not worrying and focusing on being successful so I can have my my mom quit her two jobs, get us out of debt and just let her experience the world. That's all I really want in life!
I'm the same way!! I don't go out and I kinda stay to myself but I love it!! your not the only one
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@@ashleyfrancis1212 same
Wow, I appreciate Jeannie's story. Really touched my heart.
I really enjoyed this segment...I'm in my 20s now (21 yrs old) and I worry a lot about the things the ladies were talking about. Gotta learn to live in the moment, let stuff go and stop worrying so much! Everything will fall into place.
I'm 19 years old and going through similar issues as well :) Good to know we all share akin stories
you are blessed! you have an opportunity to listen, learn, and apply. I didn't have anyone to tell me at 23 some of these nuggets. Stuff we take for granted #age46
riyan ali
riyan ali Lol that's easier said than done, I'm similar to Tamera in the way that I worry so much! But I'll try to be young and dumb (in a good way) for once in my life :)
I love all 5 of them, they have such sweet hearts.
Adrienne was speaking my heart.... Lawd, sometimes I cringe at how much I was a yes woman in my teens and current twenties up until last year. Till this day I still hate saying no to things but I do now. It's so important that you do what's in your heart and not try to please everyone around you.
See, segments like this make this a really thought provoking show. If I could go back and tell my high school self something it would be to not worry about what others think of me like Loni was saying. Also, while it's great to get all your work done it's also OK to have fun every now and then. I would get so wrapped up in school work it barely left me leisure time to enjoy my city and have fun. Thankfully, I found a good balance now.
I would tell my younger self to stand up for herself against bullies! I was bullied so bad that I couldn't even defend myself. I was already being abused at home so the fear crippled me to where I couldn't fight back. If somebody is bullying you TELL SOMEBODY THAT CAN DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!!!
I love Tamera! Even though i'm only 22 turning 23 soon I look at life the way Tamera did when she was in her 20's. I need to stop worrying. Just live in the moment. Your only young once.
Loni, Adrienne, and Tamera's advice is so me really opened up my eyes
Waiting on Tamera to write a book on relationships..just saying.
+Jessica Varona me too!!
And life in general
tameras' advise stood out to me the most. i am about to turn 21 and i never had a real boyfriend so i worry if i ever find the right guy. my dream is to get married to someone whom i love and who also loves me, i want to be a mom one day, but for now these dreams look kind blurry to me....
We are exactly in the same boat. I use to really stress about, but i figure if it hasn't happened yet, then the time simply isn't right.
Girl I feel the same way...damn
I feel the same way... but I know I shouldn't because I'm only just turning 18. I'm just going to wait and see what college has for me this fall.
preach,but all guys want now is friends with benefits that is terrible and kind of degrading
***** but all guys to want now is friends with benefits that is terrible and kind of degrading
I'm glad I watched this, I'm 23 right now and it's been a really rough year. I'm glad I heard this.
L Johnson oh wow now you’re 27 years old
I am 21 years old going turn 22 in November, THANK YOU SOOOOO MUCH for this video. Tamera the fact that you wanted to marry at 23 but didn't until 29 and I see from what you share what you have now lets me know the wait is worth it. I really wanted to marry at 19 but it didnt happen and like Tamar said its VERY important to get to know oneself and know how one should be treated. Again thank you and many blessings y'alls way always!
I can gladly say that at 25 I'm at the point where I definitely live for myself and I've gotten to the point where society doesn't run me like a puppet. I care less what people think of me and it's nothing to cut a person off because the negativity in my life isn't needed. I came out completely as a bisexual last year and I'm loving it. Either you accept it or you don't. I'm not gonna lose any sleep. My family loves me. My close friends love me. I'm content and happy with that.
If i could tell my younger self anything, I'd tell him to be true to himself and actually LIVE life more. I worried about people way too much growing up.
Tamera is just such an amazing person. I re-watched her part of this over and over again. I can relate to what she's saying so much and her words are always so comforting.
I just turned 20 and I'm really intimidated about moving further and I'm just terrified of failing but because of college I am starting to realize who I am, what I want, and how to work hard to obtain my dreams.
I feel you
Loved the advice these ladies gave...every single one of them were on the money. I'm in my 20's now and hope that I can follow some of this. :)
I'm almost 21 and hearing all this. I'm going through almost everything they mentioned. It's really made me realize I need to live my life at this age and not WORRY so much,
I LOVE what jeanie said ❤️❤️ i was in a similar position aswell where i was embarrassed about my home :(
Actually Tamar's advice kinda relates to me and my situation. I need to get to know myself and be who I am instead of what other people want.
I'm going through this right now too! I'm just trying to figure myself out
I have listened to this 3 times over. This is extremely helpful because sometimes you need a reminder of what's important in your life.Thank you very much
This got me emotional. I'm in my 20s and I'm trying to work on just being the best version of myself, and not worrying so much about what other people think of me.
I loved this! It honestly reminded me that I need to stop worrying about a lot of things at my age. Good things come in time
Tamera just spoke directly to me! I'm 21 and just went through my first real heartbreak last year. I worry so much about the future and who I'll end up with. it's crazy she sounded almost exactly like me right now!
Well I am 21, turning 22 on Apr 15 (Do ya taxes people). I have been through a lot of things that people three times my age couldn't imagine. I have come to the point where I have become calloused and nonchalant to things and it is easy to just dismiss people that I don't deem "good" for me or my growth. It is bittersweet, I guess. Looking back on my short time on earth, this has caused me to judge people prematurely or not even judge them at all. I had to learn to take people for who they are. It's not my job to change anyone, but to love people. That doesn't mean be stupid and invite everyone you meet into your bubble, obviously. That is absurd. I am a much happier person and have learned so much about my own self. I've learned to accept that sometimes humans suck. Life is hard. I've found resiliency and passion is easier to come by since that realization. I'm not going to wait until I am old and crusty to do what I can do now while I still have my youthful exuberance. Rant over. Bye.
I will say that Tamera makes me feel ok not being one of those super datey people. I'm still a virgin at 26 and sometimes I worry that makes me somehow less desirable. But with her being mostly ok with her waiting until she was 29 makes me kind of ok with waiting until I find the right person or the right person finds me.
She wasn't ok waiting until she was 29. As a Christian, she wanted to wait till marriage but she slept with Adam then regretted it and waited till they got married to be intimate again. Just wanted to clear that up.
Same here girl I'm 24 and willing to save myself to marriage! It's not easy because people pressure you into the norm but the thing is everyone is different and that's ok! And if guys can't seem to accept that then they are not right for me! I put my faith in GOD that he will direct me in the right path!
I know that she wasn't like 100% yay ok, but she still held it together for years and years. That's what I mean. I'm not waiting for marriage like she did, but its not something I'm going to take lightly.
MrsTatertots girl never feel pressured bc at the end of the day it's your...not anybody else's. Wait until YOUR READY and that he actually deserves it bc trust many ppl wish they wld have waited
lovelyd9 Yup. That's the truth she said those exact words. Her intentions were to wait until marriage but she gave in to society ( im assuming) not sure why if you wait until you darn near 30 what's a few more years tbh. But she regreted it... fixed it before the Lord.....they waited ..... got married.... and now she is on baby #2.
I'm 23 years old and I can really relate to what these women was saying. I actually was feeling bad at myself for telling someone that I couldn't be in a relationship with them because I wanted to get to know myself first. And it's ok! Thanks ladies. I love this segment.
I have never seen Tamar cry, so seeing that made it so much more REAL! Loved this segment.
Tamar got me just broke my heart .
I'm a guy, but Tamar's story hit me in the spot. I just need to let myself live a little while I'm in my twenties and not let my passion to find someone to enjoy life with hamper me from doing that, Cuz I am so hung up on finding and searching for the one that it prevents me from doing anything else Cuz all my time is invested there and not enough is invested in bettering and propelling me.
This video just helped me! I LOVE watching The Real! I am in my 20s, and I'm always worried about my unknowingly past mistakes in childhood , my present and future. It's like I want to make so many accomplishments now while I'm in my young 20s, before I get too old, but I have to remind myself of not worrying about the future and have faith in Jesus, because he will work everything out for me. God bless these ladies and everyone on this comment thread who relates.
your comment alone almost made me cry! I'm 20 yrs old as well and I worry so much and just like you i ask myself a lot haha about wanting to accomplish so many things before it's to late but yea we gotta remind ourselves to chill and of course have faith that everything will work out
I love Tamara. I'm 19 and still a virgin. Sometimes I feel odd, because all of my friends lost their virginity. Tamara makes me feel better about waiting!!
Brezhana Reed don't worry you do it when you want to and that person should respect you not when your pressured!
Brezhana Reed I know it's a year later but I hope you still waited I say that because I didn't wait and I regret it If I could do it over I would wait for marriage
Nefertiti Negus I'm still going strong and still waiting. Thanks for the advice, really appreciate it!!
Brezhana Reed I waited to have sex too, there's absolutely nothing wrong with awaiting. I broke my virginity at 23.
Brezhana Reed I am the same age and still have mines but my ex was trying so hard to have sex until he rape me in my mouth
I can relate to Jeannie so much. My family always had very little and we always struggled to pay bills and afford groceries. I never had my own room, but i also never knew how much my parents were suffering because they never said NO to my siblings and i, and there were families in my neighborhood that had it waaaaaaaay worse. It wasn't until i moved away from the San Fernanno Valley to Orange county that i noticed the difference and felt ashamed at times, but now looking back i'm eternally grateful for what i have and what i had. although we stuggled i always had food and shelter and never had to live in the streets.
I love Jeannie's advice!! I can relate!!
This really touched me. Im 21 and married and i feel like idk myself. Im happy with who im with but not happy where I'm at. I feel stuck and afraid, and i worry alot. I guess this is all apart of growing up. Nice to know that im not the only one. And wit time it'll get better.
Hope you find a way through it.
In time you'll figure it out hun, everything doesn't happen in your twenties; accept that fact. Live everyday and don't second guess yourself too much. Worrying wont fix a damn thing. All the best in your marriage.
coco chilli thank u
SimmyZBalla thank you... In time !
i felt the same way when i got married at 23..i was scared because even though i love my husband i felt like i was taking that huge step into marriage way too soon..plus i was a unemployed loan burdened graduate.
Great segment but I hate that Tamar felt that the only way to get to know "herself" was through dating multiple men. A lot of girls make that mistake and end up with multiple sex partners or with babies from men they don't like because of their insecurities. I think it's important to know early on that it's okay to be yourself and there's nothing wrong with focusing on YOU!
I think she was mostly getting at not being attached to one guy and making him her be all end all. She got trapped in that situation before and ended up feeling stuck with a guy who physically and emotionally abused her. So I def understand that.
Yeah. What Megan Tiffany said. The problem with the small teasers is that sometimes you miss the context of the commentary.
I guess that that may happened to alot of people but clearly isnt the case with Tamar most of these ppl that do have multiple baby daddy are just plain irresponsible. Come on. Most ppl actually around so that comment was a bit off. Be serious now.
No honey what she was saying was 20s is time to have fun and explore and see what u like and what type of person u want to be with!!!
This was a REAL segment I loved it and everything the ladies said, I can relate I am 21 work and go to school but I always find myself down and worried everyday about life especially worrying if I am going to meet the right one and marriage or who like me and don't like me... I am glad they had this topic to help me stop worrying about certain things I am still young and should enjoy life.
I love what Jeannie said I'm 18 and I always feel like that I haven't invited anyone for years but I think this is a lesson for me to be learned 💗💗
This hits me hard right now because I just finished my first year in college and I still am not quite sure what I want to do. People are constantly saying I'm wasting my time if I don't have it figured out. I really love writing so I want to write books, and I love fashion, so I'm majoring in both English and Marketing. I'm just scared it won't work out since people say only STEM majors make real money. I come from a home like Jeannie's and I just want to be successful.
Bryanna Walley That's not ture. You are not waisting your time, because I'm in the same boat. As long as you are going to school too better yourself and receive a higher education you are already succeeding. You have more than enough time to figure things out. Don't rush it. You'll find out soon enough. And don't do things just for the money do it becuase you love it and your passionate about it. Yes, money is important, but don't let that be your main focus and drive. Do what you love not what other's think that you should do. This is your life don't let other people dictate it.
Thanks i was feeling that way and thanks to this video im understanding more about my feelings. Im 22 and i worry alot about my future. Thank you
I just turned eighteen and I've always worried about people's opinion on me and I still do, but after hearing the ladies' advice it really made me thinking! Worrying is a total waste of time, especially when youre so young.
I definitely can relate to the girls on their experiences! I wish some of the things I know now, I knew then for my 20 year old self. I can morally relate more to Adrienne. Worrying about what people think can be hard! But now I'm more like ''Chile Bye''! lol Experience is the best Teacher!
Did nobody catch that? Loni was an Engineer! An Electrical engineer. Gosh this woman is my hero. I'm in school for that right now. I wish she'd talk more about it more
I so know how that feels. This makes me understand so much more how important you should be to you self. How you value yourself should be a question you ask yourself everyday.
i needed this. first day on a new job and boss is so rude want to quit. ima stick it out nobody's gonna make me leave Im not gonna worry. also a full time student in college and a senior at that i worry so much about being successful and its stressful
yana212 it's gonna be fine. keep your head up you've got this. remember why you are doing this. blessings.
I can relate so much to what tamera was saying about worrying too much even though I'm only gonna be 20 in 2 months time 🙏
Now, this is REAL talk!
I love discussions like this!! The ones on a more serious note. Love you guys!!! #TheReal
Tamara and Adrianne's advice really stood out for me.
I loveee loveee these ladiessss❤️❤️ they keeping it 100.. I love there honesty and sharing it with the us!!
I love Jeannie's, Andrienne's and Lonnie's advise, I would tell my 23 yr old self the same things.
all there advice stood out
*their
+Sharms thank you
Tamara is so right !
Loved loved loved this segment.
I really enjoyed watching this. I hope they give out more advice like this - Jeannie's story in particular touched me.
This was a good segment
When Tamera started talking my eyes kept getting wider and wider like she was telling my story!
Yessssss Tamera!!!! Pls write a book!
Adrienne is sooo fly! Love her style!
I love these women SO much because they remind me that my mistakes won't define me. I can be a better person and definitely successful.
🙈 21 and I'm worried about who I'm going to marry w/o truly loving myself *sigh*
this motivates me really....if its mean to be it will be
They should do segments like this more often. I love the fun and crazy topics that they do but topics like this really can help the audience connect more with them and might even help someone who is going through something.
I was 21 when I had my first heartbreak, and just needed that time to learn about myself. and I'll admit, now at 24 its hard. I remember thinking I'd be engaged at 22, married at 24, have kids by 27. but life doesn't always work out how you want, but it works out how its suppose to. I did think I'd never get married because I was 16 when I first started dating him. but you know what, I learned to stop worrying about it. I'm with you Tamera!
MissGlamarellaaa If you are Christian read Psalm 139.
omg...i feel like we have the same exact story and you touched me. i dated from 16 and heartbreak at 21 and am 25 now without a bf but i know its fine cuz i will rather take my time than rush and make the biggest mistake of my life...tamera is almost the best btw :)
Very great segment !! So real, so relatable ! Thank you The Real ladies!
I am very cool with myself and love myself and be happy with yourself and believe and achieve my dreams
Enjoy the seasons of your life .... Couldn't say it any better
I would tell my 20 year old self, just do it. I was (and am) afraid to do things because of what other people would think and say. Now I regret not taking risks when I want to
That everything will be alright. 🙌
just reading what it's about first and already lov Tamera's advice hands down it's the most important ! 🙌 we should remember that like damn haha I gotta remind myself everyday
Yaaaay Tamar being nice to Jeannie
I'm loving Loni's hair it's beautiful. I love this segment it was so deep and real. I feel like I'm having a conversation with my girlfriends. Love love the real
I love Tamera and Jeanie!
I really love this segment!
We need this show in the UK !
This came in the right moment ❤️ love u girls
I loved what Jeannie said !♡♡
Tamera i so adore your personality.
One of the best episodes of this year.
Tamera is so real!
Just turned 22 this was good to watch. The 30s seem cool !
Waiting on Tamar write a book.
Amen! I live carefree now and I'm not worried about anything or anybody, even though I'm in my twenties now ha. I guess I'm just a fast bloomer!
Jeannie and Tamera were my fav. I went through hell back in 2015 with false feelings a person had for me. I never dated and got to know what it was that I liked (just as Tamar said). I thought it was the end for me because I had huge feelings for this person but man, what a heartbreak. Especially when you notice such good chemistry and bond like no other. Like Tamera said, everything will be okay.
Tamera thought she'd die lonely and loveless because she was 23 and single? ..... OK then Tam. 😅
Anyway, if I could give my 20-year-old self any advice: Your life is just starting to blossom, so enjoy your youth. Learn to love yourself, now is the time to do that, and you will open many doors for yourself and settle into life just fine.
Plus I agree 100 💯 to stay true to yourself and not worry about what other people think.
Thanks Loni. I needed that.
Tamera made me cry lol. Great advice all of you
I am 19 now in college...and found a really great guy...I would tell my high school self.....slow down and not try and join every club or go to every party after school... I was a cheerleder...I was in choir...I was on the yearbook staff...I was always passing out at home....just enjoy high school...and most of all dont date jerks ...just because they are popular or cool or bad boys..find a nice guy...like the one I have now..who is not a jerk but a really nice guy
I love this comment especially dating jerks or the popular dude at the school. I'm 19 as well but I barely dated in high school but one thing I did wish was to always join something at my school not as much like you stated but at least one activity
Just entering the "season" of being in my 20s and its true u do worry about alot of things ur kinda uneasy about life. But as in my late teens i felt it too.
For everybody going in on Tamar I don't think she meant as a women to find yourself you need to date men or relay on men to be found or know yourself. I think she meant as in expanding her range in men knowing what kind of men she wanted or deserved. We all know Tamar has been in abusive and horrible relationships. I think she meant as in allowing herself to date other men and knowing what type of man was subtle and deserving of her. Finding herself in what she knows she deserves to be treated like and what she will tolerate. I think as women knowing that is important.
Good point we'll said.
I'm really starting to like Tamera..she gives good advices compared to the others
i loved this segment, i esp relate with adrienne and mai...
Off topic but I lovvveeeee the glitter eyeshadows they always wear.