Loni clearly has a hard time being vulnerable and opening up, but I'm not mad at that at all. It's hard sometimes. I wish she would though just a little
Yes I see this she want yo to kid pics only adult she must had sad childhood, plus she says she drinks a lot, what's wrong Loni?and we all got parts of our life we want to block out, for me its highschool
+UniquelyMade I've noticed the same, she keeps herself guarded for reasons best known to her. Loni jokes around a lot but you can see she is very emotional and gives some great advice
+D Dixie Tamera's mom wasn't there either and I felt sad for the girls because Tamar and Jeanie and Adrienne had their mom's but not the other two I teared watching that thankfully their Moms are alive but you could only sense they really wanted their moms there too
I think Lonni went through a lot growing up she doesn't seem to like getting deep she seems to avoid a lot of questions or turn them into jokes... which makes sense because people say that comedians have the most pain, but it's crazy she will cry over someone else's story I think she uses other people's stories to let out her pain.
She defiantly did go through a lot growing up. She often deflects when asked questions that would cause her to go deeper. it's a shame because I feel like out of everyone on the panel, there are very special, and much needed things that she could share. Hopefully one day she'll feel safe enough to allow us the see the real Loni. Her stories are needed, and a greater barrier on the panel would be broken.
Someone in the comments on Facebook said that in an old episode Lonni said when she was younger her stepfather would buy gifts for all the kids and for her mother but wouldn't buy anything for her. I know that must have hurt a lot. She dismisses her own feelings by pushing them to the side she does the same thing herself that her step father did to her as a child. She is a comedian so it's kind of like she has trained herself to laugh at her pain or just not address it.
IamChosen488 she may just genuinely feel for whomever the story is about because she’s that compassionate. I’m an empath and a Cancer woman also and I was watching the Drs, one day and this lady was pregnant and did not carry her baby full term and she had to get a hysterectomy. When I tell you I felt her pain all the way through my tv I did! I literally was in tears. She probably masks her pain so that she doesn’t have to relive the moments, but she won’t be able to heal that way.
I wish Loni knew that there is someone out there that can benefit from her story...she doesnt need to be so reluctant to share...thats why the show is called the real..being vulnerable for a moment could save or turn around someones life
I feel like she maybe going through something, I feel like she is very off these days randomly laughing and not answering questions... I hope she is ok.
+OromoShawtyy its not plastic surgery its a nose job because she had breathing issues. 💯 its not an excuse its the truth her whole family said it 💯 people gotta know the difference between a nose job and a plastic surgery ✌
Tamera's photoshop was the best! Looked like she was standing there with her daughter. Anyway, Loni needs to chill with the brown liquor story. I feel like she doesnt get personal when the other ladies do so the show can have moments that doesnt get too serious.
Sharon Njoki I get she’s a comedian but the show is not called the joke it’s called the real but she’s hiding behind her humor when the rest of the girls open up just not fair to the girls and the audience that everyone shares except her everyone keeping it real and saying things that people would not normally say if everyone pulled a loni there would be no real
I like that Tamar said, "Don't rush your life. Take your time." Come through Tamar. Her and Jeannie had the strongest commentary. All were great though, nonetheless.
Miss TAMAR gave the best advice, and owned this segment. 🙌 She was #preaching for real. 💯 I feel like she just helped a lot of people with that REAL and raw honesty, gospel PREACHING. #SayThatTamar
Thank you Tamar for that. Really hit home for me, being 20 and basically feeling blind to where I wish to go. Now I know all the hard ships will be worth all the tears and frustration one day.
Adrienne still cares about people liking her. In a past segment where they were talking about first impressions of each other Adrienne said she wanted Loni to like her "so bad"
Tamar though, she really helped me today, I'm trying to rush my life and move forward way too fast and I need to take my time. I am going through so much pain and hard things right now but I know in the end I'll be where I want to be and I just need to focus on healing. Thank you
Tamar that was beautiful, the hotter the battle the sweeter the victory‼️ Tamera's Photoshop looked authentic and real, the producers did a great job with her picture and I'm glad she pointed out that not everybody is raised like her 👍🏽. Loni looked and still look amazing and definitely has beautiful skin.
I'm 20 now and it may seem like not a big difference but the things I learned in 3 years is immense . The thing is always look back and evaluate who you were and what you have over come . Sometimes we don't give ourselves enough credit but be positive look forward to your future 😊👍👌💃🏾.
My dad used to tell me time and time again *they don't have to like you, but they do have to respect you*. I'd go back and tell myself that. I'm definitely with you, Tamera. I was sheltered as well. I thought everybody was gon do right by me since that's how I was raised, but chile..... Heffas will stab yo' ass in the back with the quickness. I encountered a lot of subliminal jealousy as well.
thank you Tamar for that ,I needed to hear it today because I am 25 years old and I am so worried about my future ,currently doing an internship but not doing what I studied for and I feel lost ,but now I am going to let God be in control.
@@mapuleqambata3704 thank you so much 😊 yesssssssssss indeeed ..I’m now permanent and doing content creation part time ..I have a UA-cam channel and God indeed came through for me 😀😀😀😀
I'm just waiting for that moment when Loni has her breaking point I just feel like it's coming and tbh with you guys I think Loni must have been through a very traumatic experience because the way she just shuts out or makes everything a joke it's something from her past that really affected her and when she does have her emotional moments she BREAKS down immediately she just as emotional as Tamera is really so when that moment comes ya'll it's going to be really bad because she's been holding all that stuff in and that's not good she definitely needs to open up because she will feel a lot better.
I couldn't agree with you more. As a psych graduate I think this could very well be the case for Loni. And there's nothing wrong with it, it was just her coping mechanism for whatever pain she experienced in the past.
I'd give the world to go back and tell my younger self follow your dreams. don't let any man or any amount of money come between you and your dreams. I would tell myself to not try to be like anyone else and to love yourself. to not care what others think. that one day someone will love you imperfections and all. I'm happy where I am today but I've went through hell to get here.
I love this segment. I love Tamera. I relate to her so much. I sincerely hope that these days of anxiety, confusion, naivety, having your heart broken by people you had higher thoughts of, having your heart broken by life, of being dead last, not recognising the direction your life is taking, burning bridges and wishing you were someone else...I hope they all become something. I hope the good days and the bad light the way to the future I've prayed for.
No, she doesn't.....she's obviously more closer to Tamera and Adrienne, but she and Jeannie ARE friends. And yes, like each other. She chills at Tamar's house and they text each other just like normal FRIENDS do. She does "friend-shade" (inside joke type stuff) with Jeannie, and y'all take it out of context. Stop making it more than what it is.
Janazia Thompson, This is wisdom coming from a 50 year old woman who has always believed in having a great character. Love God first and seek his guidance and the advice of others with positive attitudes and loving hearts. STAY AWAY from hurting people because they WILL hurt you eventually. Love, nurture and be kind to yourself because there will be days that YOU are all you have for YOU. Let your self talk, self respect and self worth and constantly working on your self development be your number 1 priority. Take time to find out what you really enjoy doing and do it. Choose your circle of friends wisely. Surround yourself with people who inspire you to be a better person. Learn and take heed from woman that are gifted and positive about life. And when the time is appropriate ONLY connect with a man who treats you with the highest respect and that has a healthy perspective on loving (NO ONE that is coming from an dysfunctional home). Go to college if possible. Try not to bring a child into this world until you have finished college and a wonderful man has chosen you as his wife. Love, Laugh often and Live. Wishing you a beautiful life's journey. Shine like I know you will.
tamera's advice hit me straight on im 17 very sheltered, and very anxious i can never relax there's not a moment when I don't feel something itching at the back of my mind
I'm 33. I would tell my younger self to be relentless when it comes to your career, don't take no for an answer, save up to buy your own place and you won't be fat forever, guys will come around like bees to honey.
The reason I love this show so much, even though its a panel full of women is bc they discuss real topics & bc they're real topics it can go for either gender such as this topic, we all go through things & often put in situations that we may in counter or had in counter & didnt know how to handle it but once you get passed it you can look back & encourage yourself just how they are reflecting, this can go for guy or girl & thats the best thing about this show
This is something I needed to hear. I'm only 23, but the pressure I put on myself is unreal. There is so much I want in life, but I have no idea yet how to get there. I've accomplished a lot as far as education goes; I've got 2 Masters degrees and finish my law degree next month. I left my home country and am separated from all I know by an ocean. When I look at my friends back home, they've all started careers, met their partners, have created homes for themselves, and I look at myself and think 'why don't I have that too? and 'is this all worth it?'' Constantly filled with anxiety wondering where I'm going to end up. But it is nice to know that I'm not the only one with those worries.
I got a little emotional seeing Tamera's younger self, it was if my childhood flashed before my eyes. I felt like I was looking back at my old self as well, it's so funny how people you watched on TV as they grew up, you grew with them. We are around the same age & that picture took me back & just allowed me to think how you should enjoy your youth. I really loved what Tamar said regarding...not rushing your life. It is very true & it is something I am still struggling with today. Note to self take each day as it comes & enjoy God's blessings.
Tamara is so I related to most... I was home schooled all of middle school... And I honestly was naive from my lack of social experience.... Got my heart broken thinking people honestly meant what they said and almost turned me into someone else.. But I can day I'm stronger now because of it
Thank you Tamar for that wonderful advice. I'm 18, and currently going through a really rough time in my life, I had the "perfect life", everything was easy and planned as i grew but now, i find myself facing really tough situations that make me question myself.. but as known, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. I know that god is testing me and has what's best for me in the future. As i'm going into adulthood , independence and maturity i'm crossing challenging and shaky paths that will lead me into the right one, so again thank you for these advises ladies.
What i would tell my younger self ? I would say don't let people use u hurt u betray u take advantage of u or mistreating u with disrespect know yourself know your worth stay out of trouble and finish school and do what makes u happy never give up
This is why I watch The Real. Time flies and before you know it you have family and kids to take care of. I'm turning 30 and I've never felt better. Got rid of some garbage in my life (people & things). It's amazing how much lighter life is. The younger me was always rushing to grow up. Slow down.
Tamar you touched my heart...the advise that you said: The bad things that happened to you are going to be the great things later in life. Thank you so much
GOD! I love you four girls!! You'll probably probably never ever read this. But you have NO IDEA what this means to me! I'm going through some hardships as we speak. Quit my job, it's been one month and I was falling into depression. The job market in LA is extremely competitive and well yeah I've been feeling super down lately but have been able to pick myself up again and become that warrior that I know I am! Anyways forward one day, I haven't been able to see any of these clips in a while because of my depression but now that I'm feeling better I came to their UA-cam site to look at what's new. This made me tear.! it's like god talking to me through you guys! He does exist even when we doubt our faith and him! I've been seeking this advice for a while and you'll never understand how much it means to me. Thank you for helping me remain strong! Can't thank this show enough! Whoever is behind the scenes and comes up with these topics sounds a lot like me. GREAT JOB TEAM!
+Jeanette Fernandez God can use anything and anyone to get your attention or give you a word!! Especially when you really need it! Glad that He was able to bless you and comfort you in your time of need. Just keep looking to the hills from whence comes your help!! May Yah continue to bless you and keep you!! #HALLELUYAH
Me too I needed this right now my boyfriend of 4 yrs just broke up with my yesterday it came out of the blue I thought we were good n everybody thought we were gonna b together forever. I'm so devastated n heartbroken I've been crying for the past 24 hrs I can't eat or sleep my heart has just been shattered into a million pieces. I don't know how I'm going to overcome this but I know with God's help I'll get through it n I feel like God spoke to me through these ladies. I feel hopeful that better days r ahead of me after hearing what they had to say.
I agree that Loni is super guarded I also agree that alot of ppl out there would benefit from her story but I get her the world we live in have some real terrible ppl so u gotto hold what's dear to you u near to your heart I hope she talks to God about about it though so she can be comforted by him
Loved Tamar's advice. I'm 19 and feel so lost right now, with everything, especially my future. It seems like everyone around me knows what they wanna do, and I'm just... stuck.
I'm young and I'm still n middle school and don't know what to do with myself I'm completely lost.😕 can't wait to see what my future self have to say to me.💯
I'm 19 and I know I have a long way to go in life. Just at this moment I do really feel lost and confuse on what the next step should be. However, after listening to what Tamar said reminded me that life does continue and everything will be all good. Thanks you Tamar for making a difference in someones day.
I would give the warmest hug to my younger self and tell her nobody but YOU will ever love YOU quite like this. So stay expectation-LESS of people. I would also explain to her that even if pleasant, well-meaning people do come into your life don't take them too seriously because when it's all said and done...only a few rare ones (or just one) will remain lovingly loyal and interested in your time.
I loved this segment. I wish I could talk to my 18yr old self just once. Tell her everything will be okay, stop stressing and enjoy life more. My family instilled paying bills and working hard too much in me that I feel it took away from enjoying my time. Although I appreciate it because I have great work ethic now, I'm 24, and enjoy life better.
I love this segment. At 31 yrs I'm still learning about myself, however, what I would tell my younger self is....Love yourself (inside and out). I think in loving yourself, your self esteem is very high, you're confident in every area of your life, and you trust your instincts more.
I cried listening to this beautiful ladies speak... thanks for those power words...I'm 20yrs old and going through alot of pain, challenges, struggles and difficulties..I'm always worried about the future,so u all reminded me to be strong bcoz the good things are ahead
I loved every part of this.. They are all different type's off woman, but what the same thing is that actually that we all go to the insecurities when we are younger. And that shows off that we have different stories to tell but we are all the same and that speaks off being a young human teenager
I so glad I saw this I’m going to be 20 in a month and I’m scared about my future and I’m always worried because I don’t know what lays ahead and I’m scared things won’t work out good for me but seeing this makes me want to think more positive and to not worry so much and enjoy my life more and just be happy. Thank you to the Real:)
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Loni clearly has a hard time being vulnerable and opening up, but I'm not mad at that at all. It's hard sometimes. I wish she would though just a little
Isnt that most comedians thougj
Lot of people have that issue
Yes I see this she want yo to kid pics only adult she must had sad childhood, plus she says she drinks a lot, what's wrong Loni?and we all got parts of our life we want to block out, for me its highschool
I'm lost right now so I hope my future self has something good and powerful to say to me
Amen!
samee
same ..
+Jermaine Jackson SAME
Me too x
I was surprised that Tamera didnt start crying when her picture came up. I literally cried for her. 😭
Saaaammmee 😭😭😭
me too!
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CurlsBy Roro
Me too!!! She surprised me that she didn’t cry
Sameee
Loni's so guarded, poor thing, you can tell she has a lot of pain, most comedians do.
Mhm I thought the same thing bc I'm the same way, she prolly has so much to say but doesn't know how to say it or where to begin.
I have to agree because the few times that she has released some emotions its been so heartfelt and honest
i thought the same thing when everyone else had their mother on the show for Mother's Day and Lonis mom wasn't there
+UniquelyMade I've noticed the same, she keeps herself guarded for reasons best known to her. Loni jokes around a lot but you can see she is very emotional and gives some great advice
+D Dixie Tamera's mom wasn't there either and I felt sad for the girls because Tamar and Jeanie and Adrienne had their mom's but not the other two I teared watching that thankfully their Moms are alive but you could only sense they really wanted their moms there too
I think Lonni went through a lot growing up she doesn't seem to like getting deep she seems to avoid a lot of questions or turn them into jokes... which makes sense because people say that comedians have the most pain, but it's crazy she will cry over someone else's story I think she uses other people's stories to let out her pain.
She defiantly did go through a lot growing up. She often deflects when asked questions that would cause her to go deeper. it's a shame because I feel like out of everyone on the panel, there are very special, and much needed things that she could share. Hopefully one day she'll feel safe enough to allow us the see the real Loni. Her stories are needed, and a greater barrier on the panel would be broken.
Someone in the comments on Facebook said that in an old episode Lonni said when she was younger her stepfather would buy gifts for all the kids and for her mother but wouldn't buy anything for her. I know that must have hurt a lot. She dismisses her own feelings by pushing them to the side she does the same thing herself that her step father did to her as a child. She is a comedian so it's kind of like she has trained herself to laugh at her pain or just not address it.
IamChosen488 she may just genuinely feel for whomever the story is about because she’s that compassionate. I’m an empath and a Cancer woman also and I was watching the Drs, one day and this lady was pregnant and did not carry her baby full term and she had to get a hysterectomy. When I tell you I felt her pain all the way through my tv I did! I literally was in tears. She probably masks her pain so that she doesn’t have to relive the moments, but she won’t be able to heal that way.
My heart really goes out to loni I know she's a comedian and all but you can tell she really has pain behind it all
+dj_oldskool She never shows her younger pics.
awwwwwwwwá
adrienne and tamar spoke to my damn soul
I wish Loni knew that there is someone out there that can benefit from her story...she doesnt need to be so reluctant to share...thats why the show is called the real..being vulnerable for a moment could save or turn around someones life
she a mess I'm glad because America really doesn't care about her fat ass...
I feel like she maybe going through something, I feel like she is very off these days randomly laughing and not answering questions... I hope she is ok.
+IamChosen488 we dont care the bitch don't open up..
+Fabulous Divo 😮
+Fabulous Divo That's not true people love Loni point blank and the period.
All five of them literally haven't changed physically.
+OromoShawtyy its not plastic surgery its a nose job because she had breathing issues. 💯 its not an excuse its the truth her whole family said it 💯 people gotta know the difference between a nose job and a plastic surgery ✌
Y'all full of hate you know that nose looks exactly the same
Tamera's photoshop was the best! Looked like she was standing there with her daughter. Anyway, Loni needs to chill with the brown liquor story. I feel like she doesnt get personal when the other ladies do so the show can have moments that doesnt get too serious.
So true. I am so tired of Loni and her brown liquor jokes. There are only a few times where I take anything that Loni says seriously.
+tasha John everyone has a different way of coping with personal issues and Loni is a comedian so her way of coping is making jokes.
Could Jeannie be anymore extra? "I LOVE THAT PICTURE!!!!!!" damn woman. It's kinda hard to watch knowing Tamar doesn't even like her
Eve Yitagesu probably because anytime she does open up, it's in full-blown tears
Sharon Njoki I get she’s a comedian but the show is not called the joke it’s called the real but she’s hiding behind her humor when the rest of the girls open up just not fair to the girls and the audience that everyone shares except her everyone keeping it real and saying things that people would not normally say if everyone pulled a loni there would be no real
"The bad things that you are going through right now are the good things that are for you to come"
BRAXTON, Tamar
HugoPimentel she made me cry. Her word truly touched me ❤
Tamar took us to church lol
She sho did 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻😂😂😂😂
She's absolutely right!
I like that Tamar said, "Don't rush your life. Take your time." Come through Tamar. Her and Jeannie had the strongest commentary. All were great though, nonetheless.
"Cause you don't stay lost forever baby! Its something called SAL-TO-THE-VATION!!" lol Tamar YAAASSS!
Miss TAMAR gave the best advice, and owned this segment. 🙌 She was #preaching for real. 💯 I feel like she just helped a lot of people with that REAL and raw honesty, gospel PREACHING. #SayThatTamar
Braids really suit Loni. She looks beautiful with them.
What Tamar said at the end about taking everything you go through in stride because it makes you who you are..... that was DEEP for me. 🙌
It was my favorite part of the episode, I wish she had stayed till the end. She was a very valuable entity to the Real.
Thank you Tamar for that. Really hit home for me, being 20 and basically feeling blind to where I wish to go. Now I know all the hard ships will be worth all the tears and frustration one day.
Tamar's speech really spoke to me. I'm going through everything she described and her kind words really sparked some hope in me. Thank you Tamar!
Adrienne still cares about people liking her. In a past segment where they were talking about first impressions of each other Adrienne said she wanted Loni to like her "so bad"
listen to yourself. PAST segments. that was a very long time ago.💺
I SOOO needed this right now at this time in my life. Thanks Tamar for easing my mind!
Me too girl
Yes ma!!!
Tamar though, she really helped me today, I'm trying to rush my life and move forward way too fast and I need to take my time. I am going through so much pain and hard things right now but I know in the end I'll be where I want to be and I just need to focus on healing. Thank you
True❤️same
Loni took that picture with the short hair yesterday
Lmao!!!
+Ashlyn D. ''1812'' LOL
😂😂😂😂
Tamar that was beautiful, the hotter the battle the sweeter the victory‼️ Tamera's Photoshop looked authentic and real, the producers did a great job with her picture and I'm glad she pointed out that not everybody is raised like her 👍🏽. Loni looked and still look amazing and definitely has beautiful skin.
Tamar gave me life with them beautiful words of wisdom.
In 12 years that's gonna be her and Ariah. I can already see it.
I'm in love with Tamar's speech because I'm 17 and I'm going through the same issues and problems and she really helped me.
I'm 20 now and it may seem like not a big difference but the things I learned in 3 years is immense . The thing is always look back and evaluate who you were and what you have over come . Sometimes we don't give ourselves enough credit but be positive look forward to your future 😊👍👌💃🏾.
+Shan Parke Thank you i really appreciate that!!!!
The fact that every single one of these ladies looks the same is amazing. Won't He do it!
Jeannie and Tamar were my favs today! This segment warmed my heart!
"You don't stay lost forever. There's something called SAL to the VATION, hallelujah!"
WON'T HE DO IT?!?! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
All I thought about of Soul Plane when I saw Loni with that pineapple cut. "YOU AIN'T GOING NOWHERE OSAMA!!"
😂😂
All I thought was "damn, black refuses to crack."
+MartianBlues Yes sir indeed !!
lol you can tell it was from that era
Tamar soo true.. All I ever wana tell my younger siblings and cousins is to take their time growing up its not all that it's more fun to be young!!
I cried when Tamar spoke her speech. Because I'm going through the same thing she went through, she's so inspirational. Thankyou TayTay ❤
My dad used to tell me time and time again *they don't have to like you, but they do have to respect you*. I'd go back and tell myself that. I'm definitely with you, Tamera. I was sheltered as well. I thought everybody was gon do right by me since that's how I was raised, but chile..... Heffas will stab yo' ass in the back with the quickness. I encountered a lot of subliminal jealousy as well.
yes.
yes.
True.
Tamera's throwback is how teenage girls are suppose to look but sadly they don't nowadays
I swear there is so much more to Loni than she shows, you can tell she covers up so much pain.
thank you Tamar for that ,I needed to hear it today because I am 25 years old and I am so worried about my future ,currently doing an internship but not doing what I studied for and I feel lost ,but now I am going to let God be in control.
Now that you are 30 I hope you have found light 🕯️
@@mapuleqambata3704 thank you so much 😊 yesssssssssss indeeed ..I’m now permanent and doing content creation part time ..I have a UA-cam channel and God indeed came through for me 😀😀😀😀
@@silindokuhlekhubone I will make sure to subscribe 😊
@@mapuleqambata3704 thank You Mapule ..You just made me appreciate my blessings 😌😌😌😌😌😌😌😀😀😀Thank Uou
@@silindokuhlekhubone i am so happy you replied😂 i wanted to know how it is being 30 im 24 and do you have any advice
tamar advice is gold
I'm just waiting for that moment when Loni has her breaking point I just feel like it's coming and tbh with you guys I think Loni must have been through a very traumatic experience because the way she just shuts out or makes everything a joke it's something from her past that really affected her and when she does have her emotional moments she BREAKS down immediately she just as emotional as Tamera is really so when that moment comes ya'll it's going to be really bad because she's been holding all that stuff in and that's not good she definitely needs to open up because she will feel a lot better.
+Melissa Evans I agree. I totally agree.
Are you a profiler?
She has to make it funny.... She's a comedian 🙄
I couldn't agree with you more. As a psych graduate I think this could very well be the case for Loni. And there's nothing wrong with it, it was just her coping mechanism for whatever pain she experienced in the past.
Melissa Evans
you dont stay lost forever babay👏👏👏👏 ...Its called SAL-TO-THE-VATION🙌🙌🙌yess God🙌🙌🙌
I really needed to hear what Tamar said in this.
I'd give the world to go back and tell my younger self follow your dreams. don't let any man or any amount of money come between you and your dreams. I would tell myself to not try to be like anyone else and to love yourself. to not care what others think. that one day someone will love you imperfections and all. I'm happy where I am today but I've went through hell to get here.
+Morgan Dawn I hear your Morgan. I know where you are coming from. Keep groovin' in your happy place and let NOBODY pull you from it.
I love this segment. I love Tamera. I relate to her so much. I sincerely hope that these days of anxiety, confusion, naivety, having your heart broken by people you had higher thoughts of, having your heart broken by life, of being dead last, not recognising the direction your life is taking, burning bridges and wishing you were someone else...I hope they all become something. I hope the good days and the bad light the way to the future I've prayed for.
I feel like Tamar always shades Jeannie, but Jeannie just kills her with kindness.
No she doesn't. They have a decent relationship. You people just try to see more than there is.
+Eddy6159 EXACTLY
+Eddy6159 She obviously does, but yall blind so okay lmao
No, she doesn't.....she's obviously more closer to Tamera and Adrienne, but she and Jeannie ARE friends. And yes, like each other. She chills at Tamar's house and they text each other just like normal FRIENDS do. She does "friend-shade" (inside joke type stuff) with Jeannie, and y'all take it out of context. Stop making it more than what it is.
Carlos Knows She wasn't even shading Jeannie here, some of you guys just love starting stuff.
Tamar always gives the best advice and tea👍👍👍.
Loni needs to dig deeper sometimes.
PrincessM we don't know her past.
PrincessM ikr😥
Janazia Thompson, This is wisdom coming from a 50 year old woman who has always believed in having a great character. Love God first and seek his guidance and the advice of others with positive attitudes and loving hearts. STAY AWAY from hurting people because they WILL hurt you eventually. Love, nurture and be kind to yourself because there will be days that YOU are all you have for YOU. Let your self talk, self respect and self worth and constantly working on your self development be your number 1 priority. Take time to find out what you really enjoy doing and do it. Choose your circle of friends wisely. Surround yourself with people who inspire you to be a better person. Learn and take heed from woman that are gifted and positive about life. And when the time is appropriate ONLY connect with a man who treats you with the highest respect and that has a healthy perspective on loving (NO ONE that is coming from an dysfunctional home). Go to college if possible. Try not to bring a child into this world until you have finished college and a wonderful man has chosen you as his wife. Love, Laugh often and Live. Wishing you a beautiful life's journey. Shine like I know you will.
So inspiring 🙌
Thank you for your wisdom
I feel like Tamar was talking to my spirit ❤
tamera's advice hit me straight on im 17 very sheltered, and very anxious i can never relax there's not a moment when I don't feel something itching at the back of my mind
Lord knows I needed to hear exactly what Tamar said.
I'm 33. I would tell my younger self to be relentless when it comes to your career, don't take no for an answer, save up to buy your own place and you won't be fat forever, guys will come around like bees to honey.
Nice and thank for that...Bees will come to the honey hah☺
This couldn't have come at a better time. Lost is the best word to describe me right now.
amen, Tamar gave me the spirit at the end
Tamar better speak to me! As a 18 almost 19 year old, I just feel lost!
How ya doin ?x
The reason I love this show so much, even though its a panel full of women is bc they discuss real topics & bc they're real topics it can go for either gender such as this topic, we all go through things & often put in situations that we may in counter or had in counter & didnt know how to handle it but once you get passed it you can look back & encourage yourself just how they are reflecting, this can go for guy or girl & thats the best thing about this show
Thank you Tamar and tamera and Adrienne as well! I relate to all 3 of you now
Here i was expecting at least three of them to open their flood gates but dammit, mines are about to come full force after Tamar's advice!
You said it best, Tamar! Amen!
"sal to the action hallelujah" 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
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All five have said very strong things, it gives me confidence.
Luv you girls!!
This is something I needed to hear. I'm only 23, but the pressure I put on myself is unreal. There is so much I want in life, but I have no idea yet how to get there. I've accomplished a lot as far as education goes; I've got 2 Masters degrees and finish my law degree next month. I left my home country and am separated from all I know by an ocean. When I look at my friends back home, they've all started careers, met their partners, have created homes for themselves, and I look at myself and think 'why don't I have that too? and 'is this all worth it?'' Constantly filled with anxiety wondering where I'm going to end up. But it is nice to know that I'm not the only one with those worries.
These women are so beautiful on the inside ❤️❤️
this made me cry...i am 18 and in second year of Uni and i am still lost...
+Safiya Ummi Same here, but this gives me hope that I'll find myself one day.
I got a little emotional seeing Tamera's younger self, it was if my childhood flashed before my eyes. I felt like I was looking back at my old self as well, it's so funny how people you watched on TV as they grew up, you grew with them. We are around the same age & that picture took me back & just allowed me to think how you should enjoy your youth. I really loved what Tamar said regarding...not rushing your life. It is very true & it is something I am still struggling with today. Note to self take each day as it comes & enjoy God's blessings.
Tamara is so I related to most... I was home schooled all of middle school... And I honestly was naive from my lack of social experience.... Got my heart broken thinking people honestly meant what they said and almost turned me into someone else.. But I can day I'm stronger now because of it
one of the best segments 👏👏👏
Tamar , thank you for those words !!!!
Thank you Tamar for that wonderful advice. I'm 18, and currently going through a really rough time in my life, I had the "perfect life", everything was easy and planned as i grew but now, i find myself facing really tough situations that make me question myself.. but as known, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. I know that god is testing me and has what's best for me in the future. As i'm going into adulthood , independence and maturity i'm crossing challenging and shaky paths that will lead me into the right one, so again thank you for these advises ladies.
What i would tell my younger self ? I would say don't let people use u hurt u betray u take advantage of u or mistreating u with disrespect know yourself know your worth stay out of trouble and finish school and do what makes u happy never give up
Tamar gave me goosebumps :) YASSS!!
This is why I watch The Real. Time flies and before you know it you have family and kids to take care of. I'm turning 30 and I've never felt better. Got rid of some garbage in my life (people & things). It's amazing how much lighter life is. The younger me was always rushing to grow up. Slow down.
Sal-to the-Vation! Hallelujah! Lol, Yes, Lord!
"The bad things you are going through right now is the good things that is to come." -Tamar Braxton
Tamar you touched my heart...the advise that you said: The bad things that happened to you are going to be the great things later in life. Thank you so much
What Tamar said at the end was so good🙌🏽
GOD! I love you four girls!! You'll probably probably never ever read this. But you have NO IDEA what this means to me! I'm going through some hardships as we speak. Quit my job, it's been one month and I was falling into depression. The job market in LA is extremely competitive and well yeah I've been feeling super down lately but have been able to pick myself up again and become that warrior that I know I am! Anyways forward one day, I haven't been able to see any of these clips in a while because of my depression but now that I'm feeling better I came to their UA-cam site to look at what's new. This made me tear.! it's like god talking to me through you guys! He does exist even when we doubt our faith and him! I've been seeking this advice for a while and you'll never understand how much it means to me. Thank you for helping me remain strong! Can't thank this show enough! Whoever is behind the scenes and comes up with these topics sounds a lot like me. GREAT JOB TEAM!
+Jeanette Fernandez God can use anything and anyone to get your attention or give you a word!! Especially when you really need it! Glad that He was able to bless you and comfort you in your time of need. Just keep looking to the hills from whence comes your help!! May Yah continue to bless you and keep you!! #HALLELUYAH
Me too I needed this right now my boyfriend of 4 yrs just broke up with my yesterday it came out of the blue I thought we were good n everybody thought we were gonna b together forever. I'm so devastated n heartbroken I've been crying for the past 24 hrs I can't eat or sleep my heart has just been shattered into a million pieces. I don't know how I'm going to overcome this but I know with God's help I'll get through it n I feel like God spoke to me through these ladies. I feel hopeful that better days r ahead of me after hearing what they had to say.
Self Reflection is beautiful. It leads to emotional growth.
I’m going through a real hard time just trying to find myself.. hearing them talk to their younger selves gives me hope. Thank you
Hey it's going to work out believe me. Just take it day by day and do something or somethings everyday that make you happy.
Amen!!! Love Tamar's words!!! So uplifting 🙌🏻
I love love LOVED this segment! The heartfelt ones are always the best. ❤️
Loni: I'll tell myself don't worry, it's gone be alright. that's it.
Tamar: you're holding your mule, aye?
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These girls are beautiful inside and out ! REALest women on the planet !
OMG I feel Tamara!!! I also have huge issues with thinking people thought like I did !! Man now I know why I always relate wit her
I agree that Loni is super guarded I also agree that alot of ppl out there would benefit from her story but I get her the world we live in have some real terrible ppl so u gotto hold what's dear to you u near to your heart I hope she talks to God about about it though so she can be comforted by him
Loved Tamar's advice. I'm 19 and feel so lost right now, with everything, especially my future. It seems like everyone around me knows what they wanna do, and I'm just... stuck.
I'm young and I'm still n middle school and don't know what to do with myself I'm completely lost.😕 can't wait to see what my future self have to say to me.💯
awwwwww read young people ask at jw.org
awwwwww read young people ask at jw.org
I'm 19 and I know I have a long way to go in life. Just at this moment I do really feel lost and confuse on what the next step should be. However, after listening to what Tamar said reminded me that life does continue and everything will be all good. Thanks you Tamar for making a difference in someones day.
That’s exactly the age and place I’m in right now, how did it work out for you five years later
When Tamar was taking I felt like she was talking to me because I'm 18 and currently going through this! Thanks tam tam for the wise words 🙏🏿💜
What Tamar said was deep. Tamera looked like she was literally standing next to her younger self and Loni needs to stop talkin bout brown liquor
I would give the warmest hug to my younger self and tell her nobody but YOU will ever love YOU quite like this. So stay expectation-LESS of people. I would also explain to her that even if pleasant, well-meaning people do come into your life don't take them too seriously because when it's all said and done...only a few rare ones (or just one) will remain lovingly loyal and interested in your time.
I loved this segment. I wish I could talk to my 18yr old self just once. Tell her everything will be okay, stop stressing and enjoy life more. My family instilled paying bills and working hard too much in me that I feel it took away from enjoying my time. Although I appreciate it because I have great work ethic now, I'm 24, and enjoy life better.
I would tell my past self. You are beautiful, strong, and you are gonna be a great mom one day!!
I love this segment. At 31 yrs I'm still learning about myself, however, what I would tell my younger self is....Love yourself (inside and out). I think in loving yourself, your self esteem is very high, you're confident in every area of your life, and you trust your instincts more.
I cried listening to this beautiful ladies speak... thanks for those power words...I'm 20yrs old and going through alot of pain, challenges, struggles and difficulties..I'm always worried about the future,so u all reminded me to be strong bcoz the good things are ahead
This episode really brought me to tears!! For someone who is transitioning into her 20's clueless as ever! This really hit home
This segment really brought tears to my eyes. It's been pain all through, i'll probably tell my younger self that its really not worth it.
+Felicia Hlengwa I hope in 50 years you tell your today self that it really is worth it :)
I'm 28 years old and I would tell my young that you are Beautiful and dyslexia does not defined you 😊
+ana kerr :-) Love your positive attitude.
I loved every part of this.. They are all different type's off woman, but what the same thing is that actually that we all go to the insecurities when we are younger. And that shows off that we have different stories to tell but we are all the same and that speaks off being a young human teenager
As someone who is 21 I’m always worrying about my future but this video made me realize to enjoy every moment and trust myself
awww tamar is amazing!! x
This video could not have come at a better time in my life. Hallelu!!
I so glad I saw this I’m going to be 20 in a month and I’m scared about my future and I’m always worried because I don’t know what lays ahead and I’m scared things won’t work out good for me but seeing this makes me want to think more positive and to not worry so much and enjoy my life more and just be happy. Thank you to the Real:)