Until you do it to them. After a month of us giving each other the silent treatment, he told me he gave me time to “cool off” since I was so angry. Narcs turn everything upside down just to fit their delusions. It is a lifelong skill that they learned from someone who is most likely a parent/guardian. Oh…I stopped talking to him after I caught him cheating and him assaulting me. Thank God I divorced him.
My experience with “the silent treatment” was anything but silence and peace. The slamming of doors/drawers, and the audible sighs that accompanied the icy, glowering looks brought no solace. Distance did that, but it took awhile to achieve.
Exactly! After being torn into pieces by someone , I AM the narcissist? This person must’ve never felt the pain of being so emotionally hurt , that not talking is all they can do.
Same here Aaron, she used to slam interior doors - my fav door for her to slam was the front door, that would always leave the picture on the wall crooked, from the impact of the door slamming. But that crooked pucture was the sign that I would have peace for a while While she was gone (after a dramatic, reckless departure in her car - to emphasize her disapproval of me) Divorced since June Still war continues... But peace within the walls of my lo rent appt. Isaiah 59:8 The way of peace they know not, and there is no justice or right in their goings. They have made them into crooked paths; whoever goes in them does not know peace.
Ron..thank God you were able to get the divorce! He is making it hard for me to get mine! Been praying up a storm to be released! Blessings! Sounds so much like my X-- the dramatic reckless driving!
The worst thing about all of this, is that my “narcissist” is actually my own son. I’ve already dealt with my narc parents and cut them off, now I’m dealing with my son. I’m praying he wakes up and sees the truth, as he’s being heavily manipulated by my family who has scapegoated me. It’s so hard. I’d be ok with leaving some ex, but it’s different when it’s your own child doing this stuff to you. I can’t just let him go, but I keep him at a distance and hope he will come around one day.
When they think you care but you always want them to shut up....Always ...because they DO NOT HAVE ANYTHING WORTHY OF HEARING JUST THE SAME REPETITIVE BS
These people will destroy you if you don’t get out. Had me doubting myself left right and centre to the point of feeling suicidal and not feeling like a worthy man or husband. They are poisonous and will convince you that you are wrong if you let them. You need to be strong, intelligent, and know your worth. Don’t let them convince you that you’re wrong. Thankfully I have an amazing wife that could see me for the man I am. I blamed myself too much. I’m free now thanks to Jesus’s amazing healing power!
I personally love when he gives me the silent treatment
Silence is the ultimate way for the narcissist to take all the power in a situation.
Until you do it to them.
After a month of us giving each other the silent treatment, he told me he gave me time to “cool off” since I was so angry.
Narcs turn everything upside down just to fit their delusions. It is a lifelong skill that they learned from someone who is most likely a parent/guardian. Oh…I stopped talking to him after I caught him cheating and him assaulting me. Thank God I divorced him.
That’s right; I try to remind myself when he ignores me that I can look at this as a blessing and try to enjoy it🙏🏻
Deep down they have low self esteem. If one is happy inside and content why do they need to control? I say " control yourself not others"
Exactly what I believe too
Me gray rocking him and he’s probably telling everyone I’m the narc, nope over here just protecting my peace
My experience with “the silent treatment” was anything but silence and peace. The slamming of doors/drawers, and the audible sighs that accompanied the icy, glowering looks brought no solace. Distance did that, but it took awhile to achieve.
The best thing for VICTIMS of narcissistic abuse is silence and no contact in order to start healing.
Exactly!
After being torn into pieces by someone , I AM the narcissist?
This person must’ve never felt the pain of being so emotionally hurt ,
that not talking is all they can do.
The more guilty they are, the more likely they will use it.
I'm done. I left him.
Same! I was DONE A LONNNG TIME AGO!!!
Same here Aaron, she used to slam interior doors - my fav door for her to slam was the front door, that would always leave the picture on the wall crooked, from the impact of the door slamming.
But that crooked pucture was the sign that I would have peace for a while
While she was gone (after a dramatic, reckless departure in her car - to emphasize her disapproval of me)
Divorced since June
Still war continues...
But peace within the walls of my lo rent appt.
Isaiah 59:8
The way of peace they know not, and there is no justice or right in their goings. They have made them into crooked paths; whoever goes in them does not know peace.
Ron..thank God you were able to get the divorce! He is making it hard for me to get mine! Been praying up a storm to be released! Blessings! Sounds so much like my X-- the dramatic reckless driving!
Keep praying and believing God for Deliverance @@ep3629
The worst thing about all of this, is that my “narcissist” is actually my own son. I’ve already dealt with my narc parents and cut them off, now I’m dealing with my son. I’m praying he wakes up and sees the truth, as he’s being heavily manipulated by my family who has scapegoated me. It’s so hard. I’d be ok with leaving some ex, but it’s different when it’s your own child doing this stuff to you. I can’t just let him go, but I keep him at a distance and hope he will come around one day.
Aka, no contact. When they block you its silent treatment.
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Amen sis! Enjoy the space
Yes ! Important reminders , and then enjoy the space . 👏
Thank you. You've given me that Ureka moment. A christian woman i know is a Narcissist.
When they think you care but you always want them to shut up....Always ...because they DO NOT HAVE ANYTHING WORTHY OF HEARING JUST THE SAME REPETITIVE BS
These people will destroy you if you don’t get out. Had me doubting myself left right and centre to the point of feeling suicidal and not feeling like a worthy man or husband. They are poisonous and will convince you that you are wrong if you let them. You need to be strong, intelligent, and know your worth. Don’t let them convince you that you’re wrong. Thankfully I have an amazing wife that could see me for the man I am. I blamed myself too much. I’m free now thanks to Jesus’s amazing healing power!
I've been on edge and fight/flight for 18 years. And am so tired and worn out
Silent treatment is a gift and a relaxing time if you ask 😂me
Will she ever return after the silent treatment? Because i also goes no contact and ignoring her... about a month now we has break up?
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And embarrsss you