@@tlovesgreens8244 They can't and won't seek any help because that would serve to shatter their delusions of that they are "perfect". They equate making a mistake to being a "bad person" (which is not at all true), so would consider seeking help or self help as indication of that they are "bad" because have been wrong about whatever.
They do too much and say too much. They're always busy complaining, manipulating, gaslighting, accusing, abusing, lying and acting out. They're exhausting.
EXCELLENT!!! (Love your name, btw). To be on the safe side, I'll ask as opposed to telling. Would the following scripture references be helpful as well?: Isaiah 51:7- ...fear ye not the reproach of men, neither be ye afraid of their revilings. Isaiah 51:12- ...who art thou, that thou should be afraid of a man that shalt die. Also, throughout the Psalms (mostly in the 30's), there is a great deal referring to how God deals with evil people. It is TRUE...the more we look to and magnify the Lord, the smaller our enemies become. I truly hope that this provides a good starting point, and that this is helpful. God bless 🙏. ❤
Absolutely! Great verses. Plus - two verses prior to prov 4:16 - prov 4:14 warns us, Do not enter into the path of the wicked. Go not in their ways. Avoid it. Do not go on it. Turn from it and pass on. Obeying that proverb puts distance from narsissistic people who devise iniquity, and work out evil upon their beds (because they can't sleep until they've caused someone to fall.)
Married to a narc almost 10 years. He literally broke my spirit. I fell into addiction, to self medicate from the constant abuse. My health went down hill, and I became suicidal for years. He pushed all my friends, and family, away. I'm separated now, trying to get my life back,at 43. Please pray for me.🙏💙
I'm doing the same thing at 42,m... It hurts, use that pain for your own supply / fuel to become the best version of yourself for those that you love and care about. ❤️
Same here, starting over at almost 42.. over 12 years of narcissistic abuse, it’s insane to think how many times he broke down and I would still give him the benefit of the doubt. It’s nice to feel though that I am finally done. I blocked him and I never want to see him again. He is one sadistic dude and I am convinced he just wants to ruin my life.
Our daughter in law is a covert narcissist and she sits in the corner and frowns anytime we celebrate someone. I’ve seen it at birthdays, weddings, showers etc. she’s so miserable to be around and she has managed to pull our son away. It’s very sad. I continue to pray for them, which is not easy but I know God is in control of all things 🙏🙏
Get your son away from her asap if she really is NPD. She will do everything to destroy him. I am going through this right now and we have a 4 year old son. My ex wife is trying to keep my son away from me and she has been trying to turn people against me. She is very good and I have no chance of winning this battle. I however will win the war! Just have faith that the truth will prevail.
@@BenWyatt05ya, when the estrange the spouse from family, how do you get them away? Not easy, the more negative you are about the spouse the more they feed on it…best to shut up and let them be…out of our control? They are now trauma bonded to the toxic spouse, they have to come out of it!
My husband gets so mad at me when my dad or someone else comes in and I start laughing or talking to them when I don't act that way with him because of his attitude and silent treatments. Thank you sister for all of your very helpful videos.❤ I have isolated myself. I'm just so drained and depressed anymore that I don't have any joy or motivation at all. Pray for me and my children to get out one day.
Radical acceptance that the spouse is narc and finding your ways to live your life of happiness is the choice you pick soon because we all deserve to be happy irrespective of spouse relationship
Thank you all so much for your prayers! This will be 11 years that we been together. I'm glad for you all that have gotten out. It is very depleting. And I know God doesn't want this for me or my children. I'm afraid if I wait til they are bigger, he will turn them against me.
They have a CRAZY uncontrollable need to do everything they can to stop you leaving them, ever. So whilst you cannot, under any circumstance, leave them, they can come and go, discard, etc as they wish. It is BONKERS. Praying God gets me out of this situation now, without delay 🙏. There must be a way...
My husband who is a narc is totally like this... he now has his own place and I don't allow him to sleep here ever as I get strangely sick when he does..I build my strength when he away from me... I don't ever think he is authentic so I don't respond to Hoovers... but I play him in that I don't react to his attempts to anger me or love bomb me for fuel... I 'm now so acutely aware of his slight innuendos meant to cause me low self esteem that I laugh at them internally... but we have a daughter together so I still need him to take of her sometimes..so I treat him nonchalantly, politely, like the wind...
Im praying for you in Jesus name God will make a way for you He made a way for me to leave the one I married i filed my divorce papers I'm moving and once I am settled I will finalize it through the courts 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
They can’t control THEIR emotions… the fruit of the Spirit includes SELF-CONTROL. They work through FEAR: God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, and love, and a sound mind… they are like THEIR father, the devil. Your happiness highlights THEIR insecurities…maybe GUILT as well? I’ll bet that showing them grace, love they don’t DESERVE, makes them angry- because it reveals their darkness. -- I love that “practice gratitude”!
She punished me causing me harm ill health and worse for me.The only one who loved for her cared for her guided and protected Your absolutely correct But they'll kiss the fist that punches them in their abusive relationship Salvage in your life like a crash. Plane is what we need to do while they have the nerve and audacity to act as if David, they've done absolutely nothing while gas, lighting us and playing dumb with their attitudes of entitlement that we annoying Lee. We're cultivating or in powering and enabling I felt there was a moralapplication but I realize now i'ungrateful nasty trash bags don't appreciate goodness and good people In fact they'll try and take your life away and give you the extreme opposite of what you gave them health wealth power And more......... Ungrateful Narcissist deserve the lessons they have coming their way
Exactly correct-narcissists are toxic, unstable, and unhappy, and, for some reason most of us will never understand (no matter how educated on narcissism we are), they are desperately committed to trying to make others take on their misery. Just say no-firmly, clearly, sometimes loudly, and daily.
You won't understand it and come to terms that these individuals are nothing more than demonically possessed individuals that are controlled, enslaved and in bondage to these dark evil entities (demons)👿.... And that is the truth whether you care to believe this or NOT! No matter what any psychologist or any psychology book tells you, this is the real truth behind the narcissist!
I didn't realize my ex-wife was a covert narcissist until I went into therapy. This video explains why my EX felt she had to spoil the happiest moments that she didnt intiate. It seemed her purpose destroy my joy, especially with my family. She had to belittle my love for being a muscian.
I swear my ex was jealous of music for taking attention away from her. But it's my job to play music and my dream! I think she had a problem with other people being happy. My new partner is amazing and supportive. Turns out I was abused!
This is so true! When we were getting ready to go see MY side of the family, which is full of smiling, happy cousins, my kids were super excited to go. They told their grandmother (my MiL) they were excited to see everyone and she actually told my children (ages 12 and 6, at the time) “don’t be so nice and loving with those people. You need to remain serious children.” What. A. Jerk. It’s a good thing my kids see past her BS. 🙄
I wish that schools were more aware of narcissistic abuse and were not afraid to 'interfere'. I was approached by a coach when I was in grade 8 because I was the second fastest runner in the school. This man coached one of our classmates to the Olympics. He asked me if I wanted to be on one of the teams. I asked my Mom and she cleverly said "Only if your grades don't drop". She put it all on me. I had no idea if my grades would drop but I was a straight A student and it was only grade 8. Her Threat frightened me and I declined the offer. When I was ready for post secondary, no surprise, there was no money set aside for it. Had I joined the teams I could have gotten a scholarship and gotten away from her.
Unfortunately the school system is full of narcissistic teachers and administrators as well so they wouldn't care or be able to help kids being victimized by that as well. I worked in schools for 10+ years and it was rampant. The adults control the kids and tey to control the other adults/teachers as well. I didn't know it was narcissism back then but now that I understand what it is, it explains everything I experienced with so many of these people.
Long before I even discovered narcissistic personality disorder I would tell people how they hate me when I’m happy and no one believed me. Even in adult life, if I was too happy or confident with my dad, he would need to speak to me alone soon after, always about what was wrong with me.
Yes, same with mine. If they could have simply shared the joy with me. Why wouldn’t a parent be happy to see their child happy? Mind boggling and very sad.
@@Ohhapppyday888 Unwilling to put in the effort required to build genuine self esteem (by doing the basics that others are willing to work on, like meditation/prayer, eating right, getting exercise, pursuing goals/hobbies, daily affirmations, etc)… NPD's gain their (fake AF) sense of self worth by crushing/collapsing the self worth of others.
As a senior who lived with toxic personalities from childhood...your right...they..for the most part, won't see their behavior as a problem...take care of yourself..God Bless..thank you Shaneen.
@ShaneenMegji ...I wish I could share my story with you...I've met so many, so called believers, Christians, born again people who politely listened, and then proceeded to tear me apart. Your doing God's work..it's not a popular path to be on..my story in a brief overview is, being lost, crying out for help, and Jesus heard it...and came. You keep up the good work. Thank you for responding. Peace.
This is so true. I wondered for so long why they punished me, like I was a bad person. I'm understanding more that the narcissists in my life wanted to keep me unhappy. Such a selfish way to live. I'm working on my complexes still, trying to see myself as an acceptable person who deserves happiness.
My sister in law refused to sit at the table during thanksgiving dinner. Said she wasn’t hungry. I haven’t had a holiday dinner with my bro in over ten years. And it was the first with my toddler niece. So my SIL and niece sat alone in the living room. My mom was heartbroken. After everyone ate and went outside for some fresh air she got up and made herself a plate and ate at the table alone. I guess now ten minutes later she was hungry. It was painful for my family and put a cloud over the event. We wouldn’t have minded if she made a plate and sat at the table without eating. We just wanted the family together since we didn’t know how many years it would be before it happened again. 🤷🏻♀️🥹😭 This is just one of countless situations with her. I continue to reach out and show kindness bc I love my brother (who is totally different person now) and my niece (who i hardly get to interact with).
In my experience, they really act up at holidays. They somehoe have to make the whole event about them. No one is allowed to fully enjoy the day without their permission.
Not to stick up for her but she could have really bad anxiety. I do that around a crowd. People can't tell but I hide my overwhelming anxiety. She could also have an eating disorder. I had a friend like that.
@@jacquelineglitter4328 thank you for your perspective. I agree it could be all those things. I have anxiety too so I always try to consider that as an option. I also hate eating in-front of people. I feel like in her case it’s somthjng else only because it’s many different things consistently. But thank you for sharing another valid perspective.
Ouch. You just explained 30 years of both of my parents. Times that could have been happy and advancing moments for me were burned to death by their insecure-narcissistic volcano eruptions 🌋
I notice that covert narcissists can also pretend to be happy that you are happy, then later you find out through outbursts or back handed statements or rage episodes they will reveal the truth of their disdain about your happiness. It's like they pretend to be happy or agreeable on the outside but disdain and hatred about it on the inside.
This. My dads wife loves to gather information and be the shoulder to cry on but if you ever show happiness around her she will use anything you told her to cut you down with backhanded comments
Yes, this perfectly reflects my relationship with my narcissist mother. Whenever I've had joy or been happy around her, she would swiftly punish me for it by shaming me for one thing or another. I stuff my feelings of happiness and joy around my mom so much that its leaked over into other parts of my life. I feel like my marriage and my young daughter are being robbed of the happy person I used to be. Recently, God has been helping me see the sin cycle that exists between her and I. He's shown me my own sin in the situation, and he's been pruning those branches out of me. That process has been painful. But I actually feel like I'm beginning to emerge on the other side of it a different person. For the first time, her condemnation of me isn't finding the foothold it used to in my emotions, it's losing its power. I'm starting to feel joy in doing things for others because I know it pleases God, and because through the pain I've felt with my mom and the conditional love she taught me, it gives me deep joy to share the power of unconditional love with the people around me. He's taught me, through her, how absolutely paramount the act of unconditional love is to the testimony of Christ. That new understanding has given me a new lens on why Jesus said "they will know you are one of mine, by the way you love one another." It was sinful for a parent to show a child conditional love. It perpetuates a cycle of sin that reverberates down generations if someone doesn't bend a knee and ask that God cut it out of them... that He please let it end with me. That's been the only thing that has made a true life changing difference for me. God bless.
My N-ex had me gaslit to convince me I was bipolar, and that my UP times were somehow dangerous to her. So, I strove toward depression. For her. Even to the point of taking anti-depressants. It took me awhile to come to my senses, but I did. Then I was discarded. I now call that a win.
I told my wife that after 24 years, I’ve decided to stop drinking alcohol. She went out and bought a case of beer (she’s never ddi this before). Then when the temptation became too great, I drank the beer. She asked “I thought you stopped drinking?” I thought it was just me being weak, I didn’t realize the trauma I was experiencing which coincidentally caused me to drink more.
For the past 12 years, I have experienced all that you mentioned. I love my husband, and he has improved a little bit over the years, but I remember how my identity was nearly stripped from me during the first 5 years of our marriage. I went through a deep depression for years. At some point, I finally got tired of allowing my husband and his family to strip me of my identity. So I began to rely more on Christ than ever, and I also began a UA-cam Channel to re-build my former identity, and to expound on it. On my channel I sing, dance, read scripture, play the guitar, as well as other instruments. I do this to encourage and inspire others. Jesus has gotten me through the toughest years of my life, and He is the one who has been my comfort, and my joy, and my reason for living. 🌅
Bullies hate to see other people being happy. I have had to hide any happiness away from everybody all my life. I can not be happy around somebody without them being envious of me. Not even around people I should be able to trust because they might say something about me to someone else and make that person envious of me.
This is my future-ex’s mother. It’s a drain on everyone they interact with. It’s especially horrible in a small family - nowhere to escape to. You are subject to an evil negative energy that just drains the life out of you. We invited a friend over for my son’s birthday party. This woman stared at our friend with such hate that when our friend left, she said “never again.” When she told me about it, I completely understood. That’s my experience every time I have to interact with that person. I’m an obstacle to her daughter. If I had known this before I got married it would’ve saved me years of grief. Also know that narcissists raise narcissists, so if you’re with a person, interact with their parents and learn about them.
I have not met a single person who can stand to see me happy. Even banks, accountants, service providers. Don’t even mention family and friends. The only good person I can remember was my father, who died young because of the abuse he received from everyone around him, specially my mother. The world is an ugly place.
That’s sad that you’ve felt that’s the case. My life’s full of people who have been happy for me being happy. Maybe you’re projecting that they can’t stand seeing it, and it’s you that can’t stand others being happy?
Thank you Shaneen. The whole video is great. I didn’t know the part about how the narcissist uses the emotions of other people to regulate their own emotions. This explains a lot for me. The more I think about it the more it makes sense. And it helps me understand when I look back on my interactions with narcissists, what was really happening. Wow, they are so manipulative and toxic. Toxic, toxic, toxic 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮 And the other point I learned a great deal from is how they hate to see other people happy. Aaaaaaaagh-so true!!! They are a walking downer🤮🤮🤮🤮 They are a joy vacuum🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮 I will be watching this video again because I find it so helpful. God bless✝️
This is just my experience, but there's a lot more information, coaching, and support ONLINE, than there is in real life....for recovering from narcissistic abuse. Having to explain what narcissism is, and feels like to an ignorant therapist is worse than unhelpful.
"your happiness and the narcissist's need to control you are indeed mutually exclusive", however the narc don't like it and don't want it that way, they WANT enmeshment and as you say, a constant connection to them, like tying you up
Good call... Your happiness/confidence are certainly mutually exclusive with their control of you, because it's the first thing attack or try to bring down.
@@dennisrobinson8008 Unwilling to put in the effort required to build genuine self esteem (by doing the basics that others are willing to work on, like meditation/prayer, eating right, getting exercise, pursuing goals/hobbies, daily affirmations, etc)… NPD's gain their (fake AF) sense of self worth by crushing/collapsing the self worth of others.
@@BAsed_AFro So another chat recently made me familiar with there are many "fake happy" people where underneath it they are incredibly negative and miserable and a "real happy" person will "offend" them. I did kind of know there was fake and negative people, but it really wasn't hitting me that some of the "happies" are actually FAKE and extremely negative...
@@dennisrobinson8008 Delusions of superiority, envy, and infallibility are huge for many folks out there. So, often they will feel deeply envious for your true happiness... because they just are not. Many think "well if I can't have it, then neither can you!". Healthy minds do not at all think along these lines.
My narcissistic father and brother are pillars of the church. I worked for a church that hired one narcissistic senior pastor after another. I'd advise all here to read "When Narcissism Comes to Church." It's a breeding ground.
It took a while to catch on that my happiness made this person unhappy and my pain caused her joy. Unless I walk away from important things in my life I’ll just always keep everything to myself.
Explains a great deal. We were living where we were being monitored. If a source of happiness was located, it seemed whoever it was would try to destroy anything that brought happiness.
Greetings from Greece. New, first day in your channel, happy to find a channel that combines deep knowledge of psychology, with christian faith and the Bible.🙂🙋🌹🇬🇷🇺🇲🛐✝️
Wow! What a helpful, healing, uplifting video. Everything said was exactly what I needed to hear especially the Bible verses given. Yes, keep track of your wins.
Triangulation is when someone invades your personal space and threatens to control or criminalize you though threat's. Most false truths are built on lies but be aware of characters who impose financial or social control vices on you especially if you arent commiting wrongdoing.
I found joy quickly, and the narcissist, when I asked if he was happy said "I don't know yet, it's only been 2 weeks." I felt happy by letting that person go do their own thing.
I have said that so many times she cannot stand to see anyone happy. I did lose joy for so long but I have a new joy the joy of the Lord and nobody can take that away from me! It’s so empowering! That right there is sweet “revenge”
I am just reading John 16. I don’t always spot a narcissist, however through the Holy Spirit I certainly get help. It can be a gut feeling or a sense of a negativity charged atmosphere. It’s certainly a spiritual battle we are in. I have to put on the full armour of God each day. Ephesians 6:10-18. Praise the Lord Jesus Christ.
If I liked a dress, my mother would give it away. If the family cat loved me too much, she would give it away. She chased all my friends away and would make them do chores when they visited me. My siblings and I would be home together, but my mother would single me out to go work on the farm with the farm staff. Loved to humiliate me for no reason and made me her physical and emotional punching bag. My home was Hell, and my mother is the meanest person I ever met.
Wow.....I hope you're in a good place now. My parents were never parents. My mother couldn't stand me and my father was so uninterested in us all it was like he was there in body only. He died 25 years ago. All I remember is talking to him through the newspaper. He never bothered to put it down. He just wanted me to stop talking. My "family" put the "d" in dysfunctional.
This whole thing sounds like it’s right out of the twilight zone. It’s tough coming to grips with the fact that this “disorder” has been around since the dawn of man. Oh well. Glad it’s not me. Hate to be those people. Hell can have ‘em all. Hehe
Shaneen, the information you provide is unsettling and poignant! I have been challenged to repent for my selfish behavior and manipulative exhibitions. THANK YOU and God bless ❤🙌🏾
I'm liable to think I won't get a hoover because they know I know too much about the manipulation tactics. I could have avoided falling so hard I had more emotional support rather than neglect. From mom especially, instead of fawning and being afraid of the woman.
Unwilling to put in the effort required to build genuine self esteem (by doing the basics that others are willing to work on, like meditation/prayer, eating right, getting exercise, pursuing goals/hobbies, daily affirmations, etc)… NPD's gain their (fake AF) sense of self worth by crushing/collapsing the self worth of others.
One thing i was told after a rage when I didn't park as quick as they wanted & how they wanted that I was hopeless or something similar, i said I'm not that stupid after doing some uni. He said something about I need to learn common sense you don't get that there or similar
Yeah the idiot I live with insults is always about being stupid too. I'm like if you're so smart how come your 74 and don't have anything of your own and living with family. He has kids they don't want to be bothered. He gonna die alone once we move out he has no one to put up with his sh*t.
Hello sister Shaneen thank you for your videos very informational and being a Christian when you implement the word of God it's encouraging my faith that I made the right decision to leave and divorce the narcisssit I try to watch when I can but i work and be in school 😊🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
The craziest example is when the spiritual narcissist will want you to pray for their “uncle, cousin’s brother-in-laws illness or go to the like’s funeral! Lolol, misery loves company!! Amen! Thank you for your video!!🙏❤️🕊🌟🎶🌹💖
Thanks for providing content that glorifies God and offers practical action steps. I appreciate that you tell viewers not to be hard on themselves as they learn. I hope and pray that this message helps people regrow their happiness muscles.
Yes, you are so on target. Our remaining sad, depressed, on edge, etc. proves to the narcissist that they are “winning” at their game of remaking and controlling us. “The joy of the Lord is my strength”. Nehemiah 8:10. “Rejoice evermore. Pray without ceasing. In everything give thanks, for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you”. 1 Thessalonians 5. Pleasing God and ignoring the narcissist works wonders!
My wife has trained me well to never share much in conversation with her. My wife is just that a spoiler, when I display much happiness or enjoyment, she seemingly has something of discouragement to say. Even our granddaughter mentioned to my wife recently that my wife is negative, no encouragement just negativity. I keep Conversations with my wife short and to the point, dull and boring. My wife dislikes any interests that I may have, any hobbies bring out an anger accusing me of not spending time with her. To make things worse my wife uses Bible verses in the attempt to put me in my place or shame me. I could go on, but this video explains it very well. My wife also uses love bombing to smooth things over, but I don't take the bait. Thank you Shaneen, your videos are always spot on, scary in that my wife fit every category you lay out.
Dear Lady, thank you for the simplicity and reality of your messages. You are helping so many of us who are or have dealt with narcissistic people in our lives. The Lord is using you to help set people free and it's a true blessing !
💯💯💯 Thank you for educating those who have been in bondage their entire lives! We believe in God’s promises that you latter days shall be better than you former!!🙏❤️🕊🌟🎶💖🌹
Im literally dealing with this right now and for the past 1.5 yrs. where I live. Even the working out part....constantly trying to bring me down. Its tiring and feels like its killing me.
My covert narc mother told me how everything I was looking forward to, hoping for or even just making the best of a bad lot, would go horribly wrong and be awful. She continued to do this to me, and only me, even though I told her again and again it made me wish I was dead because what was the point of anything if it was doomed to be awful and fail? It wasn't until I finally learned what narcissistic abuse is way too late that I realised she did this to make sure I couldn't leave and would be her captive forever. The irony is her mother kept her captive too and she hated it, but denies she does it to me. Thanks to her I am 61 and have absolutely nothing . She talked me out of my only chance to buy my dream house which would be worth 10 times what I paid for it and I would fully own it now. I have to hope I can hang on until she dies for an inheritance, and she uses that to threaten me and make me her slave. Evil evil evil.
" they can't regulate their own emotions so try to regulate yours". Well said
How sad! Not normal. Just seek help!!!
@@tlovesgreens8244 There is no helping them. There's only staying as far away from them as you can get.
Exactly!
@@tlovesgreens8244Also agree but it’s hard to just walk away.
@@tlovesgreens8244 They can't and won't seek any help because that would serve to shatter their delusions of that they are "perfect".
They equate making a mistake to being a "bad person" (which is not at all true), so would consider seeking help or self help as indication of that they are "bad" because have been wrong about whatever.
They do too much and say too much. They're always busy complaining, manipulating, gaslighting, accusing, abusing, lying and acting out. They're exhausting.
They complain more than my 5 year old. I've started using techniques on him that I use on my 5 year old son. Deflection and distraction works wonders.
Exactly
"For they sleep not, except they have done evil; and their sleep is taken away, unless they cause some to fall." *Proverbs 4:16*
EXCELLENT!!! (Love your name, btw).
To be on the safe side, I'll ask as opposed to telling. Would the following scripture references be helpful as well?:
Isaiah 51:7- ...fear ye not the reproach of men, neither be ye afraid of their revilings.
Isaiah 51:12- ...who art thou, that thou should be afraid of a man that shalt die.
Also, throughout the Psalms (mostly in the 30's), there is a great deal referring to how God deals with evil people.
It is TRUE...the more we look to and magnify the Lord, the smaller our enemies become.
I truly hope that this provides a good starting point, and that this is helpful. God bless 🙏. ❤
Absolutely!
Great verses.
Plus - two verses prior to prov 4:16 - prov 4:14 warns us, Do not enter into the path of the wicked. Go not in their ways. Avoid it. Do not go on it. Turn from it and pass on.
Obeying that proverb puts distance from narsissistic people who devise iniquity, and work out evil upon their beds (because they can't sleep until they've caused someone to fall.)
Can't be clearer than that. The truth of God's Word always cripples darkness. Thanks❤.
Sheesh!!!!! I mean... that is the truth if I've ever heard it.
Thank you!
Narcs want to take your happiness away or steal it if they can.
Even if they did steal your happiness it wouldn't be enough they'd still want something else you have that they dont
Married to a narc almost 10 years. He literally broke my spirit. I fell into addiction, to self medicate from the constant abuse. My health went down hill, and I became suicidal for years. He pushed all my friends, and family, away. I'm separated now, trying to get my life back,at 43. Please pray for me.🙏💙
I'm doing the same thing at 42,m... It hurts, use that pain for your own supply / fuel to become the best version of yourself for those that you love and care about. ❤️
Prayers and love you got this.
you could be 63 breaking up/ people go even longer. you got tons of time to makee ur come back
You will be ok take it one day at a time ❤
Same here, starting over at almost 42.. over 12 years of narcissistic abuse, it’s insane to think how many times he broke down and I would still give him the benefit of the doubt. It’s nice to feel though that I am finally done. I blocked him and I never want to see him again. He is one sadistic dude and I am convinced he just wants to ruin my life.
Our daughter in law is a covert narcissist and she sits in the corner and frowns anytime we celebrate someone. I’ve seen it at birthdays, weddings, showers etc. she’s so miserable to be around and she has managed to pull our son away. It’s very sad. I continue to pray for them, which is not easy but I know God is in control of all things 🙏🙏
Get your son away from her asap if she really is NPD. She will do everything to destroy him. I am going through this right now and we have a 4 year old son. My ex wife is trying to keep my son away from me and she has been trying to turn people against me. She is very good and I have no chance of winning this battle. I however will win the war! Just have faith that the truth will prevail.
God bless u and guide u through helping them, Amen.
You have the same DIL as us???? lol
Identical, if it’s not on her, she pouts!
@@BenWyatt05ya, when the estrange the spouse from family, how do you get them away? Not easy, the more negative you are about the spouse the more they feed on it…best to shut up and let them be…out of our control? They are now trauma bonded to the toxic spouse, they have to come out of it!
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My husband gets so mad at me when my dad or someone else comes in and I start laughing or talking to them when I don't act that way with him because of his attitude and silent treatments. Thank you sister for all of your very helpful videos.❤
I have isolated myself. I'm just so drained and depressed anymore that I don't have any joy or motivation at all. Pray for me and my children to get out one day.
We aren't supposed to let them take our happiness. Start praying coz God saved me from a 15 year relationship, I was depleted. I'm praying for you! 💗🙏
Radical acceptance that the spouse is narc and finding your ways to live your life of happiness is the choice you pick soon because we all deserve to be happy irrespective of spouse relationship
Praying for you and your family ❤
Thank you all so much for your prayers! This will be 11 years that we been together. I'm glad for you all that have gotten out. It is very depleting. And I know God doesn't want this for me or my children. I'm afraid if I wait til they are bigger, he will turn them against me.
We sure do deserve to be happy ❤
They have a CRAZY uncontrollable need to do everything they can to stop you leaving them, ever. So whilst you cannot, under any circumstance, leave them, they can come and go, discard, etc as they wish. It is BONKERS. Praying God gets me out of this situation now, without delay 🙏. There must be a way...
I pray for much grace and guidance in Jesus' name. 🙏🏽
My husband who is a narc is totally like this... he now has his own place and I don't allow him to sleep here ever as I get strangely sick when he does..I build my strength when he away from me... I don't ever think he is authentic so I don't respond to Hoovers... but I play him in that I don't react to his attempts to anger me or love bomb me for fuel... I 'm now so acutely aware of his slight innuendos meant to cause me low self esteem that I laugh at them internally... but we have a daughter together so I still need him to take of her sometimes..so I treat him nonchalantly, politely, like the wind...
Im praying for you in Jesus name God will make a way for you He made a way for me to leave the one I married i filed my divorce papers I'm moving and once I am settled I will finalize it through the courts 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Until they find out you know exactly whom they are.
It's a power thing. They want you hanging on, while they can come and go as they please (emotionally). You need to go no contact!
They can’t control THEIR emotions… the fruit of the Spirit includes SELF-CONTROL.
They work through FEAR: God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, and love, and a sound mind… they are like THEIR father, the devil.
Your happiness highlights THEIR insecurities…maybe GUILT as well?
I’ll bet that showing them grace, love they don’t DESERVE, makes them angry- because it reveals their darkness.
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I love that “practice gratitude”!
She punished me causing me harm ill health and worse for me.The only one who loved for her cared for her guided and protected
Your absolutely correct
But they'll kiss the fist that punches them in their abusive relationship
Salvage in your life like a crash. Plane is what we need to do while they have the nerve and audacity to act as if David, they've done absolutely nothing while gas, lighting us and playing dumb with their attitudes of entitlement that we annoying Lee. We're cultivating or in powering and enabling
I felt there was a moralapplication but I realize now i'ungrateful nasty trash bags don't appreciate goodness and good people
In fact they'll try and take your life away and give you the extreme opposite of what you gave them health wealth power And more.........
Ungrateful
Narcissist deserve the lessons they have coming their way
Romans 12:19-21 👌
Amen
Exactly correct-narcissists are toxic, unstable, and unhappy, and, for some reason most of us will never understand (no matter how educated on narcissism we are), they are desperately committed to trying to make others take on their misery.
Just say no-firmly, clearly, sometimes loudly, and daily.
They either got too much praise without any real adversity or they've been around narcissistic people too much
You won't understand it and come to terms that these individuals are nothing more than demonically possessed individuals that are controlled, enslaved and in bondage to these dark evil entities (demons)👿.... And that is the truth whether you care to believe this or NOT! No matter what any psychologist or any psychology book tells you, this is the real truth behind the narcissist!
I didn't realize my ex-wife was a covert narcissist until I went into therapy. This video explains why my EX felt she had to spoil the happiest moments that she didnt intiate. It seemed her purpose destroy my joy, especially with my family. She had to belittle my love for being a muscian.
I'm sorry to hear that. 😢 But so glad you've taken your love for music back!
I swear my ex was jealous of music for taking attention away from her. But it's my job to play music and my dream! I think she had a problem with other people being happy. My new partner is amazing and supportive. Turns out I was abused!
@@JFalcony NPDs want to feel that they are in control of your happiness.. or that you can only have that through them (somehow).
This is so true! When we were getting ready to go see MY side of the family, which is full of smiling, happy cousins, my kids were super excited to go. They told their grandmother (my MiL) they were excited to see everyone and she actually told my children (ages 12 and 6, at the time) “don’t be so nice and loving with those people. You need to remain serious children.” What. A. Jerk. It’s a good thing my kids see past her BS. 🙄
That’s annoying! Glad you’re looking past it and so are your kiddos!
I wish that schools were more aware of narcissistic abuse and were not afraid to 'interfere'. I was approached by a coach when I was in grade 8 because I was the second fastest runner in the school. This man coached one of our classmates to the Olympics. He asked me if I wanted to be on one of the teams. I asked my Mom and she cleverly said "Only if your grades don't drop". She put it all on me. I had no idea if my grades would drop but I was a straight A student and it was only grade 8. Her Threat frightened me and I declined the offer. When I was ready for post secondary, no surprise, there was no money set aside for it. Had I joined the teams I could have gotten a scholarship and gotten away from her.
Unfortunately the school system is full of narcissistic teachers and administrators as well so they wouldn't care or be able to help kids being victimized by that as well. I worked in schools for 10+ years and it was rampant. The adults control the kids and tey to control the other adults/teachers as well. I didn't know it was narcissism back then but now that I understand what it is, it explains everything I experienced with so many of these people.
@@RM-qq5rj Control and envy are everything to NPDs.
@RM-qq5rj The jobs we work also, especially the human resource/ administration dept are full of narcissists. Most of them claim to be Christian
Narcissists are evil in a human body.
They are just very sick , real sick. Sad for them but we can’t help them because you are a object and not a personality 😉
Long before I even discovered narcissistic personality disorder I would tell people how they hate me when I’m happy and no one believed me. Even in adult life, if I was too happy or confident with my dad, he would need to speak to me alone soon after, always about what was wrong with me.
Yes, same with mine. If they could have simply shared the joy with me. Why wouldn’t a parent be happy to see their child happy? Mind boggling and very sad.
I've never seen my father happy or laughing.
@@Ohhapppyday888 Unwilling to put in the effort required to build genuine self esteem (by doing the basics that others are willing to work on, like meditation/prayer, eating right, getting exercise, pursuing goals/hobbies, daily affirmations, etc)… NPD's gain their (fake AF) sense of self worth by crushing/collapsing the self worth of others.
Because they think the world owes them a living, and if they see you happy - they think they must be happy, too.
They make you responsible for their happiness bc they can't find anything themselves that would make them happy.
@@Agheel963 they are not satisfied even if someone gives it to them on a plate
As a senior who lived with toxic personalities from childhood...your right...they..for the most part, won't see their behavior as a problem...take care of yourself..God Bless..thank you Shaneen.
You're so welcome. God bless you too. 🙏🏽
@ShaneenMegji ...I wish I could share my story with you...I've met so many, so called believers, Christians, born again people who politely listened, and then proceeded to tear me apart. Your doing God's work..it's not a popular path to be on..my story in a brief overview is, being lost, crying out for help, and Jesus heard it...and came. You keep up the good work. Thank you for responding. Peace.
Omg I know!!!! I'm HAPPY to leave him!!!!!! Jesus is good
This is so true. I wondered for so long why they punished me, like I was a bad person. I'm understanding more that the narcissists in my life wanted to keep me unhappy. Such a selfish way to live. I'm working on my complexes still, trying to see myself as an acceptable person who deserves happiness.
The Joy of the LORD is our strength. It works like water did against the evil witch from Wizard of OZ.
Yes" ma'am" they tried to train me"how to treat them" but I flew "away" just in the nick "of time". No more swapping ".
My sister in law refused to sit at the table during thanksgiving dinner. Said she wasn’t hungry. I haven’t had a holiday dinner with my bro in over ten years. And it was the first with my toddler niece. So my SIL and niece sat alone in the living room. My mom was heartbroken. After everyone ate and went outside for some fresh air she got up and made herself a plate and ate at the table alone. I guess now ten minutes later she was hungry. It was painful for my family and put a cloud over the event. We wouldn’t have minded if she made a plate and sat at the table without eating. We just wanted the family together since we didn’t know how many years it would be before it happened again. 🤷🏻♀️🥹😭 This is just one of countless situations with her. I continue to reach out and show kindness bc I love my brother (who is totally different person now) and my niece (who i hardly get to interact with).
That’s sad, that was really toxic of her.
In my experience, they really act up at holidays. They somehoe have to make the whole event about them. No one is allowed to fully enjoy the day without their permission.
Not to stick up for her but she could have really bad anxiety. I do that around a crowd. People can't tell but I hide my overwhelming anxiety. She could also have an eating disorder. I had a friend like that.
@@jacquelineglitter4328 thank you for your perspective. I agree it could be all those things. I have anxiety too so I always try to consider that as an option. I also hate eating in-front of people. I feel like in her case it’s somthjng else only because it’s many different things consistently. But thank you for sharing another valid perspective.
Ouch. You just explained 30 years of both of my parents. Times that could have been happy and advancing moments for me were burned to death by their insecure-narcissistic volcano eruptions 🌋
I notice that covert narcissists can also pretend to be happy that you are happy, then later you find out through outbursts or back handed statements or rage episodes they will reveal the truth of their disdain about your happiness. It's like they pretend to be happy or agreeable on the outside but disdain and hatred about it on the inside.
This. My dads wife loves to gather information and be the shoulder to cry on but if you ever show happiness around her she will use anything you told her to cut you down with backhanded comments
Yes, this perfectly reflects my relationship with my narcissist mother. Whenever I've had joy or been happy around her, she would swiftly punish me for it by shaming me for one thing or another. I stuff my feelings of happiness and joy around my mom so much that its leaked over into other parts of my life. I feel like my marriage and my young daughter are being robbed of the happy person I used to be. Recently, God has been helping me see the sin cycle that exists between her and I. He's shown me my own sin in the situation, and he's been pruning those branches out of me. That process has been painful. But I actually feel like I'm beginning to emerge on the other side of it a different person. For the first time, her condemnation of me isn't finding the foothold it used to in my emotions, it's losing its power. I'm starting to feel joy in doing things for others because I know it pleases God, and because through the pain I've felt with my mom and the conditional love she taught me, it gives me deep joy to share the power of unconditional love with the people around me. He's taught me, through her, how absolutely paramount the act of unconditional love is to the testimony of Christ. That new understanding has given me a new lens on why Jesus said "they will know you are one of mine, by the way you love one another." It was sinful for a parent to show a child conditional love. It perpetuates a cycle of sin that reverberates down generations if someone doesn't bend a knee and ask that God cut it out of them... that He please let it end with me. That's been the only thing that has made a true life changing difference for me. God bless.
Yes! Relationships are competition! People are possessions.
My N-ex had me gaslit to convince me I was bipolar, and that my UP times were somehow dangerous to her. So, I strove toward depression. For her. Even to the point of taking anti-depressants. It took me awhile to come to my senses, but I did. Then I was discarded. I now call that a win.
I told my wife that after 24 years, I’ve decided to stop drinking alcohol. She went out and bought a case of beer (she’s never ddi this before). Then when the temptation became too great, I drank the beer. She asked “I thought you stopped drinking?” I thought it was just me being weak, I didn’t realize the trauma I was experiencing which coincidentally caused me to drink more.
A real evil person
I am grateful for you, dear and lovely sister. All glory to God in Jesus name!
Amen 🙌
@@ShaneenMegji They all end up exposing themselves.
For the past 12 years, I have experienced all that you mentioned. I love my husband, and he has improved a little bit over the years, but I remember how my identity was nearly stripped from me during the first 5 years of our marriage. I went through a deep depression for years. At some point, I finally got tired of allowing my husband and his family to strip me of my identity. So I began to rely more on Christ than ever, and I also began a UA-cam Channel to re-build my former identity, and to expound on it. On my channel I sing, dance, read scripture, play the guitar, as well as other instruments. I do this to encourage and inspire others. Jesus has gotten me through the toughest years of my life, and He is the one who has been my comfort, and my joy, and my reason for living. 🌅
Same here.
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Bullies hate to see other people being happy. I have had to hide any happiness away from everybody all my life. I can not be happy around somebody without them being envious of me. Not even around people I should be able to trust because they might say something about me to someone else and make that person envious of me.
Yes!! And they work DILIGENTLY to make you unhappy...so, BE HAPPY!! Choose the joy of the LORD and they will buckle under the pressure💜🙏🥰
This totally explains my narcissist next door neighbor.
My mother always told me that I thought that life was just a bowl of cherries.
This is so true. It’s pathetic, onwards and upwards
This is my future-ex’s mother. It’s a drain on everyone they interact with. It’s especially horrible in a small family - nowhere to escape to. You are subject to an evil negative energy that just drains the life out of you.
We invited a friend over for my son’s birthday party. This woman stared at our friend with such hate that when our friend left, she said “never again.” When she told me about it, I completely understood. That’s my experience every time I have to interact with that person. I’m an obstacle to her daughter.
If I had known this before I got married it would’ve saved me years of grief. Also know that narcissists raise narcissists, so if you’re with a person, interact with their parents and learn about them.
Shaneen you are correct, I have met one narcissist and she used every opportunity to put me down and bring my happiness lower.
I have not met a single person who can stand to see me happy. Even banks, accountants, service providers. Don’t even mention family and friends. The only good person I can remember was my father, who died young because of the abuse he received from everyone around him, specially my mother. The world is an ugly place.
That’s sad that you’ve felt that’s the case. My life’s full of people who have been happy for me being happy. Maybe you’re projecting that they can’t stand seeing it, and it’s you that can’t stand others being happy?
Thank you Shaneen. The whole video is great.
I didn’t know the part about how the narcissist uses the emotions of other people to regulate their own emotions.
This explains a lot for me.
The more I think about it the more it makes sense. And it helps me understand when I look back on my interactions with narcissists, what was really happening.
Wow, they are so manipulative and toxic.
Toxic, toxic, toxic
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And the other point I learned a great deal from is how they hate to see other people happy.
Aaaaaaaagh-so true!!!
They are a walking downer🤮🤮🤮🤮
They are a joy vacuum🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
I will be watching this video again because I find it so helpful.
God bless✝️
They are just plain mean
This is just my experience, but there's a lot more information, coaching, and support ONLINE, than there is in real life....for recovering from narcissistic abuse. Having to explain what narcissism is, and feels like to an ignorant therapist is worse than unhelpful.
Been through it one said u can't help them control you. I though not really it's sabotage and toxic.
"your happiness and the narcissist's need to control you are indeed mutually exclusive", however the narc don't like it and don't want it that way, they WANT enmeshment and as you say, a constant connection to them, like tying you up
Good call... Your happiness/confidence are certainly mutually exclusive with their control of you, because it's the first thing attack or try to bring down.
@@dennisrobinson8008 Unwilling to put in the effort required to build genuine self esteem (by doing the basics that others are willing to work on, like meditation/prayer, eating right, getting exercise, pursuing goals/hobbies, daily affirmations, etc)… NPD's gain their (fake AF) sense of self worth by crushing/collapsing the self worth of others.
@@dennisrobinson8008 They view your genuine happiness as a huge threat (fear) due to their lack of it.
Their fear manifests into anger... even rage.
@@BAsed_AFro So another chat recently made me familiar with there are many "fake happy" people where underneath it they are incredibly negative and miserable and a "real happy" person will "offend" them. I did kind of know there was fake and negative people, but it really wasn't hitting me that some of the "happies" are actually FAKE and extremely negative...
@@dennisrobinson8008 Delusions of superiority, envy, and infallibility are huge for many folks out there.
So, often they will feel deeply envious for your true happiness... because they just are not. Many think "well if I can't have it, then neither can you!".
Healthy minds do not at all think along these lines.
Our good days or bad days has nothing to do with anyone else but misery loves company
My narcissistic father and brother are pillars of the church. I worked for a church that hired one narcissistic senior pastor after another. I'd advise all here to read "When Narcissism Comes to Church." It's a breeding ground.
It took a while to catch on that my happiness made this person unhappy and my pain caused her joy. Unless I walk away from important things in my life I’ll just always keep everything to myself.
Explains a great deal. We were living where we were being monitored. If a source of happiness was located, it seemed whoever it was would try to destroy anything that brought happiness.
Madame you're my Angel 🙏 God bless you
Greetings from Greece. New, first day in your channel, happy to find a channel that combines deep knowledge of psychology, with christian faith and the Bible.🙂🙋🌹🇬🇷🇺🇲🛐✝️
Wow! What a helpful, healing, uplifting video. Everything said was exactly what I needed to hear especially the Bible verses given. Yes, keep track of your wins.
I'm so glad to hear that. Yes, tracking your wins is so important, especially the small ones. 😊
Triangulation is when someone invades your personal space and threatens to control or criminalize you though threat's. Most false truths are built on lies but be aware of characters who impose financial or social control vices on you especially if you arent commiting wrongdoing.
This is the only information i found on here that makes sense about narcissists-- definitely some helpful info here!
So many things i can remember..
I found joy quickly, and the narcissist, when I asked if he was happy said "I don't know yet, it's only been 2 weeks." I felt happy by letting that person go do their own thing.
I have said that so many times she cannot stand to see anyone happy.
I did lose joy for so long but I have a new joy the joy of the Lord and nobody can take that away from me! It’s so empowering! That right there is sweet “revenge”
I am just reading John 16. I don’t always spot a narcissist, however through the Holy Spirit I certainly get help. It can be a gut feeling or a sense of a negativity charged atmosphere. It’s certainly a spiritual battle we are in. I have to put on the full armour of God each day. Ephesians 6:10-18. Praise the Lord Jesus Christ.
If I liked a dress, my mother would give it away. If the family cat loved me too much, she would give it away. She chased all my friends away and would make them do chores when they visited me. My siblings and I would be home together, but my mother would single me out to go work on the farm with the farm staff. Loved to humiliate me for no reason and made me her physical and emotional punching bag. My home was Hell, and my mother is the meanest person I ever met.
Wow.....I hope you're in a good place now. My parents were never parents. My mother couldn't stand me and my father was so uninterested in us all it was like he was there in body only. He died 25 years ago. All I remember is talking to him through the newspaper. He never bothered to put it down. He just wanted me to stop talking. My "family" put the "d" in dysfunctional.
These tips are so helpful and easy to digest. I look forward to the day that I am completely independent and free from the toxic narc in my life.
Outstanding video! Thanks so much.❤
You're so welcome. God bless you. 🙏🏽💕
They can’t stand to see you happy. After the friendship and relationship ends they become extremely spiteful and bitter.
This whole thing sounds like it’s right out of the twilight zone. It’s tough coming to grips with the fact that this “disorder” has been around since the dawn of man. Oh well. Glad it’s not me. Hate to be those people. Hell can have ‘em all. Hehe
Shaneen, the information you provide is unsettling and poignant! I have been challenged to repent for my selfish behavior and manipulative exhibitions. THANK YOU and God bless ❤🙌🏾
I'm liable to think I won't get a hoover because they know I know too much about the manipulation tactics. I could have avoided falling so hard I had more emotional support rather than neglect. From mom especially, instead of fawning and being afraid of the woman.
Unwilling to put in the effort required to build genuine self esteem (by doing the basics that others are willing to work on, like meditation/prayer, eating right, getting exercise, pursuing goals/hobbies, daily affirmations, etc)… NPD's gain their (fake AF) sense of self worth by crushing/collapsing the self worth of others.
So glad to hear that you’re a Christian!! Love your wisdom!
So jealous if u are happy so sick!
This is excellent. My experience exactly. Thank you !
One thing i was told after a rage when I didn't park as quick as they wanted & how they wanted that I was hopeless or something similar, i said I'm not that stupid after doing some uni. He said something about I need to learn common sense you don't get that there or similar
Yeah the idiot I live with insults is always about being stupid too. I'm like if you're so smart how come your 74 and don't have anything of your own and living with family. He has kids they don't want to be bothered. He gonna die alone once we move out he has no one to put up with his sh*t.
Hello sister Shaneen thank you for your videos very informational and being a Christian when you implement the word of God it's encouraging my faith that I made the right decision to leave and divorce the narcisssit I try to watch when I can but i work and be in school 😊🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
First video I have seen. I subscribed. Thank you
“How come everyone else gets the happy you and I always get the unhappy you?” 🤯
Great episode! Thank you!😊
Well done!, Shaneen!
The craziest example is when the spiritual narcissist will want you to pray for their “uncle, cousin’s brother-in-laws illness or go to the like’s funeral!
Lolol, misery loves company!!
Amen!
Thank you for your video!!🙏❤️🕊🌟🎶🌹💖
Thanks for providing content that glorifies God and offers practical action steps. I appreciate that you tell viewers not to be hard on themselves as they learn. I hope and pray that this message helps people regrow their happiness muscles.
Worth - Watching Multiple Times ❤
Yes, you are so on target. Our remaining sad, depressed, on edge, etc. proves to the narcissist that they are “winning” at their game of remaking and controlling us. “The joy of the Lord is my strength”. Nehemiah 8:10. “Rejoice evermore. Pray without ceasing. In everything give thanks, for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you”. 1 Thessalonians 5. Pleasing God and ignoring the narcissist works wonders!
My wife has trained me well to never share much in conversation with her. My wife is just that a spoiler, when I display much happiness or enjoyment, she seemingly has something of discouragement to say. Even our granddaughter mentioned to my wife recently that my wife is negative, no encouragement just negativity. I keep Conversations with my wife short and to the point, dull and boring. My wife dislikes any interests that I may have, any hobbies bring out an anger accusing me of not spending time with her. To make things worse my wife uses Bible verses in the attempt to put me in my place or shame me. I could go on, but this video explains it very well. My wife also uses love bombing to smooth things over, but I don't take the bait.
Thank you Shaneen, your videos are always spot on, scary in that my wife fit every category you lay out.
They mess up your family gathering , thets why i dont attend
Thank you Shaneen, your videos are always good information and great inspiration. 🙏☝♥
Thank you very much Shaneen I always took forward to your teachings..May God continue to use you
Thank you lady🎉
Really good video! Thank you! ❣️
Dear Lady, thank you for the simplicity and reality of your messages. You are helping so many of us who are or have dealt with narcissistic people in our lives. The Lord is using you to help set people free and it's a true blessing !
I'm so glad to hear that! It is my prayer. 🙏🏽
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Thank you for educating those who have been in bondage their entire lives!
We believe in God’s promises that you latter days shall be better than you former!!🙏❤️🕊🌟🎶💖🌹
I've learnt this the hard way.
Im literally dealing with this right now and for the past 1.5 yrs. where I live. Even the working out part....constantly trying to bring me down.
Its tiring and feels like its killing me.
Thanks Shaneen!
That was a super good one!
For some people being a smiling and welcoming person is being dumb 😔 So it's easier for me to smile to children
PS: I live in Paris
Same but I do it quick so the parents don't give me weird looks. Everyone is so defensive now and I don't blame them. 😕
Smile at puppies kittens, too. Ducks work too! Who can’t love a fuzz ball of cute!!!!
Thank you. I'm glad to know this
So great. Your video helps me toooooo much thanks dear.
I’m so glad to hear that! God bless you. 🙏🏽
Describes my family of origin!
Can a narcissist use a spouse to elevate themselves, manipulating everyone outside the relationship, and without "destroying" the spouse?
I'm experiencing rage myself but the reason I feel like that is not going to be addressed .. 18 yrs later
I call my sister Jezebel and she'll growl.
My covert narc mother told me how everything I was looking forward to, hoping for or even just making the best of a bad lot, would go horribly wrong and be awful. She continued to do this to me, and only me, even though I told her again and again it made me wish I was dead because what was the point of anything if it was doomed to be awful and fail? It wasn't until I finally learned what narcissistic abuse is way too late that I realised she did this to make sure I couldn't leave and would be her captive forever. The irony is her mother kept her captive too and she hated it, but denies she does it to me. Thanks to her I am 61 and have absolutely nothing . She talked me out of my only chance to buy my dream house which would be worth 10 times what I paid for it and I would fully own it now. I have to hope I can hang on until she dies for an inheritance, and she uses that to threaten me and make me her slave. Evil evil evil.
Shaneen, you nailed it again!!
Don't let the narc find that journal of accomplishments! 😳
Thank you sister 😇✌️
This is spot on, thank you!
Thank you for sharing and caring 🙏🙏🙏. Persevering in Prayers Psalms 1-150🙏👑💯👍🖐️🇯🇲🙌
Amen. 🙏🏽 💯 God bless you!