1. Tell me about you 2. Working on anything exciting recently? 3. What's your story? 4. What personal passion project are you working on right now? 5. How do you know the host? 6. What was the highlight of your day today or your week? 7. Have you been to an event like this before 8. What was the high point and low point of your day so far 9. Has this been a busy time for you 10. How is that drink/appetizer 11. Having fun? / enjoying yourself? Continue 12. What are you doing this weekend? 13. what is your fave to do during wekeend 14. What is your fave resto around here 15. Keeping up with sport/tv show/ news 16. Can u recommend cocktail/appetizer 17. All the food look good. Recommendations? 18. what a beautiful event 19. Have you seen this viral video Deep 20. If you have to pick a character who is most similar to you/choose. why 21. When you were grow up what is your dream job 22. biggest fear 23. Biggest regret 24. Role model Event specific Birthday Highlight of your last year? What you want to achieve next year?
I want to thank you for your tips about conversation starters. I used to be an extrovert. As I have grown older, it seems I have be one more introvert which has resulted in being closed off but longing for connection. It is nice to have guidance for topics to talk about because everyday topics can be limited and lacking. Thank you!
Some of those seem really vague and broad. i can see those questions being more suitable with someone i'm somewhat familiar with like a co-worker, an associate, a neighbor, but with a stranger or someone i'm trying to date, no way. me, personally, i'd get annoyed real fast. i understand conversation shouldn't be a "job interview", but i don't think there's anything wrong with the generic questions as long as you can give back. That's the real art.
I found you back in September 2018 because I needed help in a new social situation and it helped me soooo much. Now I am needing help with dealing with this other parent at school. I dont know if this is part of your scope, but I cant handle this one parent who thinks her kid is perfect, yet I see what he is *actually* like.... she's so negative and she makes me feel on edge. She's my ambivalent relationship. I have to see her everyday and talk to her but I hate it.
One of my faves is asking someone about what they're doing/holding. I love being asked that because it shows that the person takes interest in something I chose to partake in. On the flip side I get the best reactions from people when I ask that. The key is to be genuine and sincere about it.
thank you for these tips. Many times i wanted to talk with someone but i just didnt know how to start the conversation. So instead i would say nothing and hoping the other person started the converstation (most of the time they didnt). But im going to use these tips in my life and hopefully getting better at starting a conversation and keep the conversation going. Maybe make someone friends
Hey... I watch your video daily..... Your videos are really fruit ful in making great conversations.....count me as one of the followers . I am your fan
I have a question, how do I have deep conversations with my best friend/boyfriend who uses big words that alot of times I don't understand. Also he says that I'm not able to or don't hold deep convos with him. He says he don't want just about what's going on today or what happened today or movies or games. Please I need to be able to do more and need good advice. I do t want to lose this relationship. Please help me!
its_a_trab forreal? I don’t understand how this would be possible... do u just go up to someone u don’t know and the forst thing u say is “so what’s ur story”. That’s creepy af ,no?
I've asked a few people some of these questions, and they either ignore me or tell me something totally different than the answer to the question. I must have made them uncomfortable or something. But it's been kinda funny.
because I work from home, I'm really isolated. I'd like to engage more but in all honesty, being asked a million questions makes me recoil. Like off the bat I can't think of anyone really who is a role model to me etc etc. My family is one big mess that I stay away from so any questions about family is uncomfortable for me. I do like being around people if it happens gradually and organically, but being thrust into a social situation is just ugh lol
Working from home does have its ups and downs, and feeling isolated can be tough. It's completely okay to want connections to form naturally rather than feeling pushed into social situations. Maybe you could start small by engaging in online communities or forums that align with your interests. This way, you can interact at your own pace and gradually build connections without the pressure of rapid-fire questions or uncomfortable topics. 🙏🏻
It’s important to use it in the right context. Read her book on spotting cues and choosing the correct environment to use this. It could be a generational thing, too.
I actually have a whole course on conversations! It's called Conversation Mastery: www.scienceofpeople.com/training/conversation-mastery-communicate-with-confidence/ We also have a bunch of free articles on our site relating to conversation starters, such as this one: www.scienceofpeople.com/open-ended-questions/ I hope that's helpful! :)
I find your work is outstanding and easy to follow keep up the good work from Francis in Dublin. In Rep of Ireland._ I subscribed to all channels from on tude.
To most of these questions, my answer is N/A. Or, I can't think of an answer on the spot. Hence I would not ask those questions myself as the other person would answer N/A or can't think of an answer on the spot.
*25 YEARS OF MARRIAGE WITHOUT A FIGHT* A man and his wife never fought for 25 years of their marriage. A friend asked him how he had managed to make it possible. He narrated: "We went for our honeymoon in Australia 25 years ago and while riding on a horse, My wife's horse jumped and my wife fell down. She got up,patted the horse's back and said: *"This is your first time"* After a while it happened again. She patted the horse again and said: *"This is your second time"* The horse did it again the 3rd time, She brought out a gun and shot the horse dead I Was so shocked and I shouted at her. . . . . . . ."Are you crazy! What's wrong with you? Why did you kill the horse? She smiled at me and said *"This is your first time"* Since then. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . My Mouth 🤐😷🤐😷🤐😷🤐😷🤐😷🤐😷🤐😷. 😂😂😂😂😂😂
If someone is going to ask me to tell them about myself I am going to ask why. My life is a large subject and i will need to narrow it down to something specific or i will talk for hours.
I dont like most of these. If i meet someone randomly at party or work pantry, im not going to ask them "tell me about yourself" or "what personal passion projects are you working on..." those are loaded questions and seem wayy too formal for someone u just met. I am just looking for ice breakers or soft convo starts with folks i meet quickly for a quick chat at work etc I did like "working on anything exciting recently.." it seems like a normal thing to ask. Or "did you see xxx viral video?" Those are fun and light and not too deep
These questions are considered OK in America but in the rest of the world you will be considered pushy and obnoxious if you go around asking people about their ‘personal passion project’ or their ‘story’ (cringe)
I thought so too....until I realized people who I consider good conversationalist here in the "rest of world" actually ask these Obnoxious and pushy question.... which I normally don't have the guts to ask
I'm sorry, but for me these questions are way too formal for informal, non-work related occasions and would put me off. All you need to do anyway, is just find some hook, any hook. Then get the other person to talk about it and show some interest by listening and asking questions to get them to talk.
Get more conversation starters in the full article:
👉🏻www.scienceofpeople.com/conversation-starters-topics/
I am generally a good conversationalist, but sometimes I run out of subjects to converse... Thank you for providing these conversation starters.
Some of these are really good, my problem is that many times i forget these when I'm in conversation, how do you guys remember these?
Very true my dear. Everything vacates my brain
It sounds like you are with someone but your attention is on yourself. Just get curious and interested with people and you will forget about yourself.
Write them down in your phone
They say for 1 min of perfection it takes 1 hour of practice
Write them down, and read it off a notepad when you are talking to a new person. That way, there is no way they will think you're weird.
1. Tell me about you
2. Working on anything exciting recently?
3. What's your story?
4. What personal passion project are you working on right now?
5. How do you know the host?
6. What was the highlight of your day today or your week?
7. Have you been to an event like this before
8. What was the high point and low point of your day so far
9. Has this been a busy time for you
10. How is that drink/appetizer
11. Having fun? / enjoying yourself?
Continue
12. What are you doing this weekend?
13. what is your fave to do during wekeend
14. What is your fave resto around here
15. Keeping up with sport/tv show/ news
16. Can u recommend cocktail/appetizer
17. All the food look good. Recommendations?
18. what a beautiful event
19. Have you seen this viral video
Deep
20. If you have to pick a character who is most similar to you/choose. why
21. When you were grow up what is your dream job
22. biggest fear
23. Biggest regret
24. Role model
Event specific
Birthday
Highlight of your last year?
What you want to achieve next year?
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I want to thank you for your tips about conversation starters. I used to be an extrovert. As I have grown older, it seems I have be one more introvert which has resulted in being closed off but longing for connection. It is nice to have guidance for topics to talk about because everyday topics can be limited and lacking. Thank you!
I am seriously so thankful for you! I’m working on getting myself back after years of battling internal insecurities 😍
Love this but whenever someone I just met asks me what I’m doing that weekend I always feel like they’re going to try to invite themselves lol
Some of those seem really vague and broad. i can see those questions being more suitable with someone i'm somewhat familiar with like a co-worker, an associate, a neighbor, but with a stranger or someone i'm trying to date, no way. me, personally, i'd get annoyed real fast. i understand conversation shouldn't be a "job interview", but i don't think there's anything wrong with the generic questions as long as you can give back. That's the real art.
David Wilson “what’s your story”😂😂
That's much more substantial than i expected a 10-minute video would go. Thanks, V!
I found you back in September 2018 because I needed help in a new social situation and it helped me soooo much. Now I am needing help with dealing with this other parent at school. I dont know if this is part of your scope, but I cant handle this one parent who thinks her kid is perfect, yet I see what he is *actually* like.... she's so negative and she makes me feel on edge. She's my ambivalent relationship. I have to see her everyday and talk to her but I hate it.
Watching this I found out I am naturally good at this, it’s what I do. ❤️💕
Chana Vivachacha really? Have you been to an event like this before?
One of my faves is asking someone about what they're doing/holding. I love being asked that because it shows that the person takes interest in something I chose to partake in. On the flip side I get the best reactions from people when I ask that. The key is to be genuine and sincere about it.
Cool thank you for help me
Someone tell something good I want to tell my friends about self
Thanks Vanessa. These are great starters! I like the months ones.
You just nailed these down VVE. You go girl. This is real. Keep it up girl.
Restaurants, another good one. Also helps to find a good new place you've never heard of.
Thank you. informative
thank you for these tips. Many times i wanted to talk with someone but i just didnt know how to start the conversation. So instead i would say nothing and hoping the other person started the converstation (most of the time they didnt). But im going to use these tips in my life and hopefully getting better at starting a conversation and keep the conversation going. Maybe make someone friends
Good for you!! You've got this!
Thanks for these tips on conversation starters.
I learned a lot from you. Your classes worth priceless!
Very, very, very informative 👍
Finally signed up to Science of People. Love these videos Vanessa!
Awesome learning! Thank you for the info Vanessa!
This is REALLY good. I'm putting this into use immediately!
Hey...
I watch your video daily..... Your videos are really fruit ful in making great conversations.....count me as one of the followers . I am your fan
Vanessa, your videos always provide fab insights!!
Dynamic inflection & tips. Nice work!
Thank you for this teaching--you have blessed many people today!...from Grandma Bunny in Phoenix.
Great info Vanessa! You're looking great! Motherhood must agree with you!
“Tell me about you.”
That’s probably the most anxiety producing question someone can ask me 😳
Thanks Vanessa for the wow tips!👍
thank you so much, You deserve a gold medal 🥇🥇
Thank you for the kind words!
@@ScienceOfPeople my pleasure , it's the truth and you really deserve it
Amazing video. Thank you for creating such useful video.
Thank you for watching! I'm glad you enjoyed it =)
Hi Vanessa,
Thank you so much for sharing the video and so thoughtful to share questions following the calendar!!! :)
tysm for your help :)
It kinda reminds me of having a conversation with Siri 🤳🏼. Great advice!
Really like your channel, it would be cool if you did a did a live dialog with different people so we can see this first hand.
omg these are golden. Thanks!
It's my birthday OMG I'm so gonna use those conversation killers hah!
..Isn't she great? 😁😃
Great thanks from Morocco
Whenever D J Trump is speaking, I start studying his body language from the techniques Vanessa taught me 👍🏽
Vanessa is a super talented human being 🌹
Thanks Vanessa.
Captivate is an amazing book!
I totally agree. Fun to read and so much to learn.
I need to watch this again.
"What is/are your passions in life?" Has always been my go to convo-starter.
That's a great one!
omg thank you so much😍 these are amazing
superb
Hello, Class.
what a beautifull intro i love it!☺️☺️
Una gran dama que me gusta mucho no por su físico x su inteligencia y su persona muy sincera love
Hi mam Vanessa!
As soon as found I've already subscribed!
You look beautyful and sound fun!
Keep it up!
This is great 👍
I have a question, how do I have deep conversations with my best friend/boyfriend who uses big words that alot of times I don't understand. Also he says that I'm not able to or don't hold deep convos with him. He says he don't want just about what's going on today or what happened today or movies or games. Please I need to be able to do more and need good advice. I do t want to lose this relationship. Please help me!
I find that asking “so whats your story” works great too
its_a_trab forreal? I don’t understand how this would be possible... do u just go up to someone u don’t know and the forst thing u say is “so what’s ur story”. That’s creepy af ,no?
I find this question very invasive. I would need to prepare an answer so I can say something superficial.
Really? what are the replies you've gotten?
Naira Junior i wheeze
Naira Junior What can You say-
You look gorgeous, Vanessa! Being a mom look goods on you :)
Nice teacher
I've asked a few people some of these questions, and they either ignore me or tell me something totally different than the answer to the question. I must have made them uncomfortable or something. But it's been kinda funny.
amazing
The way she grouped toddlers with extroverts 😂
Your looking amazing
Thank you 💚❤💜😍
That intro was very Marie Forleo-Esk 😀
because I work from home, I'm really isolated. I'd like to engage more but in all honesty, being asked a million questions makes me recoil. Like off the bat I can't think of anyone really who is a role model to me etc etc. My family is one big mess that I stay away from so any questions about family is uncomfortable for me. I do like being around people if it happens gradually and organically, but being thrust into a social situation is just ugh lol
Working from home does have its ups and downs, and feeling isolated can be tough. It's completely okay to want connections to form naturally rather than feeling pushed into social situations. Maybe you could start small by engaging in online communities or forums that align with your interests. This way, you can interact at your own pace and gradually build connections without the pressure of rapid-fire questions or uncomfortable topics. 🙏🏻
great questions, I just feel like i dont know or am aware of myself enough to answer if they flipped it back on me
Amazing you’re Vanessa...
What's your story? Where I'm from i think itll be quite rude to ask that.
Agree.😀
It’s important to use it in the right context. Read her book on spotting cues and choosing the correct environment to use this. It could be a generational thing, too.
Then don't ask that
don't know where youre from but there must not be any irish there. what's the story and what's the Craic are the 2 ways to say how are you
😂
How do you know the host is a good one
It may not be necessary to say but you are so kind to us. So, I want to say your this shirt color is really much your....
Do you have a book on about conversations
I actually have a whole course on conversations! It's called Conversation Mastery: www.scienceofpeople.com/training/conversation-mastery-communicate-with-confidence/
We also have a bunch of free articles on our site relating to conversation starters, such as this one: www.scienceofpeople.com/open-ended-questions/
I hope that's helpful! :)
I find your work is outstanding and easy to follow keep up the good work from Francis in Dublin. In Rep of Ireland._ I subscribed to all channels from on tude.
To most of these questions, my answer is N/A. Or, I can't think of an answer on the spot. Hence I would not ask those questions myself as the other person would answer N/A or can't think of an answer on the spot.
Thanks for reminding me I don't have a meaningful life 😅
I find yes/no questions are usually dead in the water.
What if I haven't done anything exciting at the weekend, because my life sucks right now?
I have used most of these starters and I ended up having an awkward moment and to be more precise it was with friends !
*25 YEARS OF MARRIAGE WITHOUT A FIGHT*
A man and his wife
never fought for 25 years
of their marriage.
A friend asked him how he had managed to make it possible.
He narrated:
"We went for our honeymoon in Australia 25 years ago
and while riding on a horse,
My wife's horse jumped and my wife fell down.
She got up,patted the horse's back and said:
*"This is your first time"*
After a while it happened again.
She patted the horse again and said:
*"This is your second time"*
The horse did it again the 3rd time,
She brought out a gun and shot the horse dead
I Was so shocked and I shouted at her. . . . . . . ."Are you crazy! What's wrong with you?
Why did you kill the horse?
She smiled at me and said
*"This is your first time"*
Since then. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
My Mouth
🤐😷🤐😷🤐😷🤐😷🤐😷🤐😷🤐😷.
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Hilarious
That's the most mysanganistic joke I've ever heard. I would've told the bitch to shoot me if that's how she saw our marriage. But don't miss.
How can I translate these to my language so they won't be strange?
When I’m in a conversation my mind goes blank and i don’t know what to say
If someone is going to ask me to tell them about myself I am going to ask why. My life is a large subject and i will need to narrow it down to something specific or i will talk for hours.
All your conversations are based on questions.
So when i meet someone new i just need to say tell me about yourself pls?
What
I dont like most of these. If i meet someone randomly at party or work pantry, im not going to ask them "tell me about yourself" or "what personal passion projects are you working on..." those are loaded questions and seem wayy too formal for someone u just met. I am just looking for ice breakers or soft convo starts with folks i meet quickly for a quick chat at work etc
I did like "working on anything exciting recently.." it seems like a normal thing to ask. Or "did you see xxx viral video?" Those are fun and light and not too deep
I can't bear being in a room with people who don't talk I always say nothing to break the ice.
Hi am working with u in the Same building but u never noticed me before...any way what's your greatest fear bumkin ?
I would hate it if someone asked me these questions 😕 sounds like an interrogation
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The term "personal passion project" might make the question sound contrived and unnatural.
These questions are considered OK in America but in the rest of the world you will be considered pushy and obnoxious if you go around asking people about their ‘personal passion project’ or their ‘story’ (cringe)
I thought so too....until I realized people who I consider good conversationalist here in the "rest of world" actually ask these Obnoxious and pushy question.... which I normally don't have the guts to ask
so what do u actually ask lol this is like saying smthing and nothing at the same time
@@deathb3rry
If someone said “tell me about you” I would have no idea what to say! 😂😂😂 it’s way too open ended!!
"how long did you believe in the easter bunny?"
what's there to know about the easter bunny?!......................
Fake quistion well be noticed by other people ,you should talk about what you doing in the moment and interests ....
I'm sorry, but for me these questions are way too formal for informal, non-work related occasions and would put me off. All you need to do anyway, is just find some hook, any hook. Then get the other person to talk about it and show some interest by listening and asking questions to get them to talk.
Wanna check out the back of my van?
How do you shut an extrovert up!!!
She started with an opener I'm personally appalled by when used on me. "Tell me about yourself". Ugh...stop
Most of these sound phoney.
These are stupid.
"what's your story?" in direct translation to Hebrew, becomes something you say to someone who annoyed you haha :)
Are you busy
No do you want the price list
This is my nightmare
Tell a woman this. I like those shoes you have on. 😙 then. I have a pair just like them . . Bam if the laugh. That’s a start.