*I understand now!* The guy who doesn’t count is like one who spends time washing his hands after they get dirty. But the guy who counts is like one who gets his hands dirty and then tries to see how long he can go without getting more dirt on his hands. and then ends up never getting all the dirt off his hands.
An approach I like is Self Psychoanalysis : I believe there is something from childhood & adolescence that need to be addressed. Something internal that damaged the psyche, and from that, a set of limiting beliefs were born in the subconscious. One of those is the inability to break the patterns. And another is something that you accepted to be true about yourself, an insecurity or a defeat from the past - you must bring in forth and make peace with it/them.. It's like retracing your steps back to when your problem first began, what problems were you going through?? Something you still haven't' dealt with, or didn't deal with effectively... Your brain is there to HELP YOU SURVIVE. Physical pain actually starts in the mind, and that pain is telling your brain there is danger you need to get away from. Look for what is causing your pain, it most likely will be more than one thing. As a teenager there are lots of biological changes going on, along with anxiety and depression (emotional pain). - And AGAIN, your brain is there to help you, it tries to figure any way possible to make you feel better and to heal the pain. Your brain is a problem solver, and sometimes it doesn't come up with the best solutions. Sometimes it finds ways to deal with the problem only MOMENTARILY. From what I've learned, it is important to bring everything with this problem forth to your conscious mind and THINK about what's going on in your mind don't run away from it, face your problems. Talk about the urges, before, during, and after. How will you feel after? Is the rest of the day/night feeling down about "relapsing" worth those 5 or 6 seconds of orgasm? I also don't believe that these streaks help any. You're just running away from your problems, just like any negative addiction. Masturbation is just a symptom of your actual problems, that are hiding beneath the surface. An ideal goal would be to be able to look at porn or think about it without jacking off, to have control of your impulses.. So that way you overcome any fears of a "relapse"... It goes deeper than just the act of masturbating and watching pornography, there is something in your life that you REALLY need to fix - do it because your life depends on it. Nothing just happens over night, it takes time.. Good Luck!! ✊🏽
10 years i had social anxiety & depression worse , now 6 month remaining abstained from pmo .social anxiety & depression gone i think i have got my child hood very happy life 😀
I'm 36. Been married for 7 years. Wife is 38, No kids been trying for a while. Daily PMO, regularly PIED or delayed with the wife. Emotional balance and productivity is completely outta wack. Did a 30 day streak after a tramatizing PIED experience when we were timing conception, unable to perform.. Recently relapsed about 3-4 times. Depressed and and feeling powerless.
I needed this slap in the face. I'm so glad I found you and you're doing this, I'm very grateful. And I'm glad that you keep it real. Very good video. I wish you the best.
More brothers need to go back and watch more videos you've uploaded. You've addressed counting days in a video on it's own and mention it in even more. That happy porn addict video I've watched 5 times just last week and there are others I've seen multiple times because there's so much to learn and tips that will help you each and everyday.
@11:48 That’s sooo true. The one who counts is counting to an image. That’s how I was, and my mindset was: “If I reach this certain day, then all my problems will be solved.” It was like some magical day that would change everything and I would sit around and just take a peep at the calendar ever hour. But now that I don’t count, I notice that I focus more on myself as time moves on and I don’t sit around and wait for a magical day. @13:55 FACTS I feel like I’m looking at the symptoms of porn that affect my life and noticing if they are present or not and how I can deal with them instead of days ever since I stopped counting days.
I put so much emphasis on counting days, on recovering from pied, on never slipping, and on quitting porn being my sole focus in life that I actually ended up worse than ever because every slip absolutely devastated me. I remember when I first realized it was an issue I was focused on other things in my life, I would stop for a month with ease, but then somewhere along the line I became consumed in this cycle of constantly thinking about this problem. I mean I just flat out stopped doing everything, and lived in isolation at my parents house worrying and thinking about the impact porn was having on my life every single day. I can remember 2 years ago I tried to get with this girl and couldnt perform, and it became the only thing I thought about, that and and counting my time away from porn and masturbation by the hour. I then experienced the most awful event of my life shortly after, and man if I would have just followed a system all of this pain, depression, wasted time, trauma, and mental and emotional distress could have been avoided. Anxiety is now my biggest issue, but it all started because I ripped my fucking self apart over this one issue. I am still only 24. I still have a chance. When I recover I'll help a lot of people.
Today I get the message deeply J. K. . Today I get it. It is something internal that I should be working on like loneliness, being introvert due to porn, not studying a given field due to porn. Thank you. And thank you UA-cam for putting up the question. It is not a counting game for one half years, it is recovery of my inner self to original self of Batman and Ellen DeGeneres and working on it with discipline every day to get there. Cause time is passing anyway. It is porn reboot.
Bro, thank you so much for this. Every time I slipped up I would get depressed and fill my mind with shame because I thought it was the end of the world after going 30 days and slipping up. I had to give it up and focus on recovery. I stopped having relationships because I put so much weight on porn.
40 years old and 1 thing iv always been able to do is fail and learn fail again but i do know the brain can be rewired it also really builds ur will power beyond what u think u can handle it really creates the essence of what ur made off.And now to have the education and tools got this bro !!!!:)
Thanks for the talk and message you had at the end which was "screw the reboot I need to focus on other things in life and fix those right now" talk JK it gave me new insight. I kept beating myself up over relapses and going back to willpower. That will change now.
This hit home for me JK, you just described the exact mindset I've had all this time and made me see a much bigger picture of things. I even slipped some days after I posted that comment in your video and thought the same thing you mentioned: "Fuck this reboot, this is bullshit, I'm gonna get my shit together". This was incredible man, I felt like you were my father speaking directly to me and made me cry during this. Thank you for addressing my comment. I love you man.
Thanks for the rebuke coach jk. I am a certified counter which yes I agree with you sucks because I have this imaginary timeline that doesnt exist. Now I have relapsed on porn this month after 60 plus days of not doing porn. Its a good thing that you gave us real concrete tips against porn.
I’m frightened. Very frightened. some terrible things have happened. my choices and direction were seriously affected by my habits, mainly alcohol and porn variations.
Don’t give up! Ask God for help sometimes you need more than yourself to beat a horrible self destructive addiction. Good video thanks . We all have a purpose in life and a mission here , we were not created to stare at a screen 📺 and watch other people have intercourse. When you realize how messed up the whole act is it’s easier to stop . Porn should be banned it’s ruining society and many lives and relationships .
@@ElevatedRecovery system... What is a system i don't understand You say after slip relapse it's not affect But reality is after relapsed again health problems and other so it's all complex Yes you are great jk amezing perso
@@ElevatedRecovery i have no money I'm from India and Indian currency converter doller .. Jk I'm not give you exquse to joine program money...i said truth I'm in very poor area
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🤣 Anyways great video on a good topic brother it’s a big help.
Lol 😂I cant help myself, brother. I'm passionate about it!
PornReboot I enjoy the longer videos they’re awesome 🤣 it’s nice that you care about us
@@ElevatedRecovery Keep talking coach your awesome.
*I understand now!*
The guy who doesn’t count is like one who spends time washing his hands after they get dirty.
But the guy who counts is like one who gets his hands dirty and then tries to see how long he can go without getting more dirt on his hands. and then ends up never getting all the dirt off his hands.
Holy shit that is a great metaphor right there
This is the best video I’ve seen on this subject in the last 8 years of dealing with this. Thank you man
Welcome to porn reboot.
Thank you for the kind words, brother!
An approach I like is Self Psychoanalysis :
I believe there is something from childhood & adolescence that need to be addressed. Something internal that damaged the psyche, and from that, a set of limiting beliefs were born in the subconscious. One of those is the inability to break the patterns. And another is something that you accepted to be true about yourself, an insecurity or a defeat from the past - you must bring in forth and make peace with it/them.. It's like retracing your steps back to when your problem first began, what problems were you going through?? Something you still haven't' dealt with, or didn't deal with effectively...
Your brain is there to HELP YOU SURVIVE. Physical pain actually starts in the mind, and that pain is telling your brain there is danger you need to get away from. Look for what is causing your pain, it most likely will be more than one thing. As a teenager there are lots of biological changes going on, along with anxiety and depression (emotional pain). - And AGAIN, your brain is there to help you, it tries to figure any way possible to make you feel better and to heal the pain. Your brain is a problem solver, and sometimes it doesn't come up with the best solutions. Sometimes it finds ways to deal with the problem only MOMENTARILY.
From what I've learned, it is important to bring everything with this problem forth to your conscious mind and THINK about what's going on in your mind don't run away from it, face your problems. Talk about the urges, before, during, and after. How will you feel after? Is the rest of the day/night feeling down about "relapsing" worth those 5 or 6 seconds of orgasm?
I also don't believe that these streaks help any. You're just running away from your problems, just like any negative addiction. Masturbation is just a symptom of your actual problems, that are hiding beneath the surface.
An ideal goal would be to be able to look at porn or think about it without jacking off, to have control of your impulses.. So that way you overcome any fears of a "relapse"... It goes deeper than just the act of masturbating and watching pornography, there is something in your life that you REALLY need to fix - do it because your life depends on it. Nothing just happens over night, it takes time..
Good Luck!! ✊🏽
10 years i had social anxiety & depression worse , now 6 month remaining abstained from pmo .social anxiety & depression gone i think i have got my child hood very happy life 😀
Congratulations !
PornReboot thank you
I'm 36. Been married for 7 years. Wife is 38, No kids been trying for a while.
Daily PMO, regularly PIED or delayed with the wife. Emotional balance and productivity is completely outta wack.
Did a 30 day streak after a tramatizing PIED experience when we were timing conception, unable to perform..
Recently relapsed about 3-4 times. Depressed and and feeling powerless.
I needed this slap in the face. I'm so glad I found you and you're doing this, I'm very grateful. And I'm glad that you keep it real. Very good video. I wish you the best.
More brothers need to go back and watch more videos you've uploaded. You've addressed counting days in a video on it's own and mention it in even more. That happy porn addict video I've watched 5 times just last week and there are others I've seen multiple times because there's so much to learn and tips that will help you each and everyday.
You are absolutely right. Thank you for watching the videos and learning the system!
@11:48 That’s sooo true. The one who counts is counting to an image. That’s how I was, and my mindset was: “If I reach this certain day, then all my problems will be solved.” It was like some magical day that would change everything and I would sit around and just take a peep at the calendar ever hour. But now that I don’t count, I notice that I focus more on myself as time moves on and I don’t sit around and wait for a magical day.
@13:55 FACTS I feel like I’m looking at the symptoms of porn that affect my life and noticing if they are present or not and how I can deal with them instead of days ever since I stopped counting days.
I put so much emphasis on counting days, on recovering from pied, on never slipping, and on quitting porn being my sole focus in life that I actually ended up worse than ever because every slip absolutely devastated me. I remember when I first realized it was an issue I was focused on other things in my life, I would stop for a month with ease, but then somewhere along the line I became consumed in this cycle of constantly thinking about this problem. I mean I just flat out stopped doing everything, and lived in isolation at my parents house worrying and thinking about the impact porn was having on my life every single day. I can remember 2 years ago I tried to get with this girl and couldnt perform, and it became the only thing I thought about, that and and counting my time away from porn and masturbation by the hour. I then experienced the most awful event of my life shortly after, and man if I would have just followed a system all of this pain, depression, wasted time, trauma, and mental and emotional distress could have been avoided. Anxiety is now my biggest issue, but it all started because I ripped my fucking self apart over this one issue. I am still only 24. I still have a chance. When I recover I'll help a lot of people.
Today I get the message deeply J. K. . Today I get it. It is something internal that I should be working on like loneliness, being introvert due to porn, not studying a given field due to porn. Thank you.
And thank you UA-cam for putting up the question.
It is not a counting game for one half years, it is recovery of my inner self to original self of Batman and Ellen DeGeneres and working on it with discipline every day to get there. Cause time is passing anyway. It is porn reboot.
Bro, thank you so much for this. Every time I slipped up I would get depressed and fill my mind with shame because I thought it was the end of the world after going 30 days and slipping up. I had to give it up and focus on recovery. I stopped having relationships because I put so much weight on porn.
It’s not easy. But I would say that if you’re 20, and worrying about what will happen (if you don’t quit), you get the idea.
40 years old and 1 thing iv always been able to do is fail and learn fail again but i do know the brain can be rewired it also really builds ur will power beyond what u think u can handle it really creates the essence of what ur made off.And now to have the education and tools got this bro !!!!:)
Thanks for the talk and message you had at the end which was "screw the reboot I need to focus on other things in life and fix those right now" talk JK it gave me new insight. I kept beating myself up over relapses and going back to willpower. That will change now.
This hit home for me JK, you just described the exact mindset I've had all this time and made me see a much bigger picture of things.
I even slipped some days after I posted that comment in your video and thought the same thing you mentioned: "Fuck this reboot, this is bullshit, I'm gonna get my shit together".
This was incredible man, I felt like you were my father speaking directly to me and made me cry during this.
Thank you for addressing my comment. I love you man.
Love you too, man. Don't be too hard on yourself brother.
TRRRRUUUEE FACTS IN THIS!!! Sharing to friends and fam for sure.
Another great video! You're highly underrated.
spent alot of years to medicate with it and iv learned that doesn't help at all this is a blessing
Thank you very much. Yes 15 yes of pornography, 4 Times job losing and now 40 ! I must end that cycle !
Thanks for the rebuke coach jk. I am a certified counter which yes I agree with you sucks because I have this imaginary timeline that doesnt exist. Now I have relapsed on porn this month after 60 plus days of not doing porn. Its a good thing that you gave us real concrete tips against porn.
When i have the money i will surely join your program.
We will be waiting for you!
I’m frightened. Very frightened.
some terrible things have happened.
my choices and direction were seriously affected by my habits, mainly alcohol and porn variations.
There is hope, brother. Don’t let the fear consume you. It’s not too late or impossible to regain control.
1 million $ worth video 👍Thanks
Wow, this is really helpful, thank you very much man
The most useful 23 minutes I have spent this month
Awesome thoughts! Thanks for this. Your effort is greatly appreciated because you regulay upload these videos.
Thank you for the kind words and thank you for watching!
God bless you JK. Keep being real!
Thank you for your advice .JK
Continue dude your channel really help;)
Thank you for watching!
all i needed was the tools ......i know i will not slip....
Don’t give up! Ask God for help sometimes you need more than yourself to beat a horrible self destructive addiction. Good video thanks . We all have a purpose in life and a mission here , we were not created to stare at a screen 📺 and watch other people have intercourse. When you realize how messed up the whole act is it’s easier to stop . Porn should be banned it’s ruining society and many lives and relationships .
All of this video is kino information. Cheers.
Which therepy would work
I am struggling with relapses nd p**n as always inside jzt it makes the xcuses nd trick to do it nd Im goin to turn 22 yrs really worried about it😕😓
I wish I could chat with you 1 on 1
You talk very complex dude....
What so complex ?
@@ElevatedRecovery system... What is a system i don't understand
You say after slip relapse it's not affect
But reality is after relapsed again health problems and other so it's all complex
Yes you are great jk amezing perso
@@sinh1372 you’ve followed me for a long time, brother. Why haven’t you joined the program yet?
@@ElevatedRecovery i have no money I'm from India and Indian currency converter doller .. Jk I'm not give you exquse to joine program money...i said truth I'm in very poor area
@@sinh1372 we have lots of brothers in our program from India. We even have a program FOR brothers from India.