Loneliness Part 1: Are You Lonely
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- Опубліковано 16 січ 2022
- Are you lonely and struggling with feelings of loneliness? If you are, then this series is dedicated to the purpose of bringing loving insight and nurture to what you are going through.
I have found that believers in Christ are not immune from experiencing loneliness. Loneliness is something believers face and it's time to get real about it.
Many men and women of God over the centuries have faced the pain that comes along with loneliness. Some experienced loneliness because of the pain, suffering and struggle they were experiencing in life. They felt lonely in their battles.
Others experienced loneliness when they took a stand for what is right. Many have gone through seasons of depression, where loneliness became magnified.
Loneliness can leave an ache in the heart that does not go away with a snap of the fingers. While you can mask it, try to hide it or even simply manage it for the meantime, so many of my brothers and sisters are expressing their struggle of wrestling with loneliness.
This subject is no stranger to me, as I have to face those feelings, which have led me to look at my journey in a way that would help me navigate struggles with loneliness. I have felt lonely when there were people around me. I have also had seasons where I have felt content even though there didn’t seem to be anyone around.
So I speak to this subject as someone who has navigated this subject in many different ways and stages. I continue to learn and grow in what it means to work through aspects of loneliness.
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My experience of loneliness is over spiritualizing it. “Oh you shouldn’t be lonely, pray that spirit away”
Oh yes! I totally feel you with this one.
Me too! Then I’ll be reminded that He was a man of sorrows, aquatinted with grief.
Yea, like being a Christian is a magic fix and we shouldn’t ever have human feelings anymore..
We are Wired to need God...and we're wired to need others...that's why we are to Love one another
Mark you have been such a blessing to me over the past few weeks since I discovered you. I am alone aside from a few church friends for which I am grateful. I wake up (grateful I fall asleep; I didn’t sleep for almost 3 months after my engagement ended) at 4am & am consumed with anxiety so I listen to your videos & when I’m able to get the fortitude to get up I read a psalm & proverb & pray. I’m ordering your audio books, I’m a mailman so I have a lot of time to listen. Thank you so much I pray for you & your family to be blessed beyond measure.
I actually think I would of committed suicide if it wasn't for you. I am starting my journey and self nurture is Soo good. I still feel empty and lonely but it's a journey. Thank you Mark for being a blessing. It's just like you are sitting next to me.
I know exactly how you feel. Hold on out there
We love you , and we are here for you
I’m glad you’re doing better! We’re here for you!
It's my heart's cry that people hear and see what I am sharing as a brother sitting next to you, so this adds joy to my heart to know that.
Glad you're still with us
Being lonely within a relationship is one of the most lonely feelings. I think it's disconnection. Just because we are with people doesn't mean we feel connected to them and that is very sad and lonely. A little validation goes a long way. Thank you. And yes, I am very lonely and have been for years. I am experiencing the opposite of all I need is Jesus. I just want Jesus and not people so much bc they have been so disappointing and hurtful. (Yes, I admit I need others but I haven't really found anyone who is safe.)
I can relate to how you feel Lady Esther. I am being' revisited ' by a deep sense of loneliness , thinking or hoping the worst has gone. Though currently this bout or season is not as severe as many past experiences ( which were a like a living hell at times ) it's set me back . 64 years young and my mental/emotional state feels like little has improved with age.
The social media and all its hi tech trappings has not made conversing with people any easier . I thought and hoped the recent 2 years of lockdown madness would have brought new online 'friends' to share life with; but quite the opposite has happened.
I asked around online with some USA churches about possible contacts to get to know but nothing. I'm in England and was interested in how Americans were coping. Well , I got that kind of information from utube but it's not one on one conversation exchange.
Anyway . Because of my short attention span I have to relisten to part one of ' Loniliness ' again and again . It's amazing and scary how my mind wanders off so easily.
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Thank you for beeing there for us. God kept me giving videos of yours, but I kept ignoring them. I became performance driven and forgot about the Love of God. But finally I have to admitt, that God wanted speak to me through your videos right from the start. Thank you Mark. And thank you Abba Father ❤️
Same
I'm sure this message will help many. I've experienced loneliness throughout my life a lot! Only recently am I noticing I'm feeling less alone & I know it's mostly a result of you, your books & ministry & God working through you to help others. Sometimes I almost pinch myself to know it's true that I've come to this point in my journey... there is hope for us all. I still have much to overcome & heal but I'm truly not the same as I was. I give God the glory for all He's doing & for how He uses you to equip & heal others. Your name fits you well... DeJesus.... of Jesus. 🙏🙌
Thank you Donna. It is very meaningful to read what you've shared here.
Thanks Mark. I hope it might encourage someone else... look forward to hearing the rest of this message 😊
Let me guesss.... this is going to be another banger!! 😅 also HAPPY belated- BIRTHDAY
Thank you!
Mark you are God-sent. Thank you for this.
It’s so funny this series has been popping up in my notifications for the past 2 weeks but I brushed it off because I wasn’t experiencing anything with loneliness.. my husband just began academy to be a police officer while I work from home full time. As hard as I knew it was going to be I didn’t anticipate how lonely I would feel. It’s like God set this up just for me.. so funny.
The ache of loneliness. 😢
Bible say don't put your confidence in man because he is hopeless, trust God always he is faithful...I don't count on man for anything..he cannot.always provide even when they are ment to by God .
Timely. 💔 Thank-you ❤️
Here Here, Thanks Mark!
Thank you Brother. I agree, it does help me when you share about an issue that I'm currently dealing with. It makes me feel like I'm not alone.
Thank you Mark for being so grounded and such a good source of knowledge. It’s really helped my walk with God :)
Thank you SO MUCH for this Mark. I've experienced that the christians shouldn't feel lonely thing since we have God thing, and felt so defeated like something was wrong with me and my faith. You called out so many things here. No quick prayer thing ever worked.
I'm definitely at the place where you recommended, to allow myself to feel and relate to myself in a whole new way, with God's guidance, trial and error. Thank you SO MUCH.
Love your work. Thank you Mark!
I'm fear of being alone and I'm fear of losing the will to live
Thank you Mark. As usual your videos are absolutely spot on! And helping us in ways we can’t access from anywhere else. You are able to deliver revelation. A true inspiration and gift from God. Always forever grateful 🙏🌟
Appreciate that!
It's not loneliness, but the absence of a physical partner that can respond to you more than just being present.
Thank you Pastor Mark for everything you’re addressing in the body of Christ. I’ll keep you in my prayers . Your teachings are showing us layers of spiritual warfare that are never taught . God bless you and your wife and family . Abrazos hermano
It makes me mad that God created me to “ be with people or friends and love “ and I’m lonely . It makes me feel that I’m doing something wrong as a believer or like other people had told me is that it’s because you are in sin and you need to surrender and blah blah blah 😒
I suggest talking to God about it. Do you desire to socialize with other people?
Hey bro, it's all good. You are unconditionally accepted by God no matter what you do. I have this struggle as well. But when you learn (which is a journey and takes a while) to accept God's unconditional love, you will want to love others. I am also lonely alot, I understand a lot but need experience in the heart. Be kind to yourself, to love others is to love yourself first, see yourself how God sees you. Once you learn to tap into His love, you will surrender. I love you and be good to yourself, beating yourself up doesn't help. God Bless.
@@ssjnat5912 I honestly appreciate the fact that you understand my feelings and that I’m the only one , i was rejected from important people first started my dad , that leads me to self hatred that It’s really hard to believe that God loves me and specially the way I am , when I see my life and my circumstances, I wonder “ what do I have to do to so that God can change me and my life, why I don’t have friends or a partner ?“ When ever I pray about it to God, it’s like talking to the wind because nothing change and it has been YEARS that leads me to adiccion ( porn and masturbating)
@@mariovasquez7672 I can understand for you, not feel because I am numb. I too have experience what you have experienced. Rejection from mum and dad and I'm 15. It's not the straight in the face rejection but emotional and sometimes verbal rejection and condemnation. It's sad how your own loved ones can damage your life and make you feel suicidal. I experience some struggle with porn, not to say that I am dominated by it but I don't want to put confidence in my flesh. It's alright bro, God understands everything. There have been moments in my life where I just didn't want to go anymore, where the loneliness hit all time and I just wanted to die. I am starting to self nurture and I can see the big hole in my heart and the numbness. God will peal your heart layer by layer. He will do it when your ready. Because I don't think many of us can handle all the pain in our heart at once. The worst thing ever is rejection. You could be sitting next to someone you love and not care at all. I am saying this through numbness so please don't think I have it all together as well. I just don't want to be prideful because numbness makes me feel that way. Love you bro.
On a journey towards victory!
Wow! How brave to address this topic. thank you so much for your insight and being willing to share.
This video is very relatable. So many good points. I have found meaningful relationships on the internet but social media has led to a widespread atrophy of social skills in everyday life. I pursued Christianity in recovery because I wanted to live in a prayer bomb shelter, but as I progress in recovery I realized many of the skills require practice with others. I try to frame every interaction as an opportunity. I'm also trying to embrace my season of loneliness as an opportunity to develop my calling. I wanted a partner and lots of relationships to appear normal because I thought I was supposed to. Nowadays I'm trying to accept the flow of my life and be thankful for what I have. This channel is on my gratitude list daily.
Thanks so very much, Mark! And thanks for making such a great video on this topic I knew I was right in my own assessments regarding my own horrible loneliness. Thank God I found your video as a wonderful confirmation of sorts. I knew I wasn't crazy. The challenge now is to rid myself of this mental pestilence. I hope I can. Take it easy.
Bless you Brother Mark. Thank you for this. It's so healing.
Wow this is right on time for me! Did it expect my year to start like this but thankfully for these videos to help me navigate this with God.
Too bad all the people commenting can’t start a zoom discussion or something…
Thank you Mark...for being real and simply clear and really talking so we can breathe !! i grew up in extreme neglect and abuse. Loneliness for me was the worst feeling ever..they kept me isloated....so it has taken long to learn how to connect.
same.. learning how to heal that loneliness now..
Thanks so much big help for me
Everything bows down to Jesus he is above it all , we above it with him.
Praise Jesus for ur videos. Just seeing this today. Thank u for these teachings
I think loneliness is the desire to share happiness and love with others, but you feel you can't, because - like you say - it's an interpetation, not reality. It's a distortion. And I think the cure starts from relating to yourself and to God from a place of truth and seeing those relationships how they ought to be seen.
Incomoatibility produces a lot of loneliness because you interpret it as "im not compatible with this person therefore I can't connect". When really what's needed is n accurate picture of real love and patience with both yourself and others. And it's all rooted in reinforcing the empowering messages of God's love and acceptance to you.
Thanks
The silence in my flat is deafening...
I'm in a recliner most of my life..
I'm disabled in chronic pain #invisible
Silence will end me off, I swear.... 😭
I'm sorry to hear that Dovegirl. Do you have family and friends to break the silence ?
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@@keithawhosoever5384 hi sorry just seen reply. I am in block of flats alone... no family locally. I do online church but sad as can't go there as USA!
As you get older, ppl are in their groups, cliques and don't seem to need new people. Bless you for asking!
@@peacefuldoves you can't feel like that in JESUS name you have to connect to JESUS and El SHADDAI and connect with the Church people in person ask people to come over and or take you out .....don't be shy?
✅ very good video
I understand currently experiencing this
Im without human around me. When I pray sometimes God sinds someone but not always.
I’m a grateful believer and never felt so alone as I do now. I have no brothers or sisters, no children, no wife or girlfriend, no friends that I could actually call and they be there for me. I really don’t know what to do anymore because I can’t take much more. I’ve prayed about this for years and it seems worse.
Hi Terry, thank you for sharing your situation. I am praying for you. Please don't give up.
You are not the only person feeling that way.
Lord bless, comfort and help this precious man! I have also felt this way!
Hi Terry, just read your post and I can relate to you, a lot. And wondering hoe you're doing. I pray for you 🙏
Terry, I am the same way. You're not alone in this. I'm going through it too 😪
It may or may not help, but I could have written basically the same. Sometimes I think one morning I just won't wake up. Nobody would know for quite some time. Maybe with age it just seems so less likely to "start over".
Amen 🙏🏽
60% of my life feels alot like lonliness. I have video game addiction and im trying to get off of it again.
God's word is by his spirit
I am soooooooo lonely... 40 year old virgin, no job, feeling depress and anxiety, no woman wants me 😭😭😭😭
Dont you worry! Paul was also single , and it is a blessing. Stay on the path with God and then God maybe wants to introduce you to a beautiful wife.
Whats the deal with this void in my heart?
Jesus !
I think it's rude to to call people lonely.i don't do it personally because honestly they are created for relationship that's how come they mite get like that.
No not true I have a disabled brother I care for, we have lonely holidays, we lost everybody, 😢 we are truly lonely