Loneliness Part 2: What’s Influencing Your Lonely Feelings?
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- Опубліковано 14 жов 2024
- If you are experiencing deep loneliness, today I want to talk about the factors that can influence your lonely feelings and talk through some of the issues of the heart that can magnify and intensify loneliness.
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I’m a pastor who watched my ten year old son die right in front of me and I want to thank you Mark for your insight into Job. The degree of loneliness that followed cannot be put into words . Thank you for emphasizing the truth of how Christians think they have all the answers . So much damage is done out of good intentions. So many look for Gods input but fail in seeing how God sat in silence with Job until it was time to speak. We need to learn so much regarding the skill and wisdom of listening. Psalm 40 speaks powerfully regarding this . Thank you Mark and may the father of lights keep using you to pour the oil into so many wounds .
I moved 1,600 miles away, going through a divorce, AND left an abusive church. No wonder I am so lonely 🤦🏻♀️
Sounds terrible. I hope this year gets better. I put myself in your shoes and it hurts. I’m sorry.
12:42 Yes. You're not allowed to be a depressed Christian. I can relate to what you are saying.
I’m actually lonely BECAUSE I’m married. No connection. But mostly it stays below the surface. Sometimes it pops up for several days and I am devastated for a while, and God draws me in closer. I am also lonely even though I go to Celebrate Recovery each week. I just don’t have a totally deep, comfortable relationship like I used to have with a couple friends I had in my youth. But anyhow, being married does not cure it.
I can’t like this enough…. Soooo true… I call them WMCs… been one myself - (well meaning Christians) 🤦🏼♀️ thank you Mark!
Thanks Lori!
I've been really harsh lately with my kids & everyone. I'm tired. I want a better year & I'm hard on myself.
I had anorexia back in the early 80's and was put in isolation for 2 year as a 10 year old in an adult psychiatric hospital 200 kms from my family. I was cut off from moving air, sunlight, sound and everything but a pillow, sheet, mattress, and bed. The fixed mirror was covered and the taps removed from the basin. My door with a window was switched out for a solid oak one. The worst thing was not only did I not have physical touch from the nurses they were also trained to keep their voices neutral and not give me eye contact. I now live in Sydney Australia in what was a "hard lock down zone" for 6 months. We had helicopters tracking us on our 1 hour excercise per day quota and police everywhere. It was hell, but I think my childhood experience helped me cope better than a lot of my friends who had family or flatmates. Both situations - isolation, punishment & reward "therapy" and covid lock downs amount to nothing short of torture.
Hi Vicki, how horrible what you went through as a child. I have no experience with anorexia, but I've been lonely, alone, isolated through my whole life. Which in turn, made it easier for me to deal with the lockdowns than those who had to go without contact. I certainly wouldn't have thought that it could ever be a blessing in my life.
Oh my goodness when you talked about having creative leanings that your parents didn’t know what to do with...so relevant. Close disclosure my father was and is an addict and my mother just worked so much for us. So this first part is hitting home.
Thanks for beeing part of my painfull journey. I receive what you said. God bless you. 🙏❤️
Same here.
Gosh this is soo good! ❤️
Thanks Mark !!!!
I have defintley been a "Jobs friend". For me it comes from a sense of, if I don't say or do something this person might be doomed. Its a sense of over - responsibility and fear.
Every single one of your videos resonate with me and truly help me in my own personal journey of healing. They breathe life and I love your gentle approach in healing being a process. I can't thank you enough for what you do to help others!
These messages are so incredibly affirming, and they're changing my entire perspective on my relationship with myself and with God. I need to be so much more affirming and view myself from a place of God actually accepting me in the midst of all the things I could never understand. That I'm accepted. That I'm loved. That I can relax. That God has this. That I need to be patient. That living in His love is the best state of mind I can be in. I need to see God in every task at hand and fall in love with the process of living knowing that Gods upholding me in love and acceptance. I get so future and past oriented so I'm always self judging while worrying about what's to come. Rather than joyfully living in the present and joyfully anticipating what God has next, I'm always in a state of self condemnation and dread. I want to be empowered not to be this way. Because I am so needy as a result. I seek connections no one is willing to give. When I could be connecting with God through what's happening in each moment. Whether alone or not.
Appreciate what you are doing, stay strong brother in teaching the topics you are teaching and don't get carried away by false teachings like many 'teachers' are.
Very deep insights. I had to laugh because as a youth I was often separated from my group for goofing around. I've heard that a college student has a 50% better chance of succeeding if they have even one friend. The bit about feeling separate from the group because of not agreeing with the ideology is something it's taken me this long to learn. I couldn't understand why I felt frustrated in groups and felt alone, and that was a major player. Now I'm working to forgive them and giving myself permission to leave. Which also opens the door to look for other opportunities.
THANKS!
I always felt different because when I was in high school I was going through my religious OCD many times and I went to a seculiar high school so others would not understand that. I could not talk to school counselors because they did not understand. My parents knew I was a worrier but the person that helped me the most was my pastors wife. yet I was always needing help from her it seemed. I did not go to my parents because part of me felt I could not trust their answer or they would not understand. I felt she did as they had a daughter who dealt with worry. Yes I did feel a lone many times in life like my battles were so much worse than other peoples yet that was not true.
I was lonely as a child the love was conditional I was afraid of my mother, suffered aot of emotional distress as a child which came through my whole life causing episodes of manor depression mental hospitals, unmarried, chronic insomnia loneliness BUT still here.
Thank you so much for your insight.
I don't feel lonely anymore, because I became numb to the pain.
You mentioned how being raised by a narcissistic father. I was. I wonder how that has really affected me.
How do we sit with others without enabling their inner victim?
What about people who suffered through holocaust .Their belongings were stolen .they suffered loss of family and many survivors had nothing
✅ good video