I always knew that help from others wouldn’t change shit, it’s only me who knows what to do and where to help. Especially some random rich dude can’t help you, it’s about you outgrowing yourself, not growing with them.
My interpretation may be wrong, but in a sense, searching for help is important when trying to help one-self. Most times, we can fall into our own biases by thinking that our solution is efficient or effective towards our goals (such as covering our insecurities that affect our life un general). You can only help yourself in the context of Identifying the problem you are facing, but when you don't have the knowledge or methods to seek for a viable solution for said problem, seeking for information to do so is a viable alternative. Yet again, this is my own interpretation in response to the quote you just cited, so i'm open to any feedback or clarifications.
@@Koon183What I gathered from George Carlin's quote is that everyone's lives are different. And whatever helped the author of the self help book, be it self confidence or discipline, might not work for you. Because everyone reacts to situations differently. If I am self help guru who tells you meditation helped me in making me a better person, its because it made me a better person. But maybe the key to make you being a better person is MMA or reducing your screen time. In the end, all of us have our demons and fears, each are different and specific, and require specific solutions, but self help books usually aren't that specific. Because self help gurus can't read our minds to know what our demons are. I agree that sometimes you need help from others when trying to help oneself, but I feel the help has to be more than just a book or video. Maybe the help has to be some emotional support, like a community or an accountability partner.
Bro, you're just on whole another level above all those self-improvement content creators. Instead of being a passive consumer of their content you exposed all of them and created your own narrative out of it. You nailed it, Matthew
It's great to see him show Mark Manson in this clip. Mark Manson has a great "self-help" article where he basically tells the reader to stop reading his articles. That reading the articles is in a sense a procrastination.
I was once like you, but than I discovered all I needed was some sunshine on my pereineum. My outlook changed, financial opportunies began flooding it, woman were throwing themsleves on me, new gains in the gym. you name it. dont give up half way
there’s no way you don’t have millions of views already, amazing content. The video made me realize i need to stop worrying and doing things that dont change anything but make me feel better, and to start doing the hard tasks that i know will solve my problems but im either too scared or lazy to start. thank you
what you said about self improvement preying on insecurities is so real. i had low self esteem fell into a trap of self improvement which only led me to feel worse. i love this video hope you blow up bro 🙏
I was shocked after I saw the number of views and subscribers. I expected around one million views for this video. Very powerful beginning. I am sure you will soon hit that number.
Great video! I read "The courage to be disliked" a couple of months ago and it blew my mind! I was suffering from bad social anxiety and just this one sentence "Everyone can change, you just need the courage to do so" started to change my life...until I started to implement more - lets call it - "selfhelp knowledge?", like many things from NoFap to Stoicism. What happened was that in the end i didn't know which "rule" to follow. As a result I got anxious again. I'm still reading books about Stoicism and other philosophies, but in the end I just try to stick to my guns and stick with the one mantra that made a real difference. Don't put too much on your plate, when you can't eat all of it. It will make you feel nausious.
I'm so glad you just randomly popped up on my youtube recommendations, was almost going to scroll past but thought hey its only a 5 minute video why not. Youre applying your knowlodge to your videos on how to capture and maintain an audience very effectively. Thank you for the hours you've spent to make your short impact full videos. I hope to see more.
I clicked on this video not looking at the views and stuff and I was surprised you didn't have at least a million views. With videos like this you will definitely reach that and even more. Keep up the good work!
One of the biggest I noticed is a lot of things in my life that I already do have together didn’t happen from watching self improvement videos because there was deeper meaning behind it besides trying to make myself look good, and peer pressure.
This video is incredibly informative for individuals who are enthusiastic about self-help. I found myself caught in a cycle of endlessly consuming self-improvement content. It's remarkable how watching such material can make me feel a sense of accomplishment. However, I will strive to be more mindful of this tendency. Thank you for bringing it to my attention.
Not everyone comes into self improvement from the way you spoke on it. As a matter of fact, I grew up focused on improving myself before I ever knew self improvement was a thing. I was a kid and it was just a lifestyle. Id listen to my dad lecture me on avoiding drugs and certain situations, he’d wake up early, workout and eat healthy. I lived with my mom away from him and it was hell with her so growing up in an frequently traumatic environment, finding a way to escape was just a natural reflect and improving myself was the main idea. As a matter of fact I protested reading anyone else’s idea of self improvement, philosophy etc because I took pride in developing my own and not consuming other’s ideas. I only share this story to show that not everyone comes into it as some helpless brat who wants chicks and a Lamborghini, thats not self improvement. That’s commercial/industry gurus.
The problem comes when people do self improvement with the aim of attracting women or getting into some higher social cycle/ career prospects . Just do it for yourself, and you will enjoy the lifetime benefits .
This is literally the best piece of advice for those who have fallen in the wrong direction of self-improvement. Stop watching how to earn money, go and earn money.
This video is great! Short, straight to the point, dense, and full of facts. Thank you so much, I’m going to send this to my friends, you deserve way more subscribers
I clicked on this video coz just like thousands of other people , i watch every self help video on my feed. I have seen the full video and for first time I actually used my brain and didn’t just consume what the video told. To be honest i feel stupid to fall into the trap of this self help and how i have been stuck all along but felt productive. I feel stupid but i am grateful you got me some clarity. All the self help channels made me feel like i am at school , they would give a task and i complete it but for first time rn i am trying to think what i like and what do i want
Idk if you reply all the comments but I'm gonna leave mine and thank you for this video;I have just gotten out of the self improvement loop and it makes feels like i have never been before. Do I have a belly? Yes. Am I insecure for it? Not anymore. And I also realized that self improvement is a distraction for losers that tryuna abstain from all the hard work. Do not be one of the losers (or anymore) and once again;thank you for the video.
when i saw the video i thought this channel must have milions of sub but then i scrolled and realised only lucky ones are following u and now i m one of them. you are great bro
I agree with a lot of what you said. I will say for myself, I watch some videos almost as a reminder of why I'm doing what I'm doing. I do think it is really easy to become too obsessed with self improvement to the point where you're just doing random things throughout your day that you think are useful, but they're really not. If I or someone else focuses on 1 or 2 things to correct or improve, then that's probably going to solve most of the other problems, which you kinda said. I like the video man, hopefully you're doing well and thanks.
Hey Matt, amazing video !!! You're completely right, things aren't as they always seem. Self help often isn't all nice looking as it seems on the surface. Thanks bro haha
You're making great points, and overall spreading a very realistic "wake-up call" to a lot of people. I think your strongest point was mentioning that, although watching a self-help/self-improvements video can be beneficial, there comes a point when you start taking every supplement the pharmacy has to offer. And that causes issues such as a falsely-perceived reality to which people become addicted to The best conclusion I could personally write on this topic is, that the self-improvement game has been turned into an industry which takes advantage of those who are actually trying to solve their own on-going problems P.S. your formula is ideal. It is simple, and real.
Tbh I agree with you that a lot of self-helping gurus are out there and they are saying things that help them. But I try to focus on the real deal, I started reading about stoicism and it does help me dwith ay-to-day challenges. I am not a fanatic about it but I do like to keep have explanation for everything that happens in day-to-day life, found out what makes me miserably and currently working to overcome those problems
Honestly I've noticed the last month the biggest thing I need to cut down on, is UA-cam. I'm not making some clever jab about your video, I'm being serious. I watch hours upon hours of content a day--even informative content--but do I NEED that information? Do I NEED to know the details of every navy battle in WW2? Do I NEED to see every funny meme? I cut out Reddit and felt much better, but I realize that UA-cam has taken that spot where even if I'm watching content related to getting better at mixing music, would it better if I just spent the time... you know... actually mixing music instead of watching yet another video of "my top 20 game changing mixing tips"? A lot of times, watching informative content on a topic can be an excuse to not actually... do... the thing you want to get better at. Do I need to watch a bunch of videos on "the best" exercises to do, or should I literally just walk out my door and start jogging and see how I feel after a few weeks. My need to "understand" the best way to do everything is overwhelming me actually doing things. I have ADD, and I think putting hard time limits on "learning" vs "practicing" would be beneficial. I may think "It's 2 AM, I don't want to practice but I could watch a video" but how many talented people before the internet had free time at 2 AM and ... picked up their guitar because there was nothing else to do. How many hobos on the street corner can shred guitar better than me because that's all they do with their free time instead of watching hours of "how to get good at guitar" videos.
Seriously well said, I think a lot ofus struggle with the same, one motto I've heard recently which might be helpful is ''Now before how'' or just start before you're ready
Same here. Been consuming content and doing nothing. It’s like I’ve been consuming content in the hopes that I will find the perfect video to finally wake me up and start getting serious. But the perfect video doesn’t exist. And I know that, yet I’m still consuming content, because it’s much harder to start doing the real thing. Content consumption is just cope, be it YT, IG or wherever.
music content on youtube is a cesspit for last 5 years+ you will find 1 good video out of 100+ once you've watched many of them you realize they are all just saying the same thing and most of them aren't even knowledgeable in music to begin with, just other idiots who learned off youtube and are regurgitating stuff from other videos they watched not sure if you are talking about audio mixing or DJing but either way youtube can only teach you a basic level of understanding the rest comes from your own work, experience and trial and error
Unironically this video is the opposite of self-help but it also connects to self-destruction which isn't good either, at the end of the the the best is the one of both worlds, where your going to the gym being disciplined not motivated, eating healthy and doing what you need to take care of yourself, and not overcomplicating it. But at the same time always learning and becoming better, I still kinda see in a way that you have given up on your journey and that is sad in my eyes. I spoke to soon, just finished watching the video your doing great my point still does kinda stand, don't give up.
I remember watching a lot of self-improvement videos until one day i just quit watching them at all. Then i realize the amount of insecurities that those videos gave me. It made me feel like the actual things i wanted to do were so difficult that i needed to prepare beforehand, when in reality i just needed to start doing them. i still got sunburn in my pereineum SMH!
never wanted to play the things i didnt know in guitar because deeply inside me, i knew i was going to fail. I failed and that humbled me, now im in the path of learning :), and im happy to know that i have broken that barrier
I can't say I've ever been interested in what other people think I should be doing. Certainly not anyone I saw online that I wasn't dating at the time. The best way to improve yourself is to live life. You can keep trying to avoid risky situations and you'll still screw up in ways you didn't even know existed, so you'll always end up learning more regardless.
Self help and self improvement isn’t a bad thing and it’s something we should all aim for the problem is constantly obsessing about it because it preys on your insecurities. It can be a slippery slope
I agree. The more content you consume with an idea of self improvement the more you realize how many things you have to fix on yourself and that can lead to self disappointment.
Talk a lot to people relantionship a l lot but problem is people they think you are fan a stupit they talk a lot self inorovment is not good talk to evrybody
I always thought there was something to optimise or fix about myself until I found out it is just mental health/insecurity and the way to fix it is being oneself authentically. It is so underwhelming (as a “fix“ - you feel like it is way to easy to be true) if you overcomplicate your life by being a specific way only to find out there is nothing wrong in the first place and it is just your feelings, which might need attention or create problems by being nourished in this cycle.
I published a comedy self help book that speaks to the same idea, I wouldn't say Fight Club inspired it directly but that quote is brain tattooed in me.
I don't think I feel insecure about myself per se. But I feel like I need to be improving. I think this stems from the fact that I had a tough childhood and struggled a lot, but was able to work hard and improve my life and myself. Through being friendleir and more outgoing, working hard at school even though I previously had no opportunities, working out and doing sport and then looking better etc. I feel better when I know I am working towards goals which make me better than a was yesterday. It really is masturbation. Because I do self improvement because it makes me feel good :)
Currently, I just search up for self-help content instead of watching it religiously. Because I do find some advices that they provide to be helpful - and this video is literally portraying it as well. Helping people realise something and help themselves through your advice 😂
depends imo, if u are fine, taking care of ur health and happy (sometimes even if u are sad, the answer is not pushing urself to "improve", it may even just put more stress on u cuz u may not be able to control that and u are just pushing and pushing with no results) there is not real reason to improve something in ur life, getting obssesed over trying to improve and improve and improve is just going to lead into unnecessary presure, feeling bad about urself if u rest or if u are not "improving" all u idealized at first, or what others expected from u... fk that, just live ur life without caring what others expect...
This may sound stupid but you helped unlock my brain into knowing my personal secret (not for everyone) is to simply drink water, a lot more water. I can't explain why, I just feel it's the right thing to do.
Good notes and i got insights taken from this vid. Altough in my opinion meditation and mindfulness are such powerful tools to have that they are life changing. They change my life and im greatful for it every day
Self help lifestyle yt stuff ruined me. I ended up with broken metabolism, less money, exhaustion, alot of unnecessary crap. We are suppose to have a lifestyle not self help life. Lol. I walk and do egyptian and animal workouts because i enjoy it not to get fit, i dont write to be better writer, i write cause i enjoy it. The whole darn self help world is really draining, i am gone and not going back.
Whenever I’m down and overwhelmed in the future, I will simply remember I’m one of the lucky ones who missed the whole showing my 🍑 to the sun fad. Knowing my life isn’t that bad is likely to see me through all manner of difficult times.
Self-destruction is the key. Spending years in your room hustling on a business, learning investing, being miserable because you lost a lot of money the first year. Then after a long time of self-destruction, your channels gets monetized, you make 5x in the market, that's how you start winning and never stop from that point on.
okay wait first, this was way longer than a 4:27 minute video... it is so interesting and says a lot more than a small video like this says. secondly, theres a thing i need to point out, u mentioned u can quit an addiction like smoking by just focusing on smoking, but thats the only thing ur wrong at, not to mention all other points are brilliant! Okay so in smoking, ur making ur life better by NOT doing something, which makes it follow different mechanism to get rid of it. U hv to incorporate good things in ur life to keep ur mind off of it cuz doing it is just an instinct of ur body when ur not doing smth. Its taken from "Easy Peasy method" book. Hope u can see the point. nice work ur doing mate! good job!
i just realized this while watching fight club, the self improvement notion is bullshit. you wont get anywhere while watching it. its not helpful. you just need to pursue the goal. go gym, learn more, eat healthier, whatever. whatever works for you is best. if you really despise working out, then don’t do it. maybe do something else that helps you. maybe play a sport. im probably in no place to talk because im a skinny guy, but fight club seems so right to me, and i actually feel happy improving myself in the way that I want to. the real people that are locked in and good at this stuff dont consume this content. well, mindlessly anyway. i wanna do things for myself
Self improvement will always lead to more insecurities because there is always something wrong, you aren't perfect. The best you can do is know your strengths and weaknesses and understand that no matter if you are rich or poor, a slave or free, you are still a man.
From the moment I understood the weakness of my flesh, it disgusted me. I craved the strength and certainty of steel. I aspired to the purity of the blessed machine. Your kind cling to your flesh as if it will not decay and fail you. One day the crude biomass that you call a temple will wither and you'll beg my kind to save you. But I am already saved. For the machine is immortal. Even in death, I serve the Omnissiah. - Adeptus Mechanicus
All true. There are no life hacks that will instantly change your life. The person looking for that is usually someone in desperation. Like you said, desperation is where the gurus make profit. However there’s still great knowledge out there.
being insecure and desperate is very easily exploitable from a number of different industries; so much things rely on exploiting and tricking people to take their money rather than developing actual skills or ways to provide value and help people
I totally understand your will is good and you're trynna help just like the self-improvement content creators, that being said, there might be a few people that takes your point as an "excuse" to be mediocre and not seek to improve, people nowadays are a little extreme on this kind of thing so the majority of ppl won't take both advices and come up with something that works for them, they will take a "life agenda" and follow it religiously, in that case I think following the self-improvement stuff (excluding the perinium bs 😂) is still a very valid option because a little improvement is still better than none. Anyways great vid bro, you're going places!
"If you're looking for self-help, why would you read a book written by somebody else? That's not self-help, that's help." - George Carlin
I always knew that help from others wouldn’t change shit, it’s only me who knows what to do and where to help. Especially some random rich dude can’t help you, it’s about you outgrowing yourself, not growing with them.
My interpretation may be wrong, but in a sense, searching for help is important when trying to help one-self. Most times, we can fall into our own biases by thinking that our solution is efficient or effective towards our goals (such as covering our insecurities that affect our life un general).
You can only help yourself in the context of Identifying the problem you are facing, but when you don't have the knowledge or methods to seek for a viable solution for said problem, seeking for information to do so is a viable alternative.
Yet again, this is my own interpretation in response to the quote you just cited, so i'm open to any feedback or clarifications.
@@Koon183What I gathered from George Carlin's quote is that everyone's lives are different. And whatever helped the author of the self help book, be it self confidence or discipline, might not work for you. Because everyone reacts to situations differently.
If I am self help guru who tells you meditation helped me in making me a better person, its because it made me a better person. But maybe the key to make you being a better person is MMA or reducing your screen time. In the end, all of us have our demons and fears, each are different and specific, and require specific solutions, but self help books usually aren't that specific. Because self help gurus can't read our minds to know what our demons are.
I agree that sometimes you need help from others when trying to help oneself, but I feel the help has to be more than just a book or video. Maybe the help has to be some emotional support, like a community or an accountability partner.
Carlin is becoming increasingly relevant each year and that worries me
Danm
I've realized this a long time ago. The only self help advice most people need is "shut the fuck up and do the shit you need to do"
Well said brother
Yes sir 🫡
Also, quit bein a wuss.
David goggins taught me that, and that's the only advice that ever helped
@@baruc4258 the chumbawumba approach.
Bro, you're just on whole another level above all those self-improvement content creators. Instead of being a passive consumer of their content you exposed all of them and created your own narrative out of it. You nailed it, Matthew
Thank you, im really glad you enjoyed it
It's great to see him show Mark Manson in this clip. Mark Manson has a great "self-help" article where he basically tells the reader to stop reading his articles. That reading the articles is in a sense a procrastination.
I was once like you, but than I discovered all I needed was some sunshine on my pereineum. My outlook changed, financial opportunies began flooding it, woman were throwing themsleves on me, new gains in the gym. you name it. dont give up half way
For sure the greatest comment to bless this channel lmao
I had to Google it LMAO
Stop using fancy words. Just call it The Gooch
@@jolosarmiento24em ballz?
lmao
there’s no way you don’t have millions of views already, amazing content. The video made me realize i need to stop worrying and doing things that dont change anything but make me feel better, and to start doing the hard tasks that i know will solve my problems but im either too scared or lazy to start. thank you
I genuinley appreciate that, I want to try and make videos about just that not pie in the sky stuff that dosent work. Glad you enjoyed the video
what you said about self improvement preying on insecurities is so real. i had low self esteem fell into a trap of self improvement which only led me to feel worse. i love this video hope you blow up bro 🙏
I was shocked after I saw the number of views and subscribers. I expected around one million views for this video. Very powerful beginning. I am sure you will soon hit that number.
Fingers crossed, really glad you liked it
Great video! I read "The courage to be disliked" a couple of months ago and it blew my mind! I was suffering from bad social anxiety and just this one sentence "Everyone can change, you just need the courage to do so" started to change my life...until I started to implement more - lets call it - "selfhelp knowledge?", like many things from NoFap to Stoicism. What happened was that in the end i didn't know which "rule" to follow. As a result I got anxious again. I'm still reading books about Stoicism and other philosophies, but in the end I just try to stick to my guns and stick with the one mantra that made a real difference. Don't put too much on your plate, when you can't eat all of it. It will make you feel nausious.
Powerful video mate, most meaningful, honest video ive seen in a while as someone on the self improvement train.
Thank you. going for full transparency, glad you liked it
"Maybe real masturbation was the friends we made along the way"
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I'm so glad you just randomly popped up on my youtube recommendations, was almost going to scroll past but thought hey its only a 5 minute video why not. Youre applying your knowlodge to your videos on how to capture and maintain an audience very effectively. Thank you for the hours you've spent to make your short impact full videos. I hope to see more.
I clicked on this video not looking at the views and stuff and I was surprised you didn't have at least a million views. With videos like this you will definitely reach that and even more. Keep up the good work!
Hey I seriously appreciate that thank you for saying
One of the biggest I noticed is a lot of things in my life that I already do have together didn’t happen from watching self improvement videos because there was deeper meaning behind it besides trying to make myself look good, and peer pressure.
This video is incredibly informative for individuals who are enthusiastic about self-help. I found myself caught in a cycle of endlessly consuming self-improvement content. It's remarkable how watching such material can make me feel a sense of accomplishment. However, I will strive to be more mindful of this tendency. Thank you for bringing it to my attention.
Not everyone comes into self improvement from the way you spoke on it. As a matter of fact, I grew up focused on improving myself before I ever knew self improvement was a thing. I was a kid and it was just a lifestyle. Id listen to my dad lecture me on avoiding drugs and certain situations, he’d wake up early, workout and eat healthy. I lived with my mom away from him and it was hell with her so growing up in an frequently traumatic environment, finding a way to escape was just a natural reflect and improving myself was the main idea. As a matter of fact I protested reading anyone else’s idea of self improvement, philosophy etc because I took pride in developing my own and not consuming other’s ideas.
I only share this story to show that not everyone comes into it as some helpless brat who wants chicks and a Lamborghini, thats not self improvement. That’s commercial/industry gurus.
We disagree far less than you'd think
The problem comes when people do self improvement with the aim of attracting women or getting into some higher social cycle/ career prospects . Just do it for yourself, and you will enjoy the lifetime benefits .
Man I'd do to go back and rewatch fight club for the first time again.
Couldn't agree more my man.
This is literally the best piece of advice for those who have fallen in the wrong direction of self-improvement. Stop watching how to earn money, go and earn money.
and how do you get money
how are you supposed to earn money if you dont know how 😂😂 nice paradox
@@purpleey truth is you probably know how. You just haven't taken any action.
This video is great! Short, straight to the point, dense, and full of facts. Thank you so much, I’m going to send this to my friends, you deserve way more subscribers
This video is very well put together and genuinely insightful
Amazing Video! The Content, Storytelling, Cutting, Editing, The Fun and the short spoken Truth ist very nice!
Glad you enjoyed it!
I clicked on this video coz just like thousands of other people , i watch every self help video on my feed. I have seen the full video and for first time I actually used my brain and didn’t just consume what the video told. To be honest i feel stupid to fall into the trap of this self help and how i have been stuck all along but felt productive. I feel stupid but i am grateful you got me some clarity. All the self help channels made me feel like i am at school , they would give a task and i complete it but for first time rn i am trying to think what i like and what do i want
Looks like a lot of people feel a similar way glad it could be of some help
it's the ending for me 🤣🤣 honestly, the only self-improvement advice we need. Brilliant video & framework!
Idk if you reply all the comments but I'm gonna leave mine and thank you for this video;I have just gotten out of the self improvement loop and it makes feels like i have never been before. Do I have a belly? Yes. Am I insecure for it? Not anymore. And I also realized that self improvement is a distraction for losers that tryuna abstain from all the hard work. Do not be one of the losers (or anymore) and once again;thank you for the video.
No worries man I'm glad it helped
when i saw the video i thought this channel must have milions of sub but then i scrolled and realised only lucky ones are following u and now i m one of them. you are great bro
thats such a nice comment thank you
This self help mess started to make me feel bad about myself even when I do try to self improve.
Dude, your video alone helped so much more than all those others. Thanks, pal. You are a real one. Keep doing the amazing work
I agree with a lot of what you said. I will say for myself, I watch some videos almost as a reminder of why I'm doing what I'm doing. I do think it is really easy to become too obsessed with self improvement to the point where you're just doing random things throughout your day that you think are useful, but they're really not. If I or someone else focuses on 1 or 2 things to correct or improve, then that's probably going to solve most of the other problems, which you kinda said. I like the video man, hopefully you're doing well and thanks.
self improvement and then exposing self improvement . man idk what to believe or not
Hey Matt, amazing video !!! You're completely right, things aren't as they always seem. Self help often isn't all nice looking as it seems on the surface. Thanks bro haha
Exactly what I needed to watch. Good bless bro.
Hey mate, fantastic video. I don't usually watch these things, but you were informative and to the point.
You're making great points, and overall spreading a very realistic "wake-up call" to a lot of people. I think your strongest point was mentioning that, although watching a self-help/self-improvements video can be beneficial, there comes a point when you start taking every supplement the pharmacy has to offer. And that causes issues such as a falsely-perceived reality to which people become addicted to
The best conclusion I could personally write on this topic is, that the self-improvement game has been turned into an industry which takes advantage of those who are actually trying to solve their own on-going problems
P.S. your formula is ideal. It is simple, and real.
thank u for such a well explained analyse!!!
Glad it was helpful!
Both the video & the thumbnail delivered. I’m glad people are taking notice of this.👏🏾
Thank you!!
This video was actually, very helpful. Thank you
Let's get this man's subscribers up
Much love from South Africa
That is actually one of the best I things I have seen about all those topics, since I am battling this so called self-improvement battle.
Tbh I agree with you that a lot of self-helping gurus are out there and they are saying things that help them. But I try to focus on the real deal, I started reading about stoicism and it does help me dwith ay-to-day challenges.
I am not a fanatic about it but I do like to keep have explanation for everything that happens in day-to-day life, found out what makes me miserably and currently working to overcome those problems
You've got a talent, its a short video, with a humour, straight to the point. Good luck with your channel, keep doing!
Honestly I've noticed the last month the biggest thing I need to cut down on, is UA-cam. I'm not making some clever jab about your video, I'm being serious. I watch hours upon hours of content a day--even informative content--but do I NEED that information? Do I NEED to know the details of every navy battle in WW2? Do I NEED to see every funny meme? I cut out Reddit and felt much better, but I realize that UA-cam has taken that spot where even if I'm watching content related to getting better at mixing music, would it better if I just spent the time... you know... actually mixing music instead of watching yet another video of "my top 20 game changing mixing tips"? A lot of times, watching informative content on a topic can be an excuse to not actually... do... the thing you want to get better at. Do I need to watch a bunch of videos on "the best" exercises to do, or should I literally just walk out my door and start jogging and see how I feel after a few weeks. My need to "understand" the best way to do everything is overwhelming me actually doing things.
I have ADD, and I think putting hard time limits on "learning" vs "practicing" would be beneficial. I may think "It's 2 AM, I don't want to practice but I could watch a video" but how many talented people before the internet had free time at 2 AM and ... picked up their guitar because there was nothing else to do. How many hobos on the street corner can shred guitar better than me because that's all they do with their free time instead of watching hours of "how to get good at guitar" videos.
Seriously well said, I think a lot ofus struggle with the same, one motto I've heard recently which might be helpful is ''Now before how'' or just start before you're ready
Same here. Been consuming content and doing nothing. It’s like I’ve been consuming content in the hopes that I will find the perfect video to finally wake me up and start getting serious. But the perfect video doesn’t exist.
And I know that, yet I’m still consuming content, because it’s much harder to start doing the real thing. Content consumption is just cope, be it YT, IG or wherever.
real 😭
music content on youtube is a cesspit for last 5 years+ you will find 1 good video out of 100+
once you've watched many of them you realize they are all just saying the same thing and most of them aren't even knowledgeable in music to begin with, just other idiots who learned off youtube and are regurgitating stuff from other videos they watched
not sure if you are talking about audio mixing or DJing but either way youtube can only teach you a basic level of understanding the rest comes from your own work, experience and trial and error
you nailed it
Unironically this video is the opposite of self-help but it also connects to self-destruction which isn't good either, at the end of the the the best is the one of both worlds, where your going to the gym being disciplined not motivated, eating healthy and doing what you need to take care of yourself, and not overcomplicating it. But at the same time always learning and becoming better, I still kinda see in a way that you have given up on your journey and that is sad in my eyes.
I spoke to soon, just finished watching the video your doing great my point still does kinda stand, don't give up.
This is what I needed to hear. Thank you!
I thought that this was gonna be a heartfelt video but I turned out as just like the rest of them
Really good video. Like with most things we dont learn on a personal level until we go out,fall down and get back up probably time and time again
I remember watching a lot of self-improvement videos until one day i just quit watching them at all. Then i realize the amount of insecurities that those videos gave me. It made me feel like the actual things i wanted to do were so difficult that i needed to prepare beforehand, when in reality i just needed to start doing them.
i still got sunburn in my pereineum SMH!
well said, gotta wear the sunburn with pride
Keep the honest work going my friend...
Thank you, I will
never wanted to play the things i didnt know in guitar because deeply inside me, i knew i was going to fail. I failed and that humbled me, now im in the path of learning :), and im happy to know that i have broken that barrier
More than anything, I appreciate your honesty, perspective and wit 😂. Thanks dude !
I appreciate that!
Great wisdom in a short time, keep it up bro ❤
Bro exposed the hole social media shit! I lov it brooo!!
I can't say I've ever been interested in what other people think I should be doing. Certainly not anyone I saw online that I wasn't dating at the time. The best way to improve yourself is to live life. You can keep trying to avoid risky situations and you'll still screw up in ways you didn't even know existed, so you'll always end up learning more regardless.
Self help and self improvement isn’t a bad thing and it’s something we should all aim for the problem is constantly obsessing about it because it preys on your insecurities. It can be a slippery slope
I agree. The more content you consume with an idea of self improvement the more you realize how many things you have to fix on yourself and that can lead to self disappointment.
Thank God there are people who realize this. Thanks for speaking the truth we all know deep down and helping us see it all for what it is. Good work 👏
just clickbaited on fight club and basically made the same self-help video making yourself look "different"
I know right imagine intorducing a topic with a similar idea, truly revolutionary
You talking like tyler but are you the one...?
THX Mathew for this great video
No worries!
Self help for me is finding out what works and throwing out what don't work
I’m on self improvement and it’s going well, these people do actually have answers, inspiring people and giving advice improving the world
Talk a lot to people relantionship a l lot but problem is people they think you are fan a stupit they talk a lot self inorovment is not good talk to evrybody
@@pawcioyuno3234 Yes, I don’t talk about it much anymore, I keep it to my self as I do not respect many of my peers around me
I always thought there was something to optimise or fix about myself until I found out it is just mental health/insecurity and the way to fix it is being oneself authentically. It is so underwhelming (as a “fix“ - you feel like it is way to easy to be true) if you overcomplicate your life by being a specific way only to find out there is nothing wrong in the first place and it is just your feelings, which might need attention or create problems by being nourished in this cycle.
Wow, didn’t think of it that way, you gave me food to process
Thank you
I published a comedy self help book that speaks to the same idea, I wouldn't say Fight Club inspired it directly but that quote is brain tattooed in me.
I agree with you on identifying the problem and fixing it!
this was awesome. well done my friend!
I don't think I feel insecure about myself per se. But I feel like I need to be improving. I think this stems from the fact that I had a tough childhood and struggled a lot, but was able to work hard and improve my life and myself. Through being friendleir and more outgoing, working hard at school even though I previously had no opportunities, working out and doing sport and then looking better etc. I feel better when I know I am working towards goals which make me better than a was yesterday. It really is masturbation. Because I do self improvement because it makes me feel good :)
Currently, I just search up for self-help content instead of watching it religiously. Because I do find some advices that they provide to be helpful - and this video is literally portraying it as well. Helping people realise something and help themselves through your advice 😂
Improving yourself is better than not improving yourself. No need for complication.
depends imo, if u are fine, taking care of ur health and happy (sometimes even if u are sad, the answer is not pushing urself to "improve", it may even just put more stress on u cuz u may not be able to control that and u are just pushing and pushing with no results) there is not real reason to improve something in ur life, getting obssesed over trying to improve and improve and improve is just going to lead into unnecessary presure, feeling bad about urself if u rest or if u are not "improving" all u idealized at first, or what others expected from u... fk that, just live ur life without caring what others expect...
Love your work bro!
This may sound stupid but you helped unlock my brain into knowing my personal secret (not for everyone) is to simply drink water, a lot more water. I can't explain why, I just feel it's the right thing to do.
not tryna be that guy but imo the most iconic scene in fight club is the "welcome to fight club"/"first rule of fight club" scene
I like how at 2:10 , you were talking about starting your own business , and you put "fight milk" as the slide
Good notes and i got insights taken from this vid. Altough in my opinion meditation and mindfulness are such powerful tools to have that they are life changing. They change my life and im greatful for it every day
This video is meant to be the end of the entire self-help industry.
Self help lifestyle yt stuff ruined me. I ended up with broken metabolism, less money, exhaustion, alot of unnecessary crap. We are suppose to have a lifestyle not self help life. Lol. I walk and do egyptian and animal workouts because i enjoy it not to get fit, i dont write to be better writer, i write cause i enjoy it. The whole darn self help world is really draining, i am gone and not going back.
great narration, awesome documentary.
Whenever I’m down and overwhelmed in the future, I will simply remember I’m one of the lucky ones who missed the whole showing my 🍑 to the sun fad. Knowing my life isn’t that bad is likely to see me through all manner of difficult times.
meditations and cold showers changed my life
Self-destruction is the key. Spending years in your room hustling on a business, learning investing, being miserable because you lost a lot of money the first year. Then after a long time of self-destruction, your channels gets monetized, you make 5x in the market, that's how you start winning and never stop from that point on.
The truth is do what gives you joy. But first you have to learn what joy is.
Love the video. You got my subscription.
There's a third kind of insecurity, that comes from the self help videos themselves, can be avoided by stopping watching them.
Focusing on yourself might be part of your problem, not your solution. Especially if you’re insecure, anxious or depressed.
okay wait first, this was way longer than a 4:27 minute video... it is so interesting and says a lot more than a small video like this says.
secondly, theres a thing i need to point out, u mentioned u can quit an addiction like smoking by just focusing on smoking, but thats the only thing ur wrong at, not to mention all other points are brilliant! Okay so in smoking, ur making ur life better by NOT doing something, which makes it follow different mechanism to get rid of it. U hv to incorporate good things in ur life to keep ur mind off of it cuz doing it is just an instinct of ur body when ur not doing smth. Its taken from "Easy Peasy method" book. Hope u can see the point. nice work ur doing mate! good job!
watching this vid after watching "shutter Island " 💀💀💀
i don't bealuve youtube you can't be under rated man damn this info is just golden
Thanks for saying I really appreciate that
@@Matthew-Ash keep it up mate you’re close to the big game
thank for this bro.
i just realized this while watching fight club, the self improvement notion is bullshit. you wont get anywhere while watching it. its not helpful. you just need to pursue the goal. go gym, learn more, eat healthier, whatever. whatever works for you is best. if you really despise working out, then don’t do it. maybe do something else that helps you. maybe play a sport. im probably in no place to talk because im a skinny guy, but fight club seems so right to me, and i actually feel happy improving myself in the way that I want to. the real people that are locked in and good at this stuff dont consume this content. well, mindlessly anyway. i wanna do things for myself
Exactly. It's all pretty simple really. The key to happiness is just do the shit you enjoy doing.
The main spoiler of the movie on the Thumbnail image - good job, youtuber!
12 November 1999
The secret lie in trying not seeking
crazy good content, keep it up.
Self improvement will always lead to more insecurities because there is always something wrong, you aren't perfect. The best you can do is know your strengths and weaknesses and understand that no matter if you are rich or poor, a slave or free, you are still a man.
The low key matrix nature of aesthetic lifestyle as well, like how he designed his house. Lol
Alright, thanks and take care 💜✌️
Perenium sunning is crazy 💀
From the moment I understood the weakness of my flesh, it disgusted me. I craved the strength and certainty of steel. I aspired to the purity of the blessed machine. Your kind cling to your flesh as if it will not decay and fail you. One day the crude biomass that you call a temple will wither and you'll beg my kind to save you. But I am already saved. For the machine is immortal. Even in death, I serve the Omnissiah. - Adeptus Mechanicus
All true. There are no life hacks that will instantly change your life. The person looking for that is usually someone in desperation. Like you said, desperation is where the gurus make profit. However there’s still great knowledge out there.
Do the hard work especially when you don't feel like it 💋
3:30 that was hilarious especially when you've watched the show, idk why thu.
being insecure and desperate is very easily exploitable from a number of different industries; so much things rely on exploiting and tricking people to take their money rather than developing actual skills or ways to provide value and help people
I totally understand your will is good and you're trynna help just like the self-improvement content creators, that being said, there might be a few people that takes your point as an "excuse" to be mediocre and not seek to improve, people nowadays are a little extreme on this kind of thing so the majority of ppl won't take both advices and come up with something that works for them, they will take a "life agenda" and follow it religiously, in that case I think following the self-improvement stuff (excluding the perinium bs 😂) is still a very valid option because a little improvement is still better than none. Anyways great vid bro, you're going places!