Every person that I've seen in infp videos so far seems to be soft spoken and very selective with their verbal wording. It kind of blows my mind how consistent it is
Words are funny. I’ve spent so much time tumbling through a rabbit hole of trying to find the right words to explain core personality concepts in a way that resonates in the way I want.
I think INFP's are the most beautiful personality type. They are so warm and loving. I know INFP's are complicated because they aren't surface-level, ever, which can be frustrating for outsiders and even to themselves. INFP's are not just butterfly-chasers. They're a lot more level-headed and grounded than people think. Exploring doesn't mean one is lost. It is a constant learning curve. Audrey Hempburn and Shakespeare were both INFP's and are still celebrated today. Of course INFP's can be happy. There is so much beauty on this life and we don't always need to overshadow those beauties with our extreme idealistic ideologies. Thanks Mr UA-camr. You did such a brilliant, calming job relaying your message.
Thank you for the kind resonating words. :) Too many of us INFPs get down on ourselves and focus on the struggles without finding a way to navigate them and arrive at a brighter future ^^
If there's one thing that i'd disagree with this, it's that we INFPs are by nature, butterfly chasers, & to our own dismay, we may even be chasing more than one butterfly at any given moment. Those among us who don't appear so, are those who're aware of that rather destructive tendency & have gone out of their way to address it. The ones among us who've learned to just to admire butterflies from a distance, instead of constantly trying to chase them, are the ones who'd have a way better chance of finding happiness & success in life. Anyway, thanks for reassuring that we too, could be beautiful, wanted & loved. That really means the world to us.
I've done it too! I'm INFP, and I'm happy and positive pretty much all of the time, and I'm an optimist 100% of the time. Took about about 2 years of self-taught mental exercises and deliberately putting myself in uncomfortable/challenging situations to get me here, but it was way worth it. I had some pretty bad anxiety a couple years back, and it really took a toll on my confidence. I never sought out proper help or really told anyone about it. Then one day a flip just sort of flipped in my brain. I just decided, "This is over now". And obviously that wasn't the end of all my problems, but every day I worked (and still am working) on improving my mindset and being the best version of myself possible. Now I can do things that used to terrify me without even a second thought. I used to be scared of talking to new people and going beyond my comfort zone -- and now I love both! I always tell myself I'm happy, even when I'm not (especially when), and my mind automatically seeks out the positives in every situation. I no longer care too much what others think, and therefore am so much more free to be my authentic self. It's totally doable!
This is really admirable. I whish I could defeat social anxiety with your same courage. because it's ruining my life. What did you do to get rid of fear?
@@d.6832 I wouldn't say I've extinguished my fear, I've just developed ways of managing it. Mostly I just cover it with an abundance of positive thoughts. Whenever I start having negative/fearful thoughts about what others think of me, for example, I remind myself of who I know myself to be -- it doesn't matter so much if other people don't see you as you want to be seen or don't get you, as long you always keep sure in the knowledge of your identity and are proud of that person. And pushing yourself to do the very things that make you afraid is really important. It's hard at first, but eventually you get better at doing them and realise they're actually not as bad as you thought, and it gets easier.
My biggest problem isn't social anxiety, it's just that every single bad thing happening to me, no matter how ridiculously small it is, immediately pushes me down. Someone reminds me that it might be time to search for something to do after university? I almost have a nervous breakdown. Oral exams this week (I've actually got two this week and I'm procrastinating right now, you can all wish me luck for Tuesday and Wednesday)? I'm terrified and immediately got a feeling I can't do it and I'm not good enough. An studying actually makes me feel worse because I have too high expectations and, of course, I disappoint myself every time. In the end, I'm usually one or two two grades better than expected, but the panic before is just unbearable. I didn't sleep well for one or two nights? Immediate anxiety I'm not gonna be able to do everything I need to do, fear of wasting a day doing nothing. After a long conversation with friends/family? "What if I said something inappropriate?" "What if I hurt someone's feelings?" "What if they don't like me anymore because I talk too much?" "What if they were just to polite to leave earlier?" Note that all of my friends here at university are either infp's themselves or infj's, so they're both likely not to tell me when something is wrong, and to understand how I'm feeling. I also feel like I don't care enough about their problems and only talk about mine all the time - that's mainly because when I get nervous or uncomfortable or simply don't know what to say, I start talking about myself. Doesn't even matter if I'm on a train sitting next to a random stranger. "Yes, I was bullied in school, also my relationship to my father wasn't ideal - I don't blame him, you know, he did his best - so I basically don't have any self-esteem an am constantly doubting myself." What the heck is soneone on a train gonna do with that information?!
Although pessimistic, I don’t believe as employees we’ll ever be happy. Always having to ask when we can escape to our hideouts. Having a limit on the money we make. I mean being an employee doesn’t signify freedom in our ears in any way. We need to somehow do something special whilst being the one who controls the vision. In addition, we need this because it gives us the chance to decide for ourselves when we can go escape
I hate to be religious but I have found reading my bible, daily devotion, spending time to reflect and exercise has helped me. When I feel anxious or sad about situations I release it to the lord.
@@fayruzahabsary4703 lol im an atheist and INFP. I figured out one of the worst feelings is being emotionally manipulated and thats what religion does all the time
@@rosestrohm7986 I see. It's okay. Being faithful doesn't amount to religion only, anyway. 😊 I only meant the relation of religion to faithfulness. We all are different though we may be all infps. I'm sorry if you feel that way towards religion but for me and Ameena, our faithfulness is inclined with religion. I'm sure you have something or someone in life you are faithful with 💚
I've been a very emotional explosive, depressive and angry child. But at some point in my life I just had enough of feeling miserable and I somehow switched into a more positive and tolerant mindset. It took me years to develop but here I am accepting the people how they are and enjoying life for its smallest things. I never thought I could ever be happy in this world. Today I am. :) I think everyone can be happy, it all depends on the way you see things and how true you are to yourself and the people around you.
I agree with you and it took times to get into this level as INFP myself, but all and all Im really grateful for the opportunity to live in this world and feel all the feeling this world has to offer for us. Send loves and hang in there 😁
I am a very happy infp. I think if we cultivate in our art talent, we would discover some immense joy in the process of creating. I love portrait drawing and I found myself in the process and express my deep feeling. I am single, the joy of me creating my art has made me complete and I do not long for relationship that I used to be.
Just found your channel. I'm an INFJ Grandma of a sixteen-year-old INFP granddaughter. She struggles. I just directed her to your video. Fingers crossed that she will watch it and start to learn about Myers-Briggs, INP, her gifts, filters, challenges and the tools you recommend. Thank you so much for this video which I hope will help her in her journey!
I'm an INFP and I used to be really really "emo" back then, but I became aware of that "phase" so I tried, and still trying, to control my emotions to lean more on happiness and the positive side. Sure, I still get sad and down most of the time. But each day, even though it's tiring and hard, I try to stand the fuck up and be happy because I know that positivity would be good for me.
One thing to correct though, the word here would be 'manage' instead of 'control'. It probably differs with other personality types but in our case, our emotions ain't meant to be controlled. The ironic fact is that despite our rampaging emotions being the very thing making us emotional, melancholic sob fests, it's also what makes us so enigmatic & beautiful. In my opinion, at least, fighting against it would be quite a waste. A gut feeling from a fellow INFP to another, you'd get further just coming to terms & making peace with your emotions, than to try to wrestle them whenever you dip into the negative.
This may be a different suggestion, but I am a very religious INFP and my faith gives me hope and a positive purpose in life and that increases my happiness. Whether you are religious or not, you can probably gain a lot from reading the Psalms which were written by King David, who I am confident was an INFP. His words, though thousands of years old, sound a lot like my inner thoughts. They are very comforting.
I'm not an INFP, I generally don't care about others feelings and not even my own just to be more 'efficient'. But I have this INFP person I think I fell in love with and I want to help him be happier in his life. Thank you for these points. I am struggling on understanding emotions I'm glad I found your channel.
I've been trying to write in a journal now when I start to feel overwhelmed with emotion. Once I write it out it feels so much less of a burden. And sometimes I realize that it's not even as big of a deal as I make it. It also helps stop me from freaking out even more from being too focused on all these feelings. I'll also leave reminders for myself in my journal... I noticed that sometimes I forget that I had already reached a conclusion on something after much thought then I'll relapse to freaking out about that same problem. So I make sure that I write down my conclusions so I won't have to go through the whole cycle again. Great video though! :)
Omg me too! I read my past entries in my journal and I get shocked when I see that I've written about the same thing I've been currently thinking about. Journaling helps me understand myself better and I feel like I can set my thoughts and feelings free, into the paper.
Journaling is also part of my life. And by doing it, it could relieve stress, channel my emotion, examine or observe everything, be grateful through it, and yes i can relate to you about that relapse issue 😁
Is it just me? I’ll sometimes write my thoughts down about some issue I’m trying to work through, I think to release them. But then I’ll destroy the sheet of paper because I don’t want to chance someone else reading it! lol. I really do this occasionally…
Every morning for the last year, as soon as I become aware I smile as wide as I can. It feels like an agreement with the day that it's going to be a good one. I used to wake up in states of negative rumination very often. My emotional state was left to a roll of the dice. Now I take charge and curate my emotional sate as best as I can. I think smiling works wonderfully!
C V I am! And I’ve added some dancing and singing and/or meditation and yoga to the routine. :) What about you? Have you experimented with anything along those lines that you’d recommend?
@@mikethetraveler I feel empty and sad some days, but I'm trying my best to keep going and don't give up yet. I spend my days painting, working out or listening to music but every single day is a challenge for me. Thank you for asking.
@@CV-yy9qz I feel you. The emotional grind is harder than any other, isn't it? It sounds like you have some of the key ingredients for coming out of the darkness. Art and self care have been MEGA game changers for me too. Maybe this is a harsh thought, but for me it's been real... If you're going through hell, keep going. the only way out of it is head first haha. Do you have an "Uplifting" playlist that you listen to?
@@mikethetraveler I've been diagnosed with severe anxiety two years ago. I've been on meds but stopped taking them because of a few complications. I'm still struggling with it on a daily basis, but working out helps me a lot with tension and it release all the stress. 😊 Btw, I don't have an "uplifting" playlist, all I have are depressing rock songs haha sorry.
I am definitely a "grittier" INFP 😂. Being an entrepreneur has done so much for me. This kind of inner work is exactly how my journey began though. This is great ❤
悪循環 ^_^ lol - I hear you. “Decide to be happy” - That’s powerful. You’re sad because you decided to be sad. I also think proper eating and sleeping helps too.
that's it exactly, you are happy cuz you want to be happy, sad cuz you want to wallow in your self pity... I have been Happy for a long time, cuz I chose to be Happy.
Although I've not pursued it as a career, I find the time I spend being creative, writing music, melody, and singing, it brings me great joy. My students and clients in the past, have told me they love it. Kids don't lie! I once had a 15 year old boy tell me, Mrs. Angela, if more people would write songs like that, we kids would listen. Makes me want to cry just thinking about it. Maybe I should pursue it after all....
My sister is close to suicide and she's an INFP. As an INFJ I try to help her but I hope your advices will make her stop to cry. She's 28 y.o and I'm 21. It's a tough situation so thanks for the advices man.
I'm aware of just fuckin' impossible it is deal with our types when we're in our worst, emotionally overwhelmed states. hell, we INFPs ourselves might sooner cut ourselves off with the devastating emotional wrecks of our own type, just to avoid getting caught up in their emotional turmoil & become devastating emotional wrecks ourselves. so thank you, for being there for one of our own in such a difficult time.
“There is no duty we so much underrate as the duty of being happy.” - Robert Louis Stevenson. I love this video. Being happy is a choice and a continual effort that is so worth it (notwithstanding depression etc of course which can’t be ‘decided’). Gretchen Rubin has great books with practical tips for being happy, and Derren Brown has a book called ‘Happy’ which takes a more philosophical approach. Both very valuable!
I think I’m an INFP, but I’ve always been optimistic in life, always looking at the bright side of life. Always believing that the universe has it’s own reasons behind everything going on.
Unfortunately sadness is seen pretty negatively nowadays but I think it's actually very beneficial to be sad or melancholic, because it makes you a lot more empathetic and sensitive which is something that the world really needs right now. Edit: that doesn't mean you should be depressed all the time of course, all I'm saying is that sadness per se isn't a bad thing
You sound s much like me!!! INFP enneagram 9 :D I think our disposition to feel a lot of pain is in some sense good because it leads many of us to spiritual growth and even enlightenment
I think a problem is that when people tell me to be happy, it feels like they are telling me not to be myself. How do you talk your mind out of thinking you are lying to yourself? How do you stop associating happiness with being fake?
This. I felt like that back in time, actually I still feel like that. Honestly the word happiness makes me wanna throw up as it often equals pretense. So what I did is stop chasing happiness. Instead, I am looking for balance
Dissociation. detachment. not with something outside, but with something inside. we INFPs are just too used to connecting everything with everything inside us, especially the negative parts since the positive ones inherently look fake to us, not realizing that some things just ain't meant to be connected. i learned to cut things off, like in this case, happiness DOESN'T EQUAL being fake. the process ain't necessary gonna be smooth. with some things, it feels like just snipping a thread with a pair of scissors, with some, it feels like sawing a tree trunk with a handsaw instead. it's gonna feel goddamn awkward to make that journey at first, & it's gonna feel repulsive, since we're so used to shunning anything that makes us feel awkward & fake. It's also important to realize one very glaring fact that we constantly overlook--happy people have unhappy shit to deal with as well. just like how we find others unable to see the shitstorm all over the place inside us, we also fail to see all the internal shit going on with happy people, & they may actually have it worse than we do. we AIN'T gonna lose all the melancholic, sulking, depressive parts of us just because we decide to be happy. those parts are ALWAYS gonna be with us, we're just gotta be dealing with those parts better, which would in turn let our self, our individuality shine.
I personally decided to look for joy rather then happiness. I try to not overlook things that seem insignificant and try not to forget to look at bad situation from a more self-improving point of view rather then self pity. It's definitely challenging, but I hope that the struggles I face may someday can encourage somebody who needs it!
I have anxiety so bad as long as I can remember & I feel like my life is falling apart now cuz I had a Dr that was working with me & now he is gonna cut my anxiety meds off cuz "it's a rule" & this had happened before since I been on for so long, but every time I've been cut off my high dose I panic so bad & I've gone way back now in my life in so many ways. The worst ways were when I almost died (too many times). I told my Dr how I feel & he knows my history, but he can't help cuz he said "it the rules here & not my rule...". Same thing I've heard before & gone through so much hell. I'm so scared 😭 idk what to do & worried about my future cuz I almost died too many times & been in comas, live support & so on... It's horrible 😭 I hate it & I hate this feeling of going backwards again & I've been doing So good in my life for probably the longest I've ever been before & everything has been going okay I guess, I mean , my grandma died a few month ago & I felt with that so much better than I thought I would & if it was not for the anxiety meds, idk what or how I woulda even coped with that. 😢HUGZ😢
They should not be able to cut you off your meds like that. Where do you live that has such ‘rules’? Where I live, that would not be considered good medical practice.
I'm also an INFP who had this same realization as an adolescent, and it has helped me enormously. One caveat I would add, though, is that clinical depression and anxiety disorders often can't be solved with this method. I tried to choose positivity as often as possible for a long time, and it helped me function in the world, but it wasn't until I saw a therapist and started taking anxiety meds that I realized my body chemistry had been working against me the whole time. Now that I'm treating my illness, this technique works brilliantly. I just want to make sure that if there are INFPs out there who try and try and can't make this work, sometimes therapy and/or psychiatry is the key. Love the channel! :)
Nothing wrong with therapy and external support :) Meds are a whole complicated conversation... but there are many techniques to help reduce anxiety to a manageable level that I’d personally use before taking medication for it...
My roommate in college gave me “Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff,” it really helped me get out of my head more. I still am super deep but, I pick and choose what I care a lot about and what I will care little about.
I heard 悪循環 and was like "wait, did he just speak in Japanese?" Haha, caught me by surprise. Thanks for the videos btw, really helping me with understanding and accepting myself 😊
"losing yourself means rediscover it enriched by new sensations". thats my quote for infp's loops going constantly up and down, bye everyone. (really nice video though)
Sometimes it gets really hard, carrying all the weight of the world on my shoulders. But I found a way for me to put all the bad stuff into positivity. Getting sad or melancholic about things, situations and people makes me recognize what I want for my happiness. I'll never stop being a dreamer but I chose that this is my superpower.
Absolutely. Happiness and peace is determined by what you have alive in your mind in regards to your self image. You decide to be happy, you smash any unwanted thoughts, you choose to view the world and people and yourself in the way you prefer them to be and you persist in that. Everything begins to shift, starting with you. It is a Law of the Universe. I beat my depression in one week with a loving and positive mental diet.
I think we infp our biggest challenge is self love/self esteem but its hard to have self esteem when i am always occupied to underatand and feel people motives feelings ect @@
@@Carmy0118 Stop at understanding other people's thoughts & go no further. we INFPs kinda constantly forget that we NEED to love ourselves before we could be loved. learning to shield ourselves from the opinions of others would be one lesson we need to constantly do for the rest of our lives. care too much about what other people think of us, & people would simply see us as pushovers & doormats.
I really want to control my emotions. Lately I am really frustrated easily and I find that to be the worst emotion. INFP here. I finally feel like somebody understands how I think. Yay.
I got really down and in a depressive state for a few weeks (dark season am I right) but actually my driving instructor noticed, had a talk with me and told me a very helpful tip. For every negative thought you have (when you catch it) think of two positive things. This can be about anything but for me the best practise is to think about the positives of that negative thought.
When I feel low, I recalls all good memories like compliments from others and my achievement to be positive, but still it doesn't help me overcome anxiety which makes me indecisive
My happiness is due to gratitude. And that wonderful connection with hart/mind. When that align in my soul im deeply greatful for my ability to live again..
I really like the stereo technique you were talking about. I've been doing that recently even before I heard you talk about it where I see a dial and I turn it up-and-down depending on the emotion . It really works. It's so great to find somebody like you we all really need this.
oh my gosh, when you mentioned trying to decide what kind of coffee to order that fucking hit :( you honestly explained what I have such trouble trying to explain to others without feeling crazy. I'm so glad I found your channel.
I'm an INFP and I went from being in the grips of depression from life shattering trauma and PTSD, to not so bad by just sitting down and writing the whole story down. It took 10 hours over 2 separate days. When I put my pen down most of the trauma had subsided. It was enough relief that whereas I had trouble remembering the incident and 8 years of marriage to being able to fondly remember and even enjoy them. The contrast has been so sharp that I don't believe that it happened. How is it possible to do that? Why does it feel so good to be in my head thinking and feeling and testing scenarios? How can I be sure I haven't gone insane?
Honestly, there is one thing I did that turned everything around for me and I'm glad you mentioned it. I used to slouch and stare at the ground as I walked. At one point I actively practiced standing up straight and keeping my chin up. Yes it was super awkward until I got used to it, but it made feel and appear more confident to others which at some point became real. It's weird but even when you are not certain on the inside, if you look confident people will listen, and follow you. Bonus! Optimism is amazing! I have failed so much and realizes that no matter what happens, everything always turns out ok eventually even if it's not perfect. Dream and make your dreams reality. Failure is part of learning, and let you make a bigger impact the next time you try!
Okay . I go for a long walk . I journal . Honestly. My diary is my confidante, my pure outlet . We cannot just walk through this gig without expressing ourselves to ourselves . It really helps. 👄😘😘😘
Wow, you lived in Japan! I'm saying hello to you from Japan. I've found your videos accidentally today and I'm watching now. I'm INFP and been struggling with traits in my life. But I think I'm getting better. I want to say thank you for making me keep on trying that. Btw, sorry my poor English😂💦
"You are never going to be happy until you decide to be happy." lol, I agree. Couple weeks ago I said something similar, "Life can be as devastating or as interesting as you want it to be" lol
Last school year (2019-2020), I was in a very dark place. I had many physical problems and lost much weight, and this affected my mental state as well. School was also tough and my confidence was 0. Life was putting too much weight on my shoulders that I unfortunately thought of suicide. However, the summer of 2019 was when I changed. I went to London for a few days and seeing another place changed my point of view. I realized that life is beautiful and enjoyable. I came out of the dark place and have been going up ever since. There are still ups and downs, and many things I need to work on, however I love myself and I am so much happier and healthier now. I hope anyone who reads this and relates to it can also be the happiest version of themselves :)
2:35 THIS IS ME EVERY DAY. I SWEAR. SOMETIMES, I CONSUME ALL MY BREAK TIME STARING AT WHAT FOOD SHOULD I EAT. AND THEN I'LL END UP NOT EATING. I FEEL LIKE STARING TO THOSE FOOD MAKES ME FULL. HAHAHA.
Let's get into life . You are never going to to be happy until you decide to be happy . OMG ! Blimey. This really makes sense . Cheers darling. ♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡
Learning to practise daily gratitude has helped. In some ways I’ve had to LEARN to be happy…and don’t let my emotional responses rule my choices, if that makes sense…which it doesn’t, lol…I mean if you ignore how you feel and do it anyway, the happiness kind of sneaks up on you.
I used to be very heavy into psychedelics. and one thing I discovered is I could remember a scenario. to be easy, take your first kiss. that excitement, stomach tremble, all of that is somewhere involving serotonin and oxytocin. What tripped me up is I could get other people to do it. Music will do this too for me; I'll let youtube just go on algorithm and listen for hours and feel like its an emotional trip.
Yes, it’s possible! We can learn to love ourselves. We are all imperfectly perfect. i Especially Love INFPs 💕 So true, just buying coffee can be agonizing 😂! we gotta be kind to ourselves, be the Love you are. Great point, projection happens. Nothing is personal and no need to make assumptions. When I feel down i like to go outside, be amongst trees. exercise classes and swimming help and Listening to music. thank you for your videos 🙏
9:20 Positive Tune Up 😂 I'm going to try to remind myself to do this. I just found this channel, and I feel like I'm already learning and engaging with it a lot.
I found happiness ! Its true for me that i chose it . After sui ide attempt ... diagnosed with major depression with psychosis .. after horrible postpartum with 3 kids and losing custody after losing everything . I realised if i can choose to be that sad and sitting at the end of that road.... i had to choose happness to even exist anymore . The strugle wasnt easy its been 8 yrs now and 5 yrs ago i was released from any therapy or psychological care . I go every year to make sure im still well. I do that because ten yrs ago i realised i was my own enemy and i cant trust me to decide if im ok lol. I am very aware of one very true thing and its that i didnt know what happy was til i was recovering with this a few yrs ago . Im almost 40 . Life is absolutely ajourney of beautiful pain and challenges and absolurtely anything is possible. I am no longer diagnosed withthese things and all i eant to do now is break boundries forever . I finally have a desire to be functional and take intiative to take control of my life. I have to remind myself not everyone can overcome things like i can. Working on that
How come I’m an INTJ and can relate to this video so much ? Am I becoming a different person ? Or it’s just that my Fi is a bit stronger than it should be ? Is it even possible for INTJs to get emotionally overwhelmed ?!!! Anyway, your video is really amazing .. I really like your content 👏👏👏
@@AML147 Aha .. Maybe because we're both intuitive I figured that I have common things with intuitive people when it comes to the way we understand and view different things even if our types were different
An INFP here, & typically speaking, i should have a lotta trouble explaining myself & would go out of my way to avoid confrontations of any kind, yet i'd still be able to explain what's going on in my head adequately (although it's still kinda draining) & have little problems giving people the middle finger whenever the situation calls for it. i think it has a lot to do with my Te being very developed for whatever reasons. so if a type that should've been an emotional wreck half the time could get logical & intellectual, i don't see why a TJ couldn't be emotionally overwhelmed.
last summer I decided that I'm going to be more outgoing, spontaneous and not afraid of people's judgements. As a result, I made a couple of friends whom I enjoy hanging out with and doing things with that I usually don't do like dancing;).
yes, but it's usually easy for me to do that for others. here tho, i find that i can't do that so easily. still trying to figure out many of the struggles we share.
As an INTP sometimes I feel like the whole world against me. I do struggle with my emotions because it feels like my feelings come in like a group. It's like a bowl of colors mixed all together and all I do is sit and stare at it not because I like it but because I enjoy it.... until all the colors fade to black and my depression begins.... It's fun to think that infps problems can easily be solved by simply organizing these colors... like putting each color on a shelf so you recognize what the he'll is going on inside your head To solve all infps problems in my opinion by just and only getting out of the bed first and paying more attention on who and why I'm feeling something because of someone I'm still struggling with the whole thing 😅 But I learnt a new technique now and I thank you for it❤
I guess I'm a rare INFP then because I was and still am super happy and optimistic basically 100% of the time. I do get sad or depressed sometimes but then I let go of it and do something that makes me happy, so I turn happy very quickly again which I'm genuinely happy and proud of. My advice would be to follow your heart because that's what will make you happy. :)
I always wondered why the fuck I was like that 😮💨 I recently discovered Law of Assumption & it's been helping as far maintaining my neutrality & having some fun with my thoughts. I decided I didn't want to be depressed anymore & left the old me behind. Grieved her & moved on. I visit the dark hole but I don't live there anymore. I had to find something to believe in or I might've been lost forever. I still do have my breakdowns every blue moon but at least I know how to bounce back & rejuvenate a bit. Maybe that always doesn't look like fun or something exciting but I don't think I want it to be. I like creating that calmness & chanting my affirmations. Our thoughts really do create ☁ 💖☁
I was always tell myself something whenever I’m having trouble. “I’d rather be an optimist than just despair at the state of the world.” Creating characters is fun, for sure. And when I play video games, it’s always the characters that I attach to.
I'd say no. the shadow functions are called such because they're sealed away parts of ourselves that AIN'T MEANT to be used. they NEED intense stress & even despair to trigger, & when they do emerge, those functions are ALWAYS out to fuck us up in the long run. the shadow functions ain't our weakness; they're stuff out to KILL US. learn about them, be aware of them, guard against them, & DON'T EVER think of using them if you can help it.
Just wanna say thank you for this video.. was feeling too overwhelmed and anxious with all the things that are happening in my life.. stumbled upon this vid and it made me feel better.. thank you
Yoga nidra, especially the ones where they have you "set an intention" (such as, I am happy and healthy, I am calm and relaxed, etc) can really help! You can find a bunch of them on UA-cam, some are meant to help you fall asleep and some are good for whenever I feel like I'm scatterbrained or just running rampid with thoughts. Clears your head, relaxes your body, would recommend 💯👌
I'm happy when people just leave me alone. I love for my family to briefly chat with and give updates on their day and such. And sometimes I enjoy an intense conversation about something weird. But I'm happiest alone or with my dogs. I guess I really just need a new human stray if I'm going to have a friend.
For me, my mother (not an INFP) is always positive and when I was younger seeing positives in negatives and being carefree. I was anxious and quiet. Overtime I valued those specific traits a lot more. I was an optimist people viewed me as carefree. Though still anxious and needs some time to get off social media, I can always see the good in the bad. Maintains that optimism is easy because I instituted as a child. All I did was value the traits I wanted and just embody it more. Nothing special just wanted to add.
Growing up with an ESTJ father always expecting perfection has not been easy for an INFP like me. I love learning, trying & experimenting new things, but at the same time there is always a little voice in my head telling me "this is not good enough, you are not talented, why bother if you can't achieve perfection right away, etc". I constantly have to fight these thoughts, because BREAKING NEWS : it's impossible to be perfect when you try something new. MISTAKES mean you're LEARNING. When you do everything perfectly, it means you're actually doing the same things over and over again, not innovating, not stepping out of your comfort zone. All my life I've tried to impress other people the same way I tried to impress my father. And when I make a mistake, I don't feel good about myself and it breaks my confidence. My father didn't understand that. We don't have a relationship anymore and it breaks my heart, but at the same time I feel so free now. Like a weight off my shoulders. I can finally work on that part of myself that is always trying to achieve absolute perfection, and let my creativity go wild. I'm always trying to be gentle and forgiving with myself the same way I am with other people. Still a work in progress. Once I gain enough confidence, I'll try to talk to my father again (if he wants to, which I doubt). Anyways, fellow INFPs thanks for reading my novel lol. If you're experiencing something similar in your life, don't hesitate to reach out. I love reading other people's stories. :) love y'all dears!
Looking at what you wrote, it kinda made me think if i've become more assertive INFP early in my life, because i've just stopped trying to impress my parents, then pretty much everyone around me, at an age where people would have wanted to impress the people around them.
Dude, you're rocking it brother. These videos are very helpful. I'm literally laughing out loud at your stereo analogy ( and knowing it'll work if I can just remember it)
you'd be a fantastic meditation teacher haha :') I can totally imagine you on SimpleHabit. Your encouraging vibes and soothing voice remind me of Cory Muscara, a meditation teacher. Also, could you talk about your thought process before moving to japan, how you made the final push, and how you adjusted to life there? I'm pretty certain I want to study abroad alone but it still seems daunting. And i know, I already know I want to do it and I know that I'll inevitably grow from venturing outside my comfort zone, so i should just do it, but i think i'd still feel inspired/less alone if you shared your experience.
Life is fascinating. I'm a senior INFP and I think the key to happiness with us is the choice of whether to identify with the Matrix and live inside their box, play by their rules, or not. I refuse to be pressured into conformin; ever since college and even now at age 73. I'm a proliffic novelist and artist, raised two sons and many animals, mostly single my whole life and I've never really fit in, thank God. (an old hippie, haha) Now I'm homeless, carless, jobless, wifeless, moneyless and totally FREE !! (housesititng) Sure I've had bouts of despair, but when I pull out of it some miracle always happens - like I was feeling broke, thinking maybe my next home was under the freeway, and then a semi-truck bashed into my sons wife's care that I was driving - and I'm going to get a shit load of money for my brain injury, which made me an even more sensitive empath, more compassionate for the elderly, especially those who are homeless and brain damaged. In the end being an INFP living outside of the Matrix, for me is a total blessing. I am happy and loved and could, but won't, die at any time with a song in my heart..
i was just feeling very unhappy and dissatisfied so i decided to go on youtube as a last choice and this was the first recommended video and i clicked but i'm too unhappy to watch so imma sleep instead i'll still watch a minute or so and give it a like tho
Thank you so much for that. I laughed out loud which felt good (I could see myself as a character) a person constantly exhausted because of how much evaluation they do. It's funny and cute. Really summed me up XD
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lmfaooooooooooooooooooooo
Epetra this was literally me hahahhahaha
*Laughs in Fi*
Yes same. I wanna die 💖💖💖💖
Literally me when I first saw this video
Every person that I've seen in infp videos so far seems to be soft spoken and very selective with their verbal wording. It kind of blows my mind how consistent it is
Same 😂
😂😂😂true
Yes, that is so. Amazing.
Words are funny. I’ve spent so much time tumbling through a rabbit hole of trying to find the right words to explain core personality concepts in a way that resonates in the way I want.
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I think INFP's are the most beautiful personality type. They are so warm and loving. I know INFP's are complicated because they aren't surface-level, ever, which can be frustrating for outsiders and even to themselves. INFP's are not just butterfly-chasers. They're a lot more level-headed and grounded than people think. Exploring doesn't mean one is lost. It is a constant learning curve. Audrey Hempburn and Shakespeare were both INFP's and are still celebrated today.
Of course INFP's can be happy. There is so much beauty on this life and we don't always need to overshadow those beauties with our extreme idealistic ideologies.
Thanks Mr UA-camr. You did such a brilliant, calming job relaying your message.
Thank you for the kind resonating words. :)
Too many of us INFPs get down on ourselves and focus on the struggles without finding a way to navigate them and arrive at a brighter future ^^
I got tears reading this thank you for your encouraging words
If there's one thing that i'd disagree with this, it's that we INFPs are by nature, butterfly chasers, & to our own dismay, we may even be chasing more than one butterfly at any given moment. Those among us who don't appear so, are those who're aware of that rather destructive tendency & have gone out of their way to address it. The ones among us who've learned to just to admire butterflies from a distance, instead of constantly trying to chase them, are the ones who'd have a way better chance of finding happiness & success in life.
Anyway, thanks for reassuring that we too, could be beautiful, wanted & loved. That really means the world to us.
I've done it too! I'm INFP, and I'm happy and positive pretty much all of the time, and I'm an optimist 100% of the time. Took about about 2 years of self-taught mental exercises and deliberately putting myself in uncomfortable/challenging situations to get me here, but it was way worth it. I had some pretty bad anxiety a couple years back, and it really took a toll on my confidence. I never sought out proper help or really told anyone about it. Then one day a flip just sort of flipped in my brain. I just decided, "This is over now". And obviously that wasn't the end of all my problems, but every day I worked (and still am working) on improving my mindset and being the best version of myself possible. Now I can do things that used to terrify me without even a second thought. I used to be scared of talking to new people and going beyond my comfort zone -- and now I love both! I always tell myself I'm happy, even when I'm not (especially when), and my mind automatically seeks out the positives in every situation. I no longer care too much what others think, and therefore am so much more free to be my authentic self. It's totally doable!
Wow, I am super proud of you for transforming your character in a positive way. I wish I also could be more assertive and confident.
This is really admirable. I whish I could defeat social anxiety with your same courage. because it's ruining my life. What did you do to get rid of fear?
@@d.6832 I wouldn't say I've extinguished my fear, I've just developed ways of managing it. Mostly I just cover it with an abundance of positive thoughts. Whenever I start having negative/fearful thoughts about what others think of me, for example, I remind myself of who I know myself to be -- it doesn't matter so much if other people don't see you as you want to be seen or don't get you, as long you always keep sure in the knowledge of your identity and are proud of that person. And pushing yourself to do the very things that make you afraid is really important. It's hard at first, but eventually you get better at doing them and realise they're actually not as bad as you thought, and it gets easier.
Try stand up comedy, it helped me
My biggest problem isn't social anxiety, it's just that every single bad thing happening to me, no matter how ridiculously small it is, immediately pushes me down. Someone reminds me that it might be time to search for something to do after university? I almost have a nervous breakdown. Oral exams this week (I've actually got two this week and I'm procrastinating right now, you can all wish me luck for Tuesday and Wednesday)? I'm terrified and immediately got a feeling I can't do it and I'm not good enough. An studying actually makes me feel worse because I have too high expectations and, of course, I disappoint myself every time. In the end, I'm usually one or two two grades better than expected, but the panic before is just unbearable.
I didn't sleep well for one or two nights? Immediate anxiety I'm not gonna be able to do everything I need to do, fear of wasting a day doing nothing.
After a long conversation with friends/family? "What if I said something inappropriate?" "What if I hurt someone's feelings?" "What if they don't like me anymore because I talk too much?" "What if they were just to polite to leave earlier?" Note that all of my friends here at university are either infp's themselves or infj's, so they're both likely not to tell me when something is wrong, and to understand how I'm feeling. I also feel like I don't care enough about their problems and only talk about mine all the time - that's mainly because when I get nervous or uncomfortable or simply don't know what to say, I start talking about myself. Doesn't even matter if I'm on a train sitting next to a random stranger. "Yes, I was bullied in school, also my relationship to my father wasn't ideal - I don't blame him, you know, he did his best - so I basically don't have any self-esteem an am constantly doubting myself." What the heck is soneone on a train gonna do with that information?!
Although pessimistic, I don’t believe as employees we’ll ever be happy. Always having to ask when we can escape to our hideouts. Having a limit on the money we make. I mean being an employee doesn’t signify freedom in our ears in any way. We need to somehow do something special whilst being the one who controls the vision. In addition, we need this because it gives us the chance to decide for ourselves when we can go escape
I hate to be religious but I have found reading my bible, daily devotion, spending time to reflect and exercise has helped me. When I feel anxious or sad about situations I release it to the lord.
It's so me 😆
INFPs are the most faithful :)
I’m not religious, but I do feel I’m faithful in someway.
@@fayruzahabsary4703 lol im an atheist and INFP. I figured out one of the worst feelings is being emotionally manipulated and thats what religion does all the time
@@rosestrohm7986 I see. It's okay. Being faithful doesn't amount to religion only, anyway. 😊 I only meant the relation of religion to faithfulness.
We all are different though we may be all infps. I'm sorry if you feel that way towards religion but for me and Ameena, our faithfulness is inclined with religion.
I'm sure you have something or someone in life you are faithful with 💚
I've been a very emotional explosive, depressive and angry child. But at some point in my life I just had enough of feeling miserable and I somehow switched into a more positive and tolerant mindset. It took me years to develop but here I am accepting the people how they are and enjoying life for its smallest things. I never thought I could ever be happy in this world. Today I am. :)
I think everyone can be happy, it all depends on the way you see things and how true you are to yourself and the people around you.
I agree with you and it took times to get into this level as INFP myself, but all and all Im really grateful for the opportunity to live in this world and feel all the feeling this world has to offer for us. Send loves and hang in there 😁
I am a very happy infp. I think if we cultivate in our art talent, we would discover some immense joy in the process of creating. I love portrait drawing and I found myself in the process and express my deep feeling. I am single, the joy of me creating my art has made me complete and I do not long for relationship that I used to be.
I am the same. I get soo much joy from creating. It is the part of me that fulfils me and does not make me feel empty
My initial reaction; NO!!!
My actual reaction: excellent video! This one gave me a lot to think about! :)
I got an INFP boyfriend and he seems depressed all the time, I really want to help him become happy
Just found your channel. I'm an INFJ Grandma of a sixteen-year-old INFP granddaughter. She struggles. I just directed her to your video. Fingers crossed that she will watch it and start to learn about Myers-Briggs, INP, her gifts, filters, challenges and the tools you recommend. Thank you so much for this video which I hope will help her in her journey!
That's so wholesome ❤
That is awesome Ariana , hope she is thriving now.
You're an awesome grandma 💙
I loved reading this!
You are an awesome grandmother, I hope she appreciates you.
I'm an INFP and I used to be really really "emo" back then, but I became aware of that "phase" so I tried, and still trying, to control my emotions to lean more on happiness and the positive side. Sure, I still get sad and down most of the time. But each day, even though it's tiring and hard, I try to stand the fuck up and be happy because I know that positivity would be good for me.
Period! Keep on going!
One thing to correct though, the word here would be 'manage' instead of 'control'. It probably differs with other personality types but in our case, our emotions ain't meant to be controlled. The ironic fact is that despite our rampaging emotions being the very thing making us emotional, melancholic sob fests, it's also what makes us so enigmatic & beautiful. In my opinion, at least, fighting against it would be quite a waste. A gut feeling from a fellow INFP to another, you'd get further just coming to terms & making peace with your emotions, than to try to wrestle them whenever you dip into the negative.
Upbeat music does the trick for me
This may be a different suggestion, but I am a very religious INFP and my faith gives me hope and a positive purpose in life and that increases my happiness. Whether you are religious or not, you can probably gain a lot from reading the Psalms which were written by King David, who I am confident was an INFP. His words, though thousands of years old, sound a lot like my inner thoughts. They are very comforting.
I'm not an INFP, I generally don't care about others feelings and not even my own just to be more 'efficient'. But I have this INFP person I think I fell in love with and I want to help him be happier in his life. Thank you for these points. I am struggling on understanding emotions I'm glad I found your channel.
I've been trying to write in a journal now when I start to feel overwhelmed with emotion. Once I write it out it feels so much less of a burden. And sometimes I realize that it's not even as big of a deal as I make it. It also helps stop me from freaking out even more from being too focused on all these feelings.
I'll also leave reminders for myself in my journal... I noticed that sometimes I forget that I had already reached a conclusion on something after much thought then I'll relapse to freaking out about that same problem. So I make sure that I write down my conclusions so I won't have to go through the whole cycle again.
Great video though! :)
Omg me too! I read my past entries in my journal and I get shocked when I see that I've written about the same thing I've been currently thinking about. Journaling helps me understand myself better and I feel like I can set my thoughts and feelings free, into the paper.
Journaling is also part of my life. And by doing it, it could relieve stress, channel my emotion, examine or observe everything, be grateful through it, and yes i can relate to you about that relapse issue 😁
@@1nsertusername indeed!
Is it just me? I’ll sometimes write my thoughts down about some issue I’m trying to work through, I think to release them. But then I’ll destroy the sheet of paper because I don’t want to chance someone else reading it! lol. I really do this occasionally…
I don't know really, I cry whenever I hear a sentimental Arctic Monkeys song on earphones/headphones
Same. I cry everytime I listen to Cornerstone and Despair in the Departure Lounge. :(
Just try upbeat music
I use it to lighten up my mood.
Arctic Monkeys are amazing ....or maybe we are just too emotional ........😅
Every morning for the last year, as soon as I become aware I smile as wide as I can. It feels like an agreement with the day that it's going to be a good one. I used to wake up in states of negative rumination very often. My emotional state was left to a roll of the dice. Now I take charge and curate my emotional sate as best as I can. I think smiling works wonderfully!
I hope you're doing great and still applying this positive mindset everyday, fellow INFP. 🖤:)
C V I am! And I’ve added some dancing and singing and/or meditation and yoga to the routine. :) What about you? Have you experimented with anything along those lines that you’d recommend?
@@mikethetraveler I feel empty and sad some days, but I'm trying my best to keep going and don't give up yet. I spend my days painting, working out or listening to music but every single day is a challenge for me. Thank you for asking.
@@CV-yy9qz I feel you. The emotional grind is harder than any other, isn't it? It sounds like you have some of the key ingredients for coming out of the darkness. Art and self care have been MEGA game changers for me too. Maybe this is a harsh thought, but for me it's been real... If you're going through hell, keep going. the only way out of it is head first haha.
Do you have an "Uplifting" playlist that you listen to?
@@mikethetraveler I've been diagnosed with severe anxiety two years ago. I've been on meds but stopped taking them because of a few complications. I'm still struggling with it on a daily basis, but working out helps me a lot with tension and it release all the stress. 😊 Btw, I don't have an "uplifting" playlist, all I have are depressing rock songs haha sorry.
I am definitely a "grittier" INFP 😂. Being an entrepreneur has done so much for me. This kind of inner work is exactly how my journey began though. This is great ❤
I’ve always wanted to be an entrepreneur.
悪循環 ^_^ lol - I hear you.
“Decide to be happy” - That’s powerful. You’re sad because you decided to be sad. I also think proper eating and sleeping helps too.
that's it exactly, you are happy cuz you want to be happy, sad cuz you want to wallow in your self pity... I have been Happy for a long time, cuz I chose to be Happy.
Although I've not pursued it as a career, I find the time I spend being creative, writing music, melody, and singing, it brings me great joy. My students and clients in the past, have told me they love it. Kids don't lie! I once had a 15 year old boy tell me, Mrs. Angela, if more people would write songs like that, we kids would listen. Makes me want to cry just thinking about it. Maybe I should pursue it after all....
To everyone struggling, thanks for being courageous and not giving up 👍
My sister is close to suicide and she's an INFP. As an INFJ I try to help her but I hope your advices will make her stop to cry. She's 28 y.o and I'm 21. It's a tough situation so thanks for the advices man.
I'm aware of just fuckin' impossible it is deal with our types when we're in our worst, emotionally overwhelmed states. hell, we INFPs ourselves might sooner cut ourselves off with the devastating emotional wrecks of our own type, just to avoid getting caught up in their emotional turmoil & become devastating emotional wrecks ourselves. so thank you, for being there for one of our own in such a difficult time.
“There is no duty we so much underrate as the duty of being happy.” - Robert Louis Stevenson.
I love this video. Being happy is a choice and a continual effort that is so worth it (notwithstanding depression etc of course which can’t be ‘decided’).
Gretchen Rubin has great books with practical tips for being happy, and Derren Brown has a book called ‘Happy’ which takes a more philosophical approach. Both very valuable!
I think I’m an INFP, but I’ve always been optimistic in life, always looking at the bright side of life. Always believing that the universe has it’s own reasons behind everything going on.
Unfortunately sadness is seen pretty negatively nowadays but I think it's actually very beneficial to be sad or melancholic, because it makes you a lot more empathetic and sensitive which is something that the world really needs right now.
Edit: that doesn't mean you should be depressed all the time of course, all I'm saying is that sadness per se isn't a bad thing
You sound s much like me!!! INFP enneagram 9 :D I think our disposition to feel a lot of pain is in some sense good because it leads many of us to spiritual growth and even enlightenment
I think a problem is that when people tell me to be happy, it feels like they are telling me not to be myself.
How do you talk your mind out of thinking you are lying to yourself? How do you stop associating happiness with being fake?
This. I felt like that back in time, actually I still feel like that. Honestly the word happiness makes me wanna throw up as it often equals pretense. So what I did is stop chasing happiness. Instead, I am looking for balance
Dissociation. detachment. not with something outside, but with something inside. we INFPs are just too used to connecting everything with everything inside us, especially the negative parts since the positive ones inherently look fake to us, not realizing that some things just ain't meant to be connected. i learned to cut things off, like in this case, happiness DOESN'T EQUAL being fake. the process ain't necessary gonna be smooth. with some things, it feels like just snipping a thread with a pair of scissors, with some, it feels like sawing a tree trunk with a handsaw instead. it's gonna feel goddamn awkward to make that journey at first, & it's gonna feel repulsive, since we're so used to shunning anything that makes us feel awkward & fake.
It's also important to realize one very glaring fact that we constantly overlook--happy people have unhappy shit to deal with as well. just like how we find others unable to see the shitstorm all over the place inside us, we also fail to see all the internal shit going on with happy people, & they may actually have it worse than we do. we AIN'T gonna lose all the melancholic, sulking, depressive parts of us just because we decide to be happy. those parts are ALWAYS gonna be with us, we're just gotta be dealing with those parts better, which would in turn let our self, our individuality shine.
I personally decided to look for joy rather then happiness. I try to not overlook things that seem insignificant and try not to forget to look at bad situation from a more self-improving point of view rather then self pity. It's definitely challenging, but I hope that the struggles I face may someday can encourage somebody who needs it!
I've been so tired of my emotions taking over my every day. Thank you for this.
✌🏻️😃☮ I'm the creator of my happiness and the only one who can choose how I feel. 👍 Thank you!
What I love is spending time in nature and hiking mountains. 💚 Nature is cheaper than therapy like they say. 😆
@@justanotherinvisibleinfp1410 Ugh, yes! Definitely agree.
Namame 💜🍃🍂🐾
You are and you will prevail. Remember this strength of thought and optimism beautiful.
"There's nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so."
You’re so cute omg
Yess i want to hug him... 😍
that's INFPs for you ;)
So cute
Yes😍💖
I think it might be all INFPs, they're so adorable
I have anxiety so bad as long as I can remember & I feel like my life is falling apart now cuz I had a Dr that was working with me & now he is gonna cut my anxiety meds off cuz "it's a rule" & this had happened before since I been on for so long, but every time I've been cut off my high dose I panic so bad & I've gone way back now in my life in so many ways.
The worst ways were when I almost died (too many times). I told my Dr how I feel & he knows my history, but he can't help cuz he said "it the rules here & not my rule...".
Same thing I've heard before & gone through so much hell.
I'm so scared 😭 idk what to do & worried about my future cuz I almost died too many times & been in comas, live support & so on... It's horrible 😭 I hate it & I hate this feeling of going backwards again & I've been doing So good in my life for probably the longest I've ever been before & everything has been going okay I guess, I mean , my grandma died a few month ago & I felt with that so much better than I thought I would & if it was not for the anxiety meds, idk what or how I woulda even coped with that.
😢HUGZ😢
They should not be able to cut you off your meds like that. Where do you live that has such ‘rules’? Where I live, that would not be considered good medical practice.
I'm also an INFP who had this same realization as an adolescent, and it has helped me enormously. One caveat I would add, though, is that clinical depression and anxiety disorders often can't be solved with this method. I tried to choose positivity as often as possible for a long time, and it helped me function in the world, but it wasn't until I saw a therapist and started taking anxiety meds that I realized my body chemistry had been working against me the whole time. Now that I'm treating my illness, this technique works brilliantly. I just want to make sure that if there are INFPs out there who try and try and can't make this work, sometimes therapy and/or psychiatry is the key. Love the channel! :)
Nothing wrong with therapy and external support :)
Meds are a whole complicated conversation... but there are many techniques to help reduce anxiety to a manageable level that I’d personally use before taking medication for it...
Also, I LOVE the I. Now. Feel. Positive.
"You are never going to be happy until you decide to be happy."
Well, I have time, so let's think about that later.
My roommate in college gave me “Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff,” it really helped me get out of my head more. I still am super deep but, I pick and choose what I care a lot about and what I will care little about.
I heard 悪循環 and was like "wait, did he just speak in Japanese?" Haha, caught me by surprise. Thanks for the videos btw, really helping me with understanding and accepting myself 😊
"losing yourself means rediscover it enriched by new sensations". thats my quote for infp's loops going constantly up and down, bye everyone. (really nice video though)
Yeah when we are left alone and knowing that there is others out there like me.
Sometimes it gets really hard, carrying all the weight of the world on my shoulders. But I found a way for me to put all the bad stuff into positivity. Getting sad or melancholic about things, situations and people makes me recognize what I want for my happiness. I'll never stop being a dreamer but I chose that this is my superpower.
Absolutely. Happiness and peace is determined by what you have alive in your mind in regards to your self image. You decide to be happy, you smash any unwanted thoughts, you choose to view the world and people and yourself in the way you prefer them to be and you persist in that. Everything begins to shift, starting with you. It is a Law of the Universe. I beat my depression in one week with a loving and positive mental diet.
I think we infp our biggest challenge is self love/self esteem but its hard to have self esteem when i am always occupied to underatand and feel people motives feelings ect @@
@@Carmy0118 Stop at understanding other people's thoughts & go no further. we INFPs kinda constantly forget that we NEED to love ourselves before we could be loved. learning to shield ourselves from the opinions of others would be one lesson we need to constantly do for the rest of our lives. care too much about what other people think of us, & people would simply see us as pushovers & doormats.
'life is a game. this is the walktrough' nice words
I really want to control my emotions. Lately I am really frustrated easily and I find that to be the worst emotion. INFP here. I finally feel like somebody understands how I think. Yay.
I got really down and in a depressive state for a few weeks (dark season am I right) but actually my driving instructor noticed, had a talk with me and told me a very helpful tip. For every negative thought you have (when you catch it) think of two positive things. This can be about anything but for me the best practise is to think about the positives of that negative thought.
This talk made me realize about my melancholic side. 👏
When I feel low, I recalls all good memories like compliments from others and my achievement to be positive, but still it doesn't help me overcome anxiety which makes me indecisive
My happiness is due to gratitude. And that wonderful connection with hart/mind. When that align in my soul im deeply greatful for my ability to live again..
I really like the stereo technique you were talking about. I've been doing that recently even before I heard you talk about it where I see a dial and I turn it up-and-down depending on the emotion . It really works. It's so great to find somebody like you we all really need this.
Thank you for this advice, sir. I'll pray for you in my Rosary. God bless.
oh my gosh, when you mentioned trying to decide what kind of coffee to order that fucking hit :( you honestly explained what I have such trouble trying to explain to others without feeling crazy. I'm so glad I found your channel.
Happy to have you here ^^
Great video 🙏🏼 The power of positive thinking is amazing. When we change our perception we gain control.
I'm an INFP and I went from being in the grips of depression from life shattering trauma and PTSD, to not so bad by just sitting down and writing the whole story down. It took 10 hours over 2 separate days. When I put my pen down most of the trauma had subsided. It was enough relief that whereas I had trouble remembering the incident and 8 years of marriage to being able to fondly remember and even enjoy them. The contrast has been so sharp that I don't believe that it happened. How is it possible to do that? Why does it feel so good to be in my head thinking and feeling and testing scenarios? How can I be sure I haven't gone insane?
Honestly, there is one thing I did that turned everything around for me and I'm glad you mentioned it.
I used to slouch and stare at the ground as I walked. At one point I actively practiced standing up straight and keeping my chin up. Yes it was super awkward until I got used to it, but it made feel and appear more confident to others which at some point became real. It's weird but even when you are not certain on the inside, if you look confident people will listen, and follow you.
Bonus! Optimism is amazing! I have failed so much and realizes that no matter what happens, everything always turns out ok eventually even if it's not perfect.
Dream and make your dreams reality. Failure is part of learning, and let you make a bigger impact the next time you try!
Okay . I go for a long walk . I journal . Honestly. My diary is my confidante, my pure outlet . We cannot just walk through this gig without expressing ourselves to ourselves . It really helps. 👄😘😘😘
Wow, you lived in Japan!
I'm saying hello to you from Japan.
I've found your videos accidentally today and I'm watching now.
I'm INFP and been struggling with traits in my life. But I think I'm getting better. I want to say thank you for making me keep on trying that.
Btw, sorry my poor English😂💦
"You are never going to be happy until you decide to be happy."
lol, I agree.
Couple weeks ago I said something similar, "Life can be as devastating or as interesting as you want it to be" lol
It’s counterintuitive but I’ve found it to be true
Im ENFJ.Honestly I like all your videos👍👌🙌💖.Keep going to spread your ideas and experiences as INFP.It was incredible.
Last school year (2019-2020), I was in a very dark place. I had many physical problems and lost much weight, and this affected my mental state as well. School was also tough and my confidence was 0. Life was putting too much weight on my shoulders that I unfortunately thought of suicide. However, the summer of 2019 was when I changed. I went to London for a few days and seeing another place changed my point of view. I realized that life is beautiful and enjoyable. I came out of the dark place and have been going up ever since. There are still ups and downs, and many things I need to work on, however I love myself and I am so much happier and healthier now. I hope anyone who reads this and relates to it can also be the happiest version of themselves :)
2:35 THIS IS ME EVERY DAY. I SWEAR. SOMETIMES, I CONSUME ALL MY BREAK TIME STARING AT WHAT FOOD SHOULD I EAT. AND THEN I'LL END UP NOT EATING. I FEEL LIKE STARING TO THOSE FOOD MAKES ME FULL. HAHAHA.
"SSS"! My code to cope: be Sassy, be Sexy and Smile! 😉
Let's get into life . You are never going to to be happy until you decide to be happy . OMG ! Blimey. This really makes sense . Cheers darling. ♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡
Learning to practise daily gratitude has helped. In some ways I’ve had to LEARN to be happy…and don’t let my emotional responses rule my choices, if that makes sense…which it doesn’t, lol…I mean if you ignore how you feel and do it anyway, the happiness kind of sneaks up on you.
I used to be very heavy into psychedelics. and one thing I discovered is I could remember a scenario. to be easy, take your first kiss. that excitement, stomach tremble, all of that is somewhere involving serotonin and oxytocin. What tripped me up is I could get other people to do it. Music will do this too for me; I'll let youtube just go on algorithm and listen for hours and feel like its an emotional trip.
Yes, it’s possible! We can learn to love ourselves. We are all imperfectly perfect. i Especially Love INFPs 💕
So true, just buying coffee can be agonizing 😂! we gotta be kind to ourselves, be the Love you are.
Great point, projection happens.
Nothing is personal and no need to make assumptions.
When I feel down i like to go outside, be amongst trees. exercise classes and swimming help and Listening to music.
thank you for your videos 🙏
9:20 Positive Tune Up
😂 I'm going to try to remind myself to do this. I just found this channel, and I feel like I'm already learning and engaging with it a lot.
I found happiness ! Its true for me that i chose it . After sui ide attempt ... diagnosed with major depression with psychosis .. after horrible postpartum with 3 kids and losing custody after losing everything . I realised if i can choose to be that sad and sitting at the end of that road.... i had to choose happness to even exist anymore . The strugle wasnt easy its been 8 yrs now and 5 yrs ago i was released from any therapy or psychological care . I go every year to make sure im still well. I do that because ten yrs ago i realised i was my own enemy and i cant trust me to decide if im ok lol. I am very aware of one very true thing and its that i didnt know what happy was til i was recovering with this a few yrs ago . Im almost 40 . Life is absolutely ajourney of beautiful pain and challenges and absolurtely anything is possible. I am no longer diagnosed withthese things and all i eant to do now is break boundries forever . I finally have a desire to be functional and take intiative to take control of my life. I have to remind myself not everyone can overcome things like i can. Working on that
Infp ❤💯%
So true, nobody can make you feel unhappy, they did something, you attached meaning that made you feel unhappy. ❤ New Sub here, great content.
How come I’m an INTJ and can relate to this video so much ? Am I becoming a different person ? Or it’s just that my Fi is a bit stronger than it should be ? Is it even possible for INTJs to get emotionally overwhelmed ?!!!
Anyway, your video is really amazing .. I really like your content 👏👏👏
naira nasser I’ve always related pretty well to INTJs. Not sure why. Maybe it’s a thing. 🤷♀️
@@AML147 Aha .. Maybe because we're both intuitive
I figured that I have common things with intuitive people when it comes to the way we understand and view different things even if our types were different
There is a part of ourselves in everyone and everything
An INFP here, & typically speaking, i should have a lotta trouble explaining myself & would go out of my way to avoid confrontations of any kind, yet i'd still be able to explain what's going on in my head adequately (although it's still kinda draining) & have little problems giving people the middle finger whenever the situation calls for it. i think it has a lot to do with my Te being very developed for whatever reasons. so if a type that should've been an emotional wreck half the time could get logical & intellectual, i don't see why a TJ couldn't be emotionally overwhelmed.
@@FalconWindblader Couldn't agree more
last summer I decided that I'm going to be more outgoing, spontaneous and not afraid of people's judgements. As a result, I made a couple of friends whom I enjoy hanging out with and doing things with that I usually don't do like dancing;).
POV: you’re a happy INFP checking the comments for the unhappy INFPS to give them hope
yes, but it's usually easy for me to do that for others. here tho, i find that i can't do that so easily. still trying to figure out many of the struggles we share.
As an INTP sometimes I feel like the whole world against me. I do struggle with my emotions because it feels like my feelings come in like a group. It's like a bowl of colors mixed all together and all I do is sit and stare at it not because I like it but because I enjoy it.... until all the colors fade to black and my depression begins....
It's fun to think that infps problems can easily be solved by simply organizing these colors... like putting each color on a shelf so you recognize what the he'll is going on inside your head
To solve all infps problems in my opinion by just and only getting out of the bed first and paying more attention on who and why I'm feeling something because of someone
I'm still struggling with the whole thing 😅
But I learnt a new technique now and I thank you for it❤
I guess I'm a rare INFP then because I was and still am super happy and optimistic basically 100% of the time. I do get sad or depressed sometimes but then I let go of it and do something that makes me happy, so I turn happy very quickly again which I'm genuinely happy and proud of. My advice would be to follow your heart because that's what will make you happy. :)
As an INFP, this video REALLY helped me. Thank you, man!!!
I always wondered why the fuck I was like that 😮💨 I recently discovered Law of Assumption & it's been helping as far maintaining my neutrality & having some fun with my thoughts. I decided I didn't want to be depressed anymore & left the old me behind. Grieved her & moved on. I visit the dark hole but I don't live there anymore. I had to find something to believe in or I might've been lost forever. I still do have my breakdowns every blue moon but at least I know how to bounce back & rejuvenate a bit. Maybe that always doesn't look like fun or something exciting but I don't think I want it to be. I like creating that calmness & chanting my affirmations. Our thoughts really do create ☁ 💖☁
I was always tell myself something whenever I’m having trouble. “I’d rather be an optimist than just despair at the state of the world.”
Creating characters is fun, for sure. And when I play video games, it’s always the characters that I attach to.
*Is it possible to learn shadow function and use it in a healthy way???*
Yes.
Not from a jedi
I'd say no. the shadow functions are called such because they're sealed away parts of ourselves that AIN'T MEANT to be used. they NEED intense stress & even despair to trigger, & when they do emerge, those functions are ALWAYS out to fuck us up in the long run. the shadow functions ain't our weakness; they're stuff out to KILL US. learn about them, be aware of them, guard against them, & DON'T EVER think of using them if you can help it.
When I think about being happy... I am thinking of “do I deserve to be happy knowing how others are suffering?”
Just wanna say thank you for this video.. was feeling too overwhelmed and anxious with all the things that are happening in my life.. stumbled upon this vid and it made me feel better.. thank you
As soon as you said an machine that has emotions that we can turn up or down, I thought of "Do Androids Dream of Electric Sheep"
Yoga nidra, especially the ones where they have you "set an intention" (such as, I am happy and healthy, I am calm and relaxed, etc) can really help! You can find a bunch of them on UA-cam, some are meant to help you fall asleep and some are good for whenever I feel like I'm scatterbrained or just running rampid with thoughts. Clears your head, relaxes your body, would recommend 💯👌
I'm happy when people just leave me alone. I love for my family to briefly chat with and give updates on their day and such. And sometimes I enjoy an intense conversation about something weird. But I'm happiest alone or with my dogs. I guess I really just need a new human stray if I'm going to have a friend.
I dunno but i get happy whenever i see you on my reco
I am very happy socially but I think it’s because I feel I have to be that way. I need people to be happy.
For me, my mother (not an INFP) is always positive and when I was younger seeing positives in negatives and being carefree. I was anxious and quiet. Overtime I valued those specific traits a lot more. I was an optimist people viewed me as carefree. Though still anxious and needs some time to get off social media, I can always see the good in the bad. Maintains that optimism is easy because I instituted as a child. All I did was value the traits I wanted and just embody it more.
Nothing special just wanted to add.
It doesn't matter about what your personality type is, you can be infp and can still be happy, destiny is in your hand you can make better choices.
Growing up with an ESTJ father always expecting perfection has not been easy for an INFP like me. I love learning, trying & experimenting new things, but at the same time there is always a little voice in my head telling me "this is not good enough, you are not talented, why bother if you can't achieve perfection right away, etc". I constantly have to fight these thoughts, because BREAKING NEWS : it's impossible to be perfect when you try something new. MISTAKES mean you're LEARNING. When you do everything perfectly, it means you're actually doing the same things over and over again, not innovating, not stepping out of your comfort zone.
All my life I've tried to impress other people the same way I tried to impress my father. And when I make a mistake, I don't feel good about myself and it breaks my confidence. My father didn't understand that. We don't have a relationship anymore and it breaks my heart, but at the same time I feel so free now. Like a weight off my shoulders. I can finally work on that part of myself that is always trying to achieve absolute perfection, and let my creativity go wild. I'm always trying to be gentle and forgiving with myself the same way I am with other people. Still a work in progress. Once I gain enough confidence, I'll try to talk to my father again (if he wants to, which I doubt).
Anyways, fellow INFPs thanks for reading my novel lol. If you're experiencing something similar in your life, don't hesitate to reach out. I love reading other people's stories. :) love y'all dears!
Looking at what you wrote, it kinda made me think if i've become more assertive INFP early in my life, because i've just stopped trying to impress my parents, then pretty much everyone around me, at an age where people would have wanted to impress the people around them.
Dude, you're rocking it brother. These videos are very helpful. I'm literally laughing out loud at your stereo analogy ( and knowing it'll work if I can just remember it)
I'm an INFP and I love how very similar we are!
you'd be a fantastic meditation teacher haha :') I can totally imagine you on SimpleHabit. Your encouraging vibes and soothing voice remind me of Cory Muscara, a meditation teacher. Also, could you talk about your thought process before moving to japan, how you made the final push, and how you adjusted to life there? I'm pretty certain I want to study abroad alone but it still seems daunting. And i know, I already know I want to do it and I know that I'll inevitably grow from venturing outside my comfort zone, so i should just do it, but i think i'd still feel inspired/less alone if you shared your experience.
Life is fascinating. I'm a senior INFP and I think the key to happiness with us is the choice of whether to identify with the Matrix and live inside their box, play by their rules, or not. I refuse to be pressured into conformin; ever since college and even now at age 73. I'm a proliffic novelist and artist, raised two sons and many animals, mostly single my whole life and I've never really fit in, thank God. (an old hippie, haha) Now I'm homeless, carless, jobless, wifeless, moneyless and totally FREE !! (housesititng) Sure I've had bouts of despair, but when I pull out of it some miracle always happens - like I was feeling broke, thinking maybe my next home was under the freeway, and then a semi-truck bashed into my sons wife's care that I was driving - and I'm going to get a shit load of money for my brain injury, which made me an even more sensitive empath, more compassionate for the elderly, especially those who are homeless and brain damaged. In the end being an INFP living outside of the Matrix, for me is a total blessing. I am happy and loved and could, but won't, die at any time with a song in my heart..
That stereo thing do realy help a lot.
I was flat out expecting it to start with a clip that was just *deep inhale* "no."
Yes, purpose of our lives is to be the BEST version of ourselves.
i was just feeling very unhappy and dissatisfied so i decided to go on youtube as a last choice and this was the first recommended video and i clicked but i'm too unhappy to watch so imma sleep instead i'll still watch a minute or so and give it a like tho
this video resonated with me so much and was so useful thank you :)
you're so nice you made me me cry. i really wanted to. thanks. i hope to be like you.
Thank you so much for that. I laughed out loud which felt good (I could see myself as a character) a person constantly exhausted because of how much evaluation they do. It's funny and cute. Really summed me up XD
Thank you dude..i needed this..😌
I enjoy your work. I can tell you truly invest yourself and seek answers which is admirable and rare.
Thank you Sherman! For explaining and giving us life tips & advices especially as an INFP 😊 I really do admire your works!