When Your Ex Wants To Stay “Friends” After The Breakup

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  • @williamj.dovejr.8613
    @williamj.dovejr.8613 Рік тому +159

    When a ex leaves, I burn the bridge... always.

    • @StarbrightRose
      @StarbrightRose Рік тому

      William me too 😊

    • @codyelmore3809
      @codyelmore3809 5 місяців тому +2

      I hear you on that! I broked up with my ex girlfriend 4 months ago. There were times she texted me saying that she wished to talk and that she wanted to tell me something kinda important. I never responded I just blocked the number and went about my day!

    • @Bcaramel685
      @Bcaramel685 27 днів тому

      Let’s keep it 3,000

  • @cherrybacon3319
    @cherrybacon3319 2 місяці тому +9

    They want to stay friends to keep you as an Option.

  • @mec3127
    @mec3127 Рік тому +67

    I LOL’d really loud when you said, “Good luck with that shit.” Thank you, I needed that!

    • @WeavToldMe
      @WeavToldMe  Рік тому +4

      Haha. Appreciate the love. Thank you for watching!

  • @user-yi7td2sq9b
    @user-yi7td2sq9b Рік тому +45

    Going through this right now. My ex and I had a mutual breakup- we actually were planning on breaking up on the same day haha. It went smoothly, albeit with tears and such. I never liked staying friends with exes, but I decided to give it a shot with this girl. Honestly, it was weird. She acted like we were still dating, and I found myself enjoying it. This was a huge red flag for me, because I liked it but knew it was wrong. So I ended it. It was hard, and recent, but I'm staying strong.

    • @WeavToldMe
      @WeavToldMe  Рік тому +1

      🙏🏾🙏🏾

    • @MandEmma7
      @MandEmma7 Рік тому

      Feel that

    • @San_Deep2501
      @San_Deep2501 11 місяців тому

      Update?

    • @scarletdamsel3139
      @scarletdamsel3139 10 місяців тому

      ​@@San_Deep2501 yes please update because I'm in a weird situation he thinks I broke up with him first but I really wanted space so now he's parading around saying while I said he was free to move on but we had a mutual break up even though I missed some it's been like 20 days now but he still has my pictures up on Facebook and he likes my Facebook post he said he's no longer part of my future but then he said "dare I say it? I will be honored to be your friend he just threw it in there like that and I said okay so what does all this mean anybody know?

    • @codyelmore3809
      @codyelmore3809 5 місяців тому

      ​@@WeavToldMeMy ex girlfriend who I was friends since highschool we started dating later on in life after highschool. I found out she is a narricisit and highly manipulative! She verbally abused me and humiliated in public! I broked up with her then I got a text saying I need to unblock her and talk to her cause she wants to apologize! I'm like really?! I didn't responded I blocked the number. Then again I got a text from her on another number saying she wished to talk to me and she wants to tell me something kinda important. I'm like kinda doesn't tell me anything! I blocked that number and went about my day! I honestly don't wanna talk to her for a while about anything I just want to recover!

  • @ranihirani
    @ranihirani Рік тому +36

    Here's what happened with me, my ex broke up with me, it was a long serious relationship and I never saw it coming that he would break up with me because we were like so in love. But after breaking up he said I'm gonna be there for you as a friend. I really didn't know what to say because I was in state of major heartbreak and shock so i didn't cut him off because i wasn't ready to accept it. Though he said he'll stay by my side as a friend, he kept saying things like "i love you so much", "you are the love of my life", "I love you but i can't be in relationship with you" and this kept going on for 6 fucking months until i decided to cut off all the strings. This hurts like hell but at least I don't feel tortured.

  • @JustB11-ol5bu
    @JustB11-ol5bu 8 місяців тому +20

    Never stay friends if there’s no kids involved. Best put energy and time into meeting new people. This is how I moved into a relationship that I could move forwards with and forget about my ex who really had no good intentions with me long term. Cut and forget the ex

    • @angelb.9632
      @angelb.9632 5 місяців тому +2

      Those that want to be friends are trying to keep the door open, or you as an option in case the other side isn't that green. Another reason friendship works for the other person is they can get validation and all the accessibility to you without no commitment or real emotional availability. It's just convenient for them but it only hurts you in the end. Walk away and simply move on, preach on!

  • @TarotbyGlow
    @TarotbyGlow Рік тому +9

    “Good luck with that shit” 😅😂😂😂😂 no for real though!

  • @aqeel25
    @aqeel25 2 роки тому +52

    I know someone who tried to pull this on me and I said I didn’t come into this offering friendship. And, it’s like they’re trying to keep contact for personal gain

    • @WeavToldMe
      @WeavToldMe  2 роки тому +1

      💯

    • @DivineQueen75
      @DivineQueen75 Рік тому +2

      What would be the personal gain, in your opinion?
      I’m just curious to hear your (or anyone that reads this) perception .
      ~ Set your spirit free and see the many possibilities 🦋 Maria ❤️

    • @ignazs.5816
      @ignazs.5816 Рік тому +15

      ​@@DivineQueen75they want your help, financially. They want you to take them to the airport at 1 am. They want you to treat them like you used to when you were dating, but without the commitment.

    • @DivineQueen75
      @DivineQueen75 Рік тому +1

      Commitment is 2 sided … anything else is not commitment - unbalanced, un equally yolked, out of order, so on and so forth. Trust your spirit above all else. 🌹
      Blessings 🦋

    • @ereagan4
      @ereagan4 7 місяців тому +2

      @@DivineQueen75Validation, especially if they were the dumper.

  • @Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living
    @Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living Рік тому +8

    An ex is an ex for a reason. There is no “friends”. Once we’re not in a relationship anymore, I wish him well, but he’s not in my life anymore.

  • @FEB-85
    @FEB-85 7 днів тому +1

    Never stay friends with the ex...you cant heal and grow like that.

  • @AS-on1fz
    @AS-on1fz Рік тому +49

    Once i break up i never ever see or talk to my exes ever again. If you on the past you stay in the past.

  • @jenniferyates8100
    @jenniferyates8100 2 роки тому +67

    No.. staying friends with a narc, is being a option.💯

  • @sunnycookie1584
    @sunnycookie1584 2 роки тому +63

    I want nothing else to do with my ex. If a man can just cut things off and go on like he never knew you for months it's definitely no coming back rather he's with someone new or not people will stay with you so did you can make them better for someone.

    • @WeavToldMe
      @WeavToldMe  2 роки тому +1

      💯

    • @senatorarmstrong9459
      @senatorarmstrong9459 Рік тому +5

      And when a woman sunny, tells a man, she dont know what she wants right now, that she don't want to date, but focus on her "mental health". Let's be real that woman is tryna play a man for a fool(me) I wised up, knew she had a man on the side to monkey branch too, and I jokingly accepted the"let's be friends" offer. My keister was nothing less than faithful and I would of lived for her too, but shit changes. She is currently in the rebound RN as I speak. So it's not always Men, women 80% of the time breakup with their man just to get into another relationship (monkey branching) and if they are in college that statistic jumps to 90%. That's legitimate proven fact. Just do what I am doing, walk out the door onto a better road, grow from the bs, and evolve yourself into a better you.

  • @vanessaharris6341
    @vanessaharris6341 2 роки тому +57

    Again another 💎! He tried that with as if I didn't know what was going on behind my back. Friends for what dude! So you can still have access to my emotions and body or better yet so you can triangulate me with your new supply. I'll take the clean no contact break for 500 Alex!

    • @josephmyatt7382
      @josephmyatt7382 2 роки тому +1

      Kind of sounds like me imaged she may have a new supply also. I am like family to her one daughter and her granddaughter and I are very close she calls me grand pa and two beautiful children do as well

    • @WeavToldMe
      @WeavToldMe  2 роки тому +1

      Sounds exactly right. Thank you for watching!

  • @maianhdao986
    @maianhdao986 Рік тому +6

    Feels like you're talking about the story of my life. When I was with them, they stated right into my face that their ex is their BFF. I cry a bit then laugh hard when you said "good luck with that shit" Thanks Weav. I still feel like shit but I'll wait for the next person who will treat me as number 1 in their heart, not triangulate me with an old flame.

  • @amyross3475
    @amyross3475 2 роки тому +8

    Great video! I agree with you 100%.

  • @carlthornton1831
    @carlthornton1831 Рік тому +7

    Spot on man... Going through this right now... Blocked and she still got through..how ? Beats me... Anyway, checked myself and realized that I needed to leave the narcissists behind... wasn't easy, but got stronger by the day. Now, narcissist sees that I've disengaged and wants to be friends...🙃🤪😁🤣💯

    • @WeavToldMe
      @WeavToldMe  Рік тому

      Thanks for watching!

    • @scarletdamsel3139
      @scarletdamsel3139 10 місяців тому

      Blocked her and she still got through how? 🤣😂🤣

  • @aidaromero8470
    @aidaromero8470 Рік тому +11

    I don't believe in staying friends with any of my ex's. When it's over, it's over. The host is absolutely right when he states that if you share kids, you do need to be amicable and cordial but after your kids grow up and they're old enough that they can keep in touch with their dad that you don't need to be in the middle, then it's ok to cut ties.

  • @bensisakht7076
    @bensisakht7076 Рік тому +6

    And here I was trying to be ok with going on the first New Year’s Eve with my gf her ex and his gf, hell no… gents delete these people from your life and move on and save years of misery

  • @lehlogonolovuyolethu8946
    @lehlogonolovuyolethu8946 Рік тому +9

    I told my ex that he betrayed me .. that makes him not to qualify being a friend to me

  • @donnaholton1981
    @donnaholton1981 Рік тому +8

    He knew and literally stated I know you will never have anything to ever do with me again after our divorce and I told him you are right on spot buddy you are done. That’s one thing he got right.As far as I’m concerned I am a widow.

  • @FeliciaNkhoma
    @FeliciaNkhoma Рік тому +2

    He told me to be friends with him , i also accepted because I thought it was the right thing to do since I couldn't live without talking to him but after watching your videos 2 months ago I blocked him everywhere, just moved on and I don't need him anymore

    • @WeavToldMe
      @WeavToldMe  Рік тому +1

      Thank you for following along. Stay strong!

  • @truetomyself2741
    @truetomyself2741 2 роки тому +6

    That is so true I have to agree that's why you have to cut all time preach brother preach

    • @WeavToldMe
      @WeavToldMe  2 роки тому

      Thanks for checking out the video. 🙏🏾

  • @ginagotti8950
    @ginagotti8950 Рік тому +1

    I agree with u SUNNY 🌞.

  • @sandramorgan4923
    @sandramorgan4923 6 місяців тому +1

    My ex said this to me a few weeks ago. It was a fight. I remained in contact to see what his actions were. I found out he went off being all stupid and flirting with someone and took her number. He keeps denying it but he’s always uptight and denying everything. I made the mistake of staying with him a weekend. He was all lovable and come to find out. He fought with the other one….that’s why the weekend thing happened! I guess they made up so he’s gone the weekend again. No more! I blocked him. I’m moving on for sure. I feel so much regret for last weekend. I need to make better choices and just be done and I am done.

  • @jodymukalian4798
    @jodymukalian4798 2 роки тому

    Weav I love how you just tell it like it is! That's why I like watching your videos. I can't do other videos- they go on and on and on and I lose sight of the message. You rock😎

    • @WeavToldMe
      @WeavToldMe  Рік тому +1

      Appreciate the love, thank you!

  • @jalilaclarke-ho1oj
    @jalilaclarke-ho1oj Рік тому +1

    There's only 1 guy who I've ever stayed friends with and he is still single and genuinely loved me, but we ended because I moved to China and then became a digital nomad and never returned to the usa. He will be a great partner for any woman one day ❤️ I'm still single as well but we wanted different things in life. I wanted to travel the world and he didn't and I wanted children and he never has. Absolutely one of the best relationships I've ever been in.

  • @omeganeoz
    @omeganeoz Рік тому +11

    FR i dont get why she still so obsessed with me that she has to be friends and spam me everyday but also wants the "benefits" of being single and getting to drink and party every weekend doing drugs. im just saying nah i dont want a gf like that and i dont want a friend like that 😂

  • @gloriabanuchi8509
    @gloriabanuchi8509 Рік тому +1

    Wow this is so true ❤️

  • @ladyyuni218
    @ladyyuni218 Рік тому +7

    Nope!!! Even if we have children! I will be RESPECTFUL for the sake of our children, and never make you look badly or speak against you, however “friendship”??? That’s NOT going to happen!

  • @goldenlifelove7251
    @goldenlifelove7251 11 місяців тому

    I'm convinced my ex wanted to be friends to soothe his conscience. He knows he did me dirty & I didn't deserve it & figures if I was his friend it somehow absolved him from what he did. NAH, SON! We'll never be friends.

  • @sharankaur9573
    @sharankaur9573 Рік тому +1

    Thank you

  • @victorstegman1109
    @victorstegman1109 2 роки тому +8

    I'm facing this right now

    • @saycuso8539
      @saycuso8539 2 роки тому +1

      manh same

    • @coreybeats3335
      @coreybeats3335 2 роки тому +1

      Work on yourself , let them go !!!!!

    • @jenniferyates8100
      @jenniferyates8100 2 роки тому

      Let them go, it will become a vicious cycle. My husband is in care, long story he is narcissistic. I have contact to see he is being looked after . He has new supply in home.

    • @saycuso8539
      @saycuso8539 2 роки тому

      @@jenniferyates8100 that's so sad : ( , the people who guilt trip and never Apologise for what they did , moreover are self centred are NPD narcissist?

    • @victorstegman1109
      @victorstegman1109 2 роки тому

      @@jenniferyates8100
      ...yet again it's not easy just leaving. It takes time.

  • @daeclipse03
    @daeclipse03 Рік тому +5

    My ex wanted to be "sex friends". I declined with ive got self respect no thank you. Found out later that night shes seeing a new guy after we split a month ago.
    I would never be a backup plan or allow someone i thought loved me to use me.

  • @erich8265
    @erich8265 5 місяців тому

    I have a guy who is always helping an ex, saying it's because he promised her so he let her stay at his apartment for 9 months. Meanwhile, i moved on! and the other one, he has a 29 yr. Old with her. She and son spent a whole week in his house, and still has her.clothes and perfume there after leaving. Is that normal?

    • @WeavToldMe
      @WeavToldMe  5 місяців тому +1

      Hell nah! Get. Out. Now!

    • @erich8265
      @erich8265 5 місяців тому

      Thank you, need to hear this, especially from a man❤​@@WeavToldMe

  • @selfdevelopment-g1v
    @selfdevelopment-g1v Рік тому

    This just happened to me I’m struggling with do I delete them or block for media ? Dated for two years seems like she has narcissistic tendencies. I thought everything was good. We were broken up but still seeing each other and then today she said we can be friends but not intimate anymore. ?

    • @WeavToldMe
      @WeavToldMe  Рік тому +1

      Don’t fall into that trap.

    • @selfdevelopment-g1v
      @selfdevelopment-g1v Рік тому

      @@WeavToldMe should I delete her off social media or stay on and be friends with her but non-sexual ?

  • @Serious706
    @Serious706 Рік тому

    I got friend zoned after 24hrs of NC smh I agreed but I wnt connect with her ,if she dnt change her mind

    • @WeavToldMe
      @WeavToldMe  Рік тому +1

      If you don’t want friendship, say no and keep it moving

    • @Serious706
      @Serious706 Рік тому

      @@WeavToldMe it's hard bro i told her we should stop communicating and she asked why...I said it's for the best and she said ok...wat does that mean? Is the relationship over?

  • @saniyeaslan5476
    @saniyeaslan5476 Рік тому +3

    Hell no be friend after break up that don’t apply

  • @freethought1953
    @freethought1953 Рік тому +1

    I Agree.

  • @elsajimenez7692
    @elsajimenez7692 5 місяців тому

    He said that lol i said nothing he said his new girl has to understand😂😂😂😂i changed my number lol f that lol crazy ppl

  • @garynewis8293
    @garynewis8293 Рік тому

    Absolutely

  • @Yoursmine24
    @Yoursmine24 5 місяців тому

    Always WEAVE your exs alone 😂😂😂

  • @Mixedchic
    @Mixedchic 7 місяців тому +1

    I always ask how is that supposed to look? We just gonna act like nothing happened between us? Make that make sense. Nah. We good

  • @KeysLady
    @KeysLady Рік тому

    U right

  • @beautifulbritt3386
    @beautifulbritt3386 Рік тому +3

    We can be friends & I mean only friends so stick to words u say friends mean like bro & sis 😂 to me

  • @apriljackson7648
    @apriljackson7648 2 роки тому +11

    Who the hell said be friends w your EX
    Not an option
    I agree

  • @jasminkelley934
    @jasminkelley934 8 місяців тому

    What if you were friends for a decade before becoming romantic and the romance only lasted less than 6 months before a mutual ending?

    • @WeavToldMe
      @WeavToldMe  8 місяців тому +1

      Ain’t no putting the toothpaste back in the tube. Choose wisely!

    • @jasminkelley934
      @jasminkelley934 8 місяців тому

      @@WeavToldMe thanks! 😃

  • @preciousnana6994
    @preciousnana6994 Рік тому +3

    Aweh serious it doesn't make any sense to me he asked me to stay friends with him and I replied No I don't want a friendship

  • @kiraalialeeonfairythegreenone

    Exactly 👏👏👏👏👏🎉🎉🎉

  • @kate-v6k
    @kate-v6k Рік тому +20

    I only healed when I stopped the friendship and realized he was never my friend.

    • @WeavToldMe
      @WeavToldMe  Рік тому +1

      💯💯

    • @tezdun9911
      @tezdun9911 Рік тому +1

      U probably was the cheater

    • @Mimi-vh3yt
      @Mimi-vh3yt 11 місяців тому +1

      was meeting for cofeee like 3 times a week and I was always left feeling like what the heck is this I don’t want this lol

    • @scarletdamsel3139
      @scarletdamsel3139 10 місяців тому

      ​@@Mimi-vh3yt😂🤣😂 meeting for coffee sheesh lol

  • @Angel-ym2op
    @Angel-ym2op 2 роки тому

    Exactly.

  • @josephmyatt7382
    @josephmyatt7382 2 роки тому

    Mine wanted for us to be friend built me up and then said I was to emotionally involved to be friends and then pulled same crap 3 more times and same story then went to ohio together to see her son all went fine and on way back she went off on me and now nothing who got hurt the worse is I torn up emotionally again now gone silent on me were married for 12 yrs now separated is when all these games she played me with. I must be stupid and love to be beaten up emotionally and yes it hurts like hell and still does I am lost anymore hope someone can say it gets better!! Pray for me

    • @jenniferyates8100
      @jenniferyates8100 2 роки тому

      Joseph myatt. So sorry.i will pray for you. Take care of yourself. All blessings to you Joseph.🕊️🌈🙏🌷

    • @WeavToldMe
      @WeavToldMe  2 роки тому +1

      One day at a time. Stay inspired!

  • @tezdun9911
    @tezdun9911 Рік тому

    Factsssss!!! Go away

  • @stillthinking7204
    @stillthinking7204 Рік тому

    Well technically me and her are friends But honestly It feels great cause we are classmates so its hard to avoid her But yeah we were close friends before we dated so its fine

  • @alexrodriguez1100
    @alexrodriguez1100 Рік тому

    😂😂😂😂😂 Yeah We Cool But Just Don't Call Don't Text We Have Nothing To Talk About. Peace And Love.

  • @juanitabriggs5510
    @juanitabriggs5510 Рік тому

    Exactly

  • @vixter28
    @vixter28 4 місяці тому

    Ummmm that would A HARD NO !

  • @jalynnmarie4218
    @jalynnmarie4218 2 роки тому

    ❤❤❤❤

  • @jennifermartin4505
    @jennifermartin4505 11 місяців тому

    It doesn't work

  • @Lv-gq3ih
    @Lv-gq3ih Рік тому

    😂😂😂

  • @vickyalvarez6886
    @vickyalvarez6886 Рік тому

    Yeah, uhm , No ....my ex tried 😂😂😂😂. He's still waiting, he's gotten married. He has a friend In Jesus and his new wife. Grown Boy get outta here. 😂😂😂😂.
    Foolish like Ashanti ‼️

  • @alexischristian4004
    @alexischristian4004 2 роки тому +1

    Do not do it

  • @susanlina1070
    @susanlina1070 Рік тому

    No thanks!!

  • @kizzlekakes
    @kizzlekakes Рік тому +2

    Sometimes people are just cool and you don’t work as lovers so you are friends. It doesn’t have to be weird.

  • @ginosanchez8527
    @ginosanchez8527 Рік тому +1

    They just want to string you along till they find someone else women don’t know how to be alone there always I mean always seeking validation

  • @wen_51
    @wen_51 3 місяці тому

    Why is it always the one who acts like they hate me, breaks up with me, and then wants to stay friends afterward? 🫠🫠🫠