Spoiler ending to find out what happened after (from Turi King podcast)..... She got a photo of mum and letter from half siblings. Turns out mum is still alive but has very severe dementia. Margaret went over, was welcomed by half siblings who took her and introduced her to all the family. She also got to spend some time in the care home with her mum! The mum sadly passed away not long after, but she has two new siblings she is close to now
There is one thing about dna tests and results, that people seem to forget: you can't match much to the exact, if the person's dna has not been submitted, or found.
I have my DNA on Ancestry and 23&me and so far I have over 5000 cousins, the majority of them being 3rd or further removed. I have, last year, found the single relative for whom I was searching, together with 3 “beautiful bonus” very close immediate family members. I have not been in touch with all the cousins - it would take me a very long time and too much money, I suspect.
I’ve seen a lot of similar shows from both the UK and Norway, and this is a common theme. In adoption-cases the biological father honestly doesn’t always have to be involved more than one night, while the biological mother has been pregnant in nine months and given birth. So while a father absolutely is important from birth on, some babies would not have had that opportunity anyway. some babies are conceived through rape or a one night stand etc so I guess there are many reasons why information about a mother are more important emotionally than information about a father.
As a woman who was adopted, and has her own child, I think I can answer that, in part. Often the birth father has no idea… mine did not (and neither did his family, who I did find… he, my bio father died tragically in a plane crash when I was 8)… but I know that when I had my own daughter, I realized how difficult it would have been to give me away! I carried my precious cargo for nine months. I nurtured her, I protected her… she is a part of me that no one else could ever be! So, after she was born I had more empathy for my bio mother. I started to think about how she must have felt to have to give away a child she grew, protected and, according to my non-identifying information, she wanted to keep. In the end, we never met. In my 40’s she had an opportunity through Children’s Aid, but declined, saying she never told anyone… that her current family didn’t know anything. Shame, her daughter found out about me after she died and it really hurt her… messed her up actually. Secrets come out, eventually. Why let them ruin your relationships.
It’s pretty obvious as a first step. Your mother carried you for 9 months then laboured to give birth and yet gave you up. Being a sperm donor is easier to walk away from. Often they go looking for fathers one they hear the story from the mother. These shows started before they were widely using DNA, the birth mother’s details were on the adoption files, the father’s often not.
my mom from Derry my cousin is my brother she let us all know a few yrs back he known my aunt and uncle adopted him...more family secerts have come out helped 2 men who are my sec cousins find their birth da both of them are half brothers and now are part of the family
@@carolcole570 There are 3 full episodes on BBC iPlayer, Margaret's story is in episode 2. Try the link and see if you can access them (location and UK TV licensing dependent) www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m000sthc/episodes/player
@@ProfessorTuriKing episode 2 is about Janine. Forget it. I am not really techno minded. Too old. However, if you might know of a DNA test that might show if I have even just a speck of Jewish blood in me, please give me the company name. I have done Ancestry DNA and also Heritage. Frankly, those two keep sending me hints, and I think they are scams. They had my DNA connected with my sister-in-law, for goodness sakes ! Well, Turi, you have a wonderful day in our Lord.
@@carolcole570 23andme is better than Ancestry imo and a lot better than Heritage. 23andme showed a small percentage of Ashkenazi Jewish in my blood. I read an article about a guy whose results kept showing "European Jewish" 😕, that was it. He was so frustrated as he wasn't getting any geographical information on his dna and he rejected Judaism as his religion. He took a dna test on LivingDna and he finally got the answers he needed.
Can't believe a 'professor' would still use the word "illegitimate" in the C21st. There are many other factual and non-judgemental adjectives such as "ex-nuptial".
Are you illegitimate or do you have illegitimate children? Like the other commenter said "it is what it is". That's the word that was used back in the day and that word came with a whole set of circumstances that explain what happened hence the use of the right word. Ex-nuptial won't change anything. You could use it today but it happened back then and if you have a problem with that word, that's on you and your self esteem.
Spoiler ending to find out what happened after (from Turi King podcast).....
She got a photo of mum and letter from half siblings. Turns out mum is still alive but has very severe dementia. Margaret went over, was welcomed by half siblings who took her and introduced her to all the family. She also got to spend some time in the care home with her mum! The mum sadly passed away not long after, but she has two new siblings she is close to now
Thanks!
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👍thank you
Glad they got to meet at least.
Always frustrating with these videos that we don’t see the ending
Where can we watch the full episode in the US?
There is one thing about dna tests and results, that people seem to forget: you can't match much to the exact, if the person's dna has not been submitted, or found.
My 3x great grandfather was the last one born in coCavan Ireland he came over with his parents Margaret and Barney Burns during the potato famine x
This is not the full story. Where's the rest?
I have my DNA on Ancestry and 23&me and so far I have over 5000 cousins, the majority of them being 3rd or further removed. I have, last year, found the single relative for whom I was searching, together with 3 “beautiful bonus” very close immediate family members. I have not been in touch with all the cousins - it would take me a very long time and too much money, I suspect.
I always find it odd that people in the UK and USA only want to know who their birth mother is but not their birth father
I’ve seen a lot of similar shows from both the UK and Norway, and this is a common theme. In adoption-cases the biological father honestly doesn’t always have to be involved more than one night, while the biological mother has been pregnant in nine months and given birth. So while a father absolutely is important from birth on, some babies would not have had that opportunity anyway. some babies are conceived through rape or a one night stand etc so I guess there are many reasons why information about a mother are more important emotionally than information about a father.
As a woman who was adopted, and has her own child, I think I can answer that, in part. Often the birth father has no idea… mine did not (and neither did his family, who I did find… he, my bio father died tragically in a plane crash when I was 8)… but I know that when I had my own daughter, I realized how difficult it would have been to give me away! I carried my precious cargo for nine months. I nurtured her, I protected her… she is a part of me that no one else could ever be! So, after she was born I had more empathy for my bio mother. I started to think about how she must have felt to have to give away a child she grew, protected and, according to my non-identifying information, she wanted to keep.
In the end, we never met. In my 40’s she had an opportunity through Children’s Aid, but declined, saying she never told anyone… that her current family didn’t know anything. Shame, her daughter found out about me after she died and it really hurt her… messed her up actually. Secrets come out, eventually. Why let them ruin your relationships.
Lots of people in this series looking for their fathers!
@@gail9299 very few!!
It’s pretty obvious as a first step. Your mother carried you for 9 months then laboured to give birth and yet gave you up. Being a sperm donor is easier to walk away from. Often they go looking for fathers one they hear the story from the mother. These shows started before they were widely using DNA, the birth mother’s details were on the adoption files, the father’s often not.
my mom from Derry my cousin is my brother she let us all know a few yrs back he known my aunt and uncle adopted him...more family secerts have come out helped 2 men who are my sec cousins find their birth da both of them are half brothers and now are part of the family
Is this part of a documentary or tv show? Want to find out if she could meet her new found family.
A tv show called Family Secrets
Why have you made the music so loud that it is hard to understand what you are saying? I can't keep on listening to this, although I would like to.
I can barely hear the music…
My DNA test showed that I had 204 Irish cousins
Keeping busy!!!
1st, 2nd, 3rd
What about her father??
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So, you just turn it OFF ? That is ALL ? Good grief !
Please do watch the programs. This is just my part of it. The next bit will have you reaching for tissues!
@@ProfessorTuriKing . If I can find them, I would Love to watch them ! I assume I will find them under your name ?
@@carolcole570 There are 3 full episodes on BBC iPlayer, Margaret's story is in episode 2. Try the link and see if you can access them (location and UK TV licensing dependent) www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m000sthc/episodes/player
@@ProfessorTuriKing episode 2 is about Janine. Forget it. I am not really techno minded. Too old. However, if you might know of a DNA test that might show if I have even just a speck of Jewish blood in me, please give me the company name. I have done Ancestry
DNA and also Heritage. Frankly, those two keep sending me hints, and I think they are scams. They had my DNA connected with my sister-in-law, for goodness sakes ! Well, Turi, you have a wonderful day in our Lord.
@@carolcole570 23andme is better than Ancestry imo and a lot better than Heritage. 23andme showed a small percentage of Ashkenazi Jewish in my blood.
I read an article about a guy whose results kept showing "European Jewish" 😕, that was it. He was so frustrated as he wasn't getting any geographical information on his dna and he rejected Judaism as his religion. He took a dna test on LivingDna and he finally got the answers he needed.
And...... What a pathetic ending!
She uses her hands extensively to express herself but I have never seen anyone with hand position like this with every finger spread out. Very odd.
Can't believe a 'professor' would still use the word "illegitimate" in the C21st.
There are many other factual and non-judgemental adjectives such as "ex-nuptial".
😜🤪🤣🤣😜🤪🤣🤣 It is what it is.
Are you illegitimate or do you have illegitimate children? Like the other commenter said "it is what it is".
That's the word that was used back in the day and that word came with a whole set of circumstances that explain what happened hence the use of the right word. Ex-nuptial won't change anything.
You could use it today but it happened back then and if you have a problem with that word, that's on you and your self esteem.
ParArdua. Oh, good GRIEF ! If a person was illegitimate…….he is illegitimate ! Period !
Please don’t be ridiculous.
Ffs