Woman’s DNA Test Revealed A Shocking Family Secret | Megyn Kelly TODAY
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- Опубліковано 6 вер 2018
- When Catherine St. Clair’s four older siblings gifted her an at-home DNA test in 2016, she discovered the man who raised her was not her biological father. St. Clair joins Megyn Kelly TODAY to share her story and how she founded a support group, the NPE Friends Fellowship, for others in similar situations.
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Woman’s DNA Test Revealed A Shocking Family Secret | Megyn Kelly TODAY
I did a DNA almost 2 yrs ago. Found out I was adopted. I was never told. At 63 yrs old I handled it great. I was raised an only child. Found out I had 9 biological siblings. I was so happy. Since then we have all become very close.
Wow that is such a great story..how blessed you are
This is how you are supposed to react when you find out you are adopted if you have a good childhood. When I was a teenager I wished I was adopted when I didn’t get my way with things. Most teenagers dream. 😝
I was adopted too.Never finding the truth
There are more of us than what is shown. I found out the a similar thing 4 years ago... But wouldn't change my DAD for ANYTHING!!!!
Good for you. Unfortunately, it can be detrimental for others.
I never knew my real parents. My mom left me screaming in a dumpster and was found by an older couple. She said I was her angel baby. She had five adult boys an always prayed for a little girl. Needless to say I was spoiled rotten. I always had everything a child could dream of. When I got old enough I sought out to find my biological family and I did. My bio mom denied me any rights to see her or contact her ever again. My bio father on the other hand has been in my life since we reconnected. Now I have 2 fathers and let’s just say I’m a daddy’s girl on both sides. I cry all the time wishing I had my mother but God knew best and supplied me with the best mother a girl could have. Now with 2 families I have 11 brothers and 3 sisters. Dream come true.
The reason why your birth mother won't meet you is because she's a coward. She's too ashamed to face you because what she did was absolutely vile and horrible. However in the end, she actually done you a huge favour because you were loved and cared for the way a little girl should be. A women who dumps her child like that, when there are ways and means of safe adoption, does not deserve to be reunited with her child. I'm sorry you experienced this. Thank God you've had a safe, happy life.
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omg wow
Tray Thorpe you’re lucky somebody actually wanted you 💞
I'm glad you were raised in a loving home. I pray God's continued blessings on you. I was adopted as a baby and have found my biological family. It's a great experience to meet sometime who looks like you and get to know each other. God works to things out the way they're supposed to even if we don't understand them sometimes.
My Mother at the age of 75 through dna testing found out that her dad was not who she was always told was her dad. She now has a whole new family and has moved her bioethical aunt in with her who is now 100 years old and was being abused in a nursing home over 2000 miles away. This has all taken place in the last year.
Bless her heart 75 taking care of a 100 yr old .I can’t see how she can do it. I am 60 with health issues & in a wheelchair. She is amazing!
@@blazefairchild465 I am not in a wheelchair but at 65 I was helping take care of my dying 85-year-old mother-in-law. It was hard physically. She barely weighed 115 at the end but was still hard for me to pick her up. I was exhausted.
@@peachygal4153 you did great ! Before I became disabled I took care of my 85 year old mother in law & 95 year old father in law they passed away a year apart. Then we had 2 years ,until husband had a heart attack & I had a stroke. But what is wrong now is my spine inoperable issues. My parents both passed away early to cancer neither reached 50.
@@blazefairchild465 It was my place to do that. My husband did his part and so did his sisters. We all pitched in, but I could do more being retired. My point is it was very hard as at 65 with having my own health issues, but it was my place. What I find it a shame this woman's biological children shirk their responsibility onto a niece that she never knew about to do that at 75 years old. Shame on them.
Oh, and I took care of my father too who had early onset dementia. He passed away at 63 but back then I was in my 20's so it was not nearly as hard. My mom died at 71 after open heart surgery. We only found out about her heart blockage a month before, so we did not help out long. However, with her it was not near as hard, besides only a short time. She could still bathe and dress herself. Take herself to the bathroom. We were doing the easy things for her. cooking her meals, cleaning her house, taking her to doctor appointments. Stressful but not physically hard. Plus, I was 20 years younger when my mom needed our help.
My husband just found out after 47 years that his mom cheated on his dad , they never did a dna test to find out who the father is. My husband says it doesnt matter if his dad is biological or not, its the only father hes ever known and loves him
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Agreed!
Why is nobody showing anger and hatred towards the woman that broke her husband's trust and committed paternity fraud.
Your father was denied a relationship with his biological.
I am one of 12 adopted sisters and 5 adopted brothers. Never known my biological parents. My adopted parents have passed away. Life is good. Thank god for these people who took care of us all.
Uzzie's world, one question, when your family comes up in conversation say, you are talking to someone you have recently met and your talking number of siblings do yo say I am 1 of 16 sisters and brothers or I am 1 of 16 adopted sisters and brothers? I ask out of curiosity, because to me you would be a family with no need to qualify it. Your parents did a great thing. It happened in my family as well, though not to such a great extent and back over 100 years ago when people actually did not go through the paperwork.
I have an adopted twin. She’s 53 days older than me but apart from looks we are twins in every way. We finish each other’s sentences. We know when we need each other. We talk every single evening and have for the last thirty years. We live thousands of miles apart. We’re hoping to see each other soon. We both have similar health conditions and we want to see each other face to face again soon. We had a plan but a pandemic got in the way. We are connected at the heart and that’s worth more than DNA any day!
You still should search for your biological parents/ family
@@shellyscholz1256 what a blessing!
A real parent is the one that raises you with love. Amen 🙏🏻
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True but when you always believed they were your bio parent and find out differently it is still devastating. It is not the same as if you always knew you were adopted or that your mother remarried, and you had a good stepdad. I have friends that were a blended family (kids all grown) and her daughters love their stepdad and yes they have always known he is not their bio father since they were in elementary school when they married. They don't think much of their bio father although they have a good relationship with his sister, their aunt, mainly because she wanted it, whereas he did not.
And doesn’t lie and deceive their child. Lying and deceiving your child keeping them from know their medical background etc is awful. As a parent I could never hurt my children like this.
Everyone deserves to know who they are. Non adopted people do why can't everyone. This was because of truth that didn't get told earlier. Sad she lost all that time to know all her relatives.
What a nice lady. I can’t imagine the pain she must have felt. I’m glad she has found her half sisters and has a support group.
Thank you for your kind words, Lisa!
@@catherinestclair3899 Our daughter is adopted. She found her birthfather's children, her half-siblings, a few years ago. It has been a great blessing for all of them and for us also. We have met her sister and her son and grandchildren and they consider us family also. Our daughter always knew she was adopted. I have other members of my family who have located birth-families and another cousin who discovered in her 70s that her father was not her birth-father.
@@catherinestclair3899 such a gentle warm and sweet soul. You and your sisters look like triplets. So glad you guys have an amazing relationship.
I just found my Biological Daughter after 50 years of complete ignorance of her existence, I am 72, and because of a lie, never knew I had a Daughter. My very first Child. She is an Angel. She lives at the other end of the country, so we are trying to raise money now, so we get to meet for the first time ever. Her name is Charlene. I love her with all my Heart.
To me, the man that raised you was your father. He cared for you, nurtured you and loved you.
I agree with you completely but at the same time one thing that kind of disturbs me is I wonder if he himself ever knew that she wasn't his biological daughter because I highly doubt he did know by the way she's telling the story it almost sounds like it was a secret her mother took to the Grave.
rita too many women using that as a bs excuse for bad behavior. You can ruin a child and mans life with info like this .thank god in this case the man was decease and didnt have to learn this.paternity fraud is not something that is acceptable under any circumstances
He is her dad 100%.
A father is a scientific term for parentage, which is separate.
lisakp71 She said it herself in the video that the man that raised her was a DNA match 0% but he is her father in the fact that he raised her. Plus he died never knowing that his own wife had an affair on him they also said that in the video too.
A Dad and a Father are two very different things x
I am 64 years old and found a half sister 27 years ago after my mother told me I have a different father than my siblings. We buried my sister last week. What a wonderful 27 years we shared together. There are many of us out there.
Pam Winn it's normal to experience another man once or thrice in a lifetime. All is good.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Bless u
So sorry for your loss. I am 67 & not speaking with 2 of my 3 whole sisters. Not by choice. One is bipolar & the other is alcoholic. Our father molested them & they have never dealt with it thru counseling or forgiven him-- dead for 26 years. Having 27 years in a healthy sibling relationship is a great, great gift that I've never had with my dysfunctional family. I now choose to protect myself from their criticisms, verbal abuse & disrespect. You are very blessed to have found your sister.
Pam Winn 8
I found my Dad’s side of the family (he died when I was little) through Ancestry. When my sister and I met them in person, I broke down and cried because they had my unique hazel eyes. Same shape and everything. My sister doesn’t even have them. As soon as I saw them I feel the immediate connection. It was amazing looking into someone’s eyes that are the same as yours are when you have unique eyes.
Hello Jenni, how are you doing?
I just found my sister whom I never knew. And the siblings love was there from the first mo.ent. weirdest feeling, to feel unconditional love for a person who you didn't even know existed. But the wave of love was instantaneous. Can't be explained
One of my cousins and I have the same shaped hazel eyes. Our grandfather died when my dad was 14 and her mom was 8 from lung cancer at 40. From old photographs I realized we inherited his eyes. My dad's and her mom's were different from his, (her mom had brown eyes and my dad though he had hazel eyes, his eyes were bigger and rounder) but we got them. Now we know why we have similar eyes. No one told us we had his eyes. Not our grandmother and not our parents. Old photographs a 2nd cousin of our parents that they had of our grandfather that had belonged to their father, his brother told us.
When you take those tests, make sure you’re prepared for anything you uncover. Many people are finding out information that not only affects them, but others as well.
You're right but I suspect that's even difficult bc most people probably think it won't be them. I wouldn't.
This happened to me but my family rejected the results as "deliberate fakes".I did not have a warm, loving up bringing and now I understand why not. This video was such a relief to me! Thank you!
That is shocking, I hope you are OK now.
@@AnnabelleJARankin At 65 now, I'm working on recovering. So much that was hidden. So many secrets that I paid for as an innocent child. My father was certain I was not his. Told me as much. Hated me as long as I knew him. DNA showed... I was actually his. My first relatives on my DNA results were cousins on his side. Ironic but healing.
I learned at 43 I was not my fathers and in the beginning I too was rejected. Just know that their rejection makes you no less you are still a deserving individual. Much love and hugs to you.
Same with me only now I'm the black sheep for sharing the information while my mom is still alive. Ain't that a hoot?
Any man can be a father ..... but it takes a REAL man to be a DAD.
you say it a lor better than me...any dickhead can be a sperm donar but it takes a real man to be a father xx
Why don’t we ask the man who were cheated on if they feel the same way as you put it.
The real issue is that both man and woman should stop sleeping around if they are married. End off.
Yes, MrSupermanbe. I say amen to your comment. It was out of my control that my real father was not my dad, but I could not have had a better dad.
Isnt dad just synonym for father?
No not really, my dad raised me from being an infant. My father visited my mom for a short time on night nine months before I was born. Then he left. I say lucky me. I would have been even luckier if she would have given me to my dad after I was born and then left with that father guy.
Nowadays it’s a “blessing” to know who your real parents are, and to be raised by them.
It's so sad really.
Your real parents are the ones who raise you. The others if not the same are your birth parents.
Hi baby Am Ben easygoing person I like good and do good I like friends that have understanding and fun to be with I love arts, museum and music l lunch luxury every Eve I compose poem and scripts am a civil engineer and a contractor I work for company and I work in Asia,africa,and Europe I need a woman who understands What love is all about, to be my own I saw your picture and I am impressed you're beautiful and baby you shines like a diamond springs In Sky nicely like flowers in the garden of Eden's I close my eyes all I is you at first sight I felt the energy of Sun rays angel'wings written love on it I love you so much baby I want a wonderful woman will love me and know who I am and be mine forever i hope You will reply soonest thanks.
I guess ist Always a blessing to know your real parents and also be raised by Loving people.
This is very sad. I can't imagine the pain that this would cause. I really hope this lady and other people that are going through this get the help and support that they need. I think setting up the support group was brilliant. Good luck to you all.
She was lucky that she was raised with love by the father she knew when she was a child, not everyone gets the opportunity to be love by someone unconditionally even if you're not related to each other.
true
What if the husband didn't know..who knows what could be the truth. ..it could of been a brief affair or something more dark...
But she was also lied to. Why didn't they tell her?
A.new love official---I really and truly agree with you---this lady is so incredibly lucky to have had such a wonderful Father who loved and cared for her. She might not of had his DNA but his love for her was worth far more.
Any man can be a Father and It takes a Real man to be a Daddy
It takes more than DNA to be a good parent.
DNA helps though because biology does matter. I dont understand why society is pushing biology aside like it means nothing
Tom G. DNA isn’t a factor in being a good parent
@@Skatejock21 she is much older. It doesn't seem to have been an issue prior to the test.
It takes a lot of money to bring up a kid nowadays.
Wake up call
I’ve seen this first hand in my family. A woman matched with my great uncle and it was that he was her father. She found out two weeks before my great uncle died in a plane crash. TWA-800 to be exact. She approached my great aunt hoping to meet her father, but found out that he had recently died. My family keeps touch with her often.
What a horrendous crash that was
Exact same thing has happened to my mother. Huge shock, as her mother died when she was young and her 'father' had raised her. Devastated.
DNA doesn’t make a parent, it’s the person who loved and nurtured you during your formative years.
What a sucker !!! He was raising another man's child and never even knew it !!!
teamcougars. You are so right!
What if you were denied being able to see your kids because he's military and they told me unless he contacted me, they couldn't help me.
My granddaughter had a previous baby girl...I love that little girl so much but there was a reason why my granddaughter had to give my country BUMPKIN up.for adoption....it wasn't my granddaughter who did not love my country BUMPKIN it was the situation at the time ...but I thank the good lord above I get to talk with my great granddaughter and see her through these PEOPLE who have her....my BUMPKIN knows her nana loves her very much .
@@ArtCurator2020 he's not a "sucker", he was a victim.
And comported himself with love, class, & grace.
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I have a 1/2 brother and I can tell you HE'S 1/2 NOTHING...
HE'S MY BROTHER PERIOD!!!
I to have a half brother and he is the youngest of us. We were raised by a very strong mother that sat us down and told us he is your brother. I never questioned that. He is 7 yrs younger than me and we are one family 💓
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I too half a half sibling who is my full sister
1/2 is just a scientific number that explains two people sharing DNA from one common parent and not two common parents. It is not being disrespectful. I have a best friend who I always call sister.
Yes I know exactly how she feel. The same thing happened to me. I did a DNA test for my Sister to prove her wrong. We both were in for a surprise. Neither one was our Daddy's. It was a empty feeling.
While my wife was still alive, we both took a DNA test. For her, we learned that her father wasn't her biological father. That was interesting. For me, the multi- racial mongrul, I discovered that I was also 18% Greek (and have the typical Greek toes..second toe being the longest), and also 6% British. I also have Asian and African ancestry and tan very dark in the summer time. I feel adrift from any racial connections and only consider myself to be....Human?
Np Portuguese ancestry ( Iberian DNA)?
Rodrigues is a well known Portuguese name .
You seemingly think less of yourself. You are a human being with a diverse cultural background. That is very interesting. I always think of such diversity resulting in the most attractive people and quite interesting. Try to think more positive about your ancestry. You are probably quite handsome.
@@cmarq817 Of course it is ... could even be of Spanish descent back to the XVIth century, when Portugal was absorbed by Spain !!!!
@@amiquigonzales7917 actually Portugal was never absorbed by Portugal. Portugal was always an independent nation since its creation in 1143.
If you mean that we shared the same King as Spain for 50 years… that’s true.
The moment it changed, the war started
@@cmarq817 I know, tge succession crise of 1580, but that meant being RULED by Spain !!
My bestfriend just found out her dad isn't her biological father through an ancestry test. Her mother refuses to discuss it. She's a wreck. I feel so bad for her. She found her bio dad through the website but she's apprehensive about reaching out.
Hi baby Am Ben easygoing person I like good and do good I like friends that have understanding and fun to be with I love arts, museum and music l lunch luxury every Eve I compose poem and scripts am a civil engineer and a contractor I work for company and I work in Asia,africa,and Europe I need a woman who understands What love is all about, to be my own I saw your picture and I am impressed you're beautiful and baby you shines like a diamond springs In Sky nicely like flowers in the garden of Eden's I close my eyes all I is you at first sight I felt the energy of Sun rays angel'wings written love on it I love you so much baby I want a wonderful woman will love me and know who I am and be mine forever i hope You will reply soonest thanks.
Leave it alone trust me 🤗
I just found out my dad was not my biological dad. My stepfather was my biological Dad. They are both deceased. The only good thing about my situation is I lived with both of my dads. My mom was married to both of them.
I understand that affairs, cheating, it's nothing new but the level of deception.... my gosh these women keep such secrets.
Always blows my mind how much disrespect women have towards men by having other men's babies... often ahead of marriage. Girls Just Want to Have Fun.
She should reach out to her father privately.She has the right to know answers.She needs to do this secretly,just like her mom kept secrets
Same thing happened to my mother. I bought a dna test for mothers day 2018. The test came back matching her to a different father. She not only matched with him but all of his family members. I recently got back from meeting my new grandfather.
All my brothers and sisters are all half siblings, i have never thought of them as half siblings. They are full to me. 😍
Real talk
omg I feel the same! I literally have 6 "half" siblings, most of us have different dads but the same mom. But we don't ever call each other "half" siblings because we're very close
Natalie Nino so multiple dads cheated on your mom?
@@isuzuke Or Mom cheated on multiple Dads.
When I was a little girl I knew that my sister and I had different dads. But I remember being told that it's called having a 'half' sister. I cried because I thought it meant I could only love her 'half' as much
How lucky you are to have had a dad who loved you and cared for you.
I submitted my dog's DNA instead of mine.. I'm waiting for the results
That’s awesome 😎, if you really wasted the 100 bucks , pls update me on the results, Bhahaha
Timba Tee the result is in....inbred!
Looking at the picture of your dog I feel sure I'm related.
Timba Tee Hahahahahaha I want to know the results
Would love an update on this 😂😂😂
I have two children. One grew in my heart, one grew in my belly. My love for each of them is like the same house, built on different foundations.
Family and blood sometimes happen in the same place - but they are not the same thing.
Tgis was so beautifully written and explained.
Ceri Black Beautifully said 💗
I have two brothers, one is adopted, I love them the same. Recently, my brother met his bio family. He asked me and our parents to go with him. I now proudly call his bio sisters my little sisters 💗
The capacity to love is never ending ❤️
Either way their both ur child!🤔
it matters what the heart says ... what's in your heart . just because once a step or half just because of sharing one parent and not the other .. you choose to love them even if you didn't have to... love grows leaps and bounds and never goes away
Ceri Black135
The most important part about this is that the father who she knew growing up took care of her and loved her as his own. Much respect for her father who raised her.
Unfortunately he probably never knew of her his wife's affair.
I found out the same when I was 30 years old. My mom got very angry with my dad and turned to me and yelled, he is not your father. I had NO idea.It changed my life. My opinion parents should tell children who they really are. Don't wait. It's weird.
Wow, it's shattering that 3000 people have the same hurt as this sweet lady. Bless her xxx
Thank you for your kind words. We now have over 8500 NPEs and we support over 11,000, including family impacted by an NPE. And we are adding people daily.
I had a similar experience. My mom died and I didn't know her family. I was hoping by using ancestry I could do her family tree and meet some relatives. I met my cousin that I didn't know of. but for her, her father rejected her and denied being her father, so she grew up excluded from the family. But he was my blood relative, and the DNA test proved we were cousins. So we found each other and she's now a best friend. My life changed for the better, and for her she finally got closure.
Hi baby Am Ben easygoing person I like good and do good I like friends that have understanding and fun to be with I love arts, museum and music l lunch luxury every Eve I compose poem and scripts am a civil engineer and a contractor I work for company and I work in Asia,africa,and Europe I need a woman who understands What love is all about, to be my own I saw your picture and I am impressed you're beautiful and baby you shines like a diamond springs In Sky nicely like flowers in the garden of Eden's I close my eyes all I is you at first sight I felt the energy of Sun rays angel'wings written love on it I love you so much baby I want a wonderful woman will love me and know who I am and be mine forever i hope You will reply soonest thanks.
When you are doing research on your family tree, be prepared and openminded to find the unexpected.
I never had to doubt who my dad was because 90% of my face looks just like his! I posted on Facebook a picture of me and of my parents when they married at age 23. One of the comments was, "Well, that puts those milkman rumors to rest!" LOL! I am definitely his daughter. I'm the only one of my siblings (I have 3 brothers) to take a DNA test. So far it's been quite helpful in connecting with others and finding and sharing information on our family trees.
Yes always keep an opened mind.When you find people,it's never what you expect.....
I wish I could do a test and my parents are proven not to be my real parents. A person can only dream
Ancestry .com has a very tactfully worded "warning" that DNA testing may reveal some surprises. I imagine some of the other companies have similar warnings. I've been contacted by multiple surprise-cousins since I tested in 2013 with both Ancestry and 23andMe. The ones that learned the truth by DNA testing had very tough adjustment periods.
Snow3271 I spent my whole life believing I was a significant portion Italian. I look it, I’m very warm, can’t talk without my hands being involved, am passionate about nearly everything and had a paternal grandmother whose maiden name was Ginnoccio! I had my DNA done and found not one drop of Italian! Not even .1%. No one around to talk about it with.
I think we often put our parents up on a pedestal and see them as dad and mom. We forget they are human beings that make mistakes too. I think even though this woman will never have answers to the circumstances that led to her conception, she still had loving parents and now she's gained two more siblings she never knew she had. She's also found another sort of family in the support group.
I'm surprised to learn how almost common this is that a support group could have that many members! Wow talk about a shock
Mama may not have been an unfaithful wife. She could have been sexually harassed at work, by her boss. In 1960, women had no employment rights. She said her mother worked briefly for this man. Who knows why it was brief. Could be that with 4 kids at home, she needed to work. He took advantage of this fact and thus pressured her, had his way, then when she found out she was pregnant, she resigned and kept her mouth shut. And raised her little girl just like her other kids.
Oh please, there could be a million and one scenarios. Fact remains a person should know who their parents are, period, irrespective of the choice or situation they found themselves in.
@@oliviamae3281 your PARENTS are the people who raise you. Period.
Emilia Rose, Catherine never insinuated that her mother had been an unfaithful wife. As she stated to Megyn, she doesn't know the story of what led to her conception.
Thats the first thought I Have Had in My Mind!
Agree 100%with u!
Snow White I agree, but it's in her and her descendants' best interests to know their genetics, such as family cancers, etc.
There is a very old saying, where I come from:
"A parent is the one who raises you, not the one who gives you birth".
'Nuff said!
Yes n no that's because in foreign countries grandmother raises the daughter kids while she works but even then they know who their mum is
I dunno, giving birth to someone is a pretty big deal. A big sacrifice of your body and possibly life. I don't think it's equal to raising someone, but it's definitely significant. I'd say the biological father's role is less significant if they don't raise their kid.
Sometimes children are taken by the dad because of money, health reasons...sometimes they are cruel and cause more pain ...some parents are narcissists....you never know ...just be thankful your alive and was raised by somebody who gave there time so you could be here....life isnt always fair
🇳🇿🇳🇿 Here in NZ post WW11 and ,after the many American soldiers returned home, the saying went “it’s a smart child who knows who his dad is” . This was always stated in humour and never used in an offensive manner.🤭🤫🤗. 🤷♀️ whatever
There's a saying where I come from - get your baby DNA tested because a lot of women sleep around.
Since no one knows the facts, it could also be that the boss forced himself on her and the parent kept it secret or possibly mom kept it secret.
Thank you Catherine. For sharing your story. It's amazing.
My grandmother is also the family genealogist and after getting the DNA test she found a niece that no one in the family, especially her brother (the biological father of the niece) knew existed. She had been hoping to find her father or possible family members from the site, and she did.
In my family, we have someone who was put up for adoption, but we have no idea who put them up. This woman is upset because her adoptive mother passed away and she has no siblings.
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My great uncle researched our family tree back to the 17th century and I'm now following in his footsteps to find out about my mother's side! It's all very fascinating. My mother and I didn't even know her grandfather's first name when I started. Did a DNA test and had a small percentage of eskimo/inuit and I'm convinced it's from her side so she's doing the test next. Can't wait to see what I end up finding out.
Wow!
@@ivylasangrienta6093 ......
I had ordered a DNA test from my heritage but never did it so a couple months ago my d n l was talking about wanting to do hers because no one in their knows ANY OF THEIR FAMILY'S history so I gave it her. I do not know if she has taken it yet.
My son did one about 4 years ago with 23andMe, my cousin on mother's side did one withe ancestry, just a few months before my son did his. I had been doing family genealogy for a while then covid hit and the public library was closed down for in person use so I could no longer go to the library and don't have home wifi, can't afford it, but what I did was quite a bit. Plus knowing some thing about your family's history helps. My mothers side is the most interesting side. One of my cousins, who is now deceased , on my mom's side traced that side all the way to Julia, the sister of Julius Caesar . There's a lot English Irish and Scottish. There used to be a website called
myfamouskin.com but I do not know if it's still available that is pretty interesting to see who the famous kin you have. I had my tree on my Heritage for a while and actually got an email from Walt Disney's family tree site manager. Which I had already discovered through this myfamouskin that he was a ancestor/ descendant of someone in my mom's family tree. Other famous kins I found were
Sally Ride, the 1st female astronaut
Kit Harrington from G.O.Thrones
Paget Brewster from Criminal Minds
Just a few of the famous kin I discovered. You should check it out if it's still available
www.myfamouskin.com
You will be amazed
This is fantastic that from their pain they started a group that others can share and relate to them about their feelings.
It makes me warm to know how you’re reaching out to others and connecting.
I was in that group, but left. It might be helpful for some, but I think because I grew up with a great Dad (yeh he had his faults) that I just don't understand why everyone is so upset about it. It wasn't their mistake, it was their mothers. I know some mother's were mad to know their secret came out. But if you love your mother then cherish that love because she won't always be there.
Why do some parents see the need to lie or be less than honest? A child has a right to know, speaking as a parent of 4.
How can a child be a parent of four?
My daughter who has never seen her dad. She took that test . Later they sent her some people who could be her relatives . One did emailed her . She ignored that . I will never understood why , for the longest she would blamed me for not keeping up with him. I can't win for losing .
They literally took the secret to their graves.
maybe the dad didn't know?
@@quinnbat I bet the mother never revealed she had an affair or one night stand. The father was clueless til the end.
So wrong.. the entire paternal family was robbed
This identical story happened to me....I've been shocked ever since. All the abuses as a child by my mother are raw. Now I know why she hated me so. Devastating
I'm sorry Lori! It seems like we share similar stories. I learned five months ago when I received my DNA test results that the man who raised me was not my father.
Your mother hated you for being another man's child? That was not your fault and is insane
Had a good friend ( decesed) who had same experience.....xo
I know what it’s like to be hated by your mother, although my mother is my biological mother she bitterly resented having me and made sure I knew about it. I’m so sorry you have been treated this way, the damage it does is immense. After 40+ years I finally found the strength to break ties with my Mother, best thing I could have done. I hope you eventually find some peace x x
Victoria B. Wow I know exactly how you're feeling. Stay in touch.
I am in this group it has helped me a lot . They understand my feelings. They validate my feelings unlike others -family members etc, they have told me to stop acting like a victim. I am grateful I found her group
I can relate I am a product of family secrets. No real answers to provide. Thanks for sharing. As I watched this show I felt my pain again when I realized the family disconnect.
Hello Dear
How are you doing today?
I wonder if she's mad at her mother for never revealing that secret. My oldest sister was extremely angry at my mom. The reality is my mom explained that my sister's father left my mother while she was a baby and never returned. Mom have no idea where or what happened to him. But I never refer to my sister as half sister. She's my sister period!!!!!!!
Right on MsDee
I often feel sad for half-siblings from first failed marriages because they have to live that baggage of being the result of that. And sometimes they're treated badly which makes it even worse.
It's nice that you have a home where she's given the love she deserves.
Her mom probably didn't know for sure.
The mother may have not known dont be so harsh
thats how my sister an I are. thats my sister period.
My family has more than a few skeletons in many closets...I don't need to know anymore than I already know!
Girl, you and me both!!
chicken ...lol
It's your choice to react that way. Some want the truth and some prefer to bury it. You may have enough on your shoulders already. Wathever makes your life better as long as the denial isn't going to a unhealthy place. But whatever you don't solve in your lifetime won't fade away, you are giving it to your children and they will have to solve it themselves and might be harder for them decades later.
Gina Heller habit
But, if you're not "covering it up", then that's on YOU... Don't play dumb, men "go in" bareback and act all surprise when there is a pregnancy... so stfu...
I have been watching these megyn kelly videos all day and i really appreciate her ability to bring humour to sensitive topics without taking away from the gravity of each individuals personal experience. This is a host worth keeping x
I found my half sister on facebook in 2008. She never knew I existed and she grew up feeling like someone was missing from her life. We met each other for the first time in February 2009 in Minnesota.
I agree. The Real Father was the one who raised you as a precious daughter. Celebrate that you were loved by a real dad.
It's not about that...it's about the dishonesty and never meeting your real father/family...it's a feeling of betrayal...what if she gets sick a needs to find a family member for blood, etc??
@@deniseperrault9197 Blood is not a problem. Bone marrow might be.
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Probably her real dad never knew
No one knows the real story. No one knows that either man didn’t know. No one knows that the mother knew for sure that her husband wasn’t the father. No one knows that the the mother wasn’t victimized. I am disappointed in all the presumptions and judgements being placed here.
But everyone knows for sure that the mother knew that her husband MAY NOT be the father.
Exactly what i was thinking. Her bio dad being her moms boss it would have been very easy for him to take advantage of her... but regardless, she will probably never know.
babe every word you say I do agree with you xx
You sound like Littlefinger.
That was my exact thought...
It's beautiful to hear about such caring among families and siblings. I don't wonder who my parents are and I have two sisters, but the loneliness I live with makes me admire those people in this video. There is so much love. Even with the deceptions and Devastation they have each other close.
There is what? What happened? PS I live with extreme loneliness myself - due to terrible situation I am in...
If you're dealing with extreme loneliness, get out and meet people.
Does she KNOW that the father she grew-up with KNEW that she wasn't his child? He may have never known!
You're right. Back in the day, before DNA tests, any child born to a married couple legally belonged to the husband.
Our family found out we have a sister (an affair most likely from Dad) through the DNA testing and ancestry. Shocking to say the least. It created a lot of bad feelings.
I did the DNA test and my mom did. My dad wanted to and 3 times they couldn’t read his DNA and gave him his money back. How can you not read DNA! We joke now that he isn’t from this planet. 😂😂😂
I was thinking chimera too!!! If I were him I would get it checked out. Whatever is going on with his DNA might affect him in the future.
shanna dad done did something strange to hide his precious material.
There are aliens living amongst us disguised as humans.
Shanna Lourine 🤣
That's kind of fascinating.
I was told at 42 I wasn't my dads child....I was told I was another mans by my youngest sister. I found, what I thought was my brother but there wasn't a connection. 7 years later I decided to do the Ancestry DNA and found that, neither one was my father and was another man from TN. Sadly he passed away in 2017 but I now i have 2 sisters and a brother that I love very much! We met up in Feb 2022 and I go visit them as often as I can...I've already been down there 3 times since Feb and getting ready to head back down next week for my vacation.
I have bitterness for my dad for never telling me the truth! Though he is my dad, he will never be my father.
had the same things happen to me went from haveing 2 foster siblings 2 half siblings and a sister to just being the middle child of 8 i just gave my daddy the man who raised me more kudos for standing up and treating me as his own
A day into a cross country roads trip with my sister I received an email through AncestryDNA from a woman saying we were related. Her dad had been adopted and had passed away. Her mother’s father was also adopted. She didn’t have much family history available to her. I had recently helped a cousin find his bio mom so I said I’d dig once I got into next town. After much email exchange we found out we were sisters. I had always known that I had a different bio dad from my siblings but now I was finding out he wasn’t my dad. I have met my sister and it’s an amazing love I have for her. She’s my baby sister. We are 1 year and 2 days apart. And I’m so lucky to have found her.
I can certainly see how this could be emotionally devastating. Something similar to this happened to me. I've thought about going to a DNA registry but I'm afraid to. I've had enough trauma in my life for the time being. Parents (In my opinion) owe it to their children to tell them the truth. Having said that, I think that this lady's father was just trying to make the best of a bad situation by taking care of a daughter that he knew was not biologically his. For that I salute him. He has my respect.
Ma007, he didn't know she wasn't his until his daughter did Ancestry. Now that he does know, it makes no difference to him. This has added to love to all of their lives, not taken any away.
@@kctaz6189 I thought she said both parents are deceased so she won’t know what or why. I believe her biological father is deceased also.
@@kctaz6189 All parents are deceased.
Her father may not have known. Maybe her mom had an affair with her boss when the marriage was on the rocks and she wouldn't have been the 1st woman to pass on a baby that wasn't her husband's as her husband's. I just don't get why she would be in any way affected...so what. Your dad is the guy who took care of you, not necessarily who boinked your mom one time. As my dad used to say...it takes 2 people 5 minutes in a car to make a baby...your parents are the ones that love and take care of you. She's lucky she had such a good family.
@@bettywith2girls Catherine has pointed out that the change in the parent[s] creates important changes in his/her medical history. It also changes the medical history of his/her children.
At 45 I discovered I was adopted and that it was a private adoption and I did not have the right to my own identity. At 77 I am still searching. I only know my biological mother was 33 when she had me and she had another child before me. I pray one day to learn the truth before I die. Raised by the people who adopted me and was told I did not have siblings but apparently I did.
I took the Ancestry DNA test and had the same discovery. You go through a horrendous grieving process. You grieve the loss of knowing the other person who passed before finding them. I joined this same support group she started. It took time to overcome the devastation but I now fully accept God knew what was best for me the whole time and all of it worked for my good! 🤗
U are indeed a lucky young women. I adopted my 3 children I have 2 daughters & a son & they all were told they were adopted from a very young age & I also, told them that if they ever wanted to find their biological Moms that I would help them. Basically, I did that because, I wanted to be able to say Thank U to for giving me the opportunity to be a Mom. My daughters have chosen not to look for their biological Moms. My son on the other hand always was bothered that he had been adopted both he & his biological Mom I have met the & I am friends with his biological Mom. She is a lovely person & I have been able to thank her many times over. She also, has Thanked me many time for raising such a wonderful young man & he is a responsible, loving & caring husband & father to 4 daughters.
Well done 🤗🤗
Enjoy the new family.
The siblings bought her the dna test for her birthday? Maybe they knew and wanted her to figure it out that way.
that'd be cruel.
Yes, that could be true.
She was the one who was into genealogy. It fits right into her interests, and it is a cool gift that is significant enough to be special.
Maybe they were just being NICE to their sister. 🙄.
I don't know why this comment is funny to me. LMAO but it could be very true
That was my first thought too.
So so important to tell your kids as soon as they can understand.
I'm 27 and all my life have been an only child. But my dad dropped the bomb that I may have half-siblings out there, due to his sexual trysts years before I was born. I would love to find out who they are, where they are, and how they're doing. I've taken a DNA test in hopes that I'd miraculously stumble upon one of them. But no such luck yet.
Hang in there. It takes time. I hope the folks you seek are also on your DNA site and will contact you. I’m an adoptee who found both sides rather late in life. I waited til my adoptive parents passed away before I started my search. It was very gratifying.
This is so amazing that she found her two half sister's.They do resemble each other.
no apostrophy on sisters
No y in apostrophe
@@femsff7090 thank you, much appreciated!;)
Hello Judy how are you doing. I hope you are well and safe. I'm Thomas from Virginia. Looking for someone to be my friend as i'm tired being alone. I hope you don't min, thank you.
Hello Judy,how are you doing?
I found my second cousins after a test. Lovely, lovely people. I learned about my grandparents and great grandparents. I mostly feel sad that I didn’t actually know them.
Hello Sarah, how are you doing?
I took one and I learned that my dad was 3/4 Native American, meaning his mother was full Native. We never knew this. And the part that we did know, that he was a quarter-Japanese also had a shocker. My dad's Japanese grandfather (who was obviously Asian) was descended from one of the Portuguese traders in Nagasaki in the 1600's.
Her dad may have never known that his wife was screwing around.
@@yanghao8351 It's not the baby's fault. I wouldn't want to know, I would want to love her like she is mine, and live my life not knowing that my wife had cheated. Evidently, she turned out to be a good wife and they raised several kids that may have never been born had he known.
Messing around or possibly sexually assaulted? Remember the time period we are talking about. For a female employee to bring these charges against her employer was not in her best interest. Maybe he threatened to take the baby if she pursued any action. Lot of factors to consider during this time period. Maybe she was threatened to the point of fearing to tell, even, her husband; There would be no reason if they were sexually active before the assault and if the baby looked enough like her siblings why say anything?
@@evry1snanny52 I think some mothers are threatened like this today! Such as when the wife wants to leave the husband, he threatens her with losing the child or something.
This poor lady was happy and content before she had that test done. Now the life she knew no longer exists. In her own words "it was a trauma". Think twice before you go digging around.
She might think about it like that now but in the end she gained more than she lost. She will always love the man she knew as her father and now she has two new sisters.
It is most frustrating when all parents involved are dead and there is no-one to confront.
Midwest Girl rather have the truth
Rather live a truthful life with discomfort than a life filled with lies.
She has met her siblings...how can that be bad..?I wonder if her original siblings new...when they gave her the birthday DNA test..
Funnily enough I talked to one of my friends about taking one of those tests and she said “what if you discover one of your parents is not your parent!?” I just laughed.
well well well...😂
Kelly Attobrah that's exactly why I have never taken one
I would be glad!! We are messed up in some way. So I would be glad if I wasn't related to this person who would have contributed to me being messed up just on the basis of them having raised me....
Her obsession with genealogy should have been a red light. There was obviously something in her life which she felt didn’t add up, which triggered her desire to look deeper into her family history.
Presumption without evidence. You have no idea. Many do it to find their family origins and history. Nothing to say anything is missing in anyone's life who looks up their ancestors.
@@kctaz6189 absolutely right, "presumption without evidence", which is exactly what you are doing now.
Ask yourself why? Making accusations, which you did, is often based in an underlying concern.
I'm so sorry I can see your pain. I cant imagine your shock. God bless you and your new siblings.
if she didn't have the passion for genealogy, she would have never found this out. Amazing
Wow! Praise God she had the strength to respond the way she did! Thank God that there is a place now where so many people can get the validation that they so dearly need!
You have to realize people arent perfect, and you cant control others behaviors in a moment in time, or who they chose to love. I'm glad that this has been a positive reunion and addition to her life, it's not always the case, shes twice blessed
This was an awesome show. Thanks so much for sharing it!
I think some people do the DNA tests to find out nationality, but unconsciously something has felt "off" and that is what is really driving the decision to do one. I bought one to see if my dad was really my biological father, and by the time it arrived I decided I was really mad at my mom and just looking to find things wrong. I never took it.
Wow, that's so hard. When my mother died we discovered that we had a sister we never knew about. Hmm. Never, in a million years, did we ever believe that was possible with my mother. You never really know someone.
Ben Calibri
So true !!!!
I know a person, now deceased who was raised by loving parents. Unbeknownst to her when she was about 45 she found out her biological father was not her dad. She was an only child & lovingly raised by 2 parents who loved her & she was grateful & happy when she passed.
Perhaps her siblings had a feeling that she was different and that was the very reason for the gifted DNA test.
Shock, disbelief and betrayal.
That would cause emotional pain & confusion.
Three thousand, wowww God bless you and all those who take part of the group.
My wife and I adopted two sets of two brothers in the early 1990's. All under 14 months. Would not trade the years for anything
Adoption is a blessing. My husband has found his bio-family. His bio-parents are deceased as are his parents. He has a lovely bio-family and he and I both decided he was a real winner in life. He got great parents, way better than his bio-parents sound and, now, has a great bio-family.
Try to contact any old employees of that store to see if she had talked to or if others knew about relationship. Might get some answers
One of the most intelligent comments on here.
Good advice. And, I already did. And, I got some answers. Still not everything, but enough. Thanks.
A father is the man who feeds you teaches you, raises you and loves you lifelong.
If I found out I had a biological father who was not the man I was raised by I wouldn't be bothered to seek my real father..
And plague myself with the how and whys...???
And cause my self unnecessary grief and distress over a stranger frankly.
I so glad you found out about your family.🙂🙂🙂🙂
Just goes to show the saying ‘the truth will always come out’ is undeniable!
The healing effect of heart felt communication. This was a touching and interesting story.
Family is usually the last to tell the truth in a situation like this.
it is one of those feel good moments or when you just say wow... WOW!
Thank you!
Life isn't a perfect formula. Sometimes decisions are made by us or others, and there are consequences. It is what it is-Life.
Poor lady. How traumatising. I'd say it was met to happen, though. She was always interested in genealogy. Bless her.
The way she said "where that might lead" sounded cute and funny at the same time
My father has 4 other children and they have no idea they have an older half sister. I recently found out about the 4th one. How sad.
I took a DNA test. I was raised to believe I was Irish, Jewish, Welsh, maybe French, small percentage of Scandinavian. Turns out I'm Celtic, Scandinavian, ITALIAN, 2%INDIAN and Iberian, 😂😂😂 my siblings got different results. It's quite a mind blow to learn you're not what you were raised to believe. I embrace it.
Celtic is Irish and many others cross bred so, what you thought you knew is really ot that far off.
I wonder what I am
Sometimes these DNA tests can be like opening a Pandora's box. I know because my grandmother passed 2 of her children off as my grandfathers children, and they were not his. In fact they both were fathered by 2 different men. What a can of worms...
If more ppl continue to do this testing there's going to be a lot of broken hearts. Ppl act like the young ladies today are more wild than the older ones. Only difference is we have social media now
It wouldn't be a can of worms if people didn't lie.
@@FaithandNova So True!
Yep a Pandora 📦 of the truth. Case closed, just move on and live your best life.
@@FaithandNova , ,
That’s why I will NEVER EVER do one of these tests. I have enough sorrow in my life…for the REST of my life. That would drive me crazy, not having those answers.
There is a similar story in my family. My grandmother grew up in poverty and had to work for a rich family. One of her 3 children is and looks suspiciously like the son of her former employer. No one speaks about it, but I've met the man that her son resembles and there is no question about it to me. They speak alike, they have the same annoying habit of dominating a conversation, they even laugh alike. However, her being a lowly servant and a devout, rule-abiding catholic, I have to question whether she wasn't the victim of the situation.