I did a DNA almost 2 yrs ago. Found out I was adopted. I was never told. At 63 yrs old I handled it great. I was raised an only child. Found out I had 9 biological siblings. I was so happy. Since then we have all become very close.
This is how you are supposed to react when you find out you are adopted if you have a good childhood. When I was a teenager I wished I was adopted when I didn’t get my way with things. Most teenagers dream. 😝
My Mother at the age of 75 through dna testing found out that her dad was not who she was always told was her dad. She now has a whole new family and has moved her bioethical aunt in with her who is now 100 years old and was being abused in a nursing home over 2000 miles away. This has all taken place in the last year.
@@blazefairchild465 I am not in a wheelchair but at 65 I was helping take care of my dying 85-year-old mother-in-law. It was hard physically. She barely weighed 115 at the end but was still hard for me to pick her up. I was exhausted.
@@peachygal4153 you did great ! Before I became disabled I took care of my 85 year old mother in law & 95 year old father in law they passed away a year apart. Then we had 2 years ,until husband had a heart attack & I had a stroke. But what is wrong now is my spine inoperable issues. My parents both passed away early to cancer neither reached 50.
@@blazefairchild465 It was my place to do that. My husband did his part and so did his sisters. We all pitched in, but I could do more being retired. My point is it was very hard as at 65 with having my own health issues, but it was my place. What I find it a shame this woman's biological children shirk their responsibility onto a niece that she never knew about to do that at 75 years old. Shame on them.
Oh, and I took care of my father too who had early onset dementia. He passed away at 63 but back then I was in my 20's so it was not nearly as hard. My mom died at 71 after open heart surgery. We only found out about her heart blockage a month before, so we did not help out long. However, with her it was not near as hard, besides only a short time. She could still bathe and dress herself. Take herself to the bathroom. We were doing the easy things for her. cooking her meals, cleaning her house, taking her to doctor appointments. Stressful but not physically hard. Plus, I was 20 years younger when my mom needed our help.
I never knew my real parents. My mom left me screaming in a dumpster and was found by an older couple. She said I was her angel baby. She had five adult boys an always prayed for a little girl. Needless to say I was spoiled rotten. I always had everything a child could dream of. When I got old enough I sought out to find my biological family and I did. My bio mom denied me any rights to see her or contact her ever again. My bio father on the other hand has been in my life since we reconnected. Now I have 2 fathers and let’s just say I’m a daddy’s girl on both sides. I cry all the time wishing I had my mother but God knew best and supplied me with the best mother a girl could have. Now with 2 families I have 11 brothers and 3 sisters. Dream come true.
The reason why your birth mother won't meet you is because she's a coward. She's too ashamed to face you because what she did was absolutely vile and horrible. However in the end, she actually done you a huge favour because you were loved and cared for the way a little girl should be. A women who dumps her child like that, when there are ways and means of safe adoption, does not deserve to be reunited with her child. I'm sorry you experienced this. Thank God you've had a safe, happy life.
I'm glad you were raised in a loving home. I pray God's continued blessings on you. I was adopted as a baby and have found my biological family. It's a great experience to meet sometime who looks like you and get to know each other. God works to things out the way they're supposed to even if we don't understand them sometimes.
My husband just found out after 47 years that his mom cheated on his dad , they never did a dna test to find out who the father is. My husband says it doesnt matter if his dad is biological or not, its the only father hes ever known and loves him
I am one of 12 adopted sisters and 5 adopted brothers. Never known my biological parents. My adopted parents have passed away. Life is good. Thank god for these people who took care of us all.
Uzzie's world, one question, when your family comes up in conversation say, you are talking to someone you have recently met and your talking number of siblings do yo say I am 1 of 16 sisters and brothers or I am 1 of 16 adopted sisters and brothers? I ask out of curiosity, because to me you would be a family with no need to qualify it. Your parents did a great thing. It happened in my family as well, though not to such a great extent and back over 100 years ago when people actually did not go through the paperwork.
I have an adopted twin. She’s 53 days older than me but apart from looks we are twins in every way. We finish each other’s sentences. We know when we need each other. We talk every single evening and have for the last thirty years. We live thousands of miles apart. We’re hoping to see each other soon. We both have similar health conditions and we want to see each other face to face again soon. We had a plan but a pandemic got in the way. We are connected at the heart and that’s worth more than DNA any day!
I am 64 years old and found a half sister 27 years ago after my mother told me I have a different father than my siblings. We buried my sister last week. What a wonderful 27 years we shared together. There are many of us out there.
So sorry for your loss. I am 67 & not speaking with 2 of my 3 whole sisters. Not by choice. One is bipolar & the other is alcoholic. Our father molested them & they have never dealt with it thru counseling or forgiven him-- dead for 26 years. Having 27 years in a healthy sibling relationship is a great, great gift that I've never had with my dysfunctional family. I now choose to protect myself from their criticisms, verbal abuse & disrespect. You are very blessed to have found your sister.
This happened to me but my family rejected the results as "deliberate fakes".I did not have a warm, loving up bringing and now I understand why not. This video was such a relief to me! Thank you!
@@AnnabelleJARankin At 65 now, I'm working on recovering. So much that was hidden. So many secrets that I paid for as an innocent child. My father was certain I was not his. Told me as much. Hated me as long as I knew him. DNA showed... I was actually his. My first relatives on my DNA results were cousins on his side. Ironic but healing.
I learned at 43 I was not my fathers and in the beginning I too was rejected. Just know that their rejection makes you no less you are still a deserving individual. Much love and hugs to you.
the surprise cousin whose mother kept denying she was her father's that something was wrong with the test, I suggested she get her sister to test and she came back as half. I gave her the name of a first cousin who had lived in the town where she was born 20 plus years ago, had gone to high school there and did not move away until his 40's. I had 15 male cousins, (could already rule out my brother as we shared around 500 centimorgans and an aunt shares more and I was able to rule out 5 other cousins because their sister tested, and she shared about the same amount as me. One other cousin I could rule out as his nephew had tested and he shared 300 centimorgans with her which is second cousins. First cousins share more) Of course I was just going by he had lived in her town for half his life, but I told her to take his name to her mother. Mom broke down and admitted it when she heard his name.
True but when you always believed they were your bio parent and find out differently it is still devastating. It is not the same as if you always knew you were adopted or that your mother remarried, and you had a good stepdad. I have friends that were a blended family (kids all grown) and her daughters love their stepdad and yes they have always known he is not their bio father since they were in elementary school when they married. They don't think much of their bio father although they have a good relationship with his sister, their aunt, mainly because she wanted it, whereas he did not.
And doesn’t lie and deceive their child. Lying and deceiving your child keeping them from know their medical background etc is awful. As a parent I could never hurt my children like this.
Everyone deserves to know who they are. Non adopted people do why can't everyone. This was because of truth that didn't get told earlier. Sad she lost all that time to know all her relatives.
I just found my Biological Daughter after 50 years of complete ignorance of her existence, I am 72, and because of a lie, never knew I had a Daughter. My very first Child. She is an Angel. She lives at the other end of the country, so we are trying to raise money now, so we get to meet for the first time ever. Her name is Charlene. I love her with all my Heart.
My granddaughter had a previous baby girl...I love that little girl so much but there was a reason why my granddaughter had to give my country BUMPKIN up.for adoption....it wasn't my granddaughter who did not love my country BUMPKIN it was the situation at the time ...but I thank the good lord above I get to talk with my great granddaughter and see her through these PEOPLE who have her....my BUMPKIN knows her nana loves her very much .
I found my Dad’s side of the family (he died when I was little) through Ancestry. When my sister and I met them in person, I broke down and cried because they had my unique hazel eyes. Same shape and everything. My sister doesn’t even have them. As soon as I saw them I feel the immediate connection. It was amazing looking into someone’s eyes that are the same as yours are when you have unique eyes.
I just found my sister whom I never knew. And the siblings love was there from the first mo.ent. weirdest feeling, to feel unconditional love for a person who you didn't even know existed. But the wave of love was instantaneous. Can't be explained
One of my cousins and I have the same shaped hazel eyes. Our grandfather died when my dad was 14 and her mom was 8 from lung cancer at 40. From old photographs I realized we inherited his eyes. My dad's and her mom's were different from his, (her mom had brown eyes and my dad though he had hazel eyes, his eyes were bigger and rounder) but we got them. Now we know why we have similar eyes. No one told us we had his eyes. Not our grandmother and not our parents. Old photographs a 2nd cousin of our parents that they had of our grandfather that had belonged to their father, his brother told us.
She was lucky that she was raised with love by the father she knew when she was a child, not everyone gets the opportunity to be love by someone unconditionally even if you're not related to each other.
A.new love official---I really and truly agree with you---this lady is so incredibly lucky to have had such a wonderful Father who loved and cared for her. She might not of had his DNA but his love for her was worth far more.
I agree with you completely but at the same time one thing that kind of disturbs me is I wonder if he himself ever knew that she wasn't his biological daughter because I highly doubt he did know by the way she's telling the story it almost sounds like it was a secret her mother took to the Grave.
rita too many women using that as a bs excuse for bad behavior. You can ruin a child and mans life with info like this .thank god in this case the man was decease and didnt have to learn this.paternity fraud is not something that is acceptable under any circumstances
lisakp71 She said it herself in the video that the man that raised her was a DNA match 0% but he is her father in the fact that he raised her. Plus he died never knowing that his own wife had an affair on him they also said that in the video too.
@@catherinestclair3899 Our daughter is adopted. She found her birthfather's children, her half-siblings, a few years ago. It has been a great blessing for all of them and for us also. We have met her sister and her son and grandchildren and they consider us family also. Our daughter always knew she was adopted. I have other members of my family who have located birth-families and another cousin who discovered in her 70s that her father was not her birth-father.
This is very sad. I can't imagine the pain that this would cause. I really hope this lady and other people that are going through this get the help and support that they need. I think setting up the support group was brilliant. Good luck to you all.
Why don’t we ask the man who were cheated on if they feel the same way as you put it. The real issue is that both man and woman should stop sleeping around if they are married. End off.
No not really, my dad raised me from being an infant. My father visited my mom for a short time on night nine months before I was born. Then he left. I say lucky me. I would have been even luckier if she would have given me to my dad after I was born and then left with that father guy.
I to have a half brother and he is the youngest of us. We were raised by a very strong mother that sat us down and told us he is your brother. I never questioned that. He is 7 yrs younger than me and we are one family 💓
1/2 is just a scientific number that explains two people sharing DNA from one common parent and not two common parents. It is not being disrespectful. I have a best friend who I always call sister.
Yes I know exactly how she feel. The same thing happened to me. I did a DNA test for my Sister to prove her wrong. We both were in for a surprise. Neither one was our Daddy's. It was a empty feeling.
omg I feel the same! I literally have 6 "half" siblings, most of us have different dads but the same mom. But we don't ever call each other "half" siblings because we're very close
When I was a little girl I knew that my sister and I had different dads. But I remember being told that it's called having a 'half' sister. I cried because I thought it meant I could only love her 'half' as much
While my wife was still alive, we both took a DNA test. For her, we learned that her father wasn't her biological father. That was interesting. For me, the multi- racial mongrul, I discovered that I was also 18% Greek (and have the typical Greek toes..second toe being the longest), and also 6% British. I also have Asian and African ancestry and tan very dark in the summer time. I feel adrift from any racial connections and only consider myself to be....Human?
You seemingly think less of yourself. You are a human being with a diverse cultural background. That is very interesting. I always think of such diversity resulting in the most attractive people and quite interesting. Try to think more positive about your ancestry. You are probably quite handsome.
@@amiquigonzales7917 actually Portugal was never absorbed by Portugal. Portugal was always an independent nation since its creation in 1143. If you mean that we shared the same King as Spain for 50 years… that’s true. The moment it changed, the war started
I had a similar experience. My mom died and I didn't know her family. I was hoping by using ancestry I could do her family tree and meet some relatives. I met my cousin that I didn't know of. but for her, her father rejected her and denied being her father, so she grew up excluded from the family. But he was my blood relative, and the DNA test proved we were cousins. So we found each other and she's now a best friend. My life changed for the better, and for her she finally got closure.
Hi baby Am Ben easygoing person I like good and do good I like friends that have understanding and fun to be with I love arts, museum and music l lunch luxury every Eve I compose poem and scripts am a civil engineer and a contractor I work for company and I work in Asia,africa,and Europe I need a woman who understands What love is all about, to be my own I saw your picture and I am impressed you're beautiful and baby you shines like a diamond springs In Sky nicely like flowers in the garden of Eden's I close my eyes all I is you at first sight I felt the energy of Sun rays angel'wings written love on it I love you so much baby I want a wonderful woman will love me and know who I am and be mine forever i hope You will reply soonest thanks.
Same thing happened to my mother. I bought a dna test for mothers day 2018. The test came back matching her to a different father. She not only matched with him but all of his family members. I recently got back from meeting my new grandfather.
I have two children. One grew in my heart, one grew in my belly. My love for each of them is like the same house, built on different foundations. Family and blood sometimes happen in the same place - but they are not the same thing.
Ceri Black Beautifully said 💗 I have two brothers, one is adopted, I love them the same. Recently, my brother met his bio family. He asked me and our parents to go with him. I now proudly call his bio sisters my little sisters 💗 The capacity to love is never ending ❤️
it matters what the heart says ... what's in your heart . just because once a step or half just because of sharing one parent and not the other .. you choose to love them even if you didn't have to... love grows leaps and bounds and never goes away
I’ve seen this first hand in my family. A woman matched with my great uncle and it was that he was her father. She found out two weeks before my great uncle died in a plane crash. TWA-800 to be exact. She approached my great aunt hoping to meet her father, but found out that he had recently died. My family keeps touch with her often.
When you take those tests, make sure you’re prepared for anything you uncover. Many people are finding out information that not only affects them, but others as well.
Mama may not have been an unfaithful wife. She could have been sexually harassed at work, by her boss. In 1960, women had no employment rights. She said her mother worked briefly for this man. Who knows why it was brief. Could be that with 4 kids at home, she needed to work. He took advantage of this fact and thus pressured her, had his way, then when she found out she was pregnant, she resigned and kept her mouth shut. And raised her little girl just like her other kids.
Oh please, there could be a million and one scenarios. Fact remains a person should know who their parents are, period, irrespective of the choice or situation they found themselves in.
Emilia Rose, Catherine never insinuated that her mother had been an unfaithful wife. As she stated to Megyn, she doesn't know the story of what led to her conception.
This is fantastic that from their pain they started a group that others can share and relate to them about their feelings. It makes me warm to know how you’re reaching out to others and connecting.
I was in that group, but left. It might be helpful for some, but I think because I grew up with a great Dad (yeh he had his faults) that I just don't understand why everyone is so upset about it. It wasn't their mistake, it was their mothers. I know some mother's were mad to know their secret came out. But if you love your mother then cherish that love because she won't always be there.
Hi baby Am Ben easygoing person I like good and do good I like friends that have understanding and fun to be with I love arts, museum and music l lunch luxury every Eve I compose poem and scripts am a civil engineer and a contractor I work for company and I work in Asia,africa,and Europe I need a woman who understands What love is all about, to be my own I saw your picture and I am impressed you're beautiful and baby you shines like a diamond springs In Sky nicely like flowers in the garden of Eden's I close my eyes all I is you at first sight I felt the energy of Sun rays angel'wings written love on it I love you so much baby I want a wonderful woman will love me and know who I am and be mine forever i hope You will reply soonest thanks.
I never had to doubt who my dad was because 90% of my face looks just like his! I posted on Facebook a picture of me and of my parents when they married at age 23. One of the comments was, "Well, that puts those milkman rumors to rest!" LOL! I am definitely his daughter. I'm the only one of my siblings (I have 3 brothers) to take a DNA test. So far it's been quite helpful in connecting with others and finding and sharing information on our family trees.
Ancestry .com has a very tactfully worded "warning" that DNA testing may reveal some surprises. I imagine some of the other companies have similar warnings. I've been contacted by multiple surprise-cousins since I tested in 2013 with both Ancestry and 23andMe. The ones that learned the truth by DNA testing had very tough adjustment periods.
Snow3271 I spent my whole life believing I was a significant portion Italian. I look it, I’m very warm, can’t talk without my hands being involved, am passionate about nearly everything and had a paternal grandmother whose maiden name was Ginnoccio! I had my DNA done and found not one drop of Italian! Not even .1%. No one around to talk about it with.
I wonder if she's mad at her mother for never revealing that secret. My oldest sister was extremely angry at my mom. The reality is my mom explained that my sister's father left my mother while she was a baby and never returned. Mom have no idea where or what happened to him. But I never refer to my sister as half sister. She's my sister period!!!!!!!
I often feel sad for half-siblings from first failed marriages because they have to live that baggage of being the result of that. And sometimes they're treated badly which makes it even worse. It's nice that you have a home where she's given the love she deserves.
No one knows the real story. No one knows that either man didn’t know. No one knows that the mother knew for sure that her husband wasn’t the father. No one knows that the the mother wasn’t victimized. I am disappointed in all the presumptions and judgements being placed here.
Exactly what i was thinking. Her bio dad being her moms boss it would have been very easy for him to take advantage of her... but regardless, she will probably never know.
My bestfriend just found out her dad isn't her biological father through an ancestry test. Her mother refuses to discuss it. She's a wreck. I feel so bad for her. She found her bio dad through the website but she's apprehensive about reaching out.
Hi baby Am Ben easygoing person I like good and do good I like friends that have understanding and fun to be with I love arts, museum and music l lunch luxury every Eve I compose poem and scripts am a civil engineer and a contractor I work for company and I work in Asia,africa,and Europe I need a woman who understands What love is all about, to be my own I saw your picture and I am impressed you're beautiful and baby you shines like a diamond springs In Sky nicely like flowers in the garden of Eden's I close my eyes all I is you at first sight I felt the energy of Sun rays angel'wings written love on it I love you so much baby I want a wonderful woman will love me and know who I am and be mine forever i hope You will reply soonest thanks.
I just found out my dad was not my biological dad. My stepfather was my biological Dad. They are both deceased. The only good thing about my situation is I lived with both of my dads. My mom was married to both of them.
I understand that affairs, cheating, it's nothing new but the level of deception.... my gosh these women keep such secrets. Always blows my mind how much disrespect women have towards men by having other men's babies... often ahead of marriage. Girls Just Want to Have Fun.
My grandmother is also the family genealogist and after getting the DNA test she found a niece that no one in the family, especially her brother (the biological father of the niece) knew existed. She had been hoping to find her father or possible family members from the site, and she did.
In my family, we have someone who was put up for adoption, but we have no idea who put them up. This woman is upset because her adoptive mother passed away and she has no siblings.
My great uncle researched our family tree back to the 17th century and I'm now following in his footsteps to find out about my mother's side! It's all very fascinating. My mother and I didn't even know her grandfather's first name when I started. Did a DNA test and had a small percentage of eskimo/inuit and I'm convinced it's from her side so she's doing the test next. Can't wait to see what I end up finding out.
@@ivylasangrienta6093 ...... I had ordered a DNA test from my heritage but never did it so a couple months ago my d n l was talking about wanting to do hers because no one in their knows ANY OF THEIR FAMILY'S history so I gave it her. I do not know if she has taken it yet. My son did one about 4 years ago with 23andMe, my cousin on mother's side did one withe ancestry, just a few months before my son did his. I had been doing family genealogy for a while then covid hit and the public library was closed down for in person use so I could no longer go to the library and don't have home wifi, can't afford it, but what I did was quite a bit. Plus knowing some thing about your family's history helps. My mothers side is the most interesting side. One of my cousins, who is now deceased , on my mom's side traced that side all the way to Julia, the sister of Julius Caesar . There's a lot English Irish and Scottish. There used to be a website called myfamouskin.com but I do not know if it's still available that is pretty interesting to see who the famous kin you have. I had my tree on my Heritage for a while and actually got an email from Walt Disney's family tree site manager. Which I had already discovered through this myfamouskin that he was a ancestor/ descendant of someone in my mom's family tree. Other famous kins I found were Sally Ride, the 1st female astronaut Kit Harrington from G.O.Thrones Paget Brewster from Criminal Minds Just a few of the famous kin I discovered. You should check it out if it's still available www.myfamouskin.com You will be amazed
I dunno, giving birth to someone is a pretty big deal. A big sacrifice of your body and possibly life. I don't think it's equal to raising someone, but it's definitely significant. I'd say the biological father's role is less significant if they don't raise their kid.
Sometimes children are taken by the dad because of money, health reasons...sometimes they are cruel and cause more pain ...some parents are narcissists....you never know ...just be thankful your alive and was raised by somebody who gave there time so you could be here....life isnt always fair
🇳🇿🇳🇿 Here in NZ post WW11 and ,after the many American soldiers returned home, the saying went “it’s a smart child who knows who his dad is” . This was always stated in humour and never used in an offensive manner.🤭🤫🤗. 🤷♀️ whatever
The most important part about this is that the father who she knew growing up took care of her and loved her as his own. Much respect for her father who raised her.
Exact same thing has happened to my mother. Huge shock, as her mother died when she was young and her 'father' had raised her. Devastated.
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This identical story happened to me....I've been shocked ever since. All the abuses as a child by my mother are raw. Now I know why she hated me so. Devastating
I'm sorry Lori! It seems like we share similar stories. I learned five months ago when I received my DNA test results that the man who raised me was not my father.
I know what it’s like to be hated by your mother, although my mother is my biological mother she bitterly resented having me and made sure I knew about it. I’m so sorry you have been treated this way, the damage it does is immense. After 40+ years I finally found the strength to break ties with my Mother, best thing I could have done. I hope you eventually find some peace x x
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Victoria B. Wow I know exactly how you're feeling. Stay in touch.
It's not about that...it's about the dishonesty and never meeting your real father/family...it's a feeling of betrayal...what if she gets sick a needs to find a family member for blood, etc??
This poor lady was happy and content before she had that test done. Now the life she knew no longer exists. In her own words "it was a trauma". Think twice before you go digging around.
She might think about it like that now but in the end she gained more than she lost. She will always love the man she knew as her father and now she has two new sisters.
I found out the same when I was 30 years old. My mom got very angry with my dad and turned to me and yelled, he is not your father. I had NO idea.It changed my life. My opinion parents should tell children who they really are. Don't wait. It's weird.
A day into a cross country roads trip with my sister I received an email through AncestryDNA from a woman saying we were related. Her dad had been adopted and had passed away. Her mother’s father was also adopted. She didn’t have much family history available to her. I had recently helped a cousin find his bio mom so I said I’d dig once I got into next town. After much email exchange we found out we were sisters. I had always known that I had a different bio dad from my siblings but now I was finding out he wasn’t my dad. I have met my sister and it’s an amazing love I have for her. She’s my baby sister. We are 1 year and 2 days apart. And I’m so lucky to have found her.
I can certainly see how this could be emotionally devastating. Something similar to this happened to me. I've thought about going to a DNA registry but I'm afraid to. I've had enough trauma in my life for the time being. Parents (In my opinion) owe it to their children to tell them the truth. Having said that, I think that this lady's father was just trying to make the best of a bad situation by taking care of a daughter that he knew was not biologically his. For that I salute him. He has my respect.
Ma007, he didn't know she wasn't his until his daughter did Ancestry. Now that he does know, it makes no difference to him. This has added to love to all of their lives, not taken any away.
Her father may not have known. Maybe her mom had an affair with her boss when the marriage was on the rocks and she wouldn't have been the 1st woman to pass on a baby that wasn't her husband's as her husband's. I just don't get why she would be in any way affected...so what. Your dad is the guy who took care of you, not necessarily who boinked your mom one time. As my dad used to say...it takes 2 people 5 minutes in a car to make a baby...your parents are the ones that love and take care of you. She's lucky she had such a good family.
@@bettywith2girls Catherine has pointed out that the change in the parent[s] creates important changes in his/her medical history. It also changes the medical history of his/her children.
I think we often put our parents up on a pedestal and see them as dad and mom. We forget they are human beings that make mistakes too. I think even though this woman will never have answers to the circumstances that led to her conception, she still had loving parents and now she's gained two more siblings she never knew she had. She's also found another sort of family in the support group.
Our family found out we have a sister (an affair most likely from Dad) through the DNA testing and ancestry. Shocking to say the least. It created a lot of bad feelings.
She was the one who was into genealogy. It fits right into her interests, and it is a cool gift that is significant enough to be special. Maybe they were just being NICE to their sister. 🙄.
It's your choice to react that way. Some want the truth and some prefer to bury it. You may have enough on your shoulders already. Wathever makes your life better as long as the denial isn't going to a unhealthy place. But whatever you don't solve in your lifetime won't fade away, you are giving it to your children and they will have to solve it themselves and might be harder for them decades later.
But, if you're not "covering it up", then that's on YOU... Don't play dumb, men "go in" bareback and act all surprise when there is a pregnancy... so stfu...
I am in this group it has helped me a lot . They understand my feelings. They validate my feelings unlike others -family members etc, they have told me to stop acting like a victim. I am grateful I found her group
Wow, that's so hard. When my mother died we discovered that we had a sister we never knew about. Hmm. Never, in a million years, did we ever believe that was possible with my mother. You never really know someone.
I know a person, now deceased who was raised by loving parents. Unbeknownst to her when she was about 45 she found out her biological father was not her dad. She was an only child & lovingly raised by 2 parents who loved her & she was grateful & happy when she passed.
I found my second cousins after a test. Lovely, lovely people. I learned about my grandparents and great grandparents. I mostly feel sad that I didn’t actually know them.
Wow! Praise God she had the strength to respond the way she did! Thank God that there is a place now where so many people can get the validation that they so dearly need!
U are indeed a lucky young women. I adopted my 3 children I have 2 daughters & a son & they all were told they were adopted from a very young age & I also, told them that if they ever wanted to find their biological Moms that I would help them. Basically, I did that because, I wanted to be able to say Thank U to for giving me the opportunity to be a Mom. My daughters have chosen not to look for their biological Moms. My son on the other hand always was bothered that he had been adopted both he & his biological Mom I have met the & I am friends with his biological Mom. She is a lovely person & I have been able to thank her many times over. She also, has Thanked me many time for raising such a wonderful young man & he is a responsible, loving & caring husband & father to 4 daughters.
Sometimes these DNA tests can be like opening a Pandora's box. I know because my grandmother passed 2 of her children off as my grandfathers children, and they were not his. In fact they both were fathered by 2 different men. What a can of worms...
If more ppl continue to do this testing there's going to be a lot of broken hearts. Ppl act like the young ladies today are more wild than the older ones. Only difference is we have social media now
Thank you for your kind words. We now have over 8500 NPEs and we support over 11,000, including family impacted by an NPE. And we are adding people daily.
I think some people do the DNA tests to find out nationality, but unconsciously something has felt "off" and that is what is really driving the decision to do one. I bought one to see if my dad was really my biological father, and by the time it arrived I decided I was really mad at my mom and just looking to find things wrong. I never took it.
Well, if there was never any hint of an extra-marital affair throughout her whole life - she says she had a normal, functional childhood - maybe her mom didn’t even know who this woman’s real dad was. Maybe he assaulted her & she was too afraid to say anything. This lady has taken something sad & turned it into something beautiful - comforting people in the same kind of situation.
Maybe he assaulted her?? Where did this stretch come from? This is far more common than people realize. People have affairs all the time and have children as a result. There're lots of kids out there who believe the man who raised them is their dad and never ever know their biological father.
its a real insult to the womans husband to try to play this as assualt .its sad by we always try to find someway to justify bad behaviour by women .really really sad and shows how low and deprived society has become
Heather B. I think you missed the keyword "Maybe". There is no way to know. Affairs are very common but sadly assault is quite common too. The commenter was merely speculating.
She was loved and adored by her family, what's the big deal. People overblow these things Saying she was lied to all her life, as if she was treated badly as a result of her conception. Supposing Mama did not know? She was married, its easy to not know who between dad and boss conceived her.
@@bnwo EXACTLY!!! I can imagine it turns their whole world upside down, and makes them question who they are!! To love genealogy so much, and find out 20 years later that all the people she had found on her dad's side were not biologically related to her.... devastating!
The mother may not have known who the father was either. Back then paternity tests were far and few between. The mother may have been sexually harassed, she may have had an unfortunate encounter with another man while also still having relations with her husband. She may not have known.
I feel like they missed an entire perspective here... How did her other siblings relate to the news of their Mother’s affair news. How are they coping with this?
Catherine’s “Dad” the man who raised her, probably fell in love with her mother by chance and married her to cover the fact that she was an unwed mother before meeting him.
John Nader I'm friends with Catherine and she states she was the youngest of 5 children and her 4 older siblings are all her "Dad"'s biological children.
Hello Judy how are you doing. I hope you are well and safe. I'm Thomas from Virginia. Looking for someone to be my friend as i'm tired being alone. I hope you don't min, thank you.
I have been watching these megyn kelly videos all day and i really appreciate her ability to bring humour to sensitive topics without taking away from the gravity of each individuals personal experience. This is a host worth keeping x
I did the DNA test and my mom did. My dad wanted to and 3 times they couldn’t read his DNA and gave him his money back. How can you not read DNA! We joke now that he isn’t from this planet. 😂😂😂
Wow, I just found 1/2 sister through DNA on mother's side. Also one on father's side who isn't very receptive and resentful. Unfortunately, we are not responsible for our parent's behaviors and choices. There are more, but we are digesting it slowly, we both have very different lives and some traits that are the same.
@@annclark203 Have you had your family decimated because of an affair that one of your parents had? No, well, neither have I. However even I can imagine that a child being the result of an affair or a parent walking out on their first family to have another, totally forgetting about you, the child from the original family, while being there for his other children is going to affect your life. Many times, negatively and then one day, your half sibling calls you, because they found out about you through some DNA test. Your sibling, who had your parent, while you grew up wondering why your parent turned their back on you, especially if them leaving forced you to starve for awhile, while your other parent tries to make ends meet. You are not going to be happy.
@@chocolategelato3823 The truth shall set you free. For instance, those children who are adopted and are told at a very young age are probably in a much better position than those who are lied to all their lives. If the parents are too cowardly to tell when they are young, tell the minute they become an adult. Everyone deserves the truth about their origins and genes. It's their birth right. Nobody should steal it from them. I believe it is against natural law.
Adoption is a blessing. My husband has found his bio-family. His bio-parents are deceased as are his parents. He has a lovely bio-family and he and I both decided he was a real winner in life. He got great parents, way better than his bio-parents sound and, now, has a great bio-family.
My daughter who has never seen her dad. She took that test . Later they sent her some people who could be her relatives . One did emailed her . She ignored that . I will never understood why , for the longest she would blamed me for not keeping up with him. I can't win for losing .
One sometimes never knows what drives people to do what people do! It is so incredibly unfair to judge the mother because we know nothing. What we do know is that the child was loved regardless of what transpired. It is important to know that this woman's life has been enriched by the other people that are in her life as a result of the truth revealed to her by science. It is how we are embraced by the world that supports our self worth! Everyone in this story matters!
Hello Cheryl how are you doing. I believe you are healthy and also having a nice weather where you are. I live in Virginia USA and I'm looking for a new friend Ok!
What do you mean that her biological mother cannot be judged. Her birth mother could have dropped her off in front of a fire station, or a catholic church, but no she opted for a dumpster. She is despicable. THE CHILD WAS LEFT SCREAMING IN A DUMPSTER, YET YOU OPT TO DEFEND THE PIECE OF TRASH THAT PUT HER INTO THAT DUMPSTER.
We found many cousins mostly in New Zealand and Italy. One of my aunts knew her husband had a daughter through an affair. She actually went to the school my aunt taught at. So, now my cousin knows why her teacher always treated her so special. She cried when we told her we found her biological father but, now we are friends on facebook and all is well.
Hello Jeanette how are you doing. I hope you are well and safe. I'm Thomas from Virginia. Looking for someone to be my friend as i'm tired being alone. I hope you don't min, thank you.
I found a half Vietnamese sister and that my father lied terribly to us, my mother and it hurt all over again the split up of my parents. It is a hard thing to learn that even more the person that you thought you trusted most of your life was truly someone else. He had other lives than the one that had been known all our lives in my family. She has caused great trouble too latter on in our lives and talked my father out of our inheritance to go to her and he did it leaving the three of us each one dollar. It was sickening! It was not out fault that he turned his back on us and cheated in such a foul way, yet we lost all promised to us and was given to her and another sister he has had with their mother 6 years before when Dad was over there the first time! All that we were and had was obliterated because of his selfish evil actions. Men, even supposed good ones that know better do foul things and do not care...we are all just collateral damage to the wants and needs of men who just flat do not care what they do. Most men are like that too..sadly. Soem are not thankfully and they are rare and fine!
Hello how are you doing. I hope you are well and safe. I'm Thomas from Virginia. Looking for someone to be my friend as i'm tired being alone. I hope you don't min, thank you.
It seems to me that the other woman is nasty. You put all the blame on the man, your father, but that other woman convinced him to give her everything. There are some real nasty women as well.
Is this a dad who was in service and went over seas and left a kid there?? This happens a lot and the woman tbere want a military husband but time came and they had to leave . Many didn’t go back leaving the kids. Half Breed even worst if they were black . Not sure if that’s ur story U mentioned vietnam so I thought war.
What I found was opposite of this woman. I had always thought I was not my father's biological child and a lady contacted me and helped me trace his and her dna matches to me. So it relieved all my years of frustration in a single strand of dna that connected me to this woman who was directly related to my father. I also learned I have almost 3 % African blood which thrilled me for personal reasons. My mother, who is in hospice care now, is really my mother. I will never regret doing my dna test. It's answered many questions and I truly believe it was meant for the lady to contact me to set my mind at ease. Call it karma or divine intervention... I love the knowing that Daddy was indeed my biological father. And I have the proof (beyond the grave) of knowing it for sure.
There've been recent studies that have proven the percentages of ancestry on a lot of these tests aren't accurate. There are vids on YT about identical triplets taking the tests and having different results.. The DNA relations (parent-child, siblings, half-siblings, cousins etc) are most likely accurate but the percentages of ethnic ancestry can differ wildly and isn't accurate at all.
Fems Ff , I agree, my sister took two tests by two different company's and received very conflicting information. We were raised to think our grandmother was half Native America. turns out that my sister has 3 percent African American from one test and 6 percent from the other test and NO NATIVE AMERICAN on either test. One test says British ancestry and the other says Northern Europe. AND both wanted $2500. to start, if she wanted any more info on her back ground.
I did a DNA last year trying to find out more about my father’s side. He and my mother were divorced when I was 2. I did not see a lot of my father growing up, but did visit him and his wife a couple of times. His mother was full blood Cherokee I was told by my first cousin on his side. But I never could find anything. Both my father’s parents died when he was young. I was told that my father did not want children, and I assumed that was why he never seemed like my dad. The DNA test showed I was 43% Jewish, which was a shock. No Cherokee was in my DNA. I did discover a second cousin who I have been in contact with. She is 59 now, and I am 81. She has tried to help me but has reach a dead end. It is possible her grandfather’s brothers may have been a connection. Now, everyone has passed on and in my family as well. It is a very strange and loss feeling to learn your father is NOT your father, and that you may die, not knowing who your father was. Perhaps he never knew he had a daughter either.
My husband's grandmother never knew her father; they suspect, but can't prove, that he was a soldier from WWI and her mother had a fling or perhaps was engaged or had a soldier boyfriend who never returned. She never knew cuz it was hushed up and now it's too late. But funnily enough, he also suspects he has an older sister (he heard his parents arguing about it when he was a child, tho they deny anything about it) and named our daughter after her, the name he heard during the argument. He thinks his dad got a previous girlfriend pregnant but for whatever reason, they didn't stay together and he married his mum. Unfortunately, his mum never wanted kids, and still treats him badly even now. (And this is just HIS side of the family. Mine is just as screwed up. *sighs*) He won't do a DNA test, tho, and neither will his parents. Tho he kept saying I should do one. 😑
After a few children and having her Boss pay attention to her, she had a brief affair resulting in a child with another man. Quit the job, had the child. And the Mother (And perhaps her Dad) kept their mouths shut and took the secret to the grave. That was there decision back then. Today we may tell the child, times have changed. But I have NO stones to throw.
That has got to be a joke, right!? Yes, it did need to be corrected to "their". But, " Learn to English"?? LMAO! Now I ask that you correct your mistake. I'm going to state something that I ask you please don't take offense to, as I was once this way & guilty of doing the same thing & glad a stranger pointed it out to me. As I will do for you: If you are this serious with such trivial matters, you are likely petty & offended by everything. Or you made the comment in good humor & are a hilarious person & I thank you for the good laugh!:) We all wish this world were better, yet we constantly attack one another :( The downside to the internet today, is that it has robbed us of our humanity & love for our fellow man. So next time you want to criticize someone else, think of what kind of person would do that? Is that the person you strive to be? Is that how you want others to treat you? Or treat your Mother, family? I'm pretty sure your a much greater person than your comment made you appear to be:)! Match your negative with a positive & say or do something kind toward another person today. Then compare how that makes you feel, to how this comment made you feel. Love & Light to you Officer Grammar.lol.
Thank you so much. I came across this early this morning and cried on and off all day. I thought I was alone and how I have been feeling the past 7 months. I found out by accident that my bio father was not my father. I donated my dna for medical reasons because I have a severe autoimmune disease and no one else in my family does many years ago. This past February I was contacted by someone who I was a very close DNA match with but did not know him. I did know his last name which made me nervous thinking oh no there is a family secret. Not thinking I had anything to do with it. The next day I called my mom who was very sick at the time in a different state. It was a awful time in my life. Turns out I was the 50 year old secret and the product of an affair. I have a older sister and younger brother who are my dads.
I had the exact same happen to me. I was the youngest of 6, my son sent his DNA into ancestry and came back with a match to another member. This person as it turned out was my cousin and was from the family of a man whose name I had heard as a child when my parents fought. Needless to say I was defeated. What I found out is worthy of a novel.
I found my half sister on facebook in 2008. She never knew I existed and she grew up feeling like someone was missing from her life. We met each other for the first time in February 2009 in Minnesota.
Funnily enough I talked to one of my friends about taking one of those tests and she said “what if you discover one of your parents is not your parent!?” I just laughed. well well well...😂
I would be glad!! We are messed up in some way. So I would be glad if I wasn't related to this person who would have contributed to me being messed up just on the basis of them having raised me....
In the 1600s in eastern Virginia they had a slogan for it: "Marry early and marry often", a light-hearted way of looking at the horrible truth. Many adults died of disease, accidents, hard labor, war and childbirth. Wives and husbands who did live to elderhood often had had two, three or four spouses in their run, and half-siblings were more common then full everywhere; wives commonly had had twelve or more children before their bodies simply refused more. To think that this is perhaps "shameful" or even unusual are the ones who need to stop and reflect.
I can relate I am a product of family secrets. No real answers to provide. Thanks for sharing. As I watched this show I felt my pain again when I realized the family disconnect.
I have always been of the opinion that family lines are better traced through the mothers line. There is no proof when it is done through the Dad's. This confirms my belief.
I found out at Age (9) that "The Amazing Man, who raised me was "NOT" My Biological Father!" I'm now 51 years old and have "Strongest Bond" with Dad to date! He even told me about "My Biological Father" and what to "expect when meeting him at Age (20) I have never heard from him since & that's after me telling him "I was leaving the Door open to a possible relationship. I just would NEVER be a Daughter to him or him "My Dad!" His loss!
It's beautiful to hear about such caring among families and siblings. I don't wonder who my parents are and I have two sisters, but the loneliness I live with makes me admire those people in this video. There is so much love. Even with the deceptions and Devastation they have each other close.
I took a DNA test. I was raised to believe I was Irish, Jewish, Welsh, maybe French, small percentage of Scandinavian. Turns out I'm Celtic, Scandinavian, ITALIAN, 2%INDIAN and Iberian, 😂😂😂 my siblings got different results. It's quite a mind blow to learn you're not what you were raised to believe. I embrace it.
I took the Ancestry DNA test and had the same discovery. You go through a horrendous grieving process. You grieve the loss of knowing the other person who passed before finding them. I joined this same support group she started. It took time to overcome the devastation but I now fully accept God knew what was best for me the whole time and all of it worked for my good! 🤗
I hope the half sister shared some of the medical information about the family. To me giving the child/children up for adoption or such, the people need to include medical records and/history to prepare them for anything that comes up. Example: If someone has diabetes then the child could inherit diabetes.
I was one month pregnant when I met my now husband.he is my daughters dad since 36 years.we told her that she was from another dad.who died and we needed a daddy for her.as every kid needs a daddy.it was simply said and she was happy
I did a DNA almost 2 yrs ago. Found out I was adopted. I was never told. At 63 yrs old I handled it great. I was raised an only child. Found out I had 9 biological siblings. I was so happy. Since then we have all become very close.
Wow that is such a great story..how blessed you are
This is how you are supposed to react when you find out you are adopted if you have a good childhood. When I was a teenager I wished I was adopted when I didn’t get my way with things. Most teenagers dream. 😝
I was adopted too.Never finding the truth
There are more of us than what is shown. I found out the a similar thing 4 years ago... But wouldn't change my DAD for ANYTHING!!!!
Good for you. Unfortunately, it can be detrimental for others.
My Mother at the age of 75 through dna testing found out that her dad was not who she was always told was her dad. She now has a whole new family and has moved her bioethical aunt in with her who is now 100 years old and was being abused in a nursing home over 2000 miles away. This has all taken place in the last year.
Bless her heart 75 taking care of a 100 yr old .I can’t see how she can do it. I am 60 with health issues & in a wheelchair. She is amazing!
@@blazefairchild465 I am not in a wheelchair but at 65 I was helping take care of my dying 85-year-old mother-in-law. It was hard physically. She barely weighed 115 at the end but was still hard for me to pick her up. I was exhausted.
@@peachygal4153 you did great ! Before I became disabled I took care of my 85 year old mother in law & 95 year old father in law they passed away a year apart. Then we had 2 years ,until husband had a heart attack & I had a stroke. But what is wrong now is my spine inoperable issues. My parents both passed away early to cancer neither reached 50.
@@blazefairchild465 It was my place to do that. My husband did his part and so did his sisters. We all pitched in, but I could do more being retired. My point is it was very hard as at 65 with having my own health issues, but it was my place. What I find it a shame this woman's biological children shirk their responsibility onto a niece that she never knew about to do that at 75 years old. Shame on them.
Oh, and I took care of my father too who had early onset dementia. He passed away at 63 but back then I was in my 20's so it was not nearly as hard. My mom died at 71 after open heart surgery. We only found out about her heart blockage a month before, so we did not help out long. However, with her it was not near as hard, besides only a short time. She could still bathe and dress herself. Take herself to the bathroom. We were doing the easy things for her. cooking her meals, cleaning her house, taking her to doctor appointments. Stressful but not physically hard. Plus, I was 20 years younger when my mom needed our help.
I never knew my real parents. My mom left me screaming in a dumpster and was found by an older couple. She said I was her angel baby. She had five adult boys an always prayed for a little girl. Needless to say I was spoiled rotten. I always had everything a child could dream of. When I got old enough I sought out to find my biological family and I did. My bio mom denied me any rights to see her or contact her ever again. My bio father on the other hand has been in my life since we reconnected. Now I have 2 fathers and let’s just say I’m a daddy’s girl on both sides. I cry all the time wishing I had my mother but God knew best and supplied me with the best mother a girl could have. Now with 2 families I have 11 brothers and 3 sisters. Dream come true.
The reason why your birth mother won't meet you is because she's a coward. She's too ashamed to face you because what she did was absolutely vile and horrible. However in the end, she actually done you a huge favour because you were loved and cared for the way a little girl should be. A women who dumps her child like that, when there are ways and means of safe adoption, does not deserve to be reunited with her child. I'm sorry you experienced this. Thank God you've had a safe, happy life.
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Tray Thorpe you’re lucky somebody actually wanted you 💞
I'm glad you were raised in a loving home. I pray God's continued blessings on you. I was adopted as a baby and have found my biological family. It's a great experience to meet sometime who looks like you and get to know each other. God works to things out the way they're supposed to even if we don't understand them sometimes.
My husband just found out after 47 years that his mom cheated on his dad , they never did a dna test to find out who the father is. My husband says it doesnt matter if his dad is biological or not, its the only father hes ever known and loves him
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Agreed!
Why is nobody showing anger and hatred towards the woman that broke her husband's trust and committed paternity fraud.
Your father was denied a relationship with his biological.
I am one of 12 adopted sisters and 5 adopted brothers. Never known my biological parents. My adopted parents have passed away. Life is good. Thank god for these people who took care of us all.
Uzzie's world, one question, when your family comes up in conversation say, you are talking to someone you have recently met and your talking number of siblings do yo say I am 1 of 16 sisters and brothers or I am 1 of 16 adopted sisters and brothers? I ask out of curiosity, because to me you would be a family with no need to qualify it. Your parents did a great thing. It happened in my family as well, though not to such a great extent and back over 100 years ago when people actually did not go through the paperwork.
I have an adopted twin. She’s 53 days older than me but apart from looks we are twins in every way. We finish each other’s sentences. We know when we need each other. We talk every single evening and have for the last thirty years. We live thousands of miles apart. We’re hoping to see each other soon. We both have similar health conditions and we want to see each other face to face again soon. We had a plan but a pandemic got in the way. We are connected at the heart and that’s worth more than DNA any day!
You still should search for your biological parents/ family
@@shellyscholz1256 what a blessing!
I am 64 years old and found a half sister 27 years ago after my mother told me I have a different father than my siblings. We buried my sister last week. What a wonderful 27 years we shared together. There are many of us out there.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Bless u
So sorry for your loss. I am 67 & not speaking with 2 of my 3 whole sisters. Not by choice. One is bipolar & the other is alcoholic. Our father molested them & they have never dealt with it thru counseling or forgiven him-- dead for 26 years. Having 27 years in a healthy sibling relationship is a great, great gift that I've never had with my dysfunctional family. I now choose to protect myself from their criticisms, verbal abuse & disrespect. You are very blessed to have found your sister.
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babe I am sorry for your lose your sister
This happened to me but my family rejected the results as "deliberate fakes".I did not have a warm, loving up bringing and now I understand why not. This video was such a relief to me! Thank you!
That is shocking, I hope you are OK now.
@@AnnabelleJARankin At 65 now, I'm working on recovering. So much that was hidden. So many secrets that I paid for as an innocent child. My father was certain I was not his. Told me as much. Hated me as long as I knew him. DNA showed... I was actually his. My first relatives on my DNA results were cousins on his side. Ironic but healing.
I learned at 43 I was not my fathers and in the beginning I too was rejected. Just know that their rejection makes you no less you are still a deserving individual. Much love and hugs to you.
Same with me only now I'm the black sheep for sharing the information while my mom is still alive. Ain't that a hoot?
the surprise cousin whose mother kept denying she was her father's that something was wrong with the test, I suggested she get her sister to test and she came back as half. I gave her the name of a first cousin who had lived in the town where she was born 20 plus years ago, had gone to high school there and did not move away until his 40's. I had 15 male cousins, (could already rule out my brother as we shared around 500 centimorgans and an aunt shares more and I was able to rule out 5 other cousins because their sister tested, and she shared about the same amount as me. One other cousin I could rule out as his nephew had tested and he shared 300 centimorgans with her which is second cousins. First cousins share more) Of course I was just going by he had lived in her town for half his life, but I told her to take his name to her mother. Mom broke down and admitted it when she heard his name.
A real parent is the one that raises you with love. Amen 🙏🏻
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True but when you always believed they were your bio parent and find out differently it is still devastating. It is not the same as if you always knew you were adopted or that your mother remarried, and you had a good stepdad. I have friends that were a blended family (kids all grown) and her daughters love their stepdad and yes they have always known he is not their bio father since they were in elementary school when they married. They don't think much of their bio father although they have a good relationship with his sister, their aunt, mainly because she wanted it, whereas he did not.
And doesn’t lie and deceive their child. Lying and deceiving your child keeping them from know their medical background etc is awful. As a parent I could never hurt my children like this.
Everyone deserves to know who they are. Non adopted people do why can't everyone. This was because of truth that didn't get told earlier. Sad she lost all that time to know all her relatives.
You got that right
It takes more than DNA to be a good parent.
DNA helps though because biology does matter. I dont understand why society is pushing biology aside like it means nothing
Tom G. DNA isn’t a factor in being a good parent
@@Skatejock21 she is much older. It doesn't seem to have been an issue prior to the test.
It takes a lot of money to bring up a kid nowadays.
Wake up call
I just found my Biological Daughter after 50 years of complete ignorance of her existence, I am 72, and because of a lie, never knew I had a Daughter. My very first Child. She is an Angel. She lives at the other end of the country, so we are trying to raise money now, so we get to meet for the first time ever. Her name is Charlene. I love her with all my Heart.
I hope you see her soon.
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How did you NOT know you have a daughter ❤ What happened?
@@SB-ss5ihso you gave birth and don’t remember giving birth? I’m so confused by this story
Maybe was told the baby died, but in reality the baby didn't and was secretly adopted.
DNA doesn’t make a parent, it’s the person who loved and nurtured you during your formative years.
What a sucker !!! He was raising another man's child and never even knew it !!!
teamcougars. You are so right!
What if you were denied being able to see your kids because he's military and they told me unless he contacted me, they couldn't help me.
My granddaughter had a previous baby girl...I love that little girl so much but there was a reason why my granddaughter had to give my country BUMPKIN up.for adoption....it wasn't my granddaughter who did not love my country BUMPKIN it was the situation at the time ...but I thank the good lord above I get to talk with my great granddaughter and see her through these PEOPLE who have her....my BUMPKIN knows her nana loves her very much .
@@ArtCurator2020 he's not a "sucker", he was a victim.
And comported himself with love, class, & grace.
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I found my Dad’s side of the family (he died when I was little) through Ancestry. When my sister and I met them in person, I broke down and cried because they had my unique hazel eyes. Same shape and everything. My sister doesn’t even have them. As soon as I saw them I feel the immediate connection. It was amazing looking into someone’s eyes that are the same as yours are when you have unique eyes.
Hello Jenni, how are you doing?
I just found my sister whom I never knew. And the siblings love was there from the first mo.ent. weirdest feeling, to feel unconditional love for a person who you didn't even know existed. But the wave of love was instantaneous. Can't be explained
One of my cousins and I have the same shaped hazel eyes. Our grandfather died when my dad was 14 and her mom was 8 from lung cancer at 40. From old photographs I realized we inherited his eyes. My dad's and her mom's were different from his, (her mom had brown eyes and my dad though he had hazel eyes, his eyes were bigger and rounder) but we got them. Now we know why we have similar eyes. No one told us we had his eyes. Not our grandmother and not our parents. Old photographs a 2nd cousin of our parents that they had of our grandfather that had belonged to their father, his brother told us.
She was lucky that she was raised with love by the father she knew when she was a child, not everyone gets the opportunity to be love by someone unconditionally even if you're not related to each other.
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What if the husband didn't know..who knows what could be the truth. ..it could of been a brief affair or something more dark...
But she was also lied to. Why didn't they tell her?
A.new love official---I really and truly agree with you---this lady is so incredibly lucky to have had such a wonderful Father who loved and cared for her. She might not of had his DNA but his love for her was worth far more.
Any man can be a Father and It takes a Real man to be a Daddy
To me, the man that raised you was your father. He cared for you, nurtured you and loved you.
I agree with you completely but at the same time one thing that kind of disturbs me is I wonder if he himself ever knew that she wasn't his biological daughter because I highly doubt he did know by the way she's telling the story it almost sounds like it was a secret her mother took to the Grave.
rita too many women using that as a bs excuse for bad behavior. You can ruin a child and mans life with info like this .thank god in this case the man was decease and didnt have to learn this.paternity fraud is not something that is acceptable under any circumstances
He is her dad 100%.
A father is a scientific term for parentage, which is separate.
lisakp71 She said it herself in the video that the man that raised her was a DNA match 0% but he is her father in the fact that he raised her. Plus he died never knowing that his own wife had an affair on him they also said that in the video too.
A Dad and a Father are two very different things x
What a nice lady. I can’t imagine the pain she must have felt. I’m glad she has found her half sisters and has a support group.
Thank you for your kind words, Lisa!
@@catherinestclair3899 Our daughter is adopted. She found her birthfather's children, her half-siblings, a few years ago. It has been a great blessing for all of them and for us also. We have met her sister and her son and grandchildren and they consider us family also. Our daughter always knew she was adopted. I have other members of my family who have located birth-families and another cousin who discovered in her 70s that her father was not her birth-father.
@@catherinestclair3899 such a gentle warm and sweet soul. You and your sisters look like triplets. So glad you guys have an amazing relationship.
This is very sad. I can't imagine the pain that this would cause. I really hope this lady and other people that are going through this get the help and support that they need. I think setting up the support group was brilliant. Good luck to you all.
Any man can be a father ..... but it takes a REAL man to be a DAD.
you say it a lor better than me...any dickhead can be a sperm donar but it takes a real man to be a father xx
Why don’t we ask the man who were cheated on if they feel the same way as you put it.
The real issue is that both man and woman should stop sleeping around if they are married. End off.
Yes, MrSupermanbe. I say amen to your comment. It was out of my control that my real father was not my dad, but I could not have had a better dad.
Isnt dad just synonym for father?
No not really, my dad raised me from being an infant. My father visited my mom for a short time on night nine months before I was born. Then he left. I say lucky me. I would have been even luckier if she would have given me to my dad after I was born and then left with that father guy.
I have a 1/2 brother and I can tell you HE'S 1/2 NOTHING...
HE'S MY BROTHER PERIOD!!!
I to have a half brother and he is the youngest of us. We were raised by a very strong mother that sat us down and told us he is your brother. I never questioned that. He is 7 yrs younger than me and we are one family 💓
Joanne LeCours 0
I too half a half sibling who is my full sister
1/2 is just a scientific number that explains two people sharing DNA from one common parent and not two common parents. It is not being disrespectful. I have a best friend who I always call sister.
Yes I know exactly how she feel. The same thing happened to me. I did a DNA test for my Sister to prove her wrong. We both were in for a surprise. Neither one was our Daddy's. It was a empty feeling.
All my brothers and sisters are all half siblings, i have never thought of them as half siblings. They are full to me. 😍
Real talk
omg I feel the same! I literally have 6 "half" siblings, most of us have different dads but the same mom. But we don't ever call each other "half" siblings because we're very close
Natalie Nino so multiple dads cheated on your mom?
@@isuzuke Or Mom cheated on multiple Dads.
When I was a little girl I knew that my sister and I had different dads. But I remember being told that it's called having a 'half' sister. I cried because I thought it meant I could only love her 'half' as much
While my wife was still alive, we both took a DNA test. For her, we learned that her father wasn't her biological father. That was interesting. For me, the multi- racial mongrul, I discovered that I was also 18% Greek (and have the typical Greek toes..second toe being the longest), and also 6% British. I also have Asian and African ancestry and tan very dark in the summer time. I feel adrift from any racial connections and only consider myself to be....Human?
Np Portuguese ancestry ( Iberian DNA)?
Rodrigues is a well known Portuguese name .
You seemingly think less of yourself. You are a human being with a diverse cultural background. That is very interesting. I always think of such diversity resulting in the most attractive people and quite interesting. Try to think more positive about your ancestry. You are probably quite handsome.
@@cmarq817 Of course it is ... could even be of Spanish descent back to the XVIth century, when Portugal was absorbed by Spain !!!!
@@amiquigonzales7917 actually Portugal was never absorbed by Portugal. Portugal was always an independent nation since its creation in 1143.
If you mean that we shared the same King as Spain for 50 years… that’s true.
The moment it changed, the war started
@@cmarq817 I know, tge succession crise of 1580, but that meant being RULED by Spain !!
I had a similar experience. My mom died and I didn't know her family. I was hoping by using ancestry I could do her family tree and meet some relatives. I met my cousin that I didn't know of. but for her, her father rejected her and denied being her father, so she grew up excluded from the family. But he was my blood relative, and the DNA test proved we were cousins. So we found each other and she's now a best friend. My life changed for the better, and for her she finally got closure.
Hi baby Am Ben easygoing person I like good and do good I like friends that have understanding and fun to be with I love arts, museum and music l lunch luxury every Eve I compose poem and scripts am a civil engineer and a contractor I work for company and I work in Asia,africa,and Europe I need a woman who understands What love is all about, to be my own I saw your picture and I am impressed you're beautiful and baby you shines like a diamond springs In Sky nicely like flowers in the garden of Eden's I close my eyes all I is you at first sight I felt the energy of Sun rays angel'wings written love on it I love you so much baby I want a wonderful woman will love me and know who I am and be mine forever i hope You will reply soonest thanks.
Same thing happened to my mother. I bought a dna test for mothers day 2018. The test came back matching her to a different father. She not only matched with him but all of his family members. I recently got back from meeting my new grandfather.
I have two children. One grew in my heart, one grew in my belly. My love for each of them is like the same house, built on different foundations.
Family and blood sometimes happen in the same place - but they are not the same thing.
Tgis was so beautifully written and explained.
Ceri Black Beautifully said 💗
I have two brothers, one is adopted, I love them the same. Recently, my brother met his bio family. He asked me and our parents to go with him. I now proudly call his bio sisters my little sisters 💗
The capacity to love is never ending ❤️
Either way their both ur child!🤔
it matters what the heart says ... what's in your heart . just because once a step or half just because of sharing one parent and not the other .. you choose to love them even if you didn't have to... love grows leaps and bounds and never goes away
Ceri Black135
I’ve seen this first hand in my family. A woman matched with my great uncle and it was that he was her father. She found out two weeks before my great uncle died in a plane crash. TWA-800 to be exact. She approached my great aunt hoping to meet her father, but found out that he had recently died. My family keeps touch with her often.
What a horrendous crash that was
When you take those tests, make sure you’re prepared for anything you uncover. Many people are finding out information that not only affects them, but others as well.
You're right but I suspect that's even difficult bc most people probably think it won't be them. I wouldn't.
Mama may not have been an unfaithful wife. She could have been sexually harassed at work, by her boss. In 1960, women had no employment rights. She said her mother worked briefly for this man. Who knows why it was brief. Could be that with 4 kids at home, she needed to work. He took advantage of this fact and thus pressured her, had his way, then when she found out she was pregnant, she resigned and kept her mouth shut. And raised her little girl just like her other kids.
Oh please, there could be a million and one scenarios. Fact remains a person should know who their parents are, period, irrespective of the choice or situation they found themselves in.
@@oliviamae3281 your PARENTS are the people who raise you. Period.
Emilia Rose, Catherine never insinuated that her mother had been an unfaithful wife. As she stated to Megyn, she doesn't know the story of what led to her conception.
Thats the first thought I Have Had in My Mind!
Agree 100%with u!
Snow White I agree, but it's in her and her descendants' best interests to know their genetics, such as family cancers, etc.
This is fantastic that from their pain they started a group that others can share and relate to them about their feelings.
It makes me warm to know how you’re reaching out to others and connecting.
I was in that group, but left. It might be helpful for some, but I think because I grew up with a great Dad (yeh he had his faults) that I just don't understand why everyone is so upset about it. It wasn't their mistake, it was their mothers. I know some mother's were mad to know their secret came out. But if you love your mother then cherish that love because she won't always be there.
Nowadays it’s a “blessing” to know who your real parents are, and to be raised by them.
It's so sad really.
Your real parents are the ones who raise you. The others if not the same are your birth parents.
Hi baby Am Ben easygoing person I like good and do good I like friends that have understanding and fun to be with I love arts, museum and music l lunch luxury every Eve I compose poem and scripts am a civil engineer and a contractor I work for company and I work in Asia,africa,and Europe I need a woman who understands What love is all about, to be my own I saw your picture and I am impressed you're beautiful and baby you shines like a diamond springs In Sky nicely like flowers in the garden of Eden's I close my eyes all I is you at first sight I felt the energy of Sun rays angel'wings written love on it I love you so much baby I want a wonderful woman will love me and know who I am and be mine forever i hope You will reply soonest thanks.
I guess ist Always a blessing to know your real parents and also be raised by Loving people.
When you are doing research on your family tree, be prepared and openminded to find the unexpected.
I never had to doubt who my dad was because 90% of my face looks just like his! I posted on Facebook a picture of me and of my parents when they married at age 23. One of the comments was, "Well, that puts those milkman rumors to rest!" LOL! I am definitely his daughter. I'm the only one of my siblings (I have 3 brothers) to take a DNA test. So far it's been quite helpful in connecting with others and finding and sharing information on our family trees.
Yes always keep an opened mind.When you find people,it's never what you expect.....
I wish I could do a test and my parents are proven not to be my real parents. A person can only dream
Ancestry .com has a very tactfully worded "warning" that DNA testing may reveal some surprises. I imagine some of the other companies have similar warnings. I've been contacted by multiple surprise-cousins since I tested in 2013 with both Ancestry and 23andMe. The ones that learned the truth by DNA testing had very tough adjustment periods.
Snow3271 I spent my whole life believing I was a significant portion Italian. I look it, I’m very warm, can’t talk without my hands being involved, am passionate about nearly everything and had a paternal grandmother whose maiden name was Ginnoccio! I had my DNA done and found not one drop of Italian! Not even .1%. No one around to talk about it with.
I wonder if she's mad at her mother for never revealing that secret. My oldest sister was extremely angry at my mom. The reality is my mom explained that my sister's father left my mother while she was a baby and never returned. Mom have no idea where or what happened to him. But I never refer to my sister as half sister. She's my sister period!!!!!!!
Right on MsDee
I often feel sad for half-siblings from first failed marriages because they have to live that baggage of being the result of that. And sometimes they're treated badly which makes it even worse.
It's nice that you have a home where she's given the love she deserves.
Her mom probably didn't know for sure.
The mother may have not known dont be so harsh
thats how my sister an I are. thats my sister period.
No one knows the real story. No one knows that either man didn’t know. No one knows that the mother knew for sure that her husband wasn’t the father. No one knows that the the mother wasn’t victimized. I am disappointed in all the presumptions and judgements being placed here.
But everyone knows for sure that the mother knew that her husband MAY NOT be the father.
Exactly what i was thinking. Her bio dad being her moms boss it would have been very easy for him to take advantage of her... but regardless, she will probably never know.
babe every word you say I do agree with you xx
You sound like Littlefinger.
That was my exact thought...
My bestfriend just found out her dad isn't her biological father through an ancestry test. Her mother refuses to discuss it. She's a wreck. I feel so bad for her. She found her bio dad through the website but she's apprehensive about reaching out.
Hi baby Am Ben easygoing person I like good and do good I like friends that have understanding and fun to be with I love arts, museum and music l lunch luxury every Eve I compose poem and scripts am a civil engineer and a contractor I work for company and I work in Asia,africa,and Europe I need a woman who understands What love is all about, to be my own I saw your picture and I am impressed you're beautiful and baby you shines like a diamond springs In Sky nicely like flowers in the garden of Eden's I close my eyes all I is you at first sight I felt the energy of Sun rays angel'wings written love on it I love you so much baby I want a wonderful woman will love me and know who I am and be mine forever i hope You will reply soonest thanks.
Leave it alone trust me 🤗
I just found out my dad was not my biological dad. My stepfather was my biological Dad. They are both deceased. The only good thing about my situation is I lived with both of my dads. My mom was married to both of them.
I understand that affairs, cheating, it's nothing new but the level of deception.... my gosh these women keep such secrets.
Always blows my mind how much disrespect women have towards men by having other men's babies... often ahead of marriage. Girls Just Want to Have Fun.
She should reach out to her father privately.She has the right to know answers.She needs to do this secretly,just like her mom kept secrets
My grandmother is also the family genealogist and after getting the DNA test she found a niece that no one in the family, especially her brother (the biological father of the niece) knew existed. She had been hoping to find her father or possible family members from the site, and she did.
In my family, we have someone who was put up for adoption, but we have no idea who put them up. This woman is upset because her adoptive mother passed away and she has no siblings.
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My great uncle researched our family tree back to the 17th century and I'm now following in his footsteps to find out about my mother's side! It's all very fascinating. My mother and I didn't even know her grandfather's first name when I started. Did a DNA test and had a small percentage of eskimo/inuit and I'm convinced it's from her side so she's doing the test next. Can't wait to see what I end up finding out.
Wow!
@@ivylasangrienta6093 ......
I had ordered a DNA test from my heritage but never did it so a couple months ago my d n l was talking about wanting to do hers because no one in their knows ANY OF THEIR FAMILY'S history so I gave it her. I do not know if she has taken it yet.
My son did one about 4 years ago with 23andMe, my cousin on mother's side did one withe ancestry, just a few months before my son did his. I had been doing family genealogy for a while then covid hit and the public library was closed down for in person use so I could no longer go to the library and don't have home wifi, can't afford it, but what I did was quite a bit. Plus knowing some thing about your family's history helps. My mothers side is the most interesting side. One of my cousins, who is now deceased , on my mom's side traced that side all the way to Julia, the sister of Julius Caesar . There's a lot English Irish and Scottish. There used to be a website called
myfamouskin.com but I do not know if it's still available that is pretty interesting to see who the famous kin you have. I had my tree on my Heritage for a while and actually got an email from Walt Disney's family tree site manager. Which I had already discovered through this myfamouskin that he was a ancestor/ descendant of someone in my mom's family tree. Other famous kins I found were
Sally Ride, the 1st female astronaut
Kit Harrington from G.O.Thrones
Paget Brewster from Criminal Minds
Just a few of the famous kin I discovered. You should check it out if it's still available
www.myfamouskin.com
You will be amazed
There is a very old saying, where I come from:
"A parent is the one who raises you, not the one who gives you birth".
'Nuff said!
Yes n no that's because in foreign countries grandmother raises the daughter kids while she works but even then they know who their mum is
I dunno, giving birth to someone is a pretty big deal. A big sacrifice of your body and possibly life. I don't think it's equal to raising someone, but it's definitely significant. I'd say the biological father's role is less significant if they don't raise their kid.
Sometimes children are taken by the dad because of money, health reasons...sometimes they are cruel and cause more pain ...some parents are narcissists....you never know ...just be thankful your alive and was raised by somebody who gave there time so you could be here....life isnt always fair
🇳🇿🇳🇿 Here in NZ post WW11 and ,after the many American soldiers returned home, the saying went “it’s a smart child who knows who his dad is” . This was always stated in humour and never used in an offensive manner.🤭🤫🤗. 🤷♀️ whatever
There's a saying where I come from - get your baby DNA tested because a lot of women sleep around.
The most important part about this is that the father who she knew growing up took care of her and loved her as his own. Much respect for her father who raised her.
Unfortunately he probably never knew of her his wife's affair.
Exact same thing has happened to my mother. Huge shock, as her mother died when she was young and her 'father' had raised her. Devastated.
This identical story happened to me....I've been shocked ever since. All the abuses as a child by my mother are raw. Now I know why she hated me so. Devastating
I'm sorry Lori! It seems like we share similar stories. I learned five months ago when I received my DNA test results that the man who raised me was not my father.
Your mother hated you for being another man's child? That was not your fault and is insane
Had a good friend ( decesed) who had same experience.....xo
I know what it’s like to be hated by your mother, although my mother is my biological mother she bitterly resented having me and made sure I knew about it. I’m so sorry you have been treated this way, the damage it does is immense. After 40+ years I finally found the strength to break ties with my Mother, best thing I could have done. I hope you eventually find some peace x x
Victoria B. Wow I know exactly how you're feeling. Stay in touch.
I agree. The Real Father was the one who raised you as a precious daughter. Celebrate that you were loved by a real dad.
It's not about that...it's about the dishonesty and never meeting your real father/family...it's a feeling of betrayal...what if she gets sick a needs to find a family member for blood, etc??
@@deniseperrault9197 Blood is not a problem. Bone marrow might be.
🙏❤️🙏
Probably her real dad never knew
This poor lady was happy and content before she had that test done. Now the life she knew no longer exists. In her own words "it was a trauma". Think twice before you go digging around.
She might think about it like that now but in the end she gained more than she lost. She will always love the man she knew as her father and now she has two new sisters.
It is most frustrating when all parents involved are dead and there is no-one to confront.
Midwest Girl rather have the truth
Rather live a truthful life with discomfort than a life filled with lies.
She has met her siblings...how can that be bad..?I wonder if her original siblings new...when they gave her the birthday DNA test..
I found out the same when I was 30 years old. My mom got very angry with my dad and turned to me and yelled, he is not your father. I had NO idea.It changed my life. My opinion parents should tell children who they really are. Don't wait. It's weird.
They literally took the secret to their graves.
maybe the dad didn't know?
@@quinnbat I bet the mother never revealed she had an affair or one night stand. The father was clueless til the end.
So wrong.. the entire paternal family was robbed
A day into a cross country roads trip with my sister I received an email through AncestryDNA from a woman saying we were related. Her dad had been adopted and had passed away. Her mother’s father was also adopted. She didn’t have much family history available to her. I had recently helped a cousin find his bio mom so I said I’d dig once I got into next town. After much email exchange we found out we were sisters. I had always known that I had a different bio dad from my siblings but now I was finding out he wasn’t my dad. I have met my sister and it’s an amazing love I have for her. She’s my baby sister. We are 1 year and 2 days apart. And I’m so lucky to have found her.
I can certainly see how this could be emotionally devastating. Something similar to this happened to me. I've thought about going to a DNA registry but I'm afraid to. I've had enough trauma in my life for the time being. Parents (In my opinion) owe it to their children to tell them the truth. Having said that, I think that this lady's father was just trying to make the best of a bad situation by taking care of a daughter that he knew was not biologically his. For that I salute him. He has my respect.
Ma007, he didn't know she wasn't his until his daughter did Ancestry. Now that he does know, it makes no difference to him. This has added to love to all of their lives, not taken any away.
@@kctaz6189 I thought she said both parents are deceased so she won’t know what or why. I believe her biological father is deceased also.
@@kctaz6189 All parents are deceased.
Her father may not have known. Maybe her mom had an affair with her boss when the marriage was on the rocks and she wouldn't have been the 1st woman to pass on a baby that wasn't her husband's as her husband's. I just don't get why she would be in any way affected...so what. Your dad is the guy who took care of you, not necessarily who boinked your mom one time. As my dad used to say...it takes 2 people 5 minutes in a car to make a baby...your parents are the ones that love and take care of you. She's lucky she had such a good family.
@@bettywith2girls Catherine has pointed out that the change in the parent[s] creates important changes in his/her medical history. It also changes the medical history of his/her children.
I think we often put our parents up on a pedestal and see them as dad and mom. We forget they are human beings that make mistakes too. I think even though this woman will never have answers to the circumstances that led to her conception, she still had loving parents and now she's gained two more siblings she never knew she had. She's also found another sort of family in the support group.
Our family found out we have a sister (an affair most likely from Dad) through the DNA testing and ancestry. Shocking to say the least. It created a lot of bad feelings.
The siblings bought her the dna test for her birthday? Maybe they knew and wanted her to figure it out that way.
that'd be cruel.
Yes, that could be true.
She was the one who was into genealogy. It fits right into her interests, and it is a cool gift that is significant enough to be special.
Maybe they were just being NICE to their sister. 🙄.
I don't know why this comment is funny to me. LMAO but it could be very true
That was my first thought too.
My family has more than a few skeletons in many closets...I don't need to know anymore than I already know!
Girl, you and me both!!
chicken ...lol
It's your choice to react that way. Some want the truth and some prefer to bury it. You may have enough on your shoulders already. Wathever makes your life better as long as the denial isn't going to a unhealthy place. But whatever you don't solve in your lifetime won't fade away, you are giving it to your children and they will have to solve it themselves and might be harder for them decades later.
Gina Heller habit
But, if you're not "covering it up", then that's on YOU... Don't play dumb, men "go in" bareback and act all surprise when there is a pregnancy... so stfu...
I am in this group it has helped me a lot . They understand my feelings. They validate my feelings unlike others -family members etc, they have told me to stop acting like a victim. I am grateful I found her group
Wow, that's so hard. When my mother died we discovered that we had a sister we never knew about. Hmm. Never, in a million years, did we ever believe that was possible with my mother. You never really know someone.
Ben Calibri
So true !!!!
I know a person, now deceased who was raised by loving parents. Unbeknownst to her when she was about 45 she found out her biological father was not her dad. She was an only child & lovingly raised by 2 parents who loved her & she was grateful & happy when she passed.
I found my second cousins after a test. Lovely, lovely people. I learned about my grandparents and great grandparents. I mostly feel sad that I didn’t actually know them.
Hello Sarah, how are you doing?
How lucky you are to have had a dad who loved you and cared for you.
I submitted my dog's DNA instead of mine.. I'm waiting for the results
That’s awesome 😎, if you really wasted the 100 bucks , pls update me on the results, Bhahaha
Timba Tee the result is in....inbred!
Looking at the picture of your dog I feel sure I'm related.
Timba Tee Hahahahahaha I want to know the results
Would love an update on this 😂😂😂
Wow! Praise God she had the strength to respond the way she did! Thank God that there is a place now where so many people can get the validation that they so dearly need!
U are indeed a lucky young women. I adopted my 3 children I have 2 daughters & a son & they all were told they were adopted from a very young age & I also, told them that if they ever wanted to find their biological Moms that I would help them. Basically, I did that because, I wanted to be able to say Thank U to for giving me the opportunity to be a Mom. My daughters have chosen not to look for their biological Moms. My son on the other hand always was bothered that he had been adopted both he & his biological Mom I have met the & I am friends with his biological Mom. She is a lovely person & I have been able to thank her many times over. She also, has Thanked me many time for raising such a wonderful young man & he is a responsible, loving & caring husband & father to 4 daughters.
Well done 🤗🤗
Enjoy the new family.
Sometimes these DNA tests can be like opening a Pandora's box. I know because my grandmother passed 2 of her children off as my grandfathers children, and they were not his. In fact they both were fathered by 2 different men. What a can of worms...
If more ppl continue to do this testing there's going to be a lot of broken hearts. Ppl act like the young ladies today are more wild than the older ones. Only difference is we have social media now
It wouldn't be a can of worms if people didn't lie.
@@FaithandNova So True!
Yep a Pandora 📦 of the truth. Case closed, just move on and live your best life.
@@FaithandNova , ,
Wow, it's shattering that 3000 people have the same hurt as this sweet lady. Bless her xxx
Thank you for your kind words. We now have over 8500 NPEs and we support over 11,000, including family impacted by an NPE. And we are adding people daily.
I think some people do the DNA tests to find out nationality, but unconsciously something has felt "off" and that is what is really driving the decision to do one. I bought one to see if my dad was really my biological father, and by the time it arrived I decided I was really mad at my mom and just looking to find things wrong. I never took it.
Well, if there was never any hint of an extra-marital affair throughout her whole life - she says she had a normal, functional childhood - maybe her mom didn’t even know who this woman’s real dad was. Maybe he assaulted her & she was too afraid to say anything. This lady has taken something sad & turned it into something beautiful - comforting people in the same kind of situation.
D Liu:👌👍
Maybe he assaulted her?? Where did this stretch come from? This is far more common than people realize. People have affairs all the time and have children as a result. There're lots of kids out there who believe the man who raised them is their dad and never ever know their biological father.
its a real insult to the womans husband to try to play this as assualt .its sad by we always try to find someway to justify bad behaviour by women .really really sad and shows how low and deprived society has become
Heather B. I think you missed the keyword "Maybe". There is no way to know. Affairs are very common but sadly assault is quite common too. The commenter was merely speculating.
D Liu exactly we cannot know what she went through
She was lied to her whole life that’s not easy
The father might have been lied to also. The person holding the secret was the mother.
She was loved and adored by her family, what's the big deal.
People overblow these things
Saying she was lied to all her life, as if she was treated badly as a result of her conception.
Supposing Mama did not know?
She was married, its easy to not know who between dad and boss conceived her.
Emilia Rose The big deal is that she doesn't even know who her father is. If you don't find that a big deal, then you're just an imbecile.
@@bnwo EXACTLY!!! I can imagine it turns their whole world upside down, and makes them question who they are!! To love genealogy so much, and find out 20 years later that all the people she had found on her dad's side were not biologically related to her.... devastating!
The mother may not have known who the father was either. Back then paternity tests were far and few between. The mother may have been sexually harassed, she may have had an unfortunate encounter with another man while also still having relations with her husband. She may not have known.
Why do some parents see the need to lie or be less than honest? A child has a right to know, speaking as a parent of 4.
How can a child be a parent of four?
I feel like they missed an entire perspective here... How did her other siblings relate to the news of their Mother’s affair news. How are they coping with this?
Catherine’s “Dad” the man who raised her, probably fell in love with her mother by chance and married her to cover the fact that she was an unwed mother before meeting him.
John Nader she stated that it was her OLDER brother.
@@donnasmith4689 Things happen in life....
@@donnasmith4689 nobody pays attention, and make up stories in their heads. Yes CLEARLY there were older siblings smh
John Nader I'm friends with Catherine and she states she was the youngest of 5 children and her 4 older siblings are all her "Dad"'s biological children.
This is so amazing that she found her two half sister's.They do resemble each other.
no apostrophy on sisters
No y in apostrophe
@@femsff7090 thank you, much appreciated!;)
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Hello Judy,how are you doing?
if she didn't have the passion for genealogy, she would have never found this out. Amazing
I have been watching these megyn kelly videos all day and i really appreciate her ability to bring humour to sensitive topics without taking away from the gravity of each individuals personal experience. This is a host worth keeping x
I did the DNA test and my mom did. My dad wanted to and 3 times they couldn’t read his DNA and gave him his money back. How can you not read DNA! We joke now that he isn’t from this planet. 😂😂😂
I was thinking chimera too!!! If I were him I would get it checked out. Whatever is going on with his DNA might affect him in the future.
shanna dad done did something strange to hide his precious material.
There are aliens living amongst us disguised as humans.
Shanna Lourine 🤣
That's kind of fascinating.
Wow, I just found 1/2 sister through DNA on mother's side. Also one on father's side who isn't very receptive and resentful. Unfortunately, we are not responsible for our parent's behaviors and choices. There are more, but we are digesting it slowly, we both have very different lives and some traits that are the same.
Sorry to hear that just keep focusing on your healing. Some ppl can't let go of the hurt.
Good luck with your discoveries. I hope you are able to form some kind of relationship with your new-found sister.
I don't understand adults who are resentful about extra siblings. It's immature.
@@annclark203
Have you had your family decimated because of an affair that one of your parents had? No, well, neither have I. However even I can imagine that a child being the result of an affair or a parent walking out on their first family to have another, totally forgetting about you, the child from the original family, while being there for his other children is going to affect your life. Many times, negatively and then one day, your half sibling calls you, because they found out about you through some DNA test. Your sibling, who had your parent, while you grew up wondering why your parent turned their back on you, especially if them leaving forced you to starve for awhile, while your other parent tries to make ends meet. You are not going to be happy.
@@chocolategelato3823
The truth shall set you free. For instance, those children who are adopted and are told at a very young age are probably in a much better position than those who are lied to all their lives.
If the parents are too cowardly to tell when they are young, tell the minute they become an adult. Everyone deserves the truth about their origins and genes. It's their birth right. Nobody should steal it from them. I believe it is against natural law.
My wife and I adopted two sets of two brothers in the early 1990's. All under 14 months. Would not trade the years for anything
Adoption is a blessing. My husband has found his bio-family. His bio-parents are deceased as are his parents. He has a lovely bio-family and he and I both decided he was a real winner in life. He got great parents, way better than his bio-parents sound and, now, has a great bio-family.
My daughter who has never seen her dad. She took that test . Later they sent her some people who could be her relatives . One did emailed her . She ignored that . I will never understood why , for the longest she would blamed me for not keeping up with him. I can't win for losing .
One sometimes never knows what drives people to do what people do! It is so incredibly unfair to judge the mother because we know nothing. What we do know is that the child was loved regardless of what transpired. It is important to know that this woman's life has been enriched by the other people that are in her life as a result of the truth revealed to her by science. It is how we are embraced by the world that supports our self worth! Everyone in this story matters!
Hello Cheryl how are you doing. I believe you are healthy and also having a nice weather where you are. I live in Virginia USA and I'm looking for a new friend Ok!
Please. The mom committed adultery! Selfish!
Hello Cheryl,how are you doing?
What do you mean that her biological mother cannot be judged. Her birth mother could have dropped her off in front of a fire station, or a catholic church, but no she opted for a dumpster. She is despicable. THE CHILD WAS LEFT SCREAMING IN A DUMPSTER, YET YOU OPT TO DEFEND THE PIECE OF TRASH THAT PUT HER INTO THAT DUMPSTER.
Hello Cheryl, how're you doing today??
Life isn't a perfect formula. Sometimes decisions are made by us or others, and there are consequences. It is what it is-Life.
Try to contact any old employees of that store to see if she had talked to or if others knew about relationship. Might get some answers
One of the most intelligent comments on here.
Good advice. And, I already did. And, I got some answers. Still not everything, but enough. Thanks.
Thank you Catherine. For sharing your story. It's amazing.
We found many cousins mostly in New Zealand and Italy. One of my aunts knew her husband had a daughter through an affair. She actually went to the school my aunt taught at. So, now my cousin knows why her teacher always treated her so special. She cried when we told her we found her biological father but, now we are friends on facebook and all is well.
Hello Jeanette how are you doing. I hope you are well and safe. I'm Thomas from Virginia. Looking for someone to be my friend as i'm tired being alone. I hope you don't min, thank you.
I found a half Vietnamese sister and that my father lied terribly to us, my mother and it hurt all over again the split up of my parents. It is a hard thing to learn that even more the person that you thought you trusted most of your life was truly someone else. He had other lives than the one that had been known all our lives in my family. She has caused great trouble too latter on in our lives and talked my father out of our inheritance to go to her and he did it leaving the three of us each one dollar. It was sickening! It was not out fault that he turned his back on us and cheated in such a foul way, yet we lost all promised to us and was given to her and another sister he has had with their mother 6 years before when Dad was over there the first time! All that we were and had was obliterated because of his selfish evil actions. Men, even supposed good ones that know better do foul things and do not care...we are all just collateral damage to the wants and needs of men who just flat do not care what they do. Most men are like that too..sadly. Soem are not thankfully and they are rare and fine!
Hello how are you doing. I hope you are well and safe. I'm Thomas from Virginia. Looking for someone to be my friend as i'm tired being alone. I hope you don't min, thank you.
It seems to me that the other woman is nasty. You put all the blame on the man, your father, but that other woman convinced him to give her everything. There are some real nasty women as well.
Is this a dad who was in service and went over seas and left a kid there?? This happens a lot and the woman tbere want a military husband but time came and they had to leave . Many didn’t go back leaving the kids. Half Breed even worst if they were black . Not sure if that’s ur story U mentioned vietnam so I thought war.
What I found was opposite of this woman. I had always thought I was not my father's biological child and a lady contacted me and helped me trace his and her dna matches to me. So it relieved all my years of frustration in a single strand of dna that connected me to this woman who was directly related to my father. I also learned I have almost 3 % African blood which thrilled me for personal reasons. My mother, who is in hospice care now, is really my mother. I will never regret doing my dna test. It's answered many questions and I truly believe it was meant for the lady to contact me to set my mind at ease. Call it karma or divine intervention... I love the knowing that Daddy was indeed my biological father. And I have the proof (beyond the grave) of knowing it for sure.
There've been recent studies that have proven the percentages of ancestry on a lot of these tests aren't accurate. There are vids on YT about identical triplets taking the tests and having different results..
The DNA relations (parent-child, siblings, half-siblings, cousins etc) are most likely accurate but the percentages of ethnic ancestry can differ wildly and isn't accurate at all.
I never knew for sure that I was really my dad's daughter. I realized as he lay in his coffin that my 2 brothers and I all had dad's hands.
Fems Ff , I agree, my sister took two tests by two different company's and received very conflicting information. We were raised to think our grandmother was half Native America. turns out that my sister has 3 percent African American from one test and 6 percent from the other test and NO NATIVE AMERICAN on either test. One test says British ancestry and the other says Northern Europe. AND both wanted $2500. to start, if she wanted any more info on her back ground.
Hello Teri,how are you doing?
Since no one knows the facts, it could also be that the boss forced himself on her and the parent kept it secret or possibly mom kept it secret.
I did a DNA last year trying to find out more about my father’s side. He and my mother were divorced when I was 2. I did not see a lot of my father growing up, but did visit him and his wife a couple of times. His mother was full blood Cherokee I was told by my first cousin on his side. But I never could find anything. Both my father’s parents died when he was young. I was told that my father did not want children, and I assumed that was why he never seemed like my dad. The DNA test showed I was 43% Jewish, which was a shock. No Cherokee was in my DNA. I did discover a second cousin who I have been in contact with. She is 59 now, and I am 81. She has tried to help me but has reach a dead end. It is possible her grandfather’s brothers may have been a connection. Now, everyone has passed on and in my family as well. It is a very strange and loss feeling to learn your father is NOT your father, and that you may die, not knowing who your father was. Perhaps he never knew he had a daughter either.
Beth Browne
Check out utube. A lot of Cherokee have Jewish blood.
Beth, that is so sad. I'm sorry for you. I was thinking about getting A DNA test, but now have thought against it.
@@JMoad how?
My husband's grandmother never knew her father; they suspect, but can't prove, that he was a soldier from WWI and her mother had a fling or perhaps was engaged or had a soldier boyfriend who never returned. She never knew cuz it was hushed up and now it's too late.
But funnily enough, he also suspects he has an older sister (he heard his parents arguing about it when he was a child, tho they deny anything about it) and named our daughter after her, the name he heard during the argument. He thinks his dad got a previous girlfriend pregnant but for whatever reason, they didn't stay together and he married his mum. Unfortunately, his mum never wanted kids, and still treats him badly even now. (And this is just HIS side of the family. Mine is just as screwed up. *sighs*) He won't do a DNA test, tho, and neither will his parents. Tho he kept saying I should do one. 😑
I am sorry for your frustration...
Just goes to show the saying ‘the truth will always come out’ is undeniable!
After a few children and having her Boss pay attention to her, she had a brief affair resulting in a child with another man. Quit the job, had the child. And the Mother (And perhaps her Dad) kept their mouths shut and took the secret to the grave. That was there decision back then. Today we may tell the child, times have changed. But I have NO stones to throw.
Nobody has stones to throw. I appreciate your civility on the matter. The entire comment section is throwing stones.
You put that perfectly!;)
They kept "their" mouths shut. Learn to English.
That has got to be a joke, right!? Yes, it did need to be corrected to "their". But, " Learn to English"?? LMAO! Now I ask that you correct your mistake. I'm going to state something that I ask you please don't take offense to, as I was once this way & guilty of doing the same thing & glad a stranger pointed it out to me. As I will do for you: If you are this serious with such trivial matters, you are likely petty & offended by everything. Or you made the comment in good humor & are a hilarious person & I thank you for the good laugh!:) We all wish this world were better, yet we constantly attack one another :( The downside to the internet today, is that it has robbed us of our humanity & love for our fellow man. So next time you want to criticize someone else, think of what kind of person would do that? Is that the person you strive to be? Is that how you want others to treat you? Or treat your Mother, family? I'm pretty sure your a much greater person than your comment made you appear to be:)! Match your negative with a positive & say or do something kind toward another person today. Then compare how that makes you feel, to how this comment made you feel. Love & Light to you Officer Grammar.lol.
Sookie Girl Would rather have it come at me than from me.
I'm surprised to learn how almost common this is that a support group could have that many members! Wow talk about a shock
Thank you so much. I came across this early this morning and cried on and off all day. I thought I was alone and how I have been feeling the past 7 months. I found out by accident that my bio father was not my father. I donated my dna for medical reasons because I have a severe autoimmune disease and no one else in my family does many years ago. This past February I was contacted by someone who I was a very close DNA match with but did not know him. I did know his last name which made me nervous thinking oh no there is a family secret. Not thinking I had anything to do with it. The next day I called my mom who was very sick at the time in a different state. It was a awful time in my life. Turns out I was the 50 year old secret and the product of an affair. I have a older sister and younger brother who are my dads.
Nice to see your warmth and sensitivity Megyn. Its a different side from other interviews and it is nice to see.
They changed here image, and approach to guess, because of the backlash of her abrasive personality, so to speak.
If I were being paid $442,397 a week, I'd feign warmth and sensitivity too.
I had the exact same happen to me. I was the youngest of 6, my son sent his DNA into ancestry and came back with a match to another member. This person as it turned out was my cousin and was from the family of a man whose name I had heard as a child when my parents fought. Needless to say I was defeated. What I found out is worthy of a novel.
Write it!
Goodness, don't keep us hanging!
You said it yourself... Perhaps you need to write that novel!
Omg!
I found my half sister on facebook in 2008. She never knew I existed and she grew up feeling like someone was missing from her life. We met each other for the first time in February 2009 in Minnesota.
Poor lady. How traumatising. I'd say it was met to happen, though. She was always interested in genealogy. Bless her.
Funnily enough I talked to one of my friends about taking one of those tests and she said “what if you discover one of your parents is not your parent!?” I just laughed.
well well well...😂
Kelly Attobrah that's exactly why I have never taken one
I would be glad!! We are messed up in some way. So I would be glad if I wasn't related to this person who would have contributed to me being messed up just on the basis of them having raised me....
In the 1600s in eastern Virginia they had a slogan for it: "Marry early and marry often", a light-hearted way of looking at the horrible truth. Many adults died of disease, accidents, hard labor, war and childbirth. Wives and husbands who did live to elderhood often had had two, three or four spouses in their run, and half-siblings were more common then full everywhere; wives commonly had had twelve or more children before their bodies simply refused more. To think that this is perhaps "shameful" or even unusual are the ones who need to stop and reflect.
I can relate I am a product of family secrets. No real answers to provide. Thanks for sharing. As I watched this show I felt my pain again when I realized the family disconnect.
Hello Dear
How are you doing today?
The healing effect of heart felt communication. This was a touching and interesting story.
I have always been of the opinion that family lines are better traced through the mothers line. There is no proof when it is done through the Dad's. This confirms my belief.
I found out at Age (9) that "The Amazing Man, who raised me was "NOT" My Biological Father!" I'm now 51 years old and have "Strongest Bond" with Dad to date! He even told me about "My Biological Father" and what to "expect when meeting him at Age (20) I have never heard from him since & that's after me telling him "I was leaving the Door open to a possible relationship. I just would NEVER be a Daughter to him or him "My Dad!" His loss!
Great dad you have! I am happy for you.
you are so lucky to have a Dad who loves you! That's a gem!
It's beautiful to hear about such caring among families and siblings. I don't wonder who my parents are and I have two sisters, but the loneliness I live with makes me admire those people in this video. There is so much love. Even with the deceptions and Devastation they have each other close.
There is what? What happened? PS I live with extreme loneliness myself - due to terrible situation I am in...
If you're dealing with extreme loneliness, get out and meet people.
This just happened to my son's ex sister in law. She took the DNA only to discover her dad is not her biological dad.
I took a DNA test. I was raised to believe I was Irish, Jewish, Welsh, maybe French, small percentage of Scandinavian. Turns out I'm Celtic, Scandinavian, ITALIAN, 2%INDIAN and Iberian, 😂😂😂 my siblings got different results. It's quite a mind blow to learn you're not what you were raised to believe. I embrace it.
Celtic is Irish and many others cross bred so, what you thought you knew is really ot that far off.
I wonder what I am
This is really a blessing because look at the new 2 siblings she has developed a lovely relationship with as a result of this news.Its good news!
I took the Ancestry DNA test and had the same discovery. You go through a horrendous grieving process. You grieve the loss of knowing the other person who passed before finding them. I joined this same support group she started. It took time to overcome the devastation but I now fully accept God knew what was best for me the whole time and all of it worked for my good! 🤗
I hope the half sister shared some of the medical information about the family. To me giving the child/children up for adoption or such, the people need to include medical records and/history to prepare them for anything that comes up. Example: If someone has diabetes then the child could inherit diabetes.
My siblings and I would love to find out our father is not our father!
I didn't find out until I was 40 my dad was not my biological father. He was always my dad.
I was one month pregnant when I met my now husband.he is my daughters dad since 36 years.we told her that she was from another dad.who died and we needed a daddy for her.as every kid needs a daddy.it was simply said and she was happy
@@anojacharlesschlosser2908 That's so nice 🥰🤗💖
So comforting