3 Ways to Understand Autism Better

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  • @kaylaports4449
    @kaylaports4449 Рік тому +14

    Stimming to me is like a burst of energy in my brain and makes my body move it can be when I’m happy or overwhelmed

  • @objectivityisourfriend9631
    @objectivityisourfriend9631 5 місяців тому +3

    I'm an Asperger's adult with two degrees and hot shot jobs under my belt - female. I can't thank you enough for the videos, especially of Ian's meltdowns. I go through the exact same horrors except for some reason I can control myself to only do it alone. Last night was horrible. I do not look any different than your son. And it isn't until I watch the videos that I'm reminded of my condition and that I'm not broken or horrible - I just have autism. When you described it as "too much input, can't regulate" a light bulb went off and now I have more insight into my meltdown trajectories. Thank you for sharing your family with us and bringing awareness.❤

  • @TeamSparkyMosquito
    @TeamSparkyMosquito Рік тому +44

    I am autistic. This video is helpful as it gives me some ideas on how to explain to people what it feels like to have autism. I consider myself hyper-empathetic to other people, as I have become very skilled at using pattern recognizing and analyzing people's behavior in order to understand what they may be thinking and feeling. In my personal case, the stereotype that someone with autistim has no empathy does not apply. And ironically, typically I find that many neurotypical people make no effort to empathize with me or understand what I am thinking/feeling. They observe that my behavior is different and then treat me differently, typically infantilizing me or shunning me. Maybe if I explain some of the examples you talked about in the video I will be able to connect better with some of the neurotypical people around me.

    • @justinschomaker
      @justinschomaker Рік тому +1

      Mostly autistic people are very empathetic but most neurotypical people are not empathetic enough to see it. To see that we try our best to express emotions but we fail to them.

    • @Kessik8
      @Kessik8 Рік тому +1

      In my case, I think I'm very empathetic, but I am often confused or overwhelmed by the emotions I "get" from others. I jump into problem solving mode and get frustrated when people just want to communicate their anger or frustration about something without being open to solutions.

  • @Scooby-Snacks
    @Scooby-Snacks Рік тому +15

    Thanks for making these videos and providing good advice to the community

  • @Tor_nado_89
    @Tor_nado_89 Рік тому +51

    I'm autistic and actually have a sense of humor. But people think I'm being serious and mean.

    • @NikoAdventures55
      @NikoAdventures55 Рік тому +2

      Same

    • @hqgirl567
      @hqgirl567 Рік тому +4

      Lol I think I may be literal sometimes and I make people laugh

    • @andrijanaognj
      @andrijanaognj Рік тому +1

      i have the same problem they even get scared so am not even try to be funny 🙄

    • @YuliiaJV
      @YuliiaJV Рік тому

      I never understand sarcasm) But somehow I can joke, it happens rarely but very effectively

    • @Owen2131_
      @Owen2131_ Рік тому

      Same at times, even though with my autism I kinda see humor like among us, im into the most random stuff possible sometimes lol. And sometimes I would say something that i think is funny but then isint in good taste to others so Sometimes i try to not be funny and then i feel bad for myself.

  • @moonlover2700
    @moonlover2700 Рік тому +9

    I've loved this video and explanation, even though I'm autistic! It's amazing, keep up the phenomenal work 💖💖

  • @93lrp
    @93lrp Рік тому +1

    I'm an English teacher in Europe and I'm using this video for one of my lessons. I like exposing my young students to different topics and I think autism deserves more awareness on this side of the pond!

  • @clairejones624
    @clairejones624 Рік тому +4

    As someone whose Autistic and have ADHD, this video is a great way to explain autism to someone. When someone finds out that I’m autistic, they usually ask how it’s like to be autistic and I always struggle to answer.
    This video made me feel understood by some neurotypical people like you. I find myself relating to a mixture of Ian, Connor and a bit of Alistair.
    I relate to Ian and his honesty and being literal and straightforward. I relate a bit to his finger stims as well. I miss a lot of “could be” jokes because I just don’t really get it and I am too literal to. For Connor, I relate to his thirst for knowledge and I am also “high” on the spectrum like he is. For Alistair, I relate to him a little less than the other two but I relate a lot to his stims and outgoing personality.
    I love your three boys. They’re great people. I really love how you and your wife try your best to help and understand them. I wish my family was like that. I relate to the point you said about how we over-analyse information and the example you gave about what colour an elephant is. I also tend to hyper-empathise which is the complete opposite of the stereotype. Thank you.

  • @bryanmerton5153
    @bryanmerton5153 Рік тому +6

    Another excellent video. I often tell people that it feels like I am from another planet. I don't speak the common social language. When I was your kids age I used to ask my mom all the time if I indeed was from another planet😆. The elephant analogy is excellent. It often takes me a while to process questions for that very reason. There never seems to be a simple answer. Stimming brings me in focus, calms me down and also feels amazing when I am happy! Thanks again for posting these videos.

  • @au9parsec
    @au9parsec Рік тому +7

    I am someone on the autism spectrum who does overanalyze. The things which I have the tendency to overanalyze on are ancient aliens from the history channel, new age philosophy, and conspiracy theories. And I use to overanalyze about those three different things so much so that it kept me from doing things that are more important, such as taking care of my mental and physical health and other responsibilities, but I've trainef myself to not continue to overanalyze about those three different things too much so I can still do things that are more important in order to live a successful life. Overanalyzing can be a strength, but it can also be a weakness if it's not controlled.

  • @ribekasaigo5087
    @ribekasaigo5087 Рік тому +2

    I love this explanation. My son (8) has autism spectrum disorder and its very difficult for him to communicate his own feelings. I've never been diagnosed myself, but when you talked about the loading wheel and the scattering of the brain as it receives a simple question really made me realize that I do this a lot. That's why I'm deathly afraid of interviews because I know I won't be able to answer in the way people expect them to. I'll overthink the question and have all these thoughts attached to it and in the end give an answer (if an answer at all) that puts a question mark in people's faces. I hope to watch more videos to educate myself and for my son. Thank you for all that you do!

  • @josettejoy6003
    @josettejoy6003 Рік тому +4

    My sense of humor is complicated. I love to laugh and make other people laugh. My special interest is a sketch comedy show (Studio C) and I have written my own comedy sketches. In fact, I'm going to go to Studio C's live show next week!
    But when it comes to deadpan humor or jokes that involve me, it's like my brain goes on overload as I try to process it and I have a really hard time knowing if it's a joke or not. Sometimes, it feels like my brain is thinking a hundred things at once just to process one thing.

  • @davef2975
    @davef2975 Рік тому +6

    A very straight forward summary of my Autism:
    1. There is never a final answer. My response is always "WHY?" If I am not constantly gaining new knowledge, I am failing myself and my potentials.
    2. My brain literally processes my hearing and sense of touch differently than other people. I am NOT to be touched!
    3. "Emotions should never be part of the equation." Any reaction, action, or "solution" that contains emotion is immediately suspect as being biased.
    4. Social interaction only complicates my logical life.
    5. Social isolation and total solitude are my mental sanctuary.
    6. Windows are covered in my house so there is total darkness 24 hours a day. I remove as much sound input as possible and replace it with soft quiet music anytime in public.
    7. Humanity is "Chaos." My brain cannot process CHAOS.

    • @davef2975
      @davef2975 Рік тому

      @pristinejoel8802 You SCAMS have been reported to authorities. Stop spamming your "CURES."

  • @stephenjensen4936
    @stephenjensen4936 Рік тому +3

    Thank you so much for all the information. My son has just been given his diagnosis and my wife and I are in complete research mode trying to learn as much as possible. Your videos are so helpful in our journey.

    • @puffinman1138
      @puffinman1138 Рік тому

      You are in the right place, my friend and definitely not alone. Autism Family is a wonderful, informative and very entertaining channel. Welcome!

  • @hazelgrunts
    @hazelgrunts Рік тому +10

    I have both anxiety and autism, and I find that anxiety attacks and meltdowns feel very similar to me. There’s an overwhelming urge to run away and hide, not be seen by anyone. The difference is, with a meltdown I’ll be more concerned with getting into a calm (usually dark) environment, even if it’s just under a blanket. With anxiety attacks I’ll be more concerned with my emotions and the judgement of others

  • @TomvanRIJT
    @TomvanRIJT Рік тому

    You have tree fantastic sons. i love your cannel you are an great father for these three boy's on the spectrum.

  • @jessicajaid4205
    @jessicajaid4205 Рік тому +4

    Wow! I’m gonna save this and have a watch party with my family! This is so informative.

    • @hqgirl567
      @hqgirl567 Рік тому

      I sent it to my fam. Definitely share it

  • @c1arkj
    @c1arkj Рік тому +1

    Great analogies. It can be very tough explaining autism to those who are neurotypical .

  • @maryjanehansen7947
    @maryjanehansen7947 2 місяці тому

    i wish i knew more about autism but it varies so much between each individual.

  • @pimpedoutstereos9747
    @pimpedoutstereos9747 Рік тому +1

    Thankyou for this video. I’m always learning more and more about my son with him being on the spectrum and these videos have really helped me quite a lot

  • @littlejonathorn6860
    @littlejonathorn6860 Рік тому +1

    Nice shirt Rob. “Cabella’s” is an awesome camping and sports store and thank you for speaking on our behalf. This hits home 🏠. Great vid!!!

  • @berglettemom6045
    @berglettemom6045 Рік тому +1

    Rob, I think this is one of your best videos! I learned so much and it was very helpful. I also loved the video footage of your kids at the museum. It looks like a fabulous place to visit.

  • @marjanvermeulen9753
    @marjanvermeulen9753 Рік тому +2

    Hi family! Thanks for the nice video! Very nice what you had visited whit the boys. Nice area. When it's to much for me I get a meltdown. And it's terrible to get it in public! But the video is great. A big hug from the Netherlands. 🇳🇱😃❤️🇺🇲

  • @nathanjw940
    @nathanjw940 Рік тому +8

    When it comes to sensory overload I get a really bad heartburn feeling and complete exhaustion. I got so overstimulated after my team won in college I spent the time after the game everyone was celebrating I was in the lobby laying on the couch. My friend tried to take me home I was in so much pain I couldn't walk to the car or even out of the building. I have also felt burnout where I just need to rest after the social occasion.
    Meltdowns for me is like a car stuck in the mud without help getting out I am going to will it it but instead my engine keeps getting hotter until it explodes.

  • @roxannewestern3681
    @roxannewestern3681 11 місяців тому

    I really find your videos helpful. My son has level 3 autism. Non verbal, doesn’t communicate and stims constantly etc. these videos are explaining so much.
    Thanks.
    Roxie from the uk

    • @roxannewestern3681
      @roxannewestern3681 11 місяців тому

      He’s in his own world majority of the time. Hes only 4. Xx

  • @flamingolady5047
    @flamingolady5047 Рік тому

    Thank you for sharing your family information. You have such a wonderful family,💗💗💗💗💗

  • @clFer777
    @clFer777 Рік тому +6

    One of the most unintelligible things on autism for people who does not live it (my son is austitic) is how, even years after diagnosis and therapy, the caregiver (me) needs to constantly learn things like you showed in the video.
    Thanks a lot from Chile (the country).

  • @koreakoalaenglish
    @koreakoalaenglish 11 місяців тому

    So informative! Thank you!!!

  • @Sawik85
    @Sawik85 Рік тому +1

    Masz wspaniałą rodzinę. Ogladam Cię z podziwem i szacunkiem. Mam siostrę i syna ze spektrum autyzmu. Pozdrawiam z Polski 🇵🇱

  • @haileyrain2390
    @haileyrain2390 8 місяців тому

    Sooo helpful.. I can relate so much better when you use the examples . I’m normally very patient and mellow … but ask me to do something technical on the computer or solve a math equation and I go from zero to 100, aggravated , wanting to throw something , nervous and overwhelmed…and yes getting so angry I want to bite the laptop ! 🤔. Wow what an eye opener . Thank you !!

  • @Clayboybunny
    @Clayboybunny Рік тому

    Squishy and happy omg. Your guys are so adorable! My little boy has just been diagnosed with autism & so I find your videos invaluable
    Thank you so much 🌞

  • @CATAZTR0PHE
    @CATAZTR0PHE 2 місяці тому

    Ffs it's shocking how on point you described my way of thinking when I'm asked a question. I'm trying to give the most precise answer.
    You described it so good as if you were on the spectrum 😁

  • @garrickpattendenmd
    @garrickpattendenmd Рік тому

    @AutismFamilyChannel That's what I was as a child with autism. I was born with it; however, I don't do the stimming anymore, I must have outgrown it. I have a video on my channel that tells my short story of being in "Special Education classes in elementary school to being in Med School. I titled it: Special Ed to Med School. Thank you for sharing your experiences and knowledge on the subject of Autism through the eyes of your children, and much more. I always appreciate your videos. Take care. Best Regards, Garrick Pattenden, MD. Windsor Ontario Canada.

  • @BenKlassen1
    @BenKlassen1 Рік тому

    Very insightful and informative. Thank you.

  • @PrayerWarrior37
    @PrayerWarrior37 Рік тому

    Thank you so much for sharing this love you all to pieces ❤ God bless you

  • @ninasunny4159
    @ninasunny4159 Рік тому

    Stimming makes you happy. ♥♥♥

  • @7Aheadfamily
    @7Aheadfamily Рік тому +1

    Smells are a huge deal for Simon. 😊

  • @nr_4690
    @nr_4690 Рік тому

    hi from Indonesia. Thank you so much for your content.

  • @hqgirl567
    @hqgirl567 Рік тому +2

    I have been flapping my hands as a stim and I sometimes get this squeezing feeling where I need to squeeze something. That happens when I am happy or upset. But when I have meltdowns I feel super angry

  • @ariajane8695
    @ariajane8695 Рік тому +1

    For me, playing with my poultry always boosts my mood.
    My turkey, Rosanna, I taught her to sit in my lap and snuggle 🩷🦃

  • @soudipanah
    @soudipanah 3 місяці тому

    Thank you 🙏

  • @cj-br9mq
    @cj-br9mq Рік тому

    Thanks again for taking about being autistic ❤

  • @franciatuyay8407
    @franciatuyay8407 Рік тому

    Thank you.

  • @PrayerWarrior37
    @PrayerWarrior37 Рік тому +2

    I’m just like your wife I love swimming and being in a pool lol. My son loves that really soft acrylic lol don’t know why either lol

  • @stevecarter8810
    @stevecarter8810 Рік тому

    Great metaphors with the pool and pregnancy

  • @crimezone3865
    @crimezone3865 Рік тому +2

    my brain does really feel like it's a big mechanism performing a bunch of things at once all the time !!!! and i do like to imagine it visually !!!!! i hope people can imagine the gears turning the same way i do. i was always a very analytical person and i think it's silly to visualize how it looks like

  • @Sonicforcesfan2020
    @Sonicforcesfan2020 Рік тому +1

    I'm a goth who has autism I'm my own care facility called westcare with six adults I in it now I love it

  • @siennaprice1351
    @siennaprice1351 Рік тому +1

    I have Septo Optic Dysplasia, which caused me to be born totally blind and on the autism spectrum. I have a sense of humor, but I can also be straight forward. I may come off as mean, but I’m not trying to, my words get a bit mixed up, but my brain is thinking way different than what’s coming out of my mouth. I think blindness can also cause it to be hard to understand a joke, because you can’t see the person’s facial expressions. Having SOD doesn’t define me as a person, I even embrace it, and I don’t want a cure for my SOD. Yes I may ne totally blind, yes I may be autistic. But I’m still here and living.

  • @JonBrase
    @JonBrase Рік тому +1

    A fair bit of my sense of humor is "Interpreting this literally gives absurd results and is therefore funny. Respond literally, drop it in deadpan, see if anybody picks up on it."

  • @muklukPL
    @muklukPL Рік тому

    Thanks for this video!

  • @saraht4973
    @saraht4973 Рік тому

    Love you all too 💕

  • @foxy3961
    @foxy3961 Рік тому +1

    Luv your channel!!

  • @MrsNathanBastyr
    @MrsNathanBastyr Рік тому

    New to your channel. My husband and our son both have Autism.

  • @darkchipz3016
    @darkchipz3016 Рік тому +1

    I always feel like I'm very different to others, but after I got diagnosed as high functioning autism, I can finnaly knew why(well, kinda), I don't really like movies like everyone else, I love EDM music more than any popular music genre, I love psytrance and happy hardcore so much, my dream is to become a EDM/DJ producer someday

  • @TentoesMe
    @TentoesMe Рік тому

    I stim when I'm happy, when I'm sad, when I'm excited, when I'm bored, when I'm trying to think, when I'm thinking too much. Right now, I'm putting off going grocery shopping. I pick grocery stores by whether they mind if I'm barefoot.

  • @haannguyen4402
    @haannguyen4402 Рік тому

    I’m autistic too and I’ve struggled with emotional regulation (I know I should know better), any tips/items to use or bring with me in public?

  • @ravenID429
    @ravenID429 Рік тому

    1:02 It feels like a computer freezing and crashing lol

  • @Mult.edz2
    @Mult.edz2 5 днів тому

    “Does that mean im average” WOW THERE BUDDY.

  • @lobsterboi.mp4
    @lobsterboi.mp4 Рік тому +3

    I feel like the best explanation for my autism is often “my brain is just wired differently”. You can see it really well in the Temple Grandin picture especially, but our brains have an unnatural amount of neuron connections in very atypical ways. Stimming is a good example of that. What Ian is kind of getting at is that unconscious connection where when we experience a strong emotion, it triggers an unconscious physical feeling that compels us to stim. It’s kind of like how when people get really happy, they can’t help but smile, usually without even realizing it. It basically feels like that, but with a greater physical action, and for every major emotion because of the extra wiring going on. I also think thats likely why your sons struggle to really describe it, not just because autistic people often struggle to communicate in a conventional comversational way. It’s mostly just neuron firings going off in the background.
    I think also that this different wiring causes our brains to really get good at certain atypical tasks naturally and voraciously, while also just completly disregarding things like social rules. It just feels like our brains can’t always quite understand the value of working against its natural wiring to learn those kinds of things, completly independently of whether the autistic person may really want to know how to do them. Its like our brains are a highly optimized super computer, and well, its not like NASA uses their super computers to play Roblox all day.
    Sorry this has been a huge special interest of mine this past year, and also I really love you guys’ channel! Ive got boat loads of interesting modern autism research/theories/information and I’m always looking for someone to bestow this niche info upon.

  • @PrayerWarrior37
    @PrayerWarrior37 Рік тому

    I know for myself for my son is I understand him now but at first it was like bonkos lol. And when I started learning about autism it’s very complex, every child is different and I don’t think there is any set way . To me it’s a journey it can go forwards and then backwards.

  • @ragavankumar8380
    @ragavankumar8380 Рік тому +2

    I am not autistic but it feels disgusting when I see matchboxes, matchsticks, cigarettes etc. when they are around while I am eating I may throw up. My family never understood me in my 35 years of life. They are still saying I am faking it. I feel how autistic behavior will be seen by neurotypical people without learning what autism is. I was telling everyone that I haven’t seen anyone with autism when my daughter was diagnosed. When I know what autism is I realized 3 of my cousins and neighbor kid are autistic not retarded (sorry to say this but that’s what neurotypical people might think without knowing.

  • @melissahood2005
    @melissahood2005 Рік тому

    Hay utah friend. Where was the museum located?

  • @ivettkiraberkes
    @ivettkiraberkes Рік тому

  • @lrowe272
    @lrowe272 Рік тому

    I can't stand fireworks or fire cackers one year it got so bad that curled up in ball and started balling ,I don't like balloons being blowing up they seem to burst I have both AD HD and Autism. I tend harp on things so I can't focus .

  • @derekaldrich4887
    @derekaldrich4887 Рік тому +3

    How is Ian and Connor doing in high school

  • @charissconsul
    @charissconsul Рік тому

    Hi new subscriber! I'm just curious since asd is highly genetic and three of your sons are on the spectrum: are you or your wife on the spectrum as well (or neurodivergent)?

    • @AutismFamilyChannel
      @AutismFamilyChannel  Рік тому +1

      We don’t think we are on the spectrum. We could barely be on it but it’s at the point where it’s not even worth mentioning because it doesn’t interfere or is ever present in our lives if that makes sense 😉

    • @charissconsul
      @charissconsul Рік тому

      @@AutismFamilyChannel I see, thanks for replying! Love the videos. :)

  • @kkeepiitmmoving
    @kkeepiitmmoving Рік тому

    How were they when they were around 3 year old? My son is three now very intelligent informational wise if that makes sense, but does not conversate. He knows alot of words and learns well. But cannot follow instructions or sit still for too long and doesn't speak unless absolutely needed.

  • @AutismawarenessGeorgia20
    @AutismawarenessGeorgia20 Рік тому

    I’m thinking when is bed time and when can I have my food that’s all I think about lol.

  • @ElevatorWasher5000
    @ElevatorWasher5000 11 місяців тому

    5:27 WHOA colorful

  • @stardashstudios3488
    @stardashstudios3488 Рік тому

    Autism is something that I was born with.
    I've always thought differently and can I be pinned instead, @Autism Family

  • @AutismawarenessGeorgia20
    @AutismawarenessGeorgia20 Рік тому

    7:54 my hart feels very fast when I’m stressed.

  • @esthera7506
    @esthera7506 Рік тому

    i have austim

  • @andrijanaognj
    @andrijanaognj Рік тому

    as a parent did you ever seen yourself in the same way of being like your autistic kids?

  • @sweetgirl-jp4hn
    @sweetgirl-jp4hn Рік тому

    477 likes👍👍👍👍
    ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @PrayerWarrior37
    @PrayerWarrior37 Рік тому +1

    I’m petrified of AI

  • @Xavier-h7w
    @Xavier-h7w 9 місяців тому

    Don't most people on the spectrum talk about one thing like Planes, Trains, or anything else?

  • @numinous2506
    @numinous2506 Рік тому

    Pherst

  • @maryjanehansen7947
    @maryjanehansen7947 2 місяці тому

    1:31 really pregnant eh.. as opposed to... kinda pregnant?

  • @pinnacleatTheSummit
    @pinnacleatTheSummit Рік тому

    Can i get a pin?

  • @xumerahuma
    @xumerahuma 6 місяців тому

    Or...neurotypical humour is boring and not funny....is that possible!? If you define our humour in reference to neurotypical humour...thats the problem.