My sister had major surgery last week so I stayed at her house to help her heal and take care of things. While I was cleaning her oven, every time I got a big section clean I would say “suck it!” So satisfying. 😅
I had to comment to say that I have severe ADHD, and one "hack" that works for me is body doubling - having another person in the room; not necessarily conversing, but just someone there. I have found that your videos work as an excellent "body double", especially in the evenings after my kiddo is in bed, Mr. Hubs has gone to work, and it's time for me to tackle the kitchen 😂
Thank you for describing ADHD a little and how we struggle with "easy" things. We know we need to do them, but physically, we can't make ourselves do it. It's very mentally exhausting
My husband OCD. I have ADHD. We've had... conflicts in the past. But this morning, he was listening to this video as I watched it, and he said: Suddenly so much about you makes sense. Thank you for these videos.
I can relate so much! I have OCD too and grew up in a very messy home. My mom has a mental illness and just wasn't able to do better. I cleaned all the time but it would go back to being messy within days. I was frustrated a lot and just couldn't sympathize. These videos show me that she did her best.
Enjoyed watching this again in real time while you described the traits of someone with ADHD. I'm an old woman now and when I was growing up kids were labeled as either good or bad. They didn't have a medical diagnosis for possible or probable conditions. In fact, if you were depressed many times the community would say you were demon possessed! I can remember as a child when I would clean house for my mom, I would move furniture (like dining room table chairs) and align them in rows. I always thought that was the coolest thing to line them up in rows in an adjacent room while sweeping and mopping the floor in the dining room. I would proceed to pretend the rows were either bus seats or seats in a classroom and continue to play as I worked cleaning. Even now that I am grown and have grandchildren, I still move everything out of a room and clean it from a "move in" perspective. I love to move the furniture around and rearrange everything when I clean. Like you described, even though it is the same furniture, the same house, and same room, it all feels fresh and new. My husband has often told his family that if he is gone for more than a few hours the whole house will be rearranged when he gets home. I'm a petite woman who is impatient and determined so if I want something moved, I will slide and shimmy even a large piece of furniture a little at a time until I get it to the place in the room where I want it. That's just how I roll...So suck it!!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Years ago, when I changed things around periodically,I remember hearing, that anyone who did this would never had a nervous break down. So I figured, I was saving myself. 😉
As an ADHD person myself (and a sped teacher who teaches this kind of task management all the time), the timer is a GREAT idea. Especially when pairing it with breaking up the task into chunks. I'd add 3 more tips. 1. Set timers for your breaks as well. 2. Try and race the timer and 3. Limit what areas you're allowed to clean. Time your breaks so you don't wnd up on a 3 hour break. Race the timer to add fun and excitement to the task, and limit the room so you don't take something to the bathroom to put it away and end up mopping the floor in there rather than finishing the room your working on.
Yes, I am suspicious that I’m right there with you. My hubs has some serious health issues that are in line ahead of my diagnosis, but I make a mess, it drives me crazy, I clean it, rinse, repeat. So both of MMC home in one head😂😂 Do you also hide things and forget where or is that just me?
I love your videos, they inspire me! When I was a child with ADD their was no medication just beatings at school and home, now at 67 I try to do too many things at one time plus work a full time job still, scared to retire! I was able to rearrange things in my kitchen because of you! Thank you so much! Friend 😊 👍👍👍
Liking new things is, I would say, definitely something with ADHD. We like to seek novelty (because dopamine). Being tidy has never come naturally to me, and ADHD paralysis is the worst. Thank you for all you do.
Here we are... looking on the shelves for that bottle opener! You sir, are the most real thing on the internet, and we're here for it! We are weirdos too, for sure. Congrats on the 100k plaque and it looks pretty awesome on your wall! Can't wait for more from you.
You know, a couple does what works for them. In my case, my partner, he works and pays bills and I do the cleaning, stock the house, run errands and cook. Some may not agree but we’ve been together 13 years and two grown kids later, through trial and error - it works and we’re happy with it. I think it’s great that you have such an ability to learn and understand others needs! 90% of mankind do not have that desire or compassion and I think it’s so important💕✝️🙋🏻♀️
@@pamelajackson2383 I hear ya but my partner has a lot of hobbies he does at home. We are together a lot but are doing our own things if that makes sense. Things change but you just have to change together and just keep trying. Some couples are happier going their separate ways though but are still friends. 💕
Same here Jess, 40 years his job brought in money, my job + 5 kids kept every single thing runny smoothly. He retired and because we like different food, he cleaned up after his cooking and I after mine. I still did everything else. We parted at 43 years, for different reasons. I considered my contribution a job too and I took it very seriously. He never had to worry about, bills, lawn mowing, absolutely nothing.
To Dee: WOW! I’m speechless. 43 years, then see ya!?!? I sincerely hope you are doing well in your life now. I hope that it helped that you took care of the “home front” all those years; had to be to your advantage. No sarcasm, just . . . . . speechless. I was married for 23 years and then parted with my ex, and at a younger age, I was still shattered. It’s taken me a few years to see my own way in life, yet I finally figured it out. Best to you!!
As someone who has Autism and ADHD, Dana K White youtube videos has been making a huge difference for me and my house. Her decluttering and organizing systems are like specifically designs for ADHD. It is a slow process, but as I declutter and clean each room, it has been fairly easy for my husband and I to maintain. Still have about half the house to go and the yard to do in spring, but my stress levels have decreased quite a bit.
A few things I've learned with ADHD - don't put it down, put it away. Make a ritual with steps to complete. But also, I've found that your channel works as body doubling and motivates me to start cleaning just by watching. 🎉 Also, you saying, "don't keep something just because it's useful" was life changing. So I've started purging stuff I shouldn't really keep. Thank you so much!
The other thing with ADHD that happens is ‘I can’t see it, therefore it doesn’t exist.’ I have to keep my day planner open next to my keyboard or I completely forget to use it. I find that organizing things so I can see exactly what’s there helps keep the chaos at bay. It also keeps me from repurchasing things I already have 😅 Congrats on the plaque!
YES. I think people with ADHD (or even hoarding tendencies) use their eyes as a kind of mental memory index. Out of sight is quite literally out of mind. I think that's why they react so poorly to cleaning, especially hoarders. If something is thrown out, it's like you've erased part of their past.
My husband is bipolar and adhd. My son is autistic……I’m screwed🤦🏽♀️. I’m still waiting for you to drop kick Jason. Congratulations on your UA-cam plaque. You’ve earned it buddy.
Thank you so much for explaining ADHD. I would never have guessed that's what I have, but I am exactly like your wife. I always leave out stuff that I use close at hand and then it just piles up and before long I have piles of crap everywhere. I know in my head that I need to clean it up and put it away, but when I look at the piles I just get so overwhelmed that I shut down and say I'll do it later. I've been told all my life that I'm just lazy and so I have a very low opinion of myself and have depression. Your videos have really inspired me to do more cleaning. I have really bad arthritis so I can't stand for more than a couple of minutes, but I have been trying to clean at least one thing a day. Congratulations on the plaque, you so deserve it!
I was recently diagnosed and this just confirms and explains my entire life. I experienced the same as you, thought I was lazy and down on myself. Now that we know we, can heal❤
I’m right with you. My home is a hot mess! I’m a retired nurse because I have a rare type of arthritis and moving is really hard. I have so much stuff that I really need to decrease but it’s gotten as far as my living room and my kitchen. Piles all around. Not safe for navigating. Not a hoarder yet but definitely have some tendencies. I’m working towards doing a move my bedroom around.
Lining up the sweet potatoes, rearranging them, putting them in order. I never knew sweet potatoes should be in orderly rows. Lol. Congrats on your UA-cam plaque. I want to see your son's friends all gathered around it crying.
Congratulations on your plaque! To clarify, I don’t watch you because I like cleaning videos, I watch because you are hilarious 😂😂😂. The bonus is that you give some really great cleaning tips 👍
I've always loved rearranging rooms to get the feel of new, but that is the perfect time to clean under and around things, too! Those little plastic sliders you can place under the legs of furniture will save your back when you have a cleaning frenzy, I have found. Congratulations on the plaque!
LOL my husband and I are this same combo of autism and ADHD. I need a list to get anything done. Definitely the hardest thing for me has been learning to clean one space at a time and not wander off. Like I'd start cleaning the kitchen, go to put something away in the office, find something that needed to be cleaned in the office, go to get a trash bag, realize I needed to organize the cleaning supplies... NO! That's how you end up with a 20% clean kitchen and a 13% clean office and a 4% clean house. Dealing with the other person's cleaning style is tough too. My husband used to get really upset with my messiness, and his cleaning obsession made me so anxious. I remember having a SUPER direct conversation with him where I was like "Look, I am who I am, I'm comfortable with it. You need to be aware that the effort I'm putting in is because it's out of love FOR YOU, so quit being a jerk if it's not the way you want it." I don't think it had ever occurred to him that there was more than one level of organization that a person could be happy with. We've been married for fifteen years now, and I think we've reached a good midway point between his ideal and mine.
Ok first that vent behind the tv has to be cleaned it demolished my ADHD 😂 Second My nephew has autism (that’s why we as a family started following your channel) he loves to clean! Laundry is his main thing. But it’s so amazing to me how differently it is with each person. His apartment (my sister converted her entire downstairs for him) is minimalist to a fault. You could literally eat off his floors He could never function in a space with so much stuff. He can’t have carpet (it drives him crazy) the uneven curtains etc he would insist those be changed. But, he is also non verbal. (Sign language is his way of communicating with very few actual spoken words) being ADHD your channel / videos is what I watch to relax. I want to say thank you for sharing your life with us and showing people that autism doesn’t mean something bad…. You are opening a lot of people’s eyes about autism and the fact that it doesn’t always mean someone can’t live a normal life.
I love your cleaning content, but I LOVE your commentary even more 😂 thank you for being you. Also, I so appreciate you leaving in the sounds of cleaning, instead of covering it up with music.
Hey Bud Pumpernickle!! You're so much like me. My daughter, 32, moving out soon has hoarding issues. I recently discovered she has "adult female ADHD", which explains so much as to why she never cleans up after herself. She is also on the autism spectrum. I just found out that I have a few autistic traits as well. Turning "chaos into order" is how I operate daily too. I also clean until the job is complete even if it takes me 14 hours. Proud to be a Midwest Magic Cleaning weirdo!! 😂 Love the plaque set up too. After photo of bedroom is perfect!! 👍👍👍👍
Been more of a silent watcher but: I have ADHD, I've struggled all my life keeping things tidy - it was never dirty in my room when I was a child but always messy because I would keep leaving things where I used them/just put them anywhere. It dragged all the way through to adulthood. I am now almost 29 and finally got control over it, it takes a lot of dedication. We ADHDers often get a nightly burst of energy (mine come around 10pm) and I use those, to clean and tidy up. I'm nowhere near as messy as I used to be as a child but it took me a long time to figure that part out. Your videos are motivating me to get up and do something whenever I am watching, after I wrote this I will probably go do the laundry and dust and put the last things away after moving lol. That being said, for the fellow ADHDers: Don't beat yourself up if you can't keep it tidy, if you truly need it to change, do it step by step, room by room or even just area by area. Clean homes also help the ADHD mind. Thanks for your videos :)
When I first came upon your channel I watched because I too enjoy cleaning videos. I stayed because you made me smile. I Subscribed because you have an honest, simple, eloquent way of sharing wisdom that just makes the world a better place. I believe you will get that Gold Plaque and also believe that you deserve it. Thanks for being you and sharing your spin kicking awesome self with the world. Peace ☺️✌️❤️✨
The ADHD chaos is real. You made a great point about their apparent thought process. I share a desk and try to explain that desk tops are for current work. Stuff is supposed to come and go, not come and stay. Except for the drawers, stuff is supposed to stay where it belongs.
That's kinda hilarious, because for myself as the ADHD person, I am super aware of where stuff is piled on my work surfaces, but if something is put away in a drawer, I might never think of it again. I need my functional chaos area.
@@gillianwinzinger9558 I so get that! That’s why my desk is a mess. If I don’t have things in plain sight, I forget about them. I realize that people who don’t have ADHD logically think that we could just stack papers neatly in plain sight- but to us, the papers under the top paper….we forget about about them because our minds are going in so many different directions
@@gillianwinzinger9558 this is why there are labels, IN and OUT boxes, folders, files. Your way only you know that the 1998 truck paperwork is buried under the pile with the blue stressball on top because Larry stresses you out and 1998 is the first time you remember being really stressed out. The organized way, anyone can open the vehicle maintenance file and quickly determine if the vehicles information is sorted by date of manufacture, purchase year, assigned driver, color etc. Clutter is a whole other story. I stock pens etc. They disappear because the pen holder is only half used. ADHD brain "I need a pen, pen holder!" Once the writing is done ADHD brain "I need this thing, let me put it where it definitely won't be forgotten in the next minute and not that silly pen holder!" I'm not saying it's bad or wrong, I'm saying it's ineffective, inefficient and sometimes infuriating when someone else has to work with or around it.
@@valeriethomas4168 yes, and there's a limit. I've collated stacks of orders and invoice copies over YEARS. From a single desk. 3 year old invoice copies do not belong on a desk unless there's an audit.
Dude, you are so spot on talking about how when one person does the cleaning, the partner just lets them and they allow themselves to become untidy. In two marriages and now sharing apt with my older brother, i have always been the cleaner upper while the others would just trash the house while smirking "well you've got to clean up anyway" ... leaving even more work for me to do while they go their merry way having fun. It's infuriating.
Congrats on the Play button, you absolutely deserve it!! I find it really comforting to know that even folks whose job it is to clean can have household clutter that looks like mine, haha. Props to you making an effort to research and understand your wife's thought process instead of just blaming her, even if it is frustrating. Your thoughtfulness and patience when it comes to mental barriers and differences in brain function is wonderful to see, and I hope the world is kind to you in return!
My husband has ADD, and has both hoarding tendencies and the tendency to take advantage of my cleaning abilities. If he uses the last of something, he will put the empty container/packaging at my place at the kitchen table or on my end table in the living room so that I can throw it away, rather than him throwing it away. If I clean and organize a messy area in the house and get rid of the "junk" there, he will fill it back up with stuff. So I completely understand living with someone with ADD/ADHD.
Oh friend I soooooo get what you mean!! I could never keep clean & clear surfaces with my last husband. If he saw a clear surface something inside would say "yay, a nice clear spot to drop junk onto". With my brother .. I cleared & cleaned one of the kitchen counters and was feeling really good about it .. he came in and with the saddest expression commented "the counter .. it looks so .. empty" I said "yeah ain't it great!" but he just sadly shook his head. The counter is no longer clear or clean .. and it drives me insane. 😖
I have a lot of thank yous for you, but I will stick with these big 2 for today. First, I am an over cleaner to soothe my anxieties. But, now I am 70 years old and additionally have long haul Covid and do not have the stamina I used to have. I was getting so frustrated that I could no longer clean for hours at a time. I learned from you to clean for 50 minutes and break for 10. That has been so helpful. Also I break the cleaning down into smaller tasks. That way if my fatigue overwhelms me I have at least accomplished a portion of my overall job. It has nothing to do with ADHD, it has to do with health and age. Thank you for being the voice of reason for me. And also, I just enjoy your videos so darn much! I wish I was younger and could spin kick the dirt off!
I watch your videos because I love to clean, but because of my age and health I can no longer do so like I would like to do. I truly miss doing detail cleaning. Watching your videos is so satisfying and fulfilling. Thank you!
Having a son with ADHD and Autism didn't seem a problem with cleanliness when he was younger as he kept his room clean and tidy but for some reason as an adult, still living with us, when it came time for house inspections, seeing inside his room literally made me want to cry.
I think I love you. I don’t know about being autistic or being ADHD. I get overwhelmed with my own house but when my hubby steps in I get defensive. I have a 4 and 6 year old and know I should let him help cause sometimes I just can’t keep up. It would be nice to have someone like you to come help organize but I’m just to far away. We moved houses almost two years ago and still haven’t unpacked a lot of our stuff. The kids are our grandkids and when we moved here they weren’t supposed to be our entire responsibility but they are, including homeschooling. Just want to let you know that finding your channel has given me inspiration and I get your wired sense of humor.
I have ADHD as well. Since clutter overwhelms me, I have to put things away immediately after I'm done with them, or they will sit out forever causing "paralysis" for me. I do have stacks of books, and magazines, by where I normally sit, because I read several things at a time, and it takes me awhile to finish one. I have found that making check lists helps to keep me on track, as well as verbally walking myself through tasks.
My husband has ADHD and you nailed the description. My husband also relies on visual cues to remind him to do things, so he leaves everything out all the time. It used to drive me bananas but I'm pretty philosophical about it at this point. Congrats on the milestone and for bringing order out of chaos - I am indeed one of the weirdos who need that.
Congratulations!!!!! So proud of you for your plaque🥰 now you have to make longer and more videos because that’s proof right there that we just can’t get enough of ya💕✝️🙋🏻♀️
So suck up and get those videos rolling! Congratulations on your plaque. Watching for a couple weeks now. Waiting for that motivation to kick in. ❤️👍👍👍👍👍👍❤️
Dude you're a class act to be cleaning and helping people with Autism and ADHD you rock my guy you have such a big heart and thanks for bringing awareness to this situation such as Autism and you being transparent blessings 🙌
I move my furniture around in my living room at least 4 times a year, and I get that wonderful feeling of it’s a new room. And clean it at the same time. Love your work. Have a nice weekend.
I love the feeling of a deep clean/rearranging because it feels like a fresh start. Double bonus points if donating excess clutter to the goodwill. Whatever it is, you're not going to miss it and it's replaceable anyway.
Wonderful video as always!! I am the ADHD one in our house but I am also the one that cleans so that's fun. My husband gripes at me every time I want to rearrange a room because he is very much a leave it alone person when it comes to that. I can now insist that it's saving him money so thanks for the tip!! Congrats on 100,000+ subs. It's a well deserved and earned honor and I'm proud and thankful to be one of the now many! PS. I need one of those bottle openers for my parents. My mom has a similar wooden statue that she keeps in the living room. She made a little dress and bonnet to put on it so you don't know what it is until you strip it because now she has grandchildren (apparently scaring HER children was acceptable but not the grandbabies). That would match it perfectly!!
My husband is a hoarder but I'm more of a minimalist. Opposite attract right! Not to say that it is an easy path in life but after 45 years and many heated arguments we have reached an understanding. I love clean and one of the easy ways for me to accomplish clean is to change things up. In the change process I get to organize him a little better. He sells on Amazon and at comic cons. So often I find boxes with one little toy in it. I consolidate and label, which he likes but won't admit to me. But I can take a huge pile and condense it into 2 or 3 boxes. I can organize a whole shelf unit leaving 2 or 3 shelves empty creating new space for him to hoard on to. I recently "remodeled" the guest bedroom. Which opened up to a clean open room for our grandsons to visit. We have 9 grandsons who love their Papa. When he made one of his grumpy comments, I replied that it was awesome that he was able to make room for his grandsons in his home and life. He stopped.
I am so grateful and honored that you are willing to show your own house and that you are open about your own struggles and challenges! I appreciate so your approach and and enjoy your sharing and the education that you do about various issues (autism, ADHD, hoarding etc) and that you help us to understand issues.
Congratulations on 100K!! I totally dig your videos, how you rib on Jason, the way you explain things, how you help people and have so much compassion for them! And you make me genuinely LOL with all the references!! Great job and thanks for the entertainment and tips!!
Wow, I think you just helped me realize what my son has! He uses things and just doesn’t put them back where they go. But he doesn’t see it like that at all. It’s not clutter to him but to me it does. Now watching your videos especially with this one I feel bad when I would tell him to straighten something up or put that away. I’m a very compassionate Mom and now I realize what he has been going through. Just telling him to “clean his room” doesn’t register with him like other people and I thank you for this!!❤️
Thank you! Now I understand why my granddaughter is the way she is. I alway “help” her clean her room. I clean her room and it’s frustrating because she finds other things to do like watch Facebook or you tube etc. now I can approach it differently and suggest we take each section one at a time and rest. She is 25 and has ADHD and is depressed. Wish me luck. Betty
I’ve got ADHD and I’m sure you will remember me saying that I am a professional cleaner in Australia but I’m originally from MD. I find reshuffling furniture is a really good way to deep clean, do a de cluttering and freshen up a space. I’m a bit OCD as well and it drives me crazy to have things on the floors. I like my tv to be on a wall, no baskets around even though I like how they look in others houses, dishes in the sink will set me off. I’m recently single after almost 20 years and I’ve been able to have things sorted. I also will leave NyQuil on my bedside table after I’m better lol
Yes you made it!!! Congratulations! Your videos have kicked me in the butt to start deep cleaning my almost hoarder house. With 3 cats and a Pomeranian I totally get the 10 gallons of pet hair! 🤣 I love your humor, your explanations of what/why/how you do something while cleaning and how sweet and caring you are to help those who need the help cleaning. Again congrats and hope you make gold my the end of this year! 🧹🧼🧽🧴
I have adhd i have always gotten overwhelmed with simple tasks... like homework when I was in school, editing videos, cleaning my house. I actually do what he explained in the video, I do little tasks at a time. for example, ill separate my kitchen into multiple parts and clean one part, take a break, clean another part, take a break and ill do that throughout my home. I'm a single mom so I do all the cleaning myself and I found this helps me with feeling overwhelmed.
Watching from Washington State, again. Glad to see this video. I watched last week’s hoarder clean, and the whole time I watched I had the strangest feeling about the house. Now I know what it was . . . . the ADHD. It would be interesting to hear what their feelings were about your clean/organize style. Maybe it took them by surprise. I appreciate your perspective of “humanness” of ADHD. Anyway, thank you again for an informative video this week regarding ADHD. I think you see yourself as impatient when it comes to getting things done, yet you “know” people. That’s why you have a heart of gold and can “patiently” help people. Plus, if you have been married to someone with ADHD for a length of time, I’m sure you’ve gone through a learning curve just like so many other couples. Such is life. Also, so glad to hear you talk so lovingly about Jason. 😊
Where to start...so sorry you're cleaning job fell through. But we all get this awesome video so for me a win! I live in a small space and deal with some of the same issues you were talking about so I get it. I also have animals and tons of hair throughout the house. The epic Jason battle was mind blowing, literally mind blown. Then to see the silver plaque. Awesome!
I think I have a little ADHD…just never a great student because we moved a lot and didn’t get the help I needed from my parents to learn to read . I do remember attending a useless Catholic school where some of the nuns were abusive to add to my stress rather than really help me. One even told my entire class that I was retarded which was really hurtful. Instead of being messy though, I constantly keep things spare and in order and clean often but not compulsively. Everyone is different I guess and we just have to be kind and understanding.
And to think you're coming up on 300k in less than 2k now!! I'm so glad to have found your channel, I've learned so much and I'm so ready for more spinkicks and nickname origin stories!
Congratulations on the plaque! Thanks for the videos. The content you make shows how to keep going on a deep clean. I retired early last year and the goal this winter was a total house deep clean. I was thinking I would need to hire another person to help move and clean the rooms but you doing super dirty houses gave me the idea to give it a shot. The house is clean and back to the projects in the house. It was not that bad if you take breaks and keep focus at the task in front of you. This spring/summer is the garage cleaning. Keep up the great work!
Wow ! Congratulations ! 🎉👏 I am SO honored to have been watching as you received the "black box" and to have witnessed the Un-Boxing of your UA-cam award . tbh, I expected you to do a spin-kick and just launch that baby right up on the wall ..oh, well , maybe for the next award . As a parent, I really appreciate how you let Jason know who's the boss ! Thank You for your enlightened analysis of ADHD...I used to be a neat-freak , I even cleaned houses on the weekends (after my 40+ hr. a week job ) then I was in a very bad car accident ( caused by a 101 yr. old man) I've been through several major spine surgeries (told I'd never walk again & spend the rest of my life in a wheelchair ! ) I worked real hard to get outta that wheelchair & now I'm walking & swimming again ! but I developed "Adult-Onset ADD " and it's been hard to keep up with ... everything ! I'm still as smart as I was , I just get distracted easily & lose track of time . Watching your channel has motivated me & has helped make cleaning fun again ! If you can clean houses 10 times messier than mine - that gives me hope that I can get mine done, eventually. What has helped me most is your advise NOT to think about the entire space, but to just focus on cleaning ONE thing, like the table, then use it to set up my cleaning supplies . If you need a Vacation (which you deserve !) or to "Celebrate your Award" I'm in the Wine Country of California ! Would love to let you spin-kick the bajeebers outta my place ( you can even bring Jason , if you must ! ) Congrats again ! ! 🎉 🌟 ▶️ 🏆 🎊 🎈 🥳 👏 🥂 😊
Your sense of humor just cracks me up! Thanks for all of the awesome videos - I find them motivating and I learn things which makes cleaning more enjoyable and effective.
Love what you did with the plaque! You may have heard me screaming from across the country, "Your back! Your back! Your back!" when I saw you moving the cabinet!! And ... I may have spent a crazy 60 seconds searching for the bottle opener.
So glad to hear you proudly display that bottle opener. We have a few head-scratchers in our home too, and I think it's nice to just think yeah, I have that, so what?
Silly Jason and his misplaced spin kicks! No wonder he's been off his groove for the last month or so, lol. Love the freshly rearranged room! I'll be doing this in my own home soon enough, and I look forward to the new results. Neurodivergence is a strange thing. My hubby is on the autism spectrum and while he's the most brilliant, intelligent, clever person I've ever met, he's a complete clutter magnet. With a few exceptions (like his tools), he'll leave stuff out everywhere and not think twice about it. It drives me crazy! I will show him some of your cleaning videos. From one neurodivergent to another, maybe something will click about bringing order out of chaos. Congratulations on the plaque! It looks good on your wall.
I love the color scheme of your house. Really appreciate the tips in this video. I like to help clean my friend's house every couple of months when I visit them, and definitely employ cleaning one section as I go so I don't get overwhelmed.
Oh my gracious. Your explanations, information, have cleared up some questions for me. As far as behaviors regarding ADHD. Our youngest son, (adopted diagnosed at birth as fetal alcohol syndrome). So very precious. Now 32. We raised him and loved him with all of our heart. Doing the best we knew how without any knowledge or training. He is living on the streets by his own choice. I am praying daily for him and hoping he comes home. Then maybe I could do better. 🤗😉🤔
My husband is ADHD, I believe I have those tendencies, and we work a LOT of hours. Sometimes I am just overwhelmed. If I give him a list he’s really good at doing it but cannot think of things that need to be done on his own. I try so hard to be understanding and some days I’m just SO exhausted. You explained it perfectly! Love your vids Mr. Pumpernickel. 😂😂😂
Maybe post a list of daily and weekly cleaning tasks you can even put monthly if you want if you put them in a page protector you can use a wet or dry erase marker to check them off.
Congratulations on your plaque, you deserve it. I absolutely love your channel and watch some videos several times. You have explained so much and helped me understand autism and ADHD. I've always thought and been told I have OCD because I need to clean first then do what I was planning. Crooked picture frames drive me crazy and I have to fix them even at dr's offices or someone's home. I have also started saying, "suck it!" Thank you so much for your all you do.
Your description of how you see ADHD affect your living space was so on point and let me know I’m not just some lazy guy. My place is driving me nuts. But I keep everything out as some kind of visual reminder of something to do or whatever. Then I’m completely overwhelmed by all the clutter. I’ve had people suggest “break it down into small steps” but that was still too overwhelming. The idea you provided to choose a table top and set a timer may very well revolutionize my life. Thank you so much!! On a side note, do you have a favorite Xbox game you play? I play Destiny 2 primarily.
I have ADHD too. The small steps didnt work until i started making lists to follow. So instead of going into the kitchen and just trying a bit, i make a list and do it in that order. Example: 1) wash 10 dishes, 2) clean off the stove, 3) clean off 1/2 the counter. I do it in exacts so i have a start and a stop point, i have a list so if I get distracted i can come back to it, and crossing things off makes your brain happy. I hope this might help
That silver play button is a beauty! ETA-I have ADHD and I’m notorious for leaving crap everywhere. If I don’t see it, I’m afraid I’ll forget that I have it. I’m also great at starting multiple projects at once and not finishing any of them!Suck it! 😂
I also have autism, and it took me a long time to figure that out. My house was always a mess, but slowly over the years i have found ways to cope with the cleaning and with either doing too much or too little that caused me to get overwhelmed either way (not doing enough, or doing way too much ) And what you said about taking it one spot/area at a time or just doing something for 5-10 mins is something i have learned along the way. My house still ins't the "picture perfect catalog home" but, it works for me, and i am keeping up with the cleaning mostly. Having a somewhat orderly/clean house also helps with my mind being able to relax. Thank you so much for these video's, i enjoy watching very much! Much love from The Netherlands!
Crazy insane, or insane crazy? LOL (Eminem reference- sorry not sorry-I can't have a conversation without dropping references to *something* LOL). I am so glad you finally got your plaque! I love watching your videos, and hearing your commentary. My house is teeming with ADHD and ASD folks and I love that you get us. Funnily enough, I've been working on my bedroom and other spaces to scratch my "new and shiny things!" itch without adding to the clutter. Anyway- thanks for all you do! ETA: When my St Bernard and super shedder cat were still with us I would vacuum daily and fill the vacuum at least twice as I went through the house, so I believe it that you had that much fur! Vacuuming it all up is SO satisfying!
Congratulations…your uniqueness & comic presentation is what makes your channel appealing to us. Beside giving us a window to see what is for most others something we take for granted, can be very challenging for those with ADHD, social disorders or even fatigue. For me it’s simple inspiration.. it’s not everyday to see a guy clean houses.. hoarder home for that matter … and for FREE!?! Your awesome!
My boyfriend has ADD. I call the clutter piles his 'first flat space filing system'. It drives me bonkers. He's great at doing a thing when I can focus him on a task. I've tried the 5 minute thing but he's better at doing a single corner or a single task. I find that he literally doesn't remember a pile unless he's actually looking at it. Pile of water bottles by his bed. Pile of mail that needs to be shredded. I've had a giant planter box sitting in the living room for 3 weeks waiting for it to get warm enough to plant stuff. It mocks me daily as spring just gets pushed back yet another week. I mentioned it the other day and he had no clue what I was talking about. Thanks for you videos, they've helped me figure out a better way to tackle cleaning. Plus I play one as I go along for motivation...I am not up for spin kicks yet though
I have ADHD, my husband is autistic and our son is both. We make this work ;) But the timer and small section advice is on point. It's the only way I can keep things functionally clean around here. I have been teaching my boy to confront his school work the same way, followed by a spin kick to demonstrate maximum effort. The trick works, and breaking big tasks down is alot less frustrating. Kudos again, but quit moving heavy stuff around like a turd. Get some damn help ;p
My house is neat and tidy, no clutter, if I take something out, I put it back immediately after I use it. If I spill something I clean it up right away. If I don't wear, touch, or use something once in 365 days it outta here. I never walk from one end of the house to the other without a damp cloth in my hand because I dust continuously. Yet I get lots of flack about me being obsessive about neatness, so no matter if you're messy or neat someone will find fault with you. Ya just can't win.
I realise I’m you in my own relationship. I’m autistic and my partner is ADHD I’m forever trying to keep on top of the chaotic world he lives in 🥴 I’m pretty often going around constantly trying to make life easier for us both to function 😅 it can be frustrating and exhausting sometimes but after 10 years we are gradually getting there 💪🏼 Btw I need you to start doing T-shirts and merchandise with “so suck it” on soon it will save me having to speak 🤣
You nailed it for me, turning chaos into order calms me down. I do have this bad habit though of transferring the mess. Cleaning one space and transferring the mess to another room. Then by the time I clean the messy room, all the others are a mess again and I have to start all over.😮
Nice job! I just gutted my mom's room while she was out of town took me a whole day took everything out scrubbed the walls cause she smokes cigarettes then painted the ceiling cleaned everything she had and put it all back I was super worn out lol
I really like seeing you do your home. I’m like your wife, just changing a room around, a good cleaning, etc makes it feel all new. It makes a huge difference to see that you’re a “normal” family just like most of us with kids, pets and everyday clutter. I’d love to see videos of you focusing on a room in your house too. I have 5 cats and 2 dogs and had to chuckle about the pet hair. It’s a real struggle to keep up with that each day but if you don’t you’re likely to find a new pet of hair roll out somewhere. You’re awesome as is Jason!
Dear Mr. Pumpernickel, I found your insights on the manifestations of potential ADHD very interesting. Your compassionate approach is also impressive, and a huge factor in the channel's success, I'd bet. Through professional and personal experience you seem to have mastered the art of 'reading' a house without having even met its occupants. Your observations about the bottle of cough mixture left on the bedside table made me laugh out loud, as my dad is totally one of those cases. As a younger man he co-founded and ran a very successful engineering business, and, looking back, I don't know how he overcame his extreme ADHD in order to make that happen. He's always helped out a lot with chores and cleaning, but equally created chaos and hazards in and outside the house! The stuff on his side table goes back to the cretaceous period. He can muddle a room in a very short time, and has never been able to throw things away properly; they always come back, or end up outside the door for eons, going moldy! He's incredibly skilled, and can turn his hand to almost anything, but never completes one job before moving on to the next 'project'. I've never understood it fully until watching this, as you have such a practical understanding of the 'disorder'. I follow Dr. Gabor Maté's work, and recently learned that what we call 'ADHD' is likely an early-life coping strategy, which over time, solidifies in to an apparent character trait - which psychologists have labeled attention deficit. Sorry for waffling on, but I find it all very interesting, as I have similar such tendencies myself, which I continue to fight. I'm a perfectionist, and your idea of cleaning specific areas only, thereby doing a room a little at a time has been really useful, as what it's meant in the past has been either cleaning a whole room to gold standard or sitting in a sh*thole for months, thinking about cleaning it to gold standard! Congrats on your lovely new plaque, btw. Looks great in that frame, but it's going to look just as good as a medallion one day!
It's nice to see that someone who does so much cleaning doesn't live in a spotless home. Thanks for keeping it real. 💯
That's normal I think, like if you worked st a chippy you wouldn't wanna come home and cook a buttload of chips lol
The cobbler’s children have no shoes. As the saying goes.
My sister had major surgery last week so I stayed at her house to help her heal and take care of things. While I was cleaning her oven, every time I got a big section clean I would say “suck it!” So satisfying. 😅
I'm going to have to try that! LOL 😂 for real!
This is my new plan for tackling my junk room. SUCK IT!!!
I had to comment to say that I have severe ADHD, and one "hack" that works for me is body doubling - having another person in the room; not necessarily conversing, but just someone there. I have found that your videos work as an excellent "body double", especially in the evenings after my kiddo is in bed, Mr. Hubs has gone to work, and it's time for me to tackle the kitchen 😂
I thought it was just me. I am so much more motivated and less overwhelmed when someone is around. I'll try watching these videos.
The body-double technique seems to be the only thing that helps me get things accomplished...it's like a magical key that unlocks my brain!!
I seem to be the opposite, I get too distracted.
I use his videos for the same thing! I get my dishes done while watching his videos😊
I wish I wasn't so far from my friends.
Thank you for describing ADHD a little and how we struggle with "easy" things. We know we need to do them, but physically, we can't make ourselves do it. It's very mentally exhausting
Exactly 😊
My husband OCD. I have ADHD. We've had... conflicts in the past. But this morning, he was listening to this video as I watched it, and he said: Suddenly so much about you makes sense.
Thank you for these videos.
I can relate so much! I have OCD too and grew up in a very messy home. My mom has a mental illness and just wasn't able to do better. I cleaned all the time but it would go back to being messy within days. I was frustrated a lot and just couldn't sympathize. These videos show me that she did her best.
Im single but I have adhd and ocd. So I just have those conflicts with myself 😭
Enjoyed watching this again in real time while you described the traits of someone with ADHD. I'm an old woman now and when I was growing up kids were labeled as either good or bad. They didn't have a medical diagnosis for possible or probable conditions. In fact, if you were depressed many times the community would say you were demon possessed!
I can remember as a child when I would clean house for my mom, I would move furniture (like dining room table chairs) and align them in rows. I always thought that was the coolest thing to line them up in rows in an adjacent room while sweeping and mopping the floor in the dining room. I would proceed to pretend the rows were either bus seats or seats in a classroom and continue to play as I worked cleaning.
Even now that I am grown and have grandchildren, I still move everything out of a room and clean it from a "move in" perspective. I love to move the furniture around and rearrange everything when I clean. Like you described, even though it is the same furniture, the same house, and same room, it all feels fresh and new. My husband has often told his family that if he is gone for more than a few hours the whole house will be rearranged when he gets home. I'm a petite woman who is impatient and determined so if I want something moved, I will slide and shimmy even a large piece of furniture a little at a time until I get it to the place in the room where I want it. That's just how I roll...So suck it!!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
That's how I am too! My roommate is a trucker and is only home 4 days a month, but I will have rearranged the apartment 3x while she's been gone 😆
Years ago, when I changed things around periodically,I remember hearing, that anyone who did this would never had a nervous break down. So I figured, I was saving myself. 😉
Congratulations for you UA-cam plaque, you deserve It!
I'm addicted to your videos!
I love this! I do the same. Nothing is where it's "supposed to be" but it is still in the house. 😂
You go, girl! Always be you!
1. CONGRATULATIONS!
2. I love it when 2 neuro-divergent people come together with love and acceptance, and just make it work.
As an ADHD person myself (and a sped teacher who teaches this kind of task management all the time), the timer is a GREAT idea. Especially when pairing it with breaking up the task into chunks. I'd add 3 more tips. 1. Set timers for your breaks as well. 2. Try and race the timer and 3. Limit what areas you're allowed to clean.
Time your breaks so you don't wnd up on a 3 hour break. Race the timer to add fun and excitement to the task, and limit the room so you don't take something to the bathroom to put it away and end up mopping the floor in there rather than finishing the room your working on.
I’m autistic and have adhd, and your videos help me get my cleaning done!
Yes, I am suspicious that I’m right there with you. My hubs has some serious health issues that are in line ahead of my diagnosis, but I make a mess, it drives me crazy, I clean it, rinse, repeat. So both of MMC home in one head😂😂
Do you also hide things and forget where or is that just me?
And I love to rearrange, too, lol. The same view bugs me after a while. Other folks seem to think that’s weird, so…
I'm not autistic but he is helping me get my cleaning done too!!!
I love your videos, they inspire me! When I was a child with ADD their was no medication just beatings at school and home, now at 67 I try to do too many things at one time plus work a full time job still, scared to retire! I was able to rearrange things in my kitchen because of you! Thank you so much! Friend 😊 👍👍👍
Liking new things is, I would say, definitely something with ADHD. We like to seek novelty (because dopamine). Being tidy has never come naturally to me, and ADHD paralysis is the worst. Thank you for all you do.
Here we are... looking on the shelves for that bottle opener! You sir, are the most real thing on the internet, and we're here for it! We are weirdos too, for sure. Congrats on the 100k plaque and it looks pretty awesome on your wall! Can't wait for more from you.
I never did find it 😅😂I don’t know why I was looking either. It’s not like I’ve never seen one 😅
It’s on top of the stack of books below the giraffe - 2nd row middle shelf
@Hazel D I give up.. still did not see it! Lol
@@blessedbrandi It is on top of some stacked books in the right side cubby that’s above the three widest undivided shelves.
You know, a couple does what works for them. In my case, my partner, he works and pays bills and I do the cleaning, stock the house, run errands and cook. Some may not agree but we’ve been together 13 years and two grown kids later, through trial and error - it works and we’re happy with it. I think it’s great that you have such an ability to learn and understand others needs! 90% of mankind do not have that desire or compassion and I think it’s so important💕✝️🙋🏻♀️
that worked for us...same exact thing....BUT when he retired and kept up the same pattern (doing nothing in the home) it became a BIG problem.
Well said!
@@pamelajackson2383 I hear ya but my partner has a lot of hobbies he does at home. We are together a lot but are doing our own things if that makes sense. Things change but you just have to change together and just keep trying. Some couples are happier going their separate ways though but are still friends. 💕
Same here Jess, 40 years his job brought in money, my job + 5 kids kept every single thing runny smoothly. He retired and because we like different food, he cleaned up after his cooking and I after mine. I still did everything else. We parted at 43 years, for different reasons. I considered my contribution a job too and I took it very seriously. He never had to worry about, bills, lawn mowing, absolutely nothing.
To Dee: WOW! I’m speechless. 43 years, then see ya!?!? I sincerely hope you are doing well in your life now. I hope that it helped that you took care of the “home front” all those years; had to be to your advantage. No sarcasm, just . . . . . speechless. I was married for 23 years and then parted with my ex, and at a younger age, I was still shattered. It’s taken me a few years to see my own way in life, yet I finally figured it out. Best to you!!
As someone who has Autism and ADHD, Dana K White youtube videos has been making a huge difference for me and my house. Her decluttering and organizing systems are like specifically designs for ADHD. It is a slow process, but as I declutter and clean each room, it has been fairly easy for my husband and I to maintain. Still have about half the house to go and the yard to do in spring, but my stress levels have decreased quite a bit.
Love her too! She's awesome.
Keep up the good work! You’re awesome and you’re taking steps to improve your surroundings. And you have support💕
thank you for recommending dana k white. i hadn't heard of her before today, but her videos look really relevant to my needs. 😊
a link would have been great. hopefully i can find her!
@@lurklingX youtube.com/@DanaKWhite?si=Jh_2YQ33eOp2N_dp
A few things I've learned with ADHD - don't put it down, put it away. Make a ritual with steps to complete.
But also, I've found that your channel works as body doubling and motivates me to start cleaning just by watching. 🎉
Also, you saying, "don't keep something just because it's useful" was life changing. So I've started purging stuff I shouldn't really keep. Thank you so much!
The other thing with ADHD that happens is ‘I can’t see it, therefore it doesn’t exist.’ I have to keep my day planner open next to my keyboard or I completely forget to use it. I find that organizing things so I can see exactly what’s there helps keep the chaos at bay. It also keeps me from repurchasing things I already have 😅
Congrats on the plaque!
YES. I think people with ADHD (or even hoarding tendencies) use their eyes as a kind of mental memory index. Out of sight is quite literally out of mind. I think that's why they react so poorly to cleaning, especially hoarders. If something is thrown out, it's like you've erased part of their past.
My husband is bipolar and adhd. My son is autistic……I’m screwed🤦🏽♀️. I’m still waiting for you to drop kick Jason. Congratulations on your UA-cam plaque. You’ve earned it buddy.
Thank you so much for explaining ADHD. I would never have guessed that's what I have, but I am exactly like your wife. I always leave out stuff that I use close at hand and then it just piles up and before long I have piles of crap everywhere. I know in my head that I need to clean it up and put it away, but when I look at the piles I just get so overwhelmed that I shut down and say I'll do it later. I've been told all my life that I'm just lazy and so I have a very low opinion of myself and have depression. Your videos have really inspired me to do more cleaning. I have really bad arthritis so I can't stand for more than a couple of minutes, but I have been trying to clean at least one thing a day. Congratulations on the plaque, you so deserve it!
I was recently diagnosed and this just confirms and explains my entire life. I experienced the same as you, thought I was lazy and down on myself. Now that we know we, can heal❤
Yup!
Look deeper, that is not the full spectrum of ADHD and more like ADD. Apparently one is not hyperactive if they are an inactive person.
@@jafleetwood9714 my official dx was ADD.
I’m right with you. My home is a hot mess! I’m a retired nurse because I have a rare type of arthritis and moving is really hard. I have so much stuff that I really need to decrease but it’s gotten as far as my living room and my kitchen. Piles all around. Not safe for navigating. Not a hoarder yet but definitely have some tendencies. I’m working towards doing a move my bedroom around.
Lining up the sweet potatoes, rearranging them, putting them in order. I never knew sweet potatoes should be in orderly rows. Lol. Congrats on your UA-cam plaque. I want to see your son's friends all gathered around it crying.
Congratulations on your plaque! To clarify, I don’t watch you because I like cleaning videos, I watch because you are hilarious 😂😂😂. The bonus is that you give some really great cleaning tips 👍
This is exactly why I watch as well 😊.
Same here.
Same 😂
I just found his videos because I need motivation to clean, but I subscribed because I want to see him wear that plaque as a necklace! 😂
I've always loved rearranging rooms to get the feel of new, but that is the perfect time to clean under and around things, too! Those little plastic sliders you can place under the legs of furniture will save your back when you have a cleaning frenzy, I have found. Congratulations on the plaque!
ADHD WOMAN HERE
LOL my husband and I are this same combo of autism and ADHD. I need a list to get anything done. Definitely the hardest thing for me has been learning to clean one space at a time and not wander off. Like I'd start cleaning the kitchen, go to put something away in the office, find something that needed to be cleaned in the office, go to get a trash bag, realize I needed to organize the cleaning supplies... NO! That's how you end up with a 20% clean kitchen and a 13% clean office and a 4% clean house.
Dealing with the other person's cleaning style is tough too. My husband used to get really upset with my messiness, and his cleaning obsession made me so anxious. I remember having a SUPER direct conversation with him where I was like "Look, I am who I am, I'm comfortable with it. You need to be aware that the effort I'm putting in is because it's out of love FOR YOU, so quit being a jerk if it's not the way you want it." I don't think it had ever occurred to him that there was more than one level of organization that a person could be happy with. We've been married for fifteen years now, and I think we've reached a good midway point between his ideal and mine.
Ok first
that vent behind the tv has to be cleaned it demolished my ADHD 😂
Second
My nephew has autism (that’s why we as a family started following your channel) he loves to clean! Laundry is his main thing. But it’s so amazing to me how differently it is with each person. His apartment (my sister converted her entire downstairs for him) is minimalist to a fault. You could literally eat off his floors
He could never function in a space with so much stuff. He can’t have carpet (it drives him crazy) the uneven curtains etc he would insist those be changed. But, he is also non verbal. (Sign language is his way of communicating with very few actual spoken words) being ADHD your channel / videos is what I watch to relax.
I want to say thank you for sharing your life with us and showing people that autism doesn’t mean something bad…. You are opening a lot of people’s eyes about autism and the fact that it doesn’t always mean someone can’t live a normal life.
Same for me on the vent!! 😅
I was yelling at the tv, "clean the vent! clean the vent!'
@@lariette856 haha! SAME
@@AmythefirstA he is 😊
I love your cleaning content, but I LOVE your commentary even more 😂 thank you for being you.
Also, I so appreciate you leaving in the sounds of cleaning, instead of covering it up with music.
Hey Bud Pumpernickle!! You're so much like me. My daughter, 32, moving out soon has hoarding issues. I recently discovered she has "adult female ADHD", which explains so much as to why she never cleans up after herself. She is also on the autism spectrum. I just found out that I have a few autistic traits as well. Turning "chaos into order" is how I operate daily too. I also clean until the job is complete even if it takes me 14 hours. Proud to be a Midwest Magic Cleaning weirdo!! 😂 Love the plaque set up too. After photo of bedroom is perfect!! 👍👍👍👍
Been more of a silent watcher but: I have ADHD, I've struggled all my life keeping things tidy - it was never dirty in my room when I was a child but always messy because I would keep leaving things where I used them/just put them anywhere. It dragged all the way through to adulthood. I am now almost 29 and finally got control over it, it takes a lot of dedication. We ADHDers often get a nightly burst of energy (mine come around 10pm) and I use those, to clean and tidy up. I'm nowhere near as messy as I used to be as a child but it took me a long time to figure that part out.
Your videos are motivating me to get up and do something whenever I am watching, after I wrote this I will probably go do the laundry and dust and put the last things away after moving lol.
That being said, for the fellow ADHDers: Don't beat yourself up if you can't keep it tidy, if you truly need it to change, do it step by step, room by room or even just area by area. Clean homes also help the ADHD mind.
Thanks for your videos :)
I too am struggling with ADD, and get my energy burst around 9 -11 p.m.
Congrats on your plaque, Bud Pumpernickle! 😜 I’m happy for you.
When I first came upon your channel I watched because I too enjoy cleaning videos. I stayed because you made me smile. I Subscribed because you have an honest, simple, eloquent way of sharing wisdom that just makes the world a better place.
I believe you will get that Gold Plaque and also believe that you deserve it. Thanks for being you and sharing your spin kicking awesome self with the world. Peace ☺️✌️❤️✨
I just recently found out I have ADHD. The cleaning method you described is EXACTLY how I have to clean.
The ADHD chaos is real. You made a great point about their apparent thought process. I share a desk and try to explain that desk tops are for current work. Stuff is supposed to come and go, not come and stay. Except for the drawers, stuff is supposed to stay where it belongs.
That's kinda hilarious, because for myself as the ADHD person, I am super aware of where stuff is piled on my work surfaces, but if something is put away in a drawer, I might never think of it again. I need my functional chaos area.
@@gillianwinzinger9558 I so get that! That’s why my desk is a mess. If I don’t have things in plain sight, I forget about them. I realize that people who don’t have ADHD logically think that we could just stack papers neatly in plain sight- but to us, the papers under the top paper….we forget about about them because our minds are going in so many different directions
@@gillianwinzinger9558 this is why there are labels, IN and OUT boxes, folders, files.
Your way only you know that the 1998 truck paperwork is buried under the pile with the blue stressball on top because Larry stresses you out and 1998 is the first time you remember being really stressed out. The organized way, anyone can open the vehicle maintenance file and quickly determine if the vehicles information is sorted by date of manufacture, purchase year, assigned driver, color etc.
Clutter is a whole other story.
I stock pens etc. They disappear because the pen holder is only half used. ADHD brain "I need a pen, pen holder!" Once the writing is done ADHD brain "I need this thing, let me put it where it definitely won't be forgotten in the next minute and not that silly pen holder!"
I'm not saying it's bad or wrong, I'm saying it's ineffective, inefficient and sometimes infuriating when someone else has to work with or around it.
@@valeriethomas4168 yes, and there's a limit. I've collated stacks of orders and invoice copies over YEARS. From a single desk. 3 year old invoice copies do not belong on a desk unless there's an audit.
Dude, you are so spot on talking about how when one person does the cleaning, the partner just lets them and they allow themselves to become untidy. In two marriages and now sharing apt with my older brother, i have always been the cleaner upper while the others would just trash the house while smirking "well you've got to clean up anyway" ... leaving even more work for me to do while they go their merry way having fun. It's infuriating.
Congrats on the Play button, you absolutely deserve it!! I find it really comforting to know that even folks whose job it is to clean can have household clutter that looks like mine, haha. Props to you making an effort to research and understand your wife's thought process instead of just blaming her, even if it is frustrating. Your thoughtfulness and patience when it comes to mental barriers and differences in brain function is wonderful to see, and I hope the world is kind to you in return!
My husband has ADD, and has both hoarding tendencies and the tendency to take advantage of my cleaning abilities. If he uses the last of something, he will put the empty container/packaging at my place at the kitchen table or on my end table in the living room so that I can throw it away, rather than him throwing it away. If I clean and organize a messy area in the house and get rid of the "junk" there, he will fill it back up with stuff. So I completely understand living with someone with ADD/ADHD.
Oh friend I soooooo get what you mean!! I could never keep clean & clear surfaces with my last husband. If he saw a clear surface something inside would say "yay, a nice clear spot to drop junk onto".
With my brother .. I cleared & cleaned one of the kitchen counters and was feeling really good about it .. he came in and with the saddest expression commented "the counter .. it looks so .. empty" I said "yeah ain't it great!" but he just sadly shook his head.
The counter is no longer clear or clean .. and it drives me insane. 😖
I have a lot of thank yous for you, but I will stick with these big 2 for today. First, I am an over cleaner to soothe my anxieties. But, now I am 70 years old and additionally have long haul Covid and do not have the stamina I used to have. I was getting so frustrated that I could no longer clean for hours at a time. I learned from you to clean for 50 minutes and break for 10. That has been so helpful. Also I break the cleaning down into smaller tasks. That way if my fatigue overwhelms me I have at least accomplished a portion of my overall job. It has nothing to do with ADHD, it has to do with health and age. Thank you for being the voice of reason for me. And also, I just enjoy your videos so darn much! I wish I was younger and could spin kick the dirt off!
I watch your videos because I love to clean, but because of my age and health I can no longer do so like I would like to do. I truly miss doing detail cleaning. Watching your videos is so satisfying and fulfilling. Thank you!
Having a son with ADHD and Autism didn't seem a problem with cleanliness when he was younger as he kept his room clean and tidy but for some reason as an adult, still living with us, when it came time for house inspections, seeing inside his room literally made me want to cry.
I love the carefull, symmetrical arrangement of the potatoes. 😂 I can totally relate.
Happy you upload Saturday nights. Right now I'm dog sitting for my sister and we're all just chilling bored af lol.
I’m at work trying to get ahead for next week. So I hear you!! Love that I have something new to watch!!
I think I love you. I don’t know about being autistic or being ADHD. I get overwhelmed with my own house but when my hubby steps in I get defensive. I have a 4 and 6 year old and know I should let him help cause sometimes I just can’t keep up. It would be nice to have someone like you to come help organize but I’m just to far away. We moved houses almost two years ago and still haven’t unpacked a lot of our stuff. The kids are our grandkids and when we moved here they weren’t supposed to be our entire responsibility but they are, including homeschooling. Just want to let you know that finding your channel has given me inspiration and I get your wired sense of humor.
I have ADHD as well. Since clutter overwhelms me, I have to put things away immediately after I'm done with them, or they will sit out forever causing "paralysis" for me. I do have stacks of books, and magazines, by where I normally sit, because I read several things at a time, and it takes me awhile to finish one. I have found that making check lists helps to keep me on track, as well as verbally walking myself through tasks.
What a wonderful gift to surprise your wife with. You are amazing!
So happy for you Puffenstuff Flave, 100K is a huge achievement, well deserved.
My husband has ADHD and you nailed the description. My husband also relies on visual cues to remind him to do things, so he leaves everything out all the time. It used to drive me bananas but I'm pretty philosophical about it at this point. Congrats on the milestone and for bringing order out of chaos - I am indeed one of the weirdos who need that.
Congratulations!!!!! So proud of you for your plaque🥰 now you have to make longer and more videos because that’s proof right there that we just can’t get enough of ya💕✝️🙋🏻♀️
So suck up and get those videos rolling! Congratulations on your plaque. Watching for a couple weeks now. Waiting for that motivation to kick in. ❤️👍👍👍👍👍👍❤️
@@billrobbins5874 try spin kicking a pile in the room you have to clean- sometimes that helps🤭
@@jessgenesis1 thank you, will try. At 67, hope nothing will be dislocated. 😳🤢
Dude you're a class act to be cleaning and helping people with Autism and ADHD you rock my guy you have such a big heart and thanks for bringing awareness to this situation such as Autism and you being transparent blessings 🙌
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I move my furniture around in my living room at least 4 times a year, and I get that wonderful feeling of it’s a new room. And clean it at the same time. Love your work. Have a nice weekend.
I love the feeling of a deep clean/rearranging because it feels like a fresh start. Double bonus points if donating excess clutter to the goodwill. Whatever it is, you're not going to miss it and it's replaceable anyway.
Wonderful video as always!! I am the ADHD one in our house but I am also the one that cleans so that's fun. My husband gripes at me every time I want to rearrange a room because he is very much a leave it alone person when it comes to that. I can now insist that it's saving him money so thanks for the tip!!
Congrats on 100,000+ subs. It's a well deserved and earned honor and I'm proud and thankful to be one of the now many!
PS. I need one of those bottle openers for my parents. My mom has a similar wooden statue that she keeps in the living room. She made a little dress and bonnet to put on it so you don't know what it is until you strip it because now she has grandchildren (apparently scaring HER children was acceptable but not the grandbabies). That would match it perfectly!!
My husband is a hoarder but I'm more of a minimalist. Opposite attract right! Not to say that it is an easy path in life but after 45 years and many heated arguments we have reached an understanding. I love clean and one of the easy ways for me to accomplish clean is to change things up. In the change process I get to organize him a little better. He sells on Amazon and at comic cons. So often I find boxes with one little toy in it. I consolidate and label, which he likes but won't admit to me. But I can take a huge pile and condense it into 2 or 3 boxes. I can organize a whole shelf unit leaving 2 or 3 shelves empty creating new space for him to hoard on to. I recently "remodeled" the guest bedroom. Which opened up to a clean open room for our grandsons to visit. We have 9 grandsons who love their Papa. When he made one of his grumpy comments, I replied that it was awesome that he was able to make room for his grandsons in his home and life. He stopped.
I am so grateful and honored that you are willing to show your own house and that you are open about your own struggles and challenges! I appreciate so your approach and and enjoy your sharing and the education that you do about various issues (autism, ADHD, hoarding etc) and that you help us to understand issues.
Wow! You did an impressive job! That hallway doesn't even look like the same house! Thank you!
I love your honesty. It is refreshing. No one "normal" lives perfectly. I enjoy you being human, like the rest of us.
Congratulations on 100K!! I totally dig your videos, how you rib on Jason, the way you explain things, how you help people and have so much compassion for them! And you make me genuinely LOL with all the references!! Great job and thanks for the entertainment and tips!!
Wow, I think you just helped me realize what my son has! He uses things and just doesn’t put them back where they go. But he doesn’t see it like that at all. It’s not clutter to him but to me it does. Now watching your videos especially with this one I feel bad when I would tell him to straighten something up or put that away. I’m a very compassionate Mom and now I realize what he has been going through. Just telling him to “clean his room” doesn’t register with him like other people and I thank you for this!!❤️
Thank you! Now I understand why my granddaughter is the way she is. I alway “help” her clean her room. I clean her room and it’s frustrating because she finds other things to do like watch Facebook or you tube etc. now I can approach it differently and suggest we take each section one at a time and rest. She is 25 and has ADHD and is depressed. Wish me luck. Betty
I’ve got ADHD and I’m sure you will remember me saying that I am a professional cleaner in Australia but I’m originally from MD. I find reshuffling furniture is a really good way to deep clean, do a de cluttering and freshen up a space. I’m a bit OCD as well and it drives me crazy to have things on the floors. I like my tv to be on a wall, no baskets around even though I like how they look in others houses, dishes in the sink will set me off. I’m recently single after almost 20 years and I’ve been able to have things sorted. I also will leave NyQuil on my bedside table after I’m better lol
Congratulations on the silver plaque You must be close to gold by now. What a mess in your bedroom but it was good to see how you cleaned it up.
Yes you made it!!! Congratulations! Your videos have kicked me in the butt to start deep cleaning my almost hoarder house. With 3 cats and a Pomeranian I totally get the 10 gallons of pet hair! 🤣 I love your humor, your explanations of what/why/how you do something while cleaning and how sweet and caring you are to help those who need the help cleaning. Again congrats and hope you make gold my the end of this year! 🧹🧼🧽🧴
While I'm watching your videos I clean my house better. Your are a bless. Thank you
Congratulations 🎊 👏 💐 🥳 🎊 👏 💐 Huge achievement, and you just keep growing! Bring on the gold ✨️ 💛
I have adhd i have always gotten overwhelmed with simple tasks... like homework when I was in school, editing videos, cleaning my house. I actually do what he explained in the video, I do little tasks at a time. for example, ill separate my kitchen into multiple parts and clean one part, take a break, clean another part, take a break and ill do that throughout my home. I'm a single mom so I do all the cleaning myself and I found this helps me with feeling overwhelmed.
Watching from Washington State, again. Glad to see this video. I watched last week’s hoarder clean, and the whole time I watched I had the strangest feeling about the house. Now I know what it was . . . . the ADHD. It would be interesting to hear what their feelings were about your clean/organize style. Maybe it took them by surprise. I appreciate your perspective of “humanness” of ADHD. Anyway, thank you again for an informative video this week regarding ADHD. I think you see yourself as impatient when it comes to getting things done, yet you “know” people. That’s why you have a heart of gold and can “patiently” help people. Plus, if you have been married to someone with ADHD for a length of time, I’m sure you’ve gone through a learning curve just like so many other couples. Such is life. Also, so glad to hear you talk so lovingly about Jason. 😊
You better ! We are learning.... Definitely thank you
Where to start...so sorry you're cleaning job fell through. But we all get this awesome video so for me a win! I live in a small space and deal with some of the same issues you were talking about so I get it. I also have animals and tons of hair throughout the house. The epic Jason battle was mind blowing, literally mind blown. Then to see the silver plaque. Awesome!
Yes! ADHD-ers LOVE novelty.
The furniture rearranging is so cathartic and refreshing
I think I have a little ADHD…just never a great student because we moved a lot and didn’t get the help I needed from my parents to learn to read . I do remember attending a useless Catholic school where some of the nuns were abusive to add to my stress rather than really help me. One even told my entire class that I was retarded which was really hurtful. Instead of being messy though, I constantly keep things spare and in order and clean often but not compulsively. Everyone is different I guess and we just have to be kind and understanding.
And to think you're coming up on 300k in less than 2k now!! I'm so glad to have found your channel, I've learned so much and I'm so ready for more spinkicks and nickname origin stories!
Congratulations on the plaque! Thanks for the videos. The content you make shows how to keep going on a deep clean. I retired early last year and the goal this winter was a total house deep clean. I was thinking I would need to hire another person to help move and clean the rooms but you doing super dirty houses gave me the idea to give it a shot. The house is clean and back to the projects in the house. It was not that bad if you take breaks and keep focus at the task in front of you. This spring/summer is the garage cleaning. Keep up the great work!
Your videos are the best! Congratulations on your UA-cam success and all of the great work you have done for others!!
Wow ! Congratulations ! 🎉👏 I am SO honored to have been watching as you received the "black box" and to have witnessed the Un-Boxing of your UA-cam award . tbh, I expected you to do a spin-kick and just launch that baby right up on the wall ..oh, well , maybe for the next award . As a parent, I really appreciate how you let Jason know who's the boss ! Thank You for your enlightened analysis of ADHD...I used to be a neat-freak , I even cleaned houses on the weekends (after my 40+ hr. a week job ) then I was in a very bad car accident ( caused by a 101 yr. old man) I've been through several major spine surgeries (told I'd never walk again & spend the rest of my life in a wheelchair ! ) I worked real hard to get outta that wheelchair & now I'm walking & swimming again ! but I developed "Adult-Onset ADD " and it's been hard to keep up with ... everything ! I'm still as smart as I was , I just get distracted easily & lose track of time . Watching your channel has motivated me & has helped make cleaning fun again ! If you can clean houses 10 times messier than mine - that gives me hope that I can get mine done, eventually. What has helped me most is your advise NOT to think about the entire space, but to just focus on cleaning ONE thing, like the table, then use it to set up my cleaning supplies . If you need a Vacation (which you deserve !) or to "Celebrate your Award" I'm in the Wine Country of California ! Would love to let you spin-kick the bajeebers outta my place ( you can even bring Jason , if you must ! )
Congrats again ! !
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Your sense of humor just cracks me up! Thanks for all of the awesome videos - I find them motivating and I learn things which makes cleaning more enjoyable and effective.
Love what you did with the plaque! You may have heard me screaming from across the country, "Your back! Your back! Your back!" when I saw you moving the cabinet!! And ... I may have spent a crazy 60 seconds searching for the bottle opener.
So glad to hear you proudly display that bottle opener. We have a few head-scratchers in our home too, and I think it's nice to just think yeah, I have that, so what?
Congratulations Mr spin kicker extraordinaire,💫💥( and Jason ) well done. Love your channel 💚🐝
Silly Jason and his misplaced spin kicks! No wonder he's been off his groove for the last month or so, lol.
Love the freshly rearranged room! I'll be doing this in my own home soon enough, and I look forward to the new results.
Neurodivergence is a strange thing. My hubby is on the autism spectrum and while he's the most brilliant, intelligent, clever person I've ever met, he's a complete clutter magnet. With a few exceptions (like his tools), he'll leave stuff out everywhere and not think twice about it. It drives me crazy! I will show him some of your cleaning videos. From one neurodivergent to another, maybe something will click about bringing order out of chaos.
Congratulations on the plaque! It looks good on your wall.
I love the color scheme of your house. Really appreciate the tips in this video. I like to help clean my friend's house every couple of months when I visit them, and definitely employ cleaning one section as I go so I don't get overwhelmed.
Congratulations on getting your first UA-cam plaque! I have no doubt there will be another! ❤️
Oh my gracious. Your explanations, information, have cleared up some questions for me. As far as behaviors regarding ADHD. Our youngest son, (adopted diagnosed at birth as fetal alcohol syndrome). So very precious. Now 32. We raised him and loved him with all of our heart. Doing the best we knew how without any knowledge or training. He is living on the streets by his own choice. I am praying daily for him and hoping he comes home. Then maybe I could do better. 🤗😉🤔
My husband is ADHD, I believe I have those tendencies, and we work a LOT of hours. Sometimes I am just overwhelmed. If I give him a list he’s really good at doing it but cannot think of things that need to be done on his own. I try so hard to be understanding and some days I’m just SO exhausted. You explained it perfectly!
Love your vids Mr. Pumpernickel. 😂😂😂
Maybe post a list of daily and weekly cleaning tasks you can even put monthly if you want if you put them in a page protector you can use a wet or dry erase marker to check them off.
Congratulations on your plaque, you deserve it. I absolutely love your channel and watch some videos several times. You have explained so much and helped me understand autism and ADHD. I've always thought and been told I have OCD because I need to clean first then do what I was planning. Crooked picture frames drive me crazy and I have to fix them even at dr's offices or someone's home. I have also started saying, "suck it!" Thank you so much for your all you do.
Your description of how you see ADHD affect your living space was so on point and let me know I’m not just some lazy guy. My place is driving me nuts. But I keep everything out as some kind of visual reminder of something to do or whatever. Then I’m completely overwhelmed by all the clutter. I’ve had people suggest “break it down into small steps” but that was still too overwhelming. The idea you provided to choose a table top and set a timer may very well revolutionize my life. Thank you so much!!
On a side note, do you have a favorite Xbox game you play? I play Destiny 2 primarily.
I have ADHD too. The small steps didnt work until i started making lists to follow. So instead of going into the kitchen and just trying a bit, i make a list and do it in that order. Example: 1) wash 10 dishes, 2) clean off the stove, 3) clean off 1/2 the counter. I do it in exacts so i have a start and a stop point, i have a list so if I get distracted i can come back to it, and crossing things off makes your brain happy. I hope this might help
you can do anything for 5 minutes, and it will often turn into longer just because you got going!
Something that helps me instead of “don’t put it down, put it away”
That silver play button is a beauty!
ETA-I have ADHD and I’m notorious for leaving crap everywhere. If I don’t see it, I’m afraid I’ll forget that I have it. I’m also great at starting multiple projects at once and not finishing any of them!Suck it! 😂
I also have autism, and it took me a long time to figure that out. My house was always a mess, but slowly over the years i have found ways to cope with the cleaning and with either doing too much or too little that caused me to get overwhelmed either way (not doing enough, or doing way too much ) And what you said about taking it one spot/area at a time or just doing something for 5-10 mins is something i have learned along the way. My house still ins't the "picture perfect catalog home" but, it works for me, and i am keeping up with the cleaning mostly. Having a somewhat orderly/clean house also helps with my mind being able to relax. Thank you so much for these video's, i enjoy watching very much! Much love from The Netherlands!
Crazy insane, or insane crazy? LOL (Eminem reference- sorry not sorry-I can't have a conversation without dropping references to *something* LOL). I am so glad you finally got your plaque! I love watching your videos, and hearing your commentary. My house is teeming with ADHD and ASD folks and I love that you get us. Funnily enough, I've been working on my bedroom and other spaces to scratch my "new and shiny things!" itch without adding to the clutter. Anyway- thanks for all you do! ETA: When my St Bernard and super shedder cat were still with us I would vacuum daily and fill the vacuum at least twice as I went through the house, so I believe it that you had that much fur! Vacuuming it all up is SO satisfying!
Congratulations…your uniqueness & comic presentation is what makes your channel appealing to us. Beside giving us a window to see what is for most others something we take for granted, can be very challenging for those with ADHD, social disorders or even fatigue. For me it’s simple inspiration.. it’s not everyday to see a guy clean houses.. hoarder home for that matter … and for FREE!?! Your awesome!
I have ADHD and I am so scattered when I try to clean. Distracted. I love watching your channel!
There is no doubt in my mind you will hit 1M subs by next year.👍 You do God’s work, sir.
My boyfriend has ADD. I call the clutter piles his 'first flat space filing system'. It drives me bonkers. He's great at doing a thing when I can focus him on a task. I've tried the 5 minute thing but he's better at doing a single corner or a single task. I find that he literally doesn't remember a pile unless he's actually looking at it. Pile of water bottles by his bed. Pile of mail that needs to be shredded. I've had a giant planter box sitting in the living room for 3 weeks waiting for it to get warm enough to plant stuff. It mocks me daily as spring just gets pushed back yet another week. I mentioned it the other day and he had no clue what I was talking about. Thanks for you videos, they've helped me figure out a better way to tackle cleaning. Plus I play one as I go along for motivation...I am not up for spin kicks yet though
I have ADHD, my husband is autistic and our son is both. We make this work ;) But the timer and small section advice is on point. It's the only way I can keep things functionally clean around here. I have been teaching my boy to confront his school work the same way, followed by a spin kick to demonstrate maximum effort. The trick works, and breaking big tasks down is alot less frustrating. Kudos again, but quit moving heavy stuff around like a turd. Get some damn help ;p
My house is neat and tidy, no clutter, if I take something out, I put it back immediately after I use it. If I spill something I clean it up right away. If I don't wear, touch, or use something once in 365 days it outta here. I never walk from one end of the house to the other without a damp cloth in my hand because I dust continuously. Yet I get lots of flack about me being obsessive about neatness, so no matter if you're messy or neat someone will find fault with you. Ya just can't win.
Love your sense of humor, your videos, your life philosophy. Congratulations! You did it. Respect from one of your weirdo followers 👍👍👍
Thank you for being so open.. by showing us your own home.. and so helpful. Big huggs ! Long time watcher first time comment.
I realise I’m you in my own relationship. I’m autistic and my partner is ADHD I’m forever trying to keep on top of the chaotic world he lives in 🥴 I’m pretty often going around constantly trying to make life easier for us both to function 😅 it can be frustrating and exhausting sometimes but after 10 years we are gradually getting there 💪🏼
Btw I need you to start doing T-shirts and merchandise with “so suck it” on soon it will save me having to speak 🤣
Congratulations! UA-cam plaque! I find your cleaning soothing and inspiring. Your humor is too much! 💕✌️👍
You nailed it for me, turning chaos into order calms me down. I do have this bad habit though of transferring the mess. Cleaning one space and transferring the mess to another room. Then by the time I clean the messy room, all the others are a mess again and I have to start all over.😮
Congratulations on the silver plaque. You deserve the gold. 🎉
Nice job! I just gutted my mom's room while she was out of town took me a whole day took everything out scrubbed the walls cause she smokes cigarettes then painted the ceiling cleaned everything she had and put it all back I was super worn out lol
I really like seeing you do your home. I’m like your wife, just changing a room around, a good cleaning, etc makes it feel all new. It makes a huge difference to see that you’re a “normal” family just like most of us with kids, pets and everyday clutter. I’d love to see videos of you focusing on a room in your house too. I have 5 cats and 2 dogs and had to chuckle about the pet hair. It’s a real struggle to keep up with that each day but if you don’t you’re likely to find a new pet of hair roll out somewhere. You’re awesome as is Jason!
Congratulations on your plaque! Love your channel! 😊
Dear Mr. Pumpernickel, I found your insights on the manifestations of potential ADHD very interesting. Your compassionate approach is also impressive, and a huge factor in the channel's success, I'd bet. Through professional and personal experience you seem to have mastered the art of 'reading' a house without having even met its occupants. Your observations about the bottle of cough mixture left on the bedside table made me laugh out loud, as my dad is totally one of those cases. As a younger man he co-founded and ran a very successful engineering business, and, looking back, I don't know how he overcame his extreme ADHD in order to make that happen. He's always helped out a lot with chores and cleaning, but equally created chaos and hazards in and outside the house! The stuff on his side table goes back to the cretaceous period. He can muddle a room in a very short time, and has never been able to throw things away properly; they always come back, or end up outside the door for eons, going moldy! He's incredibly skilled, and can turn his hand to almost anything, but never completes one job before moving on to the next 'project'. I've never understood it fully until watching this, as you have such a practical understanding of the 'disorder'. I follow Dr. Gabor Maté's work, and recently learned that what we call 'ADHD' is likely an early-life coping strategy, which over time, solidifies in to an apparent character trait - which psychologists have labeled attention deficit. Sorry for waffling on, but I find it all very interesting, as I have similar such tendencies myself, which I continue to fight. I'm a perfectionist, and your idea of cleaning specific areas only, thereby doing a room a little at a time has been really useful, as what it's meant in the past has been either cleaning a whole room to gold standard or sitting in a sh*thole for months, thinking about cleaning it to gold standard! Congrats on your lovely new plaque, btw. Looks great in that frame, but it's going to look just as good as a medallion one day!