To reiterate: I’m not necessarily saying we should lower standards for men (except when those standards are unreasonable, superficial, and unbiblical... which they may be). My point is moreso that women need to hold themselves and each other to the high standards of Scripture, too. Just as men are instructed and reminded to love and lead their wives, wives need to be instructed and reminded to reverence and submit to their husbands.
@RPOS if there is no factual evidence of a crime, it should not be prosecuted. human testimony is not factual evidence. people need to protect themselves with recording devices and guns. daddy govt cant and wont protect you, and if they prosecute for you, you will not receive any compensation, the state will. stop making accusations without factual evidence and move on with life.
Hey, love what you're doing. You mentioned Christians shouldn't marry outside the church according to scripture, I thought I heard otherwise, "1 Corinthians 7:12-14 New International Version (NIV) 12 To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13 And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy." www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1+Corinthians+7%3A12-14&version=NIV 2 Corinthians 6:14-17 "...Or what fellowship has light with darkness?", to which I would say, all. 1 Peter 3:1 "Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives," , and how sweet it must be ;) "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers", to me this doesn't imply anything exactly. It seems it can mean don't take any crap from a commie ;) Lulz
@Damian Sellus Christy is right in saying believers in Christ shouldn't marry non-believers in Christ according to scripture. You are right to follow 1 Corinthians 7:12-14, but this passage only says that believers in Christ who are married to non-believers in Christ do not have to divorce them. 1 Corinthians 7:12-14 does not give permission for believers in Christ to marry non-believers in Christ.
@@jamiethomson7780 You're saying it applies to converts I guess, or those who already took the plunge into "shallow waters"(?). Idk, it says their children would be holy if just one of the parents was. Maybe it stacks up in the scriptures, but from this alone, I feel, it isn't not allowed. "Do not be unequally yoked by unbelievers", could be anything. Could mean taxes ;)
@Damian Sellus Yes, 2 Corinthians 6:14 does forbid believers in Christ from marrying non-believers in Christ or actively becoming unequally yoked with non-believers in Christ in any sense. In the Greek it is not a state of being unequally yoked which is forbidden, but rather believers in Christ actively yoking themselves up unequally.
This is something you don’t hear everyday- female accountability and self improvement while walking back self entitlements. Why do females have such a tough time with this?
Exactly right. Without first understanding that we all really deserve death because of our sin, we won't ever really understand the depth of the gift of God--the eternal life that Jesus Christ suffered and died to give all of mankind! Nobody can live with an entitled mentality while truly understanding and believing _that_ .
Wow, Christy. You read my mind because this is exactly what I've been saying for years. This problem can easily be traced to what you talk about on your main channel. Feminism is rampant even in the church. We teach our girls they deserve God's best regardless of how much baggage they have or how little they have to offer in return. If a guy rejects her because of her baggage, then he's a jerk and doesn't deserve her. Never will you hear the same message to men. You hit the nail on the head. We shouldn't be teaching our sons and daughters they deserve the best. Rather we ought to teach them how to be the best for their future spouses. To elaborate on the baggage issue, there is a clear double standard on how the church reacts to mens' sin compared to women. Have you ever read Lori Alexander's viral blog titled "Godly Men Prefer Debt-Free Virgins Without Tattoos?" It triggered the crap out of feminists both Christian and non-Christian alike. Predictability, they all had a emotional meltdown about how sexist it was and prompted to remind girls that their worth isn't tied to what was said. But imagine if the blog was title "Godly women prefer porn-free romantics without bad credit." You can bet they'd be cheering in agreement. But the message is clear: Women are allowed to have standards, no matter how ridiculous while men are NOT allowed to have any. Ironically enough, if you were to suggest that Christian women ought to respect and submit to their husbands like the Bible says, you'd be called out for enabling abuse. In their view, Scripture is wrong! I mean God forbid a woman showing respect for her husband. smh. Seriously, Christian women don't want a husband. They want a man who is Jesus in the flesh who drives 5 cars, makes 7 figures, has a mansion, the body of Adonis, who can serenade her like Sinatra and who can recite Song of Solomon to her by memory every night before bed. Christy, I hope you will answer me this: Do you think it's unbiblical that I don't want to marry a single mom? Please, I don't want a politically correct answer. I want to know what you truly think. The church constantly shames men into "manning up" and marrying single moms, which goes along with the idea that every woman is entitled to a good man. It's bad enough that the church is too politically correct to call out single moms (or women in general) for fornication, but shaming men into taking responsibility for kids that isn't theirs is unacceptable. You and I both know the gynocentric marriage courts will clean a man out for all he's worth. But also, I don't want to contribute to this culture of giving young girls this false notion that no matter how badly she screws up in life, a white knight will be guaranteed to come rescue her. They need to understand that we reap what we sow. I know what my biblical role is for a husband, but I vow never to marry a feminist who refuses her biblical role of submitting to my God-given authority. Which is why watching your channel gives me hope because you are the prime example of what a godly wife looks like. But it's also a bit of a black-pill because I'm approaching my mid-30's and it feels like all the good, traditional Christian girls are all married off early. It seems like most women who are my age and still single are all bitter, man-hating harpies. Sorry for the novel. But I as a man highly enjoy this channel as well. Seriously, thank you for all you do. You are the the very definition of a Proverbs 31 woman. Keep up the good work :)
Was blessed to hear a pastor guilt all the single guys for not "manning up" and wedding all these wonderful single moms who were obviously Angels sent from heaven who got screwed over by an evil self centered man who deceived her into sleeping with him. The idea that the women had zero character and slept with whoever they wanted and now have illegitimate children for someone else to raise is never even considered.
As someone who was raised in the church and who was being groomed to take his father place at the pulpit but who decided to stray from that path, I absolutely find this more amusing then mere words could ever describe. Considering that I used to spend on average 40 hours a week at church from the time I was an infant until I walked out at 16 years old never to return, one could say that I have seen plenty of picky religious women grow old alone because they were so fixed on their own little what I want in a man list yet never sought out to improve themselves in the slightest that in all reality it borders on the ridiculous. The true Irony of it all at the end of the day is that the girl that fit the biblical list of what a women should and should not strive to be and the one I treated dearly and loved most deeply identified as a Pagan. It's been 19 years since she died and in all my travels across this world and searching I have not seen another that comes even remotely close to being as genuine of a caring and a selfless human being as she was. She was the reason I would wake each morning and hammer out 14-16 hour shifts every day and rush right back home because there was no place I would rather be then collapsed in her arms to be spoiled with her attention. It was never about her asking for things, she in reality only ever wanted my time and attention and in every moment I had free I granted it undivided to her and her alone. But the fire she lit within me to chase everything by asking for nothing had us nearly retired in 3 years worth of time. It was not that I ever really wanted to be out of her reach in reality the opposite was true I was aiming to stack up enough cash on hand so that we could leave the rest of the world behind us well the interest did all the work. These days I just laugh at women and their ridiculous lists as I pass them by living under the radar. They all want what they want but they offer so little in return that it honestly isn't worth the effort to bother with them these days. I would never give my dog a treat for pissing on my carpet, nor will I ever reward any human for pissing excess unnecessary drama into my life. And sadly that is all most women have to offer these days. When a person strives and exchanges their energy and lifeforce to make sure that you are taken care of and that your needs are met, then it is in both your best interest to make sure they are satisfied and kept in both great mental and physical condition as well. No person needs to carry another human it is a choice one makes not an entitlement and just like every other choice a lack of gratitude can change the priority of where you stand in that persons life. Everything in this world takes work, and the minute a person wakes up and realizes they are pulling two peoples burdens on their own the jig is up. As for that Unconditional Love thing that people like to spout off at the mouth about realize that in order to receive it one must truly wish to bestow it upon another. And working your other half to death over shiny bobbles that won't matter in the long run to impress people that should never matter in the first place is probably the most disrespectful thing you can do to someone else. I do find it amusing that you mentioned Disney though as I am waiting for all these picky women to get together for a class action lawsuit against them since they were all told they were princesses growing up regardless of their own actions in life and yet their prince charming never seems to come save them from their own bad choices. Thanks for the Amusement and keep up the good work Misty maybe you can shake some of these people awake.
That was very good: Be the kind of person that you want in a spouse! I think the most important standard is that both husband and wife are true believers...that they both strongly desire to live for Him.. Our future spouse may not turn out to be the idea we had in our mind. Trust God to show you who that person will be, in His timing.
Knowing that there are people out there who still hold to these teachings is heartwarming. I've lived in a feminist bubble for most of my life and always felt something was deeply wrong. Keep up the good work :)
Love your content as an Asian American man I will wait for my Proverbe 31 lady. I also do not do well here in the states. She may be in another country not sure. I will delight myself in the Lord and make Him my hearts desire. Once again thanks.
Jebpmarine Hafey When I was making videos a decade ago, I remember a young man who emailed me to say that he was thinking of looking for a wife overseas (in an Asian country), and he ended up doing just that. Last I knew he was happily married with a few children. It’s not a bad way to go, from what I can tell- the church in some other countries is not quite as corrupted by feminism as ours. But that is quickly changing, too. Blessings to you in your waiting and your search, and may God bless you with a woman who loves His design! :)
Great to read what you have all shared. As a 36-year old Vietnamese American, and I have awakened to the Truth behind Western feminist ideology. Regrettably MGTOW and my self-preservation route through vasectomy was necessary. The positive perspective of my journey did lead me to Self-Actualize in many other ways. I recognize many wrongs from our old Age of Deception. And if I personally do not at least attempt to right these past wrong doings (internally & externally), then *it's not good for us homo sapiens as a species.* I was born into a Buddhist family with strong Confucian values. Self-identified as an atheist in my early teens. Self-identified as an agnostic in my 20's. And now that I am older, and a bit wiser in 2019, I am actively seeking Truth behind the bible and from Jesus Christ the huMAN*? God bless to all across our planet in their life journeys.
Wow! Amen! The biggest thing is both people need to be chasing after God. Obey God and His word and everything will be fine :). The bible is infallible, it is our final authority.
What young men, who love the Lord, need to realise is that the Lord wants them to marry women who have not been defiled by men. As a young man in the 80s, I believed this whole heartedly and set my heart to marry a beautiful virgin bride. I wasn't prepared to settle for anything less. And you know what? I did meet my virgin bride after a lot of prayer and fasting. We've been happily married now for 23 years. We have 3 daughters and 1 son. I genuinely believe that if more Christian men started praying for their own wives as teenagers [ I started when I was 16] the Lord will preserve young virgin brides for them. So young men, take note. You are under no obligation to marry a woman who has slept around. Know your own worth. You are sons of the King of heaven and earth. And the least you deserve is to marry your own virgin bride!
dunamis333 I LOVE the reminder to begin praying about and for a future spouse! I did so myself, but wish I had started earlier. Who knows what God would choose to do with those prayers! Blessings to you and your happy family. :)
@@MakeWomahoodBiblicalAgain Praying for a spouse has to be taught in church and unfortunately it's not. When was the last time you went to a Church and the Pastor said. "Every Wednesday night for 2 or 3 hours we're going to be praying for spouses." It just doesn't happen. Can you imagine what this would do in the body of Christ if it did?
Warren Buffet said jokingly: What's the most important thing for the success of marriage? Low expectations. :) They demand so much, and not only don't give, they don't even talk about what they are supposed to give in return. It's like they should give nothing at all, not even sympathy or good attitude, common sense, understanding. And mothers teach that to their boys. So we as boys grow up thinking in our heads "yes, I will be nice, love, and this and that, and she will reciprocate". But nobody ever promised that she will... That's the cause of a lot of heartbreak. And then guys go after all those assholes, who think they are a gift of god to everybody and shouldn't do anything at all. Then the guys get crashed. But those women get crashed too. If you don't tame your expectations to reality, you will think that he is too low-quality for you, when in fact he is the top of what this world can offer. And vice versa for guys. A lot of them have way too high expectations and pass pretty good opportunities because they pale in comparison to their imaginary ideal. Yet they don't realize that this ideal is unachievable. It really reminds of an open letter of a 42 year old single woman who regretted passing on a guy who loved her when she was 18, because she thought he is not rich enough, good enough, etc. Her farther warned her that love is hard to find. The guy was crashed, he carried on for a decade and then married somebody else. She was dumped for a younger woman by her "high-profile" guy she wanted. And well that's a good life lesson. And lots of those idiot retarded feminists are cheering her up, but there is nothing to cheer, it's a life lost... Sad but true. She only has herself to blame. www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2263518/I-left-love-life-I-thought-I-better-Now-Im-childless-42.html It's all greed. Give me, Give me, Give me... Life doesn't work this way... You have to be happy with what you have first.
Sadly, I hear stories like this all too often. I'm never one to delight in others' suffering. But given how she rejected because she felt the man's job was beneath her, I have no sympathy for her. I would never take back a woman like her no matter how much she begged.
eh, and she still didn't understand the root cause of it. Women that don't appreciate only manipulate. She still thinks "she is nice and innocent and the world treated her badly"... But look how badly she treated that "Love of her life"... Carrying him for decade "as a friend"... That's just pure torture... I feel sorry for the guy... Yet he is greedy too, as he wanted only to give love. He should have left 50% of this love giving for her to do it. That's a form of greed too. Anyway... Century after century guys and women do the same mistakes. I know it's hard, but you have to move on... Fairy-tale is over, Welcome to the real life...
You Are a very Good person and have been Blessed with your insight and wisdom. I wish my wife and I could have heard your messages before she left me after 36 years of marriage. I believe we would still be together. I hope and pray you can help others that still can learn from you before they fail in Their marriages. Thank you and God Bless you.
Gabriel Cantu I’m so sorry about your wife, and I so appreciate your kind wishes for others. I believe all insight and wisdom come from God, so He gets the credit for any of that. May your heart and life be blessed!
I think quality women believe in the good potential of high integrity men and nurture that. They appreciate hardworking men without demanding luxury designer goods (in my case i pay for it myself). They take sexual responsibility and do not act sexually wreckless. They set fair standards for themselves and partners and understand if a guy works beyond 40 hours a week, he is sacrificing time to provide for his family and may come home exhausted. And he can be thanked by healthy meals and nice home atmosphere. My aunt was an example of how not to treat men. She has now raised an extraordinary angry son, 2 entitled daughters, and 1 whipped husband who is just a hollow shell. He is 56 and cannot even answer a question without looking to my aunt outside his professional life.
I'm not Christian (I'd love to be but am not there yet) but think the Bible is bang on about marriage. 43, married 17 years with 3 kids and so grateful for my family
I think it is "lopsided" because it would be politically incorrect to state what a man deserves, especially the way you phrased it. People would be mortified at that concept. Political correctness has to end if humanity wants to understand and follow God's word. Great talk. Please do more videos, hope all is okay with the family as you've taken a long break.
Conchita Boren Hi! I do not, but on Facebook there’s a group called the “Always Learning Chatroom.” It’s run by a lady named Lori Alexander and the conversation there is so good!
Want to cover soooooooooooooo many things. But this is your and other women's semi-closed discussion hall. So won't say a word except occasionally if the situation calls for it. For now I only want to say that even if very few women see this and even fewer state their agreement/opinion in the comment sections, please do *not* stop making videos for this channel. Any change in the culture, no matter how minuscule is important - even if just one woman changes to become a good wife, that still counts as significant. If for a combination of reasons in the future, you do not get the time to continue making videos, then it's a different thing and obviously a sad loss for female audience, but until then please keep on making videos. Thank you for such videos with 10/10 messages for women.
Progress and Peace 1 Thanks so much for that encouragement- it really is such a great reminder that even the “drop in the bucket” matters. And please feel quite welcome to share your thoughts freely! :)
I think that if a young woman puts the effort in to doing the right things to prepare for marriage, rather than giving in to pressures from the sexual revolution etc, she could argue that she does deserve a return on her investment. Same applies with a young man, of course. If he's done the casual hook-up thing, he can't really expect to get a good quality wife. You can only reasonably expect to get out of it what you put in to it.
Just re-watching one of your vids Christy you have a gift when your little ones aren't running you ragged please share with us :D Christy just made my day by giving this a heart (I have a little crush)
This is kind of related but kind of not. You often hear people, both men and women, tell other men to "man up." Which is weird considering you never hear "woman up." Being a man in our society is not simply being a grown up male. A man being a man is determined by others, whereas being a woman is just being a grown up female.
Researchers call this phenomenon "Precarious Manhood". A google search will bring up quite a bit on the topic... Tom Golden has some of the best analysis.
The value of God is unlimited, and the man that walks with Him has a very high value as well, the issue is God is hidden from the vast majority, and so His value goes unrecognized. So women can’t recognize a Godly man when they see one... keep in mind, I’m not talking about preachers pastors and the like, I’m talking about the elect that God has chosen. Another issue women choose men according to sex appeal, and expect honesty and integrity to come with it, not saying it can’t, but since the religious type are sexually repressed most likely, she is going to find a guy that isn’t going to be honest and have integrity. Keep in mind not all religious types are honest and have integrity, and these attributes aren’t limited to the religious community...
Michael Wesley II I believe straight-up religion results in sexual repression, but relationship with God does not. The first is based on rules as human beings attempt to be “good.” The second is, well, relationship: the result of human beings realizing we can never be good and that was the reason Jesus Christ had to be the perfect sacrifice for us. This brings freedom and honesty- not guilt, shame, and repression. Speaking from personal experience! :)
@@MakeWomahoodBiblicalAgain Jesus was sent to fulfill the law definitely. The question to ask with a ll the religious that have been contorted and twisted by religious scholars and jurists of the past, sure this was not intended by the most high? Pure, untainted jurisprudence from a divine source serves a divine purpose, to help us all realize our creator, and become normal from His perspective... Jesus is normal, Maryam normal, Moses normal, Elijah normal, Muhammad normal... the rest of us estranged.. from his perspective ofcourse... Most of the Abrahamic religions of today, yes do result in sexual repression... But if you take Islam for example, who had the prophet Muhammad, who at one time had 10 wives... or take Prophet Solomon, which biblical sources cite an over the top quantity of women... Definitely, sexual repression could not have been intended, but was meant to be regulated...
Christy, you are obviously a delight to many men including myself - the comments say as much. What sort of church do you go to (or denomination) so that other men may perhaps more easily find a woman who has been taught much like yourself? This is in no way underestimating the reality that you've made your own choices and thought your own thoughts to be the person you are today.
I can totally see men and women expecting too much. And I'm not bashing women: in the end men and women are just people and, if they were all somehow mixed together into each separate group, men and women would be equally bad. But it really does seem that women have unreasonable expectations. They seem to expect the guy to not have negative qualities. With guys... I guess they just don't care enough about the relationship and don't put in the effort (I'm not sure; I mostly pay attention to the girls, since I'm a guy). But, ya know, the world is falling to pieces.
i was raised anglican but i converted to catholic in 2014. i have dated my fiancé for two years and we plan on getting married. She is my best friend and hopefully before were 30 we hope to have children together. My parents have been married 29 years so I come from a very good family But unfortunately 2 of my brothers have been divorced so I had to have the uncomfortable talk with my fiancé of the possibility of divorce and what will happen in the event. What will happen to the children what will happen to our finances. I am not a bad guy, And she is my best friend and I will love her and be devoted to her forever but we need to prepare for the possibility.
nature is winning because many women lose their looks when they age not all of them but many look way less than average (I don't want to use the word ugly because it is bad) so I guess that men are settling, I applaud the Creator for his great wisdom
Such an important message! I'd like to know exactly what we might say to our sons about what to expect of their future wives and what we might say to our daughters about their future dusties as wives, and their expectations of their husbands. I think we could uae more information on how not to have unrealistic expectations of our husbands I have heard about being submissive, but I never see examples of how a wife may respond in situations which are 'tricky'. For instance, if your husband tells you to do something without realizing that his directions conflict with some other things going on. Or, you want to suggest an alternative plan that you think would be better. I'd like to see how you might use your tone of voice and choice of words to speak up, and yet still not emasculate your husband or usurp his authority. I am not asking this in order to say, "How can I prentend to follow my husband, but really argue with him and be the leader myself?" I am really asking about the infrequent times when we want to give him more information. Also, how can we respond if he is grumpy or speaks harshly to us without a good cause? I'd like to see examples of exactly how we might respond.
I emulate my parents as i said they’ve been married 29 years. And I believe that it is the husband’s responsibility to take care of the wife and children. But my fiancé also wants to work as a independent filmmaker which I 100 support. however when we do have children she needs to put the needs of our family first over her career.
Wonderful video, Christy. I would agree that the reason for the disparity is abandoning Scriptural teaching for feminist culture. Thank you for faithfully preaching the Bible's instructions to women. These are the most rejected, despised and misinterpreted passages in the Bible. Their teaching is so plain, yet it is rejected by almost all because their loyalty is to feminism and not to the Word. The unspoken manner of this rejection typically involves the following mental gymnastics which turns the teaching of Ephesians 5 on its head: The Bible says women should submit to their men; but the Bible also says that men should love their women; since there cannot be love where one has authority over another, then the Bible cannot really mean that women should submit to their men; but since men are commanded to love their women, then men must submit to their women otherwise they do not love them! Have you discerned this kind of disingenuous distortion of Ephesians 5 in churches in America? Your counsel to women is excellent when you call them to voluntarily submit to their husbands. Unfortunately, if the church and the government do not both give men back their God-given authority then men can never fully have confidence and security in their masculine role. If prosecution from the feminist government/courts and/or condemnation from the feminist pulpit/media/academy are hanging over men's heads, then society can never be healed. There is a reason why feminists go after control of these things: feminists know that the Bible's rejection of feminism will mean little if they control the civil punishments and the authoritative voices in society.
Jamie Thomson Every word of this is spot-on. Have you considered writing a book on such things? I’d definitely read and buy it, and probably promote it, too. Yes, have definitely come across this mangling and butchering of Ephesians 5 in American churches. It’s the reality in the majority of Western churches, I have no doubt. Those who would rightly plainly teach the words of Scripture are quickly being made out to be radicals- *in* the Church. Sad times.
@@kylesmithks35 Good point. I did not mean to say that those mental gymnastics are voiced openly and all at the same time. Nevertheless, if you pay close attention to the way that most Christians address all Bible verses on women, love and authority, then it is clear that this twisted line of thought exists commonly in the churches.
@@MakeWomahoodBiblicalAgain Thanks, Christy. I hadn't considered writing such a book, but since you encourage me to do so then I will. :) I'll let you know when I finish.
Jamie Thomson Only if you want to! Don’t let me pressure you, haha. Just noticed that you have solid and balanced observations, and an articulate way of writing them. 👍🏻
@@MakeWomahoodBiblicalAgain Thanks, Christy. No pressure then. But you have talked me into it already. :) I have plenty of practice making accurate observations about feminism. That's why my Facebook account has so few reactions and comments. Haha!
A resounding "yeeeeeess, lawd" from the choir! 🙌 Great "discombobulated" thoughts! 😆 I cringe every time a see a "you're a princess" Christian meme. It's one of the reasons I couldn't get through "Captivating," the Eldridge's disappointing counterpart to "Wild at Heart." ~M
The Revolting Man Thanks, sister! Haha- I don’t think I managed to make it through that one, either! Of course, the masses were fawning over that book, so I should have known... 😆
Fairy tales are not about finding a man. They are about the Church as the bride of Christ. Cinderella teaches that humility is its own reward. Beauty and the Beast that love must be gracious and not superficial. Etc.
I liked the comment about men's confidence/bravado/daring, how it is important. I looked into something a while ago about goals. People say SMART goals... Specific Measurable Achievable Realistic Time-based... Someone went these were stupid, or lame. As in, yeah yeah yawn... They said they wanted to have DUMB goals. Christopher Columbus saying 'I'm going to discover America', or we're going to put a rocket on the moon, or break the sound barrier in a plane...As in, history makers.
Religious or not, the game entirely was changed by online dating. Women see they have dozens, if not hundreds of choices at their literal fingertips, so they'll obviously compete for the top percentile. Men, on average, don't have that luxury and become discouraged and turn away from it in various forms. The sexes need one another, and there are plenty of good women and men who have suffered from this dating paradigm shift. Good advice you've given, and I suggest checking out Blonde in the Belly of the Beast as she's made several videos of a similar nature as well.
What I see missing in relationship advice is the difference between inherent traits to look for and traits which improve over time. Things like sex, income and to some extent confidence come with age and experience. Somethings like character, intelligence and behavior don't tend to change at all. So when you pick your standards make sure the apply to things that don't change and be a lot more forgiving on things that do change over time.
I don't like the word ego for "a man's ego" because many men have a huge ego and no wisdom to back it up. Just plain stupidity being fueled by an empty ego. Is there any other word to refer to this energy you are referring to?
"No one DESERVES anything". Amen, sister. The men you get are the men you attract and retain. Period. No one is above natural selection and here's how it works: Men decide whether they are attracted to you in less than a second. So, work hard on your appearance. If you can't command his attention early, move on. Once a man that you want has expressed interest, challenge him to pursue you. If he won't pursue, forget him. If he does pursue and you want to keep him, don't sleep with him for about 90 days. Otherwise, the bond between you and your man will not be strong enough to last past sexual gratification. Many men will drop out of your selection process before the end. This should be expected.
I don't see why religion is relevant to this, it's actually (or should be) quite simple: You want a man worth your while? Be a woman worth his! Of course it's true the other way around, too. All religion does in this context is pre-defining what "worth your/his while" is supposed to mean. Also: marriages in biblical times tended to be arranged, not the result of choices made by the spouses. If I remember correctly no woman in the bible chose her husband; they were essentially bartered away by their fathers. I fail to see how relationship advice geared at making the best out of a marriage with a partner somebody else chose for you can help finding the right partner. Given the fact that the conditions for which it was devised no longer apply, the advice "be the wife scripture tells you to be" should be taken with hughmungus grain of salt. This whole "I deserve a guy who ... and he should be glad I even look his way", seems to be a universal among women, regardless of world-view. But it only works when women can force men into long-term relationships. As long as men can walk away, women that bring nothing to the table will end up single. In my opinion the "where have all the good men gone"-lament has to do with that: The good men realized that they don't have to enter relationships that don't give them what they want from life.
I agree with everything you said except the ego thing. The big ego of western men is what led to their downfall. Wisdom comes first. The ego is totally insignificant when compared to wisdom. By abandoning wisdom with an inflated ego, without foundations on reality, men started making more and more bad decisions and mistreating their wives and children and lost respect of their women and families.
To reiterate: I’m not necessarily saying we should lower standards for men (except when those standards are unreasonable, superficial, and unbiblical... which they may be).
My point is moreso that women need to hold themselves and each other to the high standards of Scripture, too.
Just as men are instructed and reminded to love and lead their wives, wives need to be instructed and reminded to reverence and submit to their husbands.
@RPOS if there is no factual evidence of a crime, it should not be prosecuted. human testimony is not factual evidence. people need to protect themselves with recording devices and guns. daddy govt cant and wont protect you, and if they prosecute for you, you will not receive any compensation, the state will. stop making accusations without factual evidence and move on with life.
Hey, love what you're doing.
You mentioned Christians shouldn't marry outside the church according to scripture, I thought I heard otherwise,
"1 Corinthians 7:12-14 New International Version (NIV)
12 To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13 And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy."
www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1+Corinthians+7%3A12-14&version=NIV
2 Corinthians 6:14-17
"...Or what fellowship has light with darkness?", to which I would say, all.
1 Peter 3:1
"Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives," , and how sweet it must be ;)
"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers", to me this doesn't imply anything exactly. It seems it can mean don't take any crap from a commie ;) Lulz
@Damian Sellus Christy is right in saying believers in Christ shouldn't marry non-believers in Christ according to scripture. You are right to follow 1 Corinthians 7:12-14, but this passage only says that believers in Christ who are married to non-believers in Christ do not have to divorce them. 1 Corinthians 7:12-14 does not give permission for believers in Christ to marry non-believers in Christ.
@@jamiethomson7780 You're saying it applies to converts I guess, or those who already took the plunge into "shallow waters"(?). Idk, it says their children would be holy if just one of the parents was. Maybe it stacks up in the scriptures, but from this alone, I feel, it isn't not allowed. "Do not be unequally yoked by unbelievers", could be anything. Could mean taxes ;)
@Damian Sellus Yes, 2 Corinthians 6:14 does forbid believers in Christ from marrying non-believers in Christ or actively becoming unequally yoked with non-believers in Christ in any sense. In the Greek it is not a state of being unequally yoked which is forbidden, but rather believers in Christ actively yoking themselves up unequally.
As a Christian man, I’m so happy to be hearing this from a woman. It’s a serious problem in the faith. Thank you.
Jezebel rules the western church. The pastors are cucked to the whore of Babylon. It's disgusting.
This is something you don’t hear everyday- female accountability and self improvement while walking back self entitlements. Why do females have such a tough time with this?
They exist. I think there are more then there seems, they just don't say so, possibly out of fear of some sort of reprisal from their female friends.
I'm 18 and just now learning basic things about what it means to be a man and the fact that men and women ARE different
The wages of sin is death, and we all have sinned and fallen short of the glory if God, so we know exactly what we deserve. That goes for any of us
Exactly right. Without first understanding that we all really deserve death because of our sin, we won't ever really understand the depth of the gift of God--the eternal life that Jesus Christ suffered and died to give all of mankind! Nobody can live with an entitled mentality while truly understanding and believing _that_ .
Women also have egos. BIG ones. That's most of the problem we have with them
Wow, Christy. You read my mind because this is exactly what I've been saying for years. This problem can easily be traced to what you talk about on your main channel. Feminism is rampant even in the church. We teach our girls they deserve God's best regardless of how much baggage they have or how little they have to offer in return. If a guy rejects her because of her baggage, then he's a jerk and doesn't deserve her. Never will you hear the same message to men. You hit the nail on the head. We shouldn't be teaching our sons and daughters they deserve the best. Rather we ought to teach them how to be the best for their future spouses.
To elaborate on the baggage issue, there is a clear double standard on how the church reacts to mens' sin compared to women. Have you ever read Lori Alexander's viral blog titled "Godly Men Prefer Debt-Free Virgins Without Tattoos?" It triggered the crap out of feminists both Christian and non-Christian alike. Predictability, they all had a emotional meltdown about how sexist it was and prompted to remind girls that their worth isn't tied to what was said. But imagine if the blog was title "Godly women prefer porn-free romantics without bad credit." You can bet they'd be cheering in agreement. But the message is clear: Women are allowed to have standards, no matter how ridiculous while men are NOT allowed to have any. Ironically enough, if you were to suggest that Christian women ought to respect and submit to their husbands like the Bible says, you'd be called out for enabling abuse. In their view, Scripture is wrong! I mean God forbid a woman showing respect for her husband. smh. Seriously, Christian women don't want a husband. They want a man who is Jesus in the flesh who drives 5 cars, makes 7 figures, has a mansion, the body of Adonis, who can serenade her like Sinatra and who can recite Song of Solomon to her by memory every night before bed.
Christy, I hope you will answer me this: Do you think it's unbiblical that I don't want to marry a single mom? Please, I don't want a politically correct answer. I want to know what you truly think. The church constantly shames men into "manning up" and marrying single moms, which goes along with the idea that every woman is entitled to a good man. It's bad enough that the church is too politically correct to call out single moms (or women in general) for fornication, but shaming men into taking responsibility for kids that isn't theirs is unacceptable. You and I both know the gynocentric marriage courts will clean a man out for all he's worth. But also, I don't want to contribute to this culture of giving young girls this false notion that no matter how badly she screws up in life, a white knight will be guaranteed to come rescue her. They need to understand that we reap what we sow.
I know what my biblical role is for a husband, but I vow never to marry a feminist who refuses her biblical role of submitting to my God-given authority. Which is why watching your channel gives me hope because you are the prime example of what a godly wife looks like. But it's also a bit of a black-pill because I'm approaching my mid-30's and it feels like all the good, traditional Christian girls are all married off early. It seems like most women who are my age and still single are all bitter, man-hating harpies.
Sorry for the novel. But I as a man highly enjoy this channel as well. Seriously, thank you for all you do. You are the the very definition of a Proverbs 31 woman. Keep up the good work :)
@Jarrold Bates Yep, that's exactly why I don't want to be with a single mom.
@@roksolana-zb4hu Haha, says the one who is desperate for attention by trolling me. Nice try though. Have a blessed day :)
@@roksolana-zb4hu lmao sounds like someone needs to change their tampon.
Was blessed to hear a pastor guilt all the single guys for not "manning up" and wedding all these wonderful single moms who were obviously Angels sent from heaven who got screwed over by an evil self centered man who deceived her into sleeping with him.
The idea that the women had zero character and slept with whoever they wanted and now have illegitimate children for someone else to raise is never even considered.
This is really great! I couldn’t agree more with you!😊💖
As someone who was raised in the church and who was being groomed to take his father place at the pulpit but who decided to stray from that path, I absolutely find this more amusing then mere words could ever describe.
Considering that I used to spend on average 40 hours a week at church from the time I was an infant until I walked out at 16 years old never to return, one could say that I have seen plenty of picky religious women grow old alone because they were so fixed on their own little what I want in a man list yet never sought out to improve themselves in the slightest that in all reality it borders on the ridiculous.
The true Irony of it all at the end of the day is that the girl that fit the biblical list of what a women should and should not strive to be and the one I treated dearly and loved most deeply identified as a Pagan.
It's been 19 years since she died and in all my travels across this world and searching I have not seen another that comes even remotely close to being as genuine of a caring and a selfless human being as she was.
She was the reason I would wake each morning and hammer out 14-16 hour shifts every day and rush right back home because there was no place I would rather be then collapsed in her arms to be spoiled with her attention.
It was never about her asking for things, she in reality only ever wanted my time and attention and in every moment I had free I granted it undivided to her and her alone. But the fire she lit within me to chase everything by asking for nothing had us nearly retired in 3 years worth of time.
It was not that I ever really wanted to be out of her reach in reality the opposite was true I was aiming to stack up enough cash on hand so that we could leave the rest of the world behind us well the interest did all the work.
These days I just laugh at women and their ridiculous lists as I pass them by living under the radar. They all want what they want but they offer so little in return that it honestly isn't worth the effort to bother with them these days.
I would never give my dog a treat for pissing on my carpet, nor will I ever reward any human for pissing excess unnecessary drama into my life. And sadly that is all most women have to offer these days.
When a person strives and exchanges their energy and lifeforce to make sure that you are taken care of and that your needs are met, then it is in both your best interest to make sure they are satisfied and kept in both great mental and physical condition as well. No person needs to carry another human it is a choice one makes not an entitlement and just like every other choice a lack of gratitude can change the priority of where you stand in that persons life.
Everything in this world takes work, and the minute a person wakes up and realizes they are pulling two peoples burdens on their own the jig is up. As for that Unconditional Love thing that people like to spout off at the mouth about realize that in order to receive it one must truly wish to bestow it upon another. And working your other half to death over shiny bobbles that won't matter in the long run to impress people that should never matter in the first place is probably the most disrespectful thing you can do to someone else.
I do find it amusing that you mentioned Disney though as I am waiting for all these picky women to get together for a class action lawsuit against them since they were all told they were princesses growing up regardless of their own actions in life and yet their prince charming never seems to come save them from their own bad choices.
Thanks for the Amusement and keep up the good work Misty maybe you can shake some of these people awake.
That was very good: Be the kind of person that you want in a spouse! I think the most important standard is that both husband and wife are true believers...that they both strongly desire to live for Him.. Our future spouse may not turn out to be the idea we had in our mind. Trust God to show you who that person will be, in His timing.
Knowing that there are people out there who still hold to these teachings is heartwarming. I've lived in a feminist bubble for most of my life and always felt something was deeply wrong. Keep up the good work :)
Love your content as an Asian American man I will wait for my Proverbe 31 lady. I also do not do well here in the states. She may be in another country not sure. I will delight myself in the Lord and make Him my hearts desire. Once again thanks.
Jebpmarine Hafey When I was making videos a decade ago, I remember a young man who emailed me to say that he was thinking of looking for a wife overseas (in an Asian country), and he ended up doing just that. Last I knew he was happily married with a few children.
It’s not a bad way to go, from what I can tell- the church in some other countries is not quite as corrupted by feminism as ours. But that is quickly changing, too.
Blessings to you in your waiting and your search, and may God bless you with a woman who loves His design! :)
Great to read what you have all shared. As a 36-year old Vietnamese American, and I have awakened to the Truth behind Western feminist ideology. Regrettably MGTOW and my self-preservation route through vasectomy was necessary. The positive perspective of my journey did lead me to Self-Actualize in many other ways. I recognize many wrongs from our old Age of Deception. And if I personally do not at least attempt to right these past wrong doings (internally & externally), then *it's not good for us homo sapiens as a species.*
I was born into a Buddhist family with strong Confucian values. Self-identified as an atheist in my early teens. Self-identified as an agnostic in my 20's. And now that I am older, and a bit wiser in 2019, I am actively seeking Truth behind the bible and from Jesus Christ the huMAN*? God bless to all across our planet in their life journeys.
We need a friend, sex, art, work, that's about it.
Wow! Amen! The biggest thing is both people need to be chasing after God. Obey God and His word and everything will be fine :). The bible is infallible, it is our final authority.
What young men, who love the Lord, need to realise is that the Lord wants them to marry women who have not been defiled by men. As a young man in the 80s, I believed this whole heartedly and set my heart to marry a beautiful virgin bride. I wasn't prepared to settle for anything less. And you know what? I did meet my virgin bride after a lot of prayer and fasting. We've been happily married now for 23 years. We have 3 daughters and 1 son. I genuinely believe that if more Christian men started praying for their own wives as teenagers [ I started when I was 16] the Lord will preserve young virgin brides for them. So young men, take note. You are under no obligation to marry a woman who has slept around. Know your own worth. You are sons of the King of heaven and earth. And the least you deserve is to marry your own virgin bride!
dunamis333 I LOVE the reminder to begin praying about and for a future spouse! I did so myself, but wish I had started earlier. Who knows what God would choose to do with those prayers! Blessings to you and your happy family. :)
@@MakeWomahoodBiblicalAgain Praying for a spouse has to be taught in church and unfortunately it's not. When was the last time you went to a Church and the Pastor said. "Every Wednesday night for 2 or 3 hours we're going to be praying for spouses." It just doesn't happen. Can you imagine what this would do in the body of Christ if it did?
May Jesus Christ be Praised. This message is a beaming light of truth in a dark land.
Warren Buffet said jokingly:
What's the most important thing for the success of marriage?
Low expectations.
:)
They demand so much, and not only don't give, they don't even talk about what they are supposed to give in return. It's like they should give nothing at all, not even sympathy or good attitude, common sense, understanding. And mothers teach that to their boys. So we as boys grow up thinking in our heads "yes, I will be nice, love, and this and that, and she will reciprocate". But nobody ever promised that she will... That's the cause of a lot of heartbreak. And then guys go after all those assholes, who think they are a gift of god to everybody and shouldn't do anything at all. Then the guys get crashed. But those women get crashed too. If you don't tame your expectations to reality, you will think that he is too low-quality for you, when in fact he is the top of what this world can offer. And vice versa for guys. A lot of them have way too high expectations and pass pretty good opportunities because they pale in comparison to their imaginary ideal. Yet they don't realize that this ideal is unachievable.
It really reminds of an open letter of a 42 year old single woman who regretted passing on a guy who loved her when she was 18, because she thought he is not rich enough, good enough, etc. Her farther warned her that love is hard to find. The guy was crashed, he carried on for a decade and then married somebody else. She was dumped for a younger woman by her "high-profile" guy she wanted. And well that's a good life lesson. And lots of those idiot retarded feminists are cheering her up, but there is nothing to cheer, it's a life lost... Sad but true. She only has herself to blame.
www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2263518/I-left-love-life-I-thought-I-better-Now-Im-childless-42.html
It's all greed. Give me, Give me, Give me... Life doesn't work this way... You have to be happy with what you have first.
Sadly, I hear stories like this all too often. I'm never one to delight in others' suffering. But given how she rejected because she felt the man's job was beneath her, I have no sympathy for her. I would never take back a woman like her no matter how much she begged.
eh, and she still didn't understand the root cause of it.
Women that don't appreciate only manipulate.
She still thinks "she is nice and innocent and the world treated her badly"... But look how badly she treated that "Love of her life"... Carrying him for decade "as a friend"... That's just pure torture... I feel sorry for the guy... Yet he is greedy too, as he wanted only to give love. He should have left 50% of this love giving for her to do it. That's a form of greed too. Anyway... Century after century guys and women do the same mistakes. I know it's hard, but you have to move on... Fairy-tale is over, Welcome to the real life...
Why is it always attractive, right-leaning women pointing this out?
Christy, respect for you. I hope you have a good life. If you are married your husband is proud of you.
You Are a very Good person and have been Blessed with your insight and wisdom. I wish my wife and I could have heard your messages before she left me after 36 years of marriage. I believe we would still be together. I hope and pray you can help others that still can learn from you before they fail in Their marriages. Thank you and God Bless you.
Gabriel Cantu I’m so sorry about your wife, and I so appreciate your kind wishes for others. I believe all insight and wisdom come from God, so He gets the credit for any of that. May your heart and life be blessed!
Heartfelt to say the least. Wisdom is lesson learned and earned. Wisdon is not guaranteed with birth. Wise lady u r.
I think quality women believe in the good potential of high integrity men and nurture that. They appreciate hardworking men without demanding luxury designer goods (in my case i pay for it myself). They take sexual responsibility and do not act sexually wreckless. They set fair standards for themselves and partners and understand if a guy works beyond 40 hours a week, he is sacrificing time to provide for his family and may come home exhausted. And he can be thanked by healthy meals and nice home atmosphere.
My aunt was an example of how not to treat men. She has now raised an extraordinary angry son, 2 entitled daughters, and 1 whipped husband who is just a hollow shell. He is 56 and cannot even answer a question without looking to my aunt outside his professional life.
Great analysis. Very in depth. Wish their were more women who value good men in the world.
I’m Christian this is a breathe of fresh air :) thank you.
I'm not Christian (I'd love to be but am not there yet) but think the Bible is bang on about marriage.
43, married 17 years with 3 kids and so grateful for my family
I think it is "lopsided" because it would be politically incorrect to state what a man deserves, especially the way you phrased it. People would be mortified at that concept. Political correctness has to end if humanity wants to understand and follow God's word. Great talk. Please do more videos, hope all is okay with the family as you've taken a long break.
I'm so glad I found your channel. : )
Do you have any group for training young women to be a biblical woman on a regular basis? I think I need like that..
Conchita Boren Hi! I do not, but on Facebook there’s a group called the “Always Learning Chatroom.” It’s run by a lady named Lori Alexander and the conversation there is so good!
Wow, thank you for the honestly. From the Christian point of you.
Want to cover soooooooooooooo many things. But this is your and other women's semi-closed discussion hall. So won't say a word except occasionally if the situation calls for it.
For now I only want to say that even if very few women see this and even fewer state their agreement/opinion in the comment sections, please do *not* stop making videos for this channel. Any change in the culture, no matter how minuscule is important - even if just one woman changes to become a good wife, that still counts as significant. If for a combination of reasons in the future, you do not get the time to continue making videos, then it's a different thing and obviously a sad loss for female audience, but until then please keep on making videos.
Thank you for such videos with 10/10 messages for women.
Progress and Peace 1 Thanks so much for that encouragement- it really is such a great reminder that even the “drop in the bucket” matters. And please feel quite welcome to share your thoughts freely! :)
I think that if a young woman puts the effort in to doing the right things to prepare for marriage, rather than giving in to pressures from the sexual revolution etc, she could argue that she does deserve a return on her investment.
Same applies with a young man, of course. If he's done the casual hook-up thing, he can't really expect to get a good quality wife.
You can only reasonably expect to get out of it what you put in to it.
Just re-watching one of your vids Christy you have a gift when your little ones aren't running you ragged please share with us :D
Christy just made my day by giving this a heart (I have a little crush)
I am not even Christian but I love this chic
What a great message. Wish I had this talk when I was a younger guy.
YES! Preach on sister!
Thank you.
This is kind of related but kind of not. You often hear people, both men and women, tell other men to "man up." Which is weird considering you never hear "woman up." Being a man in our society is not simply being a grown up male. A man being a man is determined by others, whereas being a woman is just being a grown up female.
Researchers call this phenomenon "Precarious Manhood". A google search will bring up quite a bit on the topic... Tom Golden has some of the best analysis.
The value of God is unlimited, and the man that walks with Him has a very high value as well, the issue is God is hidden from the vast majority, and so His value goes unrecognized. So women can’t recognize a Godly man when they see one... keep in mind, I’m not talking about preachers pastors and the like, I’m talking about the elect that God has chosen.
Another issue women choose men according to sex appeal, and expect honesty and integrity to come with it, not saying it can’t, but since the religious type are sexually repressed most likely, she is going to find a guy that isn’t going to be honest and have integrity. Keep in mind not all religious types are honest and have integrity, and these attributes aren’t limited to the religious community...
Michael Wesley II I believe straight-up religion results in sexual repression, but relationship with God does not.
The first is based on rules as human beings attempt to be “good.”
The second is, well, relationship: the result of human beings realizing we can never be good and that was the reason Jesus Christ had to be the perfect sacrifice for us.
This brings freedom and honesty- not guilt, shame, and repression. Speaking from personal experience! :)
@@MakeWomahoodBiblicalAgain Jesus was sent to fulfill the law definitely. The question to ask with a ll the religious that have been contorted and twisted by religious scholars and jurists of the past, sure this was not intended by the most high? Pure, untainted jurisprudence from a divine source serves a divine purpose, to help us all realize our creator, and become normal from His perspective... Jesus is normal, Maryam normal, Moses normal, Elijah normal, Muhammad normal... the rest of us estranged.. from his perspective ofcourse...
Most of the Abrahamic religions of today, yes do result in sexual repression... But if you take Islam for example, who had the prophet Muhammad, who at one time had 10 wives... or take Prophet Solomon, which biblical sources cite an over the top quantity of women... Definitely, sexual repression could not have been intended, but was meant to be regulated...
Christy, you are obviously a delight to many men including myself - the comments say as much. What sort of church do you go to (or denomination) so that other men may perhaps more easily find a woman who has been taught much like yourself? This is in no way underestimating the reality that you've made your own choices and thought your own thoughts to be the person you are today.
I can totally see men and women expecting too much. And I'm not bashing women: in the end men and women are just people and, if they were all somehow mixed together into each separate group, men and women would be equally bad. But it really does seem that women have unreasonable expectations. They seem to expect the guy to not have negative qualities. With guys... I guess they just don't care enough about the relationship and don't put in the effort (I'm not sure; I mostly pay attention to the girls, since I'm a guy). But, ya know, the world is falling to pieces.
Your a shining star sir! Thank you for your comment!
i was raised anglican but i converted to catholic in 2014. i have dated my fiancé for two years and we plan on getting married. She is my best friend and hopefully before were 30 we hope to have children together. My parents have been married 29 years so I come from a very good family But unfortunately 2 of my brothers have been divorced so I had to have the uncomfortable talk with my fiancé of the possibility of divorce and what will happen in the event. What will happen to the children what will happen to our finances. I am not a bad guy, And she is my best friend and I will love her and be devoted to her forever but we need to prepare for the possibility.
Great video!
She undermined my marriage
nature is winning because many women lose their looks when they age not all of them but many look way less than average (I don't want to use the word ugly because it is bad) so I guess that men are settling, I applaud the Creator for his great wisdom
Such an important message! I'd like to know exactly what we might say to our sons about what to expect of their future wives and what we might say to our daughters about their future dusties as wives, and their expectations of their husbands. I think we could uae more information on how not to have unrealistic expectations of our husbands
I have heard about being submissive, but I never see examples of how a wife may respond in situations which are 'tricky'. For instance, if your husband tells you to do something without realizing that his directions conflict with some other things going on. Or, you want to suggest an alternative plan that you think would be better. I'd like to see how you might use your tone of voice and choice of words to speak up, and yet still not emasculate your husband or usurp his authority.
I am not asking this in order to say, "How can I prentend to follow my husband, but really argue with him and be the leader myself?" I am really asking about the infrequent times when we want to give him more information.
Also, how can we respond if he is grumpy or speaks harshly to us without a good cause? I'd like to see examples of exactly how we might respond.
I emulate my parents as i said they’ve been married 29 years. And I believe that it is the husband’s responsibility to take care of the wife and children. But my fiancé also wants to work as a independent filmmaker which I 100 support. however when we do have children she needs to put the needs of our family first over her career.
No establishment institution ever fulfills its purported purpose
Wonderful video, Christy. I would agree that the reason for the disparity is abandoning Scriptural teaching for feminist culture.
Thank you for faithfully preaching the Bible's instructions to women. These are the most rejected, despised and misinterpreted passages in the Bible. Their teaching is so plain, yet it is rejected by almost all because their loyalty is to feminism and not to the Word. The unspoken manner of this rejection typically involves the following mental gymnastics which turns the teaching of Ephesians 5 on its head: The Bible says women should submit to their men; but the Bible also says that men should love their women; since there cannot be love where one has authority over another, then the Bible cannot really mean that women should submit to their men; but since men are commanded to love their women, then men must submit to their women otherwise they do not love them!
Have you discerned this kind of disingenuous distortion of Ephesians 5 in churches in America?
Your counsel to women is excellent when you call them to voluntarily submit to their husbands. Unfortunately, if the church and the government do not both give men back their God-given authority then men can never fully have confidence and security in their masculine role. If prosecution from the feminist government/courts and/or condemnation from the feminist pulpit/media/academy are hanging over men's heads, then society can never be healed. There is a reason why feminists go after control of these things: feminists know that the Bible's rejection of feminism will mean little if they control the civil punishments and the authoritative voices in society.
Jamie Thomson Every word of this is spot-on. Have you considered writing a book on such things? I’d definitely read and buy it, and probably promote it, too.
Yes, have definitely come across this mangling and butchering of Ephesians 5 in American churches. It’s the reality in the majority of Western churches, I have no doubt. Those who would rightly plainly teach the words of Scripture are quickly being made out to be radicals- *in* the Church. Sad times.
@@kylesmithks35 Good point. I did not mean to say that those mental gymnastics are voiced openly and all at the same time. Nevertheless, if you pay close attention to the way that most Christians address all Bible verses on women, love and authority, then it is clear that this twisted line of thought exists commonly in the churches.
@@MakeWomahoodBiblicalAgain Thanks, Christy. I hadn't considered writing such a book, but since you encourage me to do so then I will. :) I'll let you know when I finish.
Jamie Thomson Only if you want to! Don’t let me pressure you, haha. Just noticed that you have solid and balanced observations, and an articulate way of writing them. 👍🏻
@@MakeWomahoodBiblicalAgain Thanks, Christy. No pressure then. But you have talked me into it already. :)
I have plenty of practice making accurate observations about feminism. That's why my Facebook account has so few reactions and comments. Haha!
A resounding "yeeeeeess, lawd" from the choir! 🙌 Great "discombobulated" thoughts! 😆 I cringe every time a see a "you're a princess" Christian meme. It's one of the reasons I couldn't get through "Captivating," the Eldridge's disappointing counterpart to "Wild at Heart." ~M
The Revolting Man Thanks, sister! Haha- I don’t think I managed to make it through that one, either! Of course, the masses were fawning over that book, so I should have known... 😆
God this woman is such a megababe
lol, a not _just_ a babe, a MEGABABE. Reboot!
Touches my soul, real wife material.
My mother in law who is Christian straight up said my wife was the head
thank you :)
Fairy tales are not about finding a man. They are about the Church as the bride of Christ. Cinderella teaches that humility is its own reward. Beauty and the Beast that love must be gracious and not superficial. Etc.
Thank you Christianna
I liked the comment about men's confidence/bravado/daring, how it is important.
I looked into something a while ago about goals.
People say SMART goals... Specific Measurable Achievable Realistic Time-based...
Someone went these were stupid, or lame. As in, yeah yeah yawn...
They said they wanted to have DUMB goals.
Christopher Columbus saying 'I'm going to discover America', or we're going to put a rocket on the moon, or break the sound barrier in a plane...As in, history makers.
Religious or not, the game entirely was changed by online dating.
Women see they have dozens, if not hundreds of choices at their literal fingertips, so they'll obviously compete for the top percentile.
Men, on average, don't have that luxury and become discouraged and turn away from it in various forms.
The sexes need one another, and there are plenty of good women and men who have suffered from this dating paradigm shift.
Good advice you've given, and I suggest checking out Blonde in the Belly of the Beast as she's made several videos of a similar nature as well.
Great points!
Jamie Chaney Thanks, friend! 😃
What I see missing in relationship advice is the difference between inherent traits to look for and traits which improve over time.
Things like sex, income and to some extent confidence come with age and experience.
Somethings like character, intelligence and behavior don't tend to change at all.
So when you pick your standards make sure the apply to things that don't change and be a lot more forgiving on things that do change over time.
I don't like the word ego for "a man's ego" because many men have a huge ego and no wisdom to back it up. Just plain stupidity being fueled by an empty ego. Is there any other word to refer to this energy you are referring to?
Hope you do talk about that man's ego further
i agree
Would you be opposed to Atheists dating Christians?
Destro7000 a real Christian would know why not to date an atheist. So I wouldn’t say you could consider that person a Christian. (Just my opinion)
"No one DESERVES anything". Amen, sister. The men you get are the men you attract and retain. Period. No one is above natural selection and here's how it works: Men decide whether they are attracted to you in less than a second. So, work hard on your appearance. If you can't command his attention early, move on. Once a man that you want has expressed interest, challenge him to pursue you. If he won't pursue, forget him. If he does pursue and you want to keep him, don't sleep with him for about 90 days. Otherwise, the bond between you and your man will not be strong enough to last past sexual gratification. Many men will drop out of your selection process before the end. This should be expected.
I don't see why religion is relevant to this, it's actually (or should be) quite simple: You want a man worth your while? Be a woman worth his! Of course it's true the other way around, too. All religion does in this context is pre-defining what "worth your/his while" is supposed to mean. Also: marriages in biblical times tended to be arranged, not the result of choices made by the spouses. If I remember correctly no woman in the bible chose her husband; they were essentially bartered away by their fathers. I fail to see how relationship advice geared at making the best out of a marriage with a partner somebody else chose for you can help finding the right partner. Given the fact that the conditions for which it was devised no longer apply, the advice "be the wife scripture tells you to be" should be taken with hughmungus grain of salt.
This whole "I deserve a guy who ... and he should be glad I even look his way", seems to be a universal among women, regardless of world-view. But it only works when women can force men into long-term relationships. As long as men can walk away, women that bring nothing to the table will end up single. In my opinion the "where have all the good men gone"-lament has to do with that: The good men realized that they don't have to enter relationships that don't give them what they want from life.
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I agree with everything you said except the ego thing. The big ego of western men is what led to their downfall. Wisdom comes first. The ego is totally insignificant when compared to wisdom. By abandoning wisdom with an inflated ego, without foundations on reality, men started making more and more bad decisions and mistreating their wives and children and lost respect of their women and families.
I think you tip toed around the true nature of women a little too much.
P W true nature of women is that of hypergamy, entitlement and social acceptance