I've seen in my own parents lives what happens when the woman cools off and gives the man room to lead again - it has been them at their very happiest. This stuff actually works people, and it's beautiful.
As it just so happens...this guy's SN is "Adam"...lol. After that there, um...garden incident, I think he's got something to say. Hahaha, sorry, y'all. I just had to.
Misty, Do you see that beautiful comment from a mgtow non-Christian. And what a wonderful comment you replied back. You are a Godly Biblical scripture woman. I thank and praise the Lord for the voice you have to reach other women. I pray and hope that he expands that reach to those many many more who need to hear it. Thank you
I've heard women say that they have an "equal" or egalitarian marriage. Which is just another way of saying, she's in charge. Your husband and family are blessed by your good heart and attitude. "A wise woman builds up her home. A foolish woman tears it down."
Amen. I used to know this scripture, believe it, preach it. I then rejected it all. And married an ungodly, non Christian woman. Conveniently for me, I tried to implement some Christian ideals in the home when children were born. It quickly turned south and today life has turned into a daily misery for both the children and I. Though Christy seems quite a bit younger than I, listening to her may get me back to the great Book at least because of the great sense she speaks and the devotion she has for God. That in turn would provide a terrific example for my my daughter's who I would MUCH rather turn out like this lady, than the person my ex has revealed herself to be long term. Learn from my terrible, unbelievably life altering poor choices.
Such a lovely a thought provoking video. This is the second place I've heard the phrase "you are not your husband's holy spirit" and I think it's something I needed reminding of. Thank you
Sarah See Thank you Sarah ❤️ I’m sure I heard it sometime early in my marriage and it was probably something I needed reminding of as well, and then just stuck with me. Marriage is hard (more often than not, at times)- hard, and worth it!
Sorry if you gathered she is promoting wives to follow their husbands into sin because she is not. She is just trying to teach women to embrace biblical womanhood.
Wow, I had to listen to this a few times! What you said at the 10 and 11 minute mark was a conversation my wife and I have had more than once. She refuses to submit if she believes the decision being made is wrong. Eventually, to my shame, I gave up trying to lead and let her do it. Our marriage fell apart and we are now separated. The more she led, the more controlling she would be. I became resentful and distant. She didn't have faith that the Creator would reward her obedience but rather feared the consequences of my decision making (I haven't made the best decisions in the past). Now she wants me back but when I ask if she is ready to submit and for me to be the head of the household, she responds that she won't blindly obey and would conditionally submit. For someone that admits now that God has really taken her to task for not submitting to Him, she still appears to not have learned much from the lessons. I am terrified of being the head of the household because of the weightiness of that responsibility not only for my actions and decisions but for those of my family for whom I am responsible for and the judgement that will ensue. Even though it is a weighty responsibility, I am doing my best to submit my will to my Creator and do His will...be a man and be a leader...with humility and power.
Very wise, that burning desire to never let your wife down starts to die when she stops trusting you, & it puts you on a degenerating path that kills your marriage, or at least that's how it went in my case.
As a husband, I have made less than a handful of decisions that did not align with my wife thoughts/desires. Now, when it comes to those decisions, we both know, she will stand next to me as I make an account of my decisions to God.
So true, and it doesn’t apply only to marriage or even women. I’ve had this behavior ruin a business partnership, where after years of being second guessed about every little decision on my supposed area of expertise, I realized feigning incompetence and not making decisions was the best way to avoid losing my mind. Needless to say, the business went bankrupt not soon after.
What an amazing and powerful position to take. You make fantastic biblical points I have never heard spoken in any church j'v been to. Breathtaking...keep shining.
I am very glad to see you putting this wisdom out here on your videos. Out of those that view, many will remember, some will heed. But you have let God use you to give _all of them the same chance_ .
She says stuff NO ONE has the guts to say. Sure there are other channels that have some good teachings against the feminist movement that's infiltrated even the church. But none go as far as she is willing to go. I'm constantly blown away but what she says and the fearlessness to speak the unadulterated truth of scripture. That level of truth is going to limit her followers.
Reviewing mistakes in a non-critical way is part of learning from your mistakes, and as a wife you should be helping your husband learn. BUT This is where I told you so is wrong. It's a form of shame. You aren't showing him how he can avoid this in the future you are telling him there is something wrong with him. Here is the kicker ladies, you picked your husband, if you believe ther is something wrong about him it doesn't say much about your choices. To wrap it up. If you use shame in any shape or form you will destroy your marriage. A simple question to ask yourself when dealing with your husband is "Will this make him better or tear him down"
Luke Davis ~ “ ...as a wife you should be helping your husband to learn.” THERE is your blue pill Simp mentality. In that ONE sentiment you are repeating the feminist idea that women are superior than men and need to teach men. Pity.
@@wattjock horse crap. If you are not open to learning as a man, you are just an adult male. Men can learn from any source and that includes their wives and children too. As a man, you learn to choose, act, observe, ponder or reflect, understand, learn and then act hopefully in a better way next time, no matter good your first choice was. That's no simp, that's wisdom. Perhaps you're so angry with this red blue pill stuff (I'm Christian red pill myself) that you've been blinded in the process.
Saying "I told you so" is nothing but self congratulating mocking of another individual. How you could humiliate someone you love in that way is puzzling to me.
Simply said, in the moment that somebody says I told you so, whether with words, facial expression, attitude, or actions, that person simply is not being loving. That is to say that the more a person does that, the more that person is making a lie out of the words "I love you."
@@roksolana-zb4hu I think he means in the context of a natural relationship where a man is expected to be a leader, he in turn has the responsibility of leading, and if she says I told you so it is from a position of convenience as the one following and not leading.
Christie will be the first one to tell you that the One who is really wise is Almighty God. Anyone who would repeat what Almighty God has taught her, is most certainly being wise. She's doing a great job, and I am glad to call her "sister" ; thank God for her.
My heart has been somewhat hardened over the past few years, and recently I have discovered mgtow. Some of those videos can be on the extreme side, so watching content like yours reminds me that things aren’t black and white. There are women like you out there that sees the value and wisdom in traditional ways. As a man I can tell you that if my wife truly submitted to me in the way you described, she will have my heart and soul for life. MGTOW only exists because feminism has destroyed these time tested traditional values, and every red pilled man would like nothing more than for a return to these roots. I hope I can find a woman like this in my lifetime, but if not, I guess I’ll be going my own way.
wannaBtraceur that’s so sad to hear but I can sympathize. What feminists don’t understand is that while they are trying to become men, men don’t become women, men sit out of the game. It’s unfortunate that men have felt so undervalued that MGTOW has become the huge movement it is today and hopefully all these new feminine women and women speaking on biblical womanhood will have a ripple effect in our culture before it’s too late!
Amber Thomas --I just wanted to say that I appreciated your words of empathy, and the virtue that drives them. I certainly hope that you see your wishes come true, one beautiful godly and biblical marriage at a time. I, for one, wish for that right along with you. Even though I'm going my own way (concerning marriage) as well, there's not a day that goes by that I don't grieve the situation--especially when I look at the Song of Solomon, and see what I would call my favorite biblical example of what a human relationship could be, when God is in charge, and the government gun is not pointed at the husband's (and, therefore, the marriage's) head. God bless you.
This is one (among many) reasons that I'm glad I'm now single. Do I miss my ex? Yes. Do I miss our life togther? Yes, most parts of it. Was it hard work? Yes, quite often...but... If you have to go around the one you love and live with, taking care of what you say, what you don't say, what you do, what you don't do, then that's a whole lot of hassle. To have to think how you say things for fear of upsetting someone, even if it's not intentional and they know it's not intentional, is life draining. I had it for 7 years and it crippled me. Did she take it to heart when I was teasing or joking? Did she take it to heart when I was being serious? Which, and what? You end up second guessing yourself all the time. I never intentionally hurt anyone in my life. I've found that a lot of women take the little things to heart, then you have to spend time making them feel better and consoling them, when you didn't even mean something in that particular way. Yet, when it's something serious, they look at you with a blank expression. My ex never listened to me when I tried to explain and tell her where she was going wrong in life. I loved her, I saw what was coming, yet she carried on and now, that we've broken up she is in a world of crap. Yes, I told her so, but she still never took any notice. What a waste of time, effort and hurt, all to lose each other in the end.
I just found you Ms, from a comment you left on The Revolting Woman's channel, so I've had to binge a few :) I've been following TRM for some time now. Glad to hear another good woman explain these things, that are not exactly popular this day-in-age, so well. May God continue to bless you ma'am. Excellent Job. You are absolutely correct, submission is the real way to a man's heart. No one wants to argue for a lifetime, which is exactly how long a marriage should last. I grew up in a household like that, I refused to marry such a woman and thanks to HIM, I didn't. But growing up like that I can honestly say that the apathy that comes from that type of hostile family unit is extremely damaging to a relationship, and ls possibly the worst part. The man will argue logic and the woman emotion, but often emotion won't let go when logic will tell the man basically "I am not getting through, I'm wasting my breath, so I'm just done." So when she won't relent he shuts down, he draws back, and the family collapses...it all starts with a woman's role in all honesty. A loving wife is the absolute hub of the family, she will make or break the unit in her attitude and actions. Not to say there aren't pieces of )(*& men out there, but few will roam if they have a good woman at home. A man's job is to provide, a man doesn't feel complete unless he is providing for his family, therefore all he wants is his home and his family. If she makes it a place he can't wait to get home to, wild horses won't keep him away. Obviously I'm talking about real men here; good, honest, hard working, God fearing men. P.S. - You spoke of a woman possibly being right and the hubby being wrong...this is absolutely possible, in reality but I would submit this: the minute she defies/argues/etc, she is automatically wrong...even if she's right, she is wrong. In HIS eyes this is the case anyway, and in this life that is all that matters.
Always a touchy subject. I told you so is really never a good idea for the wife or the husband.. nor do I think it’s right for the husband to ignore his wife’s suggestions.. things seem to work out best with discussion no right , no wrong work together to make the best life possible.. the wife has a roll in a marriage and so does the husband. Above all is compassion and caring for the others opinion. NOBODY is always right it’s called being human just deal with mistakes. And it’s ok men to tell your wife she was right. Love and respect. I admire this young woman I surely wish all people thoughts were similar to hers wouldn’t it be a totally different world
What I have noticed over the years is wicked spirits can and do play with people...In a marriage time and again God will allow the devil to blind one or the other so a test can occur...God needs issues the data to judge people hence he allows the spirits to do their evil work on people at times...If you are not really in tune and pick up on those sublime movements of those wicked spirits you will eventually lose out....
I am enjoying your channel very much! Wish you had more videos:) I would live to know your opinion on who should do the budget in the home. Obviously, the husband should provide...but who should do the money managing? I have found different opinions, and scripturally, I can't figure it out. My husband is ok with either way. He was the first I asked!
This feminine woman is a truth speaking unicorn. Unicorn because this level of understanding is all put completely absent in masculinized western women. Every relationship I've had ended because I wouldn't submit to the woman's will in her struggle for the position of leader. Women have come to believe in an "equal partnership" which in practice means when in disagreement the tie is broken by her "getting her way," which means she's sees herself as the leader. In each relationship I've made decisions in opposition to her opinion and after the tantrum has subsided about disrespecting her opinion she will admit I made the right decision but remain resentful that I "don't value her opinion". It's all just so exhausting to be engaged in an on going power struggle with one's woman. The world provides plenty of struggle and conflict, a man's home and his woman must be a sanctuary where he can recharge his battery, not a place that drains additional energy from unnecessary conflict. I'm done, It's a pointless Sisyphean task to pursue a relationship in this era. I'm not going to find my unicorn in this life, not in this feminized society.
You sound like you're a bit of an idiot then. Like I was. Looking for these qualities in women that simply don't exist in the areas you are looking for them. Rethink where you are searching. If you truly know what you want to the last detail, then find a source that attracts the same kind of people with the same kind of values. There will be women there. Find yourself a wife.
Wow!!!!!!!! A truly God believing, and Word-following woman!!! "Who can find a virtuous woman"? Here is one stunning example. Your husband is VERY blessed to be ONE with you, and Christ!! Gb g
@@roksolana-zb4hu yikes, the problem runs deeper than imagined. You may be of age and know how to use the word stellar, but your maturity is clearly in the single digits range. Furthermore your self assessment is seriously skewed as evidenced by your self congratulatory deluded response. Its no wonder humanity is riddled with devastating issues when reading vitriol like that which you've spewed above and elsewhere in the comment section of this upload. And its clear that a bunch of people failed you growing up, not helping you learn how to reflect realities in your view of the world.
Back when I was dating a women who was arrogant was a real turn off. You could never enjoy a moment of glory for yourself without her thowing a bucket of water on it. At the very least she would change the subject as if your words were nothing. These condescending women looked powerful and modern, but as a man I found them off-putting. The opposite was true also. A woman who looked up to you, admired you, praised you was so exciting. You felt like a million bucks. You would gladly spend money and give attention to a women like that. Women who have a critical spirit towards their husbands boost their self esteem at the expense of his. It ultimately hurts her, because it pushes her husband away. He'll start looking for opportunities to stay away from home. And that spells t-r-o-u-b-l-e.
Nicely done, i haven't put any if not no research into God's word "because you have listened to the woman" i will have to put time aside for it. Thankyou
He also has the very high responsibility / Accountability to lead by "Love your wife as Christ loves the Church." So anyone acting like he's just going to do what he wants and you got to deal as the wife is not the case. It takes the spirit to love like that it isn't of our nature and it takes the spirit to humble yourself enough to let him lead. Honestly, to ladies/wives struggling against Western culture to embrace the command to submit... A man is WAY more likely to say "yes" if he feels like he can say "No". We are simple. It's all about approval. What we hear when our wives fight kick and scream are distrust, disrespect and disapproval. Not saying you can't question or add to the conversation, but it is so culturally acceptable to bash your husband.
Wow this is amazing and so true. Biggest point is without God this all falls apart and is folly to the world! Amazing, praise God! On another note I just read a very interesting book called Benefit of the Debt by Meg Miller and it touches a little bit on what you said. I don't want to spoil it but it really kind of blew my mind with some things. For example, if porn and lust is often understood to be the chief sin of men, what is the chief sin of women? You have to read it. Only 96 pages. Anyways. Great video!
If you haven't been a guest on Jesse Lee Peterson's channel, I hope you find each other. He completely concurs with the biblical Christian paradigm of ... God over man, man over wife, and wife over children.
totally agree.. dont put down that kind of notion to ur spouse, but at same time nurturing marriage corporation is the responsible of both man & woman.. just tell ur man in nicer notation, normally woman know best when comes to putting words..
Well I guess this will affect the men with low confidence... Not for me. Failure means you are trying things out of your comfort zone, try again and succeed.. Never doubt yourself even if you have a low success rate, just plan better. For me all the big choices are mine, the little ones we can discuss.. Not even my mother can make decisions for me.. I do it myself so I own my success or failure, without applying faith.
Had a thought. Maybe the husband had already prayed to the Lord about the situation and the Lord spoke. And the holy spirit is nudging him in the right direction and we know the holy spirit speaks with a small,still ,quiet voice. Maybe we don't understand the Lord's direction at the time. So he's might just be following what the Lord said. I just found your channel. You seem to me you think like a fundamental baptist'or brought up like. GODLY women are the Best !!
What you say here feels very 'natural' for me as a man. Looking back a few years on the relationship with my son's mother the first three years worked really well for us because I kind of made the right decisions, even little ones were we mostly benefitted even with little surprise rewards. I could almost insist of being lucky with my decisions and all was flowing freely. After about three years she started to push her will more and more through and I even challenged her and asked her why she insisted on her decisions when we wouldn't agree and she replied 'because I want a say also'. That was her reasoning and the beginning of the decline of our relationship. She wanted a say because the whole world is telling women that their word is a good as their partner's in a relationship. Equality and all... Well, that advice certainly contributed to the demise of our relationship. In the end I heard some people say about her that she developed into a bit of a 'control freak' - very different from when I met her first.
@Yash Yadav Even if your statement explains the now obvious ... I am not sure why you address this as a response to me? Because of my name? I would hardly call myself a 'white knight' if I was not aware of the meaning of that expression and it comes hardly across as a comical depreciation. So I am not sure about your ability to perform sequential thinking... anyway, I hope your comment will somehow enlighten other readers with something....
@Yash Yadav Ah ok, that explains it. I accept your apology, no problem! Yes, the network of the multinational media owners support communism and it's feminist branch by tricking the women into believing they are just telling them about feminism to help them! Most people in our cultures have been brought up to be trusting so women believe the media owners that they are just trying to help them... feminism is a 'mind virus' and much more deadly than the so called cv virus will ever be! The trick is that they tell the women that they are entitled to something rather than needing to do anything to gain anything...also the media praise the feminine over anything else and are now declaring the the divine feminine deserves to be called godly. it's a vicious loop for women of entitlement and the offer of more free stuff and being put on the pedestal to become even more more prideful. A crazy upward spiral not based on anything real! Men have to step up and prevent women from ultimately destroying society and protect women - from themselves!!
@Yash Yadav 'Yuri Bezmenov,ex-KGB,and his spilling of the secret of comminism and the 4 stages of Communist take over of a country' yes I am familiar with his interviews form about 1983 -84. He lays it out clearly how the 'mind virus' will affect people., but still communist, socialist types of people will be in denial even if you show them those videos! it's the strangest thing, but he predicted it that they will be unwilling / unable to see the truth even if you hold it underneath their noses, It looks like communism and the spell of it has some hypnotic qualities!
That was wonderful. Can't say I understand that kind of responsibility, not fundamentally. But I do get this, there is only one way I can see society working well. And this is sort of a sociological analysis, picture a triangle and a circle overlaid. Men make the triangle and women the circle. And it's instinctual, I mean I challenge you to find and symbol of feminine wisdom, insight, spirituality or whatever that doesn't use a circle, or something organic like this. I doubt there are many, anyway. And women socialize in this manner. And men like triangle symbols a lot, also.
Women focus on the first part, to summit to your husband but disregard the second part where God command that the man be willing to be s christ and give everything to his wife and family including his life.
Have you happened to see this video where this guy goes out interviewing random people in New York City where he asks them how are women better than men which resulted in them listing one thing after another yet when he then asks in what ways men are better than women and they go blank, one woman even started CRYING because she couldn’t fathom such an evil question. I’m not sure if it will shadowban this comment if I share the link to the video so just look up Fact: Men are Better Than Woman (At Some Things) by the youtube channel Sasha Daygame It shows just how indoctrinated people are into believing that women are BETTER than men.
I don’t want to pedestalize another man’s wife but the contrast between your mentality and the average “Christian” woman in America (let alone non-Christian woman) is depressing. From the little I’ve heard about your husband (like building a house), he truly sounds like not only a Christian man, but man’s man who’s been gifted with a Godly woman. A woman like you is who I aspire my sister, daughter, and future wife to become. And I especially thank God to have parents like that as an example
There is also the fact that guess what? He's probably not wrong. Yeah, really, it's true, it's likely you just aren't seeing it yet or are just being stubborn. God did not just flip a coin and arbitrarily assign men to rule and women to obey. No, God created man to rule and woman to be his helper and he created them with the attributes and abilities to serve best in their respective stations. Men are better at leading and decision making, they're made to do so. Men and women were not created the same, men and women were not created with equal abilities and we were not given our places in life just because. So perhaps take a minute to sit back and consider that perhaps you're actually not right and instead learn to become teachable and lose your pride and stubbornness. Do men make mistakes? Of course. Are they infallible? No, they're not, nobody is saying they are. When those mistakes are made he will learn from them and become a better leader from it. Even then, just because it didn't work out this time it does not mean that the general idea or direction was not correct, it certainly doesn't mean that you know better and that he should just be listening to you. It is your place to support your husband through this process if growth and encourage him to keep going and growing into a better man and leader of you and your family, not to kick him when he's down to stroke your own pride.
"Because you have listened to the voice of your wife..." read as, "because you did not listen to the voice of your Almighty One." The husband is to listen to the voice and the Almighty, not the wife. As a Torah Observant MGTOW, I no longer have to be concerned with a woman constantly trying to usurp my position under Messiah Yeshua as the head of the family directly. She still is using the power of the State to basically leave me out of the equation and is effectively usurping my position as father to my son. She will be held to account for her actions.
Ok, Ok, Ok! So I guess there such thing as a unicorn. You are rare and you not only glorify God, you would bless your husband and kids too. You have such a gift of faith that you really do believe God will flip what ever is wrong, right. Part of the curse is that it will be the woman's desire to rule over her husband. Feminism proves that to be exactly spot on true. So how did God slip you thru this curse and why? Well He always has a remnant no matter what. Oh BTW, a guy named Solomon was talking about you. He says your super rare too but you do exist.
@@roksolana-zb4hu it's clear that these pearls were cast before a pig. Pity you lack in wisdom. Pity you represent the typical woman. Pity you are the reason MGTOW is a thing. Even if you're a male.
Thank you for another fine message, it's funny I have always looked at feminism as the modern day serpent. To see what it is doing to women of today and not just the young, 3 years ago my cousin aged 52 started university (college) before starting she was a loving wonderful person, now she is one of the worst radical feminists I have met with nothing but hate for males, it has been truly heartbreaking to watch her transformation.
Christy you are a treasured role model for CHRISTian women, wanting to establish their home, in accordance with GOD's structure, almost see a glimmer of hope for myself, but sadly with my career, and taking care of my elderly mother, I took hiatus from women and dating at age 35, over 15 yrs ago, now that I am free again, the only compatible ladies I meet now, do not have a GODly spirit, in fact most have a jezebel spirit, or come with such huge amount of emotional distrust, financial debt, or unruly offspring, that the thought of even courting them is unconscionable, in fact, only after seeing your video on the subject, I had not even realized, I had adopted the philosophy of MGTOW, simply from seeing so many good decent men destroyed by callous or vile ladies, by false accusations, and having all their assets, and privileges of fatherhood stripped from them, all for what seemed vain satisfaction, definitely not what was best for the children... honestly I have given up hope of ever finding a mate, here on this earth. after losing my retirement twice, I once again have been blessed and can retire very comfortably, and I dare not put it at risk, and must accept quiet solitude, as I venture from my fall to my winter of life... your family is blessed to have such a precious jewel as wife and mother...
This comment is intended to help put a little perspective on finding a virtuous woman for the young men that may decide they would like a family. I pretty much knew by the age of 16 that marriage was not going to be for me for various reasons, the biggest one being even at that age I instinctively knew the odds would be long, hence, I never even tried to find "the one for me". Then, at the age of 37, totally by chance, I ran across "conservative match.com", I looked around, and thought wow, just maybe there is a chance I can find what I am looking for. Long story short, over the next 3 years I "interviewed" well over 1000 women near as I can figure, all but 8 of them were seeking what they described as a 50/50 relationship. For the young men that do not fully understand what a 50/50 relationship is, it means upon saying "I do" she will take possession of your balls, place them safely in her purse, and make the decisions she wishes to make from there on out. Be very careful young man, there are no guarantees with one of those 8, the others are almost certainly a headache just waiting to take hold. You are truly a treasure Christy, and your husband is either extremely wise, extremely lucky, or some combination of the two.
So, if I understand correctly: a wife can bring up concerns but then should withdraw if her husband disagrees. This is because ultimately he is responsible for the decision, so if it turns out poorly he takes the fall, while if the wife persuaded him differently she may lead him astray. Doesn’t this mean that if she sincerely believes he’s making a poor choice, she should care more about saving her own neck and being able to tell herself that at least she didn’t make the bad decision? I don’t see how this is a good policy. You say that the husband is the leader and the final decision maker, and claim these are biblical principles, but they’re not. They are human-originated ideas based on culture that have been imposed on the Bible. Did you know that “head” in Greek did not mean what “head” means in English? The Greeks regarded the heart, not the brain, as the center of rational thought and decision making. The head was thought to be the source of life. It’s important to understand these translational nuances before basing an entire blueprint for marriage on a few proof texts read as if they were written in English. As far as submission, a few verses earlier members of the church are told to submit to one another. How, then, can this submission be taken to mean deferring to the will of an authority, something that can’t be done mutually? Perhaps submission means something more like offering yourself for the good of someone else, something clearly husbands AND wives must do. After all, we wouldn’t say that the instruction to husbands to love their wives means that wives don’t need to love their husbands; so why do we turn around and declare that the command to wives to submit doesn’t apply equally to husbands? Finally, the idea that the husband is ultimately responsible for his family is essentially setting up husbands as "priests" of a sort, representing their families to God and perhaps even God to their families. But this not only would be usurping a role occupied by Jesus alone, it also implies that Jesus' being our mediator is not good enough...a dangerous and perhaps heretical claim to make.
Her: To Love (care for), Honor (his strength, manliness, responsibility to God), and obey (ultimately); Him: To Love (care for, take care of, protect), Honor (as a woman, mother, sister, daughter, caretaker of the Home), Cherish (as a Blessing from God; a help meet, companion in Christ). Not being perfect he is bound to make mistakes. But the onus is on him. The woman's shoulder so to speak were never meant to nor ever truly capable of, to take on the responsibilities the man has.
Can a red pilled man realistically be hopeful about finding woman who seems to have it all, like you though? I think the probability is not worth the emotional investment and mental risks of hoping. What do you think?
@Johnny Tramain thanks man, but I don't cultivate further hope, to be honest. It's a matter of timing, and beyond a certain point in life, it's not worth waiting for the next boat because it's probably not coming ;)
Johnny Tramain the keyword in your comment is the shortest, IF, I agree if you do it is worth it, but, the odds of winning against that word are at best remote.
In my house, "I told you so" isn't an attack, it's a reminder to grow and is usually met by each of us with a "yep, you are right ". Someone who doesn't listen to those under their authority are unworthy of their Authority. I actually ended a relationship because while the girl would have submitted, if she were right and I were wrong, she lacked the intelligence necessary to reason it out and and win the argument.
TAPriceCTR Yes, but it seems that in your house you don’t accept the concept of husband and leader or head. So why should it matter quite so much if your wife points out failure or erodes your confidence in the process? (If I’m tracking with you, here.) We just don’t have the same starting premise, so there’s not much point it debating it. You imply that submission means not disagreeing and that headship means not caring what those under your authority think. Both simply are incorrect. What do you mean when you say “if I were wrong”? Who determines what’s right and what’s wrong for your life/relationship- and how? Surely you’re not saying that a person’s ability to win the debate makes their case right. That merely means they are the best at arguing... Lastky, submission is something anyone can do, regardless of personality or of how opinionated they are. An extremely opinionated person can nevertheless say, “I disagree- I think [xyz]- but I defer to your judgment.” That is submission.
@@makewomanhoodbiblicalagain1295 where do you get the idea that I do not accept the husband's role as head of the house? My disagreement is only and that I do not view i-told-you-so as a bad thing. I acknowledge my Humanity I do not believe myself infallible. As such pointing out where I made a mistake does not undercut my confidence but rather reinforces where I need to grow... and as a human there will never be a time that I do not need to grow. You and I also you can bake differently. To me it's not some academic exercise or chess game, it's the means to find the best decision. As the head I decide who won but it's really not about who wins as it is about finding the best decision. If we both fail to persuade the other then I have executive power... But the objective is to come together and agree. Yes skill is a factor, which is why I couldn't go for the girl who couldn't successfully argue the globe, the information and prospective are what truly matter. Basically what I'm saying is it the man can't accept when he was wrong, then he is choosing not to grow and us is choosing not to lead his family as best he can. that degree of Pride, especially toward your helpmeet, is wickedness
Example, couple months ago I wanted to pay off a credit card trauma she wanted to just make its payment because we might not be so well off later in the month. Later in the month we were down close to zero... Had I not yielded to her counsel would it have been in the red and gotten an overdraft fee. Her pointing this out didn't ruin my confidence, it helps me a better decision in the future. The fact that I yielded to her Council does not negate the fact that she submits to my decision.
TAPriceCTR - You would have come to the same conclusion by learning from your own mistakes. You were listening to your wife's thoughts anyway and came to your own conclusion. ChristyO was talking about something else though. She was talking about the woman saying 'I told you so' when it would be pretty clear to you already anyway... a bit like your wife would ask you to bring out the trash when you were just on your way to the bin ;-) Anyway, glad it works out for you guys, but a lot of relationships suffer because the woman / wife tries to constantly take the lead. Subtly or not so subtly. There seems a general urge in women to see whether they can somehow manipulate the man and in this way 'rule' over a man. Paul Elam has made a very good video about that problem and that there is no relationship were the woman doesn't test the resilience of her partner first via a 'shit test'.
@@TAPriceCTR I fail to see how congratulating yourself by saying "I told you so" in the face of another's mistake is helping them grow in any way. When things go awry its generally pretty self evident there is a problem without the need to in effect rub it in afterwards. Yielding to someone's counsel after reviewing a credit card bill is not even remotely the same thing as telling someone "I told you so" after they have made a bad decision or done something wrong and I'm not sure how you are making that connection. If someone is as dysfunctional as what you just described and refuses to ever admit wrongdoing or grow in any way, I don't see how mocking them with an "I told you so" is somehow going to get them on the right track.
I get what you are saying and it would be nice if my wife listened to me now and then but in spiritual matters, everyone is accountable to God for himself or herself. A wife's first obligation is to God and not to her husband, ("we ought to follow God rather than man(kind)" Acts 5:29). A wife should only follow her husband as he follows Christ. (1Cor 11:1). In other words, do not follow your husband to hell, because this is exactly what Adam did when he listened to his wife. His love for her was greater than his love for God, as a result, she became his god or idol. (Exo 20:3). The greatest form of worship or love to God is Obedience. 1 Samuel 15:21-23 (KJV 1900) 21 But the people took of the spoil, sheep and oxen, the chief of the things which should have been utterly destroyed, to sacrifice unto the LORD thy God in Gilgal. 22 And Samuel said, Hath the LORD as great delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices, As in obeying the voice of the LORD? Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice, And to hearken than the fat of rams. 23 For rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft, And stubbornness is as iniquity (lawlessness) and idolatry. Because thou hast rejected the word of the LORD, He hath also rejected thee from being king. Acts 5:32 (KJV 1900) 32 And we are his witnesses of these things; and so is also the Holy Ghost, whom God hath given to them that obey him.
If I ever get married and my wife is insistent that she's right, I'll gently point out the beginning of Genesis to her. The very first instance a husband listenedd to his wife, it screwed over all of humanity. Personally if I was Adam, I would think the fact that Eve was taking advice from a talking snake to be the most obvious red flag. LOL. It is in women's broken nature to desire to control her husband. I think feminism is the logical conclusion to the curse of Eve. It isn't about equality, but rather control. Even within the Church, Christian women will come up with all sorts of excuses not to submit to her husband. They've cleverly created a society where simply talking about the biblical command for wives to submit is considered misogynist. Christy, in your experience, what kinds or denominations of churches do you think are least likely to be influenced by feminism?
Adam didn't get to have a childhood, he just popped up outta nowhere and was given a wife (lucky guy), just he had no one except God to look towards for advice, and would he even know to do that? The older the church the less likely the people are influenced by feminism, modern day churches are full of the feminism ideology and the only thing keeping it in control are the scriptures of the bible and the fear of the Lord lol. Although please for goodness sake stay away from catholic churches.
@@inspirice9844 I mean, I don't agree with the Catholic Church on most theological issues. But in their defense, I do admire it for doing a much better job at preserving traditional teachings against modern influences than most churches.
if a woman ever tells you i told you so, its YOUR fault. you havent properly trained her. no woman should ever dare to say such a thing. if she does, she doesnt see you as alpha, and thats a much bigger problem. youre probably not taking charge in the bedroom. sex should establish whos boss.
Krait - ? He doesn't curse you! What a strange misconception. Have you read any of the Bible or listen to some good pastor? It will all make sense and become clear. Don't listen to the people on the street who argue with 'If there is a God why are children dying' etc. etc. They are knowingly misleading you with stupidest phrases like this. If you want to hear 'grown ups' reason about the existence of God please listen to at least JB Peterson vs Sam Harris or similar.... in that way even atheists can learn a thing or two why it might make sense to be an atheist.
@@ReformedWhiteKnight Based what everyone religious says I am "Sinned" from the get go. As if I commited a crime at birth. (Original sin) which is complete bullshit. Sins of the "father" does not equate to the offspring. It's like blaming the child for a candy bar theft because the dad stole from a convenient store. Which is complete horse shit.
@@Xarkom89 - Newborns are as pure as it gets, they have not sinned yet. (That is actually the reason satanists like newborn and young children, because they are still pure and it is a greater insult to God to abuse or sacrifice innocent children). Anyway, no I agree with you, newborns are pure and innocent. 'Original sin' is something completely different though, it relates to something else. In fact my interpretation is that the original sin is the child abuse. Because from there it is a never ending cycle of being abused and abuse in return from generation to generation. Only when a person can break that cycle of abusing his/ her children is there hope.... I believe you would understand and appreciate what is written in the Bible and if you only start to listen to the 'life truth' you can find about just any area in life.... what you heard so far seem to be pretty much fantasy of people who think they know a bit why Christianity is bad etc.... If you listen to Pastor Lawson, he has great knowledge, he can be emotional and or powerful in his preaching but his knowledge of scripture seems to be sound, and he definitely makes listening to what is written in the Bibel a very interested even awesome experience. He just has a talent to get things across... I learned a lot from him, I am new to having found God, I was until 6 month a convinced atheist and thought about the church and religion similar to you I suppose. I thought religion is pointless and only put into place to suppress people etc, but I had no-one telling preaching the gospel in a way that I could understand the wisdom in there.
I've seen in my own parents lives what happens when the woman cools off and gives the man room to lead again - it has been them at their very happiest. This stuff actually works people, and it's beautiful.
As it just so happens...this guy's SN is "Adam"...lol.
After that there, um...garden incident, I think he's got something to say.
Hahaha, sorry, y'all. I just had to.
@@deamoncastle5584 Yes, apples are my guilty pleasure 😉
@@GRIFFIN1238 For the love of God stay away from the apples Adam
Great convo 😂😂😂
As a Mgtow, a non Christian mgtow- I completely condone and approve this message.
meshugganator08 That means a lot to me- much respect to you, and thank you. 🙏🏻
Misty,
Do you see that beautiful comment from a mgtow non-Christian. And what a wonderful comment you replied back. You are a Godly Biblical scripture woman. I thank and praise the Lord for the voice you have to reach other women. I pray and hope that he expands that reach to those many many more who need to hear it.
Thank you
I do too....im no mgtow....but im red pill
I've heard women say that they have an "equal" or egalitarian marriage. Which is just another way of saying, she's in charge. Your husband and family are blessed by your good heart and attitude. "A wise woman builds up her home. A foolish woman tears it down."
jimmyboy131 two people can't lead in know that much.
Amen. I used to know this scripture, believe it, preach it. I then rejected it all. And married an ungodly, non Christian woman. Conveniently for me, I tried to implement some Christian ideals in the home when children were born. It quickly turned south and today life has turned into a daily misery for both the children and I. Though Christy seems quite a bit younger than I, listening to her may get me back to the great Book at least because of the great sense she speaks and the devotion she has for God. That in turn would provide a terrific example for my my daughter's who I would MUCH rather turn out like this lady, than the person my ex has revealed herself to be long term. Learn from my terrible, unbelievably life altering poor choices.
Interesting how a man (of course) considers equal to "woman in charge". It must always be men in charge huh?
@@karenm6847 Yes, always men in charge!
He already knows that you were right, does not need to get it rubbed in. You are absolutely right
You area Godsend for this young wife. Thank you for everything you said!
Such a lovely a thought provoking video. This is the second place I've heard the phrase "you are not your husband's holy spirit" and I think it's something I needed reminding of. Thank you
Sarah See Thank you Sarah ❤️ I’m sure I heard it sometime early in my marriage and it was probably something I needed reminding of as well, and then just stuck with me. Marriage is hard (more often than not, at times)- hard, and worth it!
Great job breaking this down. Biblical truth no opinions. God's way is always better than our own.
Everything was biblical.....scripture backs it up.
What did she say that wasn't?
Sorry if you gathered she is promoting wives to follow their husbands into sin because she is not. She is just trying to teach women to embrace biblical womanhood.
Wow, I had to listen to this a few times! What you said at the 10 and 11 minute mark was a conversation my wife and I have had more than once. She refuses to submit if she believes the decision being made is wrong. Eventually, to my shame, I gave up trying to lead and let her do it. Our marriage fell apart and we are now separated. The more she led, the more controlling she would be. I became resentful and distant. She didn't have faith that the Creator would reward her obedience but rather feared the consequences of my decision making (I haven't made the best decisions in the past).
Now she wants me back but when I ask if she is ready to submit and for me to be the head of the household, she responds that she won't blindly obey and would conditionally submit. For someone that admits now that God has really taken her to task for not submitting to Him, she still appears to not have learned much from the lessons.
I am terrified of being the head of the household because of the weightiness of that responsibility not only for my actions and decisions but for those of my family for whom I am responsible for and the judgement that will ensue. Even though it is a weighty responsibility, I am doing my best to submit my will to my Creator and do His will...be a man and be a leader...with humility and power.
Very wise, that burning desire to never let your wife down starts to die when she stops trusting you, & it puts you on a degenerating path that kills your marriage, or at least that's how it went in my case.
James Taylor Very true. I’m so sorry to hear that.
So much gold in this video, well said.
As a husband, I have made less than a handful of decisions that did not align with my wife thoughts/desires. Now, when it comes to those decisions, we both know, she will stand next to me as I make an account of my decisions to God.
So true, and it doesn’t apply only to marriage or even women. I’ve had this behavior ruin a business partnership, where after years of being second guessed about every little decision on my supposed area of expertise, I realized feigning incompetence and not making decisions was the best way to avoid losing my mind. Needless to say, the business went bankrupt not soon after.
What an amazing and powerful position to take. You make fantastic biblical points I have never heard spoken in any church j'v been to. Breathtaking...keep shining.
I am very glad to see you putting this wisdom out here on your videos. Out of those that view, many will remember, some will heed. But you have let God use you to give _all of them the same chance_ .
What I don't understand is why you have so few subscribers......? Excellent work, thank you from an Englishman for your wise words.
She says stuff NO ONE has the guts to say. Sure there are other channels that have some good teachings against the feminist movement that's infiltrated even the church. But none go as far as she is willing to go. I'm constantly blown away but what she says and the fearlessness to speak the unadulterated truth of scripture.
That level of truth is going to limit her followers.
A true, intelligent Husband will listen to his wife BUT He must be the one make the proper choice. God Bless and Thank you, Wonderful Wife, for this.
Thanks for this. I needed to hear many things you said ❤️
Reviewing mistakes in a non-critical way is part of learning from your mistakes, and as a wife you should be helping your husband learn.
BUT
This is where I told you so is wrong. It's a form of shame. You aren't showing him how he can avoid this in the future you are telling him there is something wrong with him. Here is the kicker ladies, you picked your husband, if you believe ther is something wrong about him it doesn't say much about your choices.
To wrap it up. If you use shame in any shape or form you will destroy your marriage. A simple question to ask yourself when dealing with your husband is "Will this make him better or tear him down"
Luke Davis ~ “ ...as a wife you should be helping your husband to learn.”
THERE is your blue pill Simp mentality. In that ONE sentiment you are repeating the feminist idea that women are superior than men and need to teach men.
Pity.
@@wattjock horse crap. If you are not open to learning as a man, you are just an adult male. Men can learn from any source and that includes their wives and children too. As a man, you learn to choose, act, observe, ponder or reflect, understand, learn and then act hopefully in a better way next time, no matter good your first choice was. That's no simp, that's wisdom. Perhaps you're so angry with this red blue pill stuff (I'm Christian red pill myself) that you've been blinded in the process.
LitoGeorge ~ No, not at all.
What you speak of is not what the list said. Huge difference.
@@wattjock Hey Jock - Perhaps you can clarify for me. I dont see the huge differences.
Saying "I told you so" is nothing but self congratulating mocking of another individual. How you could humiliate someone you love in that way is puzzling to me.
Simply said, in the moment that somebody says I told you so, whether with words, facial expression, attitude, or actions, that person simply is not being loving. That is to say that the more a person does that, the more that person is making a lie out of the words "I love you."
it's easy to say I told you so when you don't have responsibilities.
@@roksolana-zb4hu I think he means in the context of a natural relationship where a man is expected to be a leader, he in turn has the responsibility of leading, and if she says I told you so it is from a position of convenience as the one following and not leading.
We should crowd-fund her a nice camera. :) Great encouraging content like this deserves better production values.
Feeling the conviction 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Andrea Estrada I love and appreciate your honesty- and I know that feeling of conviction all too well myself!
That’s your first mistake ‘ sugar
Thinking women are wise
Hilarious 😂
Christie will be the first one to tell you that the One who is really wise is Almighty God. Anyone who would repeat what Almighty God has taught her, is most certainly being wise. She's doing a great job, and I am glad to call her "sister" ; thank God for her.
Solid advice for wives and husbands alike 🙏🙏
My heart has been somewhat hardened over the past few years, and recently I have discovered mgtow. Some of those videos can be on the extreme side, so watching content like yours reminds me that things aren’t black and white. There are women like you out there that sees the value and wisdom in traditional ways.
As a man I can tell you that if my wife truly submitted to me in the way you described, she will have my heart and soul for life. MGTOW only exists because feminism has destroyed these time tested traditional values, and every red pilled man would like nothing more than for a return to these roots. I hope I can find a woman like this in my lifetime, but if not, I guess I’ll be going my own way.
wannaBtraceur that’s so sad to hear but I can sympathize. What feminists don’t understand is that while they are trying to become men, men don’t become women, men sit out of the game. It’s unfortunate that men have felt so undervalued that MGTOW has become the huge movement it is today and hopefully all these new feminine women and women speaking on biblical womanhood will have a ripple effect in our culture before it’s too late!
Amber Thomas --I just wanted to say that I appreciated your words of empathy, and the virtue that drives them. I certainly hope that you see your wishes come true, one beautiful godly and biblical marriage at a time. I, for one, wish for that right along with you. Even though I'm going my own way (concerning marriage) as well, there's not a day that goes by that I don't grieve the situation--especially when I look at the Song of Solomon, and see what I would call my favorite biblical example of what a human relationship could be, when God is in charge, and the government gun is not pointed at the husband's (and, therefore, the marriage's) head. God bless you.
I love this video. Well said.
This is one (among many) reasons that I'm glad I'm now single. Do I miss my ex? Yes. Do I miss our life togther? Yes, most parts of it. Was it hard work? Yes, quite often...but...
If you have to go around the one you love and live with, taking care of what you say, what you don't say, what you do, what you don't do, then that's a whole lot of hassle. To have to think how you say things for fear of upsetting someone, even if it's not intentional and they know it's not intentional, is life draining. I had it for 7 years and it crippled me. Did she take it to heart when I was teasing or joking? Did she take it to heart when I was being serious? Which, and what? You end up second guessing yourself all the time. I never intentionally hurt anyone in my life. I've found that a lot of women take the little things to heart, then you have to spend time making them feel better and consoling them, when you didn't even mean something in that particular way. Yet, when it's something serious, they look at you with a blank expression. My ex never listened to me when I tried to explain and tell her where she was going wrong in life. I loved her, I saw what was coming, yet she carried on and now, that we've broken up she is in a world of crap. Yes, I told her so, but she still never took any notice. What a waste of time, effort and hurt, all to lose each other in the end.
100%❤️ ❤️ ❤️ How did you and your husband meet? Where to hunt for wifematerial like this?
Would also like to know how or where to find a goodly wife...
@@adriansandu2583 Yes, an actual asset with value.
Nice video, I wish more women had your viewpoint.
I just found you Ms, from a comment you left on The Revolting Woman's channel, so I've had to binge a few :) I've been following TRM for some time now. Glad to hear another good woman explain these things, that are not exactly popular this day-in-age, so well. May God continue to bless you ma'am. Excellent Job.
You are absolutely correct, submission is the real way to a man's heart. No one wants to argue for a lifetime, which is exactly how long a marriage should last. I grew up in a household like that, I refused to marry such a woman and thanks to HIM, I didn't. But growing up like that I can honestly say that the apathy that comes from that type of hostile family unit is extremely damaging to a relationship, and ls possibly the worst part. The man will argue logic and the woman emotion, but often emotion won't let go when logic will tell the man basically "I am not getting through, I'm wasting my breath, so I'm just done." So when she won't relent he shuts down, he draws back, and the family collapses...it all starts with a woman's role in all honesty. A loving wife is the absolute hub of the family, she will make or break the unit in her attitude and actions. Not to say there aren't pieces of )(*& men out there, but few will roam if they have a good woman at home. A man's job is to provide, a man doesn't feel complete unless he is providing for his family, therefore all he wants is his home and his family. If she makes it a place he can't wait to get home to, wild horses won't keep him away. Obviously I'm talking about real men here; good, honest, hard working, God fearing men.
P.S. - You spoke of a woman possibly being right and the hubby being wrong...this is absolutely possible, in reality but I would submit this: the minute she defies/argues/etc, she is automatically wrong...even if she's right, she is wrong. In HIS eyes this is the case anyway, and in this life that is all that matters.
Very insightful.
Always a touchy subject. I told you so is really never a good idea for the wife or the husband.. nor do I think it’s right for the husband to ignore his wife’s suggestions.. things seem to work out best with discussion no right , no wrong work together to make the best life possible.. the wife has a roll in a marriage and so does the husband. Above all is compassion and caring for the others opinion. NOBODY is always right it’s called being human just deal with mistakes. And it’s ok men to tell your wife she was right. Love and respect. I admire this young woman I surely wish all people thoughts were similar to hers wouldn’t it be a totally different world
A happy life is a Christian wife.
What I have noticed over the years is wicked spirits can and do play with people...In a marriage time and again God will allow the devil to blind one or the other so a test can occur...God needs issues the data to judge people hence he allows the spirits to do their evil work on people at times...If you are not really in tune and pick up on those sublime movements of those wicked spirits you will eventually lose out....
My non-belief is fading, my lost hope in women is slowly coming back, I am touched. I think I definitely want to hear more of this...
I am enjoying your channel very much! Wish you had more videos:)
I would live to know your opinion on who should do the budget in the home. Obviously, the husband should provide...but who should do the money managing? I have found different opinions, and scripturally, I can't figure it out. My husband is ok with either way. He was the first I asked!
This feminine woman is a truth speaking unicorn. Unicorn because this level of understanding is all put completely absent in masculinized western women.
Every relationship I've had ended because I wouldn't submit to the woman's will in her struggle for the position of leader. Women have come to believe in an "equal partnership" which in practice means when in disagreement the tie is broken by her "getting her way," which means she's sees herself as the leader. In each relationship I've made decisions in opposition to her opinion and after the tantrum has subsided about disrespecting her opinion she will admit I made the right decision but remain resentful that I "don't value her opinion".
It's all just so exhausting to be engaged in an on going power struggle with one's woman. The world provides plenty of struggle and conflict, a man's home and his woman must be a sanctuary where he can recharge his battery, not a place that drains additional energy from unnecessary conflict.
I'm done, It's a pointless Sisyphean task to pursue a relationship in this era. I'm not going to find my unicorn in this life, not in this feminized society.
You sound like you're a bit of an idiot then. Like I was. Looking for these qualities in women that simply don't exist in the areas you are looking for them. Rethink where you are searching. If you truly know what you want to the last detail, then find a source that attracts the same kind of people with the same kind of values. There will be women there. Find yourself a wife.
Wow!!!!!!!! A truly God believing, and Word-following woman!!! "Who can find a virtuous woman"? Here is one stunning example. Your husband is VERY blessed to be ONE with you, and Christ!! Gb g
@@roksolana-zb4hu "Judging harshley"? Oh, She's beautiful too, how do you 'Judge' that? Ha!
@@roksolana-zb4hu ah. So you've just shown the quality of your character. Your life would be better if you grew up.
@@roksolana-zb4hu yikes, the problem runs deeper than imagined. You may be of age and know how to use the word stellar, but your maturity is clearly in the single digits range. Furthermore your self assessment is seriously skewed as evidenced by your self congratulatory deluded response. Its no wonder humanity is riddled with devastating issues when reading vitriol like that which you've spewed above and elsewhere in the comment section of this upload. And its clear that a bunch of people failed you growing up, not helping you learn how to reflect realities in your view of the world.
Back when I was dating a women who was arrogant was a real turn off. You could never enjoy a moment of glory for yourself without her thowing a bucket of water on it. At the very least she would change the subject as if your words were nothing. These condescending women looked powerful and modern, but as a man I found them off-putting.
The opposite was true also. A woman who looked up to you, admired you, praised you was so exciting. You felt like a million bucks. You would gladly spend money and give attention to a women like that.
Women who have a critical spirit towards their husbands boost their self esteem at the expense of his. It ultimately hurts her, because it pushes her husband away. He'll start looking for opportunities to stay away from home. And that spells t-r-o-u-b-l-e.
I sent this to my mom I pray she hears it that I’m not trying to hurt her feeling but the word of God speaks for himself
G.K. Chesterton has great words about this subject. I think it was in "What's Wrong With the World".
Truly a woman that submits to her husband has a power greater than she could imagine.
Nicely done, i haven't put any if not no research into God's word "because you have listened to the woman" i will have to put time aside for it. Thankyou
He also has the very high responsibility / Accountability to lead by "Love your wife as Christ loves the Church."
So anyone acting like he's just going to do what he wants and you got to deal as the wife is not the case.
It takes the spirit to love like that it isn't of our nature and it takes the spirit to humble yourself enough to let him lead.
Honestly, to ladies/wives struggling against Western culture to embrace the command to submit...
A man is WAY more likely to say "yes" if he feels like he can say "No". We are simple. It's all about approval.
What we hear when our wives fight kick and scream are distrust, disrespect and disapproval. Not saying you can't question or add to the conversation, but it is so culturally acceptable to bash your husband.
Wow this is amazing and so true. Biggest point is without God this all falls apart and is folly to the world! Amazing, praise God! On another note I just read a very interesting book called Benefit of the Debt by Meg Miller and it touches a little bit on what you said. I don't want to spoil it but it really kind of blew my mind with some things. For example, if porn and lust is often understood to be the chief sin of men, what is the chief sin of women? You have to read it. Only 96 pages. Anyways. Great video!
If you haven't been a guest on Jesse Lee Peterson's channel, I hope you find each other. He completely concurs with the biblical Christian paradigm of ... God over man, man over wife, and wife over children.
totally agree.. dont put down that kind of notion to ur spouse, but at same time nurturing marriage corporation is the responsible of both man & woman.. just tell ur man in nicer notation, normally woman know best when comes to putting words..
Nice video. Thanks
Well I guess this will affect the men with low confidence... Not for me.
Failure means you are trying things out of your comfort zone, try again and succeed.. Never doubt yourself even if you have a low success rate, just plan better.
For me all the big choices are mine, the little ones we can discuss..
Not even my mother can make decisions for me.. I do it myself so I own my success or failure, without applying faith.
Had a thought. Maybe the husband had already prayed to the Lord about the situation and the Lord spoke. And the holy spirit is nudging him in the right direction and we know the holy spirit speaks with a small,still ,quiet voice. Maybe we don't understand the Lord's direction at the time. So he's might just be following what the Lord said. I just found your channel. You seem to me you think like a fundamental baptist'or brought up like. GODLY women are the Best !!
Your video are always so peaceful to listen to
Easy on the eyes too
Unicorns do exist
1 in a million ;-;
What you say here feels very 'natural' for me as a man. Looking back a few years on the relationship with my son's mother the first three years worked really well for us because I kind of made the right decisions, even little ones were we mostly benefitted even with little surprise rewards. I could almost insist of being lucky with my decisions and all was flowing freely. After about three years she started to push her will more and more through and I even challenged her and asked her why she insisted on her decisions when we wouldn't agree and she replied 'because I want a say also'. That was her reasoning and the beginning of the decline of our relationship. She wanted a say because the whole world is telling women that their word is a good as their partner's in a relationship. Equality and all...
Well, that advice certainly contributed to the demise of our relationship.
In the end I heard some people say about her that she developed into a bit of a 'control freak' - very different from when I met her first.
@Yash Yadav Even if your statement explains the now obvious ... I am not sure why you address this as a response to me? Because of my name? I would hardly call myself a 'white knight' if I was not aware of the meaning of that expression and it comes hardly across as a comical depreciation. So I am not sure about your ability to perform sequential thinking... anyway, I hope your comment will somehow enlighten other readers with something....
@Yash Yadav Ah ok, that explains it. I accept your apology, no problem! Yes, the network of the multinational media owners support communism and it's feminist branch by tricking the women into believing they are just telling them about feminism to help them! Most people in our cultures have been brought up to be trusting so women believe the media owners that they are just trying to help them... feminism is a 'mind virus' and much more deadly than the so called cv virus will ever be!
The trick is that they tell the women that they are entitled to something rather than needing to do anything to gain anything...also the media praise the feminine over anything else and are now declaring the the divine feminine deserves to be called godly. it's a vicious loop for women of entitlement and the offer of more free stuff and being put on the pedestal to become even more more prideful. A crazy upward spiral not based on anything real!
Men have to step up and prevent women from ultimately destroying society and protect women - from themselves!!
@Yash Yadav 'Yuri Bezmenov,ex-KGB,and his spilling of the secret of comminism and the 4 stages of Communist take over of a country' yes I am familiar with his interviews form about 1983 -84. He lays it out clearly how the 'mind virus' will affect people., but still communist, socialist types of people will be in denial even if you show them those videos! it's the strangest thing, but he predicted it that they will be unwilling / unable to see the truth even if you hold it underneath their noses, It looks like communism and the spell of it has some hypnotic qualities!
You are wise
I want the first Christy clone, cuz you can't get any better that I can see
That was wonderful.
Can't say I understand that kind of responsibility, not fundamentally. But I do get this, there is only one way I can see society working well. And this is sort of a sociological analysis, picture a triangle and a circle overlaid. Men make the triangle and women the circle. And it's instinctual, I mean I challenge you to find and symbol of feminine wisdom, insight, spirituality or whatever that doesn't use a circle, or something organic like this. I doubt there are many, anyway. And women socialize in this manner. And men like triangle symbols a lot, also.
Women focus on the first part, to summit to your husband but disregard the second part where God command that the man be willing to be s christ and give everything to his wife and family including his life.
I think you mean the eye roll, the hair flip AND the 'I told you so'.
Have you happened to see this video where this guy goes out interviewing random people in New York City where he asks them how are women better than men which resulted in them listing one thing after another yet when he then asks in what ways men are better than women and they go blank, one woman even started CRYING because she couldn’t fathom such an evil question.
I’m not sure if it will shadowban this comment if I share the link to the video so just look up Fact: Men are Better Than Woman (At Some Things) by the youtube channel Sasha Daygame
It shows just how indoctrinated people are into believing that women are BETTER than men.
Here is the link to it: ua-cam.com/video/oxpX6IQ3GY4/v-deo.html
I don’t want to pedestalize another man’s wife but the contrast between your mentality and the average “Christian” woman in America (let alone non-Christian woman) is depressing. From the little I’ve heard about your husband (like building a house), he truly sounds like not only a Christian man, but man’s man who’s been gifted with a Godly woman. A woman like you is who I aspire my sister, daughter, and future wife to become. And I especially thank God to have parents like that as an example
Unfortunately most Christian women are feminists....which by definition means they are not true Christians.
There is also the fact that guess what? He's probably not wrong. Yeah, really, it's true, it's likely you just aren't seeing it yet or are just being stubborn. God did not just flip a coin and arbitrarily assign men to rule and women to obey. No, God created man to rule and woman to be his helper and he created them with the attributes and abilities to serve best in their respective stations. Men are better at leading and decision making, they're made to do so. Men and women were not created the same, men and women were not created with equal abilities and we were not given our places in life just because. So perhaps take a minute to sit back and consider that perhaps you're actually not right and instead learn to become teachable and lose your pride and stubbornness.
Do men make mistakes? Of course. Are they infallible? No, they're not, nobody is saying they are. When those mistakes are made he will learn from them and become a better leader from it. Even then, just because it didn't work out this time it does not mean that the general idea or direction was not correct, it certainly doesn't mean that you know better and that he should just be listening to you. It is your place to support your husband through this process if growth and encourage him to keep going and growing into a better man and leader of you and your family, not to kick him when he's down to stroke your own pride.
"Because you have listened to the voice of your wife..." read as, "because you did not listen to the voice of your Almighty One." The husband is to listen to the voice and the Almighty, not the wife. As a Torah Observant MGTOW, I no longer have to be concerned with a woman constantly trying to usurp my position under Messiah Yeshua as the head of the family directly. She still is using the power of the State to basically leave me out of the equation and is effectively usurping my position as father to my son. She will be held to account for her actions.
Ok, Ok, Ok! So I guess there such thing as a unicorn. You are rare and you not only glorify God, you would bless your husband and kids too. You have such a gift of faith that you really do believe God will flip what ever is wrong, right. Part of the curse is that it will be the woman's desire to rule over her husband. Feminism proves that to be exactly spot on true. So how did God slip you thru this curse and why? Well He always has a remnant no matter what. Oh BTW, a guy named Solomon was talking about you. He says your super rare too but you do exist.
I didn't know women like that still exist..I honestly don't know whether that's a good thing or a bad thing..
You, young lady are very wise.
@@roksolana-zb4hu
Prove it
@@roksolana-zb4hu
I see you have no clue, ok
@@roksolana-zb4hu it's clear that these pearls were cast before a pig. Pity you lack in wisdom. Pity you represent the typical woman. Pity you are the reason MGTOW is a thing. Even if you're a male.
Thank you for another fine message, it's funny I have always looked at feminism as the modern day serpent. To see what it is doing to women of today and not just the young, 3 years ago my cousin aged 52 started university (college) before starting she was a loving wonderful person, now she is one of the worst radical feminists I have met with nothing but hate for males, it has been truly heartbreaking to watch her transformation.
buck stops with CEO of company although employee made mistakes !
That it’s a spirit or attitude that is harmful rather than helpful. Big picture
Christy you are a treasured role model for CHRISTian women, wanting to establish their home, in accordance with GOD's structure, almost see a glimmer of hope for myself, but sadly with my career, and taking care of my elderly mother, I took hiatus from women and dating at age 35, over 15 yrs ago, now that I am free again, the only compatible ladies I meet now, do not have a GODly spirit, in fact most have a jezebel spirit, or come with such huge amount of emotional distrust, financial debt, or unruly offspring, that the thought of even courting them is unconscionable, in fact, only after seeing your video on the subject, I had not even realized, I had adopted the philosophy of MGTOW, simply from seeing so many good decent men destroyed by callous or vile ladies, by false accusations, and having all their assets, and privileges of fatherhood stripped from them, all for what seemed vain satisfaction, definitely not what was best for the children... honestly I have given up hope of ever finding a mate, here on this earth. after losing my retirement twice, I once again have been blessed and can retire very comfortably, and I dare not put it at risk, and must accept quiet solitude, as I venture from my fall to my winter of life... your family is blessed to have such a precious jewel as wife and mother...
This comment is intended to help put a little perspective on finding a virtuous woman for the young men that may decide they would like a family.
I pretty much knew by the age of 16 that marriage was not going to be for me for various reasons, the biggest one being even at that age I instinctively knew the odds would be long, hence, I never even tried to find "the one for me".
Then, at the age of 37, totally by chance, I ran across "conservative match.com", I looked around, and thought wow, just maybe there is a chance I can find what I am looking for.
Long story short, over the next 3 years I "interviewed" well over 1000 women near as I can figure, all but 8 of them were seeking what they described as a 50/50 relationship. For the young men that do not fully understand what a 50/50 relationship is, it means upon saying "I do" she will take possession of your balls, place them safely in her purse, and make the decisions she wishes to make from there on out.
Be very careful young man, there are no guarantees with one of those 8, the others are almost certainly a headache just waiting to take hold.
You are truly a treasure Christy, and your husband is either extremely wise, extremely lucky, or some combination of the two.
So, if I understand correctly: a wife can bring up concerns but then should withdraw if her husband disagrees. This is because ultimately he is responsible for the decision, so if it turns out poorly he takes the fall, while if the wife persuaded him differently she may lead him astray. Doesn’t this mean that if she sincerely believes he’s making a poor choice, she should care more about saving her own neck and being able to tell herself that at least she didn’t make the bad decision? I don’t see how this is a good policy.
You say that the husband is the leader and the final decision maker, and claim these are biblical principles, but they’re not. They are human-originated ideas based on culture that have been imposed on the Bible. Did you know that “head” in Greek did not mean what “head” means in English? The Greeks regarded the heart, not the brain, as the center of rational thought and decision making. The head was thought to be the source of life. It’s important to understand these translational nuances before basing an entire blueprint for marriage on a few proof texts read as if they were written in English.
As far as submission, a few verses earlier members of the church are told to submit to one another. How, then, can this submission be taken to mean deferring to the will of an authority, something that can’t be done mutually? Perhaps submission means something more like offering yourself for the good of someone else, something clearly husbands AND wives must do. After all, we wouldn’t say that the instruction to husbands to love their wives means that wives don’t need to love their husbands; so why do we turn around and declare that the command to wives to submit doesn’t apply equally to husbands?
Finally, the idea that the husband is ultimately responsible for his family is essentially setting up husbands as "priests" of a sort, representing their families to God and perhaps even God to their families. But this not only would be usurping a role occupied by Jesus alone, it also implies that Jesus' being our mediator is not good enough...a dangerous and perhaps heretical claim to make.
Her: To Love (care for), Honor (his strength, manliness, responsibility to God), and obey (ultimately); Him: To Love (care for, take care of, protect), Honor (as a woman, mother, sister, daughter, caretaker of the Home), Cherish (as a Blessing from God; a help meet, companion in Christ). Not being perfect he is bound to make mistakes. But the onus is on him. The woman's shoulder so to speak were never meant to nor ever truly capable of, to take on the responsibilities the man has.
audio is fine
Can a red pilled man realistically be hopeful about finding woman who seems to have it all, like you though? I think the probability is not worth the emotional investment and mental risks of hoping. What do you think?
@Johnny Tramain thanks man, but I don't cultivate further hope, to be honest. It's a matter of timing, and beyond a certain point in life, it's not worth waiting for the next boat because it's probably not coming ;)
Johnny Tramain the keyword in your comment is the shortest, IF, I agree if you do it is worth it, but, the odds of winning against that word are at best remote.
Do you have a twin single sister?
This video had a soothing effect in it 🙄😉
Is this the famous 'witchcraft' at work 😒😳
You will find that it is actually Jesus Christ who is at work in this video.
I wonder what the Genderratio is on this video,
probably still majority Men, or not? dont know..
Great Video though 😊
Feminists can't stand these types of videos
In my house, "I told you so" isn't an attack, it's a reminder to grow and is usually met by each of us with a "yep, you are right ". Someone who doesn't listen to those under their authority are unworthy of their Authority.
I actually ended a relationship because while the girl would have submitted, if she were right and I were wrong, she lacked the intelligence necessary to reason it out and and win the argument.
TAPriceCTR Yes, but it seems that in your house you don’t accept the concept of husband and leader or head. So why should it matter quite so much if your wife points out failure or erodes your confidence in the process? (If I’m tracking with you, here.) We just don’t have the same starting premise, so there’s not much point it debating it.
You imply that submission means not disagreeing and that headship means not caring what those under your authority think. Both simply are incorrect.
What do you mean when you say “if I were wrong”? Who determines what’s right and what’s wrong for your life/relationship- and how?
Surely you’re not saying that a person’s ability to win the debate makes their case right. That merely means they are the best at arguing...
Lastky, submission is something anyone can do, regardless of personality or of how opinionated they are. An extremely opinionated person can nevertheless say, “I disagree- I think [xyz]- but I defer to your judgment.” That is submission.
@@makewomanhoodbiblicalagain1295 where do you get the idea that I do not accept the husband's role as head of the house? My disagreement is only and that I do not view i-told-you-so as a bad thing. I acknowledge my Humanity I do not believe myself infallible. As such pointing out where I made a mistake does not undercut my confidence but rather reinforces where I need to grow... and as a human there will never be a time that I do not need to grow.
You and I also you can bake differently. To me it's not some academic exercise or chess game, it's the means to find the best decision. As the head I decide who won but it's really not about who wins as it is about finding the best decision. If we both fail to persuade the other then I have executive power... But the objective is to come together and agree. Yes skill is a factor, which is why I couldn't go for the girl who couldn't successfully argue the globe, the information and prospective are what truly matter.
Basically what I'm saying is it the man can't accept when he was wrong, then he is choosing not to grow and us is choosing not to lead his family as best he can. that degree of Pride, especially toward your helpmeet, is wickedness
Example, couple months ago I wanted to pay off a credit card trauma she wanted to just make its payment because we might not be so well off later in the month. Later in the month we were down close to zero... Had I not yielded to her counsel would it have been in the red and gotten an overdraft fee. Her pointing this out didn't ruin my confidence, it helps me a better decision in the future. The fact that I yielded to her Council does not negate the fact that she submits to my decision.
TAPriceCTR - You would have come to the same conclusion by learning from your own mistakes. You were listening to your wife's thoughts anyway and came to your own conclusion.
ChristyO was talking about something else though. She was talking about the woman saying 'I told you so' when it would be pretty clear to you already anyway... a bit like your wife would ask you to bring out the trash when you were just on your way to the bin ;-)
Anyway, glad it works out for you guys, but a lot of relationships suffer because the woman / wife tries to constantly take the lead. Subtly or not so subtly. There seems a general urge in women to see whether they can somehow manipulate the man and in this way 'rule' over a man. Paul Elam has made a very good video about that problem and that there is no relationship were the woman doesn't test the resilience of her partner first via a 'shit test'.
@@TAPriceCTR I fail to see how congratulating yourself by saying "I told you so" in the face of another's mistake is helping them grow in any way. When things go awry its generally pretty self evident there is a problem without the need to in effect rub it in afterwards. Yielding to someone's counsel after reviewing a credit card bill is not even remotely the same thing as telling someone "I told you so" after they have made a bad decision or done something wrong and I'm not sure how you are making that connection. If someone is as dysfunctional as what you just described and refuses to ever admit wrongdoing or grow in any way, I don't see how mocking them with an "I told you so" is somehow going to get them on the right track.
I get what you are saying and it would be nice if my wife listened to me now and then but in spiritual matters, everyone is accountable to God for himself or herself. A wife's first obligation is to God and not to her husband, ("we ought to follow God rather than man(kind)" Acts 5:29). A wife should only follow her husband as he follows Christ. (1Cor 11:1). In other words, do not follow your husband to hell, because this is exactly what Adam did when he listened to his wife. His love for her was greater than his love for God, as a result, she became his god or idol. (Exo 20:3). The greatest form of worship or love to God is Obedience.
1 Samuel 15:21-23 (KJV 1900)
21 But the people took of the spoil, sheep and oxen, the chief of the things which should have been utterly destroyed, to sacrifice unto the LORD thy God in Gilgal. 22 And Samuel said,
Hath the LORD as great delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices,
As in obeying the voice of the LORD?
Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice,
And to hearken than the fat of rams.
23 For rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft,
And stubbornness is as iniquity (lawlessness) and idolatry.
Because thou hast rejected the word of the LORD,
He hath also rejected thee from being king.
Acts 5:32 (KJV 1900)
32 And we are his witnesses of these things; and so is also the Holy Ghost, whom God hath given to them that obey him.
If I ever get married and my wife is insistent that she's right, I'll gently point out the beginning of Genesis to her. The very first instance a husband listenedd to his wife, it screwed over all of humanity. Personally if I was Adam, I would think the fact that Eve was taking advice from a talking snake to be the most obvious red flag. LOL.
It is in women's broken nature to desire to control her husband. I think feminism is the logical conclusion to the curse of Eve. It isn't about equality, but rather control. Even within the Church, Christian women will come up with all sorts of excuses not to submit to her husband. They've cleverly created a society where simply talking about the biblical command for wives to submit is considered misogynist.
Christy, in your experience, what kinds or denominations of churches do you think are least likely to be influenced by feminism?
Adam didn't get to have a childhood, he just popped up outta nowhere and was given a wife (lucky guy), just he had no one except God to look towards for advice, and would he even know to do that? The older the church the less likely the people are influenced by feminism, modern day churches are full of the feminism ideology and the only thing keeping it in control are the scriptures of the bible and the fear of the Lord lol. Although please for goodness sake stay away from catholic churches.
@@inspirice9844 I mean, I don't agree with the Catholic Church on most theological issues. But in their defense, I do admire it for doing a much better job at preserving traditional teachings against modern influences than most churches.
Glad you're not in Germany with those braids. That would be very problematic.
Where do you live? And are there more women like you there?
Third world countries
Russia
(easy access to those women if you're rich, their parents will just hand them over oof)
if a woman ever tells you i told you so, its YOUR fault. you havent properly trained her. no woman should ever dare to say such a thing. if she does, she doesnt see you as alpha, and thats a much bigger problem. youre probably not taking charge in the bedroom. sex should establish whos boss.
She's too skinny could gain a few pounds apart from that she's awesome.
"God is all knowing" so he willingly cursed us. :P What an arse.
Krait - ? He doesn't curse you! What a strange misconception. Have you read any of the Bible or listen to some good pastor? It will all make sense and become clear. Don't listen to the people on the street who argue with 'If there is a God why are children dying' etc. etc.
They are knowingly misleading you with stupidest phrases like this.
If you want to hear 'grown ups' reason about the existence of God please listen to at least JB Peterson vs Sam Harris or similar.... in that way even atheists can learn a thing or two why it might make sense to be an atheist.
@@ReformedWhiteKnight Based what everyone religious says I am "Sinned" from the get go. As if I commited a crime at birth. (Original sin) which is complete bullshit. Sins of the "father" does not equate to the offspring.
It's like blaming the child for a candy bar theft because the dad stole from a convenient store. Which is complete horse shit.
@@Xarkom89 - Newborns are as pure as it gets, they have not sinned yet. (That is actually the reason satanists like newborn and young children, because they are still pure and it is a greater insult to God to abuse or sacrifice innocent children). Anyway, no I agree with you, newborns are pure and innocent. 'Original sin' is something completely different though, it relates to something else. In fact my interpretation is that the original sin is the child abuse. Because from there it is a never ending cycle of being abused and abuse in return from generation to generation. Only when a person can break that cycle of abusing his/ her children is there hope.... I believe you would understand and appreciate what is written in the Bible and if you only start to listen to the 'life truth' you can find about just any area in life.... what you heard so far seem to be pretty much fantasy of people who think they know a bit why Christianity is bad etc....
If you listen to Pastor Lawson, he has great knowledge, he can be emotional and or powerful in his preaching but his knowledge of scripture seems to be sound, and he definitely makes listening to what is written in the Bibel a very interested even awesome experience. He just has a talent to get things across... I learned a lot from him, I am new to having found God, I was until 6 month a convinced atheist and thought about the church and religion similar to you I suppose. I thought religion is pointless and only put into place to suppress people etc, but I had no-one telling preaching the gospel in a way that I could understand the wisdom in there.