If Inside Out Was Trans

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  • @eggggsbenedict
    @eggggsbenedict 4 місяці тому +625

    My “oh wait I’m trans” moment was at Disney. My group got up early enough it was still chilly, so I wore a sweater and shoved all my hair up into a hat to “protect the dye from getting bleached by the sun.” I saw my shadow and did a double take because it looked like a guy’s. I’d always naturally looked super femme, so that had never happened before. Out of nowhere I was ridiculously, could not stop smiling, happy to the point it was almost overwhelming. The feeling went away as soon as it got too hot to keep the sweater on.
    I was 17 and had never once considered that I could’ve been trans before then, but that moment cut through years of dissociation and slapped me in the face.

  • @supermangarritano6636
    @supermangarritano6636 4 місяці тому +1128

    As a trans guy I wonder what my inside out emotions would look like in my head.

    • @seaweedbrain_jackson
      @seaweedbrain_jackson 4 місяці тому +33

      Same bro

    • @willowthemoth
      @willowthemoth 4 місяці тому +128

      I wonder if us trans people have a dysphoria emotion

    • @seaweedbrain_jackson
      @seaweedbrain_jackson 4 місяці тому +74

      @@willowthemoth that would be so interesting to know...maybe? Or an alarm?

    • @obsidianstar9089
      @obsidianstar9089 4 місяці тому

      I mean, all men? idk its low hanging fruit

    • @Salikino
      @Salikino 4 місяці тому +65

      @@willowthemothMaybe it is another emotion causing it, like disgust or sadness

  • @lathalassa
    @lathalassa 4 місяці тому +870

    my "oh wait I'm trans" moment was when i braided my hair for a joke and then felt incredibly happy, suspiciously happy.

    • @CatlovingNB
      @CatlovingNB 4 місяці тому +91

      I was watching memes abt being trans and was like “huh, relatable…”

    • @summonerofcats
      @summonerofcats 4 місяці тому +54

      my big one was finally feeling safe somewhere and thinking my friend and I were just two silly girls hanging out (I'm amab)

    • @Spellbreaker3
      @Spellbreaker3 4 місяці тому +14

      Blue Period anime season 1: "Oh shit, AMABs can look like Ryuji Ayukawa?"

    • @3CatsInATrenchoat
      @3CatsInATrenchoat 4 місяці тому +9

      ​@@Spellbreaker3is amab a male at birth? Or is it just a word I don't know

    • @TheAkashicTraveller
      @TheAkashicTraveller 4 місяці тому +29

      @@3CatsInATrenchoat assigned male at birth

  • @Oleanderthe_octopuse
    @Oleanderthe_octopuse 4 місяці тому +416

    My “oh wait, I’m trans” moment was that I thought I had a crush on Alastor from hazbin hotel (a year ago) but then I realized that I wanted to *be* him, and that I’m a trans man

    • @ThatOnePencilCase55
      @ThatOnePencilCase55 4 місяці тому +31

      Omg I had this too!! It wasn't a crush, but it was an admiration of the two British TV presenters Ant and Dec. It was just such a 'wait I want their gender' moment

    • @theblurryblackcat
      @theblurryblackcat 4 місяці тому +11

      Same here but I'm not trans lol

    • @dietotaku
      @dietotaku 4 місяці тому

      i want to be alastor but for the lovecraftian voodoo demon magic, not the penis (not that he's using his but still)

    • @pemanilnoob
      @pemanilnoob 4 місяці тому +11

      I know that feeling

    • @princekwsy
      @princekwsy 4 місяці тому +7

      That was me with one of my kpop boys and I was like WAIT A MINUTE, I don't wanna date him, I wanna BE him. But that was 5 years ago. But honestly that moment only reminded me that I used to play pretend with my cousins and I was always one of the boy characters.

  • @billysmith5409
    @billysmith5409 4 місяці тому +640

    Becoming an immortal trans woman who never gets sick and doesn’t age? I press that button so quick it’s not even funny.

    • @Psylaine64
      @Psylaine64 4 місяці тому +13

      I pressed it quicker for you love

    • @dietotaku
      @dietotaku 4 місяці тому +16

      meanwhile the idea of having to live as a man AND never being able to die fills me with immeasurable terror

    • @pemanilnoob
      @pemanilnoob 4 місяці тому +33

      I have a fear of the concept of nothingness, death, lack of death, infinity, nothing for infinity
      I’d want to live as long as I’d choose, not infinity, that’s actually terrifying

    • @orsolyafekete7485
      @orsolyafekete7485 4 місяці тому +17

      @@pemanilnoob Yeah, the immortality part is definitely not a net positive for me either

    • @mr.creeps7226
      @mr.creeps7226 4 місяці тому +3

      this seems very random *presses button*
      edit: i saw this before i watched the video
      vd nljikSn ijklsDn hijksub HJKSVDhbhv can i become a slime

  • @Invisiblegirl109
    @Invisiblegirl109 4 місяці тому +366

    My oldest child is AFAB but loves to wear “boy” clothes and “boy” toys. They are being raised as a girl but if one day she tells me or my partner that she is a boy and wants to change their name, we will respect that. When my friend came out to my kids, my youngest was 2 and her biggest question was if my friend would never have a beard again, my friend said yes and my child was devastated but calls her by the right name and pronouns.

    • @LoremIpsum-dp1li
      @LoremIpsum-dp1li 4 місяці тому +63

      We need more good parents in the world. So glad you're out there, supporting your child.

    • @Invisiblegirl109
      @Invisiblegirl109 4 місяці тому +35

      @@LoremIpsum-dp1li my partner and I aren’t perfect but we do our best to

    • @kyuofcosmic
      @kyuofcosmic 4 місяці тому +19

      @@Invisiblegirl109that’s all that matters! Trying your best and always learning and growing.

    • @SpecialBlanket
      @SpecialBlanket 4 місяці тому +20

      Could just be a masculine girl! There's really no way to know. I'm a trans guy but I love the girliest shit ever.

    • @Invisiblegirl109
      @Invisiblegirl109 4 місяці тому +29

      @@SpecialBlanket yeah, liking boy stuff doesn’t make you a boy. But we do try to keep up that line of communication with her so that she feels safe to tell us what she needs.

  • @awesomelyAi
    @awesomelyAi 4 місяці тому +243

    My egg crack was so random, I barely even remember my exact thought process.
    I was watching some show that involved a gender swap, and I was thinking something like 'Why do they always do pointless gender swaps? What difference does it even make? Who actually cares about gender...... . . . . Oh wait I'm agender'

    • @Idkmwillow
      @Idkmwillow 4 місяці тому +18

      Mine was after spending months of questioning my gender. I just looked at myself in the mirror and said screw gender. And a few days later I realized that I’m agender.

    • @thatemobookbean
      @thatemobookbean 4 місяці тому +2

      Saaaame

    • @bookwormat5418
      @bookwormat5418 4 місяці тому +8

      For me, there was a couple of trans guys playing music in a practice room together at my school. I asked if I could play piano with them, and they said “You can only come in if you’re trans.”
      I got a bit disappointed and was like “I’m not-“ and then stopped. Eleven years of obvious boy-ness passed across my mind in a second, and I just said “Oh, _fuck…_” and then started violently sobbing.
      Good times.

    • @Dreamheart101
      @Dreamheart101 4 місяці тому +5

      ​@@bookwormat5418
      How did that conversation end? Did you play piano with them?

  • @-VortexPanda_
    @-VortexPanda_ 4 місяці тому +189

    When I was 11 and was buying new clothes with my mom for junior high, (I’m non-binary, just didn’t entirely know it back then) and I wanted to buy some cargo pants.
    My mom told me, “Are you sure? They’re going to make you look less like a girl.”
    Wanna know what I responded with? “That’s the point.”

    • @Idkmwillow
      @Idkmwillow 4 місяці тому +6

      That was me with my mom and cargo pants 😭 execpt I’m agender

    • @softpaw6234
      @softpaw6234 4 місяці тому +4

      That's such a power move, GG dude XD

  • @darksmiley5081
    @darksmiley5081 4 місяці тому +114

    My "oh wait I'm trans" moment was when my ex gave me one of his binders and I wore that, some jeans I got from my father and a long sleeve T-Shirt I also got from my father, had my hair short, und looked in the mirror. I was only questioning up until then, but when I saw myself as guy, I cried and was like yes. This is it. This is me.

  • @8ky3
    @8ky3 4 місяці тому +108

    My "oh wait, I'm trans" moment was when I looked up the wiki page for gender dysphoria out of curiosity and half of the symptoms were "literally me".

  • @catluvr2
    @catluvr2 4 місяці тому +463

    I got called "ma'am" in a super casual setting the other day, it was FANTASTIC.

    • @ThatOnePencilCase55
      @ThatOnePencilCase55 4 місяці тому +26

      The first time I got called a boy (I'm a trans guy) it was actually really awkward bc I walked into a bathroom and then a random woman told me the boy's bathroom was next door. Usually this would be great but I had only recently cut my hair and started presenting more masc so it was my first incident of something like that. Also it enlightened the fact that I had to go to the women's bathroom bc I was closeted

    • @Firefly256
      @Firefly256 4 місяці тому +1

      @@ThatOnePencilCase55which bathroom did you end up going into?

    • @kayj7054
      @kayj7054 4 місяці тому +19

      my transfem fiancee went into the store the other day and this super old man half bumped her not paying attention leaving the store, said "sorry sir", looked up to meet the gaze of my fiancee and then quickly CORRECTED HIMSELF with the most sincere apology. she came back to the car grinning ear to ear and squealing about how a really old man accidently misgendered her and then corrected it when he looked up and saw her. it made me melt how happy she was.

    • @Hametchez
      @Hametchez 4 місяці тому +1

      congrats pookie!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤

    • @dietotaku
      @dietotaku 4 місяці тому +4

      we should just call everyone ma'am and then if someone gets upset be like "no i said MAN"

  • @noa0172
    @noa0172 4 місяці тому +192

    My moment of “wow, I am trans” was literally in my therapist’s office when I was 16 in a psychiatric hospital where there were groups split up into girls and boys. I HATED being in the girl group and my therapist tried to figure out with me why I felt so uncomfortable. And I just blurted out: “Because I’m not a girl.” That was the first time I ever said it out loud and the first time I really admitted it to myself, too.

    • @RebeccaRyan-ss4ge
      @RebeccaRyan-ss4ge 4 місяці тому +3

    • @suzannep4122
      @suzannep4122 3 місяці тому +4

      My moment was uh yesterday and uh I can't stop thinking about it now and I need help and my parents are transphobic so that's really fun but I'm glad it worked out for you

    • @liamparker98
      @liamparker98 3 місяці тому

      @@suzannep4122I wish you the absolute best of luck, my friend 🥺🫂

  • @straightasacircle3182
    @straightasacircle3182 4 місяці тому +26

    15:40 that reminds me of a quote I heard a while back "the best time to plant a tree is 15 years ago, the second best time is today"

  • @WepcapStinkhorn
    @WepcapStinkhorn 4 місяці тому +68

    19:29 I was talking with my friends(who are trans) and out of nowhere I thought "I'm a girl... Why am I a girl? There's nothing I like about being a girl... Wait, I don't need to be a girl, maybe I'm trans"

  • @Elleby0805
    @Elleby0805 4 місяці тому +356

    My theory is thay Riley is nonbinary. She had male and female emotions while her dad's are all male and her mom's are all female.

    • @Arashi_Floof
      @Arashi_Floof 4 місяці тому +103

      This! Or maybe genderfluid

    • @pemanilnoob
      @pemanilnoob 4 місяці тому +51

      @@Arashi_FloofGENDERFLUID RILEY

    • @Arashi_Floof
      @Arashi_Floof 4 місяці тому +18

      @@pemanilnoob YESSS

    • @christopherb501
      @christopherb501 4 місяці тому +17

      As has been speculated since movie 1.

    • @TheQuietTyper
      @TheQuietTyper 4 місяці тому +28

      Wait, what if the events of Inside Out is a memory accessed from after Riley transitioned, but their deadname has been blocked out and replaced with their chosen name out of respect. Riley is a more masculine name but it has been used for girls often enough to make it more gender neutral.

  • @AlexanderElijahTheNerd
    @AlexanderElijahTheNerd 4 місяці тому +190

    My moment was when I was 14 and discovered Glee for the first time. I was living as a girl at the time, and I took one look at Kurt and Blaine’s relationship and went “That. I want that. I want to love a boy as a boy.” 😭😅 - not even kidding

    • @iliketoharasspeopleonyoutube
      @iliketoharasspeopleonyoutube 4 місяці тому

      lol same, just the other way around

    • @GayDemiDemiboy
      @GayDemiDemiboy 4 місяці тому

      Not when I realized I was a trans boy or agender (I'm a demiboy) but....HEART STOPPER. basic, I know, but when I read the first graphic novel- 😭✋🏼

    • @OJAesthetic
      @OJAesthetic 4 місяці тому +16

      Mine was so similar. Lol. I realized that cis girls don't want to be in gay relationships.

    • @flamingoqueen8451
      @flamingoqueen8451 4 місяці тому

      Mine was with the German version of skam (Matteo und David)

    • @AlexanderElijahTheNerd
      @AlexanderElijahTheNerd 4 місяці тому

      @@flamingoqueen8451 stoppp! I love Skam so much 😍

  • @TheCinnamonRollz
    @TheCinnamonRollz 4 місяці тому +262

    The plot of inside out Three:
    Edit: Changed 3 to Three to avoid confusion with a sad face

    • @inevi4290
      @inevi4290 4 місяці тому +22

      It's :3 but reversed:3

    • @Gmeare
      @Gmeare 4 місяці тому +18

      I thought that was a sad face and I was so confused

    • @stefansnellgrove
      @stefansnellgrove 4 місяці тому

      @@TheCinnamonRollz yeah TERFs would flip their shit if there was any big LGBT character in a Disney Disney’s Pixar movie even when it’s very coded they flip their shit like live action Beauty And The Beast.

    • @zakronthesheep
      @zakronthesheep 4 місяці тому +21

      they do one of the cutesy pun-ish titles and call it "Inside Out :3"

    • @chubskii
      @chubskii 4 місяці тому +18

      The LGBTQ community when someone places a colon and 3 next to eachother
      Also, :3

  • @artheenbyrogue804
    @artheenbyrogue804 4 місяці тому +43

    I know this is a trans positive vid, but I just want to give a massive s/o to Imane Khelif an Algerian boxer who's a cis women facing transphobia because she beat people in the Olympics so badly that her opponent withdrew and she's being transvestigated. She ended up beating one of the main people in her event who repeatedly misgendered her and called her a man. Transphobia affects everyone, not just trans people, and it's also often rooted in racism and misogyny. But go Imane!

  • @dangernoodle5267
    @dangernoodle5267 4 місяці тому +155

    I still can't believe I thought to myself 'Damn I wish I was a trans woman' and then didn't realise I was trans for like 2 years

    • @ms.aelanwyr.ilaicos
      @ms.aelanwyr.ilaicos 4 місяці тому +6

      I had the very similar thought of, "well, yeah, of course trans women are correct to want to live as a woman. But it's all just a bit... _self-indulgent,_ isn't it?"

    • @JuBenjiiiii
      @JuBenjiiiii 4 місяці тому +7

      Ahh yes, I feel that (but I wanted to be a transman) :DD

    • @robblebobble156
      @robblebobble156 4 місяці тому +11

      Nah I had to fill a form in that asked my gender and I literally sat there going "lol idk". Thought I was cis for ANOTHER YEAR goddamnit

    • @theMyRadiowasTaken
      @theMyRadiowasTaken 4 місяці тому +2

      no offense but GIRL HOW 😭

    • @Em-ig1ri
      @Em-ig1ri 4 місяці тому

      YES! I WAS EXACTLY THE SAME! (trans masc, though 😅)

  • @IAmDeborahB
    @IAmDeborahB 4 місяці тому +40

    When I usually skip the ads within videos but I am glued to my screen to find out what new business idea Jamie has this time 😂

  • @Ray-of-SunFox
    @Ray-of-SunFox 4 місяці тому +45

    19:20
    We were doing state testing. I finished early like the nerd I am. I was sitting there with only my own thoughts. All of a sudden I think, “I hate how large my chest is. Why can’t I have a flat chest like all the boys?” And I identified as nonbinary for a while before now identifying as genderfluid. I came out to my friends shortly after, and later my amazing trans uncle and parents. Sadly my parents took it badly but I just have to wait until I move out and then I can do whatever I want with my hair and I can bind and maybe get top surgery if I want it. But for now watching Jamie is a pretty good escape ❤

  • @GlitterEnby
    @GlitterEnby 4 місяці тому +40

    I don't know if there was a particular moment when I realized I was trans. However, there was this moment after I realized I was Bi, and after I had come out of high-control religion, when I thought, "If I'm not straight like I was told I was supposed to be, does that mean I could not be a woman, too? No, no way. " And that kicked off my months of denial that eventually gave way to realizing that I was non-binary.

  • @nuggetlikestodraw
    @nuggetlikestodraw 4 місяці тому +132

    I'm agender, and the 'pretending to be a girl/boy'is so real, Imma start using that

    • @CatlovingNB
      @CatlovingNB 4 місяці тому +13

      Yes but what gender (I’m so sorry I had to)

    • @GedanJ
      @GedanJ 4 місяці тому +2

      ​@@CatlovingNB dont you know? In the gender select screen there is the secret "gender" option.

  • @Jackie_Sins
    @Jackie_Sins 4 місяці тому +404

    J.K. R**ling would rot in that forgotten tomb nameless for all eternity.

    • @Wonderhoy-er
      @Wonderhoy-er 4 місяці тому +1

      What happened with J.K Rowling?

    • @Psylaine64
      @Psylaine64 4 місяці тому +30

      @@Wonderhoy-er who?

    • @HermioneDisapprovesOfJKR
      @HermioneDisapprovesOfJKR 4 місяці тому

      She is a terrible transphobe, and her huge platform spreads her hate and gives her ‘authority’ in the view of many people and some politicians.

    • @swishfish8858
      @swishfish8858 4 місяці тому +38

      ​@@Wonderhoy-er ...how are you watching a trans video on youtube and NOT KNOW ABOUT JK ROWLING

    • @Bunny_Bill
      @Bunny_Bill 4 місяці тому

      @@Wonderhoy-er She super hates trans people. Like genuinely advocates for our physical erasure

  • @LadyAnthos
    @LadyAnthos 4 місяці тому +79

    Omg, the moment I realized I was trans was split into 2 phases as well. My husband (also trans) asked if I would be comfortable if he tried dressing as a guy. I half jokingly said. "only if you let me dress like a girl too." So we did. I had never felt more happy and beautiful in that moment, and thought it was because I was gender fluid. The time I realized I was actually a transfem was while I was laying down in bed relaxing and I got an unprovoked erection. It made me so angry and made me feel so gross... So I thought about why, and realized... "Oh shit. I'm actually just trans."

    • @ms.aelanwyr.ilaicos
      @ms.aelanwyr.ilaicos 4 місяці тому +1

      aw, that's cute

    • @SpecialBlanket
      @SpecialBlanket 4 місяці тому

      Oh, I'm sorry :( That sucks @ random boners. I'm glad it doesn't bother my transfem partner. She doesn't rly have dysphoria only euphoria? Can't relate at ALL, i pretty much only have dysphoria :-/

  • @LoremIpsum-dp1li
    @LoremIpsum-dp1li 4 місяці тому +206

    There was a theory out there that Riley from Inside Out was bigender or some other kind of enby because she had both male and female emotions, while the other characters' emotions were consistent in their gender.

    • @ClaraDarko
      @ClaraDarko 4 місяці тому +34

      OMG, you're right! I noticed that but never realized the meaning!

    • @tahraethestoryteller6079
      @tahraethestoryteller6079 4 місяці тому +34

      @@ClaraDarkoit wasn’t the creator’s intention but still it’s a nice headcanon

    • @MinerBat
      @MinerBat 4 місяці тому +34

      while that is probably just because they are main characters and the others just exist for a few small jokes, i do have that headcanon as well (until disproven at least, but i hope they make it a future story though they probably wont)

    • @rosieg6989
      @rosieg6989 4 місяці тому +28

      And a lot of their clothes are rainbow, and they have a gender neutral name.

    • @crescentfeather7
      @crescentfeather7 4 місяці тому +17

      Right? Like. They could have made other people's emotions mixed gender too but they didn't

  • @rebeccaryancross
    @rebeccaryancross 4 місяці тому +116

    I really said out loud “ooh. I wanna watch that” 🤣

  • @j.apenrose7896
    @j.apenrose7896 4 місяці тому +18

    I'm non-binary and androgynous, and I've finally started dressing the way I feel comfortable, and it's amazing! My sister mentioned several times at our last family gathering how much more comfortable and confident I look now that I'm not trying to be a clone of my cousins! 😊

  • @sheersternfeld1914
    @sheersternfeld1914 4 місяці тому +100

    I always said that Riley is probably gender fluid.
    Also, not my "oh, I'm trans" moment, but a moment that is quite trans in retrospect. When I was in kindergarten, I remember quite clearly that I wanted to be a boy when I grow up. (I also wanted to be a monkey, but that's besides the point).
    More than that, our kindergarten kinda developed a small gendered society within itself, in the sense that the boys played soccer, and the girls drew flowers. And there was toddler me, a girl with a specific muscle issue that meant I couldn't draw. It's better nowadays, once again this is besides the point. So, I can't draw, that must mean I'm a boy, right?
    And then there was this boy who really liked girl stuff like pink, and Hello Kitty, and a bunch of other stuff.
    I distinctly remember offering to switch genders with him (I probably didn't phrase it like that, I didn't even know the word gender existed), and I also remember his answer. That he can't, because then he wouldn't be able to marry this specific girl he had a crush on.
    I didn't understand what marrying her had to do with anything.
    I am now a trans dude. I like girls (maybe also guys, I'm not sure).
    Also, that kids twin brother mocked my voice a lot in primary school, and I now have voice disphoria.
    So, I guess I should thank these twins, they were my trans awakening? Or something, I don't know.

    • @TenUniverse
      @TenUniverse 4 місяці тому +7

      As a nonbinary person i was like, this is me.

    • @amagicalbeing7427
      @amagicalbeing7427 4 місяці тому +5

      Man in kindergarten I thought I was half boy and half girl cuz I didnt fit into these gendered boxes and kid me was right XD

  • @WaluigiisthekingASmith
    @WaluigiisthekingASmith 4 місяці тому +102

    Hey this actually reminds me of a decently common theory that riley is some flavour of non binary because, unlike every other person whose emotions we see, riley has a pretty even mix of "female" and "male" emotions in her head.

    • @ThePkmnYPerson
      @ThePkmnYPerson 4 місяці тому +17

      That would explain why Riley's the only one whose emotions don't look like the person they control.

    • @genderqueerpeer
      @genderqueerpeer 4 місяці тому

      You're right. Riley's dad and mom have masc and fem emotions respectively.

  • @EvelynandBreelee
    @EvelynandBreelee 4 місяці тому +46

    I’m a baby trans! Figured out it’s not normal to wanna be a guy constantly and hate yourself for not being a guy-

    • @user_hat
      @user_hat 4 місяці тому +8

      i wish you well on your journey!

    • @Zeagods-CyberShadow
      @Zeagods-CyberShadow 4 місяці тому +4

      Same here except the opposite. I wanna be a woman or want everything feature of a woman and kind of everything and also still have guy things but mostly girl like everything from walk to looks and i feel happy everytime i look so much like a woman in my reflections from the distance

    • @leftherlonelywadiamondmind
      @leftherlonelywadiamondmind 4 місяці тому +4

      toddler trans guy here! good luck on your journey little dude 😁

    • @EvelynandBreelee
      @EvelynandBreelee 4 місяці тому +2

      @@leftherlonelywadiamondmind thanks dudr

    • @leftherlonelywadiamondmind
      @leftherlonelywadiamondmind 4 місяці тому +1

      @@EvelynandBreelee of course

  • @Jackie_Sins
    @Jackie_Sins 4 місяці тому +115

    I realized I liked girly things when I was about 5 years old. I remember when my mom caught be playing with my elder sister's old Barbie dolls (which she was not playing with anymore anyway) I remember saying, "I want to be a girl." My mom brushed it off and I didn't think about again until later in high school, even then I didn't know what to do about it.
    I would say I fully realized I was trans after feeling more comfortable in expressing myself femininly. Wearing makeup and stuff like that. I even "joked" and said "Maybe I should go all out." Meaning medically transitioning. This was around college. Of course I eventually came out as trans to my parents, began medically transitioning, met some resistance from my parents, but things worked out in the end.

    • @Externon2
      @Externon2 4 місяці тому +2

      I did the same exact thing 💀

  • @Arashi_Floof
    @Arashi_Floof 4 місяці тому +39

    "are you a boy or a girl?"
    Yes.

  • @F3rnnnn
    @F3rnnnn 4 місяці тому +38

    i don’t even remember when i noticed i’m trans- it just slowly happened over time- i never had an “oh shit!” moment 😭

    • @Arlley338
      @Arlley338 4 місяці тому +6

      This! It was exactly like this for me too! And like i've been out for two years now so i don't even think about it anymore. Whenever someone asks me how i knew i was trans i don't rlly know what to say

    • @F3rnnnn
      @F3rnnnn 4 місяці тому +1

      @@Arlley338 exactly!!

    • @siriuslypan1158
      @siriuslypan1158 4 місяці тому

      This is exactly how it was for me! You have no idea how affirming this comment was so thank you!

  • @TransDragon
    @TransDragon 4 місяці тому +20

    Watching Jammidodger videos made me go "oh wait I might be trans" and then I read a book on gender identity and talked to some trans men online

  • @rainbowtropolis
    @rainbowtropolis 4 місяці тому +8

    The first time I knew there was a word for trans was when I met my friend who was gay and in the LGBTQ community. He told me I was "a man trapped in a woman's body" and I started looking things up. I knew something was different about me when I was really young (around 5 years old approx) But hearing there was a word for me and there was a way to get the body I wanted was in my early 30's. It's been rough, but well worth the journey ever since!

  • @Ashiscool0720
    @Ashiscool0720 4 місяці тому +9

    I felt the clothes thing too. Before I came out I hated trying on clothes and wearing anything beyond sweatpants, now that im out I have gone clothes shopping with my grandma more than I am willing to admit and I have basically only worn a suit to public events.
    When little kids im helping with outside at school ask me if im a boy or a girl i just say ´what do you think’ and let them call me whatever the hell they want. There was one kid that said she thought i wasnt anything and then ran around the playground calling me ´himher’ 😂😂

  • @ShadowingNinja6941
    @ShadowingNinja6941 4 місяці тому +3

    My "oh wait I'm trans" moment was when I was seven. I got a haircut and on the way home I was told these exact words by my grandpa "(deadname), you're not a boy, you're a sweet, loving girl" the amount of dysphoria and discomfort I felt was enough to cause my realization

  • @chaoticatom6150
    @chaoticatom6150 4 місяці тому +4

    My egg crack, was when I first met a non-binary/gender queer person in grade 9. After that I started doing research and exploring with my identity. I never felt like a girl, and honestly was never interested in feminine things. Once puberty hit I got along more with my brothers then my sister. For my whole childhood I was sort of just there in society not identifying as anything.
    In February I started testing out other identities online. By the time March came around lockdown started and I finally got a second to sit and think about it without societies influence and came out as non-binary shortly after (i don’t remember when because covid brain) then at 16 I changed it to trans masc because I felt like thats more where I lied on the scale. Hasn’t changed since.

  • @anvithequarsonist
    @anvithequarsonist 4 місяці тому +164

    "If"??? Screw it we should make an actual trans inside out

    • @ThePkmnYPerson
      @ThePkmnYPerson 4 місяці тому +5

      No, If is an entirely different movie about animated characters who exist in someone's mind.

    • @pemanilnoob
      @pemanilnoob 4 місяці тому +7

      I was hoping that inside out 2 would be that. These comments are really making it seem like it’s not that… I haven’t even seen it yet

    • @LucyFerr5070
      @LucyFerr5070 4 місяці тому +18

      I mean, it would make sense, since Riley's emotions are both boys and girls, while everyone else in the movie had all emotions as the gender they are.

    • @bitchenboutique6953
      @bitchenboutique6953 4 місяці тому

      @@pemanilnoob It’s not. It’s definitely about the beginning of puberty and all the interior drama that comes with it, but there isn’t an indication that Riley is trans… however, it feels like she *might* be attracted to girls, so STAND BY.

    • @2knowwons
      @2knowwons 4 місяці тому +9

      Animators unite, all in favor say aye

  • @vigilante_deku6691
    @vigilante_deku6691 4 місяці тому +21

    My “oh wait, I’m trans” moment was in middle school, I was running in gym class alone because my friend I shared the class with was sick so I was just thinking on how gender is a social construct and how I kinda didn’t wanna participate in a traditional way and then I was like “oh sh!t I’m non-binary”, looking back there were moments where my agab nonconformity were obvious

  • @TimonK404
    @TimonK404 4 місяці тому +25

    Me at 18: The most cis thing ever is looking at a random screenshot of Jamie for like ten minutes, because it was proof that I could get a beard too.

    • @yukinofairytail7137
      @yukinofairytail7137 4 місяці тому +3

      oh yeah watching ten thousand videos about trans guys and their journeys on yt was a very cis thing for me to do 😂 "oh it's just interesting" why are you only interested in trans MEN then??? i was so oblivious for years fr

  • @ghostder_
    @ghostder_ 4 місяці тому +22

    My "oh wait im trans" moment was descovered because i was watching south park and wanted to like boys the way boys like boys, (was watching an episode with tweek and craig) and the next day i cut my hair short for no reason and thought "maybe this means something" lmao

  • @terencew.2918
    @terencew.2918 4 місяці тому +27

    Back in 1971 I (AFAB) told my parents that I was a boy. Period. Under no circumstances were they to buy me anything created for girls. Thinking that I would soon grow out of it they went along with my wishes. Unfortunately the word Transgender wasn't in common use at the time. I didn't grow out of it. I waited 49 years to get my first testosterone dose at age 56. Now I'm 60 but still in puberty so I'm also (mostly) 15 yrs. old and it feels great.

  • @Redflagnabbimahazardsign
    @Redflagnabbimahazardsign 4 місяці тому +11

    I like to refur my husbands preman life as 'the great before'
    It adds a little exta mystery, especially as we never explain what we mean to cis people

  • @missblank3887
    @missblank3887 4 місяці тому +26

    Had the same dress story happen to me when I was 7 or 8 but I only wore the dress because it was for my Mothers wedding. No one understood and assumed I was a tomboy, even I did.
    Though I'm happy my mother was very accepting when I came out too her. It was scary because she had told me while she was pregnant with me she really wanted a girl (I'm afab) but now we joke that because she wished hard that I would be a girl but meant to be a boy I was born trans XD

    • @sheechwan
      @sheechwan 4 місяці тому +3

      Your mom sounds wonderful, glad she's so supportive!

  • @astraeetje5048
    @astraeetje5048 4 місяці тому +11

    Never excuse yourself for talking and sharing your thoughts or experiences! If I only want te see the memes, I wouldn't choose to watch your video! You are what makes me want to watch! So please, talk to us 🥰

  • @PokhrajRoy.
    @PokhrajRoy. 4 місяці тому +51

    6:58 I remember the prompt on Twitter for new emotions in ‘Inside Out’ and someone suggested ‘Compulsory Heterosexuality’.

    • @3triplezero0
      @3triplezero0 4 місяці тому +20

      compulsory heterosexuality would probably just be a button on the console. Shame/Embarrassment and anxiety would be in control to try to fit into society.

    • @christopherb501
      @christopherb501 4 місяці тому +3

      ​@@3triplezero0 Strong coding for "with cover"/"without cover" for _those_ Embarrassmentd.

  • @optimistic_blue7606
    @optimistic_blue7606 4 місяці тому +10

    I didn't realise I was trans until I was 16, and I didn't change my name legally until I was 18. But the point I realised I was trans was when I met someone who became a close friend of mine with a pride flag pin on their bag that I didn't recognise (it was the demigirl flag) and when they explained it to me, and I did my own research into it, it felt right (my identity then bounced around a bit and I went through 6 different shifts in pronouns before I settled on the right ones). It was also the feeling of euphoria after I told my friends I wanted to go by a different name and they started using it immediately without question.

  • @mecen8
    @mecen8 4 місяці тому +8

    For an alternative as to when the “B”keeping job stops working, perhaps you could go on to the next letter and work with the Q? I imagine many places have crowds running all about, going completely unorganized, and they could profit on some lovely queues

  • @gdgsdsfdasf
    @gdgsdsfdasf 4 місяці тому +14

    inside out is such a beautiful movie, also thanks for helping me crack the egg!

    • @ThatOnePencilCase55
      @ThatOnePencilCase55 4 місяці тому +6

      He helped me crack the egg too, same with a lot of people I think. Really proves how important people like him are in trans people's lives

  • @TheQueerAceofSpades
    @TheQueerAceofSpades 4 місяці тому +15

    With the “figuring out we were trans” moment: It wasn’t figuring out I was trans, but agender. I feel like I kinda always knew (kinda like how I kinda always knew I was a lesbian) but I denied that there was something different about me, and the way I express myself. I feel like it’s kinda hard to explain, but the label of “boy” or “girl” never really fit me (especially the girl part). Still kinda figuring it out, but I’m pretty sure I’ve got it now lol
    (Also, I really felt the “not wanting to wear a dress for something formal”. Me to a T lol)

  • @missnaomi613
    @missnaomi613 4 місяці тому +10

    -Two of my 3 grown kids are trans. We say "when they were living as a boy/girl."
    -I love the puns!
    -14:09 Harsh, but true.
    -Whoever you are, wherever you are in life, you are valid and loved!
    🙏❤🏳‍🌈🏳‍⚧🟦

  • @Aubstob
    @Aubstob 4 місяці тому +28

    I still remember what began the journey of my egg cracking. I was on the phone with the store and the cashier called me ma'am. I was very confused on why it felt so normal

    • @Archiv1st-bd3lp
      @Archiv1st-bd3lp 4 місяці тому +1

      This but it was just video game chat

    • @ms.aelanwyr.ilaicos
      @ms.aelanwyr.ilaicos 4 місяці тому +2

      ​@@Archiv1st-bd3lpthe years of "why can't I bring myself to 'correct' this person that assumed I'm a woman...?"

    • @Aubstob
      @Aubstob 4 місяці тому

      @@ms.aelanwyr.ilaicos i always went with "I can't bother to correct them."Look where that got me.

  • @meatkirbo
    @meatkirbo 4 місяці тому +10

    What I always answer when I am given the “boy or girl” question is “maybe”

  • @Lucas-ro2wm
    @Lucas-ro2wm 4 місяці тому +2

    oh my "oh wait im trans" moment was when i went to a store and the cashier called me (a transmasc who thought he was a cis girl) sir and it felt so amazing and i spent months thinking about it

  • @CatlovingNB
    @CatlovingNB 4 місяці тому +12

    Let’s crack some eggs! My favorite quote

  • @QueenLucita
    @QueenLucita 4 місяці тому +8

    LMAO THE WHO WANTS TO BE A MILLIONAIRE MEME WAS FUNNY
    Love this video, hello from a trans woman!
    🏳‍⚧

  • @AugustIsASillyGuy
    @AugustIsASillyGuy 4 місяці тому +3

    My "Oh wait, I'm trans" moment happened back in the summer of 2023. At the time, I thought I was aromantic (I'm not, but at the time I thought I was) and wanted to explore other identities in the lgbtq+ community on the internet. I learned about the trans community and was basically like "These posts are relatable. Too relatable... WAIT A MINUTE!" And then about half a year of questioning later, here I am, a trans man that is STILL not out to anybody except their mom and best friend. 😐

  • @albanewest2361
    @albanewest2361 4 місяці тому +1

    My "Oh wait I'm trans" moment was when I had just finished eating and was going back to class. I just paused and asked myself "Wait, do I even feel like a girl ?" The answer was no.

  • @Escrypha
    @Escrypha 4 місяці тому +8

    19:20 I knew right away, from the moment I could cogitate that I was trans, simply because my bottom dysphoria was unreasonably high. At 4, I remember asking why a sibling got to have a certain set, while I was stuck with mine. 'Cause a' that, I can't relate with "Am I trans enough memes," although I'm glad they exist for those who do.

  • @shadesofcallum
    @shadesofcallum 4 місяці тому +11

    i thought the new trans emotion would be dysphoria and that envy would just agree with everything dysphoria says lol

  • @PokhrajRoy.
    @PokhrajRoy. 4 місяці тому +10

    Congratulations on 1.1 Million subscribers! Also, what better way to celebrate than observing some good eggs?

  • @VENTACCOUNTYAY
    @VENTACCOUNTYAY 4 місяці тому +1

    My 'Oh wait I'm trans' moment was like a year ago. So, I had convinced myself I was gender-fluid, but I just-so-happened to just feel like a boy 100% of the time. I tried googling about it and stuff, did my research, then one day I was just like 'Ooohh..' It was so funny

  • @thepeanutlord507
    @thepeanutlord507 4 місяці тому +81

    Trans rights!

  • @DemonGoat-248
    @DemonGoat-248 4 місяці тому +7

    2:16 I had that when I realized I liked women lol. Look back and go, "yeah maybe being jealous of men getting to like women wasn't straight"

    • @christopherb501
      @christopherb501 4 місяці тому +1

      That "Girl Crush" song was such a swing-and-a-miss

    • @DemonGoat-248
      @DemonGoat-248 4 місяці тому +1

      @@christopherb501 mood

    • @DemonGoat-248
      @DemonGoat-248 4 місяці тому +1

      @christopherb501 my mom loves that song, personally "I kissed a girl" was my rhing

  • @UltraHylia
    @UltraHylia 4 місяці тому +12

    3:56 I haven't even gotten myself to a point of wearing clothes I like, and gosh this is a *mood*. Used to be notorious for being uninterested in fashion. Even with just laser and growing my hair out, I actually like taking photos of myself now, depending on how good I look (bonus points if I've got makeup on).
    6:26 too 😭

    • @willowthemoth
      @willowthemoth 4 місяці тому +5

      As a fellow trans girl I relate to suddenly wanting to take pictures of myself after coming out

    • @ms.aelanwyr.ilaicos
      @ms.aelanwyr.ilaicos 4 місяці тому +1

      your pfp is adorbs
      also, actually wanting to be in photos, like, _the day_ the egg cracked is real af

    • @UltraHylia
      @UltraHylia 4 місяці тому +1

      @@ms.aelanwyr.ilaicos Thank you!
      It wasn't really the day the egg cracked for me, it took laser and growing my hair out, but so long as I can look feminine I actually love photos now! I don't think I ever took a selfie before this year and now I've taken probably hundreds lol

    • @SpecialBlanket
      @SpecialBlanket 4 місяці тому +2

      My trans fem partner is dressing sooo cool now and it's SLAYING all the straight guys in our building even though she's totally pre hrt and closeted lol. They are just confused and weirdly attracted "to a guy" and it makes me giggle honestly bc I know the secret whyyyyy

  • @Artemis_Is_Gone
    @Artemis_Is_Gone 4 місяці тому +2

    my "oh wait, im trans" moment was when I was sitting in class, the teacher used my deadname and I realised 'wait, girls don't get sad at being called their name, wtf is going on'

  • @ExpiredWindex01
    @ExpiredWindex01 4 місяці тому +4

    I usually just skip over the ads and sponsorships in videos but I love watching Jamie's squarespace ads with all his different businesses 😭

  • @graciefarnsworth165
    @graciefarnsworth165 4 місяці тому +5

    My “oh wait I’m trans moment” was I was thinking back on my childhood memories and I remembered that my parents used to call me tomboy princess because I loved both stereotypical girl things and boy things. From there I started connecting strings to things like sometimes wanting to chop off my titties with a sword and be a cute boy with fluffy hair and other times wanting to be very pretty and feminine but I never really cared what people called me or what pronouns they used for me. I now know I’m apagender and genderfluid

  • @Meebkin_Ur_bestie
    @Meebkin_Ur_bestie 4 місяці тому +4

    Not me almost crying in french class one time upon getting severe gender envy over a humanised drawing of Gaddzooks from My Singing Monsters 💀💀💀

  • @zoz8037
    @zoz8037 4 місяці тому +2

    Hi Jamie! I'd say my "oh wait I'm trans" moment actually came from watching your videos. I always found myself relating a lot to you, and listening to you talk about your experiences as a trans man and your journey, especially when you were younger, made me feel really uderstood. One day it just clicked as to why I related so much to you 😅.

  • @DivineChaos_
    @DivineChaos_ 4 місяці тому +3

    “Queerios” like queer cheerios would be an amazing business in my opinion

  • @Waterflame
    @Waterflame 4 місяці тому +1

    I love that you apologized for talking about yourself a lot because you related to the memes, but please remember that we're watching because we like you! Therefore, hearing how you relate to the memes is great and nothing to apologize for!

  • @PokhrajRoy.
    @PokhrajRoy. 4 місяці тому +13

    4:25 The British Urge to apologise talking about yourself on your own channel

  • @creiwentheelvenone6730
    @creiwentheelvenone6730 4 місяці тому +1

    I just bought your book, Jaime! Can't wait to listen to it! Thank you for having it in audiobook format.

  • @aalesu
    @aalesu 4 місяці тому +8

    1:53 Nah, I just say "In my femboy era..."

  • @malonerevenant4584
    @malonerevenant4584 4 місяці тому +1

    When I was 12, I wanted to dress up as a male character for Halloween and my mom kept asking me why, and she kept pressing so hard about that that I had a moment of realization where i thought to myself 'do most girls only want to dress up as girl characters?' And then immediately followed that up with 'that is future me's problem' and promply forgot until that memory was triggered about 9 years later when I saw an info graphic about various nonbinary and genderqueer identities online

  • @TransDragon
    @TransDragon 4 місяці тому +34

    Riley in Inside Out seems to be non-binary to me. Her mom has female only emotions, her dad has male only emotions, the boy that liked her at the end of 1 had all male emotions, her friends had all female emotions, but Riley has male and female emotions

    • @3triplezero0
      @3triplezero0 4 місяці тому +6

      It's a nice headcanon. I think it's more than likely that Riley has feminine and masculine presenting emotions so there is variety of interactions and appeals to a broader audience. If it were all feminine voiced emotion they probably figured they would lose the attention of the male audience? Just a thought on my end. I like gender equivalency when watching my media anyway.
      I think Riley being nb would have more validity if we saw at least one other character with masculine and feminine presenting emotions but I don't recall there being one.

    • @Gatsby_Obsessed_Goth
      @Gatsby_Obsessed_Goth 4 місяці тому +1

      @@3triplezero0 I know that’s why but a series of kids movies about a bigender protagonist would be amazing

  • @Climbingcricketer
    @Climbingcricketer 4 місяці тому +1

    My realisation came in R.E. in year 7 when we were shown a documentary of a trans guy and asked to discuss whether one could change who they were... a friend put the pieces together and after the lesson asked me if I was trans and then said cause if you were a boy, I wouldn't be friends with you. That comment sent me so far back into the closet I got lost in Narnia for 10 years

  • @thomasawl
    @thomasawl 4 місяці тому +17

    3:42 i’m sorry but you looked like you came out of a 1970s safety film, like your gonna climb over a fence to get your football out of an electrical transformer

  • @kamu.susanoo
    @kamu.susanoo 4 місяці тому +1

    this dude genuinely made me realize im transmasc.
    oh yeah. my "oh wait, i'm trans" moment was a few months ago when my friend jokingly called me a he and a boy and stuff and then i felt extremely comforted by the fact they called me a dude.

  • @prageruwu69
    @prageruwu69 4 місяці тому +33

    trans people r cool

    • @Player-p4k
      @Player-p4k 3 місяці тому

      Cis people are cool too

  • @magicmisslemain7485
    @magicmisslemain7485 4 місяці тому +2

    My "Oh wow I'm trans" moment came from seeing a meme that was formated where someone was asked how often they think about being the opposite gender and them replying oh just the normal amount followed but the normal amount is zero, at that point I was already questioning but that was the final blow

  • @BhaktiRosin108
    @BhaktiRosin108 4 місяці тому +3

    (I'm an Enby 24yr old) Besides internally knowing my body wasn't right as soon as I started puberty, when I was called "young man" by a cashier in 7th grade & when I bought my very first binder & buzzed my head at 19, those are the two most memorable moments when I really felt like or could finally see myself.

  • @KatzeTori
    @KatzeTori 4 місяці тому +1

    My "oh wait, I'm trans" moment was when I had first met my current friend group, 4 of them being trans, and a lot of their stories about being trans, and their experiences and journeys to realizing that were similar to a lot of things I felt, so I asked them to start using he/him and masc terms just to see how it made me feel, and yeah it made me way happier lol. It also explained why I was always so uncomfortable in my body, I always thought it was because I didn't like the normal things to not like about your body as a teenage girl, it turned out to be gender dysphoria. Further proven when I wore a binder for the first time and my chest was almost completely flat, and I loved it lol.

  • @puffinbasher
    @puffinbasher 4 місяці тому +5

    Oh god the "are you male or female" I remember having that one with a not so supportive boss while he was trying to force everyone to add pronouns to there emails.
    I just couldent at that point (either lie or come out) - he decided to tell me I was being ridiculous, at which point I opened up my phones browsing history, which was at the time about 50/50 work related and trans issues reasearch. Very suddenly all of the inclusion messaging around the office was halted abruptly. I left a few months after that, and have found myself a supportive office to be me in.

  • @JessieTrinket
    @JessieTrinket 4 місяці тому +2

    My trans realization was a slow burn that took weeks to come to terms with and put into words rather than a singular moment, so instead I'll share one of those wonderful memories that turned trans.
    This is probably the most "how the hell did I not realize" memory, but around 4th grade I was staying the night at my best friend's house. I had some trans thoughts bumping around my head but didn't even know trans people existed yet so I didn't have the words for it. I ended up asking my friend "Do you ever feel like you were born a girl but your parents switched you?" He gave me a weird look and said no. _I then proceeded to ask it two more times the following nights!!!_ It got to the point where he stopped me and goes, "Is... is there something you need to tell me?"
    It wasn't until around 15 years later that I realized, "OH! Yes, I do have something to tell him." 😅

  • @MOSSY_MOON
    @MOSSY_MOON 4 місяці тому +6

    My moment was when I already asked my mum to use they/them for me because I wasn't sure yet and wanted to test it out. I think I was just standing in the kitchen one night and was like wow I'm really not a girl.

  • @hackshackers3513
    @hackshackers3513 4 місяці тому +1

    my "oh wait i'm trans" moment was i think when, in 4th grade, i acted as a boy in a roleplay with my friend

  • @3denx
    @3denx 4 місяці тому +4

    19:15 i had always been jealous of the boys in my class, i haven’t even considered being trans before. i saw some trans meme that was similar to my experience and i was like “wait…maybe i am trans…” i looked into it more, asked my trans friends some stuff and a while later figured out that i was trans :D

  • @LTeppler
    @LTeppler 4 місяці тому +1

    "Are you a boy or a girl?" Me: "Does it really matter? Are you going to treat me any differently?" I'm not trans, but I am bald, so I do get this question a lot.

  • @loorthedarkelf8353
    @loorthedarkelf8353 4 місяці тому +6

    I am trans masc, and it is *hell* because I measure to 36 E or 34 EE. My ribcage Was Not Made For This, My Spine Was Not Made For This, I have been reffered for reductions but the surgeon ghosted me.
    Next time I go in imma say double mastectomy. I'm done fucking around and pretending I want these things even a little bit. They're huge they hurt and they're always in the way.
    Particularly when you love climbing

  • @cloudy-siro2470
    @cloudy-siro2470 4 місяці тому +2

    my "Oh... I'm trans" was when I was 11 in a scouts camp and as a joke I put my hair into mu cap and said "Look! My name is Matias!" and all my guy friends stated to treat me as a guy and call me by he/him as a part of the joke.
    It felt WAY TOO GOOD to be just a joke for me

  • @sovietbot6708
    @sovietbot6708 4 місяці тому +15

    I personally have no problem saying when I was a girl, but that's just me

  • @mizzmatrix
    @mizzmatrix 4 місяці тому +2

    As a masc lesbian cis female, the clothes and the hair is everything. When I got to choose what I could wear and my hairstyle, I was finally becoming myself. Having long hair and being put in dresses was a nightmare.

  • @artheenbyrogue804
    @artheenbyrogue804 4 місяці тому +10

    There would be no doubt in my mind that there would definitely be a gender dysphoria emotion (for me), maybe envy's child, gender envy?
    Whoops I made this comment before 7:01. There also could be gender anxiety, like not thinking you're trans enough.

  • @nathryl03
    @nathryl03 4 місяці тому +1

    This is your regular reminder that you're all awesome, beautiful and valid little spuds, just the way you are ❤🧡💛💚💙💜Love you all ❤🧡💛💚💙💜

  • @wiltingrosegarden
    @wiltingrosegarden 4 місяці тому +3

    My, “Oh wait…” moment was getting more involved online with LGBT spaces because I am bisexual and realizing that sometimes I fit the textbook definition for gender dysphoria (I am Bi-gender). This put into context my constant instance growing up that I wasn’t a Tom Boy or a Girly Girl, but a Tom
    Girl.

  • @ShadeOnPawzz
    @ShadeOnPawzz 4 місяці тому +1

    I was watching One Topic and the is just appeared on my fyp and I realized it was him so I’m like “heck yea!” And then I subbed ❤