Hi mel Im a househelper from philippines age 50..while ironing i always listen to you... ❤thank you for your poscast i learn a lot...Godbless u and may we all have better 2024...
Hi Mel, this is the first time I've watched/listened to your Podcast, it's as though you made it just for me! Literally! I'm post-menopausal, 54 years old and I'm struggling with my weight. I struggle with clutter in my home, and I have self-sabotaged any efforts to improve my life due to a lack of self-worth and love which has inevitably caused me a great deal of anxiety. I have an inventory of amazing cosmetics that I formulated, and produced myself, sitting doing nothing as my mountain of debt keeps growing. When Jamie told the story about the investor who didn't think she could sell cosmetics because of the way she looked, I got so angry! Then I thought, I tell myself such terrible things or worse every day! Not anymore! Your podcast has given me so much hope and motivation to fix what needs fixing and get on with my life. From the bottom of my heart, thank you Mel! ❤
If you abuse, neglect or abandon a child, the child doesn’t stop loving the parent THEY STOP LOVING THEMSELVES. Mind blown! I knew this but hearing it this way made it make sense.
I was driving when I was listening to this podcast. When I heard Mel start talking about Dr Russ Kennedy I had to pull over because I began to cry. I have struggled with anxiety all my life and tried everything but never achieved success. The information Dr Kennedy shared on these podcasts blew my mind. I could not get enough and listened over and over again trying to soak up as much information as I could. I read his book and then took his online course. I am finely free and not so bothered by aniexty. It no long runs my life, I do! Thank you again Dr Kennedy and Mel thank you too, I love you.
I have been in a funk for WEEKS and WEEKS and to be honest, I didn't really realize how bad it had gotten until I caught up with you yesterday. I am so grateful for you and your transparency. It helps to know that everyone is fighting the same battles and your podcast gives us real life ways to deal with them. Thank you for everything you do.
That's what I said about 2023 "rejection is redirection away from what's not meant for you"! I am so happy I have my dream job and new home at the end of 2023! So now 2024 is a year of self care and resetting for me and enjoying what I have! X
The damage a narcissist does.....still dealing with the damage.. I'm sick and tired of trying to heal from something I didn't provoke or deserve.. but getting back into self care.. baby steps💖
It's a process, and certainly not linear. Give yourself grace for what you've been through and for the tough days ahead when it feels like you are moving backwards. I'm finally seeing the light and it's been a LOT of work on my end. I eventually stopped caring to learn about narcissism and to put the attention on me so it never happens again. I hope you continue to heal and your 2024 is blessed.
@@jojo14843 it's been over a year since he left. I've done a lot of work on myself.. mainly with Mel's tools. Identity is a daily struggle. I had to dissociate and regress to escape the madness. Now it rebuilding from the ashes, piece by piece incorporating old parts with new attitudes and perspectives.
I dealt with the damage for decades afterward. This issue was not well published in the 1980's. First forgive yourself. Yes you are smart but these people could win the Oscar for acting every year. Next forgive the narc for your own sake. The self care is so important. Somewhere I found the information that if you care for something or someone (like yourself) you will begin to love them. Love yourself. Best Wishes!
61 years old and now I understand that I'm not crazy! Years and years of being told that I was too sensitive, couldnt take a joke and was the butt of their jokes almost destroyed me. The physical abuse was "goosing" me and laughing about touching me in my private area. I could give more details but its too upsetting. Verbally, " you were so beautiful when you were thin." I could go on and on. No more! I am empowered now with knowledge, live 2 states away from my family and am now loving me. Gone are the days of mental, physical and emotional abuse. My name is Jean and I am somebody!
So happy to see you on this journey! Narcissistic environments are so good at turning you against yourself. They want to twist you up in knots while telling you why you are a mess!
13:50 - 19:05 Resistance training+ up protein breakfast: 30-50 grams of protein optional - little carbs (less than 30g) Lunch: 20g protein + 20g carbs Dinner: 30-50 grams of protein
Wow!!! Every expert was phenomenal and because of the episode with Dr. Ramani this summer I left a progressively more violent narcissist in September. I learned so much about the last 13 years of my life and why I went from one to another and another. Your podcasts have been seriously helping me to learn, love and heal. I also just started listening to “SLAY the bully.” Thank you, Mel. I absolutely love you and I started my Best Year Ever journal. 💖💖💖
6:49 In case you're interested....my nemesis is coke. I used to hydrate immediately with that. Now I wake up with water with a half a fresh squeezed lemon, only that, no sugar, and after that a very nutritious smoothie that I make at home. That'll get me around 2.5 hours at least with no coke. Just saying.
The dishes, the laundry, the toys on the floor- WHAT! Is this what life is all about? I when it comes to laundry, never signed up; it was just my job?? Putting dishes away; the conversation; “put ‘em all away - get em all out again” this is an original song. Honestly, I’m hysterical with the insanity … it never ends. What was the lesson? Love you ❤Mel Thank you KC Davis!
Mel, I'm not sure how you, as a stranger to me, made me cry when you said "I love you" but here I am wiping away tears as I type this. Thank you for your podcast!
Fasting has helped me the most！ I also switched my diet to high protein. So far, I lose 5 kg and feel amazing everyday. Thank you Mel for the great talks with all the experts. I’m learning new things and my heath is getting better. Love you Mel!
30:21 Anxiety as an alarm 🔔 Your child self feeling separate A body/feelings based issue/process vs a thought based process 33:22 anxiety in your nervous system 34:30 anxiety vs everyday stress vs overwhelm 35:20 when the split happens/develops: during childhood 37:40 blocking love 32:49 where does anxiety come from
Terrific review. The episode I keep thinking about is the one with your mother-in-law, Judith. I'm 64, and it's wonderful to see happy, healthy women with a great attitude who are 10 or more years older than I am. I keep seeing her in that red striped shirt, tasteful gold jewelry, just so comfortable in her own skin and wise. I thought, yeah, that's the direction I want to go in. I could listen to you chat with her again. I'd LOVE to see a chat with her and Oakley talking about generational relations. You have helped me SO much this year. I'm glad to hear you say you want to travel less and stop and smell the roses. I am sending you love, peace and happiness for the new year, and always.
I turned housework into exercise. I learned this from the blue zone where people never exercise. They don’t have to. We resent housework, but if we see, bending down is giving us muscles and stretching out to reach things for the cupboard is another exercise, then it becomes very different. So to me housework is becomes so enjoyable because I think if all movement is exercise.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for everything you are, for everything you have done with all the podcasts, for everything you share!! Also many many thanks to your team and everybody else behind all this magic! Have a wonderful life! ❤ Greetings from BCN!
I am so thankful for you and ALL the years I have followed you, through your advice and experiences. First time I read your book - I wanted to jump off a cliff into the water with my then 9 yo son- as I was afraid of heights and knew I had to start learning (again) how to do hard things. I yelled 5-4-3-2-1 and jumped, and my son yelled mid-flight- “don’t think- just DO’ (and his cute little voice echoed over the entire lake). I could cry thinking of this monumental moment where we both overcame our fears through your strategies. For the only purpose of starting to train our brains that we could do hard things. We reference back to this often when we have to do something hard (usually the simple mundane stuff). I just mentored a young 18 yo young man (friend of mine’s son) on how to move from thinking to action (realizing that he wants to study at University but just can’t seem to DO it)…..I used the reference of the difference of jumping during the Triple Jump vs Long Jump. With Long Jump- we can cerebrally get to the line and know what we want, should or need to do but can’t quite make the leap off the line. The 5-4-3-2-1 action gets the jump from thinking about it and ‘just doing it’ and once you do it once you can go back and try and jump further as each time it can get easier to get off the line….Where as with Triple Jump, you can start by doing something easy to start (start walking, then increase to a run, etc.) and once you are in action and you see the line coming up- you have no time to think about jumping off the line- you ‘just do it’!! Happy New Year everyone- may we all find it easier to ‘get off the line’ in the New Year and support each other in making 2024 a fabulous one. ❤
Thank you for all you do! Having someone say they love you is such a blessing. I hope all the people who really need to receive that message will hear it. Mel, I would love to see Cristy Vann on your show. She has helped me more in one month than any other money guru. I was in a desperate place financially after trying so hard to keep my head above water, watching any video I could find. Then I found Vanntastic! I knew from the first video that I was going to be ok. I want everyone out there to hear her message. Please have her on your show so other people can get out of debt and live money-stress free!
This was amazing! I’ve been a Type A perfectionist for most of my life. And just a few months ago, I started my menopause journey. The anxiety of my everyday life coupled with the menopause transition has really rocked my world. I look forward to listening to more Mel this year and work through the 2024 planning workbook. Happy New Year!
I really appreciate the way you welcome ALL sorts of wisdom and don't discard where it has come from whether it comes from a person's faith, from life's hard knocks or university study... it all has so much to offer. I also love the way YOU love people and genuinely want to pass on anything that has helped you. Bless you for a fantastic 2024 with much favour, the best of team and tribe around you and wisdom to know what to say yes to. New Zealand fan x
Uhm, yes, this one was not the most practical advice 😂 Sorry, not laughing anyone out. And I have first hand experience with how bad sunlight (and the lack there of) can mess with your circadian rhythm!!! 😣
Happens all the time! I love your answer. I have learned so much from my experience with my grandson who recently passed away on May 6. He is the reason I found you .
Thanks Mel . I am not sure if you might see this message , but you've changed my life .. I feel very proud of the person I have become with the tools you provided to keep anxiety under control. Gracias , you are the best 😊
I’m always looking for that thing that justifies my miserable existence. I haven’t found it yet, but I appreciate you exposing and sharing inspiration. I stay hopeful that something will resonate 🥰. I truly believe that everyone is precious and unique and valuable. I’m still searching for my value, but honor your work in helping people. I celebrate your efforts and importance in the lives of so many!
Hi Mel! I just discovered your podcast last week, English is my second language. It has been wonderful, because it connects me so much! Love it! Thanks 🙏 have a great 2024!
GREAT NEW YEAR’S tip: think of a word that will represent what you want to focus on this year. Mine is “me!” Sounds self-centered, but if you know me, you know that’s not me, and I have to take care of “me” because I have spent the last 15 taking care of others. Last year’s word was “Focus .” Involve your friends and have fun with it. My BFF Cathy taught me this 😊
It is selfish, truly it is. I am not judging you as I was the same until 7 years ago. GOD must be put first then everything else will naturally fall into place. Jesus said “I am the way, the truth and the life; no-one comes to God except through Me (John 14:6). Jesus wants you to to cast all your cares on Him because He cares for you (1 Peter 5:7). Only by repenting of sin and trusting in Jesus to guide your life are you spiritually safe for all eternity. I encourage you to prayerfully read The Holy Bible ❤
Happy New Year, Mel! And thank you for motivating me to do the right changes in my life! I would be happy to learn more about the "small steps" to take to become our ideal self in terms of body shape, appearence, fashion choices, harmony. I mean how can we make small improvements instead of giving up on our goals (e.g. to look better) because they seem un achievable first. Thank you!🥰
I am really glad you mentioned Dana K white and KC Davis. They both were amazing on your podcast. I have heard them speak many other times and still gained a lot by your personal interactions and reactions to them. Coming from a person who isn't naturally organized and struggles with housework and clutter it was great to see it impact you so much as well. ❤ Helps break the stigma for us amazing people who happen to struggle with these things despite our brilliance and gifts and creativity and all the wonderful things we do well.
I enjoyed listening to all your episodes with guests, but I can't remember any of them, but I do remember your solo episodes and practice your 5-4-3-2-1 and high-five mirror exercises. They've made a positive difference in my life, thank you!
I love all these Mel. Love your guest speakers and I love you also. Thank you for what you do and for your contribution. God bless you always with abundance in every area of your life ❤️🌟
As a new subscriber, this episode was an absolute life changer. Definitely going to go back and watch all of the referenced videos. This would be a great end of year wrap up. It was a pleasure to get to know you and your authenticity through the way you summarise the content and also the type of questions you ask. You make everything so relatable. So much love for you and your podcast 🙏🏻
Mel, i just cant stop watching this episode of the 8 Small Habits That Will Change Your Life: The Best Expert Advice I’m Using This Year, over and over again!! It's the BEST one ever!! I'm on my 12th repeat! I love it and I can relate to all of your 8 best expert topics featured on this episode! Thank you very much for making this one!!
Can you make shorts of each of these pieces of advice. I would love to share especially the caffeine and protein tip with my husband in a format that I think he will watch x
Wow I love her. (The girl at the end). All of them really. But her inner light is probably why she became successful. Amazing podcast Mel. Just started last week and I love watching. You’ve helped me so much.
Brilliant Mel! Even the ordering was Perfection. Now I need to listen again. I find listening at different times or in a different head space allows you to marinade and absorb different aspects of information.
This episode is exactly what I needed. I'm stuck in life. I am tired of care giving and drama. I WANT PEACE AND JOY. Thank you for this Mel. P s. Your daughter is so pretty. I wish you all the best.
Hi Mel, Happy New year. Thank God I have found you! I am an avid fan. I just wanted to share that one of the best habits that have helped me is when I watch discussion with Dr Amen. This was about the supplements, I have suffered with bad migraines/headaches since June, and been to GP everytime and given me new prescriptions, yet still my headache was constant. When I took Dr Amen’s advise to start taking fish oil, Omega 3, for a month now I did not have any headaches since. I do believe this have helped me alot.❤
Wow, so glad I was led here by seeing you on The Diary of a CEO. Had to take notes and I will definitely be going back to watch all of the podcasts that made the top 8. Just beautiful, thank you!
Oh my God, Mel, my book titled "Rejection to Redirection" will be available on Amazon in less than two weeks. When you said it, it hit me hard. You have no idea how your podcast is helping me, thank you
A friend shared a video short of you with me last week. I then found your podcast channel on UA-cam. This was a great video, I took notes too! I so appreciate your time and showing up for your listeners! 🥰
I am honestly falling in love with your podcast. I learn so much from you and your guest. I have truly recommended you to family and friends that I know for a fact will benefit from this. I am so pro advice and also pro women. Encouragement is so important. You do that. You have me feeling like I can achieve and will achieve anything and everything I want. Thank you.
Thank you for a great start to 2024!! Going to print out my workbook today and get some things moving! I'm going to get more info on the clutter topic, it's a huge Boulder I need to chisel down to my threshold level. A prosperous and healthy New Year to you!!
Mel.. I love your podcast. I listen daily and look forward to what you drop down. It’s soo real! I sometimes read comments from others and read comment of “language” . Hey if language offends someone.. that’s okay. I’m a lightworker… love peace harmony AND you get real!! I love that about you!! Your podcast always.. let’s get real here!!🎉❤ always a boost! 😊
I watched this earlier this week as I am binge watching Mel’a podcasts. Why am I randomly smiling at home alone. I feel crazy but it does make a difference. Just smile!❤
Great pop cast, Mel!!!!!! Keep going!!!! PLEASE BRING UP MORE ABOUT NARCISSISM. MANY PEOPLE HAVEN'T GOT THIS OR KNOW WHAT IT IS. MY FRIEND WAS MARRIED TO ONE, BUT THE THERAPIST NEVER EXPLAINED THIS TO HER--SHE TRIED EVERYTHING TO TRY TO MAKE HER RELATIONSHIP WORK. The therapist would say only--you know what you should do, but never brought up narcissist. Many years later, she was watching a show years later that brought the problems these people cause and people they destroyed. A bell went off and she realized she made no mistake in leaving, although at time she wonder if she did. This late night you tube released all her doubts and peace overcame her.
This is my Wow moment. Love you for making change fun and breaking down a mountain into tiny rocks that I can carry to create my "life garden". That's how I feel about all your episodes. Can't thank you enough for giving me a chance to live My life, being authentic and very best me to the fullest. Thank you, thank you, Mel.
So much great info! Thank you. I so enjoyed your first response about memorable guests - being your son, Oakley. I think acknowledging and appreciating the people close to us is so valuable, especially our children. I liked that relationships, self-love & daily self-care routines came up a few times too ... like "sky before screens or caffeine" Thanks again.
Thank you so much Mel. I love you. Bringing together these experts, experiences and building community has really enriched my life. Wishing you the best year ever!
Thank you so much for being here Mel! You are so relatable and I have so much HOPE for the coming year. I'm about to turn 49. I filed for divorce a year and a half ago. But I'm still cohabitating with my ex, and it's just not the healthiest dynamic for our girls. I have to figure out how to move out this summer. I used to work in sales, but I've been a SAHM for 17 years. And have just been doing gig jobs. I love that, but I need to figure out how to make REAL money without going back to school. But I'm feeling empowered.
Amazing advice and podcast... I can see why you arrived at the people and information as the best of the year... some of the podcasts I had heard but having the edited to the point snippets made alot of it "click" thank you!!
I loved the laundry tip and realising everything is a rotating thing and that all the thing you do do’nt have to be finnished at the same time ❤ as a full time working, single mom of four with adhd and sprinkle perfectionism trown in the mix definetly leads to burnout and the feeling of failure every single day. Thank you so much for this episode❤❤❤
Thank you thank you so very much I am enjoying your podcast so much. I appreciate everything that you're doing for all of us. I find it very hard warming that you tell us everyday how much you love us even though you don't know any of us smiley face I feel it and I am grateful for it Thank you
Mel I have a mother that is a narcissist. We have had a tough few months. And at 81 years old now. It is still have very trying situation. I wanted to correct the part I heard with Dr. Rami. During your recap with her you mentioned one of her comments, and said it opposite of what she said. Because it made so much of a difference to me. I had to go back and listen and listen. But narcissist "are made, not born this way". This helped me so much.
Thanks Mel , really enjoyed this episode I have further narrowed it down for our busy group First ten minutes Coffee addict ? You need to listen to just first ten minutes and take action Don’t get enough sunlight ? Take action Menopausal woman ? Listen from 14 min to 20 min Hate house work ? Listen from 23 min to 30 min Healing from anxiety? Listen from 30 min to 40 Dealing with difficult people? Listen from 42 to 55 Dealing with clutter ? From 55 to sixty Dealing with “ rejection” and “No “ ? 1:00 to 1:07 “ Rejection is God’s Protection “ ❤
Regarding Dr. Amy Shah's expert advice on getting light in the morning. Here in the Pacific NW it is not light until 7:45 a.m. Has anyone received any luck with sunrise alarm devices? Thank you.
Happy New years Mel ! As well Dr . Ramini for all of your insights on NPD 😢My only son is a Narc and this is tough but we appreciate all your survival tips !
Mel I’ve become a recent new fan of yours and am loving everything you represent ! Thank you for all of the wonderful talks, advice and love you are sharing with the world ! You definitely make it a better place !! Cheers to 2024! 🎉❤🙏🏼 Many blessings to you and your family !!
I just cracked up laughing as I am listening to this while doing laundry blaming all at home in my head as to why it is not done! Oh Mel what an eye opener. Thank you.
Hi mel
Im a househelper from philippines age 50..while ironing i always listen to you...
❤thank you for your poscast i learn a lot...Godbless u and may we all have better 2024...
Don't like your swearing¡
“Rejection is God’s protection”, it immediately brought tears to my eyes.
Hi Mel, this is the first time I've watched/listened to your Podcast, it's as though you made it just for me! Literally! I'm post-menopausal, 54 years old and I'm struggling with my weight. I struggle with clutter in my home, and I have self-sabotaged any efforts to improve my life due to a lack of self-worth and love which has inevitably caused me a great deal of anxiety. I have an inventory of amazing cosmetics that I formulated, and produced myself, sitting doing nothing as my mountain of debt keeps growing. When Jamie told the story about the investor who didn't think she could sell cosmetics because of the way she looked, I got so angry! Then I thought, I tell myself such terrible things or worse every day! Not anymore!
Your podcast has given me so much hope and motivation to fix what needs fixing and get on with my life. From the bottom of my heart, thank you Mel! ❤
If you abuse, neglect or abandon a child, the child doesn’t stop loving the parent THEY STOP LOVING THEMSELVES. Mind blown! I knew this but hearing it this way made it make sense.
I never heard this. Wow… this makes sense now. I wonder why that is 🤔
Same here!!! That statement really hit😮😢
Ummmm that makes perfect sense actually
*To anyone reading this, I hope this is the year you climb that mountain you didn’t even dare put a foot on last year*
Sending peace and love ❤
I was driving when I was listening to this podcast. When I heard Mel start talking about Dr Russ Kennedy I had to pull over because I began to cry. I have struggled with anxiety all my life and tried everything but never achieved success. The information Dr Kennedy shared on these podcasts blew my mind. I could not get enough and listened over and over again trying to soak up as much information as I could. I read his book and then took his online course. I am finely free and not so bothered by aniexty. It no long runs my life, I do! Thank you again Dr Kennedy and Mel thank you too, I love you.
I have been in a funk for WEEKS and WEEKS and to be honest, I didn't really realize how bad it had gotten until I caught up with you yesterday. I am so grateful for you and your transparency. It helps to know that everyone is fighting the same battles and your podcast gives us real life ways to deal with them. Thank you for everything you do.
Agree with all you write..,true for me too. Thank you for saying it so clearly, you put it so well. All the best.
Me toooo! Hi, friend. We can do this, it might not always be pretty or easy, but it’s not supposed to be!
i’ve been in a funk for 19 years.
That's what I said about 2023 "rejection is redirection away from what's not meant for you"! I am so happy I have my dream job and new home at the end of 2023! So now 2024 is a year of self care and resetting for me and enjoying what I have! X
Yes! That was the IT Cosmetics girl..Jamie..Lima? ok..I need to watch the video before I start yapping
Absolutely love that!!!!!
What is meant for you will never pass you by
What’s your dream job? I need better fulfillment with my job.
Thanks!
The damage a narcissist does.....still dealing with the damage.. I'm sick and tired of trying to heal from something I didn't provoke or deserve.. but getting back into self care.. baby steps💖
It's a process, and certainly not linear. Give yourself grace for what you've been through and for the tough days ahead when it feels like you are moving backwards. I'm finally seeing the light and it's been a LOT of work on my end. I eventually stopped caring to learn about narcissism and to put the attention on me so it never happens again. I hope you continue to heal and your 2024 is blessed.
@@jojo14843 it's been over a year since he left. I've done a lot of work on myself.. mainly with Mel's tools. Identity is a daily struggle. I had to dissociate and regress to escape the madness. Now it rebuilding from the ashes, piece by piece incorporating old parts with new attitudes and perspectives.
I dealt with the damage for decades afterward. This issue was not well published in the 1980's. First forgive yourself. Yes you are smart but these people could win the Oscar for acting every year. Next forgive the narc for your own sake. The self care is so important. Somewhere I found the information that if you care for something or someone (like yourself) you will begin to love them. Love yourself. Best Wishes!
61 years old and now I understand that I'm not crazy! Years and years of being told that I was too sensitive, couldnt take a joke and was the butt of their jokes almost destroyed me. The physical abuse was "goosing" me and laughing about touching me in my private area. I could give more details but its too upsetting. Verbally, " you were so beautiful when you were thin." I could go on and on. No more! I am empowered now with knowledge, live 2 states away from my family and am now loving me. Gone are the days of mental, physical and emotional abuse. My name is Jean and I am somebody!
So happy to see you on this journey!
Narcissistic environments are so good at turning you against yourself. They want to twist you up in knots while telling you why you are a mess!
13:50 - 19:05
Resistance training+ up protein
breakfast: 30-50 grams of protein optional - little carbs (less than 30g)
Lunch: 20g protein + 20g carbs
Dinner: 30-50 grams of protein
Best way to start the new year.. listening to Mel Robbins 🎉❤
Heck yes !! 🙌
Wow!!! Every expert was phenomenal and because of the episode with Dr. Ramani this summer I left a progressively more violent narcissist in September. I learned so much about the last 13 years of my life and why I went from one to another and another. Your podcasts have been seriously helping me to learn, love and heal.
I also just started listening to “SLAY the bully.” Thank you, Mel. I absolutely love you and I started my Best Year Ever journal. 💖💖💖
6:49 In case you're interested....my nemesis is coke. I used to hydrate immediately with that. Now I wake up with water with a half a fresh squeezed lemon, only that, no sugar, and after that a very nutritious smoothie that I make at home. That'll get me around 2.5 hours at least with no coke. Just saying.
The dishes, the laundry, the toys on the floor- WHAT! Is this what life is all about? I when it comes to laundry, never signed up; it was just my job?? Putting dishes away; the conversation; “put ‘em all away - get em all out again” this is an original song. Honestly, I’m hysterical with the insanity … it never ends. What was the lesson? Love you ❤Mel Thank you KC Davis!
I'm so happy that I have found your channel struggling to do anything after retirement .❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Mel, I'm not sure how you, as a stranger to me, made me cry when you said "I love you" but here I am wiping away tears as I type this. Thank you for your podcast!
Fasting has helped me the most！ I also switched my diet to high protein. So far, I lose 5 kg and feel amazing everyday. Thank you Mel for the great talks with all the experts. I’m learning new things and my heath is getting better. Love you Mel!
30:21
Anxiety as an alarm 🔔
Your child self feeling separate
A body/feelings based issue/process vs a thought based process
33:22 anxiety in your nervous system
34:30 anxiety vs everyday stress vs overwhelm
35:20 when the split happens/develops: during childhood
37:40 blocking love
32:49 where does anxiety come from
Terrific review. The episode I keep thinking about is the one with your mother-in-law, Judith. I'm 64, and it's wonderful to see happy, healthy women with a great attitude who are 10 or more years older than I am. I keep seeing her in that red striped shirt, tasteful gold jewelry, just so comfortable in her own skin and wise. I thought, yeah, that's the direction I want to go in. I could listen to you chat with her again. I'd LOVE to see a chat with her and Oakley talking about generational relations. You have helped me SO much this year. I'm glad to hear you say you want to travel less and stop and smell the roses. I am sending you love, peace and happiness for the new year, and always.
Love the natural light first thing in the morning and not rushing for coffee.....
Thanks
I turned housework into exercise. I learned this from the blue zone where people never exercise. They don’t have to. We resent housework, but if we see, bending down is giving us muscles and stretching out to reach things for the cupboard is another exercise, then it becomes very different.
So to me housework is becomes so enjoyable because I think if all movement is exercise.
I do this too, Joyce.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for everything you are, for everything you have done with all the podcasts, for everything you share!!
Also many many thanks to your team and everybody else behind all this magic!
Have a wonderful life! ❤
Greetings from BCN!
I am so thankful for you and ALL the years I have followed you, through your advice and experiences. First time I read your book - I wanted to jump off a cliff into the water with my then 9 yo son- as I was afraid of heights and knew I had to start learning (again) how to do hard things. I yelled 5-4-3-2-1 and jumped, and my son yelled mid-flight- “don’t think- just DO’ (and his cute little voice echoed over the entire lake). I could cry thinking of this monumental moment where we both overcame our fears through your strategies. For the only purpose of starting to train our brains that we could do hard things. We reference back to this often when we have to do something hard (usually the simple mundane stuff). I just mentored a young 18 yo young man (friend of mine’s son) on how to move from thinking to action (realizing that he wants to study at University but just can’t seem to DO it)…..I used the reference of the difference of jumping during the Triple Jump vs Long Jump. With Long Jump- we can cerebrally get to the line and know what we want, should or need to do but can’t quite make the leap off the line. The 5-4-3-2-1 action gets the jump from thinking about it and ‘just doing it’ and once you do it once you can go back and try and jump further as each time it can get easier to get off the line….Where as with Triple Jump, you can start by doing something easy to start (start walking, then increase to a run, etc.) and once you are in action and you see the line coming up- you have no time to think about jumping off the line- you ‘just do it’!! Happy New Year everyone- may we all find it easier to ‘get off the line’ in the New Year and support each other in making 2024 a fabulous one. ❤
The picture behind him is amazing. Speakings words beyond words.
Great stuff. There are two things I need to work on based on this:
-Tired of having to reach out to be remembered
- love my job, hate my industry
Thank you for all you do! Having someone say they love you is such a blessing. I hope all the people who really need to receive that message will hear it.
Mel, I would love to see Cristy Vann on your show. She has helped me more in one month than any other money guru. I was in a desperate place financially after trying so hard to keep my head above water, watching any video I could find. Then I found Vanntastic! I knew from the first video that I was going to be ok. I want everyone out there to hear her message. Please have her on your show so other people can get out of debt and live money-stress free!
This was amazing! I’ve been a Type A perfectionist for most of my life. And just a few months ago, I started my menopause journey. The anxiety of my everyday life coupled with the menopause transition has really rocked my world. I look forward to listening to more Mel this year and work through the 2024 planning workbook. Happy New Year!
Waiting to have my coffee and getting sunlight 1st thing has been life changing for me and my energy as well.
My question is, I wake up before daylight most days by usually an hour especially in winter without an alarm, how does that work?
Rejection is God's protection!! How Amazing! I Love you Mel ❤
I really appreciate the way you welcome ALL sorts of wisdom and don't discard where it has come from whether it comes from a person's faith, from life's hard knocks or university study... it all has so much to offer. I also love the way YOU love people and genuinely want to pass on anything that has helped you. Bless you for a fantastic 2024 with much favour, the best of team and tribe around you and wisdom to know what to say yes to. New Zealand fan x
Sunlight in first 45 lol. I go to work at 4 am Mel! Nursing. 😂
I feel ya! Anyone in Northern Europe? 🙋🏾♀️ sun up here after 8am atm. I’ve done half a days work by then. 😅
Sun lamp?
@@margiegarcia9237 I am wondering this too, if it would be equivalent.
Red light mask!
Uhm, yes, this one was not the most practical advice 😂 Sorry, not laughing anyone out. And I have first hand experience with how bad sunlight (and the lack there of) can mess with your circadian rhythm!!! 😣
Happens all the time! I love your answer. I have learned so much from my experience with my grandson who recently passed away on May 6. He is the reason I found you .
Thanks!
I love Dr Ramani & of course Mel Robbins toooo❤
Yessss
I can't give up coffee, but I should be able to put off the coffee for 45 minutes. Gonna try this!
Was hard for me.will try again tomorrow
Thanks Mel . I am not sure if you might see this message , but you've changed my life .. I feel very proud of the person I have become with the tools you provided to keep anxiety under control. Gracias , you are the best 😊
I’m always looking for that thing that justifies my miserable existence. I haven’t found it yet, but I appreciate you exposing and sharing inspiration. I stay hopeful that something will resonate 🥰. I truly believe that everyone is precious and unique and valuable. I’m still searching for my value, but honor your work in helping people. I celebrate your efforts and importance in the lives of so many!
12:36: I am *crying tears of joy!!* Thank you for explaining this so gently, honestly, compassionately!
Hi Mel! I just discovered your podcast last week, English is my second language. It has been wonderful, because it connects me so much! Love it! Thanks 🙏 have a great 2024!
GREAT NEW YEAR’S tip: think of a word that will represent what you want to focus on this year. Mine is “me!” Sounds self-centered, but if you know me, you know that’s not me, and I have to take care of “me” because I have spent the last 15 taking care of others. Last year’s word was “Focus .” Involve your friends and have fun with it. My BFF Cathy taught me this 😊
It is selfish, truly it is. I am not judging you as I was the same until 7 years ago. GOD must be put first then everything else will naturally fall into place. Jesus said “I am the way, the truth and the life; no-one comes to God except through Me (John 14:6). Jesus wants you to to cast all your cares on Him because He cares for you (1 Peter 5:7). Only by repenting of sin and trusting in Jesus to guide your life are you spiritually safe for all eternity. I encourage you to prayerfully read The Holy Bible ❤
Happy New Year, Mel! And thank you for motivating me to do the right changes in my life! I would be happy to learn more about the "small steps" to take to become our ideal self in terms of body shape, appearence, fashion choices, harmony. I mean how can we make small improvements instead of giving up on our goals (e.g. to look better) because they seem un achievable first. Thank you!🥰
Starting tomorrow morning! Always have my cup of coffee first thing!
I am really glad you mentioned Dana K white and KC Davis. They both were amazing on your podcast. I have heard them speak many other times and still gained a lot by your personal interactions and reactions to them. Coming from a person who isn't naturally organized and struggles with housework and clutter it was great to see it impact you so much as well. ❤ Helps break the stigma for us amazing people who happen to struggle with these things despite our brilliance and gifts and creativity and all the wonderful things we do well.
I enjoyed listening to all your episodes with guests, but I can't remember any of them, but I do remember your solo episodes and practice your 5-4-3-2-1 and high-five mirror exercises. They've made a positive difference in my life, thank you!
I loved both books!
I love all these Mel. Love your guest speakers and I love you also. Thank you for what you do and for your contribution. God bless you always with abundance in every area of your life ❤️🌟
As a new subscriber, this episode was an absolute life changer.
Definitely going to go back and watch all of the referenced videos. This would be a great end of year wrap up. It was a pleasure to get to know you and your authenticity through the way you summarise the content and also the type of questions you ask. You make everything so relatable. So much love for you and your podcast 🙏🏻
Mel, i just cant stop watching this episode of the 8 Small Habits That Will Change Your Life: The Best Expert Advice I’m Using This Year, over and over again!! It's the BEST one ever!! I'm on my 12th repeat! I love it and I can relate to all of your 8 best expert topics featured on this episode! Thank you very much for making this one!!
Can you make shorts of each of these pieces of advice. I would love to share especially the caffeine and protein tip with my husband in a format that I think he will watch x
Wow I love her. (The girl at the end). All of them really. But her inner light is probably why she became successful. Amazing podcast Mel. Just started last week and I love watching. You’ve helped me so much.
It’s all good to have sky before screen … when you wake with sunlight- 4-5 months of the year it’s dark to wake up and dark when I leave office
Me too. I get up very early. Even if I wait 45 min. for my coffee, the sun still isn't out and I have to get moving.
Brilliant Mel! Even the ordering was Perfection. Now I need to listen again. I find listening at different times or in a different head space allows you to marinade and absorb different aspects of information.
This episode is exactly what I needed. I'm stuck in life. I am tired of care giving and drama. I WANT PEACE AND JOY.
Thank you for this Mel. P s. Your daughter is so pretty. I wish you all the best.
Hi Mel, Happy New year. Thank God I have found you! I am an avid fan. I just wanted to share that one of the best habits that have helped me is when I watch discussion with Dr Amen. This was about the supplements, I have suffered with bad migraines/headaches since June, and been to GP everytime and given me new prescriptions, yet still my headache was constant. When I took Dr Amen’s advise to start taking fish oil, Omega 3, for a month now I did not have any headaches since. I do believe this have helped me alot.❤
Wow! Just wow! These are amazing guests! I will go back to some episodes to learn more from them.
Customizing cycles for a functional pace had me floored when I heard it. She was talking that real
I love what you talk about, but I’m always daunted when I see your hour ++ podcasts.
Thanks for your good work!
Wow, so glad I was led here by seeing you on The Diary of a CEO. Had to take notes and I will definitely be going back to watch all of the podcasts that made the top 8. Just beautiful, thank you!
Wonderful content Mel... Watching and loving each episode from Nairobi..Kenya.
Oh my God, Mel, my book titled "Rejection to Redirection" will be available on Amazon in less than two weeks. When you said it, it hit me hard.
You have no idea how your podcast is helping me, thank you
A friend shared a video short of you with me last week. I then found your podcast channel on UA-cam. This was a great video, I took notes too! I so appreciate your time and showing up for your listeners! 🥰
I am honestly falling in love with your podcast. I learn so much from you and your guest. I have truly recommended you to family and friends that I know for a fact will benefit from this. I am so pro advice and also pro women. Encouragement is so important. You do that. You have me feeling like I can achieve and will achieve anything and everything I want. Thank you.
Thank you for a great start to 2024!! Going to print out my workbook today and get some things moving! I'm going to get more info on the clutter topic, it's a huge Boulder I need to chisel down to my threshold level. A prosperous and healthy New Year to you!!
Mel.. I love your podcast. I listen daily and look forward to what you drop down. It’s soo real! I sometimes read comments from others and read comment of “language” . Hey if language offends someone.. that’s okay. I’m a lightworker… love peace harmony AND you get real!! I love that about you!! Your podcast always.. let’s get real here!!🎉❤ always a boost! 😊
I watched this earlier this week as I am binge watching Mel’a podcasts. Why am I randomly smiling at home alone. I feel crazy but it does make a difference. Just smile!❤
I’m loving this episode. 2024 blessings to everyone here and to you Mel🙏🏼💖 Im folding laundry now… I look at it differently now😂 Tfs💖🙏🏼💖
Listened to this one back to back. 3 hours of gold!
Thank's Mel!!! Love, love, love the podcast. What inspired me the most were the conversations with Dr. Shah and Dr. G. Bought both of their books.
Great pop cast, Mel!!!!!! Keep going!!!! PLEASE BRING UP MORE ABOUT NARCISSISM. MANY PEOPLE HAVEN'T GOT THIS OR KNOW WHAT IT IS. MY FRIEND WAS MARRIED TO ONE, BUT THE THERAPIST
NEVER EXPLAINED THIS TO HER--SHE TRIED EVERYTHING TO TRY TO MAKE HER RELATIONSHIP WORK.
The therapist would say only--you know what you should do, but never brought up narcissist. Many years later, she was watching a show years later that brought the problems these people cause and people they destroyed. A bell went off and she realized she made no mistake in leaving, although at time she wonder if
she did. This late night you tube released all her doubts and peace overcame her.
Mel im ur biggest fan and follower from Afghanistan...
I'm from Namibia nd I listen to u every morning....u are changing my life...thank u
This is my Wow moment. Love you for making change fun and breaking down a mountain into tiny rocks that I can carry to create my "life garden". That's how I feel about all your episodes.
Can't thank you enough for giving me a chance to live My life, being authentic and very best me to the fullest.
Thank you, thank you, Mel.
Happy New Year to everybody! This just gives me so much joy and big hell yeah! Thank you so much, Mel.
So much great info! Thank you. I so enjoyed your first response about memorable guests - being your son, Oakley. I think acknowledging and appreciating the people close to us is so valuable, especially our children. I liked that relationships, self-love & daily self-care routines came up a few times too ... like "sky before screens or caffeine" Thanks again.
Thank you so much Mel. I love you. Bringing together these experts, experiences and building community has really enriched my life. Wishing you the best year ever!
Wow! So many moments of truth in this podcast. 👏👏
Thank you Mel! Your range of topics and commitment are impressive! Happy 2024
Thank you for your generosity. Thank you for caring Mel. 🥰
My daughter shared this u tube video with me !!!!!!!!!
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Wow ! Thanks, Thanks, Thanks !!!
HAPPY NEW YEAR
Thank you for the reminder! I watch you but mostly listen to your podcasts but I just Subscribed!
Easy to put dishes back after drying. Silverware. Cups. All in place. All in context.
Thank you so much for being here Mel! You are so relatable and I have so much HOPE for the coming year.
I'm about to turn 49. I filed for divorce a year and a half ago. But I'm still cohabitating with my ex, and it's just not the healthiest dynamic for our girls. I have to figure out how to move out this summer.
I used to work in sales, but I've been a SAHM for 17 years. And have just been doing gig jobs. I love that, but I need to figure out how to make REAL money without going back to school. But I'm feeling empowered.
OMG, thank you so much Mel🤗🙏♥️ I randomly found you and I am so happy for it. I am learning so much from your podcast 🙏♥️🤗♥️♥️♥️🤗🤗🤗🙏
Amazing advice and podcast... I can see why you arrived at the people and information as the best of the year... some of the podcasts I had heard but having the edited to the point snippets made alot of it "click" thank you!!
Love you uuuuuuuu Mel HAPPY 2024 WITH ALL THE WISHES TO COME TRUE!
Thank you Mel, you always remind me I am worthy to live an AMAZING LIFE ❤
I loved the laundry tip and realising everything is a rotating thing and that all the thing you do do’nt have to be finnished at the same time ❤ as a full time working, single mom of four with adhd and sprinkle perfectionism trown in the mix definetly leads to burnout and the feeling of failure every single day. Thank you so much for this episode❤❤❤
Thank you thank you so very much I am enjoying your podcast so much. I appreciate everything that you're doing for all of us. I find it very hard warming that you tell us everyday how much you love us even though you don't know any of us smiley face I feel it and I am grateful for it Thank you
Mel I have a mother that is a narcissist. We have had a tough few months. And at 81 years old now. It is still have very trying situation. I wanted to correct the part I heard with Dr. Rami. During your recap with her you mentioned one of her comments, and said it opposite of what she said. Because it made so much of a difference to me. I had to go back and listen and listen. But narcissist "are made, not born this way". This helped me so much.
Wow this is Gold thank you Mel and all your Brilliant experts…
I can say my son was “the” reason for learning and growth. Proud and loud about it!
Millones de Gracias Mel!!
Iluminas la vida!! Te amo también ❤.
Love this Mel! I will be listening to this 100’s of times until it sinks in…life changing stuff for sure. Thanks for all you do❤❤
Thanks Mel , really enjoyed this episode
I have further narrowed it down for our busy group
First ten minutes
Coffee addict ? You need to listen to just first ten minutes and take action
Don’t get enough sunlight ? Take action
Menopausal woman ?
Listen from 14 min to 20 min
Hate house work ?
Listen from 23 min to 30 min
Healing from anxiety?
Listen from 30 min to 40
Dealing with difficult people?
Listen from 42 to 55
Dealing with clutter ?
From 55 to sixty
Dealing with “ rejection” and “No “ ?
1:00 to 1:07
“ Rejection is God’s Protection “
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Regarding Dr. Amy Shah's expert advice on getting light in the morning. Here in the Pacific NW it is not light until 7:45 a.m. Has anyone received any luck with sunrise alarm devices? Thank you.
Happy New years Mel ! As well Dr . Ramini for all of your insights on NPD 😢My only son is a Narc and this is tough but we appreciate all your survival tips !
Mel I’ve become a recent new fan of yours and am loving everything you represent ! Thank you for all of the wonderful talks, advice and love you are sharing with the world ! You definitely make it a better place !! Cheers to 2024! 🎉❤🙏🏼 Many blessings to you and your family !!
Found you by chance Mel but it was meant to be. Thank you for your wisdom, your love (it's Valentine's Day) and your practical messages.
I just cracked up laughing as I am listening to this while doing laundry blaming all at home in my head as to why it is not done! Oh Mel what an eye opener. Thank you.
Mel - A GREAT awesome source of truth and knowledge. 😮Grazie