Your ideas resonate with me. My wife of 17 years recently left me. It turns out she was resentful towards me because when we got married she sold her house, left the city she was living in, left her friends, changed her job, all just to please me, not because she wanted to do these things. I never knew she wasn't happy doing them she never mentioned or discussed anything. But she built up a huge resentfulness towards me that came out when she decided to leave the relationship after 17 years of marriage. The whole thing came as a complete surprise and its heartbreaking for me. When you talk about the resentment "leaking out" I do know what that feels like. She is this super nice considerate person, but she was never was complimentary, and always a little degrading in public and private. She withdrew from me more and more, but never let me know how she felt. She said she hated confrontation. Now I have a farm and horses and have only my 17 year old son to help me take care of it. My whole world feels like its in the washing machine. I am struggling
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Your ideas resonate with me. My wife of 17 years recently left me. It turns out she was resentful towards me because when we got married she sold her house, left the city she was living in, left her friends, changed her job, all just to please me, not because she wanted to do these things. I never knew she wasn't happy doing them she never mentioned or discussed anything. But she built up a huge resentfulness towards me that came out when she decided to leave the relationship after 17 years of marriage. The whole thing came as a complete surprise and its heartbreaking for me.
When you talk about the resentment "leaking out" I do know what that feels like. She is this super nice considerate person, but she was never was complimentary, and always a little degrading in public and private. She withdrew from me more and more, but never let me know how she felt. She said she hated confrontation. Now I have a farm and horses and have only my 17 year old son to help me take care of it. My whole world feels like its in the washing machine. I am struggling
@@Jim007baker I’m so sorry, it’s a lot to process. Sometimes you can find great support groups for people going through divorce. Maybe consider that?
Thank you
@ you’re welcome!
I really enjoyed your videos. They are very helpful and i really appreciate you sharing your knowledge. Thank you!
Thank you so much! I’m glad you found them helpful!
This realy help me think outside the box asking a friend what I had done like this person im resenting I'm my past thanks 😊
Yeah sometimes just asking that question really helps!
Good you say what can be done when it’s not safe.
I can't speak to a specific situation but if it's not safe leave and get help if needed.
Also there is situations of abuse- workplace bullying and mobbing .
Yeah in those cases it's important to protect yourself.
I can relate. Thanks Michelle
Thanks Bobby! Good to see you here. 😀