What It's Like Disciplining a Child With AUTISM | Autism Mom VLOG
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- Опубліковано 12 тра 2021
- Today we're diving into the complicated world of "discipline" and correcting behaviors in children with autism. I'm sharing my positive reinforcement approach and why there are some methods I would never engage in.
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When you said “ it’s almost like punishing her for being autistic” wow Vaughn, I love your thought process. You are an amazing mother. Anne is so beautiful and so sweet, God saw fit that you were the one to be her Mother. Many blessings to you both . ❤️❤️❤️
This! I’m learning to stop myself when getting upset about my son doing something he “shouldn’t”.
First time single mom to twins and autism is involved. You have single handedly helped me become a better, stronger parent. Thank you
I pray that you will gain more strength and better understanding in how to help your precious babies. You got this🙏🏽
My son is also on the spectrum. He wasn't diagnosed until elementary school. I believe that parenting is a process of learning your child and helping them become their best self. My son hopped on furniture, turned my couch pillows and clean towels into forts. He would be in a full body sweat watching TV because he acted out everything they did on TV. So many behaviors that others wanted me to spank him for but I gave him grace and space to be himself. As an adult away at college on his own the first year my mother's day card said thank you for being the only one who allowed him to just be himself. Keep doing what you know is best.
Incredible!! 💪🏾❤️
Wow, this is a tearjerker!
This advice helps me as a Mom of 5 daughters!!
I just came back from my oldest daughter’s college graduation, and I am so proud of her!!
This is beautiful!
"Development, although disordered, is still happening" Honey you just pulled at my heart strings 🥰 Thanks for this video.
I love that you have educated yourself about Anne's disability. She will continue to have a wonderful life because she is loved and supported by a great family.
1st. Let me just say that you are BE-U-Ti-Ful and your skin flawless. Now let me watch the video.
@@jayrogers7779 you continue to learn what works and what don’t and Pray for God’s Grace and Mercy during the process.
It's so crazy to me that your Autism Mom videos help me deal with taking care of my sickly mother. Although my Mom is not Autistic, she's had two strokes which had left her developmentally challenged in certain areas. You've shown me that dealing with someone, who has a disorder, no matter what disorder it is' is about approaching them with patience, love and understanding. You are a true Role Model and I appreciate you.
Vaughn you dropped soooo many gems in this video!!!
Your comments about physical discipline and why you didn’t want Anne to correlate physical discipline with love .... deep girl! Just deep!
KOREY WAS PUT INTO SPORTS AND ACTIVITIES THAT "HE" WAS GOOD AT.... IT MADE HIM MORE CONFIDENT & SECURE💛
I WANTED HIM TO HAVE A FEW WINS IN LIFE 🏆🎉⭐
That’s the same reason I started my channel! I was diagnosed as an adult and I didn’t find resources on late adulthood diagnosis for autism. There almost no content on it from people of color. I love how you care for Anne. Repetitive behavior is very common in autistic individuals. I would encourage you to reframe the view of “problem behaviors” but instead “behavior you don’t understand yet” there’s always a reason. It could be her way of Stimming which should be encouraged as long as it’s not harmful to her or others. She might like the texture of the books or the sound from ripping it. Autism is a neurotype and has to do with the way our brains are wired. So some behaviors may be apart of who she is. Sometimes suppressing behaviors can be harmful to autistic individuals. I hope you take my words kindly and I’m in no way criticizing your parenting because I know you’re an awesome mom! I just wanted to share a point of view from a Verbal autistic person
Wow! Your comment provides so much perspective! Thank you for that!
@@keykey7705 thank you!! I’m so glad I could help! I’m very passionate about autism acceptance 😊
Hi! What about yourself caused you to look into possibly having Autism..
What is your channel called?
@@loriross7040 well I was already diagnosed with anxiety and depression. I was having a really hard time maintaining employment. When I was 27 I had this meltdown during a orientation. That was the first time it crossed my mind. Now at 33 I received a diagnosis. I did tons of research and was pretty much convinced I was autistic. It explained so much about me especially as a child and now adult. I decided to book an assessment after doing research and I received my diagnosis. Video on my channel with more details 😊
First off Hey family!! I love the autism vlogs. I am not an autism mom nor do I have anyone in my family on the spectrum. I love these vlogs because whenever I do encounter a child on the spectrum I now know how to act toward them. We all wana give our kids the best...now I know how to respond. Thank u Vaughn for these vlogs.
I’m in the same boat. I came to say this.
Coming from a mother with a child on the spectrum, I love this response and I wish there were more people in the world who think like you. 💙🧩💙 Awareness is all parents goals so @NaturallyNelly612 thank you for being aware 😊
@@TandyL thank you for this response. Just recently my mother told me about her hair dressers son. From these vlogs I asked her does he have autism. She had no idea what it was. I sent her one of the vlogs and she loved it. Now she knows how to respond to him and now she knows what not to say to that autism mom. I just love to learn and I'm glad this is highlighted so I can act appropriately.
I just love how you break this information down. I am not a mother but your insight on things really helps me and provides understanding and another perspective ESPECIALLY when I do see parents and their children. You constantly remind us that we have no idea what the situation is and to be mindful of that instead of judging the parent OR the child.
YOU ARE AMAZING!!! I am not a mom, BUT WOW, what an inspiration you are to soooo many people! I truly believe this is your assignment from God. You are special, unique and gifted by God for this purpose! God Bless you and your beautiful and wonderfully designed Ann!🥰
I don't have any children but I totally appreciate you being open and educational. The part when you discussed your desire to allow her to be a child brought tears to my eyes!!! I was like girlllll go ahead and cryyyyy!!!! Awesome Vaughn! 👍🏽
Right. Such great perspective!
I took my daughters marker and fussed at her for drawing all over herself. The next day she fussed at me in her own way while I was putting on eyeliner. 🥺 It dawned on me she didn't understand the difference and I apologized. So I definitely can relate to having to check yourself, because these kids are smart as heck. It's a fine line differentiate between childhood phases and things they can't control.
Thank you for sharing this! ❤️❤️❤️
@@MsVaughnTV Thank you for sharing your life with us on this platform!! You are touching many lives I promise 💗💗
Hi I to am a mom of a autistic son, who is 13 years old. I totally relate to what your going through, I’ve experienced that with my son as well. Often times they tend to get fustrated because they cannot communicate their feelings. One thing I do with my son is have him to write down his feelings, this way I understand him and he knows it. Also use pictures, and words to help her understand, you mom and also herself. I did this with my son when he was young like anne, and it helped him a lot. I promise you overtime anne will mature and definitely help with her development.
Please please please could you add captions. I would love to watch and be able to fully understand. About a month ago, I started working for a charity thats for autistic and adhd kids. We give them a safe place they can be themselves, and use art and crafts as therapy. I’m loving it :)
I’ll start doing captions. ❤️ Thank you for your work!
MsVaughnTV yay thank you so much. Absolutely. I absolutely love it and love working with them :)
As a former Special Ed teacher it's always so insightful to hear parent's perspectives on what systems are in place to help their children navigate in life. It broke my heart to hear you speak on feeling or being judged by other parents because they don't know your child's condition. Wishing you the best always. Xo, Ree
Watching this video, the word “beautiful” comes to mind. The way you care for your daughter is truly touching. Anne is blessed and there’s no doubt that she’ll have the best life experience simply because you are her mother ❤️
"BURN OUT" IS WHAT WE CALLED IT #autismmoms ...I WOULD GET IN THE CAR AND SCREAM & CRY BECAUSE I WAS SO FRUSTRATED SOMETIMES 😪...BUT I'D WALK BACK IN THE HOUSE AND HE'D SIMPLY SMILE AT ME
Accepting her for who she is... Being a teacher and a parent of a child who has a learning disability is something that I had to learn. Thank you for your bravery and courage for stepping in front of the camera and inviting us into your life. Thanks for the reassurance 😢🤗
Vaughn! First let me say I’m an OG follower since the Monroe sisters days!
Second, I’m speechless. Your vulnerability, honesty and candor as a parent is so refreshing. I don’t think you even understand your ability to connect with other moms- and even neuro-typical moms. I am a first time, solo mom of a 2 year neuro typical little girl. I found this video sooo incredibly humbling and it gave me so much perspective. Though my daughter is not on the spectrum, in just her 2 years of life, she has developed a reputation of being “hyper.” This is a label that strangers, onlookers in stores and restaurants, family members and even myself have given her! I have NOT been patient, and I have spent more time reprimanding her, and being embarrassed about her expressive and bright behavior than actually really taking the time to get to know her. She has the most bubbly personality, loves to explore, and does not know a stranger. Literally the sweetest little personality. However, my lack of ability to control her, has caused me to turn all this into a negative. This video helped to open my eyes. As a mother I can be more compassionate, more open to her messes, to her playful nature, more open to her ways of expressing herself, and be more of a guide to her than an absolute control freak. I’m a full time nurse, so she’s in childcare up to 10 hrs a day, and only gets me for a few hours a day. Today I commit to cherishing that time more, and backing off of the judgment I have given her and to myself. Thank you Vaughn!
Thank you for sharing this comment as it’s one that I can take some notes from as well. GOD BLESS you, your daughter and your family.
If a child is non verbal, is this something that changes over time. I've noticed Ann singing words very well. 😊
It can. It really depends on environment, types of therapy and the child.
And it’s so refreshing every time, isn’t it?!💖
My nephew is completely nonverbal, but recited a little story in French ... once when he was about 4 or 5 - then never again. Also, told a little story in a British accent ... once at about 4 or 5 - then never again. He’s 15 now and is still completely nonverbal.
The best thing about your videos is that your content you make relevant considerations for all parents. Thank you for sharing so much vulnerable information 🥰
I’m not an autism mom but I am a special needs mom. This talk was beautiful and gave me so much to think about. I loved the honesty and sincerity.
You are doing an awesome job at not only parenting your daughter, but now helping others who might be experiencing similar challenges. After I listened to your video I literally had to sit here in silence for a second before responding because I literally think this is your mission in life albeit not chosen. The demonstrated compassion you show while parenting your daughter is a sign of strength not weakness. It’s far easier to punish a child rather than attempt to understand things from their point of view, and to do what’s most helpful for them. And patience, only God knows how patient you have to be with a child that is either developmental delayed or intellectually challenged. And thanks for admitting you’re not perfect in your dealings with this type of situation. I love that you’ve stepped out in front of this audience to speak on this. I really think it’s going to help so many people, whereas some people will simply watch the videos and not comment. Just know there’s a lot of smiles and maybe even tears of understand on the other side of the lens. I’m here for these videos. Like I said before the irony of these videos is that they are helpful in the way we deal with any child, not just those with ASD. You explained some things in this video that’s literally making me rethink some things. And I love it😊❤️
Our 4 yr. Old grandson is autistic as well. We are totally understanding of your story, your journey. Just continue being sooooo team Anne, she needs you more than imaginable. Love on and continue to be patient. I've watched and studied your care of her from the beginning.I love that you continue to speak affirmations over her. With you as her mom,she will be great. Love you, hang in there, reward will come...she shows a lot of love toward you, that says a lot.
BTW.......she isn't spoiled, just loved the way that gives the best results......
We have a son on the spectrum, who’s headed to Morehouse in the fall. I’m listening to your parenting style and I absolutely love it. She’s blessed to have you. Make sure to pay attention to her gifts.
There’s was a documentary on HBO called, “I can’t do this, but I can’t do that.” It’s only about 30 minutes. I cried and was in awe of the talents of our special needs kids.
You are not only helping moms of children on the spectrum, but you are helping society as a whole. Thank you for your honesty, transparency, and vulnerable. I literally held back tears.....not of sadness tears of joy at your strength. Your perspective and how you explained your family dynamics needs to be shared all over. As a teacher of 15 years I just learned and gained knowledge of ALL children. Thank you! 😁
Thank you for this video it was really helpful! I am an Autism mom of an eight year old daughter and I experience the same behaviors as you experience with Anne. It can be frustrating to me as well when people don't understand the behaviors of a child with Autism Spectrum Disorder and say negative things or make judgement in regards to how my husband and I discipline or correct our daughter's behavior. These people don't live in our household and do not understand what my husband and I go through on a daily basis with our child. Raising a child with Autism can be difficult but yet rewarding!
You couldn't have said it any better that was a good thing when you had your daughter to clean up and you rewarded her each time she picked up things
I LOVE how you and Anthony parent! Anne is amazing! We can all take notes about acceptance of our children, especially in our community. Our children will be much happier when we learn to accept and love them for exactly who they are rather than what we want them to be. That was a word for all parents!! Thank you for that gem!
I appreciate these videos, even as a parent of “neuro-typical” girls because I have many of these same moments where I need to be humble but I feel the pressure to be “black mom”. You make me feel ok with trying to be understanding with my children even though others ( my husband/their dad included) think I’m “putting them on my level”. It’s good to see examples of black parenting that don’t involve trauma olympics.
This is an EXCELLENT video!! No, like seriously... such good information, great advice, wonderful outlook and positive energy. I think you are doing a beyond awesome job!! 💖
I have a son with autism he doesn’t speak as well. I completely understand. I get the stares. People complain and talk about me and my son behind our back. My son is 7 and he has been in therapy since he was 2. It makes me sad sometimes but I just want my son to enjoy being a kid and not feel different. I do the same I just let my son have fun as long as he isn’t causing any harm.
This is one of the major issues no doctors or therapists have talked to my husband or me about. Its almost like we are getting the minimal care and resources. My son just started kindergarten and it wasn't until he started doing in school learning instead of virtual, that I began to get actual help for my son. Even when it comes to the medication they put him on, when I try to advocate for him its like we are not taken seriously. Luckily this school district is very helpful and understanding. I wish I would've gotten the right help early.
I kind of got of topic. I'm happy that you are making a video that is actually useful and honest about what goes on at home
I am a mother of 4 kids, none of which have any limitations but I am a Social worker, and I've worked with children on the spectrum for over 10 years and this was such an informative video. You are an amazing mommy and Ann is the perfect daughter. Your explanation on physical discipline was so good!! I am a Black mom, who does physically discipline my children when necessary but most of the day I'm fussin' because Lordy Lordy...they would probably be getting it everyday! Lol Anyway, thank you for sharing you story and your truth!!!❤❤
I can not express how wonderful and informative this video was. I am a first time mom and first time autism mom like you❤️My son is 6 and has been in full time aba therapy since he was 2 - prior to that he did a program called first steps which was essentially speech and OT therapy. I resonate with and agree with everything you said. I have a very similar parenting style to you. Thank you for creating such a wonderful platform. Also- yes ignoring is key! I gotta start doing that more though cause it does work. Almost 8 hrs of aba, what autistic kids wouldn’t want to come home and jump all over the couches lol . I let him do it but I have to watch him like a hawk until he moves on to the next activity. I have also learned that a lot of his behaviors are simply for sensory input which may be looked at as a bad behavior for a Neuro-typical child. Great vid Vaughn 🙂👍🏾
Girl, I’m sitting here teary eyed. You are such a great mom and my hope is to grow in my motherhood journey. I have a “spoiled” child and I don’t know how I got here. Y’all pray for me & send some tips my way.
I watch everyone of your videos!!! And I love them all.. I don’t normally comment but this video touched me I am a special needs assistant teacher and I just want to let you know you are doing a BEAUTIFUL job win Anne 💞 love hearing Anne’s updates❤️
Treating my daughter as if nothing's different about her is what really changed everything. I talk to her the same, she helps clean, cook, paint and do all. I used to ignore the negative behavior and not spank or discipline but back fired and it got sooo bad. When I started putting my foot down and let up the symphathy card is when I saw immediate results. She went from nonverbal, pulling hair scratching skin, to talking playing listening and responding . I truly believe these children are artist on another level, they are not underdeveloped they are simple under stimulated.
I'm glad you mentioned the destroying of the books,because my son has autism too and he did the same thing. My son was non verbal until 5 yr old and didn't get fully potty trained until 5 because he was scared of the sound of when you flush the toliet. He is now 8 yrs old and talks all day long and loves to interact with other kids now. Before he just stayed to himself and didn't know how to deal with others.I thank God, because that's who has helped my son tremendously. To God be the Glory.
Acceptance is a MAJOR key in finding peace and liberation in any circumstance. Kudos, mom!
I got chills listening to your commentary. Especially the part when you said you can feel the judgement of other parents. I can't tell you how many times people use to tell me to stop chasing my son around to just let him be. I've experienced everything you talked about. Before my son was diagnosed I would yell at him to stop doing whatever it was he was doing. I still feel guilty about that 25 years later. You are correct to ignore the behavior. It took me awhile to learn that strategy. My son went to a school for autistic children. I was a very good school, very structured. When he came home, I would do the assignments with him his class wanted him to do after that I let him relax and have fun the way he wanted. There was so much in your commentary that was so on point and relatable. My son brings up from time to time when I spanked him when he was little. I don't remember it. He said I spanked him because he wouldn't go to bed. Needless to say I felt really bad to know he has that in his memory bank. I am now dealing with an adult that has it's own challenges. Because once an autistic person becomes an adult they are pretty much forgotten about.
I really felt you when you said you finally accepted her your daughter for how she is because I use to just wake up and cry seeing other parents do things I couldn’t and talk to their children but over time I just was like I love my babies and if they want to play or watch a video a thousand times I let em because it’s never their fault for having a disability and once i accepted that things became easier to me
I have great respect for parents like you with children who have special needs. God knows who to give these special treasures to. May God continue to give you and your husband the grace needed to raise your beautiful daughter.
Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) Therapy is a good start, then speech therapy, sensory processing and or occupational therapy to help with those behaviors. It’s a roller coaster, hang in there. You are doing great!
Love this! I am 25 years old, with no children, but I love love love watching you share about your experience as a mother. Thank you so much Vaughn! I've been watching since forever!
I had a guy tell me one time in Walmart “ you know they sell toys in here right?” When he saw my son stemming with a spoon. I told him yeah they pretty much sell everything.. I hear you can buy yourself some business in customer service ...and walked off. People can be a trip.
Definitely honesty girl I get it. I completely get it wholeheartedly. ABA helped me learn the ways that my parenting is now more compassionate and the results are distinctive. I have my 5yo on ASD and a 36yo brother on the spectrum.
I pray for you, I'm a mom of boys one has adhd. I found out when he was 2hrs, I've prayed and I'm still praying God loves you and he loves our children. You are a great mom continue being who you are and thank you for the encouragement 😊.
Thank you for sharing your story. I think you and your support system are doing a fantastic job with Anne. It’s still a learning process for you but in the end, Anne is developing and she is definitely loved.
I am not a mom, but I am an auntie and I really appreciate your videos on this topic because I am learning so much, and if ever I run across someone with autism I no how to respond. I love how your friend responded while doing her hair. I really am learning so much
Vaughn you are such an amazing soul and Anne is so lucky/blessed to have you and Anthony as parents.
Ms.Vaughn I started watching your channel because I have a grandson who was diagnosed ASD although high functioning, and we now suspect that my new granddaughter (his cousin) is also on the spectrum. I really appreciate all that you do in sharing information. My grandson's mother is smart and as a result he began receiving services as early as 17 months and now at 6 is doing quite well. He is verbal although delayed and like Anne, very smart (I love it!). I am worried for my granddaughter because her parents also have some disabilities which I fear will hinder my granddaughter in getting what she needs. She is 17 months old and has just started walking. She is non verbal and she can be violent. She will bite and dig her nails in when something is taken away or she is removed from a situation that might be hazardous. She is awaiting evaluation so she hasn't been officially diagnosed however all the signs are there. Again thank you so much for sharing. I am learning a lot from you. I enjoy your day in the life videos as well.
watching autistic youtubers describe their experiences and things they wish their parents had done differently really helps me keep my daughters perspective in mind regarding stimming and destructive behaviors.
I would love to show this video to some of my parents.... Unfortunately, I have some parents who are really holding on to the thought of their child changing and becoming “better” or “healed” from ASD instead of just excepting them for who they are. This video will be extremely helpful being that 90% of my parents are African American and you don’t see too many in out culture so open about being a special needs parent sharing gems like this. I love it and I’m here for it! Thanks Vaughn! ♥️
Wow this really was a great vlog. Thank so much for sharing. As a mom of two boys with asd, I wished I had seen this years ago. I remember praying and still praying about this area. It is amazing how we can relate and understand one another as special needs moms . We want what best for our kids. This is so helpful.
I fully support unstructured play! Let her be a child, let her be her. During unstructured moments, you see all that she is capable of. Structured moments are vital, and unstructured moments are just as vital too...you get see all of her strengths during those times. You are awesome!
Thank you for this content. New autism moms can definitely benefit. My son is 28 yrs old now and there was little access to information and support outside of the medical community. Please be kind when you see someone trying to discipline or redirect their child in the way they see fit.
This is the most accurate video I’ve seen! This is exactly how I feel with my daughter. She become more aggressive and I believe it’s because her days are so structured that now once her therapy is over I do give her time to do her and be a kid. I almost forgot that she’s 3 and like any 3 year old with ASD or without they will like to explore and run free and be silly with no rules. This is honestly the best advise and video. This is a video Literally came at a perfect time ❤️ thank you!!!!!
You’re such a loving mother. Thank you for sharing your heart and advice on discipline. My first was neurotypical and there is no way I can parent my ASD girlie the way I parented her. And I’m good with that. But man, it is so much more of a challenge to know how to handle some of her behaviors. Thank you for making me feel less alone in this journey. 💖💖💖
Same with me. It's so different and a challenge. But I learned I got to have more patience with my daughter who has ASD. She had alot more meltdowns than I was use to but I just have to deal with it and sometimes walk away and let it happen until she's done.
As a mother of a 3 year old a lot of what your saying resonates with me and my experience! Discipline is absolutely taught and that task can be overwhelming! Watching your vlogs and daily interactions displaying patience have been amazing. Parenthood is the toughest hood. I love seeing you navigate through mommy hood with patience and grace. Anne is amazing and has equally amazing parents!
The most empowering thing for me when it comes to other's perceived judgements is that I choose not to display aggressive behavior towards children and I want to be the example for these people so maybe they will take a nugget from our interaction. I also don't believe in whooping or yelling at children, on the spectrum or not, because of neurological issues that occur and affect adulthood. Compassion is necessary for all children. Showing your child love and compassion is about your relationship to them and I keep THAT in mind when I think of what others may think. Ultimately, I am doing this for my child, not to appeal to these people that don't even know what we go through day to day.
You are truly an excellent communicator Vaughn. I love to hear you speak and explain your perspective on things. You are helping not only me but so many other people. I always say this but thank you for sharing!!!
Vaughn I needed to hear this today more than you know. I am so emotional right now!!
Love this sis. So many people need to hear this one. Love you and Anne!!!💝
Your energy radiates✨ Thank you sharing your journey. Anne is extremely bless to have you. I absolutely love your family! 🥰
This was a beautiful surprise and message. Thank you for verbalizing your anxieties and your perspective on parenting. This resonated with me on many levels.
Yup acceptance is the game changer... Let her be, she is showing you your strength... Stay strong
Hi Ms Vaughn, I don't have special needs children and my children are grown, but I just want to tell you that you are a wonderful mother and Anne is lucky to have you. I am extremely proud of you
I absolutely enjoy your content! I'm not an autism mom, however the information provided gives me alot of insight. Anne is blessed to have such great support. 💓
Vaughn. OMG. This blog was everything. Completely speechless. I love it. Thank you so much ❤️❤️❤️
Whewwwww these videos hit it on the nail each time! I’ve been so uncomfortable with going to play dates or small gatherings because of the way we choose to discipline. I also don’t leave my son with my parents and that’s unfortunate because we don’t do physical discipline.
Vaughn, this was so powerful and educational. Thank you for sharing your journey with Anne. ❤️❤️❤️
You did an amazing job of explaining the importance of not wanting close family or anyone else to use physical discipline with Anne. Those same reasons can be applied to a child who doesn’t have autism. That relation to pain from close authority being normalized is real! And having the awareness of the effects on her cognition is so awesome for you to be aware of as a parent. Thank you for articulating this so well and making it available to the masses. 🙏🏾
Bless our little Anne! 🙏
She is so smart, and it seems she tries really hard.
I want you to know that you really are doing an amazing job with her.
May God continue to give you and Anthony strength to handle the more challenging times.
Keep up the good work!!
You're doing an amazing job! Thanks for posting this video. One thing that I found helpful is incorporating social stories. Especially using their pictures and on topics that you're trying to teach. It also helps with repetition. 💕
I love love love 💕 the content of this video. It's my life, my story, my child. Thank you Vaughn!
Vaughn, you never cease to amaze me. I love how open and honest you are about everything!!!! I love how you parent Anne and are so patient with her, and how you take care of her and still find time to take care of yourself, Anthony and your home. Continue to be BeaUtiful and confident and the Queen that you are!
I completely love this video. As a first time special needs mom I felt everything you said! I appreciate the way you break things down and give a different perspective. Thank you so much! You have challenged my thought process on similar issues I have in my life and with my three year old son.
Wow so insightful. You have a great way of explaining your feelings towards being an autism mom and raising her in the. Eat way that you can. I really like that you’re aware that she’s always being corrected at school and you give her freedoms to be her at home. Your doing a great job. You are an amazing mother and I learn a lot from you. Thanks for sharing! ❤️
Great information! You are so articulate! You are helping somebody. Ann is so blessed to have you and her dad. I’m going to introduce your channel to my cousin who needs to hear what you sharing about your journey. Her son is four years old, and I’m sure she would appreciate your stories and encouragement.
I just found your channel and can't believe I haven't seen this sooner!! I love your approach and love how you are so vocal on correcting behaviors and not using the autism as an excuse!. My daughter is now 19 and where I thought it would get easier, it's gotten harder. But it's all worth it and would do it all again. Keep it up and may God keep blessing you and your family!
FatheringAutism is a great channel to follow as well! Absolutely love them! Great day in the life videos of dealing autism with their beautiful daughter and also very informative information pertaining to the challenges of it as well 😊
I enjoy their videos also.
I enjoy hearing you speak. This is one of the reasons why I subscribe to your channel. I don’t have any children with autism, however the manner in which you are able to articulate your point of view is extremely rewarding. Thank you for this conversation because I was able to relate to a lot of what you expressed just with having children in general. 🌺 You’re doing a great thing on this platform. Thanks sis.
I know this was intended for parents with autistic children, but can we make this for ALL parents! You spoke so much truth that is valuable for all parents. My husband and I have had the same feelings and thoughts about physical discipline and how it could teach a child to accept abuse or be confused about what love feels like. And can we please talk about family and friends and making sure they understand, so accurate! Thank you for sharing your journey and your parenting methods!
Love this!!!! Please know you’re doing your best and people will always judge and we can’t do anything about that. We love all the milestones you share, all your frustrations, and your transparency. Do you Vaughn you’re a great mommy 🥰 thank you for alway sharing. My child is 17 and if I’m wrong I’m wrong and I have also apologized to her as well. I think she respects me more knowing I can own up to my mistakes.
Thank you for sharing as always, what a beautiful soul you are. Anne is lucky to have you!
You are an AMAZING mother!! I have learned so much from your autism mom vlogs. Thank you. Please keep them coming. They are so helpful.
Hearing someone share parenting experiences that are similar to mine gives me such warm feelings. Our journeys are not typical, and usually most of our loved ones can't quite relate, so to find someone online who can is truly refreshing. Thank you for continuing to share both your highs and struggles with us.
I commend you for sharing your journey and I'm very thankful that you do! My nephew was diagnosed with ASD and is non-verbal at this point (he just turned 3 in April) and you go through a myriad of emotions because of the unknown. Everything you said is so spot on. We don't negatively discipline him but try to redirect his behaviors when we want him to stop doing something. And I agree that you do have to lead with Love, compassion, and understanding. I am in awe of children in general because they are literally learning how to be a human so imagine having additional barriers added to that!? You have to operate in grace with them and yourself because this it is a challenging thing to navigate. I love your series and look forward to your updates. You are such an awesome Mama and just human in general. I've been following you for YEARS! Love and Hugs to you! 🤗💜
Thank you so very much for your transparency. Your eloquence gives permission not to feel judged and we are doing the best we can as parents. Be Blessed
You are an amazing mother, period. Been following you for years and all I can say is wow. 💕
Vaughn you are helping thanks for sharing. I have an 2 yr old little boy who was diagnosed w/ASD this year and I went through weeks of grieving all that I had expected and hoped my son to be. He's going to therapy and getting the help he needs. Your mindset is inspiring and I know I'll get there to accept even if nothing changes b/c I love him and he loves me. That's what moms do love unconditionally.
I was smiling and learning from you at the same time, you are a True Warrior Vaughn ❤
Vaughn you yourself are a blessing to us all 💯💕 🙏🏾 Thanks for letting us into your world ❤️❤️❤️ best Mom ever 🌹🌹🌹
Vaughn this blog breaks my heat. It will truly help me to be a better mom. Thanks for sharing. You are an awesome mom. 😊💪🏽🙏🏽
There is no rule book to this parenting game, keep up the great work! Anne is blessed to be in the environment she in with you all!! Thank you for these vlogs, they make me more mindful and aware!
What an insightful and thoughtful perspective. Your candor, yet vulnerability is beautiful.
Thank you, so well said!
At some point I want to start putting some videos out about my journey with my daughter, because I too have had such a hard time finding brown parents speaking on their experience with children on the spectrum. I know how important it is for representation and how blessed I’ve felt finding your channel.
Thank you Vaughan. Thank you! I can relate to everything you’re speaking upon. My daughter is much older than Anne. There’s alot that goes on as an autism parent that some people will never understand.