The abuse of Amouranth, part 3 - Therapist Reacts
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- Опубліковано 24 жов 2022
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Dr. Kirk Honda reacts to The abuse of Amouranth.
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Ammouranth is a HUGE HUGE animal lover. Animals are her passion. It does not surprise me at all that threat is what prompted her to finally push back.
And similarly this is probably what prompted him to use the animals to fuck with her.
Seriously who says shit like that? Under ANY circumstances?
@@BeckBeckGo he's used all the other options to threaten her already and that was the new extreme. For her the final straw
Same. You threaten my animals once and you are now enemy no.1.
Some people are really criticizing you for covering this. I think because the content is so triggering. I just wanted to add my opinion here, that this is really helpful for a lot of people, including myself, even though it is quite difficult to watch.
@@hellopoodles yeah, I remember you saying that to me in the other thread already. However, I disagree that he needs to research the facts about the case before commenting because therapists in the real world-in practice-usually don’t have all the information. All they can go on is what they are told by the client. And often it’s not important to find the truth, because the goal, job, and duty of a clinician is to help the individual’s mental/emotional state. Therapists are not investigators. If the therapist finds out that something illegal is happening, they have a duty to report it to law enforcement, but they do not make it their job to uncover the truth. Given that goal, and that the point of his channel is to educate people about his field, I don’t see a problem with him discussing this case without researching all the other facts about the case. I think doing so is likely to create bias because articles on the situation are written by other people who interpret the facts and chose what details to cover. There are other channels that provide investigative content.
@@hellopoodles Dr. Honda is, in fact, a therapist, as well as a professor of psychology at a university. That information is verifiable. I understand that you believe he is unethical. I vehemently disagree. Again, the goal of this channel is not investigative, but there are channels that do that if that’s what you’re looking for. I’m not understanding why you believe it’s unethical for him to discuss this case without researching it first, given what I explained in my last comment.
And I certainly did not ask you to “shut up” so I’m not sure where that came from; however, being the loudest, doesn’t make you the rightest. lol There are a lot of people who appreciate this content. You said your piece multiple times and we’ve heard you.
@@hellopoodles He's not stubbornly excluding any facts. He's giving a real-time reaction to the content in front of him. Therefore, the only information he has is what he has watched up to this point. He has explained multiple times that if he went and researched everything that's available on the internet about everything he reacts to, he wouldn't be giving an authentic reaction.
If you don't like it, you don't have to be here
@@hellopoodles huh? What facts are being stubbornly excluded?
@@hellopoodles You’re saying you clicked on my profile so you could read other comments I made on this channel. You saw that I replied to someone else’s comment by asking if they would provide more information about their comment (which stated that there were people making nasty comments towards Amaranth). You state that basic research would have told me that. So your assertion is that I shouldn’t have asked someone else in a different comment about what they said because I could have found the information myself through research? Why do I need to research my question instead of asking? And how is this related to our conversation?
It’s obvious that you’re happy to be the loudest but it still doesn’t make you correct, nor does it drown out the number of people who appreciate this content.
Also, you still have not stated why you believe it’s unethical for Dr. Honda to discuss this topic without researching it first, though I’m not sure I care to know anymore.
Thank you for covering this. My sister had a friend who’s husband shot and killed her and then himself all while their 3 year old was watching. It’s so important that people know the warning signs before it’s too late. God bless you, Dr. Honda.
I am really sorry that that hpnd to your sister and her baby and you. I hope you have peace.
Oh my dog I’m so sorry about your sister and I hope the poor kid is doing relatively okay now
I'm so sorry you and your family went through that, that's horrific. My father was very abusive held a gun to Mom's head in front of me and my brother once, then he said it was a joke. He hit her in front of us too. I am fortunate that we are alive.
wow. i have a family member that has nearly that same situation. makes me tear up how far abuse can go.
I knew someone, her husband did kill her cat after threatening to do so. Take this stuff very seriously
Threats are just warning to what they will do.
@@7o7Dsy yup, they wouldn't say those things unless they think they could do it
Unfortunately there are many cases where this happened. I'm so glad people like Dr. Honda are trying to educate the public so we know what the signs are.
Serial killer energy
So glad she's taking steps to take her power back. It was so smart for her to take this call on stream. I hope his life is ruined and he never outruns this. I hope he suffers forever
Then he'll just keep abusing people. It would be better that he gets the treatment that he so sorely needs for as long as he needs and finally heals his trauma to a point where he will never feel even a compulsion to turn to this abusive behavior.
I've dealt with abusers like this, as such this was extremely difficult to watch; painful actually. I once documented the abuse, the abuser said that his lawyer stated I'd be sued if I posted the video on the internet. Which is just ludicrous as his lawyer was an eviction attorney. So yeah, they'll say or do whatever they can to prevent the world from knowing what they are. Although I'm still dealing with an abusive individual, I'm no longer dealing with someone who's as abusive.
People will often say "just leave". Gee, no shit. Sometimes practical considerations such as money prevent one from "just leaving". If it were that easy, no one would have to suffer at the hands of an abuser. Anyone who tells an abused person to "just leave or just move" reveals their ignorance and privilege.
I feel you, hope you've healed. My abuser actually secretly recorded the last few fights we had because they knew we were breaking up soon. They wanted "proof" against me in case I was seeking legal actions. I didn't bc frankly I just wanted to be left alone, but heard that they filed for domestic abuse or something similar which never actually went through. Not surprised because I wasn't the abuser. I still think back whether they ever deleted the recordings, it was really disturbing when I found out. I was at my lowest and trying to stand up for myself. Finally when I pushed them out of my apartment to leave they showed a phone recording. It was like a "gotcha" moment for them because I never used any physical force with them otherwise.
@@Ferreneh Thanks, I've not healed from it. Still working on it though. Sorry you went through that, no one should have to deal with that crap. I've not posted my videos yet, it's still too painful to even think about let alone put out there for all to see... and judge. People can be really cruel.
I'll never forget this Australian women who was trying to leave her husband just before coercive control laws were enacted. He combined all of their bank accounts, had passwords to every account she had. Looked like an absolute nightmare of a relationship.
He threatened to send her horses to a meat packing factory. She went live the next day showing her horses, so they were fine in case anyone was worried. Her dogs were also fine and they are “separated” he’s gone to get help, she is seeking legal counsel and taking a break from social media. I never followed her streams but I tuned in when she was with her horses and people were saying how it was a totally different stream, there were still, some disgusting people in the chat. I think the text alerts are bc she’s now always at her computer during the stream, but also twitch subs love having their favorite streamer giving them a “shoutout” so I think that’s a factor too.
Thank you for covering this, it needs a psychologist analysis to raise awareness. Thank you
This guy is unhinged. I do not believe he will stop. This is terrifying.
Local law enforcements attitude towards women has barely gotten past asking a woman what was she wearing after being sexually assaulted. If she’s an only fans professional I believe she will be dismissed immediately.
Dr.Kirk thank you for exposing and educating the public via your channel. Your work here is paramount helping victims not to be ignored or silenced. 🙏
Thank you
“Fun” fact: in one of John Oliver’s newer videos he talks about Law and order SVU, and mentions how the cast has extensively talked about how cops have come up to them and told them they got their education on sex crimes through the show…
My partner likened it to sex trafficking, if even just a little of the OnlyFans stuff was his idea. No such thing as consent if it's under duress or threat of consequence.
I find that there is a lot of domestic violence and sex trafficking crossover in the recovery stage. There can be a coercive sexual dynamic in DV.
As an adult entertainment performer by choice myself? The situation with her is horrendous. She needs out & he needs to be banned from social media & flagged.
Not sure if you've already gotten the background on this, Dr Honda. But she was already streaming, got the berating call from the husband and was on the line for an hour before deciding to unmute the phone and play it for the stream.
I think she was asking him to repeat a lot of shit he said so her reactions weren’t as genuine. He’s still awful and disgusting but I think there is more than just what she’s putting out.
That makes more sense, because it all pretty gross.
Ugh she should not have put up with that nonsense for even two minutes. The guy was in a full on tantrum.
Always ignore tantrums. Whatever you do when they’re 3, you do when they’re 33. Because no 33 year old should be throwing tantrums and it’s not advisable to reward bad behaviour:
@@JamesCourse66 which doesn’t matter at all. If you get ragy enough to behave in the irrational and batshit crazy way he did, you leave the call.
His behaviour is not justified. There is zero context that makes his explosive, embarrassing tantrum appropriate.
@@BeckBeckGo THIS. He was having an absolute meltdown. This is time to get off the phone and go do something else to calm yourself down. It's called being an adult and not a textbook extreme abuser.
I really love and appreciate your take on so many topics, but this has been the best series of reaction videos you've made. I was in shock, and scared to see someone go through this, but I think your perspective on how abusers behave and why, is so compelling and important for people to be aware of. This could happen to anyone, and it's truly horrifying.
Thank you for your work.🙏
Agreed. My marriage was like this so hearing him analyze things really gave me good insight, I’m in therapy bc I’ve been married twice and married the same type of guy both times but the second marriage was this bad (the first one he was unmedicated bipolar) but my second husband was sociopathic like this guy and it was so terrifying. Abuse needs light shined on it, and abusers need to be put in the uncomfortable spotlight… I think people don’t realize how common abuse is which is just awful.
@@megorex630 I'm so sorry you went through this, I can't begin to imagine what that must've been like. I hope all is well now, sending you lots of positive vibes✨
Police were called. They did nothing
wow, that's horrible
Color me unsurprised
I don't think she has a good support system. One of the people in the chat said go to your family or something and she just said "What good would that do" or something like that. It also seemed like he didnt let her have friends.
I think that's why that guy was going so hard in this abuse cuz she didnt really have people to protect her i think all she really had was her platform and her audience
I hope she sues him and he ends up in jail and pays her all the money he stole and for all the trauma and abuse he inflicted over her
We need more therapists like you.
I was in a situation like this but without the fame and money - all the recordings I made went nowhere and yet I was still attacked for them, and I just cut my losses and ran.
Sorry. The amber heards of the world make getting evidence look like a setup
I’m so sorry you went through that shit, I hope you’re in a better place now
Here in Texas it is pretty hard to get help in these situations, especially since her main claim to fame is Only Fans. Law enforcement in the Houston area tends to treat anyone even tangentially related to sex work as not worthy of help.
That said, they've been married (according to their local court docs) since like 2015, and there's at least one old Twitter from years ago of the husband's out there where he is acting in a very similar way to this video
If they got married in 2015, then she was 18 or 19 when she married him....poor girl has been trapped since she was a teenager. I hope she finds peace.
It is an absolute nightmare getting out of an abusive situation in Texas. Here in Houston, I've called the cops when I was abused and they made the situation so much worse instead of helping. I'm not even a s*x worker. Then we're asked a million times, "why don't you just leave?" and as soon as you leave, your kids get partial custody unsupervised with your abuser, you may get killed or you're scared you will and you're constantly having to watch your back for that, the control gets so much worse, and your kids may even be taken away because "you let the abuser abuse you in front of them". It's Hell.
@@brendamertes9472 not in Texas, but my father did that to my mother. She couldn't leave because then he would get us part time. She suffered to keep us as safe as she could. I hope you find peace as well and that you and your babies are safe.
It's nearly impossible to get any help for women unless so.thing happens to u physical (like near death it feel like) then and only them will they help
@@AwesomeJudaline This is unfortunately exactly what I'm doing. I'm suffering to keep my kids safe. Thank you for your kindness!
I'm happy she is separated and getting help in multiple forms. Dr. Honda, could you explain more about the erosion of a person's willingness to leave over time? Has there been research done into this?
Learned Helplessness?
@@RBNY That's a good one to explain this.
For me, it was cuz I kept telling myself "I've already invested my time, effort and money into the relationship, I don't want it to fail. I don't want to let go, what if it gets, better and me letting go is just gonna make all my efforts go to waste?" So the longer the relationship went, with the insane ups and downs and abuse. I still stayed, thinking one day he'll change and he'll stop. There's a word for this I think, and I think Dr. Honda has mentioned this in one of his videos a long time ago. Sorry, I can't remember the name of this phenomenon nor the name of the video I heard him talk about this. It was a long time ago when I saw that video.
I knew someone who’s husband gaslight & abused her. Then eventually killed her and multiple people who were at her home, hours after she left court w/PO. His dad didn’t think he was a problem so gave him access to weapons he was not allowed to access. I hope she got away from this POS.
I am so glad you're reacting to this. This whole situation is extremely upsetting, but some of the reactions calling her a liar or that she deserves it are even more upsetting than the situation itself in some ways. I have a friend who thinks that all of this is a publicity stunt - the call was faked (a recording or an actor), the texts were faked, the stories are all lies - and I just cannot believe that people can see this and be convinced someone would do this for attention and clout. Imagine how elaborate it would need to be, on top of all the other reasons that would be completely insane.
Unrelated but also LOL at Kirk getting annoyed at the sub sound and saying something like "why would you need a sound to play when you subscribe?" not realizing that one of the big reasons people subscribe on twitch is because of a chance to get momentary attention from the streamer lol. I am fairly certain that without the sounds and text to speech and everything else donations and subscriptions would drop significantly across the whole platform
Sooo weird
Accurate with the Twitch thoughts.
These types of arguments are so weird to me. She's already a super successful streamer. She didn't need to pull a publicity stunt and, if anything, airing this could harm her image/brand/success whatever people are describing this as. Like I see a whole bunch of downsides to her lying about something like this and not many upsides.
Thank you for covering this. I’m so sorry to Amoranth for what she’s had to deal with and whatever else she will have to go through to be safe.
There’s a lot of people who second guess themselves on if they are being abused, if they can trust their own emotions, memory, intelligence, etc, and I hope they are able to use videos like this to validate their feelings and get out of a harmful situation.
This recently happened to me early in a relationship, and I had already cut the person off but this was very validating that I’m not just a crazy mentally ill person, but actually made the right decision based on the other persons behaviour.
Phone grabbing is a big red flag. When I tried to leave my ex, first thing he did was snatch mine & smash it into pieces. He then proceeded to beat me & hold me captive so yeah y’all need to be taking that seriously. I’m lucky my dad heard enough of the call to know what was up & come kick the door in but not everyone will get that chance.
This is trafficking
"Shakes fist at Twitch" XD That is twitch for you - instant gratification and attention, despite a horrifying situation. That subscriber message is text-to-speech. People can write a message that will be read out loud, which can be fun, but in this instance just inappropriate.
It makes a more sense why she couldn't just take off and leave the guy if he was threatening ALL of her animals. Dogs are pretty easy to put in a car and leave with. Horses are a very different story, even if she is boarding them at a stable. Poor Amouranth :(
I think she was doing this video, to ousted all the things he did, and be able to share it with the world, her fan all in one stream. I think it had to be this way for her because she could not afford to do multiple streams and share little by little. She knows that if she does not air everything out now, her abusive/ rage-ful husband would use everything she holds back as a weapon to manipulate or sabotage her.
I saw my mother going through this before. She has to air out all her laundry/ all the abuse and conflict to my extended family immediately before my father did. Or else, he still has power over her and take advantage of her secret.
This is in a sense, showing all the hands you are dealt
I thank you for reacting to this. It was pretty hard to get through but you have taught me so much about a personality that has existed in my life in one form or another since before I can remember. Please don't listen to anyone who criticizes you for posting this. You have helped me immensely and I am forever grateful.
I went through a really similar situation when I was young, it was my first relationship so I didn't realize that it wasn't normal. Although extremely triggering, it was cathartic to watch this video and your commentary because it explained everything I went through and gave me a new perspective on everything and new found appreciation for where I'm at in life now. I still struggle with mental health stemming from that abuse so I feel awful for her that it's going to ake so long to heal. There's hope now that she's out, I just hope she doesn't go back. I went back twice before being able to fully leave. It's the reality of abuse, it's so insidious and pervasive.
thank you for covering this! its important to have qualified people commenting on this as well as commentary youtubers.
My gosh this is so scary and sad. Thank you so much for educating us Dr Kirk. You really bring the concepts to life by reacting to things we can use as shared references. It’s so important to help us recognize these behaviours and patterns because abuse looks so different in different contexts.
Thank you for covering this.
To give a little bit of clarity with the horse meat packing thing a lot of retired old race, horses, or old lesson horses will be sold for slaughter to Mexico and Canada to be processed into meat. I used to work with an organization that rescue horses from these horrible slaughterhouses.
It was the hardest job I’ve ever had
I appreciate you doing this video so much
The end of the live is terrifying
I really enjoyed your coverage of this topic
By the way, I’ve never heard of this woman before but holy cow I’m glad you’re addressing this because it is VERY common, both in marriages and in dating relationships. I’ve been there, in her place. Thank you Dr. Honda! 💙💙
I was in multiple relationships like that - that’s what I thought was normal for a long time . Ty for covering this -
the texting the support system thing backfired for me. turned out to be his support system.
I am glad for her that has documented this, it takes his power away. That being said doing so may also push him to the next level. I hope she can get some personal security. She just let people know she was married. Part of her "deal" is being the hot chick and outing yourself as married will take away some of the viewership. I feel that as she started gaining popularity he started to get more and more controlling as he had more access and got more involved in her business.
While these videos have been really hard to watch, I appreciate the commentary on it. I went through almost exactly the same type of abuse with an ex, and I’ll be the first to say it’s extremely difficult to gauge reality after a while. It’s super important to see this from an outside perspective to validate the victim’s experience and to make it easier for other people to spot abuse when it happens. I’m relieved to know that her and her animals are safe.
My pets got me out of my dv relationship too! Not sure if that’s the case here but once they were getting threatened that’s when I left. I look at them like my little life savers now
Just discovered your channel and I love it‘
'Old Man Shakes Fist at Twitch Chat'
So for anyone who watches this according to her he pushed her into sex work on only fans and is controlling that, made her stream even to having the lack of sleep and mandated her ability to wear clothes(only revealing ones) on her not explicit streams on twitch.
And she does seem to be okay and safe now, with financial and creative control again
I went through something similar for 7 years. It takes years to recover. Thank you so much for covering this subject in all of its ugliness.
I needed to see this ❤
Thank you dear dr Honda
I have a question just about couples therapy in general. Will therapists ever suggest or decide that it would just be best for a couple to split up if it’s truly a bad and/or toxic/abusive relationship? Or will therapist continue to try and find a way to make it work? Also, what are some things I can look/listen for or some questions I can ask that will help me find a good therapist? I really want to be in therapy but I dont know if there are enough GOOD therapists out there and I feel skeptical that any therapist I choose is truly going to WANT and/or BE ABLE TO genuinely help me and one day my relationship. What are some things that I can look for that would let me know whether a therapist is legit or good or trustworthy? Or are there things I should be aware of that maybe is a sign that a therapist ISNT good? Should I shop for therapists? Is that even ok? I want to be in therapy so bad but dont even know where to start. I have no support system whatsoever, limited resources and am currently on AHCCCS which is AZs state insurance program like Medi Cal. Any advice would be so appreciated. Thank you in advance
Getting a good therapist is like dating, absolutely shop around for the right one. I don't have any tips to choose the right one, but I encourage you to get that info and keep looking until you click with one.
Hey Lisa, I can't tell you about your first question but the second. Finding a good therapist that fits you can be tricky. You might start and then it does not quite work or you start and it's amazing. I can tell you that it's okay to not get along with your therapist and wanting to switch. Please do not feel discouraged. There's no tips or tricks to find a good therapist, it's really about having a few sessions and seeing if it works. I wish you best of luck.
I've seen some couples therapists saying that they absolutely can and do suggest a couple breaking up if there's no way to compromise or work through a situation that's happening. So that absolutely IS an option that they might recommend if they think that it is for the best. Obviously not EVERY couple's therapist and I'm sure that it depends entirely on the couple and the issues that they're having. But from what I've seen online, some of them absolutely do say "Hey this relationship just isn't working guys. Break up".
The music that you hear is an a sub alert.. people usually like to get noticed by their favourite creator or even have them say thank you for your sub "including the person's name".. it's just a way to show appreciation to subscribers. While the sound of the voice speaking is just reading messages that the viewers sent using money.. so they don't get unnoticed among the chat / get some sort of recognition or a shoutout
This is so wild and heartbreaking smh
That same thing happened with my ex in HS. He abused me so much then, the moment he threatened to kill my dog I called it off took all the precautions and left him.
I personally believe that becoming a dog owner was an important step towards me learning to set boundaries w family members and in general. The micro aggressions and emotional abuse was something I had gotten used to. But the minute someone looked at my dog in a funny way, my momma bear was unleashed. He was and is 100p off limits, which I believe guided me into a headspace of realizing that I can in fact tell people off and deny them access to me and the people I care about, if their behavior is not approbiate.
The more subs you have, (all channel owners/influencers) the more haters/trolls/bullies you’ll attract. It’s not personal. Many don’t take their meds. Others don’t leave a dank basement. Some are jealous. You are fabulous Dr. Honda!
Honestly, I feel like these kinds of videos are extremely helpful. Cuz I was aware of abuse and what it could look like, I managed to get out before I put a ring on it or have kids. It's cuz it was never really physical, just a lot of mental and emotional abuse, I couldn't see the signs that were there from the very beginning. I was ready to marry that man even when he was already starting to do some shitty stuff, thinking "ah it's not that bad." while he gaslighted me. It's only when it got so bad that it was obvious to the friends around me that I realized what was going on. A friend one day asked me if I still wanted to marry my ex, and realizing the answer was no due to fear that I'll end up on the news one day, was what got me to have enough courage to leave before I was tied down for good. We need to talk about these things more and bring more awareness to them, even if it's a very hard and ugly thing to talk about. It can save lives.
It’s so sad
Ughhh....
As a Survivor of DV, my heart goes out to her.
Does anybody know if she's still with the guy, or if she got out?
Tf is with the text messages omg, the desperation and the lack of restrain omg
Couldn't finish watching, even though I normally like watching your analysis.
My ex was exactly like this...
That sound file that's playing on twitch is subscriber comments. People send money to comment like that. It's practical for when you're gaming and can't read comments all the time. But yeah, it sounds awful and is very hard to interpret, twitch should have better text-to-speech sound system.
Lmao Dr. Honda going off on twitch
I literally don't get anything the guy is saying. If it weren't for Kirk's explanations I would be so confused. Nothing makes any sense.
He is her manager and manages her onlyfans content so he's threatening to take the money they made. (She makes millions every month on Onlyfans and Twitch.) She's resisting because she knows she's recording and he is unaware she is recording.
Sure that’s a thing.
That doesn’t make his explosive foolishness any more rational.
If I were in a situation where someone talked to me like this, I’d be gone. For good.
Whatever she did, he’s giving it back 100%. He’s a manbaby regardless.
An adult, if she behaves so poorly, would just leave.
Also, I hope there is time in one of these videos to go over the disgusting "fan" reactions to this.
Will you tell us about those fan reactions? What were people saying? People made videos saying she did something wrong?
@@MsJeanneMarie some (mostly red pill) guys were basically that she deserves it because she’s a Sex worker, that she’s lying like Amber Heard (even though this is nothing like that case at all) and that all female victims are liars like Amber.
@@MsJeanneMarie from what I’ve seen some in her chat were being really disgusting and rude about finding out she had a husband, like they were legitimately mad and ignoring the situation at hand. The worst reactions I saw were under penguinz0 video explaining the vod. A loud minority of people were victim blaming her, saying the whole situation was fake or just saying they didn’t care bc she’s too rich and successful to be victim. Honestly really nasty stuff.
@@SowwyIDied wow that is insane!! Thanks for the info, I’ll check it out!
I don't know anything about this situation or the people involved, but if I am going to learn about it I'd rather do so here where you can provide context and a therapist's viewpoint instead of any other commentary channel
Sorry to make a silly comment on such a serious video. I just wanted to offer a perspective for you as a Twitch streamer and user. The subscriptions on twitch are the same as "joining" here on UA-cam so there is a monetary support to the streamer. Following on twitch is the equivalent to Subscriptions on UA-cam.
Now as far as the alerts (the music and announcements), often when we are streaming there is a lot going on that you must pay attention to, the game or content you are making/playing, the live chat that you use to engage with your viewers and other things like your framerate and technical stuff. So, at least for me and I am a tiny, tiny, tiny streamer, the alerts help give recognition when we cannot or for us to even be able to notice and say thank you. Often for large donations or normal subscriptions streamers give the viewers a chance to add a message that plays with TTS so that is the annoying voice you hear. Lol
If she thinks some anger management classes are going to change him she's being naïve. He has a bunch of other issues and he'll probably won't never change. Just run and protect yourself from him.
This triggers me
“We don’t get along. We shouldn’t be together”
The answer: you’re right. Bye.
And hang up. Phone on silent. Block number.
Men are Logical. Women are Emotional.
Everyone knows the more a man screams, the more logical the pure reason male-man-machine becomes.
me and my wavy lines don't understand this
Huh?
/s
Yep
I really, really hope this is a failed attempt at sarcasm.
I'm not saying it is and I don't think it is. But some have theorized that this was staged. Do you think that's possible?
i think it is. i don't want to think so but the way the info is being fed to us just doesn't feel natural. it feels like the argument was staged up in order for her to highlight the things he's done or smth....the way he's acting seems so fake but who knws, i've never really been in such an abusive situation. if he's monitoring what she's doing...how did he no realize that she was streaming? but the physical parts with the door and stuff is what's making me think it's real but idk....maybe i'm just a really skeptic person. if it is real, i feel really sorry for her
What would they gain by staging this.
His reputation will always be connected to being an abuser now. She's lost fans and money.
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These are your typical abusive tactics.
They know that once they put hands on you it's jail time so they destroy, damage, or move your stuff to make your life inconvenient.
I can tell this has been going since the beginning of their relationship.
Only thing is, she didn't get out but try to please him to go back to the loving kind man that she thought he was but he never was (aka, loving bombing).
Sadly, over the years, as the Dr. said, he just learned more ways to break her down so he'll have more control.
Firstly, by putting her body out like that he prevented her from being able to take on a lot of other careers. Secondly, he gained the passwords to all of her account to control both her money and what she displayed. Third, he isolated her by ensuring she would do most of her stuff near or in his presence and always away from others.
Only Fans is done at home mostly and away from seeing eyes. So how would anyone be able to help her if no one knew and she couldn't tell.
The only reason we know now is because the threat of him hurting her dogs gave her the strength to defend herself against his onslaught of abuse.
It so upsetting she had to make it public for her to leave. Guess that's one way to have those rose colored glasses ripped off.
Lol what
@@7o7Dsy thanks for this. I totally understand now. I was just a bit skeptic cuz ig i couldn't fathom that someone would act so blatantly hostile to their partner but i shouldn't use my own view to try and discount or invalidate her situation. My heart goes out to her and i support her publication of this inorder to free herself
Not all men...
Is it just me or does anyone else find this unwatchable? I’m not into it.
I’m not referring to Dr. Honda by the way, if that wasn’t clear.
Having never witnessed such abusive behaviour I find this intriguing and quite educational.
I couldn’t get through Part One. I’m only here to read comments.
It was very difficult for me to watch but I watched all three parts. It’s hard to listen to that guy’s attitude and screaming…
I think if I had witnessed a lot of abuse like this in my own life this would be a hard watch. I'm lucky to not have been exposed to stuff like this so I've been able to get through it.
This is not a criticism and I don't know why, but her crying pleading whiny tone triggers me just as much as his fake high falsetto yelling. There is a lot to be upset by, but does anyone else feel this way specifically?
I don't, but maybe you've witnessed this kind of relationship between two people, so she would trigger you, too?
I know what you are saying and I absolutely agree. His screaming and her childish whining
Kinda like her fear and hurt is contagious
To me, it's just a really uncomfortable situation to be witnessing. I hate seeing anyone fight, but seeing someone in such clear distress triggers my empathy. It's like watching someone kick a puppy and not being able to do anything about it. It seems so obvious that he has the upper hand, and I just want it to stop. She seems so confused and demoralized and I can relate to that feeling of trying your hardest not to cry and not being able to, of being seen as weak because you can't 'control your emotions.'
Idk what it is for you, but that's why my anxiety goes into overdrive whenever she speaks in that tone.
@@CatGataNekosan same. To me it triggers compassion.
Please please this is same thing every day. Been here and got away n out. You keep mentioning how rich she is. Is she truly rich? KnowledgeBase no. Sooooo much help available get off the phone n GO!!!!!!!!!!!!! Money prisoner her own prison.
Note how Kirk would doubt Johnny Depp every second sentence regardless of evidence but,with Amouranth he just completely sees everything for what it is because she's a woman.
We are WATCHING the evidence. Its okay we understand you just hate women.
@@yourmother9834 No man,I'm just annoyed that Depp being a man meant the abuse was mutual and Amouranth being a woman made it possible for him to talk about the situation for what it is
@@bonkosimasolo5844 100% not what happened. you should go back and rewatch the johnny depp video compared to this one, very different situations
oh please
The difference here is that she is not telling how she is abused, the abuse is happening, it is not a short recording and it is way more violent than any of the recording we had in the trial. And he was also doubting AH.
I appreciate your trigger warnings, yet I continue to watch anyway because your take is always super healing to me. Thank you. ❤️🩹
This is not related to the video at all but my first day of therapy ever is tomorrow and I just want to thank dr Kirk for convincing me to finally go and for making me realize that I am not my trauma and that I deserve more 🥲
Congrats! 🥳
Good luck Hailey ♥️
best of luck!! remember that also not all therapists are meant for you, so be sure to not be discouraged if the therapist & you don’t click. keep going & find the perfect one for you!