Do You Hate How You Look? Here's How to Heal From a Negative Self Image
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- Опубліковано 26 бер 2015
- Do you hate your body? Do you hate how you look? In this video Jason addresses what happens when you look at yourself and feel pain and suffering. He speaks about how and why you feel this way and how to wiggle yourself free of the illusion of self hatred so that you can discover the truth. You're perfect the way you are.
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I'm so tired of hating myself. This is why I'm not able to be in a relationship because I never feel pretty enough or just Just enough for someone to love me for me. I have borderline (bpd) so you can imagine how bad it gets. I want to be healed already and loved.
Amanda Madrigal same
Yes me to
Sorry but do u mean pbd or borderline?! Can u explain me
10000 Subs with out any Fortnite wins horrible little human
@@jdjdjcjdjx3107 you're truly disgusting. go to hell.
I just can’t wait for the day when I can actually look in the mirror and feel 100% beautiful 😩😞
i literally hate myself sm i avoid all social gatherings, romantic relationships, literally everyhting i want to do cause i hate how my face looks.
I can relate so much. I feel that I'm great for having a loving relationship, but my face gets in the way and causing me to sabotage the potential for an awesome relationship. It's difficult caring about someone and not being able to express it because of your physical appearance.
Omg same 😭
Same.
Same
Me too. So depressed.
I hate the way i look so much that if i didnt have such a loveing careing mother i would defintly kill myself
Jordon Taylor me too....
Me too i hate the way i look
Likewise, sorry you feel that way
All the same,I guess
Jordon Taylor
It’s just look
You are more than ur look
This was the best video I’ve ever seen about self hate. I’ve been looking for truth. And what you said that “if you are suffering, you don’t know the truth”. That is the first thing that finally makes sense. Thank you
How is it that someone who has never seen you, or even met you before, can know every haunting demon that has driven a lifetime behind your wheel? Mind blown. I needed this more than you can imagine! Thank you! 🙏🏼
Jason, is there a way that you can be reached by email? There is just something personal I would like to share with you since watching this video a few days ago. Thanks. 😊
I seriously hate how I look and I just have such bad depression in general and when people tell me “oh u look like her” and usually they are referring to someone not so pretty. I just hate myself so much today I realized how much I do and I can’t stop crying
I have the same problem... There was this girl that people hated because of the way she looked and people would get mixed up with her and I'd be so upset. Why can't I just look like me?
Same
You are fearfully and wonderfully made by God you are not a mistake... You are special
“ You can’t change the Truth, but the Truth can change you”.
What a journey ... on so many levels...
If you're suffering, you don't know the truth, Love that!
I love everything about me except my face
Same😞
@@elissao.6585 me too
I want to replace my head😭
@Kosename I'm so sorry you feel this way, i am very insecure about my face too i have big nose and small jaw i hate my skin and my teeth and my hair i hate myself i want to kill myself, people are very mean to me too, when i see myself in the mirror i don't want to go outside
I hate it all
Felt like sucide today, but somehow i got out of it...
denis8088 I hope you are ok
denis8088 same but I still haven't got out of it
please take care brother i know how you feel
im here 4 u
denis8088 there is a salvation for waiting for u soon, a light in the end of the tunnel is there glowing,im begging u man dont give in to your demons cuz u have to slay them to shreds find comfort in calming music,spirtual things anything that comes to your mind go with your nature, remember life is just a big messed up challenge before survive and win the prize going to heaven.
Im Glad u Slayed your demons,know your not alone and u dont have to fight alone, dont suffer in silence get the support that u need.
Wow.. you literally explained EXACTLY what I’ve been going through my whole life
Mind blown
I have binge eating disorder and I hate my body, I don't know how to stop this vicious cycle :(
Start small. Win the small battles and then work towards the larger ones. Perhaps you hate how you look, BUT perhaps there's something you don't hate so much. Concentrate on that part of you and ALSO concentrate on withholding an opinion on it. After you have mastered that part, go to the next. :)
I felt like no one gets what i'm going through.. and i was going to die alone and ugly .. also thought of dying today cuze i can't afford a plastic surgery and but parents aren't really supportive in this matter ... i thought of killing myself alot yet did nothing but crying ..
seeing this video gave me hope i felt as as if you were talking to me directly . I felt a relief for a moment and I grabbed my small diary and wrote the stuff that you said.
Great to hear. Your body is only a vehicle, and not who you truly are. It is given to you as a gift. :)
JasonJGallant love you Jason love you ❤️❤️
I am almost in tears because this just hits the spot thank you
Thank you for making this video! I have been discovering myself a little more every day and your videos help tremendously. Thanks for your wisdom and guidance. I just discovered that I am bipolar which is why one minute I'm feeling up and I he other I'm feeling down. I'm gonna be going to the doctors and get help but these videos do help and want you to know that you are appreciated for posting these.
So if i am ugly and it makes me suffer, I make myself believe it's simply not true,.. very convenient technique
Your videos are the best.
Born Hero he's awesome whish his videos where longer
Sir your words are just a miracle. Previously I did feel the emotions taking up whenever I would face a conflicting situation but I was never really aware that my mind too has a readymade script to compliment those running emotions. I understood this today after watching this video and it did made me to reflect that I was in fact, forcefully defending my negative thoughts firmly believing them as true and rational as per my consciousness. But I was really wrong. Thank you for sharing this amazing talk, it really helped me recover from me simply tormenting me!
Jason, this is a very nice video teaching about how the ego holds onto things, defends things, and creates all sorts of unnecessary turmoil and self-torture.
I’m not sure if it was a true “out of body experience” or just a dream, but when I was 27 one night I had the sensation of floating out of my body and looking down at myself in 3D, and I was like an external person looking at myself for the first time, I could see my own good character and warmth in my face, it totally changed my perspective
I’m struggling each day due to females not liking my face they all make judgements on it. I have struggled with depression since I was 16 years old I’m 38 and still ruminating about the same stuff. Therapists refuse to help me anymore and I feel suicidal every day
Plz do what u love dont take others attention.iam 20 and suffering depression like u .lets fight together
@@Gatoradeia ❤️
I do the same thing and feel suicidal. How are you doing now friend?
Hey, how are you doing? I hope you’re okay man:/
@@cliffkonkle3467 Ups and downs I do t think I will ever like myself due to
What women have done and said to me…How are you?
Im from now on gonna look in the mirror less and avoid too many pictures. Because im becoming too obsessed with what’s on the outside and not the inside.
Btw yes this video is great! Thnks
I really appreciate your words. Wow...it is so hard to know what is the truth at times though....particularly when you are a child when these lies about bodies are started. When I was around 12 my
mom used to always tell me that the only reason a man would want to be with me would be because of my breasts. How
Messed up is that. I lived for the next 38 years with this message in my mind- to the point I had surgery to really reduce them...soooo sad.
I pray all the time that children are spared from this kind of shame from a parent.
Thanks Jason for your kind words, meaningful messages and kind spirit
I hate the way I do everything, I have the way I walk , I’m so insecure about myself
Same
Thank you Jason. Nice how I find these videos at just the right time 😎
You have such a way with words…thank you ☺️
This is so good.. I'm in tears. God help me
I love your perspective. Beautiful advice, thank you.
Your message has truly resonated with me unlike many I've seen. I appreciate your sincerity - you aren't afraid to display the humor that exists in being human and suffering the complexity of it. I couldn't help but let out a little chuckle with you. I appreciated witnessing your pause as you digested the message coming through you because it shows that communication (with others and yourself) takes focus, attention, and consideration. It's a perfect imperfect delivery, just as we are perfectly imperfect. Beautifully delivered message. 🌼 Thank you.
Jason, first apologize for my scarce English. You helped me so much in this few days I know you. The Narashima Mantra is the most powerful mantra I pratice. I can't was able to read the mantra without crying, seems to me a great bowling ball against a paper wall.
I have seen most of your videos very deep and inspired. But now, I really need some word from you about this problem that give me great pain. I am 60 years old, marriage relationship never been so down, so I am searching again for real love, my heart is full of love to give, but seems that no one is interested. My caracter also don't help me so much; it is necessary just an "hello" and i start to dreaming. Tons of email, waiting for a reply and my life go to hell. My house become so little like a box, always thinking about that girl (or another is the same) thinking what is doing in his life (and why not repling to my mail). So I feel me very inadeguate, disconneted (using your word in a video), unsicure, pleae help me.
Maybe I’m suffering because the truth hurts, others can call it lies to try and make me feel better but it doesn’t change the facts
Thank you for this video-I’ve been struggling with this way of thinking for so long.
you're not alone. I have many problems with my appearance even my height as well
forgive me for commenting yet again but today I'm having a meltdown and I just wish that I could be free from this. I'm so lonely and need help. I'm hurting so badly today
I can relate. I'm sorry to hear you are hurting. Do you like movies? I been watching a movies series that is helping me allot - it's about the great Buddha. It's here on UA-cam.
Me too stay strong 💜
Try be the best version of YOU. Nothing can be wrong with that... no matter what anyone says.
@Annie Areyouok Thank you so much for those loving words and advice. I will check those books and videos out.
I understand you when you say that you care for lonely people. I was like that working at a daycare. When children would tell me how sad or unloved, I would make them feel important and pray for them.
You sound like a very good hearted person. The world needs more of that.
I still feel this way unfortunately but I keep trying to keep my head up and focus on my 2 kids. I need to take care of myself too though.
Some things I have realized watching your videos:
Life is not a measuring stick
Thoughts and emotions exist in us, not as us.
We are a part of life, not apart from life
I chose to believe a lot of negative things about myself. Came from a life of exclusion and feeling different from everyone else
Yes, the patterns can be quite convincing
damn after just a couple of sentences I knew this guy is well worth listening to...
I hate my body too.Ican't get out of it
Why do u hate you're body? You can't see it
denis8088 if theres a deeping meaning in your sentence i would like u clarify that if it doesnt , then u forgot there are mirrors invented.
My self esteem died long ago, 😭 I'm an adult but I'm not confident even before children
some days i feel good about myself or something but they are usually short-lived. i feel as if my body is like some kind of prison that i'm trapped in forever. and it's really hard because i hate my physical self and my life as well.
Jason, I don't have many friends. If there was one guy I would love to hang out with and just talk about all this stuff, it would be you. I wish I had a friend like you.
i felt so ugly and unloved .after watching this video i say to my self for what.
You not ugly at all :) just love yourself
oh yeah, i know how beautiful im and this world is, thanks denis
Very eloquently put. I popped onto UA-cam to look for some advice as negative self-image is a daily cause of suffering in my life, and your words were just the snap to reality I needed. Thank you for sharing your insight! This is something many people would benefit from hearing!
However.... the fact that something is causing suffering doesn't make it untrue. That's where my suffering lies: I am objectively less attractive than many of my peers. There's no point denying it. I suppose what I've been trying to do is accept it and take it less seriously.
Everyone is less attractive in comparison to someone else depending on their standard. It's about point of view. Let go of that, and then the suffering that originates from point of view dwindles.
@JasonJGallant Hello Jason,stumbled across your video's and so glad i did.I have erythrophobia, it's a fear of facial flushing.I have rosacea so my face is pinky/red most of the time.I am trying to come to terms with this reality ,however when i have flushing episodes which occur daily and sometimes for hours at a time,my cheeks turn a very angry red and it burns so badly. I wear makeup during the day to cover it but it comes through like someone has put a searing hot iron on each cheek.The more i try to calm it down the worse it gets.I suddenly feel very out of control and it's so hot it's hard to ignore.I take handheld fans to the cinema and it has definitely been impacting my quality of life.I notice the flushing is triggered by emotions,thoughts and heat..My question is how do i try to embrace this about myself when it feels so awful and I'm dealing with it many times a day ? Can i overcome my fear of flushing and then perhaps it will happen less often or for a shorter duration of time ?I have tried medications,laser therapy sessions and creams and nothing has made any difference at all.I am booked in to see a psychologist soon but i have tried this in the past and it has also not made much difference.. I think i feel afraid because the more i flush the more the flushing happens as my face is so used to doing it,im finding im having less time without the flushing and burning,maybe the burning will get so bad it never goes away even for brief periods of time.I feel very scared most of the time.
thanks so much... I always hated the way I look..
was laughed at as a kid for being puny and small..with a big head...
I just acknowledge the negative self image I have and the ease others impose their will on me from conception forward
Thank you, you're such a beautiful person! I'm glad I had an encounter with your vids, I'm now a subscriber
I think I'll keep hating my self my whole life. it's horrible life
Yeah same here you're not alone
Ty for this; makes sense. I find i don't take pics because i have a hard time accepting the image. It makes sense now that I'm constantly judging others in my head and it's always either good or bad, maybe i need to work on not judging even if its "positive" and just practice acceptance.
Brilliant 😊watched this for first time today will definitely work my way through more videos..thanks for words of wisdom!
Without hesitation
Love
It maybe we can get rid of that feeling but we cant get rid of our eyes and mirrors
Then the mirrors won't matter. :)
I never used to hate how I look but if too many people insult your appearance and laugh at u you believe it and now I do. Ik I’m ugly and not from my own opinion but the opinion of what seems like Everyone. I try to act like I’m not ugly and say to myself I’m not but people always seem to reaffirm the fact that I am.
the fact a guy who is jacked is saying this means ALOT
I don't like how I look and my body needs to change so it looks how I want but I'm too tired for existing I don't want to be alive so I will die this September.
all the self loath and insecurities is because we compare ourselves to others and we want to fit in. Society is toxic. I belong nowhere in this society. I sometimes get so tired of this. I have a high functioning anxiety, i'm anxious all the time, all the fucking time even when people around me thinks i'm all right, but inside i'm fucking dying, the only time when i feel no anxiety is when i'm lifting weights and right after lifting weights, that's the medicine for me. Without weight lifting i would have killed myself already. Everybody at my work has a girlfriend and tons of friends and a fucking perfect happy life. They talk how good their weekend was spending it in their holiday home and all the good shit how they got some hot girl blablablah. I should not compare myself to anyone, because for all i know if that's all bullshit and in reality they are suffering inside and even if not so what i still should not compare myself to anyone, fuck everybody else and their perfect happy motherfucking lives, i live my life with this body and personality that i have, so what if i'm not the most social and outgoing person out there.
True
I relate to this so much
Good stuff, just wrote in my journal today on this issue. Great explanation.
Love the Green Lantern!
Yes for goodness sake, stop following the wrong blueprint. Your blueprint was tailor made just for you. And thank you once again Sir for focusing me to call out my own b.s.
Thank you so much. A huge necessity. again thanks.
By the way I read the book, I love it. Easy to read, no artifice. Right from the heart. Tore through it in a few sittings.
Love & gratitude
+Randie Sullivan lol, the story of the beginnings of this life. Seems like ages ago now. So glad you enjoyed it! If you can, I'd love it if you posted your thoughts of the book on the Amazon page. :)
I'm always insecure about my physical appearance/how I look, belittling myself and capabilities and want to end these because I'm tired of it.
you changed my life man.
I keep coming back to watch this video mate it really helps out! 👍
wow this guy doesn't even know me, but knows my whole psyche....tf i am scared 🤔
Wow you're fine.
All due respect, all im hearing is that I should deny reality
No. Deny your projections of reality to truly experience reality
This video has saved my life.
Glad to keep you around!
Thx man ur really wise u like my own home counsler... I liked n subscribe much love man keep up the work...
Sometimes I feel like I look great, in the mirror it doesn't look that bad. But then i fix the lighting and you can see every imperfection in my skin. I take my phone and my nose looks giant.... I hate it. I can't help but feel miserable. I've been watching these types of videos for so long just to get out of it but my mind just won't allow me to feel beautiful.... but i mean, it's not easy if even other people start telling you you're ugly... I am suffering everyday and I just ignore it like it's nothing. I know I'm just a bother, but do you know how to fix this mess?
I can totally relate to everything you said. What if other people have made negative comments on my body? That's really what has made me so insecure. Comments from my own family.
Thanks Jason
Thank you
I am so ugly
Suffering is good. I don't know any other way than to be suffering of I'm not suffering I'm miserable.
I think I look great in the mirror ... until I see a photo of myself and I look completely different. It's effecting my daily life and I'm tired of comparing myself to my sibling and best friends : ( .
I feel ashamed that I didn't take care of my skin since young and now I am too tired to do anything to make myself lose weight. Muscle joint n nerve pain. I feel angry with myself. I can't see myself in a picture or video I feel disgusted with the way I look because it's like I didn't put in effort to make myself look more normal. I wish to know how can I have acceptance of myself just the way I am.
thanks a lot dear you helped me a lot
Hii
Very helpful. Thank you.
4.33 that statement is something ive understood myself, and acts as a compass/guide in life. "if ur suffering, you don't know the truth about something......... somethings amiss." Which means you need to know something more about that situation.
Powerful video
thanks🥰🥰🥰😉
I hate the way I look because of how people react to me in public.I have a round wide face and strong jaw with a big head,big nose,big lips and droopy eyelids.
Kevin Osias, You should watch the video again : )
Lmao
That's all the case of perspective for sure, but how would you deal with the reality of that? For instance, my appearance is less attractive for women compared to say ... a supermodel's one. This is a plain fact in my population, society, world part etc. I'm pleased with the fact that i can be the most handsome man in say Papua New Guinea of Bhutan or some other place on earth. But in my society I'm just a barely avarege looking guy. How the hell should I deal with or accept the fact that I'm inferior to that supermodel?
What about childhood trauma? If your parents were not accepting your body when you were 5/6 years old...can you still say that you "chose" to believe then that your body was fat/wrong? Thank you.
+Amour yes although you are not conscious of that choice. We choose to believe what is told to us. Sometimes we believe things which are accurate and sometimes not so much. Through deep introspection you can discern one from the other.
Thank you Jason for your comment.
I understand that now as "adults" we can choose not to believe it even though it can be challenging. I don't know though how children can choose to believe this or that. When children are growing up, they need their parents' love in order to love themselves. However, in dysfunctional families where they are sexually, physically and emotionally abused (shamed and more) that need is not met therefore children are deeply wounded. Children need security and healthy modelling of emotions in order to understand their own inner signals. They also need help in separating their thoughts from their feelings. But in these families, where there isn't a healthy inner life model, children therefore are trying to find fulfilment on the outside. As their needs as children haven't been met, their true self couldn't emerge. That's why we also talk about "the spiritual wound, loss of IAmness."
What are your thoughts on this Jason?
I feel you
Dear Jason thank you for the video. I know this video was made some time ago but im wondering if you could follow up on the specific issue of anxiety over not looking the way I used to look.
I had a surgery that I did to remove this big bump inside my lip, but it ended up messing up one outside part of my lip so that one side looks much scarred/thin than the normal side. I can't help but feel trauma and regret over deciding to do the surgery and feeling like I look worse than before.
Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you!
so why does it feel good when you see yourself in a taller photo or a better faceshape .why we have problems with our face like too much facial hairs or dark hair or etc
Thank you ❤
Great message. I needed this. Thank you. :-)
***** truth is always a healing balm to the wounds of the soul. :)
Great words Jason !!! (:
Candra Esquivel I'm glad they resonate with you. :)
I think people didnt have those kind of problems before mirrors were invented....
u r always so on target. :)
thank you🙏🏻
But what if you weren't born like this but became disfigured because of a surgery? How to accept it?
You have no choice. Once that’s realized then peace is possible
This is the hardest level in my supposedly first life and I'm supposed to get it right on the first try ?
Sorry to discuss that. Any place you be your appearence will be at some acceptance level compared to anothers. There is no difference. Its most usefull to use the worst case senario and considering that im not living another time and no llonger going to change the place were i live. the game never changes in fact and im inside it.
what if you are deformed and odd looking, and people don't want to be seen with you, especially around popular people....
Yeah, you still have no choice but to find the love in it. It's still the same. You have an idea that it should be different, but what if what you are experiencing is perfection and the rest of the world is the what is NOT. You get my drift. It is a feeling that you're trying to avoid. Allow the feeling to collapse back into you and watch how love and acceptance surface from there. :)
thank you....I like your videos
How do I believe in myself?
I still need tools to tackle this forever going judgment problem I suffer from. I don’t know HOW to change me thought pattern. Yes, my looks and my body may be seen completely differently in an another time and age, but that doesn’t help me now. Sorry 😔 xx
Look at pranayama. It’s life changing
Yo but i am most definately ugly because i know it, everyone at school says so, therefore its true, nothing i can do about it
I bet you are not ugly and those people that say that you are ugly are the ugly ones.
@@cliffkonkle3467 Meh, I'm OK with being ugly, like drax said in guardians of the galaxy "when your ugly you know somone loves you for you, beautiful people never know who to trust"
I hate my Double chin i don't even look at the mirror
Hey,i am not a native english so abit problem for comprehension i wish you speak slowly in next video,in addition,i like your videos i believe they encourage me to become free and find my real personality
Thx
I hate how I look because most guys want big ass and flat stomach and I am pretty much flat and uneven.. I kinda like my face but not in pictures so idk
Not all guys, small ass are nice too i think! I'm telling this as a guy
well atleast your body is something you can change like working out
What if you feel ok with yourself but other people treat you like your less than