Rethinking Godly Sexuality in Your Marriage (Part 1) - Dr. Juli Slattery

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  • Опубліковано 28 сер 2024
  • Far too many Christian married couples live with a secret shame and frustration - their sexual relationship is not meeting their perceived needs or expectations. Unfortunately, they more focused on the mechanics of their sexual activity and have no vision for God’s greater design of their intimacy with each other or with Him. Few couples have ever prayed about their sexual relationship and may feel like God and their sexuality are disconnected. Dr. Juli Slattery recognizes that many couples a poor foundation for understanding God’s design for intimacy - that our sexual relationship is a metaphor for the intimacy God longs to have with each one of us. Therefore, God is very interested in our sexuality and, in fact, designed sex for our pleasure. Juli encourages married couples to have “convanent love” rather than contractual love. Just as God created an everlasting covenant with us, husbands and wives are supposed to pursue covenant love with each other. Juli described 4 “pillars” of this love - (1) faithfulness, (2) intimate knowing, (3) sacrificial love, and (4) celebration. Throughout the interview Juli shared stories from her marriage to Mike, describing how they struggled to experience true a meaningful intimacy in their marriage for 15 years.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 44

  • @laurenshannon2703
    @laurenshannon2703 2 роки тому +28

    Grateful for God's Word concerning our sexualité. I was a mess coming into the Kingdom but the Word was unflinchingly demanding exclusivity and availability. I'm so grateful for the truth of Covenant requiring our all. There were lean years, but 40 years in, it's a sweet sweet place of freedom and joy. All is grace in Christ.

    • @tulikakundu8774
      @tulikakundu8774 Рік тому

      That conveys a sense of great hope for me. Thank you for this.

  • @hephzibah4675
    @hephzibah4675 Рік тому +31

    It's very important topic. I just wish it would be more detailed and informative, rather than discussion that goes in circles. For instance, how to get out of place of trauma and brokeness, and what is healthy and what not. Maybe book breaks down the subject a bit better.

    • @focusonthefamily
      @focusonthefamily  Рік тому +9

      Hello, friend. If this is a personal situation you’re facing, we invite you to call and talk with one of our Christian counselors who are available to offer encouragement and guidance. Simply call 1-855-771-HELP (4357) weekdays between 6:00 A.M. and 8:00 P.M. (MT). The Family Help Center staff member who answers the phone will take your number and make arrangements for a counselor to call you back. One of them will be in touch just as soon as they’re able. May God provide you with the guidance and direction you're seeking.

  • @bobwishart8780
    @bobwishart8780 2 роки тому +19

    Such a difficult subject to discuss in public yet What wisdom this lovely lady has….she presents the subject with such decorum….as someone now in later life l can’t help but salute you.

    • @rickfrenzy9556
      @rickfrenzy9556 2 роки тому

      Difficult to express when you’re unsexy and repressed

  • @annabanzon313
    @annabanzon313 Рік тому +13

    Great topic. I said no to a lot of men as a single mom waiting for marriage. Now that I'm married, I'm facing challenges I never anticipated in my wildest imaginations!

    • @Fragrancegarden
      @Fragrancegarden Рік тому +3

      Hugs and prayers. Me in similar situation of your past!

    • @kingsleylocke6116
      @kingsleylocke6116 Рік тому +4

      Also there is another book, The 5 Love Languages by Dr Gary Chapman that helped us a lot!

    • @annabanzon313
      @annabanzon313 Рік тому

      @@kingsleylocke6116 it's very famous, I'll try to finally read it!

    • @FB.RocksannROUW
      @FB.RocksannROUW Рік тому +1

      @Kingsley Locke that book is Amazing. So tired of man 😪 just under the blanket and no sensuality, foreplay, or laughs....but his needs are first... what the heck.

    • @ericpandorf1884
      @ericpandorf1884 Рік тому +5

      @@FB.RocksannROUW it’s quite probable that you are sitting on the sidelines waiting for things to happen for you. I think of like playing a game of paddle ball. One person has all the pressure of keeping the ball in play and is also getting all the action. The other person is just standing there waiting to play. Play is the key word here. Play=Fun

  • @deet7986
    @deet7986 2 роки тому +22

    Really appreciated this discussion so open and honest about this subject.
    Thank you Holy Spirit !!

  • @Jesusluvsmeandyou
    @Jesusluvsmeandyou 2 роки тому +11

    I love Juli’s podcast! It’s so interesting watching her speak when I’m so used to listening lol. Thank you FONF for having her on! ♥️

  • @user-dw1of6kx3s
    @user-dw1of6kx3s 2 роки тому +8

    Thank you for teaching on this, in this way. I'm looking forward to future episodes.

  • @traceyburroughs1111
    @traceyburroughs1111 2 роки тому +11

    Tracey Burroughs from South Africa 🇿🇦 watching your episode

    • @focusonthefamily
      @focusonthefamily  2 роки тому +4

      It's great to know that you listen to us all the way from South Africa, Tracey! We hope you are blessed by the broadcast. Please don't hesitate to reach out if we may be of help in any way. Blessings to you and your family!

    • @volia-louisecoetzee733
      @volia-louisecoetzee733 Рік тому

      Thank you Tracey, I am listening and also from South Africa.
      How can we reach out to Focus on the Family , if we need advice or help please?
      Thank you.

    • @focusonthefamily
      @focusonthefamily  Рік тому

      Hi, Volia-Louise! We encourage you to contact our associate office in South Africa by visiting their website: www.safamily.co.za. Blessings!

  • @jessyjonas4988
    @jessyjonas4988 2 роки тому +27

    We are all broken sexually
    Doesn’t matter if you waited until marriage
    We have all sinned and fallen short
    This is a great take away
    Thanks Julie + thanks FOTF

  • @jessyjonas4988
    @jessyjonas4988 2 роки тому +3

    A marriage based on
    FAITHFULNESS + CHARACTER

  • @L.C._2012
    @L.C._2012 2 роки тому +6

    Such a great video with so much truth.

  • @lilyflower1168
    @lilyflower1168 Рік тому +20

    It would be nice if more godly men existed so women don't have to be treated like objects. Morals are ever in decline!!

    • @Mr3kiwis
      @Mr3kiwis Рік тому

      I really do think that the devil is behind the messages in television programs, movies, and books that portrays men as constitutionally self-seeking in this regard and essentially incapable of being pure. There are *many* Godly men out there; don't let the Father of Lies fool you into thinking otherwise. It's just another wound that he can use to drive a wedge between spouses if the wife has lingering, perhaps subconscious, fears that her husband might be objecrifying her.

  • @michelleross6769
    @michelleross6769 Рік тому

    I also love The Penners who have been on Focus before. Lots of details and help with their writings too.

  • @pauldoddy9714
    @pauldoddy9714 2 роки тому +2

    Great message! Thanks!

  • @krisstrombeck
    @krisstrombeck Рік тому

    Greatly needed this. Thank you.

  • @marthacahalan6935
    @marthacahalan6935 2 роки тому +5

    Theology of The Body JP2

  • @sunnyelizabeth2910
    @sunnyelizabeth2910 10 місяців тому

    So right on..thank you!

  • @DSTADAV
    @DSTADAV Рік тому +6

    Appreciate this content, but let the guest speak more.

  • @melissaojala855
    @melissaojala855 2 роки тому +3

    On target! What we've discovered.

  • @jessyjonas4988
    @jessyjonas4988 2 роки тому

    Hey you🙋

  • @maryfinley8442
    @maryfinley8442 Рік тому +3

    Feels like beating around the bush. I have no idea what the problem is here.

    • @hedgemist691
      @hedgemist691 Рік тому

      Exactly. Why use 20 words when you can use 200? For some, there isn't really a problem, but boy do they like to create them. Listening to this sort of thing makes my head spin.

  • @ticousa
    @ticousa Рік тому +2

    We need help, thank you much .🙏🏼

    • @focusonthefamily
      @focusonthefamily  Рік тому

      Hello, friend! While we're unsure about the assistance you're seeking, if you're in the U.S., please call 855-771-HELP (4357), weekdays between 6 A.M. and 8 P.M. (MT). The Family Help Center staff member who answers the phone will take your number and make arrangements for one of our professional counselors to call you back as soon as they're able. Blessings!

  • @smithaday9225
    @smithaday9225 2 роки тому +3

    Do you have counselors from different ethnicities

    • @mchristr
      @mchristr Рік тому +3

      I’m wondering why that matters. Every human being has the same essential design and needs. Compassion and grace transcend all ethnicities and cultures.

    • @smithaday9225
      @smithaday9225 Рік тому +6

      @@mchristr no it's important to have a understanding of being on to culture and others views on life. It does help

  • @brentgreiner2607
    @brentgreiner2607 Рік тому

    How do I contact a Focus on the family counselor?

    • @williammoseriv4781
      @williammoseriv4781 Рік тому

      Its in the comments above, FOTF replied to someone asking about trauma and brokenness. 😊

  • @lyndaleona4819
    @lyndaleona4819 Рік тому

    Im crazy bc of ernie

  • @lizwinters7062
    @lizwinters7062 2 роки тому

    Thanks for the topic! Please hear the gospel message everyone! Jesus is our only hope for freedom and Salvation! Ray Comfort has FREE movies and interviews on UA-cam with the gospel

  • @boomer1049
    @boomer1049 Рік тому +1

    One position in the head and in the bed brings a lot of dread!