I think a bit of a game analogy is in order here: A lot of games and their "progression" happens because of their inciting incident (the floor is made of floor); You become the hero, you get shot in the head, etc... These stories and experiences take a comparatively short amount of time compared to real life, and it's because your game character literally gives up petty distractions or pleasantries to focus on their goals: "Who shot me?" or "Wait, I have a higher calling?" Are you worried about playing every Arcade game in Cyberpunk? Eating every piece of junk in your inventory? No. Are you sleeping more than you have to? No, you're doing the bare minimum to get the best possible XP results from it. Are you sitting in your apartment/bedroom, rotting away on your computer or watching meaningless TV? Not often enough for it to become a detriment to you. Take some of that effort and initiative you put into video games and apply it to life.
The thing is life is pain, you can't avoid pain in any way, you have to feel your emotions, but you choose your own suffering. If you let go of your emotions by changing yourself, you let go of suffering and grow out from it. A great reminder video!
Courage is not the absence of fear but the triumph over it,” as Mandela noted. Stepping into the person you're afraid to become is where growth begins. Your fears are the compass guiding you to your true self. Embrace them and watch transformation unfold.
Fantastic way of expressing the idea of three versions of ourselves, and how we choose which we will become. Great content and i look forward to more. I am glad you got out of your shell! i am still working on that one. for now.
Being young i always was a weak person, i was very very vulnerable. I couldn't get mad, and i'd get hurt easily and in turn that made me weak, and people took advantage of my weakness because they knew i couldn't do anything about it. I would endlessly scroll on the internet trying to find how to stop being a victim, how to be more stoic. But when Social situations come i get put to base weakness, and i smile and laugh alot. I act nervous and shy, most importantly naive... But there was a demon, a black dark feeling in me that wanted to emerge from chest, it wanted change it wanted to wake up. Something in me wanted to lose everything so i had nothing to fear of losing. And essentially become mentally invincible, since there was nothing holding me back. But i'm scared that i'll be alone or get hurt if i do something stupid to my enemies, and i keep waiting for them to do something to me in order for me to do something back to them. But that strategy always led to me being a hypocrite and getting hurt anyways. I want to snap and lose the pain and become a violent monster who fears nothing and become aggressive in my life goals, and always force respect towards me. I want to be the best version of myself, a beast..
What you just described is a weaker version of you operating based on it's emotions. You can't force respect in others, you need to earn it. Do the hard work, stand your ground and stand by your values, get better, and they will respect you.
you can change the way you react to thangs but you will never change the bullshit getting thrown your way work silently and let your hard work speek up for your success
thanks man i moved to a diffrent state when i turned 18 a and im 21 now and life could not be "better" my time is spent on a dream and the dream doesnt generate alot of money but gods had my back :)god will show you that purpose you were meant for if you decided to get back up when your knocked down and for my dream of training colts meant literally. god had a funny but humble way of reaching you. anytime i didnt have enough money for food there would be a door of opportunity to not be hungry really helped me see what really matters in my life and thats family, food, and DRIVE!!!!!! never doubt yourself. keep on keeping on
Capitalize the G in God. Other than that, good to see. I'm 23 and though I'm doing well, I can still do better. You got an earlier start than most. Take advantage of that.
This video helped me more than I can express. I saw it and clicked. I wasn't expecting much, but I started watching nonetheless because I feel stuck. Hearing what you said, especially at the beginning... I feel so extremely seen. I wanted to thank you. I have spurts of motivation that are quickly fleeting, but this video made me want to try again tomorrow, and the following days after. I'll definitely be watching this video tomorrow morning as a reminder. Thank you:)
"The only person you can ever count on is yourself" is a horrible idea to live by. Having independence and capability on your own is great and admirable and necessary in many situations, but that saying is at an unhealthy extreme. People need people. We need community. We're so so so much better when we have healthy supportive community
just one thing to note about the shadow self, the shadow self isn't to be seen as a dark self but rather purely everything about yourself that you don't like no matter what it is. if you suck at math and you don't like feeling like you do, your shadow self may convince you not to take anything higher than basic stuff because if you learn other things, you'll realise how "bad" you are at math and have to sit with that feeling. but of course, that's never the right solution.
Great video. I just entered the 9th grade (I'm 14) and I have one friend in the class and one sort of friend who is sometimes really annoying, tho he gets bullied a lot and I kinda just always get stuck with him. I feel bad saying this, since before he came into our class, I was the one getting bullied quite a lot since I and my friends are the only "introverts" in the class. I have a few "friends" in the class, who I sometimes talk to, thouhg it doesn't seem to me that they really care too much about me. Since I always feel like I don't fit in anywhere, I'm kinda just stuck with this inner dilema hauntng me everyday, between staying the way I am (even tho I do want to have more friends and I do want to live life more, not just staying in the shadows all of my life) and actually trying to become more of their friend, even though that seems currently impossible, since I don't think that they'll ever accept me. Also if I was alone in the class, I might have done it a long time ago, but because of me having one good (also introverted friend) and plus being know for being friends with this one boy who just acts like a random gen alpha kid, watching stupid youtube videos, I always have this fear of losing their friendship and then being looked at as someone even worse than I am right now, because of all the things I would have lost. Sometimes I feel like they aren't even worth it, though then, when we were on a school trip in nature (like 4 days) I really got to be more with my class mates and one of my highest moments (to be honest It brings me even now 4 months later a smile on my face even just thinking about it) was when got a sick pass from one of my girl classmates, and ended up scoring a goal from around half the field (a much smaller field tho) and I for the first time felt actually happy and it was just amazing getting a dap from a girl I like (I'm definetly not looking for a romantic relationship right now, I just want to get more friend to live better memories with). We then went to do like a rlly low budget disco (more like a danceparty) and even tho there wasn't really music I like or music that I'd listen to, when I finally let my naive self (thinking I'm too smart to do these acivities like listening to these bad pop and hiphop song, I'd call some of them braindead songs) I actually felt amazing and I was really fulfilled. I still think I would have enjoyed it more without my smart introverted friend, since I didn't really want to "admit" to him to "liking" those bad songs, but I enjoyed it quite a lot. I think he didn't really enjoy it too much, because he chose to keep his "self-esteem" rather then having fun. So basicly right now I'm torn apart between keeping my self-esteem and behaving like a good behaving smart kid being "accepted" by society, or going out there and doing some crazy shit and having fun, while loosing my "self-esteem and behaving like a good smart kid". This inner conlict has been haunting me for a while now and I really don't know what to do. I'm too shy and hesitant to talk about this with anybody in real life, so I left this comment here hoping that you would read it and give me some advice about this problem of mine from an adults perspective. Thank you in advance.
I think a bit of a game analogy is in order here:
A lot of games and their "progression" happens because of their inciting incident (the floor is made of floor); You become the hero, you get shot in the head, etc... These stories and experiences take a comparatively short amount of time compared to real life, and it's because your game character literally gives up petty distractions or pleasantries to focus on their goals: "Who shot me?" or "Wait, I have a higher calling?"
Are you worried about playing every Arcade game in Cyberpunk? Eating every piece of junk in your inventory? No.
Are you sleeping more than you have to? No, you're doing the bare minimum to get the best possible XP results from it.
Are you sitting in your apartment/bedroom, rotting away on your computer or watching meaningless TV? Not often enough for it to become a detriment to you.
Take some of that effort and initiative you put into video games and apply it to life.
great analogy
The thing is life is pain, you can't avoid pain in any way, you have to feel your emotions, but you choose your own suffering. If you let go of your emotions by changing yourself, you let go of suffering and grow out from it. A great reminder video!
I need to hear this message everyday.. EVERY day.. Thanks for making this.
Courage is not the absence of fear but the triumph over it,” as Mandela noted.
Stepping into the person you're afraid to become is where growth begins. Your fears are the compass guiding you to your true self.
Embrace them and watch transformation unfold.
Fantastic way of expressing the idea of three versions of ourselves, and how we choose which we will become. Great content and i look forward to more. I am glad you got out of your shell! i am still working on that one. for now.
From the heart.
Well explained.
Great video.
Being young i always was a weak person, i was very very vulnerable. I couldn't get mad, and i'd get hurt easily and in turn that made me weak, and people took advantage of my weakness because they knew i couldn't do anything about it. I would endlessly scroll on the internet trying to find how to stop being a victim, how to be more stoic. But when Social situations come i get put to base weakness, and i smile and laugh alot. I act nervous and shy, most importantly naive...
But there was a demon, a black dark feeling in me that wanted to emerge from chest, it wanted change it wanted to wake up. Something in me wanted to lose everything so i had nothing to fear of losing. And essentially become mentally invincible, since there was nothing holding me back. But i'm scared that i'll be alone or get hurt if i do something stupid to my enemies, and i keep waiting for them to do something to me in order for me to do something back to them. But that strategy always led to me being a hypocrite and getting hurt anyways. I want to snap and lose the pain and become a violent monster who fears nothing and become aggressive in my life goals, and always force respect towards me. I want to be the best version of myself, a beast..
What you just described is a weaker version of you operating based on it's emotions. You can't force respect in others, you need to earn it. Do the hard work, stand your ground and stand by your values, get better, and they will respect you.
you can change the way you react to thangs but you will never change the bullshit getting thrown your way work silently and let your hard work speek up for your success
thanks man i moved to a diffrent state when i turned 18 a and im 21 now and life could not be "better" my time is spent on a dream and the dream doesnt generate alot of money but gods had my back :)god will show you that purpose you were meant for if you decided to get back up when your knocked down and for my dream of training colts meant literally. god had a funny but humble way of reaching you. anytime i didnt have enough money for food there would be a door of opportunity to not be hungry really helped me see what really matters in my life and thats family, food, and DRIVE!!!!!! never doubt yourself. keep on keeping on
Capitalize the G in God. Other than that, good to see. I'm 23 and though I'm doing well, I can still do better. You got an earlier start than most. Take advantage of that.
This video helped me more than I can express. I saw it and clicked. I wasn't expecting much, but I started watching nonetheless because I feel stuck. Hearing what you said, especially at the beginning... I feel so extremely seen. I wanted to thank you. I have spurts of motivation that are quickly fleeting, but this video made me want to try again tomorrow, and the following days after. I'll definitely be watching this video tomorrow morning as a reminder. Thank you:)
So glad it helped :)
Dude this scared me shitless and may have actually changed my trajectory. Thank you.
High quality content man, i thought you were one of those big channels, keep it up man
I really appreciate that, thank you
i fear wasting my potential by tapping into it earlier than i should.
I don't want to change ❤
thank you❤ God is good, jesus loves you! just let him in ur heart
Nice video. Important topic.
Good video, very relevant to my current situation. Thanks for the reminder and motivation.
It felt good to see you.... It came in the right time... I hope you too get all your wildest dreams come true...
Thanks.
I'm interested.
"The only person you can ever count on is yourself" is a horrible idea to live by. Having independence and capability on your own is great and admirable and necessary in many situations, but that saying is at an unhealthy extreme. People need people. We need community. We're so so so much better when we have healthy supportive community
just one thing to note about the shadow self, the shadow self isn't to be seen as a dark self but rather purely everything about yourself that you don't like no matter what it is.
if you suck at math and you don't like feeling like you do, your shadow self may convince you not to take anything higher than basic stuff because if you learn other things, you'll realise how "bad" you are at math and have to sit with that feeling. but of course, that's never the right solution.
Great video. I just entered the 9th grade (I'm 14) and I have one friend in the class and one sort of friend who is sometimes really annoying, tho he gets bullied a lot and I kinda just always get stuck with him. I feel bad saying this, since before he came into our class, I was the one getting bullied quite a lot since I and my friends are the only "introverts" in the class. I have a few "friends" in the class, who I sometimes talk to, thouhg it doesn't seem to me that they really care too much about me. Since I always feel like I don't fit in anywhere, I'm kinda just stuck with this inner dilema hauntng me everyday, between staying the way I am (even tho I do want to have more friends and I do want to live life more, not just staying in the shadows all of my life) and actually trying to become more of their friend, even though that seems currently impossible, since I don't think that they'll ever accept me. Also if I was alone in the class, I might have done it a long time ago, but because of me having one good (also introverted friend) and plus being know for being friends with this one boy who just acts like a random gen alpha kid, watching stupid youtube videos, I always have this fear of losing their friendship and then being looked at as someone even worse than I am right now, because of all the things I would have lost. Sometimes I feel like they aren't even worth it, though then, when we were on a school trip in nature (like 4 days) I really got to be more with my class mates and one of my highest moments (to be honest It brings me even now 4 months later a smile on my face even just thinking about it) was when got a sick pass from one of my girl classmates, and ended up scoring a goal from around half the field (a much smaller field tho) and I for the first time felt actually happy and it was just amazing getting a dap from a girl I like (I'm definetly not looking for a romantic relationship right now, I just want to get more friend to live better memories with). We then went to do like a rlly low budget disco (more like a danceparty) and even tho there wasn't really music I like or music that I'd listen to, when I finally let my naive self (thinking I'm too smart to do these acivities like listening to these bad pop and hiphop song, I'd call some of them braindead songs) I actually felt amazing and I was really fulfilled. I still think I would have enjoyed it more without my smart introverted friend, since I didn't really want to "admit" to him to "liking" those bad songs, but I enjoyed it quite a lot. I think he didn't really enjoy it too much, because he chose to keep his "self-esteem" rather then having fun. So basicly right now I'm torn apart between keeping my self-esteem and behaving like a good behaving smart kid being "accepted" by society, or going out there and doing some crazy shit and having fun, while loosing my "self-esteem and behaving like a good smart kid". This inner conlict has been haunting me for a while now and I really don't know what to do. I'm too shy and hesitant to talk about this with anybody in real life, so I left this comment here hoping that you would read it and give me some advice about this problem of mine from an adults perspective. Thank you in advance.
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I am subbing this is great it resonated with me lmk about the community
Good idea the community. I'm interesed.
great video and a good idea with the community have you made it yet?
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