“ *Nobody is busier than a man that doesn’t want you* .” Ladies don’t tolerate the “I was busy” excuse because if you really are a priority they will make time for you. My ex did that and I did him a favour and walked away from him, changed my number and block and delete on social media . Life is too short to chase after someone who doesn’t want you.
I've been busy is always a red flag. Men make time for what and who is important to them. Don't ever accept that excuse ladies. When a man is truly busy he'll alert you to what's going on in his life then set a firm date to see you in the very near future. Not go ghost then say oh I've been busy.
Candy Girl agree. It's one thing to be busy, but when you choose to not give me heads up that you have seen my texts but you'll talk later, that makes me think I'm not important to you like that.
Absolutely! I understand a guy may be working 10+ hours and is actually busy, but if a guy is not making some kind of arrangements to see you then you’re definitely not a priority to him.
I dealt with this... Then as soon as I fell back, he reeled me back in... Just long enough to get my attention... This went on 3-4 times before I realized I was sick & tired of being sick & tired...
I am so in tune with what you're saying Nikki. After a while, (hopefully a short while), you're just sick and tired, of being sick & tired! Amen to that! Get to steppin' fool, 'cause I just don't have the time to keep wasting it on you! Next! :D
When a man is "too busy" I become even more "busy" to be too busy to even notice his absence, then he comes with the "Hey stranger" ✋ I'm too busy for the b.s.😂 gtfoh
A lot of guys think if they text you constantly, thats enough. Why do I have to feel like I am in a long-distance relationship when we live in the same town?? I dont need a texting buddy, I need your physical presence in my life! Just because you are steady texting me does not mean that I don't realize I am not a priority.
When it comes to the "I've been busy" bs, I just walk away. As far as I'm concerned, he can stay busy with the ones who have been keeping him busy. I no longer care and really DON'T want to hear it.
Kelli Owens yes! And I have learned to not respond back when they call, I get ghost for a few days, then they come knocking your door down...ump, men!!!
This depends. If yes, the attention was much more before, then something has changed. But I've done similar to women simply because I didn't have a set time to offer for a date or I don't get free time to converse until midnight.
Exactly! If a guy can't spend 5 seconds to text " Hi, how are you? I'm thinking about you." Then move on. I found this out after hearing " I'm busy ", " I've been busy", I've been sick", " I'm going to bed, got early day", all while saying how much he loved me, but his lying ass had time to be on Facebook making posts calling other women sexy. That was a " See ya!" moment.
Omg this is so true! And when you call them out on this mess they pretend that you don’t know what you’re talking about or you’re not being understanding to their schedule. The best thing to do is when you see this from a guy is to just run 🏃🏽♀️in the other direction because he’s wasting your precious time.
Mine also said made me promise using God and his sons name that if I ever told people about some messed up things he done in past that something bad will happen to me and my family. He had me repeat those things before he told me and other stuff I dont remember. I didnt keep my exs promises he made me say after he threw me away like trash I decided to mention the truth about him. No real Christian should make another person make promises like that or something bad will happen. Thats sick.
Oh no my freind not good not good did you think of what that actually means when its used O with G word and how does that affect you? What do you think of it will you think of it was it a habit maybe since church teach to not do that well our Lord is sad when we do this my dear freind but we can use it when we give thanks trough and in adoration otherwise its insult to him not because of my self but because of ourself we actually harm our own reasoning which is our Heart hope this made sense
If they 2 busy then they can't maintain a relationship. Instead they shud hire a prostitute 4 when they need Pussy. Instead of hurting sensitive genuine kind women. If they wanna find a marriage partner they need 2 go on a matrimonial site.
you are never too busy for the people you care about...only takes a few seconds to send a text at the very least. ' too busy' = you are not a priority/ I don't care bout u
Depends if the person on the other side is being needy though. Making a specific time to catch up makes for a good way to know that they are important in your life. Technology has made it too easy for people to contact each other and constantly be expecting a reply because the message was read.
You are 100 percent on point !!! Most men I find are not really seeking a relationship they want benefits .... I wish that they would just speak their truth in the beginning ...
Elizabeth Benitez Pineiro if they speak the truth they won't get sex from the women they lust after. They'll know you want a relationship but because they think you're hot they will lie just to hit.
Too bad we couldn't just leave the game players in their own little bubble or some mark of the beast on them so that we can filter through the bull. SMH. I just have friends, no BENEFITS! LOL
Elizabeth Benitez Pineiro keyword men you FIND change your course try a man without twenty thousand woman after him or the guy atleast has no hoes but that's crazy of me to say that right because most men you meet aren't being followed on Instagram or Facebook you date straight aces right. .. . smh.. .. try men with full names like Kevin or Kyle not cray cray or little bae bae
Jay Wreckx even first/last names sometimes are still cray cray. In all honesty tho they may be seeking the same thing but what I find is that there is a lack of maturity... unable to settle with past hurts and not responsible enough to own up to their role in the situation.. No accountability:( oh well next ...
Facts. My ex was like this. He worked a 12 hour shift and made me feel guilty for asking for time. To the point where I barely did. It was a mind game. Now he has alllll the time in the world for his new gf of course
All I got to say is Fuck their A** they need to grow some and be honest with women and stop playing these little games that ppl don’t got the time for! Ladies we are beautiful and we don’t need any loser in our life. Don’t allow them to put you down because of their insecurities!
This video makes me feel uncomfortable because I have been accepting this, but I will say it is what I needed to hear. No one has really told me what to accept and what not to accept so this is a learned lesson for me.
So true. No one tells us that it isn’t right to have a guy come in and out of your life when he feels like it. They just say maybe he “isn’t sure yet”. I’ve been guilty countless times. Never late than never to figure it out 🤗
Finallllyyyyyyyyy you knock the door down specifically on this mess!!!!!!! You’re winning the big brother award of the year! It’s like what to do🤷🏾♀️. #DerrickJaxn
La-Toya I’m just like shield me before anymore damage comes lol. Derrick has been there for me luckily before the growing pains, and he’s right here with me..interpreting this madness lol.
After years of none sense, I pulled his own move on him-went ghost 👻. When those texts messages went unread and calls straight to voicemail, he knew what was up. He didn’t have time for me then. I ain’t making time for him now. Know what you have before it’s what you miss! 💯
Oh I woke up darling :) was with a guy who never put forth any effort, never got to know my family and acted like he hates everyone. Its gonna take a real man to get me. I'm talking to someone right now and for the time being we are just friends but I have standards and will accept nothing less if we start dating 😊
Every since I started following your videos I've felt so much empowerment...not just in relationships but several areas of my life. For the first time I'm recognizing just how important it is to love myself first and foremost. Thank you. #TeamJaxn
Same! It helps me detect BS faster and I feel like I’ve become more intelligent with social communication as a whole. Love Derrick, he’s a blessing 🙌🏻 Not to mention, he’s maybe the only dating coach that doesn’t entirely blame women for everything! Some men are assholes and it’s not our fault or responsibility to change it. It’s only our responsibility to REALIZE 🙌🏻
This is so true and I had to learn this the hard way in 2017. Thank God for your informational videos that taught me better!! Now, I'm dating someone new that makes me a priority and wow what a difference it makes! When you know better, you do better! #TeamJaxn #Winning #BrightFuture #2018
Jeanine Mack Hi and I agree with you!! I had to learn the hard way after being with a guy a couple of years . Seems as though I had to make all of the plans, trips, and etc later on in the relationship.. I have learned a great deal. As women we have to value ourselves and know that someone will do what the other one would not and it is called a " grown man"!!
For 2018...I will stay single to focus on my life, my school, and do things I enjoy and will NOT let no men waste my time or play with emotions or play games. AINT NOBODY GOT TIME FOR THAT! I will not give no men my phone number...Nada...so that I would not have to stress over whether he likes me or not. Any men who plays games, is a ghost, or whatever will get NO response from me again. Smh
Their actions always speak how they really feel about you. Most men don't know how to break up with a women, they are immature and messy with the situation. Age has nothing to do with maturity. Some have character some don't. Some men know how to love. Some don't possess these life skills. We are unique individuals apart from one another.
This totally happened to me. He was always “busy” and I had to play by his rules and be convenient for him. He knew exactly what to say to keep me on a very long leash. She kept promising me commitment when “this” happened or “that” happened. I constantly kept giving more energy to our situationship than he ever did. He used me and when I called him out on his shit, he blocked me. Sometimes you can’t see the BS when you have rose colored glasses on. Truth.
Thanks for the words of wisdom. My new male friend went ghost 4 days prior to Valentine's Day. Lol.... He text today as if nothing was wrong and attempted to suggested that we start over. Hmmm.... I informed him that we never began and therefore, there's nothing to start over. SMDH....
You always bring the word. I'm following your advice. No man is that damn busy!!! Do they ever consider, women are busy too. We prioritize our time. Your videos encouraged me to cut some too busy, indecisive, refuse to communicate, and committ dudes. Can't do it!!!You said it's lonley when you have standards. You never lied, but I cuddle with my self-respect and dignity. May God continue to bless, and prosper you this New Year🙌
Mine also said made me promise using God and his sons name that if I ever told people about some messed up things he done in past that something bad will happen to me and my family. He had me repeat those things before he told me and other stuff I dont remember. I didnt keep my exs promises he made me say after he threw me away like trash I decided to mention the truth about him. No real Christian should make another person make promises like that or something bad will happen. Thats sick.
So true.. I'm dealing with that now. I'm ready to just walk away.. I love him but no more excuses. When he is less busy then maybe just maybe my schedule will permit a conversation.
Just dropped a guy for this reason 🙌 Thanks for letting me know I was right to be done, even if he’s a good guy. We all deserve someone who makes us a priority!
Not gonna settle ever for side chick shit!! I know what I bring to the table and I’m not afraid to eat alone until I can find someone to come to table with me😀Thanks for the video!
Facts!!! There's no other way around that. You may find yourself wanting that relationship more than him but if he's calling and texting when it's convenient for him then ya have to move on
Your videos are so spot on! If he's not making time for you, he don't want you...men who want something, put forth the effort, and go after it! Nobody is THAT busy they can't send a 3 second text message at the very least!
Aariyan096. I wouldn't know because I've sent the text already and changed my number....I sent a text of how I felt, mentioning the times he had an excuse, then I quickly changed my number to let go/detach. I opted for a sending a text, to reciprocate the same level of respect/time he had for me. Anyway, I don't know if he called or texted back because I changed my number quickly. Luckily I moved the guy who didn't have time for me out the way and I'm with an older man who is creative enough to hv our weekends planned. I don't guys my age, I date guys 15 years+, to reduce (not eliminate) bs that a lot of women are going through nowadays.
Mount Rocsi-Anne Oh wow I can understand. When you date someone 3 years older, you think that’s enough but I guess not. I can’t with these dudes because these games really play with our emotions and self-esteem. I wish there was a way I could block but still get notifications. I heard there was a way but I’m not sure how..
Get out of my head. On love, I just gave a friend his walking papers for this exact reason this morning. Feels good to know a man acknowledges the BS we go through. ✌❤ #TeamJackson 4 life
This just smacked me in the face. This is so true. A man who wants you will make time and make a spot for you in his schedule. I am so glad I broke up with him. He just made me feel less than worthy
Every time u put out a new video it speaks my life. I love this! It makes me smarter and waste less time when dealing with men. I swear you have a window into my life.
and, i am going to take this knowledge, not just for a relationship between a man, and a woman, but for all relationships. ie. family, friends etc.💯 #teamJaxn
This is RIGHT ON TIME! Thank You for always keeping it 💯. You continue to challenge us women to be honest about our relationships and to STOP settling for anything less that what we deserve!
God Bless you, honey! You're right on point as always. I lived that exact life for almost 7 years, so grateful I no longer do. Merry Christmas to you & yours! ♡ from TX
Peace.. Right once again. I agree people make time for who and what they want. Never too busy to love the one you rocking wit. Its become the norm to be a convience smh!!
please Derrick know that.I broke up with the guy I was interested in for 3 YEARS because of him literally saying "I know it sounds bad but I want you to change" (after me bending over backwards to be the best me for him and care for him) Because the universe sent your UA-cam videos to me at that very same time. It helps educate me on so many red flags and what I shouldn't tolerate. It's a sign I'm not going ignore. PLEASE keep doing these videos. I am young and inexperienced and yes I have let these "men" take advantage of my naivety and trusting nature. Your advice is like from an older brother. PLEASE know that you have changed my life.
#TRUTH! Love your channel! I can't believe on a daily what stuff women put up with. I share your messages with all my friends that are going around in circles with fools. I've never had a man choose everything else over me! I've been in couple long distance relationships. One where he and I were flying across the Atlantic on the regular, on his nickel to keep things going! I am married now, my husband and I have been together pretty much every day and night since we met almost 11 years ago. You say the same things that I do,but it resonates more coming from a man!
Since I've been watching your videos it has shine a light on myself and the men I've tolerated! Thank You for your Gift!! Going forward No More BS in My Life!!
Thank you!!! God bless you and your family!! Honestly it's such a blessing to come across a bold, honest, intelligent speaker who speaks his mind about the truth others are scared to express. So many UA-cam dating coaches for women keep making videos on "how to keep a guy interested" or "how to get him to text back" or "how to make him take you seriously" and wow I am so sick and tired of those youtubers because the fact of the matter is that they don't respect women and their integrity!! They don't value women and with their videos they keep women stuck at low vibration low self esteem behaviors that keep them stuck in those toxic situations!!! I am so happy that you say it like it is with no sugar coating and with such honesty and blunt truth, I have so much respect and admiration for you!!! Please make more UA-cam videos because I can't get enough!!! Merry Christmas and happy new year to you & your family.
rachel addams agreed!!! What is not helping us women is this modern culture and dating coaches trying to relay the message that we need to be the ones keeping the guy interested, or we need to give them space so they don't freak out, or we need to be on our toes to keep a guy!!! That's all bs! And this gentleman Derrick Jaxn has the courage to stand up against that bad call it out like it is!!! Every woman deserves what he talks about and like he says there are men who are willing to be upfront, honest, no games, and know what they want and we must have faith we will meet that type 🙏🏻🙏🏻 merry Christmas
Roza M - So true, I’m tired of playing games. Why can’t we just tell it how it is? Honestly means nothing these days. It’s about keeping it “cool”. I don’t have time to waste 🤣 Merry Christmas to you too 🌟🌟🌟
rachel addams Right 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 see we got to play a game as well Sad but tru...cus see jus like wen u N that so called committed relationship don't get rid of past lovers or new lovers until he put a Ring on it..cus see that's wat i didn't do..i was acting Loyal as if I WAS MARRIED 😒 as for him he kept his side pieces and never Stop shopping for women while N a relationship..i mean he was smart...lol and my ass wasn't cus I thut I was n luv and he luv' s me...yeah right 😒 but I so learned that never give a man 💯% til he put a Ring on it Ladies..
+rachel addams It's true they never feel any remorse or guilt Even if they ain't cheating trust me All men talk to a maximum of 20 females..... That's why I personally think women should be selfish. .....Growing up, Little girls are taught that it is a bad trait All part of society's propaganda to keep us low. Girls need to start being selfish.
THANK YOU FOR THIS!!! Just met a man who was talkative the first day via text then ghosted the next 2 days. I messaged him and that’s when we started talking, then ghosted again, this time I was like bye Felicia! Now he’s all up in my warm hole incessantly texting when I do not reply but seeing that I read the message. This ship has sailed..... THEN I stumbled upon this video! Thank you 🙏
I just told this dude the same thing 3 days ago!!! You are so on point!!! He claims he wants a relationship but goes ghost! Thank you for confirming everything I said to him! I haven't dated in 4 years by choice. I know my worth and I am a Queen who deserves better than that! Keep using your gift to bless people! You are amazing!!!
No I agree listen if you don’t have time for me then say so and let me go. Don’t try to keep me around just because. I’m tooooooooo grown for that. I don’t have time for place holding like it’s a parking spot you have been waiting on. Oh hell no I don’t think so. I’m ok with you being too busy for relationship. I’m good it just means time to move on from you.
I have been in this situation and I decided to cut him off completely, then he started trying to make time for me again. no thank you, sometimes they really aren't worth your time at all. love your videos!
Thank, Thank, Thank you! Ive been waiting for this one. Real and Raw as usual. But this one hit home....I wasnt made a priority and I felt that. We're not even in a relationship; its the early stages of "getting to know you" and is already showing me who he is. He put work before us, and doesn't make time for us. I appreciate your videos very much!
Joseph Hughes Thank you and I appreciate your feedback. Merry Christmas & Happy New Year. Ive always heard that a man goes after what he wants. I see this guy is too laid back in his attempts. Has yet to make a plan for us. It's emotionally draining to wonder what he's doing, if he cares, if he's thinking of me the way I think of him. I can't and won't give any more of my time & energy. Thank you!
Thank you. I needed to hear this and today to validate my own intuition in calling off a potential disaster. You're damn right and deep down this actually all makes sense emotionally and mentally. Now to sustaining my peace of mind 😌
Truth Derrick! I experienced that recently and I told him i am tired of his excuses and I am over it. I stopped messaging, planning dates and etc. I have since then moved on and being treated like the Queen that i am.
I never knew. I always gave "him" (obviously Ive been victim multiple times) the benefit of the doubt. Im SUPER busy and get it, but always put shit aside. It never dawned on me. Thank you for helping me crawl out of the naive box. Now, that I learn from you Ive saved myself from MUCH game. Im now finding these men are getting pissed and act offended when you diplomatically call them out or tell them no thank you. I dont have time to be put down and disrespected because I see through you and called your bluff.
Wow you are a very wise man. God BLESS you. My daughter is going through this and I told her love is shared and when she gets tired if being sick and tired Move on
“ *Nobody is busier than a man that doesn’t want you* .”
Ladies don’t tolerate the “I was busy” excuse because if you really are a priority they will make time for you. My ex did that and I did him a favour and walked away from him, changed my number and block and delete on social media . Life is too short to chase after someone who doesn’t want you.
ypm 123 Wow sis I have been through this and want tolerate it anymore, We know our worth!! 😉
Amen to this response @ypm 123
Did he come back with that “I’ve been busy” excuse once more?
Amen
ypm 123 😹😹😹” lma call you back l need to open the fridge “
Exactly 🙄 they spend time on what they want.
stacey chance
They have the time for their side women but not the one they are with....I experienced this as a wife!
stacey chance and with who they want 😞
I've been busy is always a red flag. Men make time for what and who is important to them. Don't ever accept that excuse ladies. When a man is truly busy he'll alert you to what's going on in his life then set a firm date to see you in the very near future. Not go ghost then say oh I've been busy.
Candy Girl agree. It's one thing to be busy, but when you choose to not give me heads up that you have seen my texts but you'll talk later, that makes me think I'm not important to you like that.
sweet pea J right exactly!
Amen, girl! Well said.
sweet pea J #facts
Candy Girl preach baby!
Everyone finds time for what or who they're interested in.
No time for you, means absolutely no interest in you.
Right 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Correct
Thank you
Absolutely! I understand a guy may be working 10+ hours and is actually busy, but if a guy is not making some kind of arrangements to see you then you’re definitely not a priority to him.
@@lovenephtalie and not even making a call... Only says good night without even I love you
I've learned this the hard way...Never make someone a priority that would consider you an option.
Preach Sista Cristina!!!! About to be 2018 aint nobody got time b.s!!!!
Like I always say I have to be a priority and not an option.
Alfie B
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100!
This was a wake up call...tired of being a convenience and not a priority, thankyou
Cierra Frazier yessss for me too
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I’m in the same boat rn and I am about over it.
Treat me like a joke and I drop u like it's funny
Jesus is lord (Y) amen.
Jesus Is Lord good one!!
Love love LOOOOOOVE This!
Damn right
Love it ! drop them like their funny
💯!! Guys will stalk the ones they want!
Crystal Courtney 💯
Amen!
Even the ones you tell you don't want
Crystal Courtney FACT!!!
Lmaaaaaaaaao
I dealt with this... Then as soon as I fell back, he reeled me back in... Just long enough to get my attention... This went on 3-4 times before I realized I was sick & tired of being sick & tired...
Nikki Dawkins Same here
Nikki Dawkins ...Yes, exactly! We get sucked back in hoping he will come around.
Been there too.
Smh! I'm in that situation now! But I'm done! For real this time!
I am so in tune with what you're saying Nikki. After a while, (hopefully a short while), you're just sick and tired, of being sick & tired! Amen to that! Get to steppin' fool, 'cause I just don't have the time to keep wasting it on you! Next! :D
When a man is "too busy" I become even more "busy" to be too busy to even notice his absence, then he comes with the "Hey stranger" ✋ I'm too busy for the b.s.😂 gtfoh
Heleena Hendricks 😩😩
Heleena Hendricks exactly go right back where you came from guess she tired of him
Heleena Hendricks 🙌🗣
This comment isn't nothing but the Truth !
Then you end up watching videos like this lol wondering what happened to your man with your fronting ass lol
"You're not a priority to him, you're just a convenience." Damn. On point!
A lot of guys think if they text you constantly, thats enough. Why do I have to feel like I am in a long-distance relationship when we live in the same town?? I dont need a texting buddy, I need your physical presence in my life! Just because you are steady texting me does not mean that I don't realize I am not a priority.
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This is exactly happening in my relationship...I want calls and he just texts
I once was blind,, but now I see❣️
Vesha G
Yesss girl ikr!
Vesha G AMENNNNNNTTTTTTTTT
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When they stop making you a priority and their communication habits with you change he has already checked out of the relationship.
CandyAppleRed yup!
True
When it comes to the "I've been busy" bs, I just walk away. As far as I'm concerned, he can stay busy with the ones who have been keeping him busy. I no longer care and really DON'T want to hear it.
Kelli Owens yes! And I have learned to not respond back when they call, I get ghost for a few days, then they come knocking your door down...ump, men!!!
This depends. If yes, the attention was much more before, then something has changed. But I've done similar to women simply because I didn't have a set time to offer for a date or I don't get free time to converse until midnight.
You sound like a nice girl
Relationships sound too difficult to handle. My introvert ass is just gonna stay single lol.
Exactly! If a guy can't spend 5 seconds to text " Hi, how are you? I'm thinking about you." Then move on. I found this out after hearing " I'm busy ", " I've been busy", I've been sick", " I'm going to bed, got early day", all while saying how much he loved me, but his lying ass had time to be on Facebook making posts calling other women sexy. That was a " See ya!" moment.
This!!! They busy but always on social media
You forgot the "im working or working rite now" Excuse..lol
“Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.” ~ Mark Twain.
Be careful around those people who leave their foot in the door with multiple excuses. #TeamJaxn
Catherine Johnson yes, and not just man and women relationship, but everyday relationship with people in general.
So true sometimes the truth really hurts but it is what it is
Always!
facts
Omg this is so true! And when you call them out on this mess they pretend that you don’t know what you’re talking about or you’re not being understanding to their schedule. The best thing to do is when you see this from a guy is to just run 🏃🏽♀️in the other direction because he’s wasting your precious time.
For real
Mine also said made me promise using God and his sons name that if I ever told people about some messed up things he done in past that something bad will happen to me and my family. He had me repeat those things before he told me and other stuff I dont remember. I didnt keep my exs promises he made me say after he threw me away like trash I decided to mention the truth about him. No real Christian should make another person make promises like that or something bad will happen. Thats sick.
Oh no my freind not good not good did you think of what that actually means when its used O with G word and how does that affect you? What do you think of it will you think of it was it a habit maybe since church teach to not do that well our Lord is sad when we do this my dear freind but we can use it when we give thanks trough and in adoration otherwise its insult to him not because of my self but because of ourself we actually harm our own reasoning which is our Heart hope this made sense
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🏃🏾♀️💨Run fast....
Why even approach a woman if you that damn busy? Lol....
ok!
Good question 🙌 I'm over the I'm so busy 🙄. Then why tf approach me then 😒
If they 2 busy then they can't maintain a relationship. Instead they shud hire a prostitute 4 when they need Pussy. Instead of hurting sensitive genuine kind women. If they wanna find a marriage partner they need 2 go on a matrimonial site.
Big facts!!’
Yessss 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Yup!
So true!!!
If that dude is really digging you, he is going to contact you and keep in contact no matter what.
Not true. Many men have ended up friendzoned due to that behaviour.
you are never too busy for the people you care about...only takes a few seconds to send a text at the very least. ' too busy' = you are not a priority/ I don't care bout u
Rachel B a quick “hey, I’m busy, but I’ll get back in touch with you” let’s me know I’m a priority.
Depends if the person on the other side is being needy though. Making a specific time to catch up makes for a good way to know that they are important in your life. Technology has made it too easy for people to contact each other and constantly be expecting a reply because the message was read.
You are 100 percent on point !!! Most men I find are not really seeking a relationship they want benefits .... I wish that they would just speak their truth in the beginning ...
Elizabeth Benitez Pineiro if they speak the truth they won't get sex from the women they lust after. They'll know you want a relationship but because they think you're hot they will lie just to hit.
this is true one hundred percent. such cowardly liars with no strength or bravery
Too bad we couldn't just leave the game players in their own little bubble or some mark of the beast on them so that we can filter through the bull. SMH. I just have friends, no BENEFITS! LOL
Elizabeth Benitez Pineiro keyword men you FIND
change your course try a man without twenty thousand woman after him or the guy atleast has no hoes but that's crazy of me to say that right because most men you meet aren't being followed on Instagram or Facebook you date straight aces right. .. .
smh.. .. try men with full names like Kevin or Kyle not cray cray or little bae bae
Jay Wreckx even first/last names sometimes are still cray cray. In all honesty tho they may be seeking the same thing but what I find is that there is a lack of maturity... unable to settle with past hurts and not responsible enough to own up to their role in the situation.. No accountability:( oh well next ...
Facts. My ex was like this. He worked a 12 hour shift and made me feel guilty for asking for time. To the point where I barely did. It was a mind game. Now he has alllll the time in the world for his new gf of course
Mine makes me feel guilty too
All I got to say is Fuck their A** they need to grow some and be honest with women and stop playing these little games that ppl don’t got the time for! Ladies we are beautiful and we don’t need any loser in our life. Don’t allow them to put you down because of their insecurities!
So damn true.
Lisa Hurd lll
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Lisa Hurd Amen!!!
This video makes me feel uncomfortable because I have been accepting this, but I will say it is what I needed to hear. No one has really told me what to accept and what not to accept so this is a learned lesson for me.
So true. No one tells us that it isn’t right to have a guy come in and out of your life when he feels like it. They just say maybe he “isn’t sure yet”. I’ve been guilty countless times. Never late than never to figure it out 🤗
rachel addams exactly, better late than never.
Finallllyyyyyyyyy you knock the door down specifically on this mess!!!!!!! You’re winning the big brother award of the year! It’s like what to do🤷🏾♀️. #DerrickJaxn
Aariyan096 I 2nd the Big Bro Award
La-Toya I’m just like shield me before anymore damage comes lol. Derrick has been there for me luckily before the growing pains, and he’s right here with me..interpreting this madness lol.
After years of none sense, I pulled his own move on him-went ghost 👻. When those texts messages went unread and calls straight to voicemail, he knew what was up. He didn’t have time for me then. I ain’t making time for him now. Know what you have before it’s what you miss! 💯
Lady Grace sounds like me sister. .he been busy?? Hey I been busy too
That's what I did too !! Giving someone a taste of their own medicine is so satisfying 😎
This is the truth!!! Queens wake up!!! 💖
Chocdeisel Monroe yes
Oh I woke up darling :) was with a guy who never put forth any effort, never got to know my family and acted like he hates everyone. Its gonna take a real man to get me. I'm talking to someone right now and for the time being we are just friends but I have standards and will accept nothing less if we start dating 😊
Every since I started following your videos I've felt so much empowerment...not just in relationships but several areas of my life. For the first time I'm recognizing just how important it is to love myself first and foremost. Thank you. #TeamJaxn
Same! It helps me detect BS faster and I feel like I’ve become more intelligent with social communication as a whole. Love Derrick, he’s a blessing 🙌🏻 Not to mention, he’s maybe the only dating coach that doesn’t entirely blame women for everything! Some men are assholes and it’s not our fault or responsibility to change it. It’s only our responsibility to REALIZE 🙌🏻
Tru2Natural Hello my beautiful black queen I'm so Happy for you stay strong happy holidays
Very true. You make time for what you want...believe that. He was too busy for me, so now I'm too busy for him.
This is so true and I had to learn this the hard way in 2017. Thank God for your informational videos that taught me better!! Now, I'm dating someone new that makes me a priority and wow what a difference it makes! When you know better, you do better! #TeamJaxn #Winning #BrightFuture #2018
Jeanine Mack Same here. Wishing you the best, girl!
Bee Tee Thank you Honey and I'm wishing you peace, happiness and love in 2018!! 🤗😄
Jeanine Mack Hi and I agree with you!! I had to learn the hard way after being with a guy a couple of years . Seems as though I had to make all of the plans, trips, and etc later on in the relationship.. I have learned a great deal. As women we have to value ourselves and know that someone will do what the other one would not and it is called a " grown man"!!
Moving Forward Giiiiirrrllll Okkkkk!! #GrownMan 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Jeanine Mack I'll be praying for all us women! It's the least we could do for one another. Y'all are beautiful! God Bless♡
Why doesn't this man have a million subscribers yet......
He’s well on his way lol. Over time I saw how much his following has increased!!😁
Learn to walk away and never look back with these type of men.
Is your spine ok ?
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@@Reidamnpage_ 😍you cute tho .. I like US women ..
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"Busy with his other romantic obligations"
Yessss! Always on point!
Thank you! But we as women are busy as well and we still make time!
"You are not a priority, you are a convenience"
Thank you for telling me what I didn't want to hear but needed to hear
If a man or woman is truly into you they will let you know and show you how much they mean to you. But you also need to remember whats your worth
For 2018...I will stay single to focus on my life, my school, and do things I enjoy and will NOT let no men waste my time or play with emotions or play games. AINT NOBODY GOT TIME FOR THAT! I will not give no men my phone number...Nada...so that I would not have to stress over whether he likes me or not. Any men who plays games, is a ghost, or whatever will get NO response from me again. Smh
Yass baby and stick to that decision
Please whatever you do
Do not let any man into your life
This is the year of growth
Their actions always speak how they really feel about you. Most men don't know how to break up with a women, they are immature and messy with the situation. Age has nothing to do with maturity. Some have character some don't. Some men know how to love. Some don't possess these life skills. We are unique individuals apart from one another.
And as soon as you tell this to a guy who's been using the "been busy" excuse you get "you're crazy!!"
Exactly
This totally happened to me. He was always “busy” and I had to play by his rules and be convenient for him. He knew exactly what to say to keep me on a very long leash. She kept promising me commitment when “this” happened or “that” happened. I constantly kept giving more energy to our situationship than he ever did. He used me and when I called him out on his shit, he blocked me. Sometimes you can’t see the BS when you have rose colored glasses on. Truth.
Sarah Zmina fuck him and his shit! Keep pushing through and doing your own thing and the right man will come along🙌🏻
Thanks for the words of wisdom. My new male friend went ghost 4 days prior to Valentine's Day. Lol.... He text today as if nothing was wrong and attempted to suggested that we start over. Hmmm.... I informed him that we never began and therefore, there's nothing to start over. SMDH....
My big brother from another mother. .. God bless you
You always bring the word. I'm following your advice. No man is that damn busy!!! Do they ever consider, women are busy too. We prioritize our time. Your videos encouraged me to cut some too busy, indecisive, refuse to communicate, and committ dudes. Can't do it!!!You said it's lonley when you have standards. You never lied, but I cuddle with my self-respect and dignity. May God continue to bless, and prosper you this New Year🙌
I agree, no man is that busy. He is making excuses or just does not want to be bothered with you unless he feels like it.
Mine also said made me promise using God and his sons name that if I ever told people about some messed up things he done in past that something bad will happen to me and my family. He had me repeat those things before he told me and other stuff I dont remember. I didnt keep my exs promises he made me say after he threw me away like trash I decided to mention the truth about him. No real Christian should make another person make promises like that or something bad will happen. Thats sick.
You're always so on point. Thank you.
So very true. Men always make time for things or people they value.
Yessss. I'm tired of that excuse. Excuses run out & so does time!!
Tell him:"I feel you. I'm 'bout to get me some business too." 🤣 And be GHOST👻✌
So true.. I'm dealing with that now. I'm ready to just walk away.. I love him but no more excuses. When he is less busy then maybe just maybe my schedule will permit a conversation.
#teamjaxn
Just dropped a guy for this reason 🙌 Thanks for letting me know I was right to be done, even if he’s a good guy. We all deserve someone who makes us a priority!
Not gonna settle ever for side chick shit!! I know what I bring to the table and I’m not afraid to eat alone until I can find someone to come to table with me😀Thanks for the video!
Me too
Facts!!! There's no other way around that. You may find yourself wanting that relationship more than him but if he's calling and texting when it's convenient for him then ya have to move on
Your videos are so spot on! If he's not making time for you, he don't want you...men who want something, put forth the effort, and go after it! Nobody is THAT busy they can't send a 3 second text message at the very least!
Needed to hear this today!!
Ashley Marie lol me too🤔
People "invest" time for the things they deem important. When the investment is no longer paying interest it's time to pull out.
S. CROWE hello my beautiful black queen love your smile so very true and sad at the same time Merry Christmas Happy New Year's hugs and kisses
Joseph Hughes merry Xmas to you too. Thank you for the compliment. 😘
This was on time. So many valid points. Thanks Derrick Jaxn needed that confirmation. 👍🏾👌🏾💯
True, go ghost on him or send him a TEXT saying it's over, then change your number. It's all about reciprocity.
Mount Rocsi-Anne How do you say it’s over without it really being over, and he acknowledges he’s on probation and try to do better😂😂😂
Mount Rocsi-Anne Thank you! When you make that stance and even if they walk off, are those the same ones that usually come back?
Aariyan096. I wouldn't know because I've sent the text already and changed my number....I sent a text of how I felt, mentioning the times he had an excuse, then I quickly changed my number to let go/detach.
I opted for a sending a text, to reciprocate the same level of respect/time he had for me.
Anyway, I don't know if he called or texted back because I changed my number quickly.
Luckily I moved the guy who didn't have time for me out the way and
I'm with an older man who is creative enough to hv our weekends planned.
I don't guys my age, I date guys 15 years+, to reduce (not eliminate) bs that a lot of women are going through nowadays.
Mount Rocsi-Anne Oh wow I can understand. When you date someone 3 years older, you think that’s enough but I guess not. I can’t with these dudes because these games really play with our emotions and self-esteem. I wish there was a way I could block but still get notifications. I heard there was a way but I’m not sure how..
@@Aariyan096 then just don't block them. Seems like passive aggressive move to hurt him but it's not actually doing anything for you.
Now I know that he doesn't deserve me ain't begging for his time no more since he's too busy for me then imma let him go
U have hit every key point. Thanks
Get out of my head. On love, I just gave a friend his walking papers for this exact reason this morning. Feels good to know a man acknowledges the BS we go through. ✌❤
#TeamJackson 4 life
This was so right on time for meeee!!🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽thanks I needed to hear thiiiiiss
This just smacked me in the face. This is so true. A man who wants you will make time and make a spot for you in his schedule. I am so glad I broke up with him. He just made me feel less than worthy
Every time u put out a new video it speaks my life. I love this! It makes me smarter and waste less time when dealing with men. I swear you have a window into my life.
and, i am going to take this knowledge, not just for a relationship between a man, and a woman, but for all relationships. ie. family, friends etc.💯 #teamJaxn
Yeah exactly because it also happens with family and friends as well
This is RIGHT ON TIME! Thank You for always keeping it 💯. You continue to challenge us women to be honest about our relationships and to STOP settling for anything less that what we deserve!
God Bless you, honey! You're right on point as always. I lived that exact life for almost 7 years, so grateful I no longer do. Merry Christmas to you & yours! ♡ from TX
Peace.. Right once again. I agree people make time for who and what they want. Never too busy to love the one you rocking wit. Its become the norm to be a convience smh!!
As hard as it is to hear. You gave me the power to end that relationship and turn to the one who is really trying to be right. 🤗
please Derrick know that.I broke up with the guy I was interested in for 3 YEARS because of him literally saying "I know it sounds bad but I want you to change" (after me bending over backwards to be the best me for him and care for him)
Because the universe sent your UA-cam videos to me at that very same time. It helps educate me on so many red flags and what I shouldn't tolerate. It's a sign I'm not going ignore.
PLEASE keep doing these videos. I am young and inexperienced and yes I have let these "men" take advantage of my naivety and trusting nature. Your advice is like from an older brother. PLEASE know that you have changed my life.
Busy doing what?? A relationship minded man is not THAT busy. Sorry to bust your bubble.
#TRUTH!
Love your channel! I can't believe on a daily what stuff women put up with. I share your messages with all my friends that are going around in circles with fools.
I've never had a man choose everything else over me! I've been in couple long distance relationships. One where he and I were flying across the Atlantic on the regular, on his nickel to keep things going!
I am married now, my husband and I have been together pretty much every day and night since we met almost 11 years ago.
You say the same things that I do,but it resonates more coming from a man!
Since I've been watching your videos it has shine a light on myself and the men I've tolerated! Thank You for your Gift!! Going forward No More BS in My Life!!
You are so insightful! Thank you so much for opening my eyes.
Truth serum, Ladies! It’s never too late to wake the hell up! I am living proof.
Kesha Sparks hello hi Merry Christmas and Happy New Year
Thank you!!! God bless you and your family!! Honestly it's such a blessing to come across a bold, honest, intelligent speaker who speaks his mind about the truth others are scared to express. So many UA-cam dating coaches for women keep making videos on "how to keep a guy interested" or "how to get him to text back" or "how to make him take you seriously" and wow I am so sick and tired of those youtubers because the fact of the matter is that they don't respect women and their integrity!! They don't value women and with their videos they keep women stuck at low vibration low self esteem behaviors that keep them stuck in those toxic situations!!! I am so happy that you say it like it is with no sugar coating and with such honesty and blunt truth, I have so much respect and admiration for you!!! Please make more UA-cam videos because I can't get enough!!! Merry Christmas and happy new year to you & your family.
I agree with this!
rachel addams agreed!!! What is not helping us women is this modern culture and dating coaches trying to relay the message that we need to be the ones keeping the guy interested, or we need to give them space so they don't freak out, or we need to be on our toes to keep a guy!!! That's all bs! And this gentleman Derrick Jaxn has the courage to stand up against that bad call it out like it is!!! Every woman deserves what he talks about and like he says there are men who are willing to be upfront, honest, no games, and know what they want and we must have faith we will meet that type 🙏🏻🙏🏻 merry Christmas
Roza M - So true, I’m tired of playing games. Why can’t we just tell it how it is? Honestly means nothing these days. It’s about keeping it “cool”. I don’t have time to waste 🤣
Merry Christmas to you too 🌟🌟🌟
rachel addams Right 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 see we got to play a game as well Sad but tru...cus see jus like wen u N that so called committed relationship don't get rid of past lovers or new lovers until he put a Ring on it..cus see that's wat i didn't do..i was acting Loyal as if I WAS MARRIED 😒 as for him he kept his side pieces and never Stop shopping for women while N a relationship..i mean he was smart...lol and my ass wasn't cus I thut I was n luv and he luv' s me...yeah right 😒 but I so learned that never give a man 💯% til he put a Ring on it Ladies..
+rachel addams
It's true they never feel any remorse or guilt
Even if they ain't cheating trust me
All men talk to a maximum of 20 females.....
That's why I personally think women should be selfish. .....Growing up, Little girls are taught that it is a bad trait
All part of society's propaganda to keep us low.
Girls need to start being selfish.
I have always felt this way but the way you stated my feelings...impeccable. Thank you for sharing these videos.
You are right!!! When he wants, he wants! There is no excuse if you are a priority for him!
I literally JUST dropped a man on Wednesday for that "I've been busy" excuse! Dannnnng!
THANK YOU FOR THIS!!! Just met a man who was talkative the first day via text then ghosted the next 2 days. I messaged him and that’s when we started talking, then ghosted again, this time I was like bye Felicia! Now he’s all up in my warm hole incessantly texting when I do not reply but seeing that I read the message. This ship has sailed..... THEN I stumbled upon this video! Thank you 🙏
I just told this dude the same thing 3 days ago!!! You are so on point!!! He claims he wants a relationship but goes ghost! Thank you for confirming everything I said to him! I haven't dated in 4 years by choice. I know my worth and I am a Queen who deserves better than that! Keep using your gift to bless people! You are amazing!!!
Every single video you make is relevant, concise & the truth. Thank you, from Australia 💜
No I agree listen if you don’t have time for me then say so and let me go. Don’t try to keep me around just because. I’m tooooooooo grown for that. I don’t have time for place holding like it’s a parking spot you have been waiting on. Oh hell no I don’t think so. I’m ok with you being too busy for relationship. I’m good it just means time to move on from you.
I have been in this situation and I decided to cut him off completely, then he started trying to make time for me again. no thank you, sometimes they really aren't worth your time at all. love your videos!
Stop accepting it and you get busy! Get on your grind and don’t worry about THESE MEN!!!!!
Woah! I really needed this video in my life at the moment. You’re speaking so many truths right now.
Thank, Thank, Thank you! Ive been waiting for this one. Real and Raw as usual. But this one hit home....I wasnt made a priority and I felt that. We're not even in a relationship; its the early stages of "getting to know you" and is already showing me who he is. He put work before us, and doesn't make time for us. I appreciate your videos very much!
Roz K hello my beautiful black queen Merry Christmas he have to go if you don't want you why waste your time and his God bless hugs and kisses
Joseph Hughes Thank you and I appreciate your feedback. Merry Christmas & Happy New Year. Ive always heard that a man goes after what he wants. I see this guy is too laid back in his attempts. Has yet to make a plan for us. It's emotionally draining to wonder what he's doing, if he cares, if he's thinking of me the way I think of him. I can't and won't give any more of my time & energy. Thank you!
Exactly. You are speaking the truth. I've been through this situation.
Thank you. I needed to hear this and today to validate my own intuition in calling off a potential disaster. You're damn right and deep down this actually all makes sense emotionally and mentally. Now to sustaining my peace of mind 😌
Love this! So true! You're worth more than the "I'm Busy" Excuse! 💯
I only give my attention to men who can spend Friday or Saturday nights with me. It’s prime time or no time 👌
Mel Berry show you right that would be me your Friday and Saturday night man hugs and kisses Merry Christmas Merry Christmas my dear
Joseph Hughes Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you!
Sooo true i mean this guy has got me questioning my myself... I was so upset.. Thank you bro.
Marcia Davies
Been there too. They have you trying to figure out what's wrong with you.
So true, wow. Thank you for the confirmation of the TRUTH and yes again it has set me free!!
Truth Derrick! I experienced that recently and I told him i am tired of his excuses and I am over it. I stopped messaging, planning dates and etc. I have since then moved on and being treated like the Queen that i am.
I never knew. I always gave "him" (obviously Ive been victim multiple times) the benefit of the doubt. Im SUPER busy and get it, but always put shit aside. It never dawned on me. Thank you for helping me crawl out of the naive box. Now, that I learn from you Ive saved myself from MUCH game. Im now finding these men are getting pissed and act offended when you diplomatically call them out or tell them no thank you. I dont have time to be put down and disrespected because I see through you and called your bluff.
I'm getting flash backs to my ex ughhh it makes me want to cring
You are awesome . Thamk you for this confirmation. This confirms that I know who I am and I am in my right state of mind
Wow you are a very wise man. God BLESS you. My daughter is going through this and I told her love is shared and when she gets tired if being sick and tired Move on