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I hate the phase "somebody can be in worse situation than you and they are fine" Instead of making us feel better, it makes us even more miserable It sounds like "your struggles are irrelevant, other people have it worse"
I tell myself this every day “someone probably has it worse than you do” I tell myself this because if I let out my feelings and cry I would get in trouble
Thank you! I really needed to hear this. For some reason I always felt guilty whenever I tried to make someone aware that I’m struggling, I mean there isn’t something wrong with that. But I always believed it’s just all fake and I’m faking it for attention, which I looking back definitely didn’t
One quote I have stuck in my head is "You telling me I shouldn't be sad because someone has it worse than me, is like you saying I cant be happy because someone has it better than me". I honestly think about this quote a lot and I hate when people tell me to forget what my bullies said and I cant it's a part of my PTSD.
Yeah but some people are misinterpreting this line. It usually means you have to make the best out of your situation sure it could be better but doing nothing and self-pity will lead to nothing but more suffering. There is a german sentence that many people in the army are saying when your circumstances are shit: "Leb' in der Lage" it means "Live in this Circumstance" but the meaing is much deeper. You have to make the best out of it in any possible way because nobody is getting out of this alive. And you can spend your life with "what if..." or "i will". Mindset is a huge thing nowdays and discipline will lead you to achievements, motivation will never do. And fighting every mental disorder begins with leaving your comfort zone. Doing things you dont like. Speaking about your problems, looking right into the eyes of the beast that is killing you from the inside.
This quote is so wise. We are so quick to tell someone how they should feel when they are feeling down. I know there’s going to be people who negate this quote in the comments. Not always, but lots of times, it’s bullies who will tell you that it’s your fault for feeling bad about the way they treat you or for feeling bad about the way someone else has treated you. Bullies like it when someone else, even someone they don’t know bully you. Bullies also use every chance to instill guilt in you. That’s why they love to tell you that you have no right to upset and that someone else has it worse.
Likewise I have got both the “attention seeking” or “over dramatic” insults before. It’s surprising when it comes from people you have actually been there for
Summary: 0:43 - “You’re not even trying” 1:11 - “Just snap out of it” 1:25 - “Attention seeker” 1:42 - “People have it so much worsen than you” 2:19 - “But you have such a great life” 3:08 - “Everyone can be a little moody/sad/OCD sometimes” 4:06 - “There’s no way you have a mental illness” 4:48 - “You’re being overdramatic” 5:06 - “Other people’s lives are hard too and they’re not crying about it” 5:36 - “You’re wrong. I have a different experience” ***You’re amazing the way you are! Don’t let other people let you think otherwise💗💗***
I hate it when people just say like “why are you always sad? Just look at the positives and smile” like idk, ive been faking the smile for a lil too long now.
It's hard to see the positives when all you can think is of the negatives. Maybe a positive here and there but you will think of a whole lot of negatives.
like I rarely smile but not cuz am sad its just I don't and some people say "why aren't u smiling?smile" and yk faking a smile makes me feel like something is wrong with me cuz I don't and thats really sad :(
Saying to someone to just look at the positives and smile when they have depression is like telling someone with a broken leg that they should just walk it off.
I've been someone who's been brutally honest for a while now, including with my facial expression. I will smile when I'm happy, otherwise I refuse to fake a smile. And someone who says "look at the positives" may or may not be able to even take their own advice. It's not simple. It's a matter of mental state (health) and innate mind set (optimist, pessimist, realist). I'm a realist with a pessimistic memory. Perfectly capable of remembering every embarrassment, and nearly everything I've done wrong in my life, yet can't remember what I've done right because I'm blinded by the black. Greatfully, most of the people who I've interacted with closely haven't been insensitive in regards to my numerous mental issues, since pretty much all my friends all have their own problems, so they can empathize. There's few things that make me angrier than being insensitive to someone who already has enough hell to deal with and doesn't need any more BS on their plate.
I’m going to send this to my family, friends, and boyfriend because sometimes they can be insensitive. I have been told to get over it, pray it away because it’s the devil, stop crying all the time, I’m over dramatic, I’m too sensitive, and that other people have it worst than me. My so called “ best friend “ told me other people have it worst. Get over it. I stopped being friends with her after that because I was there for her when she was going through her own struggles yet she couldn’t be there for me.
It's okay. Ik it's hard for you but keep going. Keep trying your best. I'm sorry that the ppl around you are not supportive. I've heard so many things as well. I feel you. You're still beautiful and worthy.
"Pray it away because it's the devil" That's a whole other level of stupid. Never seen that one before. Sure he's the root of our problems, but gotta give a hard *X* to doubt that its directly him causing your present mental state. Keep on keeping on. Hope the peeps you send this video to learn something.
That's exactly what my sister went through. It made me feel like my mom is insensitive and cold.. she considered suicide ! F*cking Suicide ! Then my mom continues to make her feel awful in "encouragement"..
When people ask me "what's wrong?" I just find it easier to say "I don't feel good." It's so much simpler to say instead of "I am extremely depressed & am struggling with my schizophrenia."
@@metra8604 I seen my first psychologist at age 5. I am 27 now. Over the past 10 years I have been on multiple antidepressants but right now I am not medicated. I keep telling myself I'll go get "help" but keep putting it off. I suffer in silence. I want to address my mental health but at this point I'm so disoriented to even bother. I am staying positive. It just hurts worse because my effects my relationships with people. I hope you are having a great day, my friend. 🌇
People who have depression’s brains already tell them “you’re faking it” “you’re just seeking attention” “stop overreacting” so another person telling us this is really freaking damaging to our brain and self image
You are hundred percent right I have been dealing with depression for a long time and when every I have a depressive episode I remember previous ones and I just makes the episodes worse. As I think of how I was just attention seeking. At least that is what I think. Most days I am unsure.
I have no idea what is going on in my head like I say to myself "I can't be sad" or "am just faking it (whatever "it" is)" and I just don't know if I have a mental illness or am just sad from time to time
My parents said that as well. I then tried killing myself then and again at 20. I only got better when I was finally able to get myself therapy with no help from them.
I hate when people say, “it’s in the past,” yeah, sorry I tend to find it hard to just forget about horrible crap that happened to me. I am moving on, but the thoughts are still there. People just CANNOT understand.
Oh yeah. It’s the same for me. I have acute ptsd. “It happened 4 years ago.” “You’re too young to have ptsd.” “Just don’t think about it.” Yeah, dude. Let me just turn off my brain so I don’t think about it when I’m trying to sleep at 4 am....
I hate it when people say to snap out of it! It comes off so dismissive and diminishes what one is going through. It annoys me when someone thinks these things are like an on/off switch. We're human beings
Speaking of "on/off switch," my mother says that all I have to do is flip it off. She has bipolar disorder, so I don't get how she can say that. But, everyone is different.
my friend is suicidal and depressed, has anxiety, she lives in a good country and her school, family etc is good, i thought “wow, she has literally everything and still depressed. she must trying to get attention” i thought she was depressed over little things, then one day i got pissed and said she has a good life and has nothing to be upset about, i didn’t know what she went trough, she told me everything and i felt really bad, but luckily shes now going to some kind of school where she gets therapy, i hope she gets better soon and forgets about her past, please don’t judge people when you dont know what happened to them in the past
I feel like, "some have it worse" is so aggravating and frustrating. What if *I'm* the one having it worse? That doesn't help. Just because someone has it worse, doesn't mean I can't have help.
I also don't get why it's apparently acceptable when it's about mental health issues, but when you point it out in more everyday obvious situations, people would get pissed at you for saying the same thing. Hypocrite much? Like, they can tell me my depression is bs because "there are tiny starving kids in third world countries" but if their grandma dies and I'd go "chin up, it's not the end of the world, at least you're not a starving kid in a third world country" oooooh boi. But see; I comprehend that it's common sense not to say something like that, yet the other way around it doesn't apply.
I haaaaate when people say oh you cant be struggling because you seem so happy all the time. Well yes, I dont want to appear miserable all the time because who wants to be around a negative nancy? I just put my best foot forward but that doesnt mean I'm not struggling
I think we all struggle when putting our best foot forward, but it doesn't mean we have it perfect! What I hate more is people telling me to just "snap out of it"
It can be any further from the truth I smile sometimes because that's what people want to see my scars are definitely no accident you only have to look at robin Williams 1 of the funniest men ever
I hate it when people say “oh I just had a panic attack!” When they get a tiny jump scare. As someone who has anxiety it is VERY offensive. Or when people say “but I see you smile all the time! You can’t have a mental illness!” We smile to hide it. When we open up to you and say what’s happening to us, don’t say we don’t have it. Thank you:)
I agree 100% to that, also I don’t think I have anxiety but I have a LOT of panic attacks and they are really not good, especially when you have to constantly hide the fact that you’re having one in public, they are even worse when the panic attacks cause sensory overloads trust me on that one, anyway sorry for taking up your space, also sorry if this didn’t make sense
i hate it when people say "omg you caused me to have a panic attack" its like no do even know what that is? you feel sick to your stomach like your about to throw up but cant the blood drains all over you your dizzy you cant stand you feel hot like your being watched and judged were you cant be touched of it makes it worse your shaking that you cant hold anything but yeah i guess me tapping you on the shoulder and making you jump is just as equivalent to my panic attacks
@@williamreffitt7883 trust me I know how you feel, I’ve had a LOT of panic attacks and unfortunately when you are in public places it’s harder to hide the fact that you having a panic attack especially if it’s combined with a sensory overload, I’ve had panic attacks that’s lasted up to 45 minutes to an hour and they are terrible, so sorry if that didn’t make sense, and some how no one has actually seen me having a panic attack, I’ve never heard someone say that I caused them to have a panic attack though so sorry I can’t really relate to that part though I guess I accidentally sneak up on people sometimes and they jump but I don’t know, anyway again sorry if none of this makes sense, also I hope you are okay and if your not than I hope it gets better soon
@@shadowhawk4164 nothing to be sorry for, thank you for your reply! I agree, panic attacks are much harder to hide in public, and I have a lot of panic attacks in public because of my social anxiety. I usually end up hiding in a public bathroom for half an hour.
A person’s internal world can be sooo soo different than what they project to their external world. If someone is going thru a hard time, believe them and try to be as supportive as you can.
I have moderate depression and it makes me so annoyed and angry when people say and ask "stop being sad , your just a child , your parents are more depressed" , "stop looking for attention" , "there are people who have it worst , just calm down" , "why don't you go to a mental hospital!? You seem unstable" , "everyone goes through the same thing , now your going through it" , "go take some medication before your brain shrinks , "yeah right , of course you have depression because your just lonely? Go make friends" , "you seem depressed? Why don't you take medication" , "I go through worse than you" , "sure thing , I understand but why are you sad?" . These are just a few of what I hear everyday , it really gets frustrating at times .
WH-WHAT! People have said things like this! I have never heard of some of these but saying you should go to a mental hospital is just wild to me. Like do these people know how empathy works? Do they know kindness? Do they know that people have rights? I am so sorry that you have to listen to this hope you get better!
Can I suggest to you that you're right and you're also right if you wouldn't give a damn about what they tell you? It's people who give power to others' words. I'm not saying that it's easy, but I'm doing it more and more and I'm feeling better. And it's not selfishness either, it's self respect :) if some toxic people want to make you feel more bad about yourself and others it means that they already have some issues going on in their lives and they envy you because you have the courage to talk about what's bothering you, while they can't do anything about themselves; so they spend their time to make you worse because they want to "lower" you at their level. I hope you'll develop your self respect more and more because it's so worth it.
One of my friends was actually pushed to suicide by someone calling them an attention seeker and comparing him to themself I ended up stalling long enough that he backed out
People who are at their worst/suffering now know that this is not going to last forever. You will become happy or rather life will bring happiness to you after it has made you strong. This time WILL pass and I promise a time will come where you will smile from the bottom of your heart and have no worries because what you have endured has made you strong from the inside. Let us suffer a bit more. Know that after dusk there is always dawn.
Thank you so much for this. My sister doesn't have a mental illness (if anything, I have some form of anxiety) but she has extremely sensitive ears, and one time, we invited friends over to our house, and put on a fireplace. The fireplace had some noise that no one except she heard, and it clearly bothered her, so much so that she came to tears. When I realized it was coming from the fireplace, I was told to just ignore her, and that she needs to toughen up. I cannot describe the fury I felt. My sister was clearly suffering from this, she was literally in _tears_, and she was being told to "toughen up", by multiple people. To this day I haven't forgiven them.
I know how your sister and you feel, I have EXTREMELY sensitive senses too, I can’t even wash my hands without some kind of pain(don’t worry I do wash my hands, it just hurts), every little sound feels like someone is constantly stabbing my ears and brain, no matter what I wear everything is always just so itchy and on bad days it physically hurts when clothes brush against my skin, I can taste every single thing in my food and it makes it hard to eat, everything is always way to bright and when it isn’t everything is blurry, there have been multiple occasions where I have passed out because of my senses, there’s always a constant ringing in my ears that just intensifies when the fridge hums or something makes a beeping sound, I can feel vibrations in the air and ground and it just makes me so dizzy, I think I’ve had something similar happen to me, there was this sound that sounded even louder than the people in the room and I couldn’t concentrate on anything else, the people in the room seemed to be yelling even though they were talking in a normal voice and everything just hurt so much and unfortunately I can’t say anything when something like this happens, my throat suddenly feels tight and I can’t get a word out so I do what I usually do, I rock back and forth, it comforts me for some reason and when people noticed they just told me to stop, they got angry at me and I couldn’t even explain what was going on and I hated it, I can’t exactly remember what they said but it just made me feel so angry, they just kept on assuming things and saying things and I couldn’t do anything but cover my ears, I’m really sorry for taking up your space and complaining but I know how you/your sister feels, anyway sorry if that didn’t make sense also sorry if I just sounded pathetic, anyway 🙂it’s nice to see people who actually care about their sibling enough to see that something is bothering them and getting mad at your friends for being so inconsiderate about your siblings feelings, it’s kind of rare to see, at least it’s rare for me to see, again so sorry if this didn’t make sense or if I might have accidentally offended you, anyway I hope you to are doing okay 🙂
@@shadowhawk4164 You didn't sound pathetic and you didn't offend me; I'm really sorry you go through those things. My sister has sensitive ears, but not any serious disorder. It's not something (at least for now) that we'd take her to the doctor for. I hope you're doing okay too, have a great day/night (depending on your time zoon).
@@izanblancoqureshy thanks, to be honest I never actually thought you would read what I said so thank you for that, I’m okay, most people don’t actually know I have a sensitivity problem, I’ve hid it very well, that and I thought it was normal for most of my life, thank you again for reading my comment, it definitely made me smile😀,also I hope you and your sister are okay too and so sorry if none of this made sense, I haven’t slept in 24 hours but anyway sorry again
Yeah... In my school my classmates always telling me that: "just STOP, you dont have anxiety! Don't worry about it all the time!" and "just give up, you already have everyone's attention" and it just triggers me.... 😂 😂 😂
BRUH SERIOUSLY THOUGH! This person that bullies me and others at my school calls me FDS “Fak depression syndrome” always saying I just want attention. My antidepressants would. Say other wise! But the last’s thing I want is attention when I hate ppl.
So true, I don’t think I have anxiety but I do know somewhat how you feel and really even if people have good intentions what they say and/or just makes things worse, sorry if that didn’t make sense
I’m a cop and have been done wrong by many in the workplace and that’s what I’ve been told when I pulled away from those in the section (attention seeker)
Telling your problems is NOT being attention seeker. Faking it, yes. You're not faking it So, tell me about your problems, I'm here to listen. I love you, you MATTER ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
You can talk about them when they come up into your mind, without planning or things like that. If you have some thoughts it means that they're real in that moment, so why pushing them away when you can just let them out? And if you're alone, try to write them instead. It's like you'll listen to yourself if there's no one else. Or you can write a letter addressed to someone and give it to them later or just keep it to yourself. I think the focus here is to release, and then release while talking to someone. Or you can search for someone that is "payed" to listen to you, or they're doing that because in their job they're used to help people (seeking for a formal figure would partially eliminate the probelm of thinking about seeking for attention because you address your need in a more "serious" way, somewhat)
Timestaps: 1. You're not even trying 0:42 2. Just snap out of it 1:11 3. Attention seeker 1:25 4. Other people have it so much worse than you 1:42 5. But you have such a great life 2:20 6. Everyone can be a little moody/sad/OCD sometimes 3:10 7. There is no way you have a mental illness 4:06 8. You're being overdramatic 4:47 9. Other people's lives are hard too & they're not crying about it 5:05 10. You're wrong, I have a different experience 5:36 I hope this has helped you! Remember, you are loved, worthy, beautiful and that you can get through this! Have a nice day or night wherever you are!💕
i can never trust my parents cause of this shit i came to you at my lowest breaking and crying needing someone ANYONE for help and you go and blame me and start preaching to the world about all your little inconveniences from me in life its bullshit
My mom is like that I have a couple messed up things with my mental and emotional state and when I try and tell her she always says either 'Your to young to have mental illness' or 'Yeah I have been through the same things as you' like she is an adult the things I have been through all happened when I was a child from 4-10 years old but she hasn't been tormented with her phobia, she hasn't been forced to eat food she doesn't like every single day, she doesn't get beaten up by her siblings which then leaves brused bones, she hasn't been publicly humiliated or publicly embarrassed when I say 'Yeah well your an adult I'm not I'm a kid' she says 'My cousins always hid behind the couch to scare me' I don't say anything but I think 'Thats nothing compared to everything I listed off' It's annoying when parents do that! Sorry if I said something wrong!
We have diagnosed Dissociative Identity Disorder, and the other day we said we had it on a fb post, and someone commented "Dont, I have a sister that says she has DID. And whose Sabastion?" We said "Sabastion is the one that does the drawings, im Kumiko, im a protector" She then said "Im about to literally go insane. DID is a very touchy subject for me and im getting real tired of everyone i know saying they have it" Kumiko then replied "I have diagnosed DID. And you dont even know about Avvy, so its not like you can comment on it for us" Kumiko got so mad, Because this one person was displacing our Diagnosed disorder, all because their friends lie and say they have it. The toxic tone she was saying in it too made Kumiko get more mad.
People think i dont have a mental disorder,i think i have severe anxiety i just shake and shake and sweat almost all the time.my friend says i dont have it
Personally i really hate any variant of that phrase "people have it worse" when people tell me this in spite to comfort me, i just ever wonder if they realize how twisted that phrase actually is out of all respect if i'm going through something in life, yes sure it's my own problem and i'm the one that has to find the solution to it after all it all starts with one self right, so why do people assume that because other people out there have it worse i have to disregard how i feel? saying others have it worse so you can't be sad is literally the same as saying "You cant be happy because others have it better"
Yeah, okay. Still, most people's instinct is to avoid having to confront people and help them. Those that do, might act like ER doctors and prioritize making sure the person missing a leg is okay. That being said, I think everyone's mental/emotional pain is different, but no lesser than anyone else's.
"you don't do anything in this damn house" hey fam, I'm literally washing the dishes like I do every day and you're browsing Facebook. Like you do every day.
I went to the mental hospital once and they kept saying that other people have it worse than you so you should be happy and I kept trying to tell the adults telling us that that it isn’t true and that we all struggle with our own things and they just wouldn’t listen
thats my favvvvorite when they all go " i understand i went thru the exact same thing but you need to just get over it and control your problems i know you can do it" like biiitch if i could get over it and 'control' my mental illness I WOULDNT BE HERE
“you’re not even trying” lol i swear WE ARE, it’s not like we like this but it takes time. and the 3rd one is the reason why it’s really hard to open up for me and many people don’t either because we’re scared to be called attention seekers and when i see people doing that they make me feel bad and i start overthinking which makes it worse. not helping!! if you’re struggling right now, i really wish you get the help you need or at least have someone you can rely on and talk to freely. stay strong everyone ❤️
Some people with ADHD can’t control themselves sometimes. Others just assume that they are being like that on purpose even if they know that the person has a condition. It sucks. My mother doesn’t understand this either. If she wasn’t ready to become a good parent, then she shouldn’t have had us.
ME, TOO! That's still an issue if you think about it. You're delusional. My mother tells me, "it's all in your head, this didn't happen." So I'm delusional, then, right? That's what that means.
There are so many things that I don't understand in this world, the most confusing are the problems. Everyone has there own share of problems, and yet some of them are just told to suck it up because others have gone through worse. I thought that you should never try to minimize someones pain, and yet sometimes it works? Why would they say "practice makes perfect" and then say "no one is perfect"? They're making us go in circles. Some people say "you can't help everyone" which I have accepted as part of reality, but then some say "there are some people that just can't be helped" why would you say that? You said that the individual alone can't save everyone, and that would give them the thought that if it isn't them then it's someone else. But then saying outright that some people just can't be saved? Now their hopes are gone. But nothing is as messed up as society. Listen to me society, BOYS CAN GET DEPRESSION TOO AND IF THEY HARDLY EVER CRY, THAT DOESN'T AUTOMATICALLY MEAN THAT THEY DON'T HAVE FEELINGS. Police; JUST BECAUSE THEY'RE BLACK, DOESN'T MEAN THEY'RE MORE HOSTILE THAN WHITE PEOPLE. People in general; suicide is serious, and shouldn't be wished upon anyone no matter who they are, death maybe, but not suicide. Haters could be lonely, abused, or maybe just have a crappy life, and they're trying to make themselves feel better by hating but it's the wrong course of action and they don't realize that there are better ways. Now the most complicated parts are emotions; haters hate because they have an intense anger caused by something and they want to take it out on someone, then the person being hated on, say a youtuber or a streamer, they get mad and tell the haters that dragging other people down into their pain won't do them any good, but they put in a way that the hater doesn't like, so then it's an ongoing war that never seems to stop. And now pain, someone is going through pain and you want to help them, you could try sympathizing with them and letting them know that it'll be okay, or you tell them something inspiring to make them feel better. But words aren't always enough, so you could try doing something for them that would make them smile, and it doesn't work. Now, you feel down in the dumps too. By trying to help someone who is suffering, you yourself are now suffering because you tried the best you could and it wasn't enough. The best course of action would be to just not care about anyone, BUT WAIT! No, doing that will make people think less of you, think that you have no feelings, and no matter how careless you are, what they think will put you down. You'll be in pain if you're too caring and if you're too careless. Finally we have the dead ends. Here, I want you to forget everything I said. Why? "Haters could be lonely, abused, or just have a crappy life" and someone responds with "Not everything has to have a reason" or "They could just be doing it cause they want to be assholes." Then, "suicide is serious, and shouldn't be wished upon anyone no matter who they are" and someone responds with "What about Hitler who killed millions of jews when he was alive?" Or "What about Donald Trump who has told fake announcements and fake news that lead to over 200,000 deaths in the U.S.?" And then the part where I said that I believe that everyone can be helped, lots of people can say tons of things and it won't change my mind, until they bring out their trump card which is, "That's just reality" or "that's how it is in life." Fuck me, fuck life, fuck reality, fuck everything. And those are things that I find so FUCKING confusing in this world. Problems, Society, Facts vs. Beliefs, Emotions, Reasons, and just human beings in general.
Yo you put the feelings into words. Everything feels overwhelmingly complicated. Some times I think the only way we get by each day is by forgetting all of this is our reality and/or leaning into blind hope/faith.
4 signs that you’re on the right path: 1. The midst of ups and downs, you still feel a sense of peace in knowing that everything happens for a reason. 2. You’ve went through a period of solitude which shifted your focus inward toward discovering what resonates most with you. This period of time taught you self-care and self-love. 3. The people in your inner-circle are experiencing big wins. It can be hard to see your own progress, in real time, however, when your tribe is winning; this is a sign that you are also winning. 4. You desire to balance between “what feels right” and “what makes sense”. You value logic, but you also value the language of your soul and the feelings that come from your gut.
@Andrei James Makes sense. I try to deflect from my anxiety by focusing on good things, like my career or the people in my life. Gratitude to God for what I have also helps.
My best friend doesnt "believe" mental illness exists. So she's always very anoyed when I tell her how I feel... even tho I didnt want to talk about it and she pressured me into it, knowing I feel awful... it just hurts
@@gimmebleachlmao2576 So are you still best friends? Because if you are then a good idea is to not be besties anymore. Potentially still friends but not besties. Because your mental health seems to be taking a big toll on this relationship. So consider that.
The sort of relationship that wont last long. But if it does last long, at one point it will feel so so so fake, that it will actually hurt you being near that person, altho your brain tells you that the person is a friend, you just wont stand her. You probably already reached that point. My advice would be to focus on yourself, do fitness, take care of yourself, try to do what you like, try to become a tougher individual and don't make your happyness dependent of so called friends.
My childhood friend to this day can't seem to understand that I struggle with PTSD, deep depression and axienty disorder. Her argument is well I have axienty to sometimes, but you don't see me labeling it. When my disorders got worst when I become a teenager she stopped being my friend. Said I was too over dramatic, and dumped me on a text. I didn't hear from her for about 6 years. As an adult we talk from time to time, (once or twice a year) but our friendship has never been the same. She still sometimes will call me dramatic if I show any hint of my illness. Some people never will understand.
I feel that.. I struggle with the same three disorders actually, I get called crazy when I try to talk about it :/ I hope things will get better for you, and that you have people who can understand what you’re going through
i think i have depression .. but i am not sure but i have all the symptoms and i went to a psychologist and it helped me a lot ... i found the courage to go there thanks to you ... thanks i am 16 and I've heard all those phrases especially from my mom ... thank you for bringing these contents make me feel more confident and less guilty for being sick 💕
I always hear "why do you worry so much" or "don't worry about it". I always wanna just be like 'see the thing is, when you have an anxiety disorder/disorders, telling us to not worry, is like trying to tell a dog not to bark' lol
Not all dogs bark constantly. We had a dog that only barked when we were hearding sheeps because that was his job. Point is, this is not like some random brain tumour you cant do anything about. You can train your mind to think differently and take medication. Not saying it will always work but its a possibility.
@@ThornyRoseV I'm not saying there aren't things you can do, it's just that you shouldn't tell someone with an anxiety disorder to not worry cause especially for those of us not able to get a treatment from a professional, it's damaging to hear that when we don't know how to do it. I made the reference to a dog cause it's in a dog's nature to bark rather than make another noise - for us, it's in our nature to worry about things
"don't worry about it" then I feel like saying, "weeeeeelllll, I don't know about you, but it is hard for me to NOT worry about my social anxiety (or other condition, this is just the example of the condition I have) when I feel like I am on the edge of a volcano
So, just wanted to let this off my chest. Don't mind it, ok? Basically I feel like trash, worthless and many stuff I can't really describe. Have many mental breakdowns, don't want to eat and just want to lay down my bed and sleep all day. I really don't know why I'm feeling like this. Always my parents say "you have a good life, many others are suffering in the streets" "ooh" or "uh-huh" as if they don't really care what I'm saying when trying to open about my feelings looking for an answer. I don't feel like doing my assignments anymore, or even attend my classes. It's all so much work and motivation us not what I have for this past weeks. Does anyone really understand me? Or is it just a moody phase all teenagers go through? I feel like everything's going downhill and there's nothing I can do.
I’m scared.. like this sounds like you’ve described me. This is exactly me too. I think it gets better tho....I hope. Well that’s what everyone tells me. We probs need professional help tho 🥴
I love your videos! I’m struggling with ADHD and depression and your videos help me when I’m feeling down and feel like I can’t talk to anyone! Thank you!
I've already heard all these phrases and more, sooften, some since my childhood. One of the worst things was about being suicidal. My grandparents see it as some sort of big sin to even think about it and as extremely selfish to pain those around you like this. Plus how dare you even think about wanting to die when there are so many other people who are really ill (from cancer etc) and would desperately want to live!?.... Only makes you feel even more guilty than you do already. Thanks for your videos. There are still so so many not acknowledging mental illnesses as being "real". You really help in trying to spread the message that they are totally real.....
"Our lives are like movies Every one has different stars and stories We have different nights and mornings Our scenarios ain't just boring" ~Reflection, Kim Namjoon aka RM, BTS
Can I just say this speaker's sarcasm and voice really got the point through? 😌 I found myself kicking absolutely nothing when we got to the one about being overdramatic. Some people might say 'you're being too sensitive' as well. You really hit the nail on the head with these. 👌🏽
When I can't even get a solution for a question or the first question I call myself stupid and dumb. For example "Come on this is the first question why are you getting stressed? This is just the first question! You're a stupid [REDACTED]. Why are you going to cry on the first gosh darn question. Stop crying! You're a useless piece of [REDACTED]!" Yup
@@loppy33 Don't judge yourself! Some people are getting very lost when they are stressed - that DOES NOT make them dumb! Just don't work in 911 or military and you will be FINE! Believe me :-)
@@igorthelight thanks for that positivity. I know that I am not what I call myself, just get any other source, friends family etc and they will say the complete opposite of what I call myself.
The pain olympics are a tired old game. When someone says "other people have it worse" you aren't other people. A good example is seeing a guy with his leg in a cast versus someone in a whole body cast, doesn't mean the guy with the broken leg isn't hurting.
Thank you so much for those videoes. My friend has told me that she has depression and I've been thinking of ways to let her know that she's not alone and can talk to me anytime she wants and needs. Anyways, your videoes have made me realize the situation better and learn what to say, do or not. So thank you, very much.❤
“Stop” “You’re being annoying, this isn’t the place for that” While yes, it is important to cope and not be at your worst in public(I’m so sorry, I don’t know how to word it), saying “stop” doesn’t help. My sister and I both have tics, and they aren’t to bad, and we don’t really care about them, but also having the “it isn’t real” approach makes me question if they’re real, even if I’m just tired and/or upset, or they’re just bad that day. I have to constantly remind myself that trying to stop them just makes them worse, too.
What I've heard is "Everyone says they're depressed, it became a trend. So stop trying to be this trend" and it's really annoying cause.. yeah there are people who fake it for attention but.. it doesn't mean all of the people suffering from it are faking it... Society is just getting more and more disappointing as the time passes by
I have depression and have been diagnosed by doctor.He gave pills which doesn't work.It kept getting worse.I wanted to share this to someone...so said to my friend...she said the same thing.I-
@@magnaajeyam9994 it’s it for fear of being alone? I know that feeling, but what I learned from experience it’s that if the relationship is toxic it will either get more manipulate over time or it will come to a point they will completely dismiss you, and believe me when I say that its better to distance from those kind of people than feeling used and under appreciated all the time non stop, there are so much more people out there that would treat you better even if it was online than your crappy friend that just denies your feelings with trends, so plz start to at least be more cautious of them, and look for people that are actually worth it
My family asks me over and over again: Are you just going to be sad forever? I literally want to destroy everything cause they will never understand. I got sexually assaulted when I was 5 and it did ruin me a little and I'm suspicious about if I have a virus or something Anyway- I just hate that my parents asking me the same thing. My mom doesn't think I need therapy when I literally falling apart. So I've turned to my dad and my twin sister and my best friend. I just feel terrible and my best friend seems like the one who understands and my twin sister knows what to say and is trying to help which is cool. I gave up turing my older sister or my mom cause I can't say anything without getting interrupted or judged. . I've been keeping my emotions inside and talk to my other personalitys aswell and they just shake their heads, but still. I would be nothing without my twin sister and my best friend tbh. I'd be nothing without them... My best friend just mean to world to me... They don't know how I feel about them though but still. I love them. A lot. But I just am done now. Sooo- yeah.
As someone who has diagnosed depression and anxiety, it actually really hurts whenever I get called lazy because I have a really bad self image, and often I wont eat or stop standing for a while afterwards because it makes me feel like I'm not moving enough or overeating, and no one around me has noticed that except for my friend. My family doesnt really care a lot about my mental health
when my friend died, my dad told me to move on from it since the next day he died, i thought i will move on within 1 month but it had been 4 months and i still feel miserable about his death, my dad just labelled me weak
I suffer from ADHD and let me just say..people have been saying some of these and I didn't know why it hurt so much thanks for telling me and others this. Also I like the little bubble people they are so cute
To be honest, I've never liked opening up to people about how I feel, mostly because of my mom. One time I had to pay for something and I don't really do that often so it was basically my first time so I literally had an anxiety attack when I went to the cashier. When we got into the car, I told my mom I thought I had social anxiety, and she said the lines of "but you never had it before when you were little! Plus, depressed people don't talk to the world" when the subject wasn't even about depression and I've never opened up to her about how I feel. Another time she said something similar was not to long ago when she again said "depressed people don't even talk to people so you're not depressed" when I didn't even say anything about depression. For context, it was about my grades. I basically gave up on school and I keep doing horrible when I'm doing the best I can, but that's not enough for my mom because she wants a perfect little girl with perfect graded just like my older sisters. And yes, she is the type to use mental health as a sort of guilt tripping. I cannot count how many times I've heard her say "I'm depressed!" "I'm so depressed!" "You guys have no idea how bad my life is!" "You guys (me and my siblings) are basically abusing me that's why I'm depressed!" And whenever something happens when me or my other siblings cry, she always says how she's depressed and shit when she doesn't listen to her children and how they feel. I'm not saying she doesnt suffer from mental health, all I wish is that sometimes she should listen to how I feel because what she thinks is right for me is making how I feel worse
i get you mine may be a bit diff but i get you my brothers are fuck ups ones so far up his ass he cant see the sky ones does drugs and has been in jail the other left and doesnt talk to mother since of how she is and is doing decent in life i tried to open up to her but i caled a lier and that i was faking it im not allowed to mess up since i did slighty better than others in school im know supposed to be a golden child im not allowed to be broken im not allowed to cry the last time i cried was over 5 years ago since im supposed to be the no fucked up child hell im dying in my depression watching my life fall apart my grades are no existant i cant find a job and then forced to do all the house work simply cause "you dont have a job " i cant eat i cant sleep but yet no one knows ive crafted the perfect mask the goofy child that gets stuff done no matter what that is never down but sometimes has anger troubles ive built a mountian of lies to keep my life together yet who knows when it will fall :)
Yeah... people say that I'm an attention seeker. They say that I am lying about me overdosing when I get older. They say that I'm just an edgy young teenager. None of these sayings are true. I'm not trying to be an attention seeker. I never lie about committing suicide. Why would such a person do that? My struggles are so rare people don't understand it. They just tell me to get over it, and move on. I have pent up anger. I get mistreated so bad that I even feel embarrassed venting.
Agreed. It's like the motivation to do thing is there but just out of reach. Talking about it feels like complaing and nobody wants to listen to you, like you're wasting their time. Being called lazy doesn't help either. I'm not lazy, I've genuinely tried snapping out of it and "just being happy" but none of it works.
Thank you so much for this video! Your voice is so soothing and your responses were often funny haha sending this to a few people in my life because they just don't get it
This one was so pleasant 💜 I loved all the ways things were put into visualization and how aesthetic and peaceful the backgrounds were. Really relaxing and informative!
Anyone else ever been told that they are “ too depressed to be helped”? Or being called a “crybaby” when your having a panic attack with tears and snot running down their face? The one I hate the most is being called lazy because my depression gives me horrible fatigue. Some people just don’t get it and sometimes it feels even worse when it comes from someone you love.
i hate being called lazy when im clearly struggling to even feed myself since im so tired and fatigued while i feel absolutely terrible as i see my life fall apart since i cant even move to get FOOD let alone other things
I relate to this kinda, the phrase I get a lot when I’m dealing with my anxiety is “stop acting crazy”... words are painful even when they’re “not meant literally”, (like how is the word “crazy” ever a good thing to say?)
“ too depressed to be helped” - Some people;e are just rude ( Try to spend less time with them if you can. Even if they are relatives. Find someone who really cares about you. I feel like even I (a random person on the Internet) care more about you than those people! Have a really nice day!
@@vengefulkiwi20 I know exactly what you mean. The good old, “sticks and stones may break your bones but words will never hurt me”. Like no, sometimes words are worse.
I consider the “someone has it worse” to be borderline demonic to say because when I come across it, it’s just to get you to stop talking about your own struggles and it’s like, wow, yeah, the fact someone is dumpster diving for food right now totally gives me the $200 I need to pay my electric bill or whatever have you.
i had a depression and anxiety by myself, I wanted to talk about it to my parents but i didn't wanna move or eat, so with the less of my energy i just write it to my mother, she wasn't supportive at all, she was saying "you're not depressed you're just a little tired". I told to my friend too and they said "No you don't!" They just put some "..." to their messages, and because of it i was fellin' more bad then i was. I think this channel is a great idea, people can learn about what you should not said or said to someone who was or ARE in pain, thank you!
This is why I love Psych2Go. They are kind-hearted people that have informative content they share in an easy to understand manner. They don’t criticize but inform you “hey you probably don’t mean it that way, but that phrase you thought was helping your friend is more likely hurting them” and they guide you like a good friend. Thank you Psych2Go ❤️
"Everybody gets anxious sometimes - just stop worrying/thinking about it," "Looking for attention," and "Just stop/start (blank)' are the most common ones I hear
Can you make more videos about eating disorders ? ( Especially of binge eating disorder ) since I have binge eating disorder. I would love to know more about it and how to overcome it.Thanks!
It wasn’t listed but as someone who has depression I get sick of hearing “Things will get better”. When it’s been years and it hasn’t gotten better it’s hard to believe and stand someone saying that. Let alone when it’s the only thing they say to “help”.
💯 I agree! I’ve been waiting for things to get better , I guess I have to die for them to get better , I heard this as a child and now I’m in my late 40’s and the nightmares are back. I feel today as I did then, so now I just try to keep my pain to myself. I find strangers on comments that I can relate to other than that I’m on my own. The last time I told someone my life sucks!! They said at least you have food and shelter!
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yea it’s helpful!
Wow today I'm So early !! 🤍
@@SisL_channel-april21 yes we are all early even me!
I hate the phase "somebody can be in worse situation than you and they are fine"
Instead of making us feel better, it makes us even more miserable
It sounds like "your struggles are irrelevant, other people have it worse"
THIS, i dont have any but when one of my friends are going through it, i never say this. Their feelings are valid and matter🥺
I hate when people say you're not alone when that's not true
Exactly. Just bc someone else may have it worse doesn't mean anyone else's struggles are automatically invalid.
@@phillyroberts71 true😭
I tell myself this every day “someone probably has it worse than you do” I tell myself this because if I let out my feelings and cry I would get in trouble
We are attention seekers, but the attention we want is help. So it's valid.
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Thank you! I really needed to hear this. For some reason I always felt guilty whenever I tried to make someone aware that I’m struggling, I mean there isn’t something wrong with that. But I always believed it’s just all fake and I’m faking it for attention, which I looking back definitely didn’t
@@etamin777 I hope that you opened up to someone that's close to you and they helped about it!!!
@@etamin777 people who are faking it know what they're doing and why. Genuine sufferers don't.
"Never give up on someone with a mental illness. When 'I' is replaced with by 'We', illness becomes Wellness. " 💛
-Shannon L.A
So wise..
If they're sociopaths, narcs etc it is best to stay away from them so you don't sacrifice your own mental health. Honouring your own boundaries first.
that’s a beautiful saying 🥺
@@NetiNeti-gm5bz true
That is good yo heard
One quote I have stuck in my head is
"You telling me I shouldn't be sad because someone has it worse than me, is like you saying I cant be happy because someone has it better than me". I honestly think about this quote a lot and I hate when people tell me to forget what my bullies said and I cant it's a part of my PTSD.
im sorry about your bullies. i know it wont make you feel any better, but you didnt deserve to get bullied.
Your quote has a very good point. Thanks for sharing. I'm sure your bullies got their karma.
Im so sorry for you
Yeah but some people are misinterpreting this line. It usually means you have to make the best out of your situation sure it could be better but doing nothing and self-pity will lead to nothing but more suffering. There is a german sentence that many people in the army are saying when your circumstances are shit: "Leb' in der Lage" it means "Live in this Circumstance" but the meaing is much deeper. You have to make the best out of it in any possible way because nobody is getting out of this alive. And you can spend your life with "what if..." or "i will". Mindset is a huge thing nowdays and discipline will lead you to achievements, motivation will never do. And fighting every mental disorder begins with leaving your comfort zone. Doing things you dont like. Speaking about your problems, looking right into the eyes of the beast that is killing you from the inside.
This quote is so wise. We are so quick to tell someone how they should feel when they are feeling down. I know there’s going to be people who negate this quote in the comments. Not always, but lots of times, it’s bullies who will tell you that it’s your fault for feeling bad about the way they treat you or for feeling bad about the way someone else has treated you. Bullies like it when someone else, even someone they don’t know bully you. Bullies also use every chance to instill guilt in you. That’s why they love to tell you that you have no right to upset and that someone else has it worse.
I’ve had the “don’t be overdramatic” “the everyone is like that.” They’re all so annoying >:(
I have heard the attention seeking thing a lot and it's annoying
Likewise I have got both the “attention seeking” or “over dramatic” insults before. It’s surprising when it comes from people you have actually been there for
My mom do be saying that tho-😃
@@rivrael same with mine. Although she is trying to improve on that, she still tends to be somewhat judgmental at times
@@michaelokeke4976 yes same with my sisters
Summary:
0:43 - “You’re not even trying”
1:11 - “Just snap out of it”
1:25 - “Attention seeker”
1:42 - “People have it so much worsen than you”
2:19 - “But you have such a great life”
3:08 - “Everyone can be a little moody/sad/OCD sometimes”
4:06 - “There’s no way you have a mental illness”
4:48 - “You’re being overdramatic”
5:06 - “Other people’s lives are hard too and they’re not crying about it”
5:36 - “You’re wrong. I have a different experience”
***You’re amazing the way you are! Don’t let other people let you think otherwise💗💗***
There is always room for improvement
My mom tells me the 5th and 6th ones all the time
Thx😚
@olafpenner same here
@@RandomGoldieStuff I get told a few of this things regularly by the people close to me
I hate it when people just say like “why are you always sad? Just look at the positives and smile” like idk, ive been faking the smile for a lil too long now.
It's hard to see the positives when all you can think is of the negatives. Maybe a positive here and there but you will think of a whole lot of negatives.
like I rarely smile but not cuz am sad its just I don't and some people say "why aren't u smiling?smile" and yk faking a smile makes me feel like something is wrong with me cuz I don't and thats really sad :(
Saying to someone to just look at the positives and smile when they have depression is like telling someone with a broken leg that they should just walk it off.
I've been someone who's been brutally honest for a while now, including with my facial expression. I will smile when I'm happy, otherwise I refuse to fake a smile. And someone who says "look at the positives" may or may not be able to even take their own advice. It's not simple. It's a matter of mental state (health) and innate mind set (optimist, pessimist, realist). I'm a realist with a pessimistic memory. Perfectly capable of remembering every embarrassment, and nearly everything I've done wrong in my life, yet can't remember what I've done right because I'm blinded by the black.
Greatfully, most of the people who I've interacted with closely haven't been insensitive in regards to my numerous mental issues, since pretty much all my friends all have their own problems, so they can empathize.
There's few things that make me angrier than being insensitive to someone who already has enough hell to deal with and doesn't need any more BS on their plate.
Also it's implying you haven't been looking at those things. I look at them every single day but sometimes it doesn't work.
Someone: "Other people's lives are hard too and they're not crying about it."
Me: "You take that back, now."
My friend once said “oh yeah I feel “anxious” sometimes too but u don’t see me talking about it cuz I’m supporting you”
LIKE I HATE IT ITS SO ANNOYING
I’m going to send this to my family, friends, and boyfriend because sometimes they can be insensitive. I have been told to get over it, pray it away because it’s the devil, stop crying all the time, I’m over dramatic, I’m too sensitive, and that other people have it worst than me. My so called “ best friend “ told me other people have it worst. Get over it. I stopped being friends with her after that because I was there for her when she was going through her own struggles yet she couldn’t be there for me.
It's okay. Ik it's hard for you but keep going. Keep trying your best. I'm sorry that the ppl around you are not supportive. I've heard so many things as well. I feel you. You're still beautiful and worthy.
That's exactly what some people say to me.
Good thing you left. Being in a one-sided relationship isn't healthy
"Pray it away because it's the devil"
That's a whole other level of stupid. Never seen that one before. Sure he's the root of our problems, but gotta give a hard *X* to doubt that its directly him causing your present mental state.
Keep on keeping on. Hope the peeps you send this video to learn something.
That's exactly what my sister went through. It made me feel like my mom is insensitive and cold.. she considered suicide ! F*cking Suicide ! Then my mom continues to make her feel awful in "encouragement"..
When people ask me "what's wrong?" I just find it easier to say "I don't feel good." It's so much simpler to say instead of "I am extremely depressed & am struggling with my schizophrenia."
oh gods. depression is bad, AND you've got schizophrenia? jesus hell.
@@metra8604 unfortunately, yes, I have both And it is for sure a daily struggle. No fun.
@karmasdoor I am fine, thank you very much for asking. These videos seem to help me out a lot. 💖
@@november.rain1993 oh my god. im sorry. have you been able to get access to help?
@@metra8604 I seen my first psychologist at age 5. I am 27 now. Over the past 10 years I have been on multiple antidepressants but right now I am not medicated. I keep telling myself I'll go get "help" but keep putting it off. I suffer in silence. I want to address my mental health but at this point I'm so disoriented to even bother. I am staying positive. It just hurts worse because my effects my relationships with people. I hope you are having a great day, my friend. 🌇
"Everyone can be a little sad/moody/OCD sometimes"
"Bruh"
that made me laugh so hard! X,D
Imagine laughing, haven't done that in about 2 years or so now I think
Me too lmao
@@christerjackson9589 dude-are you okay? I’m gonna make you laugh now- what do you call a fake noodle? An im-pasta
@@aname2695 brain is E
Psych2Go is DONE with it 😂
People who have depression’s brains already tell them “you’re faking it” “you’re just seeking attention” “stop overreacting” so another person telling us this is really freaking damaging to our brain and self image
You are hundred percent right I have been dealing with depression for a long time and when every I have a depressive episode I remember previous ones and I just makes the episodes worse. As I think of how I was just attention seeking. At least that is what I think. Most days I am unsure.
Yeah...
FR!!
I have no idea what is going on in my head like I say to myself "I can't be sad" or "am just faking it (whatever "it" is)" and I just don't know if I have a mental illness or am just sad from time to time
@@eelkiller4379 ikr it sucks that your own brain is against you
my parents literally said "you're in that phase rn. you're a teenager. you'll get better soon"😃😃🤪
Same. I hate that so much 😑
Yeah like they’ve both had anxiety but they also said
Yeah it’s also a part of getting older like-
🥲🔫
god same
My parents said that as well. I then tried killing myself then and again at 20. I only got better when I was finally able to get myself therapy with no help from them.
@@linksey yay congrats
best wishes for a good life ahead:D
I hate when people say, “it’s in the past,” yeah, sorry I tend to find it hard to just forget about horrible crap that happened to me. I am moving on, but the thoughts are still there. People just CANNOT understand.
Half the time they don’t mean harm either, and that’s the worst part because they don’t know that they’re actually hurting you more.
@Andrei James Exactly. It makes me livid and it makes me wanna pull my hair out, if only people weren’t so ignorant
Oh and the “but your life is great” .. been told that before. Made me so mad.
Oh yeah. It’s the same for me. I have acute ptsd.
“It happened 4 years ago.”
“You’re too young to have ptsd.”
“Just don’t think about it.”
Yeah, dude. Let me just turn off my brain so I don’t think about it when I’m trying to sleep at 4 am....
@@abbijenson9957 exactly.. why can’t others be considerate of one’s mental state?
Let's just appreciate how much they upload for us
Yeah
Yeah right
Definitely 💕
Yeah!
Its like Phsyc2go are the only people that understand us
Right, I have adhd and anxiety, and people say these phrases to me a lot, and imma be showing them this video
I hate it when people say to snap out of it! It comes off so dismissive and diminishes what one is going through. It annoys me when someone thinks these things are like an on/off switch. We're human beings
me: *depersonalisation intensifies*
person: snap out of it!
me, sitting there, with that phrase being a trigger for it:
It's like telling someone to turn off their brain, or consciousness, or feelings, just like a light switch. It's not that easy.
Speaking of "on/off switch," my mother says that all I have to do is flip it off. She has bipolar disorder, so I don't get how she can say that. But, everyone is different.
@@marlenahood5350 I think it's projection on her part
*"The human brain is the most complex structure in the whole entire universe"*
_-Human Brain_
ahes, so very miku miku true.
So true!!
True thing ever said
@@Rishika11369 how did you-
my friend is suicidal and depressed, has anxiety, she lives in a good country and her school, family etc is good, i thought “wow, she has literally everything and still depressed. she must trying to get attention” i thought she was depressed over little things, then one day i got pissed and said she has a good life and has nothing to be upset about, i didn’t know what she went trough, she told me everything and i felt really bad, but luckily shes now going to some kind of school where she gets therapy, i hope she gets better soon and forgets about her past, please don’t judge people when you dont know what happened to them in the past
I hope you apologized?
She will feel herself better if you do. I think.
@@igorthelight yeah, i did apologized, but now everythings better shes more comfortable with me and can tell me everything she wants to or vent me
@@batorkit5045 Nice! )
U don’t forget u learn to overcome it and accept it
Hello everyone hope your having a good day
❤
My day was awful but thank you!
@@whatamievensupposedtowrite aww I hope it gets better
@@sorin3629 Tysm☆
@@whatamievensupposedtowrite no problem ❤️
I feel like, "some have it worse" is so aggravating and frustrating. What if *I'm* the one having it worse? That doesn't help. Just because someone has it worse, doesn't mean I can't have help.
I also don't get why it's apparently acceptable when it's about mental health issues, but when you point it out in more everyday obvious situations, people would get pissed at you for saying the same thing. Hypocrite much?
Like, they can tell me my depression is bs because "there are tiny starving kids in third world countries" but if their grandma dies and I'd go "chin up, it's not the end of the world, at least you're not a starving kid in a third world country" oooooh boi. But see; I comprehend that it's common sense not to say something like that, yet the other way around it doesn't apply.
That way of thinking needs to go. It's selfish, delusional, and low-key manipulative.
I haaaaate when people say oh you cant be struggling because you seem so happy all the time. Well yes, I dont want to appear miserable all the time because who wants to be around a negative nancy? I just put my best foot forward but that doesnt mean I'm not struggling
I think we all struggle when putting our best foot forward, but it doesn't mean we have it perfect! What I hate more is people telling me to just "snap out of it"
It can be any further from the truth I smile sometimes because that's what people want to see my scars are definitely no accident you only have to look at robin Williams 1 of the funniest men ever
Or try and put you somewhere 🤷♂️
So true! Like.. _Do you think I am okay? No...I just learned how to be strong and hide my true feelings._
I hate it when people say “oh I just had a panic attack!” When they get a tiny jump scare. As someone who has anxiety it is VERY offensive.
Or when people say “but I see you smile all the time! You can’t have a mental illness!” We smile to hide it. When we open up to you and say what’s happening to us, don’t say we don’t have it. Thank you:)
I agree 100% to that, also I don’t think I have anxiety but I have a LOT of panic attacks and they are really not good, especially when you have to constantly hide the fact that you’re having one in public, they are even worse when the panic attacks cause sensory overloads trust me on that one, anyway sorry for taking up your space, also sorry if this didn’t make sense
i hate it when people say "omg you caused me to have a panic attack" its like no do even know what that is? you feel sick to your stomach like your about to throw up but cant the blood drains all over you your dizzy you cant stand you feel hot like your being watched and judged were you cant be touched of it makes it worse your shaking that you cant hold anything but yeah i guess me tapping you on the shoulder and making you jump is just as equivalent to my panic attacks
@@williamreffitt7883 trust me I know how you feel, I’ve had a LOT of panic attacks and unfortunately when you are in public places it’s harder to hide the fact that you having a panic attack especially if it’s combined with a sensory overload, I’ve had panic attacks that’s lasted up to 45 minutes to an hour and they are terrible, so sorry if that didn’t make sense, and some how no one has actually seen me having a panic attack, I’ve never heard someone say that I caused them to have a panic attack though so sorry I can’t really relate to that part though I guess I accidentally sneak up on people sometimes and they jump but I don’t know, anyway again sorry if none of this makes sense, also I hope you are okay and if your not than I hope it gets better soon
@@williamreffitt7883 yep, it’s the exact same thing as the hour and a half long panic attack I had last month that made me hide in my room all day!
@@shadowhawk4164 nothing to be sorry for, thank you for your reply! I agree, panic attacks are much harder to hide in public, and I have a lot of panic attacks in public because of my social anxiety. I usually end up hiding in a public bathroom for half an hour.
A person’s internal world can be sooo soo different than what they project to their external world. If someone is going thru a hard time, believe them and try to be as supportive as you can.
Thanks & i think so
agreed
I have moderate depression and it makes me so annoyed and angry when people say and ask "stop being sad , your just a child , your parents are more depressed" , "stop looking for attention" , "there are people who have it worst , just calm down" , "why don't you go to a mental hospital!? You seem unstable" , "everyone goes through the same thing , now your going through it" , "go take some medication before your brain shrinks , "yeah right , of course you have depression because your just lonely? Go make friends" , "you seem depressed? Why don't you take medication" , "I go through worse than you" , "sure thing , I understand but why are you sad?" . These are just a few of what I hear everyday , it really gets frustrating at times .
WH-WHAT! People have said things like this! I have never heard of some of these but saying you should go to a mental hospital is just wild to me. Like do these people know how empathy works? Do they know kindness? Do they know that people have rights?
I am so sorry that you have to listen to this hope you get better!
Can I suggest to you that you're right and you're also right if you wouldn't give a damn about what they tell you? It's people who give power to others' words. I'm not saying that it's easy, but I'm doing it more and more and I'm feeling better. And it's not selfishness either, it's self respect :) if some toxic people want to make you feel more bad about yourself and others it means that they already have some issues going on in their lives and they envy you because you have the courage to talk about what's bothering you, while they can't do anything about themselves; so they spend their time to make you worse because they want to "lower" you at their level. I hope you'll develop your self respect more and more because it's so worth it.
I hope one day people with depression wake up with positivity and happiness, love u💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜
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@@Psych2go wow ..Purple ! 💜😊
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yea, i hope so too.
One of my friends was actually pushed to suicide by someone calling them an attention seeker and comparing him to themself
I ended up stalling long enough that he backed out
Oh my gosh
@@lynnlee6257 yes he is doing a bit better
@@midnightsarrow160 why, WHY doesn't this comment have more replies, this is beautiful
Thank God. You saved someone's life.
"You can't be sad because people have it worse"
It's basically the same as saying you can't be happy because people have it better
People who are at their worst/suffering now know that this is not going to last forever. You will become happy or rather life will bring happiness to you after it has made you strong. This time WILL pass and I promise a time will come where you will smile from the bottom of your heart and have no worries because what you have endured has made you strong from the inside. Let us suffer a bit more. Know that after dusk there is always dawn.
Hello.......!
Thank you so much, i really needed to hear this. 💟
@@SisL_channel-april21
If only it were that easy. And it is for everyday problems but not mental illnesses.
This literally made me cry, I wish everyone in the world would see this
Thank you so much for this. My sister doesn't have a mental illness (if anything, I have some form of anxiety) but she has extremely sensitive ears, and one time, we invited friends over to our house, and put on a fireplace. The fireplace had some noise that no one except she heard, and it clearly bothered her, so much so that she came to tears. When I realized it was coming from the fireplace, I was told to just ignore her, and that she needs to toughen up.
I cannot describe the fury I felt. My sister was clearly suffering from this, she was literally in _tears_, and she was being told to "toughen up", by multiple people. To this day I haven't forgiven them.
I know how your sister and you feel, I have EXTREMELY sensitive senses too, I can’t even wash my hands without some kind of pain(don’t worry I do wash my hands, it just hurts), every little sound feels like someone is constantly stabbing my ears and brain, no matter what I wear everything is always just so itchy and on bad days it physically hurts when clothes brush against my skin, I can taste every single thing in my food and it makes it hard to eat, everything is always way to bright and when it isn’t everything is blurry, there have been multiple occasions where I have passed out because of my senses, there’s always a constant ringing in my ears that just intensifies when the fridge hums or something makes a beeping sound, I can feel vibrations in the air and ground and it just makes me so dizzy, I think I’ve had something similar happen to me, there was this sound that sounded even louder than the people in the room and I couldn’t concentrate on anything else, the people in the room seemed to be yelling even though they were talking in a normal voice and everything just hurt so much and unfortunately I can’t say anything when something like this happens, my throat suddenly feels tight and I can’t get a word out so I do what I usually do, I rock back and forth, it comforts me for some reason and when people noticed they just told me to stop, they got angry at me and I couldn’t even explain what was going on and I hated it, I can’t exactly remember what they said but it just made me feel so angry, they just kept on assuming things and saying things and I couldn’t do anything but cover my ears, I’m really sorry for taking up your space and complaining but I know how you/your sister feels, anyway sorry if that didn’t make sense also sorry if I just sounded pathetic, anyway 🙂it’s nice to see people who actually care about their sibling enough to see that something is bothering them and getting mad at your friends for being so inconsiderate about your siblings feelings, it’s kind of rare to see, at least it’s rare for me to see, again so sorry if this didn’t make sense or if I might have accidentally offended you, anyway I hope you to are doing okay 🙂
@@shadowhawk4164 You didn't sound pathetic and you didn't offend me; I'm really sorry you go through those things. My sister has sensitive ears, but not any serious disorder. It's not something (at least for now) that we'd take her to the doctor for.
I hope you're doing okay too, have a great day/night (depending on your time zoon).
@@izanblancoqureshy thanks, to be honest I never actually thought you would read what I said so thank you for that, I’m okay, most people don’t actually know I have a sensitivity problem, I’ve hid it very well, that and I thought it was normal for most of my life, thank you again for reading my comment, it definitely made me smile😀,also I hope you and your sister are okay too and so sorry if none of this made sense, I haven’t slept in 24 hours but anyway sorry again
Guys! You both look like very comfortable human beings! :-)
Have a nice day!
@@igorthelight For me at least I'm fine, I have some form of anxiety but I do get therapy for it, so yeah I'm a relatively comfortable human being
Yeah... In my school my classmates always telling me that: "just STOP, you dont have anxiety! Don't worry about it all the time!" and "just give up, you already have everyone's attention" and it just triggers me.... 😂 😂 😂
IKR
BRUH SERIOUSLY THOUGH! This person that bullies me and others at my school calls me FDS “Fak depression syndrome” always saying I just want attention. My antidepressants would. Say other wise! But the last’s thing I want is attention when I hate ppl.
It’s honestly so irritating.
Same to me if I don't have anxiety why do I have scars all up 1 arm they were no accident
So true, I don’t think I have anxiety but I do know somewhat how you feel and really even if people have good intentions what they say and/or just makes things worse, sorry if that didn’t make sense
Maaan you can hear the emotion in the Narrator’s voice in this
Thank you!
ΙKR
@@Psych2go instead of restricting us and telling us what not to say, how about you tell us what we should say to be helpful?
@@mujtab8siddiqu1 there are many videos about that
@@GamerSisters not at all
The way Amanda sounded like she was being sarcastic and venting😂😂😂😂😂I can't😂😂😂 you tell them!!!! "Bruh, really? You gonna go there"😂😂😂😂😂
I feel like if I tell my problems to someone, I'm an attention seekers myself.
Help?
I’m a cop and have been done wrong by many in the workplace and that’s what I’ve been told when I pulled away from those in the section (attention seeker)
Telling your problems is NOT being attention seeker.
Faking it, yes.
You're not faking it
So, tell me about your problems, I'm here to listen.
I love you, you MATTER ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
@@PEAK__ all I can say now is thanks AirForce
You can talk about them when they come up into your mind, without planning or things like that. If you have some thoughts it means that they're real in that moment, so why pushing them away when you can just let them out? And if you're alone, try to write them instead. It's like you'll listen to yourself if there's no one else. Or you can write a letter addressed to someone and give it to them later or just keep it to yourself. I think the focus here is to release, and then release while talking to someone. Or you can search for someone that is "payed" to listen to you, or they're doing that because in their job they're used to help people (seeking for a formal figure would partially eliminate the probelm of thinking about seeking for attention because you address your need in a more "serious" way, somewhat)
@@Benny-xg4if not the simple and smooth in the military. It’s “you” and your lack of resiliency or else ADJUSTMENT DISORDER
Timestaps:
1. You're not even trying 0:42
2. Just snap out of it 1:11
3. Attention seeker 1:25
4. Other people have it so much worse than you 1:42
5. But you have such a great life 2:20
6. Everyone can be a little moody/sad/OCD sometimes 3:10
7. There is no way you have a mental illness 4:06
8. You're being overdramatic 4:47
9. Other people's lives are hard too & they're not crying about it 5:05
10. You're wrong, I have a different experience 5:36
I hope this has helped you! Remember, you are loved, worthy, beautiful and that you can get through this! Have a nice day or night wherever you are!💕
That moment when you try to tell your parents about it and they say "I'm tired of hearing about it your not even listening to me!"
I hate that 😒
i can never trust my parents cause of this shit i came to you at my lowest breaking and crying needing someone ANYONE for help and you go and blame me and start preaching to the world about all your little inconveniences from me in life its bullshit
My mom is like that I have a couple messed up things with my mental and emotional state and when I try and tell her she always says either 'Your to young to have mental illness' or 'Yeah I have been through the same things as you' like she is an adult the things I have been through all happened when I was a child from 4-10 years old but she hasn't been tormented with her phobia, she hasn't been forced to eat food she doesn't like every single day, she doesn't get beaten up by her siblings which then leaves brused bones, she hasn't been publicly humiliated or publicly embarrassed when I say 'Yeah well your an adult I'm not I'm a kid' she says 'My cousins always hid behind the couch to scare me' I don't say anything but I think 'Thats nothing compared to everything I listed off' It's annoying when parents do that! Sorry if I said something wrong!
@@inklinggirl4645 Well I don't have a dad but my mom guilt trips me to do things so I mean yeah I guess
We have diagnosed Dissociative Identity Disorder, and the other day we said we had it on a fb post, and someone commented "Dont, I have a sister that says she has DID. And whose Sabastion?" We said "Sabastion is the one that does the drawings, im Kumiko, im a protector" She then said "Im about to literally go insane. DID is a very touchy subject for me and im getting real tired of everyone i know saying they have it" Kumiko then replied "I have diagnosed DID. And you dont even know about Avvy, so its not like you can comment on it for us"
Kumiko got so mad, Because this one person was displacing our Diagnosed disorder, all because their friends lie and say they have it. The toxic tone she was saying in it too made Kumiko get more mad.
YOU TELL THEM!
People think i dont have a mental disorder,i think i have severe anxiety i just shake and shake and sweat almost all the time.my friend says i dont have it
Please, seek help :/
If you actually have severe anxiety, please talk with a mental professional
I love you ♥️♥️♥️♥️
@@PEAK__ thank you,im planning to and i hope i dont have it 😌😌
Personally i really hate any variant of that phrase "people have it worse" when people tell me this in spite to comfort me, i just ever wonder if they realize how twisted that phrase actually is
out of all respect if i'm going through something in life, yes sure it's my own problem and i'm the one that has to find the solution to it after all it all starts with one self right, so why do people assume that because other people out there have it worse i have to disregard how i feel?
saying others have it worse so you can't be sad is literally the same as saying "You cant be happy because others have it better"
Just because someone had their leg ripped off by a shark today, doesn’t mean it doesn’t still hurt when you step on a Lego! ♥️
Yeah, okay. Still, most people's instinct is to avoid having to confront people and help them. Those that do, might act like ER doctors and prioritize making sure the person missing a leg is okay.
That being said, I think everyone's mental/emotional pain is different, but no lesser than anyone else's.
Oof let's not forget my parents favorite "your just being lazy"
"you don't do anything in this damn house" hey fam, I'm literally washing the dishes like I do every day and you're browsing Facebook. Like you do every day.
YAS!
I really appreciate the frequent uploads. It’s very helpful, even when you haven’t been diagnosed with any specific illness.
Have a virtual hug! :-)
I went to the mental hospital once and they kept saying that other people have it worse than you so you should be happy and I kept trying to tell the adults telling us that that it isn’t true and that we all struggle with our own things and they just wouldn’t listen
thats my favvvvorite when they all go " i understand i went thru the exact same thing but you need to just get over it and control your problems i know you can do it" like biiitch if i could get over it and 'control' my mental illness I WOULDNT BE HERE
Saying "You can't be sad because people have it worse than you" is like saying, "You can't be happy because people have it better than you"
What I hate about is some parents/adults saying that mental health is "just a phase" and not believing it is real.
“you’re not even trying” lol i swear WE ARE, it’s not like we like this but it takes time. and the 3rd one is the reason why it’s really hard to open up for me and many people don’t either because we’re scared to be called attention seekers and when i see people doing that they make me feel bad and i start overthinking which makes it worse. not helping!!
if you’re struggling right now, i really wish you get the help you need or at least have someone you can rely on and talk to freely. stay strong everyone ❤️
Some people with ADHD can’t control themselves sometimes. Others just assume that they are being like that on purpose even if they know that the person has a condition. It sucks. My mother doesn’t understand this either. If she wasn’t ready to become a good parent, then she shouldn’t have had us.
"try not to have social anxiety"
My goodness, what an idea, why didn't I think of that...
“It’s all in your head”
you don’t say?
This sentence just make me snap...
ME, TOO! That's still an issue if you think about it. You're delusional. My mother tells me, "it's all in your head, this didn't happen." So I'm delusional, then, right? That's what that means.
This channel is gold
IKR
(its like they are the only one that understand us)
@@whatamievensupposedtowrite yess
There are so many things that I don't understand in this world, the most confusing are the problems. Everyone has there own share of problems, and yet some of them are just told to suck it up because others have gone through worse. I thought that you should never try to minimize someones pain, and yet sometimes it works? Why would they say "practice makes perfect" and then say "no one is perfect"? They're making us go in circles. Some people say "you can't help everyone" which I have accepted as part of reality, but then some say "there are some people that just can't be helped" why would you say that? You said that the individual alone can't save everyone, and that would give them the thought that if it isn't them then it's someone else. But then saying outright that some people just can't be saved? Now their hopes are gone. But nothing is as messed up as society. Listen to me society, BOYS CAN GET DEPRESSION TOO AND IF THEY HARDLY EVER CRY, THAT DOESN'T AUTOMATICALLY MEAN THAT THEY DON'T HAVE FEELINGS. Police; JUST BECAUSE THEY'RE BLACK, DOESN'T MEAN THEY'RE MORE HOSTILE THAN WHITE PEOPLE. People in general; suicide is serious, and shouldn't be wished upon anyone no matter who they are, death maybe, but not suicide. Haters could be lonely, abused, or maybe just have a crappy life, and they're trying to make themselves feel better by hating but it's the wrong course of action and they don't realize that there are better ways. Now the most complicated parts are emotions; haters hate because they have an intense anger caused by something and they want to take it out on someone, then the person being hated on, say a youtuber or a streamer, they get mad and tell the haters that dragging other people down into their pain won't do them any good, but they put in a way that the hater doesn't like, so then it's an ongoing war that never seems to stop. And now pain, someone is going through pain and you want to help them, you could try sympathizing with them and letting them know that it'll be okay, or you tell them something inspiring to make them feel better. But words aren't always enough, so you could try doing something for them that would make them smile, and it doesn't work. Now, you feel down in the dumps too. By trying to help someone who is suffering, you yourself are now suffering because you tried the best you could and it wasn't enough. The best course of action would be to just not care about anyone, BUT WAIT! No, doing that will make people think less of you, think that you have no feelings, and no matter how careless you are, what they think will put you down. You'll be in pain if you're too caring and if you're too careless. Finally we have the dead ends. Here, I want you to forget everything I said. Why? "Haters could be lonely, abused, or just have a crappy life" and someone responds with "Not everything has to have a reason" or "They could just be doing it cause they want to be assholes." Then, "suicide is serious, and shouldn't be wished upon anyone no matter who they are" and someone responds with "What about Hitler who killed millions of jews when he was alive?" Or "What about Donald Trump who has told fake announcements and fake news that lead to over 200,000 deaths in the U.S.?" And then the part where I said that I believe that everyone can be helped, lots of people can say tons of things and it won't change my mind, until they bring out their trump card which is, "That's just reality" or "that's how it is in life." Fuck me, fuck life, fuck reality, fuck everything. And those are things that I find so FUCKING confusing in this world. Problems, Society, Facts vs. Beliefs, Emotions, Reasons, and just human beings in general.
Yo you put the feelings into words. Everything feels overwhelmingly complicated. Some times I think the only way we get by each day is by forgetting all of this is our reality and/or leaning into blind hope/faith.
I COMPLETELY AGREE.
You ...... you just put all of every thing I think about how our world is pretty fucked up.
And type it all out!!!
It was good tell u brought in assumptions and fucking every other word
4 signs that you’re on the right path:
1. The midst of ups and downs, you still feel a sense of peace in knowing that everything happens for a reason.
2. You’ve went through a period of solitude which shifted your focus inward toward discovering what resonates most with you. This period of time taught you self-care and self-love.
3. The people in your inner-circle are experiencing big wins. It can be hard to see your own progress, in real time, however, when your tribe is winning; this is a sign that you are also winning.
4. You desire to balance between “what feels right” and “what makes sense”. You value logic, but you also value the language of your soul and the feelings that come from your gut.
the second point you made is true for me and it feels good to think that other people know about this experience as well 😃
One I’ve heard is how depression, mania, anxiety are choices. A choice? This is why I like cats better than people.
What is going through their mind?
@Andrei James yup got me there
@Andrei James Makes sense. I try to deflect from my anxiety by focusing on good things, like my career or the people in my life. Gratitude to God for what I have also helps.
My best friend doesnt "believe" mental illness exists. So she's always very anoyed when I tell her how I feel... even tho I didnt want to talk about it and she pressured me into it, knowing I feel awful... it just hurts
And she forces her religion and believes onto me... because it will "help me"
@@gimmebleachlmao2576 So are you still best friends? Because if you are then a good idea is to not be besties anymore. Potentially still friends but not besties. Because your mental health seems to be taking a big toll on this relationship. So consider that.
@@gimmebleachlmao2576 I'm sorry she does that to you, her forcing her beliefs really doesn't help at all
The sort of relationship that wont last long. But if it does last long, at one point it will feel so so so fake, that it will actually hurt you being near that person, altho your brain tells you that the person is a friend, you just wont stand her. You probably already reached that point. My advice would be to focus on yourself, do fitness, take care of yourself, try to do what you like, try to become a tougher individual and don't make your happyness dependent of so called friends.
Funfact: Everyone who deals with mental illness has gone through aalll these shit
Remember your not alone❤️
That's a fun fact is if that's untrue because you are alone if nobody actually understands
@@keiron.4612 thats alone true and scary
@@keiron.4612 creepy
@@magnaajeyam9994 What's creepy about it lol
My childhood friend to this day can't seem to understand that I struggle with PTSD, deep depression and axienty disorder. Her argument is well I have axienty to sometimes, but you don't see me labeling it. When my disorders got worst when I become a teenager she stopped being my friend. Said I was too over dramatic, and dumped me on a text. I didn't hear from her for about 6 years. As an adult we talk from time to time, (once or twice a year) but our friendship has never been the same. She still sometimes will call me dramatic if I show any hint of my illness. Some people never will understand.
I feel that.. I struggle with the same three disorders actually, I get called crazy when I try to talk about it :/
I hope things will get better for you, and that you have people who can understand what you’re going through
i think i have depression .. but i am not sure but i have all the symptoms and i went to a psychologist and it helped me a lot ... i found the courage to go there thanks to you ... thanks i am 16 and I've heard all those phrases especially from my mom ... thank you for bringing these contents make me feel more confident and less guilty for being sick 💕
I always hear "why do you worry so much" or "don't worry about it". I always wanna just be like 'see the thing is, when you have an anxiety disorder/disorders, telling us to not worry, is like trying to tell a dog not to bark' lol
Not all dogs bark constantly. We had a dog that only barked when we were hearding sheeps because that was his job. Point is, this is not like some random brain tumour you cant do anything about. You can train your mind to think differently and take medication. Not saying it will always work but its a possibility.
@@ThornyRoseV I'm not saying there aren't things you can do, it's just that you shouldn't tell someone with an anxiety disorder to not worry cause especially for those of us not able to get a treatment from a professional, it's damaging to hear that when we don't know how to do it. I made the reference to a dog cause it's in a dog's nature to bark rather than make another noise - for us, it's in our nature to worry about things
"don't worry about it" then I feel like saying, "weeeeeelllll, I don't know about you, but it is hard for me to NOT worry about my social anxiety (or other condition, this is just the example of the condition I have) when I feel like I am on the edge of a volcano
So, just wanted to let this off my chest.
Don't mind it, ok?
Basically I feel like trash, worthless and many stuff I can't really describe. Have many mental breakdowns, don't want to eat and just want to lay down my bed and sleep all day. I really don't know why I'm feeling like this. Always my parents say "you have a good life, many others are suffering in the streets" "ooh" or "uh-huh" as if they don't really care what I'm saying when trying to open about my feelings looking for an answer.
I don't feel like doing my assignments anymore, or even attend my classes. It's all so much work and motivation us not what I have for this past weeks.
Does anyone really understand me? Or is it just a moody phase all teenagers go through? I feel like everything's going downhill and there's nothing I can do.
This sounds like clinical depression. it sounds too deep to be a "phase" but you can go to a doctor who will help you :)
I’m scared.. like this sounds like you’ve described me. This is exactly me too. I think it gets better tho....I hope. Well that’s what everyone tells me. We probs need professional help tho 🥴
2:21 I swear almost everyone I talk to about it say this 🤦
I love your videos! I’m struggling with ADHD and depression and your videos help me when I’m feeling down and feel like I can’t talk to anyone! Thank you!
You’re timing is impeccable, thank you for this!
Every bully that is watching:
"Noted"
My sister use to tell me that I was looking for attention whenever id have an episode from my OCD and anxiety.
I hate when people say it could be worse, it's no help :(
I've already heard all these phrases and more, sooften, some since my childhood.
One of the worst things was about being suicidal. My grandparents see it as some sort of big sin to even think about it and as extremely selfish to pain those around you like this. Plus how dare you even think about wanting to die when there are so many other people who are really ill (from cancer etc) and would desperately want to live!?.... Only makes you feel even more guilty than you do already. Thanks for your videos. There are still so so many not acknowledging mental illnesses as being "real". You really help in trying to spread the message that they are totally real.....
I love this channel. So glad I found this
Glad you enjoy it!
"Our lives are like movies
Every one has different stars and stories
We have different nights and mornings
Our scenarios ain't just boring"
~Reflection, Kim Namjoon aka RM, BTS
Can I just say this speaker's sarcasm and voice really got the point through? 😌 I found myself kicking absolutely nothing when we got to the one about being overdramatic. Some people might say 'you're being too sensitive' as well. You really hit the nail on the head with these. 👌🏽
When no one actually says these things to me-
but I say every single one of these things to myself-
same.
When I can't even get a solution for a question or the first question I call myself stupid and dumb. For example "Come on this is the first question why are you getting stressed? This is just the first question! You're a stupid [REDACTED]. Why are you going to cry on the first gosh darn question. Stop crying! You're a useless piece of [REDACTED]!"
Yup
@@loppy33 Don't judge yourself!
Some people are getting very lost when they are stressed - that DOES NOT make them dumb!
Just don't work in 911 or military and you will be FINE!
Believe me :-)
@@igorthelight thanks for that positivity. I know that I am not what I call myself, just get any other source, friends family etc and they will say the complete opposite of what I call myself.
@@loppy33 Then maybe they are right? ;-)
The pain olympics are a tired old game. When someone says "other people have it worse" you aren't other people. A good example is seeing a guy with his leg in a cast versus someone in a whole body cast, doesn't mean the guy with the broken leg isn't hurting.
Thank you so much for those videoes.
My friend has told me that she has depression and I've been thinking of ways to let her know that she's not alone and can talk to me anytime she wants and needs.
Anyways, your videoes have made me realize the situation better and learn what to say, do or not.
So thank you, very much.❤
“Stop” “You’re being annoying, this isn’t the place for that”
While yes, it is important to cope and not be at your worst in public(I’m so sorry, I don’t know how to word it), saying “stop” doesn’t help. My sister and I both have tics, and they aren’t to bad, and we don’t really care about them, but also having the “it isn’t real” approach makes me question if they’re real, even if I’m just tired and/or upset, or they’re just bad that day. I have to constantly remind myself that trying to stop them just makes them worse, too.
What I've heard is "Everyone says they're depressed, it became a trend. So stop trying to be this trend" and it's really annoying cause.. yeah there are people who fake it for attention but.. it doesn't mean all of the people suffering from it are faking it... Society is just getting more and more disappointing as the time passes by
I have depression and have been diagnosed by doctor.He gave pills which doesn't work.It kept getting worse.I wanted to share this to someone...so said to my friend...she said the same thing.I-
@@magnaajeyam9994 she isn’t your friend
@@welcometovibespace5596 tru but...it's very hard to accept...it's hard..
@@magnaajeyam9994 it’s it for fear of being alone? I know that feeling, but what I learned from experience it’s that if the relationship is toxic it will either get more manipulate over time or it will come to a point they will completely dismiss you, and believe me when I say that its better to distance from those kind of people than feeling used and under appreciated all the time non stop, there are so much more people out there that would treat you better even if it was online than your crappy friend that just denies your feelings with trends, so plz start to at least be more cautious of them, and look for people that are actually worth it
My family asks me over and over again: Are you just going to be sad forever? I literally want to destroy everything cause they will never understand. I got sexually assaulted when I was 5 and it did ruin me a little and I'm suspicious about if I have a virus or something Anyway- I just hate that my parents asking me the same thing. My mom doesn't think I need therapy when I literally falling apart. So I've turned to my dad and my twin sister and my best friend. I just feel terrible and my best friend seems like the one who understands and my twin sister knows what to say and is trying to help which is cool. I gave up turing my older sister or my mom cause I can't say anything without getting interrupted or judged. . I've been keeping my emotions inside and talk to my other personalitys aswell and they just shake their heads, but still.
I would be nothing without my twin sister and my best friend tbh. I'd be nothing without them...
My best friend just mean to world to me... They don't know how I feel about them though but still. I love them. A lot.
But I just am done now. Sooo- yeah.
Thank you for telling me about this
This will help thousands in the future
As someone who has diagnosed depression and anxiety, it actually really hurts whenever I get called lazy because I have a really bad self image, and often I wont eat or stop standing for a while afterwards because it makes me feel like I'm not moving enough or overeating, and no one around me has noticed that except for my friend. My family doesnt really care a lot about my mental health
when my friend died, my dad told me to move on from it since the next day he died, i thought i will move on within 1 month but it had been 4 months and i still feel miserable about his death, my dad just labelled me weak
he's weak. your valid! :)
Yeah just forget someone in your life that mattered to you. I know forget is the wrong word but it has that same feeling.
damn, my brother died 2 or 3 years ago and i still from time to time cry and wished i was a better person to him and that he was still alive
@@unknown-ug5zd same with my dad.
I suffer from ADHD and let me just say..people have been saying some of these and I didn't know why it hurt so much thanks for telling me and others this. Also I like the little bubble people they are so cute
I love this video! And the narration is on point!
We go through our struggles differently, but our struggles are still valid!!! Thank you for appreciating them. ❤️😌
To be honest, I've never liked opening up to people about how I feel, mostly because of my mom. One time I had to pay for something and I don't really do that often so it was basically my first time so I literally had an anxiety attack when I went to the cashier. When we got into the car, I told my mom I thought I had social anxiety, and she said the lines of "but you never had it before when you were little! Plus, depressed people don't talk to the world" when the subject wasn't even about depression and I've never opened up to her about how I feel. Another time she said something similar was not to long ago when she again said "depressed people don't even talk to people so you're not depressed" when I didn't even say anything about depression. For context, it was about my grades. I basically gave up on school and I keep doing horrible when I'm doing the best I can, but that's not enough for my mom because she wants a perfect little girl with perfect graded just like my older sisters. And yes, she is the type to use mental health as a sort of guilt tripping. I cannot count how many times I've heard her say "I'm depressed!" "I'm so depressed!" "You guys have no idea how bad my life is!" "You guys (me and my siblings) are basically abusing me that's why I'm depressed!" And whenever something happens when me or my other siblings cry, she always says how she's depressed and shit when she doesn't listen to her children and how they feel. I'm not saying she doesnt suffer from mental health, all I wish is that sometimes she should listen to how I feel because what she thinks is right for me is making how I feel worse
Oh god...
I hope you are doing well now!
i get you mine may be a bit diff but i get you my brothers are fuck ups ones so far up his ass he cant see the sky ones does drugs and has been in jail the other left and doesnt talk to mother since of how she is and is doing decent in life i tried to open up to her but i caled a lier and that i was faking it im not allowed to mess up since i did slighty better than others in school im know supposed to be a golden child im not allowed to be broken im not allowed to cry the last time i cried was over 5 years ago since im supposed to be the no fucked up child hell im dying in my depression watching my life fall apart my grades are no existant i cant find a job and then forced to do all the house work simply cause "you dont have a job " i cant eat i cant sleep but yet no one knows ive crafted the perfect mask the goofy child that gets stuff done no matter what that is never down but sometimes has anger troubles ive built a mountian of lies to keep my life together yet who knows when it will fall :)
I don't have a mental illness but those words *HURTS ME*
ALSO you all are loved and accepted ♡
Same :
Samee
These video help me a lot in socialising.
Thanks for your every help.
Your voice is one of the cure for my mental illness. Thank you
Yeah... people say that I'm an attention seeker.
They say that I am lying about me overdosing when I get older.
They say that I'm just an edgy young teenager.
None of these sayings are true.
I'm not trying to be an attention seeker.
I never lie about committing suicide.
Why would such a person do that?
My struggles are so rare people don't understand it.
They just tell me to get over it, and move on.
I have pent up anger.
I get mistreated so bad that I even feel embarrassed venting.
Agreed. It's like the motivation to do thing is there but just out of reach.
Talking about it feels like complaing and nobody wants to listen to you, like you're wasting their time.
Being called lazy doesn't help either.
I'm not lazy, I've genuinely tried snapping out of it and "just being happy" but none of it works.
My experience: "it's just your feeling"
Thank you so much for this video! Your voice is so soothing and your responses were often funny haha sending this to a few people in my life because they just don't get it
This one was so pleasant 💜
I loved all the ways things were put into visualization and how aesthetic and peaceful the backgrounds were. Really relaxing and informative!
Anyone else ever been told that they are “ too depressed to be helped”? Or being called a “crybaby” when your having a panic attack with tears and snot running down their face? The one I hate the most is being called lazy because my depression gives me horrible fatigue. Some people just don’t get it and sometimes it feels even worse when it comes from someone you love.
i hate being called lazy when im clearly struggling to even feed myself since im so tired and fatigued while i feel absolutely terrible as i see my life fall apart since i cant even move to get FOOD let alone other things
@@williamreffitt7883 I hear you on that one.
I relate to this kinda, the phrase I get a lot when I’m dealing with my anxiety is “stop acting crazy”... words are painful even when they’re “not meant literally”, (like how is the word “crazy” ever a good thing to say?)
“ too depressed to be helped” - Some people;e are just rude (
Try to spend less time with them if you can.
Even if they are relatives.
Find someone who really cares about you.
I feel like even I (a random person on the Internet) care more about you than those people!
Have a really nice day!
@@vengefulkiwi20 I know exactly what you mean. The good old, “sticks and stones may break your bones but words will never hurt me”. Like no, sometimes words are worse.
I consider the “someone has it worse” to be borderline demonic to say because when I come across it, it’s just to get you to stop talking about your own struggles and it’s like, wow, yeah, the fact someone is dumpster diving for food right now totally gives me the $200 I need to pay my electric bill or whatever have you.
The sarcasm from the narrator gives me ✨life✨
i had a depression and anxiety by myself, I wanted to talk about it to my parents but i didn't wanna move or eat, so with the less of my energy i just write it to my mother, she wasn't supportive at all, she was saying "you're not depressed you're just a little tired". I told to my friend too and they said "No you don't!" They just put some "..." to their messages, and because of it i was fellin' more bad then i was. I think this channel is a great idea, people can learn about what you should not said or said to someone who was or ARE in pain, thank you!
This is why I love Psych2Go. They are kind-hearted people that have informative content they share in an easy to understand manner. They don’t criticize but inform you “hey you probably don’t mean it that way, but that phrase you thought was helping your friend is more likely hurting them” and they guide you like a good friend. Thank you Psych2Go ❤️
I am feeling like dying, I was about to try again I just hate my life
Wishing you all the best here. Take care :)
It will change! You'll have many happy days in the future! And many beautiful moments! For sure!!!
Go to the therapist!
That doesn't make you "weak" - when you car brakes - you call a specialist. Same with your body or mind!
:-)
Thank you for this video, its really nice to be able to be open about things without feeling you're suffocating others with your own problems :)
You're so welcome! We hope this video helped you in some way!
"Everybody gets anxious sometimes - just stop worrying/thinking about it," "Looking for attention," and "Just stop/start (blank)' are the most common ones I hear
Im going to therapy this weekend
Yay 😊 good luck
I wish you good luck!
Can you make more videos about eating disorders ? ( Especially of binge eating disorder ) since I have binge eating disorder. I would love to know more about it and how to overcome it.Thanks!
It wasn’t listed but as someone who has depression I get sick of hearing “Things will get better”.
When it’s been years and it hasn’t gotten better it’s hard to believe and stand someone saying that.
Let alone when it’s the only thing they say to “help”.
💯 I agree! I’ve been waiting for things to get better , I guess I have to die for them to get better , I heard this as a child and now I’m in my late 40’s and the nightmares are back. I feel today as I did then, so now I just try to keep my pain to myself. I find strangers on comments that I can relate to other than that I’m on my own. The last time I told someone my life sucks!! They said at least you have food and shelter!
Thank ! Your vidéo help a lot!
2:07 omori reference ! :D