6 Tips to Prevent Being Socially Awkward
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- Опубліковано 7 чер 2024
- In this episode, I cover what I believe are six effective ways to combat Social Awkwardness. I also discuss where it comes from in Childhood Trauma, and how to work on it by being more real and proactive.
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I suffered really badly with feeling as though everyone could see exactly what was happening inside me. I saw it as some kind of paranoia. It is awful. As is the 'everyone knows something I don't' feeling which is so isolating and has led me to a full mute shutdown on more than one occasion. I'm 53 now, it's far less intense now I am aware of it all. I'm always super anxious about social situations still but working on that. Thank you Patrick, you have shed light on C-PTSD for me, huge thank yous 🙏
Well I just have it where I’m ingnroed and hated so I’m just isolated with no ways to get out
Me too!!! I'm 54. The grief around lost years is sometimes overwhelming but I will not stop trying!!!!
Yes!
I always felt like the more people got to know me the less they liked me and it became a self fulfilling pattern. It’s nice to kind of recognize that maybe they were ruining from my silent requests for rescue.
Go into the room as "just you", not what happened to you. I like this one a lot. Thanks Patrick!
Wow, you hit me on all points. I have uncontrollable shame and guilt every time I leave somewhere. I didn’t understand why I’m that way when I can spend all day at home, happy in silence or with my music. Im going to try these tips. Thank you so much.
I don't know how to be just me and not what happened to me right now. It is hard to separate when it takes over my body. My mind can only say so much to convince my body to feel something else. I want to be calm and at ease but my body won't let it happen.
Wow. This was so good. I have never linked my childhood trauma to my oversharing. This morning I blurted out something incredibly personal and traumatic to my gym buddy in a lighthearted conversation and then spent hours distressed about how stupid I was for sharing that because I ruined the mood. I need to think about my assumptions and keep my trauma sacred.
Ahh, now I understand what i've been doing. I overshare, right up front, as a way of determining whether I need to burn that bridge or allow the person a probationary period. There's only one person I fully trust. Everyone else is on a lifelong probation.
Yeah, I have trust issues. Mostly I don't trust myself to know who I can trust. *sigh*
You explained that very well. That describes me too
Same here
"That's my secret, Pat. I'm always awkward."
This is so helpful. I do this so often, and then beat myself up for not controlling my triggers better. Thank you, Patrick!
I’m forever supporting this channel, keep going ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I find I am so much better since I stopped drinking, I wasn't a problem drinker, but my head has cleared. These things pop in my mind, but I can think before I speak now.
I love this. What if I have gotten way worse with the anxiety and the panic attacks over time, as I've gotten older, instead of getting better or at least maintaining some level, stay at some plateau of normalness. I am stuck in panic attacks and no career. Was I just always highly masking? Do I have some level of Autism? I've changed my diet, no smoking, no caffeine, cardio every day, a strict sleep/wake up routine, I take Vitamin D, Vitamin K-2, Cod Liver Oil, Magnesium Glycinate (the one easiest to absorb), lemon balm, Xanax, castor oil...I'm desperate. I talk to a therapist every week, great support system
Look into long term use of Xanax or any benzodiazepine causing chronic anxiety and panic attacks. I know first hand unfortunately. I'm tapering very very very very slowly.
Invaluable information Patrick, thankyou for all the great work you do 👍🙏♥
This is so timely. Thank you.
This overtalking piece is so interesting. I grew up with antisocial/narcissist father and narcissistic/ADHD mother. We really didn’t have any normal social interaction in our household.
When I was in my early 20s I discovered that other people just don’t talk about themselves all the time but also show interest in other people. Before that I thought in order to get to know people I must talk random facts about myself and when they didn’t respond with random facts about themselves, I thought they are not interested. I’m 40 now and although I’ve practiced being interested in other people, I’m still not entirely fluent in it.
I do like the bit at the end of waving to someone in the supermarket who didn’t see you but everyone around you did!
Thank you Patrick 💙👊
I've found that 'big confirming energy' we can look for are in fact narcissists who are love-bombing. I now avoid that kind of energy now instead of thinking it's what I need.
Thank you for another helpful video.
I always struggled with assuming people know what I’m talking about. Sometimes in conversations I don’t include context or crucial information or my sentences are unfinished or all over the place. I never realized it was from trauma and a developmental issue from neglect in childhood. This is so enraging to know.. but I’m trying to be better.
Amazing
So ... wait a minute.
If people can't read our thoughts and can't know things about us just by looking at us ...
But, the 'Body keeps the score ...'
Exactly how much of this is my insecurities being projected versus detected here?
Thank you so much for this Patrick!
that was so useful Patrick! by the way is there a database where one can find a therapist that is trained to the same thing you are? I am in Florida and when I search Relational Therapy near me I get couples counseling and just a bunch of general counselors.
Patrick. I would really like to journal but don’t feel real yet enough to just be present and feel and know ??? ….
I started by simply writing how I slept, then it flows into how I feel because of that. I also think 'what would I say to Patrick if he was sitting with me?' Then another thing I do is write in the third person, eg Kelly felt this or did that when this or that happened to her - feels so different, like a character in book. ❤
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Thanku!! Interested in idea you mentioned on your list, of how to go about New intimate partnerships.
Mine pops up later on….which is weird
What about in University doing a Masters and the lecturer asks for a volunteer to sit in front of the class. You hear one guy in ur class say "Don't pick a dog" and then the lecturer picks u to sit in front of the class. You freeze and another guy goes up because ur silly and time wasting. Then that evening you feel angry at the guy who went up and you write a stupid email because you feel judged by him. Then you are laughed at for the rest of the year by half the class. And to top it all off the guy who said "don't pick a dog" gets employed by the University when everyone else finds it really hard to get a related job. FML
That sounds really rough! You might be being too hard on yourself! There is a lot going on that you described. Try to be gentle with your inner self - you are only looking for what we all are searching for; love, belonging, acceptance, selfworth, community. Keep participating and know that there are others that do care and you are not alone!
For you - Much ❤, care and support!!
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Thanks Patrick 👍🫂 this was very helpful 🙏🩷