How Young Men Can Stop Being Creepy To Girls
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@Women beater he does actually lol
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@@elsenorputoamo1743 lmao
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Man everything is hood classic nowadays I see
@@TheRealL77 you are witnessing the early stages of a meme. A certified hood classic will be the equivalent of 'based by December 2021
I see you everywhere g
@@TheRealL77 yessa
He wearing a classic hood
Holy shit you're so right. I'm totally flirtatious and many girls that I talk to like me, but once I start "liking" them back, EVERYTHING BECOMES CREEPY. you're so right omg
Please dont say bad words
Steve rogers : he said a bad language word
this
How am I supposed to get a girlfriend like this? I have the same experience
@@giovannicorraliza8552 wtf 😂
It’s similar to being an artist of any kind (musician, actor, comedian, etc) you have to just dgaf about what other people think as you perfect your craft. If you’re not making mistakes then you’re not trying hard enough. You’ll never learn until you deal with awkwardness/rejection and then move past it.
Facts I make music myself and when I tried sharing my music and trying to make ppl like it people cringed but once I stopped caring some ppl at school wanna talk to me
"welcome to being Asian"
*me coming from a Balkan household*
@Dekkal yes, we are unique. Glad to see another Balkan man transforming himself into Adonisssss
@@eugengolubic2186 not only from Balkan, even Italians are here :)
@@diacociani7187 yes, there are people all over the world and I'm glad to see my neighbors over the sea. What I was referring to was the fact that in Balkan households parents are known to yell at their children a lot. They have specific phrases and actions that are so meme worthy and relatable to almost every Balkan person.
timestamp? i missed that..
kek balkans are the asians of Europe.
If you are overly friendly/helpful to the girl, you will make her uncomfortable. I don’t mean you can’t be friendly and helpful, but there is a point where you come off as desperate or obsessive. You also make them feel guilty for not liking you back. Giving them gifts will not make them like you romantically.
how would a person know if they're coming off this way
@@xaluephire1859 Just observing their own actions
@@xaluephire1859 if you’re constantly around them, assisting them or even offering assistance on small trivial things, forcing conversations when you have nothing to really say, or constantly liking their posts on social media…you’re hurting yourself in that way
Like if you genuinely just like them as a friend, it’s not really all that bad but when you like them more than that and you do ALL if not most of these things, you gonna have a bad time when she realizes you have feelings
@@ahmadkaien I'm guilty of a few of these, ty
my tip to get a woman is: dont be nice, be like: “AAAAYYYYY MAMMMIII QUIERO COMER TU CONCHA PUTA DE MIERDA” style…
The deep "Adonisss" is legendary man i keep coming back to videos just for the first jeffrey vs adonis and stick till the end
ADONISSSSSSSSSSSSS
Haha the way he says it
Lmao
Come for Adonis, stay for advice.
can't wait for the adonis vs jeffrey rap battle
Hey, I'm a woman and I really appreciate this video. The popular media and p*rn teaches boys and men to see women as a prize, an item, a monolith. There are so many examples of how NOT to treat a woman, and I'm so glad to see a lesson in how to do it right. I really appreciate all your life advice. It's a great resource for men (and women, too). We need more people teaching what you teach.
Thing is, its not only the media or porn that do that, women do too, ALL women do, then refuse to change or take accountability for their part in the issue.
@@CharinVZain Come on, dude. Really? ALL of us?
@Yeast Yeast I'm in a minority group that is frequently blamed for problems we did not cause. I understand the frustration and anger. it's a terrible feeling.
@@tictacbergerac Yes, keep coping.
@@tictacbergerac No not all but a lot do this
And in the media You see LOTS of women influencing this stuff
Rarely you see women standing up against this unless if its some weird PragerU women
Hamza honestly finding your channel was THE best thing that happened to me recently; I'm on the journey to fix my life after a 5-month rut and it would not have been possible without you, thanks for everything :)
God Is The Key 🙏
How you been doin?
@@Masked_madness09 Hey man honestly I've been doing quite good really; my life is getting better every single day, and self-improvement does really work. How're you?
I just started
@@juanito5350 great! keep goin!
I like how he's not afraid to say "the girl I'm love with". The redpill community has made is seem like all women have malicious intent therefore its more convenient to just fuck them instead of date them. To a certain degree I agree but there are some women who can actually add to your life as a partner. As a young male I think its important to focus on yourself first but down the line, as you get older you will not be happy unless you have a partner on you side stated by jordan peterson himself.
It’s important to realize women are humans with their own individual differences as well. Dudes will say stuff like “not all men are like that” and then act like every woman has the same hivemind mindset towards what they find attractive and what their values are. It’s a damaging mindset to act like an entire gender has it out for you all because you aren’t willing to put real effort in. When I stopped feeling bad abt my height, AKA being 5’4 (an insecurity that came from reddit), I started to realize that a lot of the shit these nerds tell you online isn’t real and mostly comes from a place of self pity and nihilism. Most of the women I pull are either same height or taller lmao. Moral of the story is to not assume who women are before you’ve met them, because we all see things differently. Woman aren’t sex programmed androids, they’re people.
@@aidanwilliams3070 well spoken fr
@@aidanwilliams3070 bluepilled
The red pill is a cult. They take advantage of people who can’t find their way. They prey on insecure man children. Don’t listen to them, you wil be miserable and lonely. Every time I’ve gotten a gf I was being myself. Make sure you level up of course, but don’t try to be someone you’re not. Also there’s nothing wrong with being kind, just make sure you stick to your values and you know where your boundaries are at.
@@josueordonez4303 are you a incel by any chance?
When I learned about SMV from you, I realized mine was raised throughout highschool, in middle school no girl liked me back but over highschool, I did sports and worked out and grew wiser and saw girls come to me easily, easier to speak to them and everything
Girls are talking with you bcoz they want your chad friend!
You still in high school?
@@jkshallinheritearth3883 don't be harsh hes still young
@@rasheemthebestfirstone3274 nah graduated, going to start college soon
Lol my teacher once said
When you grow older girls will come to you don't waste your time on girls at these ages
when this channel blows up one day, we OG's subscribers are gonna be so proud
its already growing so much, Hamza is the goat, 1 mill subs by 2022's end
fr
here since 5000 subs
i think he will delete the channel if it blows it might effect his social life
@@epicgamer1541 i have thought the same so i pre download his vids
"best thing you can do to improve your SMV is build an aesthetic body" I will be honest i feel way more confident and less creepy when im leaner but when im bulking up my confidence is a bit more down you could say and as for creepyness i feel like i dont realise im creepy but apparently in some cases iam? honestly i dont understand it as much tbh
If ur ugly ur creepy or if she doesn’t like you your creepy
@@Icg-xf2vs well tbh girls like me better when I'm bulking although I got the creepy compliments only when I was in a "dirty bulk" so I guess I did look ugly 😅
@sudip chakraborty yh I took a break for like 2 months of gym and now I've started again bulking back up gaining all my prs back and muscle mass I realised now even recently ehhh what I said before bout bulking I wouldn't say ugliness is the problem rather confidence and just keep yourself clean and healthy but yh also the fact that when you lean af well I was at a point shredded your very self confident like you know you look astonishing which everyday gives you a short dopamine rush / sensation of confidence
Puts a smile on your face - thus attracting women and anyone really lol haha but yh you get the point
Stay positive be confident stay clean and don't be creepy
This guy is just so independent and calm. Watching his videos always motivates me to change for better
First story reminded me of when I tried to flirt with this girl even after she told me she had a boyfriend. When you haven't progressed far into self-improvement there's still the undying desire to be accepted by women. I hate it.
Respect for telling your romantic misadventures, especially in today's "sexism aware" world
“Adonisssssssssssssss”
Yo! Just wanted to thank you for the progress you helped me and others make. Thanks man!
you're welcome brother
Yessir
Beautiful pic bro
I really want to thank you man. Watching you has genuinely helped me progress in my self development journey
i think we all appreciate the mass of content we are getting around here. thank you hamza!
Damn bro, you are so right about the anxious attachment style...I had Asian parents too, and now that I think of it, it really screwed with my head. That's really the only thing that's holding me back, and now that I know of it, I can work on it.
I LOVE how you mentioned anxious attachment styles and the little Dale Carnegie shoutout at the beginning. Understanding the Carnegie school of thought and healing through my childhood trauma have been HUGE in my self improvement journey. It helped me get over multiple heartbreaks and expand my circle into a healthy, self-elevating tribe. I'm so glad you reinforced these two things not just because it reassures me, but because I KNOW it can help other people too. Immensely.
Compared to these other youtubers Hamza seems like he actually trying to help
Just added both of those books to my wishlist. Gonna get those asap. Thanks, Hamza!
U litteraly started and kept motivating me on self improvement just ty
Yes i have that anxious attachment style. Not just with the girls but in friends too. Its like your obsess or concern about them too much or something like that. But now i realize that they don't even care or think about me. That's why my goal is to have an abundance mindset. That i don't need to impress every people in the room. Just be myself and Be happy.
Same thing with me bro especially I had experience with a girl at my workplace who has many options uff. I learned everything especially what you mentioned I don’t need to impress & have abundance mindset it’s hard bc I was not like that so to make that change & seeing what that girl does it’s hard. It’s like you wanna make impression sometimes but we shouldn’t focus just on that. Well I don’t know sometimes it’s hard to figure out things bc it goes 2 sided you have to do this but you have to do this too lol. But at least now I try to focus more on myself now.
Personally my thoughts are what make me feel creepy, my sister always called me a creep when I tried to make friends or date, things were generally positive but her comments are always in the back of my mind telling me “I’m creepy, a loser, and no one wants to talk to me.” But when I do talk to people it goes pretty well.
Then talk to more people
siblings don't always have good advice despite knowing you well, because that can be mixed w jealousy or a sense of competition or just not wanting you to succeed for some other reason.
I’m glad I don’t have a sister like that.
Don't let your sister pull you down. Leave her there, improve yourself, then lift her up.
Don’t let your sister get involved in your business
Hamza i am loving these thumbnails lmaoo
Love watching you. Thanks
Found you yesterday and been binge watching your videos .
It'd crazy how many advices on self improvement I needed that I never thought I did until I heard them
Thank you man. I just discovered you today and I will keep up improving. Greetings from Germany.
my parents were so caring for me, never hit me once, barely raised their voices. But the Anxious Attachment Style you described fitted me so well. I ALWAYS over analyse every social interaction i have with people who arent good friends. Like I think "oh, since they said this one word, does that mean they never want to see me ever again?" Stuff like that. Know why?
Certified US moment
@@unit4593 🥲
These intros with you working out afterwards are so motivating! Keep them up!
in the beginning i stopped the video too many times, because your story reminded me of my younger self, memories came rushing and cringe just washed over me
Man this is a great video I love the energy you have in this one your making it fun to watch for the Jeffery's but also giving them game to turn into Adonis
I’m here when U had 30k and will be here till forever! Because you changed me for life ❤️
Thank you hamza
I just love listening to you. Like, if I was a girl I'd be like *please marry me, now*. I wanna be like you bro, today the gym is closed so I'm going tomorrow.
Also I gave a look to the second book you suggested. Cheers!
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You know what's funny I didn't ever know I had the anxious attachment style until you started explaining it and I started to relate on how I acted with my girlfriend. Thank you so much for showing me why I act like that and how to change it
Thanks a lot bro. I definitely will look into the anxious attachment style stuff. This is very valuable content
Do the hardwork specially when you don't feel like it motivates me every time ♥️
Thank you Hamza you're changing my life every single day. I'm finally going to take the steps to improve my life and it all starts today.
@ie mand He has unfortunately passed away.
@@consumecheese8667 who
@@fishyspicy I may have been talking about someone in a comment that was deleted. I don't remember who but I'm certain I was joking about that person's death
Thank you so much you’ve helped me destroy hatred of my self. And relalize I need to love my self block out haters respect ✊
You're doing great work man. Keep it up.
Bro you're f'in amazing. Subbed. Love those "random social interactions" videos. Any books or videos to recommend on that matter ?
How to win friends and influence people
Hey Hamza, really enjoying your advice and videos, they helped my quite a bit. But I don't have the time to spend to watch all your videos, I enjoy reading tho which i can do in the Plane or in Hotels (I am traveling quite a bit due to my work). Can you make a List with helpful books you would recommend to certain subjects which you maybe can keep up to date? On Discord maybe? I also want to thank you for what you do, you helped me quite a bit in my life. Compared to other UA-camrs you come across like you are honestly invested into the wellbeing of young men, instead of trying to sell me overpriced stuff, thank you good sir.
I’m grateful for you Hamza
You're helping me improve my life. Thank you
You're a role model to me, you pulled me out of the black pill and all of their negative fatalism. Thanks to you I have changed my priorities and I'm working out on my abs
@Subhuman Manlet If you don't wish to self-improve, that's your call.
@@sickle7291 how's it going?
You're right he helped me too, those blackpillers honestly cope a lot more than even bluepillers
I wish I had a brother like hamza. I love my brother, but I really like how hamza talks to his audience.
Thanks for the advice Brosky.
Your story telling is amazing!
Youre spittin straight facts and i dont know how to feel about it🥲🥲🥲
Rip fat xxxtentacion
Amazing profile pic
Hahahaha bruh where’s ur neck 😂
I actually think he puts the recordings of him flexing at the beginning of the videos just to motivate us to achieve that goal too, not because of vanity
Of course man!
Who thought it was vanity?
A true aspiration my brudda!
Thank you Hamza!
You always put a smile on my face when you say "AdonissssssssssssssssssSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS" 😂
"Adonisssssss"
Amazing... comparing you from now to you in this video is inspiring. Very substantial changes. I'd expect nothing less from our tribe leader, Hamza.
Thanks again man
Hi @Hamza love your work, could we have a video on how best to chat to people online, it always feels super stilted when I do it, but I don't get why. Thanks for all the advice, my life is beginning to change, my social life and body is now coming up to where my academic skills are now that I'm at uni, thanks mate.
Really good info. Abusive parents shape you as a child and it carries to adulthood where you have this attachment style and get over invested into a girl that you like, even though she doesn't even know who you are, which comes off as creepy.
really good content bro
Good stuff bro
Hamza helped my life become better and I am so grateful. Thank you
Dude the way you broke that down is so true. Feint disinterest/attraction, have a high SMV, get away with more playfulness, secure the vag
You are truly amazing brother
i love you man
When I was younger. I had no problem talking to girls and I was getting them with ease but I fucked up when I hit senior year I got nasty thoughts in my head and I started to look at girls creepily.
7th grade for me, everything changed
I can say I have the anxious attachment problem and it has cost me a lot. I wish I saw this when I was 18
Thx for the help bro 🔥
Damn that on/off love from parents was so accurate, growing up in a hispanic family
Thanks to you I know understand why I failed every time I fell in love with a girl. I was just caring way too much, and ended up running away because I didn't wanted to look creepy and "loose" her. And it ended up the worst way possible.
Kinda hard not to be weird when twenty percent of my friends in classmates act gay when around in not around girls
All of my homies act gay sometimes and yeah true that
Holy shit man, looking great you inspired me to workout and start my journey.!! keep it up
Curing anxiety can be a lifelong process . Just don't expect anything from an interaction . You are water , you flow , don't overthink , just flow ... Failure is guaranteed , so fail better next time , build that (social) resistance , brain is just another muscle for you to train ...
I wish I knew this earlier as one of my friends used to talk shit about me to girls. This "shit" would be sexual statements that I have never said. It would be helpful if there was a guide about how to deal with this
that's not a friend, mate. he clearly is trying to sabotage you.
My problem was not coming across as creepy back then, my problem was that I came across to friendly and I played it too safe, and this would always land me on the friend zone.
most genuinely advice I never had bro thanks always do likes and comment to support ur video.... 💯✨ good day Hamza
You are by far my favourite UA-camr :)
“If you were beaten as a child, I’d recommend this book” We desperately need a “Hamza out of context” compilation.
I love the fact you said you don't have enough knowledge YET on the topic, recommended 2 books and one of them being by Nicole LePera
I'm just leaving a comment cause I really liked the thumbnail. Top kek quality.
Hamza is the big brother I never had🙂.....and the big brother I wish to become🫂
,,and now im 17 or 18" bro meditated so often that he forgot his age
thank you for your videos man
Ur advice is so goated.
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Jesus. Well, that explains it. Explains a lot. Knew the trauma and stuff was affecting me a lot, worked on it a lot, but hadn't realized it also affected the kind of affection I feel. Makes what a mate said make sense now, that I get too attached to media and care too much about stuff.
Thank you.
Have you read You Are Special by Fred Rogers? Or the Upanishads? I would say those two books, along with my own discoveries are what have helped me the most.
The "Adonissssss" gets me every time
I'll be honest, when I clicked on this video, I was expecting some video about a gym bro just telling me I should get fit...
I wasn't expecting the nuance and depth of someone to articulate the condition of Anxious Attachment Style that has plagued my life (coming from an abusive family).
You sir have earned a sub. Your realness and genuine care for other men, who are struggling to make relationships (not just romantic) is amazing.
Thank you for the video.
I just got a lot from this. Respect 🙏🏻
My brother in law always told me don't overthink things.
Its too easy to be strong because everyone is weak
best to take advantage of it then
Ur actually making sense
Thank you bhai ❤
“Group of Youtes” oh yea, I remember talking to you in my endz 😭😭😭
youths nigga
the thumbnail had me dying lmfao
I think this channel is blowing up. I got recommended this a couple days ago and this is the best channel by far. I am all in!
Bhai tu to asil ho yar.
Love to see the growth hamza.
Hey, I am 20-years old man from Finland.
I have build the aesthetic body for myself and I take care of my face and hair. Even got a ear ring for my left ear because I wanted. Currently working in an office job for the summer and my studies start after two weeks. Hobbies include gym (been going for 4 years now), started investing and meditating while ago, Have been reading for couple of months now. I even got really nice flat for myself a week ago. I don't smoke but I drink weekly and use mouth tobacco when I drink. When it comes to girls I would say that I am better than average but not like top 10% (I know about social dynamics, game etc)
But still I feel really empty inside. Like nothing hasn't really changed and something is lacking in my life. What should I do?
Your channel is really awesome, keep it going!
First question, how much of the stuff you are doing do you really, truly enjoy? Does reading fill you with joy and fulfilment? It seems to me that you haven't yet found the thing or things that fill your void. I myself have experienced and am going through the same. I would start by suggesting that you should branch out and try mnore hobbies to see if any pick your fancy. I tried a lot before I started climbing among a few others that i freally enjoy. For me it's using my body for sport, not just having it that really gets me going.
Essentially, these habits have not had a large enough compound effect yet on you or your mental health so you are still chasing something that you think will fix you. The hard truth is that these things like reading or going to the gym on their own wopn't do much if you don't first fix yourself. I would suggest doing the wellbeing course that hamza reguraly recommends.
Ask yourself the following questiuons and journal about them or just answer them:
Why are you doing what you are doing? I.e Why are you on the self improvement journey? What does fulfilment mean to you?
What are your values? What do you strive for? Is there anything in life that you wish you could have or be? If its something like money or a high up job or a girlfriend then you are on the wrong track. It has to come from within.
There are other questions that will come to you after you answer these. They will help guide you if you answer them sincerely. Like how do i get there? You write a plan.
The void is a tough thing to fill. It won't be instant. It will probably take years so don't be stressed if you still feel empty from time to time. Just know that over time the hole becomes smaller and smaller until it dissapears entirely.
Once you have an idea of the path you want to take and why you are doing it, follow that path to the best of your ability. I know some of this was wishy washy because a lot of it is really so if you want me to clarify or explain anything then just say so.
Also look into life-philophioes that might appeal to you. I personally have been practicing stoicism (although not to the extremes i see others doing) and it has allowed me to shrink that void by appreaciating more in life among many other things.
To sum up: find what is lacking in your life. How? Journal until you find what it is. Then figure out a way to solve the problem. Then do it.
Best of luck!
“There is no way to the way” - Buddha. In other words, happiness is in the here and now. If you can’t be happy right now, no amount of self-improvement will make you happy.
@@edwardrhodes4403 couldn’t have said it better myself, stoicism can be used to hone down what you already have to a fine point, while blunting and nullifying to the hard edges of life.
@@edwardrhodes4403 I am truly thankfull for your answer! I think my problem currently is that I want more money, status and especially girls. They are like drug to me and the more I get it the more I need it. I feel shit if I dont get laid weekly and this makes it alot harder to get girls. I just want to someone to say whats wrong with me?
At 20 years old your primary goal is to build your foundation for life. Do not think that at 20 you will be at your peak in life. Don't seek validation from women and learn to enjoy your own company. These things just happen when you are not pursuing them actively (women). Looks, Status, Money, Game. Where are you lacking? If it's game - talk to more women to build up confidence. Status - be affluent in the groups you go out with, make new friends. Money - for 20 years old it's not that important, focus on getting skills on how to save and aquire financial habits.