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I don't even have the energy to chase women or spin plates anymore. All my energy is into making the most money possible while putting in the least amount of time doing it, so I can have the most money and time for my daughter. Anything else is meh to me at this point.
Amen. Classy shirt, Rich (not really). All this is too much, really. I plan to not get involved with this insane dating world stuff and remain alone (no kids, never married, don't date) unless God has a special plan for me. My religion also doesn't allow for "fornication". So, since I have no successful career, no "game", etc, this isn't for me. It's sometimes fun to watch your videos, but we're worlds apart in lifestyle. I even quit a decent paying job watching UA-cam as an overnight office building watchman because of Chine virus mask rules (I'm anti-mask and anti-vax) and make maybe $6000/year now. But I have my principles.
@@dh8148 That's the way to do it. Exit the rat race asap. Correct, never chase a woman, if she wans to chase you fine, but she should be used for fun times only. How old are you?
@@dh8148 Bro. Same age. Almost same net worth (over 200k but under 300k). And nobody knows mine either, and I want to keep it a mystery, too. I dress like I'm homeless ($5 white t shirt, athletic shorts, cheap shoes) to add to the confusion "how does this guy afford to go on vacation all the time". I don't let hardly anyone into my life, just me and my 1 year old daughter doin stuff just the 2 of us.
You can become a master at coding, making bank in finance etc but if you haven't been with a woman before and have zero experience, that rejection fear can become insane when you get close to a chick in RL. Like even as a guy who has been married, with lots of women, I know and have seen how ruthless women are about shit testing virgins or non-confident men. Makes a lot of guys with no experience collapse instantly. Women f'ing hate virgins. That is why they keep trying to lock down Chad's, even they know they are trying to lock them down and will get thrown the curb by them lol
Seriously. 100% of my issues are income related. Make 85k/year in Miami and that's paycheck to paycheck. With 300K, I'd be dropping 100k/year in investments and living on the rest.
Found Rich Cooper from his interview on the Andrew Klavan show and I have been mentally so much healthier. Read the book, read it again, read all the other books.
300k at 28 wow! That’s highly impressive young man. You clearly spent lots of time working on your hustle and that’s a great path to take. Now that you’ve got your finances together start spending more time spinning plates. The confidence with women comes with experience. Keep working on your fitness. The needy stuff should start going away with age. There is no quicker way to scare a woman off then being needy with her, you should really really work on having multiple women to hang out with that way you’re not being so needy with just one. You lack options my friend. If you’ve got 3 decent women on your roster you’ll gladly lose the needy behavior. I was needy myself until about 33 ish. The sooner you eliminate that behavior the better off your life will be. You’re on a good path! Keep going.
@Matt THX why wouod he lie if he is not being shown here? And also why lie when you want to get an advice, the advice would be less accurate if you gave wrong details
@@basedpatriotLT Because we guys, being the egomaniacs, we are capable of being, assume we know which details matter and which dont. I'm not as convinced as MattTHX that the subject is lying, but i could see a motive to lie on here Every guy wants to think he is Alpha, that he is Mr. Jack Sh*t! Guys who dont come across with that bravado tend to get torched!
@@inconnu4961 sure guys want to inflate their ego and pretend they are better, but they do when people know who they are. For example i would not lie to you aboit being ruch here because you would not validate my ego in any way, since you would only know as M frkm youtube comment. If i liead at some party, that would make sense because people would think i am rich. As in ME the real person at the party, not username M from youtube. No point to lie when you are just some pixel to the person you are lieying to. That guy wouod not get validation from us falsely thinking he was rich, because we do not know who that guy is, he is only some X from the question.
He's over bonded with his mother and taken her personality instead of his dad's due her being his main parent. He may have been his mother's little husband due to dad not being around. So he's grown up a mummy pleaser. He needs to get over his mother. If you can't stand up to your mother you'll never learn to stand up to any other woman.
It's about boundaries / self-discipline, which includes having limits with one's mother. She can't rent space in her son's head, especially when he is in a serious relationship with a woman to replace his mother, so to speak. ( Big difference between evaluating a potential spouse for how she can blend in with one's blood family and vice versa VS only marrying who mother approves of. ) Part of what having boundaries AND re-enforcing them means is that he will grow stronger to the point where the Guilt Complex weakens and gets thrown off. For some, it is a lot of work. Gotta do the work, and in today's world oftentimes Feminism wants to have that power over men. Kinda like how suffocating mothers do.
Woaw thanks for this video! Until 25 I was obese, depressed, unemployed... a loser etc. I lost 35 kgs, gained 15 of muscle, realized my dream of becoming a coach and I even write for a sports magazine abroad. I'm 6'1 and I was always told I was handsome or could be a model. My last 2 exes were literal 9, everone would drool seeing them. Yet I always feel like I am not enough, not doing enough. I have body image issues and can still feel depressed or have a dark view of the world because I've had a string of unlucky events. But at the same time, many good things happened. I guess I focus only on the bad. I need to do the work and cut myself some slack.
The problem is with most people not interiorizing the message, not with the message itself or the manoswamp. This goes for pretty much any tutorial or coaching, even with fitness, where you immediately resort to what you were prior to starting training once you stop training. That's why personal trainers are so popular. yet, the results are not seen in the society. P.S. Any so-called trainer or coach or guru should be leading you up to a point where you no longer need them because you have embedded their message/method into your system, not always keep you in a leech and in a slave mentality by making you dependent on them.
Same with a good pastor/priest. Not dependent as a child just believing everything they say and teach, but a good teacher ( religious and otherwise ) will build up and empower one to mature and think critically for oneself. Agree and disagree, which a good teacher will embrace, not reject. ( Allowing for extremes being problematic. ) It can be a bit surprising and disappointing when men, including those who have their YT channels, don't own up to their mistakes while preaching about Improvement. OK. We all can have our hypocrite moments. So, keep on keepin' on.
From my own experience social media is something to stay away from. Delete all of it. When I was single women found me interesting without have to act like someone I’m not though social media. It shows a level of maturity.
The way the guy thinks, it reminds me of a woman's mindset. I too had this problem and now have worked far away from it. A good way to start thinking more masculine is to stop worring about your or someone else's feelings. Instead think objectively. Such as ask what do I think about something instead of how do I feel about it. This kind reprogramming takes time but will work and you will not even think about these thoughts a few years around the road. Just stay consistent being masculine.
"Release Your Brakes" is another great book to help... What I see from myself is that hanging around with losers is probably the worst offender to my self-confidence. Some good habits that helped me were cold showers in the mornings, affirmations, and doing exercise the way I f*cking like it, which is outside at the park, without my shirt on. It's miraculous that when I do whatever the f*ck I want without hurting other people physically in the process, then I get a full boost of confidence. I mean, WOW right? :P But you have to wear the big boy pants to face the shaming or perceived shaming from strangers. But whenever I wear these pants for a few months time consistently, my life gets an upgrade. WOW right? There is no complicated code. ZERO FUCKS GIVEN, as long as you don't hurt other people physically (or destroy the peace, playing drums during midday and such)
Being naturally aloof is the way. All these books on game show you the framework but it’s not a process like a computer program. You need to adapt the thinking to your situation.
When Rich said a baby can overcome its limited beliefs them why cant a man, I was blown away, Brilliant advice Rich. Salute. One the most sensible man here giving the right advice. The RP and BP takes away a bit of your confidence once you know your replaceable so Rebuild it.
I'm about to lose an 85k/year job because my boss is an idiot but is friends with the owner. Leaves things unresolved for weeks then blames it on me, despite a email/txt trail as long as my arm. I hate corporate America. I feel like a loser because I don't have the sack to start my own business at 49.
After getting divorced, I honestly don't want a woman...at least not for a long time. They are a pain in the A at best. If a hookup happens, sure, but it's not worth the effort. Do well and they'll come to you.
Here my dime store psychoanalysis: dude is a momma's boy. All those women rejecting him are "his mom". He places women on a pedestal so he's gonna always have a problem regardless of what he brings to the table. Source: I have a buddy exactly like this guy.
I learned in my early 20s (after some advice from my dad), that basically all the problems in my life were self created. Once I stopped that behavior, life became a lot better. Sure problems still come up, but deal with it and move on. Its like these dudes who get cheated on in basically every relationship. You keep picking garbage women to commit to and dismiss the red flags they show. I had a friend that was like this years ago, took a nasty divorce to finally get it through to him.
That's something I realized pretty early in my life. My 27 year old brother still hasn't figured it out. Things you do right now have long term consequences. They may not manifest immediately, or even a year later, but at some point they will come knocking and you will have to pay for it. When I sit back and think about all the things that have happened to me I would say the vast majority of them were my fault in some way. The bad relationships were my fault b/c the red flags and the signs were there. I either ignored them, downplayed them, or didn't have enough experience to know what was good or bad. My current lack of relationships, both romantic and platonic, is my fault b/c I don't put myself out there and I didn't maintain the friendships I had. Its all self created.
One simple rule I always enforce is that I never respond faster then they do. Also I will never double text without a reply ever NO MATTER WHAT… this is the simplest way to start eliminating needy behavior. It says to me that my value is higher then hers if she’s replying to me much faster then I am her. It subconsciously lets her know that I’m the prize. I personally don’t text them back sooner then a few hours most the time.
@E KL any woman I ever talk to clearly knows that I’m interested. When we are sexual and when we are together in person I am clearly letting her know I’m into her. *MOST women will gladly take a man off his purpose and try to text him all day all night. It’s a mans job to stay focused and busy, therefor not being able to text all day and night. This leaves her always wanting more And she’s appreciative of what she gets. She knows he’s the prize simply by his lack of constantly needing her attn. if you shower a women with text time all day long the attraction quickly fizzles out. She has to wonder about you.
One big thing I haven't seen anyone bring up is intrinsic vs extrinsic motivation. So much focus external sources proving your value and trying to interpret it as internal. The things aren't necessarily of value...you create the value. If you lost everything and had to start from scratch, you can obtain all that again. I'd say the source of value is the most important thing.
love this video, good solid advice, look at who you are now and don't think a woman is needed to complete you. there is an outstanding thought that you need someone, totally false-you need You and let stuff happen. so easy to become needy and desperate in the face of loneliness. shift the perspective, these girls are on your hunting ground. not you on theirs. best wishes My Brothers
Ooh, I read that book by Maxwell Maltz. It was very, very helpful to me, actually. Some of that stuff I instinctively figured out on my own, but it was interesting to see it summed up nicely and find that somebody else confirms that.
Thanks for doing a video on this topic Rich. I too resonate with that guy and your advice is very helpful. Like any belief, it takes time and constant affirmation to change your worldview and psyche. I keep telling myself what you mention a 100 times “there are thousands of pretty women out there, but not so many high value men”
Even if I was broke I wouldn't consider myself a loser . LOL life's to short to ever consider myself a loser. Yes I lose ! But I learn and never beat myself up because I lost. We all lose in life ! I've come to a conclusion I think EVERYONE has lost but not everyone wins . So with that said ! Live ! Love your family & friends ! Be respectful to those whome DESERVE IT! Take care of yourself ! Never stop learning ! Never stop improving! for the day you die is the day your done !! .. have a wonderful day.
For why I personally see a therapist: When going through some tough times, medically and emotionally, not da girls related, actual out of balance chemistry in my body related things, it helped to talk to someone to work through the feelings I was having and the panic attacks I was having, for no apparent reason. Rather than verbal vomiting on my friends. They always didn't solve everything, but while in therapy, I've usually made some good breakthroughs for me and my life. Therapy with a therapist isn't always for everyone, sometime you just have to find the right one, or use something else as "therapy". Love the content Rich!
Rich appreciate the all your recommendations. Just now started to listen to ya. Some of that guy stuff sounds like my issues. I have lots others he doesn't. I'm 48 now, since 7 years old have lived with learning disabled from brain damage that was brought on by seizures caused by epilepsy. I do live my own life but has been in hell being married.
I also genuinely believe that no human on earth can possibly feel confident about themselves 24/7. Even people like Andrew Tate have days where they feel less than optimal, but they won't tell people because it breaks the illusion of character.
Exactly! its this! I have tried to discuss this with others and i liken it to a high tide vs a low tide. The sea of our emotions are always changing, always flowing. Some of this has to do with the weather, what society around us imparts on us, and some of it has to do with the moon, our natural inate state of being.
7:33 So true. Don't learn the moves. Once you become confident and secure in yourself, the moves will happen naturally. He needs to focus on becoming confident and secure in himself. To do that, he will definitely have to take a hard look at his relationship with his mother. If he is so needy with woman, his mother definitely failed him. Many mothers give their sons conditional love. That's why they become pleasing beta men.
Thank for all your book recommendations including the one you just recommended, psycho cybernetics. I just downloaded to audible and will listen to it at work today. I'm 34 and never read a book in my life. The past two months I've gone through 4 books already and I'm learning alot. Looking forward to this one. Thanks again
Have issues being married that never imagined would have. My wife has a few minor issues mentally. We dated for little over a year and a half. During that time we grew closer and closer. Seem to strongly understand each other's issues but had nothing but love for each other no matter what whether things were for better or worse but turn out to not be so. She grew up without a father just a verbally abusive mom in twin sister. It didn't matter to me that she had that kind of life but now it seems she just married me to get away from her mother. We were 30 and 33 When we married with her being older than me. The age different meant nothing to me. But now it's over, fixing to be divorce. She tried multiple times to get me to leave cuz she wasn't happy in some ways still can't figure out why she was. I multiple times children I'm not going to walk out on my family but the only way that I would leave the house was in a patrol car or ambulance it turned out to be in a patrol car. Was charged with batter and family violet. What happened was my oldest daughter who's 15 now has had problem with drugs for 3 years now and being around toxic friends that my wife allowed her and I tried every way to prevent it from happening but there was no luck. One day I caught my daughter with cigarettes and pot smoking and decided to be funny and I grabbed a cigarette and I get barely rubbed it on her sweatpants put it out which really did nothing. Didn't even burn through but her damn friend who's also on drugs had her mom called the police. Never would have imagined something like that what happened to me. Yes I was arrested mugshot and fingerprint of course. So was removed from my house by defect and waited. I was found not guilty of abuse or neglect and was cleared but the damage was done. I tried to live with my wife and daughters but she didn't want me no more and was threatened three times. So couldn't make peace with them decided to file for divorce just can't take it no more.
Rich, that book by Maxwell Maltz was my bible when it first came out and was extremely helpful to me in changing habit from self defeating to positive. I would also highly recommend it.
It’s so hard.. I really am try to be optimistic. I was diagnosed with major depression due to suicide attempt in family, abuse, death of my dad, having no friends and war in my country in Syria. I left antidepressants and trying to deal with it myself, but the self hate thoughts are so intense. I’m not giving up on being optimistic but it’s hard especially when other people tell you that you’re bad luck. The sadness is too intense and therapists are useless
I peaked in high school and early 20's. I've done alright since but as a below average height tech worker I can say and understand women are not flocking to me. I'm ok as at least I did have a peak. 🤣
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Unfortunately, alot of my childhood friends and family are what I would consider losers. I simply cannot spend as much time around them as I used to because I have to chase excellence right now.
Also Rich it seems I was blinded by rainbows through our marriage. Was too blind to see all the red flags in my marriage. Almost a sexless marriage it has been. Respected her for not wanting it 3 years I felt the love and infection with very dough. But still loved her with all my heart and always there for her and our children. But no matter what I did meant nothing to her. Never thought I would be living this kind of life but that is about to all change.
I struggle with this at times too. Some days I acknowledge my objective value and I feel super confident, and on other days I just feel down about myself
It’s all well and good to take those old beliefs out behind the shed and beat and bury them, but no one seems to be able to articulate HOW to beat and bury them. It’s always a “should” but never a “how”. My perception is that this is because these beliefs were formed when we were babies and had no prior reference points when we learned new things. Therefore our foundation is largely undefinable and untouchable.
Really needed this video since a girl just flaked on me who I really thought was invested. Most annoying part about it on our 2nd date she got pretty awkward so I told her that I would take a step back and let her do her thing. She insisted that we hang out again for a 3rd date which we did, went seemingly well considering she came upstairs... Then flaked on the 4th date with only 2hrs notice on a Friday night. Just goes to show that women operate by what they feel in that very moment and basically nothing else. I have to admit it was irking me just like the guy who emailed, but Rich is right. Just gotta accept it and move on since there is no man on the planet that this hasn't happened to at least once.
My advice to this guy who wrote is that he should stop caring so much what other think including women. I also believe that some things comes with age aswell. He seems to have much going for him and he should be proud of that. Anyone else who think otherwise could F-off.
Trying to start a new life for myself. A life of decrease in stress start improving my health. Right now and for years I'm severely obese and have been half my life. I believe now that I can make a huge change regarding my health my emotional pain and abuse that have experienced for many years. But I am so shy and nervous approaching women and feel that I can't be good enough for them. I have a job making under $30,000 a year. A friend of mine keeps telling me that I need to date again after divorce but I'm just not sure if possible. I'm just not sure how I can date again because of afraid of being judged by minor memory problems. Not sure how a woman would feel regarding them issues. Would like to date again but no I'll never marry again do to all the hurt and pain I have inside from such a painful marriage.
there are something no one say , and few people know , when you travel to other countries you have the chance to date good quality girls , for example if you are american and go to latin america you have good chances of date beautiful girls . or in the contrary happend to me being latin america date with georgeus american girl and being a loser in my country. women like what is different, and when they travel they free themselves from the social pressure from where they live because nobody knows them
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Is 40yo too old to change things? Make good money ($150k) in a pretty cheap area. Reasonably fit and improving. But have shot game and still fighting social anxiety. Still fighting how I felt when I was young and unpopular. I feel like it's my last chance to turn things around.
40 is not old I reinvented myself at 40, In my late 50s still going strong, evolving. Dont have a scarcity limited mindset, Dont be needy with women. Confidence is key.
The problem is , he doesn’t answer the question. What would you tell your best friend who ask you, “what’s wrong with me?” The answer is, “not a damn thing!” The problem is theirs not yours
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Mindset is everything….
The sooner you break from the past the better the future can be…Mistakes are nothing but a lesson for NOT to repeat 🤔
I don't even have the energy to chase women or spin plates anymore. All my energy is into making the most money possible while putting in the least amount of time doing it, so I can have the most money and time for my daughter. Anything else is meh to me at this point.
Amen. Classy shirt, Rich (not really). All this is too much, really. I plan to not get involved with this insane dating world stuff and remain alone (no kids, never married, don't date) unless God has a special plan for me. My religion also doesn't allow for "fornication". So, since I have no successful career, no "game", etc, this isn't for me. It's sometimes fun to watch your videos, but we're worlds apart in lifestyle. I even quit a decent paying job watching UA-cam as an overnight office building watchman because of Chine virus mask rules (I'm anti-mask and anti-vax) and make maybe $6000/year now. But I have my principles.
Only one kid ? Why not more ?
@John Grigg pretty sure he left a zero out
@@dh8148 That's the way to do it. Exit the rat race asap. Correct, never chase a woman, if she wans to chase you fine, but she should be used for fun times only. How old are you?
@@dh8148 Bro. Same age. Almost same net worth (over 200k but under 300k). And nobody knows mine either, and I want to keep it a mystery, too. I dress like I'm homeless ($5 white t shirt, athletic shorts, cheap shoes) to add to the confusion "how does this guy afford to go on vacation all the time". I don't let hardly anyone into my life, just me and my 1 year old daughter doin stuff just the 2 of us.
300k a year, 28yrs old calling for help….Honestly this is hilarious
You can become a master at coding, making bank in finance etc but if you haven't been with a woman before and have zero experience, that rejection fear can become insane when you get close to a chick in RL. Like even as a guy who has been married, with lots of women, I know and have seen how ruthless women are about shit testing virgins or non-confident men. Makes a lot of guys with no experience collapse instantly. Women f'ing hate virgins. That is why they keep trying to lock down Chad's, even they know they are trying to lock them down and will get thrown the curb by them lol
Seriously. 100% of my issues are income related. Make 85k/year in Miami and that's paycheck to paycheck. With 300K, I'd be dropping 100k/year in investments and living on the rest.
@@MuahMan yoooo that’s tight down there bro. Keep that head above water.
I doubt he's making thar kind of money to be honest. It doesn't add up
@@mariomedinaofficial it’s possible in Miami. That’s a High COL area.
Found Rich Cooper from his interview on the Andrew Klavan show and I have been mentally so much healthier. Read the book, read it again, read all the other books.
Exactly! The book will take you 10 minutes to read if you are a slow reader, but it is reader-friendly, reference-friendly.
300k at 28 wow! That’s highly impressive young man. You clearly spent lots of time working on your hustle and that’s a great path to take. Now that you’ve got your finances together start spending more time spinning plates. The confidence with women comes with experience. Keep working on your fitness. The needy stuff should start going away with age. There is no quicker way to scare a woman off then being needy with her, you should really really work on having multiple women to hang out with that way you’re not being so needy with just one. You lack options my friend. If you’ve got 3 decent women on your roster you’ll gladly lose the needy behavior. I was needy myself until about 33 ish. The sooner you eliminate that behavior the better off your life will be. You’re on a good path! Keep going.
@Matt THX why wouod he lie if he is not being shown here? And also why lie when you want to get an advice, the advice would be less accurate if you gave wrong details
@@basedpatriotLT Because we guys, being the egomaniacs, we are capable of being, assume we know which details matter and which dont. I'm not as convinced as MattTHX that the subject is lying, but i could see a motive to lie on here Every guy wants to think he is Alpha, that he is Mr. Jack Sh*t! Guys who dont come across with that bravado tend to get torched!
@@inconnu4961 sure guys want to inflate their ego and pretend they are better, but they do when people know who they are.
For example i would not lie to you aboit being ruch here because you would not validate my ego in any way, since you would only know as M frkm youtube comment. If i liead at some party, that would make sense because people would think i am rich. As in ME the real person at the party, not username M from youtube. No point to lie when you are just some pixel to the person you are lieying to.
That guy wouod not get validation from us falsely thinking he was rich, because we do not know who that guy is, he is only some X from the question.
Here is what this guy should learn, and it is something Rich preached early on: YOU are the prize!
I was born to be a loser
@@TOCC50 And it is your choice to stay a loser
And female nature,there's nothing we can do it about. Hence you are the price.
He's over bonded with his mother and taken her personality instead of his dad's due her being his main parent. He may have been his mother's little husband due to dad not being around. So he's grown up a mummy pleaser. He needs to get over his mother. If you can't stand up to your mother you'll never learn to stand up to any other woman.
It's about boundaries / self-discipline, which includes having limits with one's mother. She can't rent space in her son's head, especially when he is in a serious relationship with a woman to replace his mother, so to speak. ( Big difference between evaluating a potential spouse for how she can blend in with one's blood family and vice versa VS only marrying who mother approves of. ) Part of what having boundaries AND re-enforcing them means is that he will grow stronger to the point where the Guilt Complex weakens and gets thrown off. For some, it is a lot of work. Gotta do the work, and in today's world oftentimes Feminism wants to have that power over men. Kinda like how suffocating mothers do.
Woaw thanks for this video! Until 25 I was obese, depressed, unemployed... a loser etc. I lost 35 kgs, gained 15 of muscle, realized my dream of becoming a coach and I even write for a sports magazine abroad. I'm 6'1 and I was always told I was handsome or could be a model. My last 2 exes were literal 9, everone would drool seeing them.
Yet I always feel like I am not enough, not doing enough. I have body image issues and can still feel depressed or have a dark view of the world because I've had a string of unlucky events. But at the same time, many good things happened. I guess I focus only on the bad. I need to do the work and cut myself some slack.
The problem is with most people not interiorizing the message, not with the message itself or the manoswamp. This goes for pretty much any tutorial or coaching, even with fitness, where you immediately resort to what you were prior to starting training once you stop training. That's why personal trainers are so popular. yet, the results are not seen in the society.
P.S. Any so-called trainer or coach or guru should be leading you up to a point where you no longer need them because you have embedded their message/method into your system, not always keep you in a leech and in a slave mentality by making you dependent on them.
Same with a good pastor/priest. Not dependent as a child just believing everything they say and teach, but a good teacher ( religious and otherwise ) will build up and empower one to mature and think critically for oneself. Agree and disagree, which a good teacher will embrace, not reject. ( Allowing for extremes being problematic. )
It can be a bit surprising and disappointing when men, including those who have their YT channels, don't own up to their mistakes while preaching about Improvement. OK. We all can have our hypocrite moments. So, keep on keepin' on.
@@machtnichtsseimann totally agreed. Are you a pastor yourself?
This one really resonated with me, Rich. Thanks a lot. Will be watching it again for sure.
300k a year? Most dudes make like 30k.
This is an unprecedented source of extremely useful information
From my own experience social media is something to stay away from. Delete all of it. When I was single women found me interesting without have to act like someone I’m not though social media. It shows a level of maturity.
The way the guy thinks, it reminds me of a woman's mindset. I too had this problem and now have worked far away from it. A good way to start thinking more masculine is to stop worring about your or someone else's feelings. Instead think objectively. Such as ask what do I think about something instead of how do I feel about it. This kind reprogramming takes time but will work and you will not even think about these thoughts a few years around the road. Just stay consistent being masculine.
I express my deepest respect for Sir Rich Cooper. From Saudi Arabia
Bless you.
"Release Your Brakes" is another great book to help... What I see from myself is that hanging around with losers is probably the worst offender to my self-confidence.
Some good habits that helped me were cold showers in the mornings, affirmations, and doing exercise the way I f*cking like it, which is outside at the park, without my shirt on.
It's miraculous that when I do whatever the f*ck I want without hurting other people physically in the process, then I get a full boost of confidence.
I mean, WOW right? :P But you have to wear the big boy pants to face the shaming or perceived shaming from strangers. But whenever I wear these pants for a few months time consistently, my life gets an upgrade.
WOW right? There is no complicated code.
ZERO FUCKS GIVEN, as long as you don't hurt other people physically (or destroy the peace, playing drums during midday and such)
OMG! telling us about the women to have social pictures with is HUGE! I would have NEVER realized how important that is. Thanks, Rich.
Being naturally aloof is the way. All these books on game show you the framework but it’s not a process like a computer program. You need to adapt the thinking to your situation.
When Rich said a baby can overcome its limited beliefs them why cant a man, I was blown away, Brilliant advice Rich. Salute. One the most sensible man here giving the right advice. The RP and BP takes away a bit of your confidence once you know your replaceable so Rebuild it.
I devoted much of my younger years to chasing fish. This video was exactly what I needed to hear. Great work Richard C
I'm about to lose an 85k/year job because my boss is an idiot but is friends with the owner. Leaves things unresolved for weeks then blames it on me, despite a email/txt trail as long as my arm. I hate corporate America. I feel like a loser because I don't have the sack to start my own business at 49.
Just get another job pal, starting a business is a huge risk and if u not in the right mindset just wait
keep in touch with the owner. when the wheel comes off it could be to your advantage
@@adamwarlock5286 exactly never burn bridges
siphon his clients to ur new venture...
Keep your head up bro. I’ve been there.
That’s gold! Don’t worry about what others think of you! Man needs no validation from others!
I was literally feeling like this today. Glad this popped up.
300k/year at 28….would love to know what kind of career
After getting divorced, I honestly don't want a woman...at least not for a long time. They are a pain in the A at best. If a hookup happens, sure, but it's not worth the effort. Do well and they'll come to you.
Thank you Rich for the book recommendation, I have just ordered it. I could use it for the greater good of myself, most definitely
Here my dime store psychoanalysis: dude is a momma's boy. All those women rejecting him are "his mom". He places women on a pedestal so he's gonna always have a problem regardless of what he brings to the table. Source: I have a buddy exactly like this guy.
More like 25 cents...
I learned in my early 20s (after some advice from my dad), that basically all the problems in my life were self created. Once I stopped that behavior, life became a lot better. Sure problems still come up, but deal with it and move on. Its like these dudes who get cheated on in basically every relationship. You keep picking garbage women to commit to and dismiss the red flags they show. I had a friend that was like this years ago, took a nasty divorce to finally get it through to him.
That's something I realized pretty early in my life. My 27 year old brother still hasn't figured it out. Things you do right now have long term consequences. They may not manifest immediately, or even a year later, but at some point they will come knocking and you will have to pay for it.
When I sit back and think about all the things that have happened to me I would say the vast majority of them were my fault in some way. The bad relationships were my fault b/c the red flags and the signs were there. I either ignored them, downplayed them, or didn't have enough experience to know what was good or bad. My current lack of relationships, both romantic and platonic, is my fault b/c I don't put myself out there and I didn't maintain the friendships I had. Its all self created.
Being cheated on and nasty divorce has a way of introducing many a man to the red pill.
@@oldscratch3535 I can relate to everything you’ve said here. Thanks for sharing.
Your videos are getting better bro. More to the point and succinct. Good work 😎
One simple rule I always enforce is that I never respond faster then they do. Also I will never double text without a reply ever NO MATTER WHAT… this is the simplest way to start eliminating needy behavior. It says to me that my value is higher then hers if she’s replying to me much faster then I am her. It subconsciously lets her know that I’m the prize. I personally don’t text them back sooner then a few hours most the time.
@E KL any woman I ever talk to clearly knows that I’m interested. When we are sexual and when we are together in person I am clearly letting her know I’m into her. *MOST women will gladly take a man off his purpose and try to text him all day all night. It’s a mans job to stay focused and busy, therefor not being able to text all day and night. This leaves her always wanting more And she’s appreciative of what she gets. She knows he’s the prize simply by his lack of constantly needing her attn. if you shower a women with text time all day long the attraction quickly fizzles out. She has to wonder about you.
Richard is a fucking legend
One big thing I haven't seen anyone bring up is intrinsic vs extrinsic motivation. So much focus external sources proving your value and trying to interpret it as internal. The things aren't necessarily of value...you create the value. If you lost everything and had to start from scratch, you can obtain all that again. I'd say the source of value is the most important thing.
Watching your videos is always time well spent 😎
love this video, good solid advice, look at who you are now and don't think a woman is needed to complete you. there is an outstanding thought that you need someone, totally false-you need You and let stuff happen. so easy to become needy and desperate in the face of loneliness. shift the perspective, these girls are on your hunting ground. not you on theirs. best wishes My Brothers
Ooh, I read that book by Maxwell Maltz. It was very, very helpful to me, actually. Some of that stuff I instinctively figured out on my own, but it was interesting to see it summed up nicely and find that somebody else confirms that.
My man is on a serious guilt trip! F that!! Go and be the badass you are, you don’t owe the world 💩!
Thanks for doing a video on this topic Rich. I too resonate with that guy and your advice is very helpful. Like any belief, it takes time and constant affirmation to change your worldview and psyche. I keep telling myself what you mention a 100 times “there are thousands of pretty women out there, but not so many high value men”
I strongly recommend reading Homer and Virgil. This will definitely change your frame of mind.
Lots of good feedback given - improve all facets of yourself, especially that abundance mindset. Shout out to Rich's t-shirt.
Oooh I will watch this a few more times. I relate to the story on the email, thanks for the advice Rich
Even if I was broke I wouldn't consider myself a loser . LOL life's to short to ever consider myself a loser. Yes I lose ! But I learn and never beat myself up because I lost. We all lose in life ! I've come to a conclusion I think EVERYONE has lost but not everyone wins . So with that said ! Live ! Love your family & friends ! Be respectful to those whome DESERVE IT! Take care of yourself ! Never stop learning ! Never stop improving! for the day you die is the day your done !! .. have a wonderful day.
Yep standards in place. Even if you broke and get out of shape
Just remember broke and poor are two different things. They ARE different.
For why I personally see a therapist: When going through some tough times, medically and emotionally, not da girls related, actual out of balance chemistry in my body related things, it helped to talk to someone to work through the feelings I was having and the panic attacks I was having, for no apparent reason. Rather than verbal vomiting on my friends. They always didn't solve everything, but while in therapy, I've usually made some good breakthroughs for me and my life. Therapy with a therapist isn't always for everyone, sometime you just have to find the right one, or use something else as "therapy". Love the content Rich!
Updating your belief system can be a tough one. Let the old shit go!
Ayahuasca helped me a lot. That shit just drags the past up so you can get over it.
This is why who you hang around is beyond crucial. Einstein said stay away from negative people, they have a problem for every solution.
Awesome commentary. Thanks for sharing.
Rich appreciate the all your recommendations. Just now started to listen to ya. Some of that guy stuff sounds like my issues. I have lots others he doesn't. I'm 48 now, since 7 years old have lived with learning disabled from brain damage that was brought on by seizures caused by epilepsy. I do live my own life but has been in hell being married.
Rich, just wanted to say you are awesome and u changed my life
Gret video Rich - sincerely. I had (and to a degree) still have the problem he describes. Thank you for the perspective.
I also genuinely believe that no human on earth can possibly feel confident about themselves 24/7. Even people like Andrew Tate have days where they feel less than optimal, but they won't tell people because it breaks the illusion of character.
Exactly! its this! I have tried to discuss this with others and i liken it to a high tide vs a low tide. The sea of our emotions are always changing, always flowing. Some of this has to do with the weather, what society around us imparts on us, and some of it has to do with the moon, our natural inate state of being.
A wolf does not concern himself with the opinions of sheep, A motto I try and live my life with.
7:33 So true. Don't learn the moves. Once you become confident and secure in yourself, the moves will happen naturally. He needs to focus on becoming confident and secure in himself. To do that, he will definitely have to take a hard look at his relationship with his mother. If he is so needy with woman, his mother definitely failed him. Many mothers give their sons conditional love. That's why they become pleasing beta men.
Great video as usual. Great perspective on getting flaked on.
I speculate a lot of guys needed to hear this
Thank for all your book recommendations including the one you just recommended, psycho cybernetics. I just downloaded to audible and will listen to it at work today. I'm 34 and never read a book in my life. The past two months I've gone through 4 books already and I'm learning alot. Looking forward to this one. Thanks again
Small steps. 🚶
You have to pick your nose before you eat your buggers.
This advice definitely suits me 🤟
Have issues being married that never imagined would have. My wife has a few minor issues mentally. We dated for little over a year and a half. During that time we grew closer and closer. Seem to strongly understand each other's issues but had nothing but love for each other no matter what whether things were for better or worse but turn out to not be so. She grew up without a father just a verbally abusive mom in twin sister. It didn't matter to me that she had that kind of life but now it seems she just married me to get away from her mother. We were 30 and 33 When we married with her being older than me. The age different meant nothing to me. But now it's over, fixing to be divorce. She tried multiple times to get me to leave cuz she wasn't happy in some ways still can't figure out why she was. I multiple times children I'm not going to walk out on my family but the only way that I would leave the house was in a patrol car or ambulance it turned out to be in a patrol car. Was charged with batter and family violet. What happened was my oldest daughter who's 15 now has had problem with drugs for 3 years now and being around toxic friends that my wife allowed her and I tried every way to prevent it from happening but there was no luck. One day I caught my daughter with cigarettes and pot smoking and decided to be funny and I grabbed a cigarette and I get barely rubbed it on her sweatpants put it out which really did nothing. Didn't even burn through but her damn friend who's also on drugs had her mom called the police. Never would have imagined something like that what happened to me. Yes I was arrested mugshot and fingerprint of course. So was removed from my house by defect and waited. I was found not guilty of abuse or neglect and was cleared but the damage was done. I tried to live with my wife and daughters but she didn't want me no more and was threatened three times. So couldn't make peace with them decided to file for divorce just can't take it no more.
Rich, that book by Maxwell Maltz was my bible when it first came out and was extremely helpful to me in changing habit from self defeating to positive. I would also highly recommend it.
It’s so hard.. I really am try to be optimistic. I was diagnosed with major depression due to suicide attempt in family, abuse, death of my dad, having no friends and war in my country in Syria. I left antidepressants and trying to deal with it myself, but the self hate thoughts are so intense. I’m not giving up on being optimistic but it’s hard especially when other people tell you that you’re bad luck. The sadness is too intense and therapists are useless
Getting a friend is very important. You can help each other, instead of the one sidedness of a therapist, patient relationship.
Stay off of FB and such, no cable TVs or watching movies. I don’t understand what you felt, but I’ve been there too.
I peaked in high school and early 20's. I've done alright since but as a below average height tech worker I can say and understand women are not flocking to me.
I'm ok as at least I did have a peak. 🤣
@Penderyn I hear ya. Like I always say it pays just enough to keep me from walking away. The money is good.
Don't put so much pressure on yourself for women, & there'll always be someone that you at least perceive to be better looking or whatever than you
Just added Maxwell book to my Audible que. thanks Rich !
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Unfortunately, alot of my childhood friends and family are what I would consider losers. I simply cannot spend as much time around them as I used to because I have to chase excellence right now.
Also Rich it seems I was blinded by rainbows through our marriage. Was too blind to see all the red flags in my marriage. Almost a sexless marriage it has been. Respected her for not wanting it 3 years I felt the love and infection with very dough. But still loved her with all my heart and always there for her and our children. But no matter what I did meant nothing to her. Never thought I would be living this kind of life but that is about to all change.
I struggle with this at times too. Some days I acknowledge my objective value and I feel super confident, and on other days I just feel down about myself
You can be both: not care if you lose the chick, vut also interested/curious to know tye reason why she was lost
How do you get to not care of others opinions when the game is all about attention and how they perceive you rather then how you like yourself?
It’s all well and good to take those old beliefs out behind the shed and beat and bury them, but no one seems to be able to articulate HOW to beat and bury them. It’s always a “should” but never a “how”.
My perception is that this is because these beliefs were formed when we were babies and had no prior reference points when we learned new things. Therefore our foundation is largely undefinable and untouchable.
Really needed this video since a girl just flaked on me who I really thought was invested. Most annoying part about it on our 2nd date she got pretty awkward so I told her that I would take a step back and let her do her thing. She insisted that we hang out again for a 3rd date which we did, went seemingly well considering she came upstairs... Then flaked on the 4th date with only 2hrs notice on a Friday night. Just goes to show that women operate by what they feel in that very moment and basically nothing else. I have to admit it was irking me just like the guy who emailed, but Rich is right. Just gotta accept it and move on since there is no man on the planet that this hasn't happened to at least once.
These are the hardest guys to help. The incredible successful who believe they’re losers anyways
Very good advice in this video.
My advice to this guy who wrote is that he should stop caring so much what other think including women. I also believe that some things comes with age aswell. He seems to have much going for him and he should be proud of that. Anyone else who think otherwise could F-off.
Trying to start a new life for myself. A life of decrease in stress start improving my health. Right now and for years I'm severely obese and have been half my life. I believe now that I can make a huge change regarding my health my emotional pain and abuse that have experienced for many years. But I am so shy and nervous approaching women and feel that I can't be good enough for them. I have a job making under $30,000 a year. A friend of mine keeps telling me that I need to date again after divorce but I'm just not sure if possible. I'm just not sure how I can date again because of afraid of being judged by minor memory problems. Not sure how a woman would feel regarding them issues. Would like to date again but no I'll never marry again do to all the hurt and pain I have inside from such a painful marriage.
there are something no one say , and few people know , when you travel to other countries you have the chance to date good quality girls , for example if you are american and go to latin america you have good chances of date beautiful girls . or in the contrary happend to me being latin america date with georgeus american girl and being a loser in my country. women like what is different, and when they travel they free themselves from the social pressure from where they live because nobody knows them
1:03 He said: "My father has always been an amazing role model and definitely not beta". I doubt that.
"Hop right in..." one cliche after a another
I grew a beard from my usual stubble and I remember my girlfriend and sisters saying don't do it if you have a great jawline and cheek bones.
sounds like a great book ill read it
Rich you are a legend 💓💓💓💓
I feel this one...
This might as well be a therapy session. Saved me $100.
As a sub-6' man...how do I get out of the "loser" category? How does one "do the work" on height insufficiency?
Ignore it. Work on the things you can change.
@Penderyn at 5'6"...can't really benefit from lifts even. "Doing the work" doesn't fix anything when height requirements are a hard-stop for women.
Dude I’m 6 4. Height hasn’t matter since 2017
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Gold dropped
I mean, getting rejected is painful at any level. However, we are men. We are born to take the pain.
I don’t believe anyone who says how much they make unless I see a W-2 and all these people say they make $400,000 a year
People that make 400k will have K-1s.
Very few people make that much with just a W-2.
Golden
Where can I get that T - Shirt, Zero F*cks Given?
That guy who sent that mail is cappin' hard. My advice to him would be: Start being honest with yourself first. All the rest will follow
I used to cry while putting on black nail polish and singing along to the cure, but I’m not a beta.
What’s everyone is ignoring is the fact that women wear down men to almost nothing.
It would be interesting to see this guy and Matt Walsh interact
You gotta really believe you’re the shit!
As always. Great video rich
I am jealous of the dude... Just go get em man...
Materelistic life is not the way. You're beyond objects.
Is 40yo too old to change things? Make good money ($150k) in a pretty cheap area. Reasonably fit and improving. But have shot game and still fighting social anxiety. Still fighting how I felt when I was young and unpopular. I feel like it's my last chance to turn things around.
It's not. Go crush it man. Just let some women for the rest of us.
40 is not old I reinvented myself at 40, In my late 50s still going strong, evolving. Dont have a scarcity limited mindset, Dont be needy with women. Confidence is key.
Could imagine the heck that would be, every women you hook up with wouldn't flake? Jeez nothing worst than having to run one off...
The problem is , he doesn’t answer the question. What would you tell your best friend who ask you, “what’s wrong with me?” The answer is, “not a damn thing!” The problem is theirs not yours