When You Ignore HER Red Flags, This Happens...
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- A viewer asked me to feedback on some red flags he ignored in a hot Latin woman he was dating, and this is what happened.
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I would have checked the amount of time that call was..
@@soldieroftoughlove7635 NO
@@SD-pi9co
Put your mask on!
GOLDEN RULE: IF SHE'S STILL IN CONTACT WITH HER EX, WALK AWAY.
women under 30: i want to be a whore and men who want wives are oppressing me.
women over 30: i want to be a wife and men who want whores are oppressing me.
women at 40: time for my mid life crisis divorce.
Chance she'll go back.
Amen!
This
I saw a quote once that rang true. If someone is still friends with an ex..theyre either still in love with that person...or they never were.
A smart man learns from his mistakes. A wise man learns from the mistakes of others.
Take this advice on board fellas. It will save you
So as long as you're learning, that means you're either smart or wise...sounds like a win/win to me :)
Facts
and a really smart man, looks around, figures out who is doing it right and copies them
and a really really smart man learn from bad advises he gives other dudes 😂
You still End up making mistakes regardless that's life
"Your life is a circus cuz you keep hanging out with clowns"
That one got me
Same here.
Yeah that was some legendary sentence
I liked the green flag phrase,fills your stomach and drains your balls.
🤡
I've been divorced since 2014. I've met countless women and been on more countless dates. I've also had a few relationships, that I've ended. The conclusion I have come to is, you can either live a quiet peaceful life. Where you can thrive, doing what you want, when you want while pursuing your interests. Or, you can be in a relationship with a woman. You can NOT have both simultaneously.
Very true. I have been in the same boat since 2015 and it’s the best to enjoy life and live a free lifestyle.
So true
Simple truth
@@JC-jk3klthere’s plenty of Asian women that are toxic too. Especially if they’ve been westernised.
Truth.
If she hands her phone over with no problem whatsoever - you should ask for her second phone.
Just my two cents.
Lmao 🤣 🤣 🤣
Bruh, that's true af tho
Tehehe
Beyond true
Why ask for her phone? If you feel like you have to do that, you don't belong in the dating game.
No need. The medium is the message. Just watch her behavior and respond accordingly.
I have dated different women for 25 years. EVERY SINGLE ONE of them would lie on a frequent basis. I am not even joking.
Their default mode is to lie about anything that might be non-flattering. They are weak.
And they get pissed off if u lie
And you never question your choices ?!
What does that say about you dude 😂😂
@@krishammond8851 100% youve been lied to by every woman youve been with
37 years ago I asked a girl out to dinner I had met. It was a real nice evening. Later I dropped her of at her apartment. I never went in. I said I would call. Next morning at my apartment I was outside washing my jeep. I turn around and she was standing there. I was shocked. She looked me up in the phone book to find out where I lived. This was before cell phones. She said she really liked me and wanted to make sure everything I told her was true. Needless to say. I married that girl. Not In a million years was I ever going to find another one like her. Still together after all these years.
It sounds like psyco killer behaviour to me!
It's not *always* a bad thing when a woman wants to check on you.
My wife approached me when she was 16 right after church service. I knew her since I was a kid. She just started talking and smiling. We talked some more and then she kissed me. We’ve been married almost 29 years. Got hitched right after college in 1995.
@@laiobiwanlisten, girl comes to my place because she really loved our date, (maybe not nowadays) but I’m feeling a time a way. Really good too.
@@laiobiwanyou seem a bitter person and watched too much movies and definitely never had somebody to look out for in your short life
I grew up with 5 sisters. I was the only boy. In high school, my sisters and their friends would be laughing, gigling, and telling stories in the kitchen. I would be reading or relaxing in the front room. I was surprised by the stories I overheard. I kept thinking that their boyfriends had no idea how sneaky and treacherous these young women were.
Sorry to hear that. My uncle has 3 girls and 1 boy (the youngest) and the girls treat him like a prince. I think it really depends on how you raise your kids
I’d bang em
Dang in HIGHSCHOOL you were already an incel thats crazy
All teenage HS girls are sneaky it has nothing to do about being raised properly. It’s in their DNA.
Same here! This happened with my sisters and cousins all the time but my mother is a psychologist and I'd hear her and her mental health band of nut job friends sitting around talking about their clients which I thought was supposed to be private. When I asked my mother about it later and how it violates privacy she said "oh, that's ok honey, they are therapists so it's ok." When she said that I'd recalled her on many occasions talking about her clients to my aunts so when she said this I thought "is aunt Lucy a therapist too?" NEVER trust a woman with a secret or ANYBODY else for that matter. They are covert narcissists for the most part and VERY sneaky and they do NOT respect boundaries.
Honestly, one of the harder things about recognizing the red flags is convincing the older generation that they're there. My older relatives are constantly hounding me about 'getting a good woman,' and then list some arbitrary list of 'good qualities' women have. When I try to explain the realities of the current dating market and the risks involved with family court, they act like I'm just fabricating nonsense.
You don't have to explain yourself to people that will never understand your position.
Or anyone else outside of the judge if you're acting as a witness
Yeah I can understand what you mean. I've talked with my mum about various potential risks/problems that might end a marriage I might have, but none of them have been the red flags of the current dating market. As in, we've discussed issues which might impact a marriage from 60yrs ago, but not ones that happen now. And it isn't to say the modern issues would be an issue with the women I choose, because those flags would be an instant nope, but on the other hand they *are* still there even amongst women who present as conservative and traditional.
They sound uninformed and unwilling to assimilate new evidence. Personally I would just smile and say when you're ready to have a 2 sided conversation happy to discuss but until then either stop or we won't he seeing each other much. Then when they were saying they want to discuss they we both need to bring evident to support our views. Found that scares off most people and they just shut up.
Stop talking to them.
Live your life on your terms.
Cannot overstate how important it is to have standards and stick to them. Guys tend to abandon them as long as the girl is attractive enough, but it’ll always end up making one’s life more difficult.
The only marriage a man must commit to in his life is his self-respect and boundaries. Till death does he part from them. NEVER sacrifice either for anyone or anything.
@@jkfd97 underrated comment.
@@jkfd97 Well said
I agree beauty doesn't equal brains.
Exactly. Women never understand why we men are so unwilling to bend to their nonsense. Nonsense they themselves don't see. They label us as being selfish. Ok, I'm selfish. I've been called worse.
As a female, having an old flame around or drinking to ease pain are major red flags that shes not ready for any relationship. Period
"Period"
Well, maybe once a month or so...
What’s old flame?
@@ericsohn5084An old boyfriend or male friend with benefits
Nor will she ever be...she's damaged goods...
I've had women swear on her mother's life she's not cheating to find out it was a complete lie. Most women lie by Conjuring up stories in there heads to justify their actions. Don't be fooled by great sex & intimacy that's when you're most vulnerable
I once had a gf swear on her beloved grandfather's life she wasn't cheating. He died 2 weeks later randomly. I then found out she HAD been cheating. I mentioned the cheating and her swearing on his life and how he died, and she tried to gaslight me saying she never said that lol. Something I remember clear as day lol.
@@pawelallable WOW
@pawelallable crazy haha and still coudnt take accountability. It's a ego thing, most women's egos are over inflated
Been there done that. Had a former employee turned GF, looked as sweet and innocent as could be. Total redhead minx in the sack. Burning desire, submissive. Then the red flags popped up. Every time she was upset she wanted to do the deed. She would start fights for no reason. She would lie/gaslight for no reason. She constantly took pictures of herself everywhere we went. Then I started wondering if I was the crazy one.
I decided to message an ex BF of her sister to ask "What the hell is up with this chick" as he had known her longer than me. Told me to sit down, and proceeded to list off all of her vile disgusting behaviour of the past and recent present.
I invited her to breakfast one morning in a public place (as a buffer). I told her I looked into her past, and that I knew everything she did. Her eyes grew wide, welled up, and she walked out of my life forever. I witnessed the temporary ego death of the sociopathic narcissist. Sickening yet satisfying.
you smoked that dmt pack in real time haha
Well played!
The curious asshole in me has to ask : what vile behavior , or is it too vile to communicate on this medium ?
@@guntertorfs6486 Town bicycle? Human pin cushion? Having abortions similar to the frequency of taking a dump (an exaggeration, but you get my point) lying, cheating stealing...top notch acting on her part though. Had me fooled for a bit.
@@livestock9722 and all that = mental illness....
Call me crazy but I highly suggest blocking their number after you cut ties. It’s already over and you never want to get caught digging through the trash as Rollo says. When a women inevitably reaches back out, men rarely have control (including myself) in denying a free sexual opportunity and this slip up is what fucks most guys up into going back. Trust me, it will save you time and headache.
control brotha if you must head to your local strip club pay a couple bucks to scratch the itch, have a drink and head home.
@@Thiiink Funny you bring up strip joints.....I gave up drinking and the one on the way home was the only place around that served near beer. I'd go in after work, hang out at the bar, shoot the shit with other guys and eventually many of the dancers would end up hanging out with me. Not one ever hit me up for a dance or money. It was enough to satisfy my "desire" for female company. If I didn't show up for a while due to getting busy, when I came back I was greeted like a long lost lover lol. So much so I brought a couple of buddies in one night and they thought I was some pimp hahha.
Funny story: I did end up hooking up with this chick and for some reason it came up that she'd never been in a female strip joint. So I said "say no more, I've got just the place" and I took her. The peelers were all over her lol.....you're on a date with Mikey? OMG that's so great...he's a great guy blah blah blah.....one said "do you want a private dance"? ON ME lol....OH MAN, next thing I know they're rubbing boobs and everything! Needless to say, the girls got her all primed for me so it was effortless to take her back to my place.....I ended up slipping the dancer 40 bucks for the show and for helping me get some that night lol.....
This would have saved me more pain than you can imagine. Listen to what this guy says.
@@muskokamike127 Its rare but as a seasoned player, you can harness any woman to do that.
@@silentwitness536 what go to a strip joint? That wasn't the point. The point of my story was those peelers helped warm her up for me.
Over 50 and single here. There’s not enough disk space on the internet to tell my stories 🤣🤣
Really appreciate this clip. Literally all we can do as men is focus on ourselves. Doesn't matter your status, age, or looks. When a woman has red flags, it's a green light for disaster.
women under 30: i want to be a whore and men who want wives are oppressing me.
women over 30: i want to be a wife and men who want whores are oppressing me.
women at 40: time for my mid life crisis divorce.
How about a new rule? When you spin plates don't expect fine china.
Underrated comment.
😂😂😂😂😂❤ facts
I've found this statement alone dismantles most of these "high value men" channels. There's a weird paradox where they want to have all the women and hoes but complain when that's all they are. They attract these women with poor traits due to having an emptiness that is fulfilled with multiple women. Seems like most of these "high value men" were either neglected by their mothers and or absent altogether that creates this hyperfocus on being the controller of the relationship and employing tactics to sway a reaction.
Not facts at all.
Rich you are like the older brother that I never had 👊🏻💯 keep up the good work my man!
And one that did not eat all the food when you were late for dinner, or played the drums during your favorite TV show ,or lent out your stuff to his friends.
These words are true. I wish one of my brothers kicked game to me like this. But they're all in unhappy marriages so....🤣 yea there's that
"You are like the older brother that I never had."
Dude you stole my line how dare you!! lol, but yeah man thats what i say too
I’m the youngest of 6 boys and I can tell you that even with older brothers, they didn’t know shit about women or how to handle them. I learned more from UA-cam like you than my siblings. Plus my dad was no help bc my mom is the only woman he has ever been with. He never had to play the games. Unfortunately my mother passed away a year ago and my dad has seen my struggles, and wants nothing to do with finding a companion.
@@bigboybobbousmc you can learn from your dad. Don't have sex before marriage and don't go out with women who have sex before marriage. #1 predictor of lasting marriage: the man is a virgin.
This is SO accurate to my last ex. She did all the same things. Addicted to alcohol, seeking attention on social media, dancing with other guys, still frequent contact with her ex, always suspicious with her phone, lying, etc. etc. I was so blind lol. She really broke my heart when I found out she had been fucking other guys. But I've learned from it and will never let this happen again. I could say my knowledge about this topic was minimum and I let her walk over my boundaries regularly, all for sex.... So not worth it.
Hope this can help other guys to prevent these kind of women to ruin their life too. Don't f*cking ignore the red flags!!! Thanks for these valuable insights Rich.
Bless you my friend. It doesn't ease the pain to absolutely know you were in the right and she was a POS, I understand that. But far too many men, these days probably the majority are in the same boat. I seriously see little future in relationships with this society for us single men. Unfortunately women are still getting by with this daily but I do see the tide is changing quickly, men are waking up and some women are starting to get called on their games. Seeing that happen is sweet. It's too bad we have this natural burning desire for a woman's satisfaction. Correction, it's too bad it can't be a wonderful thing with honesty, respect, and love like we all want.
I caught my ex texting a guy from her school and when I called her out on it she turned it around on me and made me feel like I was wrong. She told me he was just a friend and said that I was old and it’s okay to be friends with guys. I wished I had read your book before I dated this chick. Anyway I dodged a bullet and we ended up breaking up.
FTB 💯💪😎
YES lads be careful on the switch-a-roo they'll turn it against you and GAS LIGHT you into thinking you're in the wrong for not trusting her. It also buys her time too.
Watch out.
Women saying he was just a friend sounds better than her saying he's a fuck buddy.
When you have a woman gaslight you like that, the best thing you can do is 1. Be strong and recognize it's gaslighting and she is intentionally doing this. You know right from wrong, don't let them make you feel guilty. 2. RUN!!!! Don't look back, don't question your decision, this is just the beginning of misery and your heart getting broken. Men are more romantic, trusting, and honest than we have ever been given credit for. Take their power away by not letting them play their games. And learn this BEFORE you fall for them.
Classic deflection
"If you guys would just get good at not inviting chaos into your life, then things would be a lot easier for you." Boom. 💥💥💥
Thanks Rich.
women under 30: i want to be a whore and men who want wives are oppressing me.
women over 30: i want to be a wife and men who want whores are oppressing me.
women at 40: time for my mid life crisis divorce.
Jesus, is there a handbook out there that females are all reading? My last relationship was EXACTLY like this email. Ex drama, sleeping with folks but saying otherwise, phone shenanigans, social media oddities, drug use, etc.
Modern females are a lost cause.
They're basically all NPC's at this point. They behave the same, act the same, do the same things, like the same things. They're herd creatures that rely on acceptance of their 'group'. In their case, specifically, all their idiot 'friends'.
@@nabzy28 All the vax commercials feature trendy girls getting happily jabbd
What kind of drug use?
@@startingtech3900 Weed and alcohol mainly.
I asked to see a girl's phone once, she hesitated, didn't do it at first. Then about 20 minutes later finally did. Later on she broke up with me using that as a reason saying I was controlling. I'm the least controlling guy on the planet, I just don't put up with bullshit. Women don't see the difference.
Power move, well done, mate.
But was there actually anything incriminating on it?
What was the bs you were putting up with?
I wouldn't give my phone to a girl, it's none of her business.
I disagree with that approach completely.
If you have so little trust that you feel you need to do that,
then THAT is the issue.
Looking through a phone won't fix it.
I just bought your book. Thank you Rich. You are the reason I lost weight and started getting in shape. Im 5'6 and was 198 lbs. and got out of a 15 year relationship that I settled on that was toxic, came out of it shell shocked with 0 game. I simped twice after then turned to youtube for help with my problem. My online business is starting to take off and now I weight 161 lbs. Still need more work to do on building myself up so pulled the trigger on your literature. Thank you for all that you do.
Keep it up man. You're business will boom, also in the bedroom. You got this G.
Just checked out your channel, you look great! You have great energy too!
Well done keep up the work.
Keep up the work. What’s do you do for your online business?
When he said he told her friends about what she did, that’s how you know he’s a beta. Mans got played by the game. Mark it down and keep it moving.
I know a dude who, after finding out his wife had an affair, broke down and cried to her best friend - one that actually worked with her to hide the liasons. He was that naive. He also wrote letters to her parents and siblings, telling of her infidelity. Very beta. Still with her. She wears the pants.
@@majorkade it might be you bro
Many alphas start at Betas, if Brad Pitt and Jonny Deep can get played, you can be the giga Chad and still be played. Don’t be too harsh on him
Lesbian here...I saw similar red flags, like alcoholism, loser friends who smoked a lot and gave her drugs too. I broke it off shortly after seeing these
Smart.
Good
I really didnt expect that kind of comment 😀
avoid all losers and your life is better
Women have too much incentive to fuck around in all forms
A more pragmatic question for this day and age is “how many red flags should you tolerate?”
Zero, AKA no relationships with any women in the Western world. You want a serious relationship, you're gonna have to move abroad to a patriarchal culture. Tough luck.
Serious question: if she’s just a plate, why do we care if she’s seeing her ex on the side? If you are spinning plates, are you in a position to demand that one of your plates be exclusive only with you?
Yeah he freaked out about the ex BEFORE they were exclusive. If he isn't exclusive then he can't expect her to be. Rich has some double standards. I agree with you. He also says if a woman has a high body count (like more than 3) to just fuck her because she is un-dateable. It just doesn't make sense to fuck as many women as possible and expect them to not have sex with more than a handful of guys.
It's not seeing her ex that's the problem, it shows attachment issues. she also has taking drugs from strangers in bathrooms, alcoholic who doesn't remember what happens.... she was simply trouble. Men spin plates so that they might end up with a good one at some point and become exclusive and your plate seeing her ex means she is still in love. She might not be, but .... it's just a very risky road. If she was seeing random people that would have been okay.
@Daud Khan Oh I'm not saying he didn't have a lot of other red flags. The dude should have never started a relationship in the first place.
@@SqueamishPuppet I agree. I started a relationship with a woman and didn't end it for 3 years even though I saw red flags in he past. I simply left even though she didn't do anything wrong to me, I can't trust a woman who screwed good men in her past. We can be stupid in our I itial infatuation... but post nut clarity is when a man can think straight
That's exactly what Rich was saying in the video. If she's a plate then he could've kept her at an arms distance. It was because of the fact that he wanted to get exclusive with her is why the ex boyfriend thing was an issue. He let her in too quickly. He basically allowed her tell him to get the ONEitis.
I rushed into a relationship with my ex after dating her for 3 months and in hindsight I know now to take my time with (vetting) women.
Looking for LTR on dating apps is like looking for a steak dinner in a dumpster
Yeap. It's all the rejects and crazies. Meet girls at the gym.
the rats will eat it b4 you do LOL
They’re all on the apps
Nothing but the bottom of the barrel wahmen who have 3 kids with 3 baby daddies but their children "come first". Sounds like Chad and Tyrone came first.
Remember fellas, when a woman says she has rules.....she means for you. Chad and Tyrone don't have rules. Don't pay for someone elses sperm donation.
It will usually come with mold somewhere
Almost all women have red flag.
😂
Maybe get a robot, a non human for no flags...just sayin.
Just know what you will and won't accept. You all need to knkw yourselves better and find the confidence and have the ability to walk away when needed or suck it up, stay and make it work. Be committed. Because no one is perfect. Know thyself. Get a spine.
Yes, just look for the ones that have the least and the ones that can at least improve themselves and go green so to speak
This is how STDs travel!
NEVER trust any woman!! Point blank!!
So do men
This is like a mix of my first relationship and my last relationship. The whole “dating her ex while dating me and finding out by going through her phone” is a tough one. I know what this guy went through, but at least I didn’t do all that vindictive stuff he does, I just told her I knew, she told me “I invaded her privacy”, and made it about her, and we just broke up. And the whole getting too drunk and being a chaotic and slutty mess was my latest relationship, and I was too naive, inexperienced, and docile to do anything about it. Instead I tried harder to please her and became a complete beta loser. In the end she ended up cheating on me and leaving me.
Don’t buy into the bs. Don’t ignore red flags. Don’t be nice when you’re being taken advantage of. Get better at recognising which girls are broken and will overstep your bounderies, and which women are just being women but deep down respect you. Unfortunately it comes with age and experience, and sometimes you can only ever truly learn something after you go through it and live it. Having lived it, as much as both of those relationships sucked at the time, I grew and learned from them and can now say I’m handling relationships much more wisely, never giving into the bs and holding my boundaries strongly.
Don’t give into the typical “women’s tactics” they throw at you. Don’t give into being nice and forgiving things that shouldn’t be forgiven. Don’t give into societal norms (especially contemporary ones) of how a man should behave. Don’t give into fear. TRUST ME. It’s much easier to momentarily be an asshole but leave something rotten with your head and your ego held high, than it is to try to fix yourself when you’ve been broken to pieces by a woman’s toxicity and mind games. That doesn’t mean be an a@&hole for no reason, but don’t let women or anyone else walk all over you either.
Behave like a man, hold a strong frame, and never apologise to anyone for feeling, thinking, and living like a real man. Take care of yourself first. Always.
Great advice, friend.
Young men, listen to this dude. He is spitting facts.
I’ve had some good experiences on FB dating & then some not so good, there’s A LOT of entitled single moms that want you to except them & their situation, Men, if you have no kids you shouldn’t be takin’ care of somebody else’s… BUILD YOUR OWN LEGACY, I’ll see some of y’all at the top! 🙏🏾💪🏾💯
*accept
@@muskokamike127Musko putting fires out
I have never met a woman who does not have any red flags.
It's always either psycho on multiple prescriptions and or alcohol abuse. Typically lying and cheating are common too.
It's more of a question of what is tolerable and what is intolerable and for what reason that you want to put up with her flaws.
Bravo
I believe that reflects both you and the kind of women you're drawn to and attract. There are plenty of women out there without the issues you listed. Additionally, no human on Earth is entirely free of any red flags, so it seems like you might be seeking something that doesn't exist. I would venture to guess that you probably have your own share of red flags as well."
U tolerate what u invite
Rich, can’t thank you enough. Found your content at 18 and already saved myself.
Lucky guy ! You're w-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-y ahead of the game now !
I'm 18 too, brainwashed by the media's concepts of unconditional love.
Finding Rich's content after I broke up with someone has been an eye-opener and I will never forget the lessons I've learned from him.
Damn im almost 36. I wish i new half this info when I was 18 but hey at least im not 56 lmao
I learned the hard way with my ex.
She was verbally abusive, emotionally manipulative, and had a massive victim complex. After 1 1/2 years I finally gave her the boot, never ignore the red flags gents.
What do you think about the alcoholic types with that?
I married one like that. Took 8 years to escape.
Same here - 4 years and out.
Same,a real piece of shit that one
I had this with a 304 I was banging, when I asked here what she expected after having sex twice, she said see where it goes. I should have known, I kinda felt sad for her. Needless to say I dropped her after sex a few times and 3 dates. She was extremely narcistic, hook up culture lol. Never again tho, 1st and last damaged good I will have sex with actually.
:"Lives in Chicago". Had to stop right there. With people exiting Illinois in droves, those who choose to remain deserve these situations.
I can't thank you enough for all your teachings. I'm 55 & since high school I couldn't understand why women do backflips over Chad douchbags~ you answered all of those questions. I'm definitely GUILTY of beta behaviors~ opening my wallet to date women over my SMV. Luckily, no trainwreck~ no marriages, no kids, no family court & I'm 100 fucking percent done with all dating (a very good decision when you are living in Las Vegas).
the " ok give me your phone " trick should even be performed by married men. I bet most ofthem would be in for a HUGE surprise.
You’ve probably heard this multiple times , my first wife was a stoner and only 5,4” and the red flags were as numerous as a Chinese youth rally in Beijing. I was only 25 she was 24 . I gave her half a house for my trouble . Luckily no kids .
LMAO. As numerous as a Chinese youth rally in Beijing 😂
Women are almost ALWAYS spinning plates on some level...even if you don't think they are. It's best to proceed while knowing that.
Emotional level. They keep some reserves warmed up but not fully hot all the time.
Ex girlfriend cheated on me with the guy she was seeing before me...I'm much better looking than this guy BTW.. He wasn't in shape at all, I am. She Lied about it the entire time we were together and made me feel crazy for suspecting her and asking her about it. I don't know how many times it happened but our entire relationship was a lie... Over 2 years wasted with a toxic narcissist
he was filling her "needs" while riding the scooter (you)
If your spidey sense alerts you, listen to it. Especially when she says things that don't add up....
She was with the other out of shape guy because you were too handsome and in shape, She felt inadequate bro around you. Nothing to be ashamed of. Move on to the next and smash. Women like to be around men who are far more ugly, skinny, dadbod bc it makes them look like the prize. you are the prize. You are the king bro 😎
@@startingtech3900 THATS ABSOLUTELY SO TRUE
come on guys, there is so much and so cheap technology to help you catch them when you suspect... why waste 2 years wondering when with 100-200 $ can be sure?
This was a truly eye-opening vid. I remember her arguments when I said to show me her social media. "Boundaries! You have no respect for boundaries?" I didn't swallow that argument completely but it made me hesitate and I lost frame there (as you would call it). Needless to say my worst fears proved true shortly after that. And in time I realized what my response to her then should have been: "You don't want to show me because it's you that has crossed boundaries. And now that I know that I don't even need to see it. Goodbye and all the best."
Had a similar encounter, she played the comedy my family, my friends, psychologist and showed her true self again for a whole year with me!! Red flags: daddy issues, dependency, lying. Now, I have to live with this mistake. Thanks for the reminder and the lesson.
messaging her coworkers etc. is a NO once you truly unplugged.
If she begins to show you who she is believer her…. Best thing to do is cut her off when the red flags begins to reveal themselves…
I disagree, Public shaming is important and for alot of narcs and sociopaths the only way to punish them and make them feel remorse. Also it's important that others know what type of person they are so they're not victims themselves.
Why is it a no?
This guy is still unplugging. Especially by his childish highschool like actions after discovering she was going full speed down highway 304. Keep learning and unplugging. Learn from others mistakes and work at bettering yourself. Thanks for all your help and wisdom Rich!
"Don't want to live in circus? Stop hanging out with clowns!!" words to live by.
Rich, just watched this video 3 times over... Reading through your free chapter and this was BEYOND generous of you. I bought the book on Amazon but the free chapter was enough to glean IMMENSE value from. Thanks so much for doing this video, and the work you put into the book! Can't wait to read it.
"Sharing the well with another man". To put that into perspective, you are both drinking from that same well. So he was essentially tasting the other dude. I know Rich quickly moved past that, but an important point that needs to be said.
super bowl weekend in LA.... chad and tyrones blowing backs out and a sucker paying for it all monday.
Filth
Ex calls during your date, she hides her phone from you and says she has no idea why he's calling her.! That old chestnut eh.! Run a mile guys, if you don't everything after that is your own fault.
Congrats on Rich for calling out that revenge behavior, no alpha should be doing that. Had the same experience, meet girl through mutual friends, great first dates, even went to church on Sunday. Started seeing red flags a few months in, verified through phone and social media. Turns out 12-3am were prime hours for her to call exbf, message guys friends, and receive random calls. No matter what shes, her behavior is the real story. Sure felt betrayed and angry but the best revenge is living well.
allowing her come over while drunk and you were sober was madness
I'm 61 and been down the road with these things. I'd like to 'add value' to the conversation. Maybe my points will have some value to someone.
1) a 'party girl' is already, right there, a solid NO for ltr
2) that a chick has nice 'physical attributes' isn't lost on her. She is supremely aware of what 'she is worth and trading' and what she believes she can get in trade. There are, at any given time, on any given day, hundreds of guys she can choose from. You aren't that special to her...
3) this is a 'girl you 'F' NOTHING MORE ...she os not capable of being honest or loyal- SO PLAY HER! Don't ever let her play you!
4) most people confuse 'masculine looking' ripped gym rat guys as 'alpha' when almost always they are betas. The very reason they are 'ripped' is because they are mentally and emotionally weak and insecure. NEVER judge an alpha or beta based on their outward appearance. This MISTAKE happens so often it is mind frying....
The fourth one is so true
Alpha is a mindset. Always has been, always will be.
@@jkfd97 bigger than that. You can have a mindset that you are alpha but no one else follows or buys it. Alphas ARE ALPHA it is intrinsic. I believe alphas are innately born with the trait. I was.
I agree completely, alphas are born, not made. And as a former gym rat beta male(now a mgt000w monk), number 4 is spot on. Beta males flood the gyms in a delusion that their bodies attract women, but in my experience, my body never attracted women, it was my status as a military/uniformed man, personality, and income. Women dont give a shit about muscles, they only pretend to because they know it pleases a mans ego.
@@povang it depends on the woman. Overall, yes, I was a skinny rock star in LA and 'gym rat/jock' guys would hang out and follow me (roadies, body guards etc..) wishing they could get the 'scraps' left over....interestingly enough, the women never went for them. They even seemed disgusted by them as if they were invisible. Some women are attracted and impressed by the body builder guys but not nearly as much as the body builders think....I exercise and lift every single day but I'm 'lean' and slim with low body fat. I don't do it to get ripped or yoked. I do it to look, feel, and stay healthy.
Straight to the point, no BS, nice and clear message, Rich! Great material as always, thanks for spreading the knowledge, keep doing that
The check yourself her phone move is absolutely mandatory in these kind of situations. I'll make sure I'll do it for future experiences. Ty Rich!
Yah......
First:
You cannot control someone else's addiction whether that be booze, gambling, relationships, whatever, YOU can't control it.
Second:
People are as they are PERIOD! YOU CANNOT CHANGE ANYONE! They are as they are. The purpose of dating is a process of elimination, you are ACTIVELY looking to find out WHO SHE IS. And odds are, she will be someone you DON'T want, and that is fine. She's doing the same to you.
Third:
You CAN'T save anyone nor should you even try. YOU are your only problem. You can control only your behavior and are responsible only for what you do and say. You are NOT responsible for what anyone else does or what anyone else says.
Forth:
You are responsible for the predicaments you are in, and SHE is responsible for the predicaments she is in. Its that simple. If she is messed up, walk. If she's a psychopath, walk. If she's an alcoholic, walk. Its all very simple.
Cheers,
Jim
Yes, never ever insult or say something that could get someone angry when that person is alone at YOUR place. smh. common sense.
That was a good video! The problem with women with their exes they swear up and down they’re not around anymore, and then bam! This what happens. Thanks Rich! You’re the man!
This story is 1 more in a series that validates my decision not to use any dating sites. Call me old fashioned, but I prefer the face to face get to know each other before we ever venture out on a date. This probably results in fewer dates, but I also have very few personal problems!
Absolutely
Dating sites are a waste of time. Face to Face is key. Find them in the environments you enjoy being in.
Hell ya. Ive also quit all dating apps and social media. Quote from Rick and Morty: "downgraded my phone to a clam shell, anything worth saying is worth saying with eye contact"
It's the only way to be honest
I dont use dating sites either
This one hits home. Exact same situation I just dealt with. Although, I was just done. Zero explaining. They know what they did, no reason to tell them. I ultimately played myself. Pay attention gentleman!
This was a great lesson. Anyone who is currently dating, newly learning what to identify as red flags, absolutely buy Rich's book. It will train you for a better, drama free life. Do it today. Peace
Just going to put this out there: the reason she drinks is probably because she's ashamed of herself for her obsession with her ex.....it's a coping mechanism....except it causes her to lose control and break down and go crawling back to him (and the author).
agreed
I agree with you here! I do not think there is any reason to have contact with an ex. Also there should never be a problem for your lover to go through your phone. Mine has my pass code. If an ex called. ( my boys are 18) I would answer and put him on speaker. That's another way to handle it as a woman. If we are completely transparent always then your partner never has a reason to doubt you.
Im so glad I came across this man and his book. Changed my life around because of it.
Totally relate to that shit, had a 23yo latina chic last year, also ignored bunch of red flags from very beginning, turns out she cheated and lied to me from day 1, so much lies that I had hard time to comprehend "how" and "why" when it was over and I revealed the truths! Stay alert guys, do NOT ignore any single red flag 9cause they always come in bulk), and ALWAYS verify before making any serious move or when you have any doubts, just as Rich says!
Covert narcissists are usually pathological liars
Genius insight as always. Wish I’d found this channel years ago if there are any doubters out there take it from someone who’s older and wiser. This man speaks the truth.
Wish you success every episode you do, people don’t realize how blessed they are at this day and age for having informative media like this! I am 48 yo and would’ve loved to have this before I got married 30 years ago and living miserable!
Just bought the audiobook of Unplugged Alpha. Been listening and watching your stuff for a fair while now, looking forward to the complete work.
Great content. I needed to hear this many years ago. It's like the painting was on the wall, but I didn't have in my imagination how superficial men and women really are. I hate to admit it but I was beta maybe still am, hard to admit. I had no skills or understanding about vetting a female that show'd intrest in me. To all you young guys this type of information is golden. Personally I don't recommend to spin plates, but vetting is essential especially if your a quality human.
red flags drinking piercings constantly seeking validation from male co-workers behind BFs back while he works
Your last comment about circuses and clowns is gold. In my mid 20s my life was full of clowns, male and female. Got rid of all of them, righted the ship, set sail for success and never looked back. The circus disappeared and I have all the options I can handle. Drama queens and kings are ancient history and I don't have to deal with losers. Life is never easy, but you don't have to allow dorks and dingbats to complicate it. Hopefully guys listen to your advice so they don't have to live through the hell I did when there was no internet and solid advice available.
Wise words. Amen to that.
Unfortunately professional competence & behavior, a no nonsense work ethic at the office/work is no measure of the person being reasonable in personal relationships.
The same circus starts outside the work area...
@@justathinker8669 Spot on! I once thought "I'm in college, the circus clowns are behind me now." WRONG. Then I thought "I'm in medical school, the circus clowns are behind me." WRONG again. I finally figured out the circus clowns are everywhere and started learning how to spot them and avoid them.
I just had something similar happen to me recently . But I luckily Pulled out the “let me see your phone move”, and she refused . Works every time . Told that bitch to get the fuck out my house . Saves a lot of headaches
Yup! Happened to me for ignoring those important red flags of her flirting with other guys while we dating and many more. I tried to see if she would change but nothing so I recently broke free and I honestly feel good about it lol.
They never change trust me! It only gets worst…
My experience with latin girls is specifically based on actual latin girls. They are raised and live within their national cultures: Colombia, Mexico, Brazil, Venezuela etc. Once they hit the states or are raised here they are latin in name only. That being said there is something I believe is different. Feminism doesn't have as good of a foothold (it is weaseling itself into South American/ Mexico). If she is from a macho culture that values and reinforces marriage, she should display more sense of dread than an Americanized latin woman. A woman raised or has spent a lot of time here is American. These Latin women here use being latin for attention. They don't really resemble real latin women. Latin is a meaningless word. She is Brazilian, Colombian, Venezuelan, Mexican. She is a product of her culture and the intersexual dynamics of that culture plus outside western feminist influences. This guy did not really demonstrate where she is from or how Americanized she is. She sounds completely American. Virtually no "latin" sense of dread. The biggest flag I see is seeking validation for being Latin, whatever that means in this case. This is a baseline need for attention and will shift into a victim mindset. This chick is completely American. She is a disaster and probably not even a plate. This is double condom and abstain chick. Sounds like he stuck her on a pillar and could not believe the real truth of her. Walk away collect plates.
I find that the Dominican women are the worst with this they will trap a man and then take him to the cleaners I know some Dominican women that have been through 2 or 3 men and took everything from them and now they're sitting pretty driving Mercedes they own 3 homes collecting rents collecting rents be careful brothers
@@SALFXEF For sure. Be careful. In certain cultures, trapping men is an art form. Plate them, plate them and plate them. It can be very overwhelming to an American guy the amount of attention a Dominican, Colombian, Brazilian etc woman can give. You have to remember that she is a woman and globally they evolved the same. What the sexy latin girl probably does not have is the fallback government systematic default "husband". She does not have institutionalized feminism to a degree that American women have. She has men and she knows how to get things from them. Her sexuality will be very overt.
Some guys are still finding out or in denial that modern feminism doesn't discriminate
I'm a brazilian that lives in Brazil, I'm 25 years old and I read redpill content in english since I was 13, and it still amazes me, to this day, how many of you - north americans and europeans - still believe south american women are somehow better than American and european women. I say this because its something that I read over and over and over and it seems many base their opinions on, what I can only assume, are quick relatioships with latinas when they visit South America.
Don't get me wrong, white foreigners are automatically considered higher value here in their eyes - the 2014 World Cup was an awakening for many brazilian men about the way women work, as they basically offered themselves to any guy that came from another country, some of my buddies from Argentina that speak english had a lot of fun. But that still doesnt make them good or even decent for LTRs. The influence of feminism here is absurd, many of the problems the manosphere reports on the US are endemic here already. Entitlement, narcissism, unreal expectations, girls with a 60+ notch count before they hit 25, etc. And the nature of Latin culture, in certain aspects, is extremely bluepill, conservative at least on the men's side - youre still expected to foot the bill, do right by them and 'respect' them, in a way that I imagine its even worse than in the US and Europe, and certainly the women will expect that from you guys.
I say this as a warning, that I actually gave a few of my friends from overseas - dont fall into the trap of believing LA women are any better, LA women are still women. If you guys come on vacation, youre going to have a lot of fun, as I said women here love white foreigners, especially for the possibilities of you guys taking them back to your countries. But dont think for a second theyll wont show their claws once you guys are on LTR or in marriage. Stay safe.
well said, Am. culture ruins lots of foreign women once they get here, it happened to a friend of mine
Glad I found this channel! Ive got some things to relearn! Red flags....they will wreck you! The mistake is always to ignore them or think things will get better! Thanks Rich..Im onboard for cleaning myself up!
New guy… Nickname T-bone. Just wanted to say that I discovered your videos on UA-cam a couple of months ago and I have been addicted I can’t get enough of them. Just wanted to say your advice is absolutely amaze balls with your matter-of-fact clarity and your consistent message. This last video about red flags resonated so much with my 17 year marriage from 2000 to 2017 that I couldn’t help but leave a comment. I experienced all these red flags during my 17 year marriage and it is what eventually led to the divorce. Couldn’t be happier!!! I bought your book but have not read it yet but I definitely plan on it. I will continue to listen to these podcasts with very much focus till I get this way of life I just discovered ingrained into my life. Thanks again!👊
Yep, I'm with a Latina right now who has 3 kids from 2 different dudes. She's an utter freaking nightmare. I will never make this mistake again.
Why are you still dealing with her? Get outta there asap lol 😂
@@HuwSaunders-tu6xr A lot of Columbian women in porn for a reason.
run.
Did u get out?? I split from a latina a few months ago, I literally just packed my bags and fucked off when she was out.
Great in the sack tho
Get out before it’s too late!
"Imagine sharing a chick with another dude!"
Reality Check: Most chicks always have more than 1 Dude!
All ppl have “red flags”. A good woman, one who is down with you 100%, you can stop some of them if you do it right. Set boundaries and be firm about it. Most men give in because they don’t want to lose her. If she knows you’ll walk, she’s probably gonna change it. Some red flags are a hard pass however.
Great video sir! And the 20 Red Flags 🚩 are spot on!!
Rich is one of the best because he does a good job of explaining real life situations.
Hey Rich just bought the book.
Always here master. Your teachings changed my life 16/02/22
I have one regret, I wish I would have found you channel years ago, I was as dumb as a box of hair. Now I am close to retiring but If I had your info years ago my experiences would have been so much better. Anyway thank you for enlightening the younger generation.I will continue watching for the info for my son who sometimes needs reminders.
I got my ex wife (way out of my league at the time) because I was seeing 2 girls at the same time when I met her. I honestly believe that’s why she was into me. I was a different guy then. I’ve become “domesticated” since we got married. I let her control our marriage and how we were together. We failed eventually. Back then I always had at least one girl I was talking to. I was never very good looking but I was always pretty confident and girls thought I was funny and I would play the game well. Idk how many times I’ve taken women from their man. Some good looking guys too. That’s how I know women will cheat with someone because of the frame they have over their looks. Idk why I can’t find that guy in myself again. Maybe I’m just too jaded after my ex wife’s affair and the chaos from our hostile divorce. This content helps 👍🏻
The guy claims alpha but when he saw her phone, acted super Beta
Rich… you are so funny with your delivery…your comeback…I laugh….but never at the heartfelt stories… people have feelings!
Right or Wrong
Thanks for the advice my big brother from another mother!!keeper coming!!🤗👍
That’s why after have been divorced for 8 years now. I’ve dated this one girl for about a year but it was just not for me. I just don’t have the energy or motivation to go out and try to find someone
Already knew when you said "Latina". The new generation can't cook like their mom but drink like their dad. They also love the "loser" look.
Just curious, how did you know ahead of time she was latina? Just want to learn if there is something red flag you spot before
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@@Anthrax57 lol I misread, i thought you knew she was latina before he said she was
@@drwho9319 a on it or
@@drwho9319 a it's not 🚫🚫 it
Great Pod cast, I liked it ! I've read your book and going to read it again for more clarity Thanks for opening my eyes !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Yup! True dat! Good story yet sad. A lot of lessons to be learned and I'm learning a lot! Thanks Rich
Having standards is very important if you stick to them because you eliminate the bad ones right away. The problem with a lot of guys though is that we don't all come up getting the girl we wanted in High School or our teenage years. So when you've never had that much attention before and then one actually pays you attention you fall into there drama and world of lies.I think it's called live and learn. The men who dated more early on can easily move on to someone else wheres as some get fixated on one. I believe like he said to not commit yourself to just one but to keep things open to where you can date multiple Women and see who you feel more comfortable being around.
Thank you Rich for your channel. Also thank you for your book, I think every men should read it and also read the rational male as well, that been said: gentleman redflags are serious to look for plz do your recon, sniff test but if you haven't been unplugged you will waist your time and also you will be kept in that cycle of misery. Do the work get unplugged then you can be able to see things clearly.
Excellent video. Big lessons to learn here.
OMG Richie, you are such a FUCKING LEGEND Bro. Loving being in this Manosphere with the brotherhood ❤️
Yep! The older you get, the less these things bother you to 'discover'...and as a consequence, the easier it becomes to see a red flag (especially multiple red flags), and hit the eject button on her.
One of my ex's had 18/20 red flags in the book. I couldn't see this classic trainwreck back when I first met her in my late 20's. She was only missing flag #12 & #18...we had no kids, shared no assets etc 😳😬
- After I broke it off (now in my 30's at the time)...4-5yrs went by...she came back (they always come back, don't trip). When she came back I saw ALL 18 red flags!
Attention-seeking party girl, tattoos, daddy issues, liar with baby rabbies, drama queen with "quiet" feminist views, threw hissy fits, bad with money, unlucky drinker, jealous-competitive & violent, men from her past in the inboxes revealed waaay more of her actual body count...you name it! 🙅🏿🙅🏿🙅🏿
Spare yourself!! Buy the book! 📓
Did we date the same girl?
@@wendyslittleprogram3984 they all the same brother, if they seem different its because you haven't discovered the truth
This is an interesting one and a ball of yarn that keeps unraveling. Often times, men will spin plates, but women are doing the same thing. Also, I agree with everything that was said regarding advice, but men often catch themselves spinning plates while women are. This lady had more red flags than a…. Women always have a past, and most never, ever, leave it behind. Always validate and confirm what she’s doing and do spot checks throughout the relationship constantly, even if you are spinning plates you need to know what you’re dealing with so that you can navigate it. Excellent post.
More watching this channel, the more I get interested in buying your book.