You Might Have ADHD - Original Song
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- Опубліковано 11 кві 2024
- If you have ADHD, you are not alone. In fact, you can do great things!
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Today I picked up my son from school, in tears telling me he just wished he was "normal". I played him this song and I think it really helped. We r gonna get your book very soon. THANK YOU!❤
I had a similar moment on the way home today- but it was me. I was diagnosed at 38 and I still struggle with acceptance from myself and my family. Today I was just wishing I was normal. This song helped me so much. Glad to hear it helped your son, too. I bet he has some cool stories to tell. (ADHD kids have the best stories. 😂)
Sending your son lots of love and high fives!! I have it, my kiddo has it-- we're all in this together 🎉
When I was a kid (I'm in my 20s now) I would do the same thing. I would get so overwhelmed with school that I would just break down and cry. Even today I struggle with being "not normal". But, you are an amazing mom for encouraging him. I know my mom is one of the main reasons I was able to make it through my schooling. She was always there to encourage me and help me when I struggled. A bit of encouragement for your little guy, I know where he's been, but it does get better! I now am in college and doing really well. I'm able to live on my own and get good grades and have friends that love and care for me, all things I thought were impossible. But, nothing is impossible when you put that wonderful, hard working brain to it. Treat life like a puzzle, and take one step at a time. You'll get there!
Your son just needs to meet more people from his tribe 🙂
I’m queer, it’s not the same but I also wish I was normal, give your kid a high five for me! Please
"do you space out on a book after page number 3?" - bold of you to assume i can even get to page no 3
For real, more like half a page
Audio books. Changed my life. I could actually get to page 5 before I spaced out.
The first few pages are always the hardest. I often skim them until I get to the interesting parts.
I actually enjoy reading so I hyper focus 😂😂😂
@@hboudreaux66 Same, once I get past the first few pages.
About a year ago I started to realize I might have adhd. I sobbed finally realizing why I’ve struggled my whole life. I didn’t tell anyone because I was just self diagnosing and didn’t want the judgement. Plus, I was just processing the thought myself. I wanted to tell my boy friend so bad, but wasn’t sure he would understand, so I didn’t. A few months later, I was working one night, and he sent me a UA-cam video and said, “I think you might have this.” It was your little mermaid video about ADHD. I was dumbfounded! That video allowed us to connect on something I didn’t know how to tell him. It has been a really big blessing for our relationship. ❤
Wow, that's amazing. I am glad you figured it out and that you both are there for each other!
I understand the sobbing in relief of finally knowing why. I was diagnosed with Autism and ADHD as an adult. It was a struggle to get the diagnosis of ADHD because I don't present what everyone thinks as "normal" symptoms of ADHD like hyperactivity, as he describes in the video. My brother was diagnosed with ADHD at 5 and I was constantly told my brother had an excuse for why he acts the way he acts but there was nothing wrong with me so I had no excuse. I learned to mask very early in life.
I present like a lot of girls do, the different symptoms I present are appearing withdrawn, Crying easily (more so when I was a child), Daydreaming and in a world of my own, having Difficulty maintaining focus; and being easily distracted, Don’t appear to be trying, do not seem motivated, Forgetful, Highly sensitive to noise, fabrics, and emotions, Often late (poor time management), Problems completing tasks, Seems extremely shy, Shifting focus from one activity to another, Takes time to process information and directions; seems like she doesn't hear you.
I can relate to this so much. My wife and I have bonded over Holderness Family content about ADHD over the last year since her diagnosis. We also love listening to the podcast together while driving and pausing to discuss how what Kim and Penn are talking about relate to our relationship and lives. I hope the Holderness's realize how many lives thye have touched in such a positive way. CAN'T WAIT FOR THE BOOK!!!!
@@theholdernessfamily That was my story too! I watched the same video, laughed at it loads then thought, "HANG ON A MINUTE!!!!"
I literally started researching because of how Penn explained his ADHD. I do a lot of those things. So while I can’t afford and official diagnosis… my mom went and got one after I told her I was thinking it may be what’s up with me. Which is ironic because she always said it was an excuse for lazy parents to medicate their kids growing up. But thank you for finally giving me answers to why I don’t think like other people.
I just showed this to my 7 year old who is currently struggling immensely with ADHD. I cannot tell you the grin he had on his face when this song was over. He felt so proud of himself because he had a cool unique brain. Thanks for this song! I think this got through to him more than anything we've tried so far.
This is heartwarming. Greetings and all the best for your son. 🎉
My daughter has adhd, and she literally chewed holes in the collars of all her shirts, lol. School was a real struggle, but guess what? She is brilliant, has a wicked sense of humor, and is attending college in the medical field because she wants to help save people. Your son needs to remember that all super heros struggle at first, but someday it will all fall into place for him. (Cue montage of superheroes falling on their face while trying to master their skill, lol)
Crying. Mine is only 4 and won’t understand yet. But it’s beautiful that this made yours smile 😭
@@wildflower1397 Your her mother/father? I see where she inherited the sense of humor lol
They need to call it something different. It isn't a disorder. It's an ability. Society is the disorder.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.sporessss I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is. dr.sporessss
My husband solved a 600 step wooden puzzle in 7 minutes. He put it back in a little over 3 minutes and then took it back apart in 3 minutes and 6 seconds. Also, he puts things in really random places so he “ will know where to find them “ and then has no idea where he put them. He absolutely makes people he cares about laugh as a way to make us feel better. I have said for years that Penn reminds me of him. Great hair and all.
Oh, and he got bad grades so they tested him… he skipped 3 grades after that. He’s brilliant and I love the way his mind works.
It's called giftedness. People with ADHD can be gifted or not as any other person on planet, giftedness has no real relation with ADHD, they simple coexist in some people.
@MarijanaSarilar and giftedness not only often coexists with ADHD but sometimes also covers for it, making the inner struggle invisible to everyone except you. There are massive benefits to an ADHD brain, but major downsides. Same with a neurotypical brain honestly, except the world is designed for it.
The so called giftedness is from hyper focus - the moment the hyper focus drives into burnout there's no giftedness left for you to see
I actually have ADHD. I definitely feel frustrated with it most of the time. I appreciate the line, "there nothing wrong with you." Penn is great about making us feel better and laugh at it too!
It's a message we don't get often enough. We're different, absolutely, but there's nothing wrong with us.
I love the ADHD songs. You should make a playlist of them.
That's not a bad idea!
@@theholdernessfamilyI support this idea! Can we listen to it on Apple Music or Spotify?
Yes to a playlist! I was just about to sea if I could find them all!
@@annbrookens945I know it’s a typo, but I now want an ADHD sea shanty lol
@@thedarkbard That is a brilliant idea!
I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was seven. I am now 34. This is really the first place where I’ve felt like ADHD is a superpower not a “disorder”. For so long ADHD has had stigma associated with it. Thanks for writing these songs. It’s helping seven year old me heal, I guess.
Awwww hugs. My youngest was diagnosed last year at 11. He’s tried 3 meds. It’s so hard. It’s so hard seeing him struggle. I’m pretty sure I have it too.
You're not the only one. Been diagnosed since I was 8. Hated taking the meds, still don't want to. I'm 39 now, so I feel your pain. This was an awesome song for us
🫶🏼 have you seen “How to ADHD”? She’s great and definitely sees it as a (challenging) superpower
(My daughter with ADHD is stuck in a crisis of confidence, as I write this, struggling to start her first essay for University…😢
(I’m sure we’ll get it started tomorrow) 😊
I feel like we went through a period were it was "cool" to have ADHD (then ADD).
I really recommend that you read “Differently Wired”
ADHD is totally a superpower. I don't have it, but I've worked with lots of ADHD kids in theater and dance settings and they are so dynamite - once you figure out how to focus them they are just magical.
I’m 28, I just got my diagnoses earlier this week. A lot of things I didn’t realize about myself are suddenly clicking into place. The hardest part so far has been realizing that I’m in completely the wrong type of work for how my brain is wired. My job requires attention to small details which I’m not good at. But on the other hand I’m beastly good at improv comedy. I like creative pursuits. But I earn my living as an accountant. My boss yells at me everyday because I keep messing up on the small details and I’m not fast enough to respond to his e-mails. This song made me feel better about the news. Thank you.
I'm gonna be 60 this year and found out about 30 years ago that I have Adhd. I think one of the best things I learned to deal with this is to be kind to myself and when I have one of those goofy moments, I laugh to myself and say adhd Strikes again! and go on with my day knowing that i'm okay. I've done amazing things in my life. Like learn nine languages and have a successful career, so don't let adhd stop you! This video is amazing. And I'm gonna send it on to my kids who all have ADHD too!
Yoooo I truly have a desire to be a multilingual dude, I've got 2.5 under my layered brain that has always been a double edged sword in mu life. I am almost certain I have ADHD, I am currently going through therapy and health care, but no one seems to want to really dig deeper like I do, but anyway, that's beside the point. Will you share with me if you can what methods you have used to learn 9 languages??? Holy guacamole that is an accomplishment that I will attempt to mirror
Hyper focus helps a lot! and I grew up in other countries, so being exposed to so many languages early on helped also. But I found that each new language kind of fit into slots already set up in my brain by the last language. Don't know if that makes sense! I always had a notebook that was well organized - parts of speech, adjectives, adverbs, verb tenses, rules of speech that I wrote down by hand. I think using all the senses made them more permanent in my brain - saying them out loud, seeing the words, writing them. And each new language made more and more sense as I saw that they all fell into the same pattern, especially the romance languages. I think Esperanto really helped me see this pattern. But I learned hindi and still found the same basic pattern. I think an emotional connection helps also, I learned italian from spanish from a really good friend who had lived in italy. I learned Afrikaans, so I could write to a boyfriend who moved to South Africa. It also helps to communicate with someone who speaks the language - I spoke spanish with friends and practiced with patients at work and listen to a lot of spanish music, I joined a pen pal site and spoke with people all over the world in Esperanto, same thing with Hindi, and I also watched a lot of Bollywood haha. Music helped, too. I often listened to the music of the country and tried to translate the words.
Or found the lyrics and sang along. When I spoke with native speakers, I asked a lot of questions about the best way to say certain phrases that I was using in the moment. Well, that was a book! Hyperfocus is soooo useful! I wish you the best, I admire your determination! If you love languages, you'll get there!
I have two sons with ADHD, 12 and 8, and the 8yo is seriously struggling as we try to find him the right medication and other resources. It’s been heartbreaking to see my sweet, loving boy feel different, misunderstood, frustrated and depressed. This gave me a little boost of hope. Thanks so much, Penn-it’s obvious that that last message came straight from your heart, and it means a lot. ❤
The journey can be hard. Remember to tell them they are awesome :)
U guys are awesome @@theholdernessfamily
This video and your comment made me feel better. My eldest has it. She’s 19. Now we’re in the process with my 15 and 12 year olds. The youngest has tried 3 meds and hasn’t worked. He’s also sad etc like yours and it breaks my heart. Hugs to you and thanks for opening up.
Take them out of school! Do not give meds for ADHD! Send them out to play as often as possible, home school and keep lessons short, send out to play between subjects.
My son as extreme ADHD, plus super duper dyslexic, he just passed a standardized state test placing 2 grades above his age with 100% score in comprehension. My husband has extreme ADHD, dyslexic as well, he was homeschooled (his mom took him out of school when they asked her to put him on meds) he is now a doctor, he has the highest patient satisfaction rate nationally. He is extremely gifted, we met when I was 17, I watched him struggle through medical school, its was beyond grueling.
Boys, ADHD , or not, are not designed to sit at a desk all day. Short lessons outside ASAP, no tv. Its amazing.
God created them to be doers, warriors and adventurous protectors. They need to experiment with their environment doing crazy boy things in the dirt. The academic growth increase’s the more they are given time outside to process and exist.
@Mama_Bear524 As an adult with ADHD, and taking buproprion for 30 years now, I just want to say that medication only turns down the volume on ADHD symptoms. Much more important is learning strategies for managing daily tasks that actually make sense to the person with ADHD. Also, learning relaxation techniques that fit the individual, eating low carb/high protein and lots of fruits and veggies (really cut out sugar as much as possible), regular exercise (really important for good quality sleep), some kind of creative outlet, and learning to pay more attention to one's gifts than one's challenges. People with ADHD can be their own worst critic, especially if we internalize unkind things people may say to us out of ignorance. Most people don't have a clue as to what ADHD is, and how much it can vary from person to person. So, medication is only a bridge. Learning skills, strategies and self care are the real keys to living well with ADHD. @Mama_Bear524
My son Has ADHD, and always struggled in school, and barely passed. Didn't want or desired to go to college at all.
He is very hands on type of a person and can fix anything! He did this when he was younger, and would fix stuff around the house and in neighbors houses! This led him into a career into maintenance and he makes as much as my daughter does who went to college and as a degree.
I am so proud of both of my kids and especially proud of my son. He has found himself through this!
That's incredible!
my 22 year old had low self esteem, started taking ginko biloba and now learning a trade at community college that also offers anxiety sessions!
This sounds like my younger brother…. My parents gave him their broken coffee machine for parts he fixed it. Fixed one of our old broken phones.
@@AnnabethOwl WOW.
I just got diagnoised with ADHD officially 2 week ago... I am a 33 year old female that internatilized my hyperactivity and my special interest was school... so it got hidden very well, until now, and all my really good friends also have ADHD which is why we get along so well!
Saaaaaame! I was diagnosed when I was 27. My special interest was school until my third year of college when it became video games and I almost flunked out
My ADHD got in the way of school but not ENOUGH for anyone to consider testing or diagnosing me. I got the diagnosis at like... 22? I don't remember. But I knew for a long time before that, I just couldn't convince myself to ask to be tested
Now I still ought to get myself diagnosed with autism too but I have no idea how to get tested for that as an adult in my area
Diagnosed at 29, high functioning in school. I tend to always find the others ones. We’re all pretty awesome 😊
Just went down this path and I think I can help. Google a neurologist in your area and look if it’s on their website.
me too! Diagnosed a few months ago at 40, and now understand why a few other friends and I understand each other so well - our sparkly confetti brains ✨ 💛
I just watched this with my 11 year old son who has ADHD. As Penn was asking the different questions throughout the song, my son kept answering "Yes!" 😂 We both loved it and are looking forward to reading the book together 🙏 Thanks Penn for bringing hope, levity and joy in sharing your experience. We need more of that in the world!
Tell your son I said hi and that he's awesome!
As someone exactly like your son, I KEPT SAYING YES LOL
I always read comments on UA-cam about people watching something and crying. I always think it’s a load of rubbish… yet here I am writing this with tears on my cheeks.
My 7 year old daughter has ADHD and I suspect I have it too, albeit undiagnosed.
I’ve been procrastinating watching this video. I’m so glad I did. It’s amazing.
Thank you. 👍
Edit: Watched the song with my daughter and bawled my eyes out again.
Happy tears. 🥲
Untreated ADHD is a serious illness and disability. We shouldn't have shame but also can't deny the very real risk factors for depression, premature death, substance use disorder, the list goes on. Please see your doctor folks :) and don't forget to be awesome!
I love this so much. I have friends with ADD or ADHD, and this helps me understand them so much better. BTW, we’re all middle aged women! ADHD isn’t just hyperactive little boys.
Our oldest son and daughter have ADHD and there's a chance our youngest son may have it as well. Oldest son really struggled in school. Lots of acting out and physical reactions to things. Finally found a school and doctor with the resources to help him. He never cared about school. But he graduated high school, earned his 2nd degree black belt in taekwondo and was 1 of 200 kids out of the whole state picked to play in a marching band, throughout Europe. Our daughter is completely different. She loves school, wants to do well and does well is school, so people often don't see the ADHD. Anxiety is her real struggle.
This is great ❤❤❤ Thank you!
Important notes for those reading the comments:
- Not everyone with ADHD has *all* of these symptoms because it depends on if you're predominantly hyperactive, inattentive, or both.
- Not every ADHD symptom was listed.
- Not everyone who experiences these symptoms will have ADHD, because some of these symptoms overlap with other mental health and neurodevelopmental disorders.
- It's possible to have more than one mental health or neurodevelopmental disorder, so being diagnosed with something else does not automatically mean that you don't have ADHD.
- Women are less likely to get diagnosed in childhood.
- ADHDers may develop a lot of masking behaviors to try to fit in.
- ADHDers often have rejection sensitivity and increased empathy for others.
- ADHD does not automatically mean bad behavior or poor performance at school. (I suspect a lot of people mix up ADHD and deviant personality disorder).
- Having ADHD does not give anyone (especially educators) the right to treat you as less than.
- You are not alone. There are many people out there who are going through the same things you are, whether it's ADHD or something else.
The keys in the fridge are soooo relatable !! And the mental f*ck when I found an empty yogurt tub in the dishwasher… because it means I will have to go search for the spoon in the trash can 🤪.
A lot of shame and embarrassment for sure. My 18 year old son has struggled his 13 years in school being bullied by peers and dismissed by teachers. He's really close to not graduating next month because he has challenges remembering and organizing and finishing projects. We have a tough few weeks ahead.
But on the flip side he has a really great group of friends that are a lot like him. He will always befriend those who seem to need a friend. He's always wanting to help and will help others with schoolwork when he has trouble doing his own. Last year when we took care of my toddler niece and nephew he was always there helping without even being asked. He was such a Godsend thinking of others before himself. He comes up with wildly creative ideas and is so funny, and so tenderhearted. I wouldn't want him any other way as he's always bringing so much joy.
Thanks Penn for being one just like him. He loves your encouragement!
I wish him the best, and, I can relate. When I graduated and got my Grade 12, it was with a D Average. Thankfully, there was a Second High School, in our same area, and I was able to upgrade. An extremely long wait-period for what I wanted in College, so I was able to use that time to upgrade.
I am glad he has the support he needs. And, I am assuming you do with other parents, as well.
I graduated way back in the 90s, so, I'm sure there were a lot less services available 30 years ago.
@QUICKBOOKS1 thank you. We live in Indiana and we have what's called a core 40 diploma. It's really the only one he can get and it requires completing "pathways". You can't just pass required classes anymore and get diplomas like we used to. Now they they have to do all these different projects and get at least C averages in certain classes before they can graduate. It's so convoluted and frustrating. Definitely not special needs friendly, and he even goes to a nationally recognized STEM school. He lives the school but the resource teacher has not been the biggest help in navigating his IEP. She seemed to the first couple of years, but I believe she had me hoodwinked. ☹️
@@jenniferrogers5372 OK. I am not familiar!
I have relatives who probably have undiagnosed ADHD (super high energy and a lot of random tangents), but they naturally gravitated towards professions that require the ability to task-switch rapidly (for instance, coaching athletes or managing multiple properties), so it didn't really need to be diagnosed because their jobs NEED that energy.
My oldest was diagnosed with ADHD several years ago, and the more we've learned, we've realized that probably our whole family has ADHD, which makes for some interesting Dynamics in the house. My husband did get diagnosed recently, and both my siblings have been diagnosed as adults, so at some point I probably ought to seek it out too haha.
But I agree with taking this positive spin on it, we've been trying really hard to teach my oldest that yes, ADHD can make a lot of things challenging for her, but it can be a huge strength when she learns how to handle it. We call it a super power, and she loves that.
I know so many people with ADHD, both officially and unofficially diagnosed, and they are all amazing, wonderful, incredible people!
What a wonderful encouragement to anyone with ADHD. I don't have it but appreciate anything that encourages a child or adult and everyone in between to handle whatever situation they may be experiencing. Thanks and keep up the great work!
The biggest help is y'alls joy and compassion. I can struggle through a lot of things, but seeing (understanding - relatable) humans that are happy really really helps.
I was officially diagnosed a couple weeks ago at 38 years old. I wish I had known as a child so I wouldn't have had the shame and trauma of feeling like such a useless human being. Thanks for lifting us up. ❤
I'm recently diagnosed as autistic and very, very likely ADHD as well. I'm finally learning how to navigate through life the right way for my brain, and it's not the easiest or fastest journey but it's way better than just sitting in a corner mentally beating myself up because I can't do things that others can do. And accepting that yes, this is a disability, but only because society isn't built with people like me in mind. And the more open and self-aware I am about my neurodivergent brain, the easier it is to find ways to succeed, or at least adjust! Part of that journey has definitely been seeing you rock your own unique brain, Penn!
There's nothing wrong with being different ❤
You're right about that
Absolutely ADORE my amazing son just the way he is! 🥰
This isnt about being diffrent. Its about not being able to do stufd you want. Which is the definition of disability. Its like saying, "oh you cant walk? Well at least you can still swimm right?"
...bruh
@@soirema I only said those words because it was a part of the song.
Love this. My son was diagnosed 2 years ago with Autism and ADHD at the age of 30 and has spent the last year trying to find the right medication. Once he started learning about the different symptoms for each diagnosis he has continued to tell me that I have ADHD too. This week I just took a test and scored really high for it, which means I went 50 years losing keys, but doing puzzles quickly, losing track of days and time, not knowing what I just read in a paragraph, and not being able to focus on simple tasks, but finding periods of creativity that even amaze me. Loved this video. We may have found out late in life, but me and my son finally fully understand why we do the things we do, the pros and the cons, and it can be just as amazing of a brain as it can be just as frustrating. Not mad at it though.
Thank you for this. I was just diagnosed at 57 and I've been having a difficult time adjusting to symptoms that I'd been ignoring all my life.
I wouldn't say I have IGNORED them, but, I have adapted.
@@QUICKBOOKS1
My parents never acknowledged the problem. They simply told me that my quirks were okay and told me to just keep getting good grades. But now I realize that some of issues with hyper-focusing on some things and spazzing out on others could have been handled differently.
Remember to be kind and patient with yourself. ❤ You would be surprised at how much you already do to cope with the way your brain works, and now that you know that your brain works differently, you can learn some new ways to improve your life too! You got this!
@Steffi.EchoGraphix My son was diagnosed in his late 20s. I also and 57 and he'll stop me sometimes and say, "Mom, I think your symptoms are worse than mine." I've never been diagnosed with it, it never occurred to me to try. We were both standing in an aisle at the store yesterday and caught ourselves totally zoned out for several minutes. Luckily, no one was trying to get past us! Lol
Oh my goodness! I do that! Never bothered getting diagnosed either. Hyperfocus is a major thing for me, or suddenly having super random thoughts and "did you knows".
Thank you for writing this putting this together. Sharing it. I'm 22 and in college. It's finals week and I am struggling to keep up and focus. I can stare at my computer for hours and not touch it when I "just" need to open a Word doc and start writing. I'm crying. Someone finally gets it and doesn't say it's a bad thing. ADHD is not bad. It's different, but that doesn't make it bad. Thank you
Dude we're I'm a similar situation. I'm only just now realising I might have ADHD with a few days left for assignments, realising it would have helped me so much if I had realised this earlier
That's too many uses of realised lol didn't read through it
Spouse and child with ADHD and they have the biggest hearts, but need a lot of guidance! We are all musicians. Hubs and I teach music, and we both know that ADHD can be a true superpower when playing a musical instrument. Hubs says the first time he took trumpet lessons was the first time he felt like all the ‘channels’ in his brain were all occupied with the same thing at the same time and he felt so powerful. Breathing, blowing, counting, fingers moving, foot tapping, eyes reading, ears listening… no sweat if your brain is in hyperdrive!
I also don’t like that it’s called a disorder. I am diagnosed with some thing that is also called a ‘disorder’. Neurodivergence shouldn’t be considered a disorder. It should just be different types of brains, just like there are different types of blood, or personalities. One is not superior to another. Just different.
All my kids and I have adhd. I’ve always made my kids feel like it’s actually pretty cool and helped them understand that different is not broken. It’s literally just a different operating system. Unfortunately my daughter (16) has a good friend who has the worst case I’ve ever seen, but says there’s nothing wrong with her, she doesn’t have adhd. I’m like little dudette, there is nothing wrong with me or my children but we do have adhd. She thinks there is something “bad” about having it and so she refuses to accept that she does. Not intentionally insulting us. I feel bad for her, her mom is single and really hard working but has sadly neglected her child’s mental health. Little miss has anxiety attacks and severe rejection sensitivity and struggles in school, over a year ago she said she was going to a therapist but never did. Breaks my heart.
I finally got AuDHD diagnosis at 32 and its been a mixed bag of delight and shame. This song brings me joy!
As a creative person in their 40s I've just recently accepted the fact that I most assuredly probably have ADHD and it explains A LOT :) But I also know I wouldn't do all the cool and fun things I get to do without it. Loved this song - thanks!
Thank you Penn! This is incredibly helpful for everyone, not just those with ADHD. It promotes healing and understanding. I am an Instructional Aid at a local high school and I see all of this every day. You're right, ADHD is a superpower and needs to be understood.
There's a kid in the combined kindergarten/1st grade Sunday school class that I teach who, the more y'all share about ADHD, the more confident I am that he has it. I just wanted to say thank you, because your videos on adhd have really helped me understand and appreciate how his brain works and help him better in class. As the years go on and I encounter more kids like him, this will help me understand and appreciate them, too. I hope he and other kids like him never feel shame for about adhd, because my goodness, he is SO creative and smart. I can absolutely imagine him changing the world one day!
As a sped aide of 11 yrs-your openness and support of those who think with a unique brain is AMAZING!!! You will impact more folks than you know!!! Thank you for helping to rid the world of the stigma of brains that work differently! Yea!!! You rock!!!
Awesome video! Your ADHD was a huge part of you winning the Amazing Race!
It sure was :)
Whaaaaa? They won the amazing race?! Must go watch!
I remember that episode! It’s the only one I’ve ever watched. Congrats!
When I read for school I take notes and note the page numbers. It is the only way to get to remember or take things in. Never been diagnosed
My kid is 4, almost 5 and we're working on diagnosis for ADHD.
I hope people like you keep getting attention because that's a stigma that needs all the way gone posthaste
I watched this video with my seven-year-old with ADHD. He kept starting and stopping the video to show me a specific shot. It was a place that looked like a place he had been. 🤣🤣🤣
It's now into adulthood that I'm convinced I have ADHD. This is backed up by this song. The first few examples, walking in the mud without shoes and leaving my laptop didn't resonate, but from then onwards like being the funny person, distracted and forgetting why I was in a room, being diverted by food, making people smile, and getting lost in thoughts, In all I reckon I match around 75% of the content of the song. WOW!
When he got to the line about chewing on your shirt collar... I'd never heard of that as an indication!
I didn't exactly *'chew'* on mine, but stretched it out and fidgeted with my collars a lot
Same!
One of my favorite videos! Thank you Penn! I'm a teacher with ADHD and have never felt so seen and heard as I do with you and how you talk about it. Thank you!!!🩵🩵🩵
I see you!
Your Little Mermaid parody actually got me wondering if I had ADHD. I went down a rabbit hole of research and talked with my doctor about the possibility. He was kind enough to send me to a specialist, and a year and a half ago, I received my ADHD diagnosis.Thank you so much for bringing this to light in such a playful, wonderful way. I'm definitely going to get my paws on your new book!
I teared up towards the end… “There is nothing wrong with you”… I needed to hear that. Thank you.❤️
Me too. Bawling over here.
@@treefrog101 You are enough. I’m proud of you. You’re doing your best. You got this. You’re doing great.❤️🫂
"Do you space out on a book after page number 3..."
My guy, it takes every brain cell I've got to make it to sentence number 3 without spacing out.
😂
This song is great, by the way. Thank you!!!
I wish i could hit the like button a thousand times for this. Thank you so much. Hit me hard in the feels.
Sending hugs, thanks for being here
I was very proud of myself for changing the daylight savings time offset in my car this year! Like two weeks before they changed again, but still.
I am clapping for you!
My kids were also quite proud of me! I'll take my wins where I can get them!
I was diagnosed about nine years ago in my late 20s. I have, among other things, put my alarm clock in the fridge several times and once hung up a bag of frozen broccoli on the clothes line which is right in front of the freezer, so this feels very familiar. 😅
Greetings from Germany 😊
Adhd can absolutely be a blessing. It can be disabling though, and I hope both sides of that get more recognition in the future. People don't seem to be able to both acknowledge the struggles while also valuing us, and I hope that changes.
It's a lot like autism. It's a different brain type, and having it doesnt mean you're "wrong" as a person. But it can have a very real debilitating impact on some people, and there needs to be room in society for people with the brain types that need more support.
One of the biggest things that would help would be making getting medical care for it less onerous. Literally every step of getting the debilitating effects treated is set up to be something hard for someone with ADHD to do.
I am recently 40. I learned two things today. 1- I have ADHD .. and 2- I really like you.
My little brother grew up struggling with adhd. Teachers told him it wasn’t a real condition, he was just being lazy. I’m spending his entire adult life telling him how amazing he is. Thank you for a song that tells him the same. He loves it. 🤍
I was diagnosed last fall (at 45!) and yes, all of this is true. I have all kinds of weird superpowers that turned out to be ADHD symptoms...go figure! Thanks for this song, I'm gonna try to find your book in my library, can't wait to read it.
Thank you so much for the way you all advocate for ADHD, and how encouraging you are to people who have it. I was diagnosed a year ago and it was your videos about ADHD that made me realize that this disorder, while sometimes a bit of a pain, could also be a strength. I've got your book on preorder, and what makes me the most happy is that I've got my mum excited to read it too, because she wants to learn about it so she can better understand my dad and me. I'm so happy to see that more people are able to learn about ADHD in this healthy, encouraging way, and I really appreciate how that has always come across in your content.
THANK YOU HOLDERNESS FAMILY!
We need more of these videos. As a guy who was diagnosed with adhd and used to hate that diagnosis, this song really helped.
Penn, I believe your book and song will be watershed tools for educators and parents. I once believed that ADHD was "something wrong" with a child, either my own or my students. I'm ashamed to admit it, but that was the thinking at that time. You are teaching us something new. Yes, people with ADHD have to find systems and routines to help them cope (I mean, laptops are expensive!), but we need to approach it positively. We need to see the process as building, rather than tearing down. I'm so excited for you and for those of us who will benefit. I'm definitely sharing this video! Best wishes!
1) Glasses in the exact same spot in the evening. But, the most embarrassing is trying to find my glasses while I am WEARING them. Thankfully, nobody is around when I do that.
2) Scheduling everything well in advance, so I make sure I don't forget.
3) Using the Calendar Function on this Mac, to remember Birthdays.
4) FULLY, able to relate to the video, "I Want To Know What Day It Is!".
There is, at least, 10 times more.
@@QUICKBOOKS1 These are exactly the things I'm talking about! Don't feel bad: I've been looking for my phone while I was talking on it! 🤣
I'm an educator with indirect experience with ADHD -- other children and adults in my life and extended coursework about it. My problem is the opposite -- helping students get diagnosed, but the parents have a stigma against it, so the child suffers because help is delayed (meds or alternative classroom services).
@@saba347 I experienced the same thing so many times during my career. It's the children who suffered.
Can’t read a book; Bit my nails. Talk when I’m nervous and I have trouble not interrupting people.
I had no idea that I had ADHD until I was 30 something years old!
But once I figured it out everything about my life growing up made so much more sense. Cant wait to read your book!!!
Thank you showing us what ADHD is really like. So many people like to think it's just being scatterbrained and lazy, but it's a lot harder yet better than that. It comes with real, deep challenges but also unconventional, creative ways of thinking. Some of my best friends have ADHD, and y'all just make the world better.
Yes. I think most (if not all) of the "quirky" things I do, or ways I do them, are due to undiagnosed ADHD. I'm not just "lazy" or "not really trying" as I've been told my whole life (52 years!)
Thank you, Penn and Kim, for being part of my journey in learning this about myself!
At 28 years old I was diagnosed with FASD. I also think I have ADHD because I do a lot of the things in this video and have since i was very young. Penn you and your family are amazing!
You sir, are a beautiful human being.
I was diagnosed at age 40. When I started talking to my friends about it, I found out that more than half my friends also had been diagnosed with ADHD. One friend, who was a very popular high school teacher in the vocational-agriculture program, said to me. "Welcome to the club! Do you want to know the secret handshake?" My friends tend to be smart, funny, very inventive, involved in lots of cool stuff, compassionate and helpful. So yeah, ADHD can be all those things, too. My friend found his niche in the vo-ag program, which allowed him to do a lot of field trips and hands-on classroom stuff, so it was a lot less structured than a regular classroom. I worked as a reporter for more than 30 years (retired now). The deadlines were very stressful, but no two days were ever the same and I was rarely stuck at my desk. I often wrote my stories at home and sent them in "over the wire" (phone) at first, and later by email. (I am 70, a lot changed in the news business over the years). So, finding your niche, or creating one, certainly makes a difference. And I was an outstanding reporter (and photographer), by the way.
Truly inspirational Penn! I was diagnosed at age 11 (40 years ago) and my son who is 17 also was diagnosed. While we have our challenges compared to neurotypicals, we are gifted in many ways. Can't wait to read the book! Thank you for shining a light on our uniquely wired brains and all the laughs over the years.
I love the positive outlook you have in harnessing your creativity. Personally though, I don't feel like I experience any of the positive parts of ADHD. Maybe it's the difference between primarily hyperactive and primarily inattententive types... With the latter I don't feel like I get any kind of creativity or good ideas, only the forgetfulness and zoning out while reading or while people are talking to me. I know it's hard to compress complex ideas into a short video, so maybe your book goes into more detail about how there are all different types of personalities with ADHD and how some people struggle more than others. I hope so. But this song and the mantra of "ADHD is Awesome" really doesn't represent me personally, and I know I shouldn't take it personally and I try to just be happy for the people who feel represented and seen by your videos and book. But sometimes your motto just makes me feel sad that I didn't get any of the awesome parts.
Yeah, I was wondering this as well. One of my kids probably is the inattentive type and I don't see a lot of the awesomeness for him right now. Especially the outgoing and entertaining traits don't seem to be a huge part of their neurodivesity.
Nuance is needed :)
I'm sorry if both of you haven't found your niche yet. Find a career that matches your abilities.
You are special, just maybe not the traditional way!
I couldn’t click fast enough! Love your songs! Best ADHD song you have ever done. ❤ love it! Happy Friday
Thank you, Penn, for your advocacy and courage in publicly disclosing! From an advocate for people with Blindness/Visual Impairments, who might have undiagnosed ADHD, mad respect. 🤟
I legitimately cried. Thank you, actually thank you.
Why am I crying? ❤❤❤❤ I feel seen. I will translate your book into Hungarian.
I love it! thanks. "food short circuits your executive functioning" - So true!
It sure short circuits mine.
@@theholdernessfamily Especially when I'm hungry!
Just sent to my almost 19 year old he can relate to all these things and I think it's great to see a funny positive message regarding ADHD because his whole life has been a struggle and the public school system even with an IEP and society as a whole tend to make him feel like he could always do better or he's different and now as a college student he is embracing his ADHD and accepting it and after a rough start is finishing strong during his first year. He will definitely have a weird and wonderful life but he can be successful and most importantly a really great human being.
I've been watching a while and have been informed and entertained, this was both but also got me.
I'm almost 40 and have no formal diagnosis, I've been struggling my whole life to figure out why I can't just do what everyone around me does, but also learning to appreciate the things I can do that they can't.
Thank you, Holderness family, and thank you to my girlfriend who supports my journey every day ❤
Thank you for this video. It brought tears to my eyes. I've had ADHD all my life but was not diagnosed until I was an adult. When I was in grade school I was part of a special group called LDG (Learning Disability Group). The had us crawl, color, and other simple inane tasks. Today both my sons have ADHD and we were able to get them on the right medications right away.
My middle son and I both have ADHD. Thank you for all you are doing to help bring understanding and encouragement to those with ADHD as well as to those who love them ❤️ Your videos have been such a blessing to us and help us smile on our rough days! Looking forward to reading your book!
One of my husband’s ADHD skills is having a pun for every situation. He comes up with them on the fly ALL. THE. TIME. The kicker? He’s been profoundly deaf since birth and English isn’t even his first language, ASL is. But he has an English pun for EVERYTHING.
As the mom of a 7 year old with ADHD and dyslexia, this is so awesome! I’m gonna show it to her.
@TheHolderness Both of my girls have ADHD. They have their struggles but they absolutely shine on stage! They love dance and acting. My oldest makes her own jewelry. She just turned 11 and is figuring out the routines that help her stay on track during the day. My youngest is just 8, amazing at telling jokes and loves improv. We are still learning how to help her stay focused through. Watching your channel really helps them. Thank you!
Thank you Penn :) We are grateful for how YOU use your brain to bless us!
I did horribly in school and didn't know why. I felt like an outcast and I distanced myself from my friends, thinking I was completely alone. I always knew I was different, and it wasn't until later that I found out I had ADHD. This kinda reaffirmed what brought me out of my shell. Thank you.
My 12 year old has ADHD and was in tears this week with some of his struggles and challenges. I have been trying to be super supportive and encouraging to him. THIS SONG MADE ME CRY HAPPY TEARS AND RELIEF. Thank you!!! We love your guys’ channel in our house. Thank you especially for this song. I will be sharing this with him ASAP. We have over 8 people in our family with ADHD and I am going to be sharing this with them all and their parents!! ❤❤❤❤
I am sitting in the fourth row of a NYC Barnes n Nobles about to see Penn & Kim after an ADHD filled day, I turned the song on and it literally brought me to tears. Penn, if I don’t get to say it to you, thank you for creating such an uplifting song. It’s the best
This is me. But I once found myself thinking about astroids AND goats... At the same time.
I was watching my grandma's goats and thought about the asteroid that killed the dinosaurs and how we wouldn't have most mammals without it. Then I started simultaneously thinking about mountain goats climbing cliffs and what made the first dairy drinker think of sucking on a goat's nipple, while contemplating astronomical bodies in the solar system. All the while, trying to lick my own nose.
I remember that day because it was the first time I lost my wallet, and I spent the whole day in a panic. A week later, I found it inside the computer I had built a few days before. Finding the wallet made me forget why I had opened up the computer.
I came to put on some music while I work... then I saw this, totally forgot I was doing work, had a great time, made me smile... what was I doing? Oh, work! Yeah, renewed energy and stuff. Thanks, my dude!
I LOVE IT! All the words were so positive and the lyrics “There’s nothing wrong with you.” and “Your brain is not broken.” made me smile so hard-
Tears are running down my face. Thank you for this.
I have a job with a bunch of hyperactive kids which is normally great for me, but last week a lot of kids were out and it was so quiet that I got overwhelmed by all the little sounds I was no longer filtering out and stared at the ceiling for 10 minutes.
But I also came up with an idea to help support clients in line with some changes my company made that my boss was like ".... Everyone should do this." It's a swinging pendulum.
My Daughter was diagnosed with ADHD last year and this video is amazing! Thank you for sharing this penn!
Dang it bro, love yours all's stuff and did not plan on crying from this one. You're so not wrong about the shame.
I finally got diagnosed as an adult going on 3 years ago (when I was 36), and finally had a moment of realization that I was a bad kid in early school years, just didn't know what I needed help with. And it gave me some grace for my teachers who also weren't equipped to help a kid like me. I'd often finish work quickly and then fidget, move about, talk too much, read a book, etc and it led to a lot of criticism and separation to having to sit at an isolated desk away from my peers.
Most of my life was learning to white knuckle mask my symptoms. As a result I've become successful and driven, but learning new strategies to optimize my brain rather than beating it into submission has felt very healing the last few years.
I still think about all the times I felt like there was something wrong with me and just wishing I could be like everyone else. Just for today I'm going to practice acceptance and gratitude for how I'm made.
Thank you for the content. Your book is going on my Christmas list!
Your original songs are always a treat to hear, Penn!
The most ADHD thing I do that I can think of at the moment is, I'll think about watching a specific movie all day (sometimes for multiple days). When evening comes and it's time to watch the movie I will settle in, put it on, watch 30 seconds of it, and then get up and wash the dishes or something. I'm just as likely to get to actually watching it later as I am to turn it off and play video games.
Iived with this since 83. It has helped Me to do this UA-cam thing for 15 yrs. Nice Song
I'm in the process of listening to the audiobook now. Thank You
I always thought I was broken because I didn't know anyone like me. The way my brain makes rapid-fire connections, the hatred of lines, the emotional roller-coaster, All of it. I'm not alone. Thank you
I'm AuDHD so this is very relatable and funny, I laughed the whole way through. God bless you brother.
I don't think I have ADHD but i zoned out in the middle of tv shows. My dream world was more vivid than life.
Umm ... Check out ADD, or watch better shows!
This song is the best song stuck in my head ever. I LOVE MY ADHD SO MUCH NOW
Dude, you deserve the world. Thank you for existing.