ADHD - "Under The Sea" Parody
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- Опубліковано 27 січ 2021
- Calling it a deficiency is wrong, ADHD helped Penn write this song 🎶Also, that recorder solo was much harder than it looked 👀 #adhd #underthesea #parody
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My ADHD son just said “what? I’m actually smart?” Yes little man you’re so smart 💙
It hurt reading that because an ADHD diagnosis is merely a label - not an IQ test. You can be a genius and have ADHD. It is just "how your brain works". It may help to explain to your your son that ADHD refers to: attention span (inability to focus on a task), how easily distracted you are, hyperactivity (feeling restless), being disorganized, etc. Those ADHD symptoms make it more challenging for the ADHD brain to access their SMART! Think of those symptoms as a fog in your brain ... In other words, ADHD does NOT equal stupid. 😊
Of course, Little man your smart. Just figure out, how to make it, in this world, your OWN way. And you will be fine.
often giftedness and ADHD go hand in hand. ADHD brains just think in different patterns than other ones.
😞 it hurts that our kids who have a diagnosis-I have raised 1 with ADD,1 with ADHD&OCD and 1 with Autism spectrum disorder-are made to feel less than in this day&age!! The only one of my 3 that felt like he was not smart or that his being different was bad was my youngest,so many people have a misconception about Autism! Even a lot of educators know next to nothing about it! I took great pleasure in knocking the wind out of one educators sails after she insinuated to my face that he was not smart,told her that he was smarter than every one of us in that room,she scoffed-until the school psychologist spoke up and said "um,I administered his IQ test and trust me-he is!!" After that we armed him with knowledge about his Autism and now at 19 he is his own best advocate and loves to educate others!
I'm 16 and I have ADHD and I thought I just wasn't smart enough to pass highschool with good grades. Since the pandemic my school went from 7 classes to 4 and now I'm passing with a B average. When I saw that at the end of 1st semester I was passing my classes I cried because I finally realized that I wasn't stupid and that school just wasn't made for people who think like me. I hope your son knows that he can do whatever he wants with his life despite what others think or say and that he's vary smart and awsome!
It's rare to see a parody which has all ingredients: good execution music-wise, funny theatrics, and lyrics with an actual message. Delightful job.
Ikr I feel like it explains it better then every teacher/doctor/ adult that has tried in the past
"My brain doesn't work like that, man. My brain just goes off and on" word. No truer words have ever been spoken..
And I LOVE his singing voice!
Yeah, he nailed it
My brain does the same but without the on part
yeah we sadly just have 2 settings on our thinker, it is what it is
If your brain turns off, you are dead, so he lied
There is no "Do". There is just "Don't Do" and "Overdo".
There is no "Think". There is just "Don't Think" and "Overthink".
My daughter and husband have ADHD. I felt every one of your wife's expressions in my soul.
right? Feel so sorry for my husband. lol
Husband and two grown steppies. After 14 years I get it. Boy, do I get it!!!!
Her expressions are priceless, she's so funny
The wife's look of sheer, utter panic mixed with despair at the 1:29 mark just cried out "Oh no! He has money!" and slayed me to no end! 🤣
Yoikes, if what my mom learned that’s a rare jump from father to daughter. Something I was concerned I might pass to my daughter but seems I didn’t.
My mom learned at least a couple decades ago that it was more father to son hereditary.
The mixing board was the PERFECT analogy.
That and for Epilepsy!
I totally agree
Ohh yes!!! All or nothing is our way.
I have adhd, epilepsy, ocd, and a brain injury, I so identify this song,
Couldn't agree more.
I love this song- and not just because I’m an adult ADHD person who has a PhD in physics, but also needs to set alarms so that I remember to eat 😂.
We just have too many things to think about. 🤷🏼♀️
😂 oh i feel you
I need multiple alarms just to get the hell up lol, my work truck always looks a wreck but so long as nobody goes in there I know where I keep things,
And my time in the service I was able to spend 12 hours a day staring at trees. The catch to adhd is you need to be interested in something to find focus.
So anyone who has it and is young, go into fields of work you enjoy and you’ll be able to focus on your job. Which only leaves figuring out those “organizational skills” I’m 42 and still struggle in that end lol.
@@wakcedout You've hit the nail on it's head! I went into see my school counselor to ask what type of jobs I would be able to do using my ability to identify certain things based on feel, texture, appearance, etc. I was told there wasn't any such job. If only I'd known then what I do now; but, the focus back then was for girls in particular to go into job fields that were considered appropriate. Boo! Hiss! I now know I could have used these skills in so many ways. I would most likely been extremely good at discerning items that were genuine vs fake, recognizing minerals & gemstones, precious metals, whether something was a product of the 18th or 19th century, whether a piece of furniture was from the original time period or was a revival piece or a "married" piece or a deliberate fake plus have been able to tell you why I'd reached that conclusion. Oh well, life is what it is. No one should underestimate the talents individuals possess even if our organizational skill are much different than those of "normal" individuals. We are able to remember where in a pile of stuff we put a certain document - unless someone "messed with" that pile. We tend to also be perfectionists, which is why we get discouraged when we can't continue organizing exactly how we want to. 'Nuff said.
This song makes me cry, i found I've ADHD at 27 (im 28 now) and i tought i was an idiot for all my life because of my behaviours.
Now I'm an engineer, "I may be a slob, but I'm great in my job, that it's just me".
Thank you man, i will carry this song in my heart forever
How did you get better? I have adhd and I'm struggling
@@bopeep9271 mainly I've accepted my limits and force me to not push over them.
To do it I analysed my behaviour and found some patterns. For example, when I cannot stop thinking about a thing I start to drink alcohol, so I'm monitoring my alcohol assumptions to know if I'm too stressed, if I'm too stressed I simply stop doing some things before it's too late or I start new things to relax myself (like listening music).
In this way I can control way better when to stay focused.
The big problem I've encountered is that many of my behaviours are not "normal" (like start singing while I'm working) and this is a trouble if there are other people in the office, however I can explain to them my situation to make them comprehend and maybe they will actually help me (like my girlfriend does).
I went to a psychologist to know what to do, I'm sure that a comportalist can help you too
Own it.
When our youngest son was diagnosed this year at age 12, we realized we hadn't noticed anything was "wrong" because 6/7 people in our family probably have ADHD. (His is the only official diagnosis so far.) Whenever things get misplaced or he does something that fits this, he bursts into this song's chorus! Thanks, Penn. You being so open about this and talking up the positives and not just the negatives has been so helpful as we come to terms with all this. Our daughter now says, "ADHD is just how I got nerfed." She is beautiful, funny, creative, and intelligent. She also gets horrible grades.
I learned I had Adhd after my son was diagnosed and I realized he has the exact same processing functions that I have struggled with since I was little. Back in my day girls weren’t even diagnosed with adhd.
Same with my family, except it was all 7 of us! My younger sister got hers as a young adult, and the more we learned, the more we realized we had all grown up unaware of it because all of us had it! Things have made a lot more sense since then!
My husband and I have ADHD. We were diagnosed in our 40s. Somehow we went to college, graduated from our respective PhD programs, got married and had kids. I'm pretty sure our kids also have ADHD but they haven't been formally diagnosed. We try to get organized but it's hard, especially when we all get distracted with the house chores.😅
“I’m awful with money but hey I’m funny” that was the best line fight me
That´s me! :D
You guys know ADHD stands for Attention Deficit Hyperactivity dis- oo a butterfly
Square up
Same here for me that's true
hahahaha thought that was on being a leo
I just showed this to my 10 year old daughter with ADHD. She laughed so hard and really recognized herself. Then we had a good talk about brains and how they have different superpowers and need different kinds of support. She just skipped off smiling and clearly feeling better about herself. Thank you SO MUCH for making this one!
❤
you’re an amazing mom💗
❤️you are the best mum ever❤️
I attempted to do the same thing with my 8 year old daughter. She listened to the song, said "yea, I liked it", but can I have one of my rainbow sugar strings?". Then she walked off. 😖
How to adhd youtube channel is really cool especially for female adhd
I always find these songs funny, but when he posted this I was just expecting a "haha, look at the embarassing/hard stuff about having ADHD." Instead I got this wonderful song APPRECIATING both the challenges and virtues of ADHD, and even explaining ADHD in a very effective metaphor. I felt seen in a way that I rarely do.
I think this song needs to blow up, so please give it a watch and a like and share it with others, especially if you have any friends with ADHD.
Blessed if you have someone to do a list and dance with. You got it made …..
:D
ADHD FOR LIFE!!!!!!! (I also have autism)
@@ravenstone366 my brother and I were diagnosed ADHD at age 6, but not Autistic until 21. Back then ADD (we hadn't added the H yet) wasn't really well known, so we just thought it meant we had a problem paying attention without medication. That it was something we could overcome, or grow out of. I think this mentality really messed me up in subtle ways, as I have problems thinking of myself as truly having different mental processes, and I have to overcome a kneejerk reaction that I'm cheating or abusing the system if I take advantage of systems that are designed to help me out.
I'm much better at it now, but if I had been less self-stygmatizing in college, I probable would have done better.
My bro has ADHD, which by the way Penn did a song about the totally true topic: THATS A TERRIBLE NAME!!
I love how his wife just looks confused yet the "I'm not even gonna ask" face the entire time🤣
🤣😂🤣😂🤣🤣😂
For the last 21 years I thought my brain was broken. My parents constantly asked what was wrong with me. I told them that I think my brain work differently than other people. They rolled their eyes at me... after hearing myself throughout this entire song, this is the least alone I’ve ever felt. Thank you.
❤️
I relate to you on a different level rn. I’ve always known I have something different, I know I have to be nuerodivergent, I just know, and I think i have adhd but I haven’t gotten a proper diagnosis yet
@@ImzadiHollis You're not alone. I'm going through the same problem.
Just diagnosed at 40 female with Aspergers and ADHD Inattentive
Yeah, can relate in a way, I'm awfully forgetful and tend to get bored easily (so yeah, ADHD). I'm currently untreated and my father thinks my forgetfulness is because I'm immature.
Our ADHD brains are “on” or “off.” It doesn’t get more accurate than that.
Yeah after watching this I was like “this is pretty accurate...”
Yeah - but mostly ON
Yep 100%
What adhd
What is adhd
Absolutely! ADHD is a super power. Thank you both so much. I work with young children with ADHD and I always tell a parent their child is one of the smartest and most creative children because they may not be focused on what everyone thinks they should be focused on; their focus is on something higher and not even thought of yet. Point proven with this video. You described persons with ADHD better than any else.
Ohh I think this is my favorite comment yet! True true true true true!!!🎉
Dyslexia is strong in my family. I've always told my kids that it's like the Force. "Neurotypical" is a box that a lot of us don't fit in, thankfully. Thanks for sharing!
I mean, dyslexia is sometimes hereditary, it makes you move letters when you write and some people dislike it when someone has it so... I guess it's a nice comparison 😊
Does neurotypical exist? I think it may be like bigfoot.
@@keylimepython641 yeah they do-
My daughter and I cried together as she saw Penn championing how her brain works. Two days ago we cried together because she thought she hated her brain. Thank you!
Please tell her she can conquer the world with all the imagination and creativity we have. She just needs to figure out how she learns and stick to it and always defend what is best for her, I won’t say is easy, but is possible. Use the superpowers!!
Gosh I feel that so hard. I’m in engineering school and I still cry because I think I hate my brain. Then I go watch this video for the 23rd time 🙂
This^ is why I think this song is fantastic.
This actually brought me to tears 🧡 I don't think I've ever seen ADHD celebrated this enthusiastically on a platform that doesn't necessarily focus on neurodivergence - we love to see it! Thank you for breaking the stigma and educating folks in such a fun and entertaining way 🧡
ME TOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!! BAWLING!
Seriously this was an emotional thing to come across.
also tears.
Me too!!!!!!!!
@@vicjay1139 its a disorder
I am a teacher and have a student who used to be so down on herself because of her ADHD.
Along with alot of other support, she saw this video and said she almost cried bc someone understood her and she felt so awesome with her ADHD super power.
Thank you, Penn and Kim.
You have done so much good for so many, especially a little girl who no longer hates herself.
❤️
I'm 37 an artist and just discovered I have ADHD last year. It was real relief for me cause I always thought I'm the broken person in my family and I was constantly judged by the ppl around me. After I told them my condition my family officially claimed I'm lying. I gave up communicate with them and I found your song and this gives me the greatest comfort I have so far. Thank you
Man hats off to you. I’m trying to be an artist but it’s hard for me to concentrate on learning it, it’s so annoying. I’m 16 btw
Good for you! My family supposedly accepted my ADHD but criticized my impulsivaty so it really is not acceptance.
I was 50 when I was diagnosed it was such a relief.
As a proud ADHD-er and musician I gotta say, this is BRILLIANTLY constructed and performed. He's a talented musician in addition to being really creative. My favorite line "I'm awful with money, but hey I'm funny. Seriously!"
Same
Haha! It's a good reminder! I was just telling a friend how crap it is to have ADHD... But i forgot about the fact I'm crazy and hilarious (amd how fun it is!)!
I too am an ADHD musician and I love the mixing board analogy part.
ADHD is only an issue if you don’t know how to control it. And it’s different from person to person. As someone who has ADHD for me it’s as simple as background noise
Penn’s recorder skills are on point. Oh, look over there....oooh shiny.
SQUIRREL!
I actually learned Under the Sea on the recorder as a kid!! I had a Little Mermaid recorder music book! 😂
@@Dahkie111 COOL!
I still have my Melody Flute (a type of recorder no longer being made) from elementary school... Now maybe I have a reason to dig it out and learn a real tune! Thanks for the inspiration
@@keetrandling4530 yeah I saved mine too, in my memory box. But I have about 50 of them, big ones too, so I don't know where I have it. I'd like to play it though. Even though I dont remember how. I know I'd get so distracted looking for it that I'd forget to eat for 20 hours. :-\
@@theholdernessfamily NO, I see a BEAVER, even though there is no water in my neighborhood. But still.
I've been working with kids with ADHD for years now. Two years ago, I found many,many traits of ADHD in my husband, but to recognize my own traits, I had to turn 31. Now I found this song and it gave the both of us so much more acceptance about how we are. When one of us couldn' t listen or forgot something important or lost their keys again, we now can laugh about it and accept that things just work differently for us. Here in germany, many people still think ADHDers are just children, or that it Just means you can't sit still. I had to read a lot of english stuff to learn about it, but now (thanks to hyperfixation) I love our brains so much. ❤️
Absolutely brilliant! My 10 year old daughter was recently discovered to have ADHD after years of struggling at school academically and not understanding why she struggled with tasks that others find straight forward... Believing she is dumb, no matter how much we told her otherwise. I showed her this video and her entire self confidence has shifted to that of confidence and self-belief - she was able to relate to every point your highlighted. She works hard to achieve what she does, but now understands that there is nothing wrong with her... Thanks to your video, she is happy, positive and self confident. Thanks Holderness Family, PRICELESS! 🙏❤️😊
My daughter has adhd and autism and she heard me listening yo this song and it helped me explain her brain to her in a positive way. Thank you!
So glad to help!
I am the same I have both makes life so much fun much love to your daughter I hope her journey in life is awesome :)
I'm ADHD Asperger's myself. (It's either I can't focus or I'm so focused I forget to eat.)
@@tesswinker2482 I have Asperger's as well.
I have three children on the Spectrum with ADHD, and a husband with ADHD. I *am* the Executive Functioning. :)
Our entire ADHD family loved this!! (Serious extra points for fitting “executive functioning” into both the meter AND rhyme!) Our son is just slightly older than Penn Charles and we’re trying hard to raise him with less stigma than we all experienced. We can’t get enough of your ADHD positivity! Thank you for making our family’s life better!! ❤️
Thanks! The stigma, I think, starts with the name (ADHD).. It's time to change the name
@@theholdernessfamily yep, those 2 D’’s are problematic, even if better than the previous term of “minimal brain dysfunction”. Only question is, how do we get the “differently focused” to agree on an alternative and spread awareness? Brainstorming’s no problem, but it’s hard to imagine the organized grassroots initiative that usually promotes change. We might need some neurotypical allies!
@@theholdernessfamily it's the "D"s that are stigmatizing.
"Deficit" and "Disorder"
How about DYNAMIC and neuroDIVERGENT instead?
@@glowfishin1 I like those two "D's". A lot. Very good.
@@glowfishin1 I like Neurodivergent. That's what I stick with.
I want you to know how much this helped my newly diagnosed little man. He was feeling down about his special brain but you made him laugh and realize how wonderful he is. Thank you!
You guys kill me. You're spot on with humor and kindness.
The next time someone asks me what it’s like to have ADHD, I’m gonna direct them to this video.
I always explain like this. A person's brain has a door that opens and closes as information comes in. My door is always open. ALWAYS!
Yes!! Exactly!!
Agree! The best information-movie I have ever seen!
Same 😂👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
@@snoopygonewilder and it happens to be double doors! lol
I'm with ya
This needs to be shown in every elementary school at least once a year.
Agreed
I disagree. I like the destigmatizing and talking about how the brain is different etc. However I have a big problem with the implication that he doesn't have to try at any of the stuff he isn't good at and that it's OK and he shouldn't be concerned with his wife picking up all the slack and being stressed out. It sends a bad message. I think for adults it's fine. Adults can understand it's an over dramatization and that he doesn't REALLY not care or try but kids won't understand that and will just think that they don't have to be concerned that they are making more work for their loved ones or have to try on the things that are hard for them.
@@Mythinspace Good point, I hadn't thought of that. I still think the benefits would outweigh the consequences, as ADHD affects kids in elementary school, but they don't really need to learn how to be good parents or spouses until college or later hopefully. I'm not saying it wouldn't be a bad influence in that regard, just not influential enough to outweigh the pros.
Fun fact- they showed this video in band for no reason. It was so random. She didn’t even tell us she was turning a video on.
Yes! And it's an adult who's a parent they will know that it won't go away but you can still live a normal life with people who love you
With everything happening in my life, hearing this song made me start tearing up cause I relate to it so much. I’ve struggled with my ADHD my whole life and I’m not finally embracing it and accepting that my adhd makes me who I am and that I should be proud of it
I about died when he said the list was written on hos wrist 😂😂
I am staring at a list now that my wife left taped to my phone o,O.
This song needs to win a Grammy AND a Nobel Peace Prize...
I just got diagnosed with ADHD this week, feels like my whole life suddenly makes sense! Great song as always
Welcome to the club!
You definitely should look into the community around How To ADHD. It has helped me so much ua-cam.com/channels/-nPM1_kSZf91ZGkcgy_95Q.html
I second the How to ADHD community recommendation! I've had my diagnosis for a couple decades and thought I was well adjusted (stigma wise) as well as understood my ADHD. It's been amazing how much I've learned/recognized and grown since discovering this channel and the amazing supportive community surrounding it!
Thanks for the recommendation, I'll check it out 😊
Yup! I got diagnosed at 40! It's never too late! 😁
Well now I know what it feels like to simultaneously tear up w joy of being completely entertained and consumed by the creativity while also tearing up on another level when the “don’t stigmatize it no need to hide it” hits. Thank you❤❤❤❤ U have a very unique way of celebrating our ADHD neurodiversity. I struggle with remembering that so thank you. And thanks for being so brave to put this out there. We need more of this. I’ll use this as a reminder to do better and be kinder to myself and braver for all of us.
I said "I hate my brain..." today talking to my husband about my ADHD and he goes "YOU LISTEN TO THE HOLDERNESS ADHD SONG RIGHT NOW!" and I did. And I feel better. :) THANK YOU PENN!
My 12 year old daughter overhears Penn singing and says, “Oh mom... this song is about me.”😂
Once she becomes a mum, she will realize it's not about her. It's about established gender roles.
Apart from funny, entertaining and creative, people with ADHD can also be empathetic, responsible and caretaking. Unless they're taught they don't have to.
Many women with ADHD who I know struggle harder with making a relationship last to the point of marriage because they struggle with all the things that the husband in this vid struggles with, without the forgiveness a man would usually get for it. I'm a 31 year old woman with ADHD who isn't straight (being asexual complicates why I'm not married) who lives my dad and my dad likely has ADHD too but his seems a lot more managed or milder etc and so he'll be nagging me or annoyed with me for almost all the things the wife is annoyed with the man for in this video - my dad's not super organized in every respect ever but he wishes I wouldn't let dishes pile up or leave my dirty tissues all over my desk and sometimes just gives up and does the dishes for me, would love it if I could more easily help with things like mowing the lawn, but I'm usually procrastinating like crazy on helping with that, etc etc. So while he's a man and I'm a woman, and we're not a married couple, we still kinda end up being an example of reversing what is typically expected given gender roles.
I'm working on learning how to be better at all the adulting tasks and chores and am pretty new to understanding how my ADHD affects me.
I highly recommend René Brooks of Black Girl Lost Keys book on learning how to do cleaning type chores while having ADHD - and she's helping validate for all of us adult women with ADHD how much we're often just like this man in this video.
That’s how I am with everything I read about adhd! (Diagnosed at 43 😱) I can’t wait to share this with my 6yr old when she gets a little older...I know that she and I are wired the same..so when the time comes for an actual diagnosis, this song will be perfect! Of course, she will be hearing me sing it all of the time now...so might be just best to have her watch it with me! 😂😂 lol
@@KassianiDimitriadou what are you talking about? The cookie cutter comment isn't any better the second time you used it. It wasn't about gender roles. It was about the fact that the chores and monotony aren't important to him. They were to her. A woman with ADHD would be in literally the same boat with the roles reversed.
As a teacher, I love this song. All my students "suffering" from ADHD need to know how amazing they are and just have brains that work in a different way.
how do you help them tho?
Thank you! I’ve been lucky enough to have enough chill teachers that the problem ones are bearable, but I know many other kinds are t as fortunate. Just let them fidget, and above all, don’t get angry with them for asking the same question half a dozen times. We really do zone out, and getting negative feed back in response to questions will just make us less likely to ask them in the future.
@thesmilingknight4982 I can't speak for the original poster, but for my adhd kids and adults... I have common instructions posted everywhere. I repeat common instructions everytime rather than assume they will remember it no matter how many times I have said it
When I say common instructions I mean everything from basic write your first name and last name on the back of your paper and we are class 6b2, why because you are 6th grade, b day, 2nd encore. (I know my school's scheduling system is ridiculous but that is not under my control) to please place all supplies back in the bin (and I supply a laminated photo of what the bin should look like).
I have a chill out corner when over stimulated and need to just look out the window and be left alone and a crazy cow corner when you need to jump around in the middle of class to get your hype on.
Yknow. It isn't all bad and it doesn't make us failures BUT being "different" in our society can cause very real suffering. So please remove those quotation marks, it's insulting.
@@Someone-dv7hw yeah, but I think she meant it as the condition itself causing suffering, not the very real effects causing suffering. I agree with you, but I don’t think it was intentional.
I have never been tested but all of this is exactly how I am 🤣
It is a joy to watch and made me smile and giggle so much! Thank you! 😃
I've always felt like an idiot in school, and always felt like i wasnt good enough and that i should just drop out. This song has really helped me come to terms with my ADHD.
When i found out that i had it, i felt like a burden. I felt like my friends had to deal with me and that they were only my friends because they felt bad for me. Ive really started to embrace my ADHD, and I've been a lot happier. Thank you so much for giving me this song to help me even more.
To lighten the mood, i was on a walk when i was listening to this and when he said
"Hey, whats in that tree?"
I stopped walking and looked at the tree that i had just passed. It took me a bit to realize that it was a part of the song, and not someone saying it to me.
When he accidentally erased it... I felt that
Me, too!!!
Then you have to click ‘Undo’
And for the first time in nearly a year it's not a song about how to cope with the pandemic! We're coming back, folks! Normal is coming back!
Haha yeah felt nice to do something a lil different...
Because we’re adapting
Yes finally I was getting bored of those songs anyway
Too bad there's new covid strains 😑
Get vaccinated people cause it's gonna get worse before it gets better
Thankfully!
I love this video!! Watched it like 20+ times in row. As a 30 year old with ADHD it's nice to see other adults with it. Also love the fact that you make it less of a negative thing. Thank you for this!! ❤
The single most accurate description of ADHD/ADD I've heard so far.
"I make it a point to let people talk." Hahahaha. From one person with ADHD to another. Yup. :D
Yup!
I try, but it's hard!
Both my teen son and I have adhd.
My son has been obsessing over his hair for the past two weeks. He goes on for hours about it.....even when I had a migraine. I understand totally. It’s hard though
@@Si-Toecutter, I just realized I still had the song going through my head reading these. I'm not ADHD.
@Kevin Anderson The HYPER makes all the difference...
I have watched this one so many times- it’s like a voice saying : “ see? You are okay. You’re not a mess”..... this even brings tears to me eyes... thanks once again Holderness family!!!!!❤️
I cried watching this too
I'm not crying... much... okay, yeah, quite a bit actually...
This phrase did the same to me !!
This was the best parody you have written, Penn. So entertaining but so poignant at the same time.
I'm 21 and I finally discovered that I have ADHD because of this song!
Thanks for your work！
This song actually made me cry. My husband and both sons have different forms of ADHD. There are definitely pros and cons, just like with anything else. But your awareness and appreciation for it definitely help to destigmatize it. Thanks for writing this! I’ll be sharing it for sure.
Me too hun. Tears!
I didn't know there are different kinds of ADHD. Don't worry about getting emotional. This year has been tough on everyone. I use one of their videos, "I'm Doing The Best I Can" to tell myself I'm handling this OK. There's only once it didn't work. A few hours later, it did. Look up that video.
Me too!
Alternate Title: “An Explanation of ADHD For People With ADHD”
Alternative title "Masking gender roles under an irrelevant diagnosis"
Do ADHD wives have similar experiences? Do their husbands do all the chores and mental/emotional labour?
@@KassianiDimitriadou i think it really matters on the person, its just that in some families the husband does most of the chores, and some the opposite and some just both. I feel like this song really makes me happy and feel good about my adhd. I agree that its a little bit blaming adhd for not even trying- but honestly I can be very hard sometimes to think out every detail (right?). and pretty sure in some families the other person (if there is one) won't do everything and clean up after them.
btw I am not arguing, this is just my opinion
not trying to be rude! thank you have a great day
@@KassianiDimitriadou Many women with ADHD who I know struggle harder with making a relationship last to the point of marriage because they struggle with all the things that the husband in this vid struggles with, without the forgiveness a man would usually get for it. I'm a 31 year old woman with ADHD who isn't straight (being asexual complicates why I'm not married) who lives my dad and my dad likely has ADHD too but his seems a lot more managed or milder etc and so he'll be nagging me or annoyed with me for almost all the things the wife is annoyed with the man for in this video - my dad's not super organized in every respect ever but he wishes I wouldn't let dishes pile up or leave my dirty tissues all over my desk and sometimes just gives up and does the dishes for me, would love it if I could more easily help with things like mowing the lawn, but I'm usually procrastinating like crazy on helping with that, etc etc. So while he's a man and I'm a woman, and we're not a married couple, we still kinda end up being an example of reversing what is typically expected given gender roles.
I'm working on learning how to be better at all the adulting tasks and chores and am pretty new to understanding how my ADHD affects me.
I highly recommend René Brooks of Black Girl Lost Keys book on learning how to do cleaning type chores while having ADHD - and she's helping validate for all of us adult women with ADHD how much we're often just like this man in this video.
@@iloveeeeeecats He's trying though... his wife gives him a list of things to do and then he does them; he lives by the list and even asks for them.
@@jerryharris876 exactly, i feel like there isn't a problem. people are getting so mad and for whatt
watched this and suddenly realised I actually need to get tested ASAP! My daighter also displays character traits and is getting assessed as we speak! Thank you for this! Thank you so much
I watch How to ADHD channel on UA-cam and it helps to understand what ADHD really is and has ideas & tips on ways to make life easier!
Just showed this to my ADHD kid and she was glowing! Thank you so much. I even had a tear in my eye as I saw her laughing, smiling, and connecting with this video.
My son has ADHD and autism and this songs sums up how perfect we all our no matter what differences we have 😍❤️ love u guys and thanks for all ur hard work xx
ADHD*
Hope they end up ok
Exactly! Neurodiversity is a good thing! People have different gifts, and we should appreciate them in ourselves and others.
Penn really thinks ADHD is his superpower! Love to your son.
@@theholdernessfamily it sure is 👌😍❤️
My partner has it and let me tell you, the first 6 years of our marriage were ... not good. It took a lot of working together to make our next 3 years amazing and I want to make sure Kim gets the credit she deserves for working with Penn to know what needs to be done and stepping up when it comes to certain tasks! I love your whole family and can't wait to see what 2021 brings you!
Honestly... one of the very few disadvantages to being single, in my mind, is not having a spouse to help me keep my sh!t together some days.
Oh yes, such an amazing example of how a couple can complement each other in their differing areas of strengths, and make it work so well!
I'm married almost 13 years and my husband still has no idea what to do with me...
I need advice because I am frustrated and becoming exhausted
I have been married 30 years. I was only diagnosed 4 months ago. My husband is a Saint for putting up with me all these years. Especially as I have RSD aswell and was misdiagnosed for 30 years with anxiety and depression 🙃
Just watched this again - I absolutely love this song. My nephew has severe ADHD and I surely hope he finds his place in the world. This song really makes it relatable and easy to understand. Thank you guys so much!
Thank you so much for this intelligent and amazing entertainment!
I bet he can spend HOURS ON END writing his songs. But 1 hour of balancing his bank account feels like an unending agony (with frequent breaks for food, drink and to go to the bathroom)!
Ehum...feeling called out here!
I was thinking the same about getting the Paperwork ready for Taxes. The last receipts I am getting, hopefully, are in the mail next week. Then I can send everything in and let someone ELSE figure it out.
I can spend hours writing poetry/doing other creative things. But figuring out the grocery list each week - I hate that. Paying the bills each month - I hate that. Filing income taxes each year - that is the BIG BAD. LOL I do all of those things but it's slowly murdering my soul LOL
Yeah. It's so bad that I KNOW I have lost rebates etc bc I put the SNAIL in reading most mail. Or worse, I try to reform and do it better than ever and fall down the (almost) OCD like/ over organize so that I won't fall into bad habits. Then you fund yourself color coding highlighters you wind up never using...
Anyone else fall in this trap?
This guy's lucky he has a "farmer " wife (ie ADHD has hunter mentality and non ADHD has farmer mentality... great match/ lucky to find / very complementary but most times ADHD are attracted to other ADHD)
If anyone is curious about the hunter/farmer theory it is quite intriguing/feels very much like its a how to guide to understanding how ADHD is so prevalent in our society. Great book.. "adhd, a different perspective"
You guys made something really special and important. My 12-year-old's face when he heard this and recognized himself was priceless. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
“Terrible at money but hey I’m funny” 😂😂😂
Thank you for writing the anthem of ADHD, my good sir! This HAS to be one of my favorite parodies of yours!
We say...ooh a butterfly! 'Diagnosed' my daughter in 3rd grade, she's currently in 7th. She is extremely creative... She can play the piano and recorder at the same time as well! After diagnosing my daughter, I realized this is also why my husband needs lists from me and yet can remember numbers and details of things I don't even notice and can be hyper focused on tinkering with mechanical things... Makes so much more sense now!
This ADHD elementary music teacher is squealing and laughing so hard! 🤣🤣
I am an ADHD music business owner, performer, teacher, and college music professor. I was on the floor crying I was laughing so hard!
I’ve always thought my ADHD was a superpower. Vindicating to know I was rIght!! 🤣
Bravo! We need more of this kind of thinking! Destigmatize it! Love it!
Pretty sure this is the most catchy song I have ever heard
Hahah most Disney songs are
@@theholdernessfamily They're made to be ear-worms, that's for sure! XD
ADHD ADHD 😁
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Disney is cancel culture now...did you not get woke ?
The line “my phone’s in the fridge” hits close to home. 😭😭😭🤣
My oldest child, now 33 and a research professor in a University, was diagnosed with ADHD, anxiety and depression. I also have ADHD with anxiety. I told him, "Chris, once you are able to understand yourself, figure out how to get things that are necessary accomplished, you will be a "SUPER POWERFUL PERSON". He proved me right. He has a great social life, he is very understanding, and earned his PhD at 24, without ever getting, or asking for any "extra" help from any school.
My daughter watched this video this morning and she said, "I'm glad I'm an ADHD kid and you are so funny!" Thanks guys!
"I make it a point to let people talk." Yeah, that one took me till I was a teenager.
I never thought about my messiness being related to my ADHD, but I definitely have come to the conclusion that it is a superpower.
I'm 42 and I still am reminded to let others talk and not talk so much myself! My Mom, to this day will tell me, "Take the quarter out, Kristi!" Or "Who put a quarter in you?!"
@@MINGIRL1979 that's so cute, I like that!
ADHD person here. The song, including its chaotic but fun melody, describes me to a T. Thanks for putting this humorous - and accurate - perspective out there! Made me feel better about myself. And educates others. Big win here.
Stfu
Hello Brains!! Love this so much. All of my ADHDers will understand when I say I’m not sure how I got to this from whatever I was originally searching 😁 but hey we are all in this together! Embrace your brilliance and best wishes for 2023🎉
I absolutely love this. I have ADHD and I love how this highlights all the wonderful things about having ADHD. All my life I was told all these lies about it and I was made to feel stupid for having it. I’m so glad that there are videos like this now to encourage and lift up those with ADHD. 😁
as a 22 year old untreated guy with adhd , this made me emotional in amazing ways. thank you for not only the quality content, but sharing your story. amazing
I have ADHD and I find this hilarious. I have this, but it doesn't have .me!
EXACTLY!
I've never related so hard to a song in my life. Thank you for this incredible piece you've shared to the world!
As an Asperger and with one of my BFFs being ADHD I feel that you rock.
LOVE THIS!!!! 😂 I’ve always held with the belief that ADHD is simply a brilliant mind being expected to conform to average standards.
Yes!!
YES!
Especially with people nowadays. If anyone is above average at all, they are considered extremely special. But most of us don’t want to be lifted above others.
I’ve always thought the same!!!
And it was thought ‘bad’ to doodle notes instead of writing words.
My mom (God love her) and my teachers always called me a scatter brain and a day dreamer ...... still to this day I will start a project and then find the next thing more interesting ...... there are a few "things" that I can get into and stay with because of the fascination of the task and the thrill I get from completion and the final product ..... I wish I had this song to sing to them when I was growing up and struggling with life (50's, 60's and still to this day) ...... thank you, thank you, THANK YOU! You're song really cleared up a lot of questions for me ..... here I had been living under the umbrella of educators all along telling me that I was just a mediocre student and no one bothering to try to help me find out why. Again, thank you, thank you, thank you. Now, the question is, where can I get the sheet music? :0D
This song helped me finally realize why my daughter has a messy room and gets anxious about tests, but is super creative and enjoys making things. She feels so much better about herself now that she understands why her brain is quirky and how she can make those quirks work in her favour. Thank you so much, Holderness family!
Lovely! Had my daughter watch this with me and she had the biggest smile watching your adhd songs. She had a brain bleed when she was little and has many executive functioning issues that have started to impact relationships as a ten year old…it has been tough but this cheered our whole family up!
Will be asking for your latest book to read through with my sweet ten year old who is most definitely a spontaneous creative tinker-er. I always remind her that she has amazing ideas BECAUSE she can think outside the “norm”. Thanks from the Brunson fam to the Holderness fam. We needed a pick-me-up and this was definitely it!
Yes!!! My husband, who is very successful at his job, struggles with ADHD and wasn’t diagnosed until we were married. I, on the other hand, and very organized and struggle with anxiety. I relate SO MUCH to your videos! I love that you are destigmatizing ADHD with all of your work, but especially this song and “Down with ADD.” Thank you!!
The lawn it needs mowin’ but I’ll keep going; they changed the key! 🤣🤣🤣
This is my favorite line!!!
Oh my gosh! 🤩 I love this song and video!!! 🤣 It had me laughing and listening to see what each new line would talk about! I do the same thing with my Asperger's using my ability to put 100% of my focus into stuff down to the point that i've analyzed every little thing that happens inside my body when I swallow air into my gut to make burps. How to shift and shape my tongue, checks & lips while whistling to make different types of whistling sounds, pitches and frequencies. 😅 I might have a ton of faults and bad points from my ab-normal way of thinking, but it lets me figure some stuff out that even a super computer would be hard pressed to come up with. 😎
I love this for many reasons, but most of all for how much it reminds me of my eldest grandson, now 19. So good. You’re such a great role model for ADHD folks because you have clearly worked out how to make it work to your advantage, and for the benefit of all who watch your productions, which clearly require a great degree of focus in the midst of the distractions. Kudos!
"I need to finish what I sing..." made me laugh out loud! That's really me! Sometimes my son walks in to tell me something, but then he has to wait until I finish the sentence I was singing :-)
Yup. Music is always on in my brain
As a middle school teacher, I want to share this with everyone. So many times I have students who use their ADHD diagnosis only as an excuse for poor behavior while ignoring the ways they could leverage it to excel.
Kudos to Penn and the Holderness family for your efforts to destigmatize the condition.
When my oldest son was diagnosed with ADD in the 2nd grade his doctor sat him down and told him flat out that this diagnosis was a reason-NOT an excuse! If he didn't do his work,or if he misbehaved it was on him and NOT his ADD!! It helped that our pediatrician has ADHD himself and is the doctor who does teacher workshops across our state.
@@bethfarrar4803 This is what I try to get through to my son. We'll help you buy you have to work at it too and I recognize that you are doing more work here than other kids are. But other kids have to do more work in other ways that come easily to you.
As a pediatrician (and former middle-schooler ... and current adult... with ADHD), I know that not all teachers understand ADHD enough to be comfortable allowing students the freedom to demonstrate their knowledge and skills in a way that allows students to leverage their ADHD to be an asset, so thank you for facilitating this for your students!
Agreed!
As a Doctor of Audiology, I can say that college and grad school almost didn’t happen for me, due to difficulty applying myself the way school expected. I experienced teachers who labeled me as a problem or someone who “didn’t take academics seriously” and others who identified my unique way of learning 30+ years before a diagnosis. I used to think I just didn’t have it in me, watching in amazement as other kids just did their work quietly. If it weren’t for those teachers who found ways to help me do things differently, I wouldn’t have believed I could go to graduate school or become the success I am today. Thank you!!!
I love this. I have been medically diagnosed with ADHD since the age of 5 and everything is spot on
Needed this today. An article came out yesterday here in the Netherlands where GP's add to the stigma in my opinion, unintentionally. Apparently 75% of them are of the opinion that medication is given to quickly and that teachers and parents push them too much and that their main reason is to make the kids more as the norm and that the norm is wrong, kids should have more freedom to move around and act like kids and that schools need to do more to facilitate learning in a way that fits the way kids brains work.
While I agree to a certain point, it's even one of Penn's points in another song, but in the article they mainly focus on the hyperactivity part and only the physical unrest. There is hardly any research mentioned and no word about inner unrest, the toll of masking and compensating for the attention regulation part. The strain on their mental health and energy levels, which in turn can give tension in the home environment or in social interaction with peers.
I think: okay good point about the school system, but until we arrive at that point I am so glad that medication is available as a tool to make life more easy for the kids (and not mainly for the parents as the article suggest. Like it's easy for parents to make the ethical decision in the first place ...). And even when the system changes, society as a whole will go much slower and there will always be a group left where the symptoms are so severe or detrimental that even if the environment is as supportive as can be, it's still very taxing internally for them. ❤
Also this article can make adult ADHDers think that they apparently don't have a real problem and just need to try harder (which grew into a problem of its own). And put guilt on concerned parents that they are looking for an easy fix, don't appreciate their child, are bad at parenting because they don't give kids the space to be themselves. While in many cases the put themselves out there with the risk of being judged and stigmatised. In spite of that they follow through, for their kids sake, so that medication can help kids to return to being themselves instead of feeling overstimulated/uncertain/like they don't fit in/like a failure most of the time. At least that's the experience I see with my kids, myself and what I hear from professionals all the time.
Thank you for this. My ADHD has often made me feel like crap but seeing other people loving life with it makes me think there's hope.
Same brotha 😂🤝
Same here bros
Teacher here: The truest but also sadest part is, how he deleted the recording, he worked so hard for.
I made a project in school that was all about how everything that could go wrong with my project did go wrong ... before i made it and basically pre-predicted everything that would go wrong. Down to the video struggling to play, i was laughing so hard cause i knew thats what the video was about. Looking back, i called it The Project but i should have called it Turns Out I Have ADHD. The content wouldnt change, but its weird to look back at what i thought was just inevitable school chaos and is actually ... me being chaotic and aware of it enough to recreate it preemptively.
Yes. Sometimes we work 2x, 3x, 4x harder than neurotypicals to do the same damned thing. It's exhausting sometimes.
I'm still crying here at work... hard to write. Years of being yelled at by teachers. In and out of principals offices, detention, being kicked out school, going to jail, in and out of courts. Parents shaming me, punishing me, medicating me. Judges, lawyers, principals, parents, Employers not trusting, and worrying, or being suspicious of me. It all just came flooding up to the surface all at once. I was never right. Terrible at soccer, spelling, cleaning, even talking. People thought I was weird, or odd, or dumb. Always being yelled at, or made fun of, or talked about behind our backs. The years and years of feeling like there is something wrong with me. Finally, someone was able to put it into perspective. Thank you Thank you Thank you!
You cannot argue with the creativity of people with ADHD after watching this video!! Agree with other comments about showing it in school. Have shared the link with my son, staff at his school and a friend who is a SENCO. I can see that a lot of work went into this. It was worth it!!! Thank you.
Neurodiverse brains FTW! I might forget why I walked into the room, but you better believe I can create pretty much anything out of nothing.
haha I NEVER REMEMBER WHY I WALKED INTO THE ROOM
@@theholdernessfamily, How many times have you tried to find a pen and realized it was in your hand for ten minutes? Or Put your Glasses on, so you can find your glasses?
Exactly!! Well said! 😊
I can never remember why I walk into a room either!! Back and forth back and forth. Oh but I don't have the creative tinkering, and making things out of thin air, that you ADHDers have. I've witnessed it, especially in adults, and its amazing!
@@theholdernessfamily It's a running joke that I take my water bottle into the bathroom and then forget to fill it or bring it back to wherever I was--often several times a day. But I get in more steps than most people I know! 🤣I also agree about (real) walking and exercise--that's my "secret." Thank you again so much for this 🙏🏻
This is one of the best ways to encourage people's self-acceptance! No one is here for no reason. Everyone has a gift to give the world.
I am almost 17 and I have ADHD and this video made me feel so good. Thanks so much.
I just got diagnosed with ADHD today after being suspicious of having it for a while and now this is my official anthem. "I have to finish what I sing, because of my executive functioning!"
See “how to ADHD” channel on UA-cam. Helped me figure out how to live better with my ADHD.
I just went back on adderall for ADD (literally 40 minutes ago) and I was feeling pretty down about it, like I'd failed at being an adult. This song made me laugh and feel very seen as person. Thank you!
no shame in any of it!
you did not fail at being an adult! I know that feeling so well. I felt the same for years. but you did not fail. doing what is best for you and taking care of yourself is a win! and a very adult thing in my opinion :)
I guess it's a matter of perspective.
Avril Levine has ADD; takes adderall and does not think it a failure. In fact; she is quite successful.
Taking medicine for a condition like ADD when you need medicine is not a failure.
Not taking medicine for a condition like ADD when you need medicine is a failure.
I was in the same boat awhile ago. This video helped ua-cam.com/video/QdFw10TwLFY/v-deo.html
You aren't failing at all, just taking a different route :D If it makes you feel any better I just found out I have Ankylosing spondylitis, which explains all the fun pain I've been having for a long time. Imagine having ADD and then being too tired and in pain. I have been called scatterbrained and lazy in the same breath, but hey! Now I know :D P.S. Knowing is half the battle according to my Hubby and G.I. Joe xD
Thank you so much for this song! My 9 year old was recently diagnosed with ADHD. She has been scared and has been saying there is something wrong with her. She has also been beating herself up about a lot of things regarding her ADHD. It has not mattered how much I encourage her and tell her that she is ok and is going to do great things. She keeps thinking there is something wrong with her. She also read somewhere that people with ADHD have a shorter life span. She loves to research things. I showed her this video and and I could visibly see a spark in her eye. I might have a road to go down to help her get her confidence back, but this video will help both of us stay strong. Thank you, thank you, thank you, a million times over thank you! ❤🧡💛💚💙💜🤎🖤
I am most confident that people with ADHD having a shorter life span is something that can be avoided if our ADHD is more well managed. It's harder for us to drive safely, to schedule a doctor's appointment for a regular checkup or even to stop procrastinating on checking out a concerning symptom, we can be more prone to addiction because of self-medication if we aren't on a good med regimen that works for us, we can also be more prone to Binge Eating Disorder and that can lead to all the shorter lifespan issues that can with obesity and again meds often super help curb the impulse to eat, we sometimes just hyperfocus on hobbies or work to the exclusion of exercising even if we otherwise would regularly do it and also to the exclusion of sleeping enough (almost all people with ADHD struggle with going to bed instead of staying up too late because they don't want to stop what they're doing at night). Sleep is such a key for a longer lifespan. Also just procrastinating indefinitely on hard life changes that are in the important but not urgent box in our life like improving our diet or starting an exercise routine. But if we can figure out managing all this stuff i don't think we'd have a shorter life expectancy.
I self-diagnosed myself in 2021 and finally got officially diagnosed at the end of 2022! I was always told that I'm creative and "energetic" and embraced that, but then people didn't understand why I couldn't be organized with things like cleaning and money. It's been so freeing to finally have a name to put to how my brain works to explain it to others!
I have ADHD this made me happy fun fact.
My mom saw this on Facebook so she showed me this 😂😂