Professor Vaknin Could you make a video explaining the differences between a covert borderline and a borderline narcissist? Your knowledge is invaluable.
I am a ridiculous man. Now they call me a madman. That would be a promotion if it were not that I remain as ridiculous in their eyes as before. But now I do not resent it, they are all dear to me now, even when they laugh at me - and, indeed, it is just then that they are particularly dear to me. I could join in their laughter--not exactly at myself, but through affection for them, if I did not feel so sad as I look at them. Sad because they do not know the truth and I do know it. Oh, how hard it is to be the only one who knows the truth! But they won't understand that. No, they won't understand it.
This subject is so interesting. I would ike to study it further. I would not have discovered it if I had not had first hand experience with a narcissistic person.
Emotionally, being ghosted triggers feelings of vulnerability, doubt, and lowered self-worth. At a physiological level, ghosting depletes neurotransmitters, activates abandonment and rejection wounds, activates a systemic experience of loss, and activates the same neuropathways as physical pain (Krossa et al., 2011). To ghost someone is to make an intentional, self-centered decision to leave a situation in a manner that inflicts trauma and shame while leaving the recipient without a voice.🤨 In this way, ghosting is an act of Narcissism. It is an act of discarding another, without empathy, completely ignoring the other person’s feelings or needs. Further, ghosting precludes an acknowledgment that the goodbye is what the ghosting person wants, blaming it instead on circumstances or the other person. It inherently distorts reality, allowing the ghoster to deny all responsibility for their behavior.
A real reality check. Is this process the same for codependants too? Is the saviour complex a form of codependance? Is codependance a form of inverted narcisizm? If codependance is a form of narcisizm, what is the reason, that it can be cured and narcisizm can not? Because of feeling “i’m broken, other is good?”
Professor Sam vaknin, please could you tell me, is it possible for someone to have bipolar disorder and also be a narcissist? They show traits of narcissism when not having a manic episode. Grandiose behaviour Can't be wrong Can't show emotions Aggressive behaviour... Thank you ❤
Is there any overlap between the euphoria experienced by BPD individuals upon separating/individuating and that that might be experienced by individuals with NPD? Would there even be such a thing in BPD cases?
This is my only semi-educated perspective, but in addition to uni acquired knowledge I am bringing my personal experience. Multiple personalities is now called dissociative identity disorder, and it is the result of repeated traumatic injuries (abuse) and/or neglect at a very young age - before the selves integrate into one personality. This treatment of a small child can also result in narcissist personality disorder. My understanding of the difference between them is that the individual with DID (mpd) had empathy aplenty and so that many of behaviors that are exhibited by someone with npd would be morally repugnant to one with did. We feel pain acutely and don't want to be the cause, though we are not God's and shit happens. DID person would be more likely to exhaust themselves trying to help those they love who are in pain. Also did persons have a full range of emotional experience and see other humans as other humans with all the possible potential for thoughts and emotions of themselves. I have been quite shocked to learn how similar they are in terms of splitting, shame, perception of low of self worth, hypervigelance and more. *I know, I'm not The Professor, but I am thinking that you have asked because you wanted a place to start in understanding the answer and my guess is that's he's a pretty busy dude. He may come in shred me for daring to respond but maybe not - maybe instead he could fill in some of the blanks where I didn't and help us both to learn more?
@@samvaknin I understood that about childhood. What I still don't understand is: how can all narcissists know the same manipulations? What is the mechanism so that every child, no matter where on earth, develops the same tactics when it needs to survive?
If one is perceived feeling euphoric, is a narcissist emulating positive emotions but internally they are completely the opposite? They can never ever experience positive emotions?
@@samvaknin That must be exhausting. If it could be emulated, what would a narcissist utopia be ? Would it be a constant replay of separation from one’s mother?
Thank You for valuable teaching ! ❤
I'm a Brazilian woman and I trully appreciate your videos ! Now in portuguese even easier to spread a good knowledge.
Me too, i love this news.
Professor Vaknin
Could you make a video explaining the differences between a covert borderline and a borderline narcissist?
Your knowledge is invaluable.
I agree!! Would really appreciate some deeper insight
borderlines hate themselves and search in in others what they dont have, narcicists hate themselves and others even more.
Thank you Dr Vaknin. You are a wealth of valuable information in surviving a narcissist experience.
Merci beaucoup professeur, j'ai repris ma vie en mains grâce à vous .choukran bezaf
Incredibly helpful! Now it all makes sense.
Perfect Explanation
I am a ridiculous man. Now they call me a madman. That would be a promotion if it were not that I remain as ridiculous in their eyes as before. But now I do not resent it, they are all dear to me now, even when they laugh at me - and, indeed, it is just then that they are particularly dear to me. I could join in their laughter--not exactly at myself, but through affection for them, if I did not feel so sad as I look at them. Sad because they do not know the truth and I do know it. Oh, how hard it is to be the only one who knows the truth! But they
won't understand that. No, they won't understand it.
Is this from a book? If so, which?
@@blanketstatementsmusic1850 The Dream of a Ridiculous Man, its a short story by Fyodor Dostoevsky.
This subject is so interesting. I would ike to study it further. I would not have discovered it if I had not had first hand experience with a narcissistic person.
These lifeforms are extremely dangerous
Use extreme care and avoid contact
A ounce of prevention is worth a pound of therapy
Emotionally, being ghosted triggers feelings of vulnerability, doubt, and lowered self-worth. At a physiological level, ghosting depletes neurotransmitters, activates abandonment and rejection wounds, activates a systemic experience of loss, and activates the same neuropathways as physical pain (Krossa et al., 2011). To ghost someone is to make an intentional, self-centered decision to leave a situation in a manner that inflicts trauma and shame while leaving the recipient without a voice.🤨 In this way, ghosting is an act of Narcissism. It is an act of discarding another, without empathy, completely ignoring the other person’s feelings or needs. Further, ghosting precludes an acknowledgment that the goodbye is what the ghosting person wants, blaming it instead on circumstances or the other person. It inherently distorts reality, allowing the ghoster to deny all responsibility for their behavior.
Amazing!
This vide was so helpful. Tnx
A real reality check.
Is this process the same for codependants too? Is the saviour complex a form of codependance? Is codependance a form of inverted narcisizm?
If codependance is a form of narcisizm, what is the reason, that it can be cured and narcisizm can not? Because of feeling “i’m broken, other is good?”
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Professor Sam vaknin, please could you tell me, is it possible for someone to have bipolar disorder and also be a narcissist? They show traits of narcissism when not having a manic episode.
Grandiose behaviour
Can't be wrong
Can't show emotions
Aggressive behaviour...
Thank you ❤
Yes. Such comorbidity does occur.
Thank you for your reply.
And thank you for your invaluable knowledge ❤
Is there any overlap between the euphoria experienced by BPD individuals upon separating/individuating and that that might be experienced by individuals with NPD?
Would there even be such a thing in BPD cases?
What is the difference between multiple personality disorder and NPD Professor?
This is my only semi-educated perspective, but in addition to uni acquired knowledge I am bringing my personal experience. Multiple personalities is now called dissociative identity disorder, and it is the result of repeated traumatic injuries (abuse) and/or neglect at a very young age - before the selves integrate into one personality. This treatment of a small child can also result in narcissist personality disorder. My understanding of the difference between them is that the individual with DID (mpd) had empathy aplenty and so that many of behaviors that are exhibited by someone with npd would be morally repugnant to one with did. We feel pain acutely and don't want to be the cause, though we are not God's and shit happens. DID person would be more likely to exhaust themselves trying to help those they love who are in pain. Also did persons have a full range of emotional experience and see other humans as other humans with all the possible potential for thoughts and emotions of themselves. I have been quite shocked to learn how similar they are in terms of splitting, shame, perception of low of self worth, hypervigelance and more. *I know, I'm not The Professor, but I am thinking that you have asked because you wanted a place to start in understanding the answer and my guess is that's he's a pretty busy dude. He may come in shred me for daring to respond but maybe not - maybe instead he could fill in some of the blanks where I didn't and help us both to learn more?
What about violent fantasies in relation to narcissism?
Good afternoon, professor! Mind me asking about link or reference to your channel in Russian? Please
See the list of channels at the bottom of my UA-cam channel’s page.
Where did a narcissist learn manipulation techniques?
S/he had to manipulate to survive their childhood.
@@samvaknin I understood that about childhood. What I still don't understand is: how can all narcissists know the same manipulations? What is the mechanism so that every child, no matter where on earth, develops the same tactics when it needs to survive?
@@Ja.Sam. They all share the same hardware and wetware.
@@samvaknin Dr. Vaknin, thank you! Now things are clear to me. I remember a video, but when I watched it, I didn't fully understand it.
Wondering how you are going Sam? Re health
If one is perceived feeling euphoric, is a narcissist emulating positive emotions but internally they are completely the opposite?
They can never ever experience positive emotions?
Never.
@@samvaknin That must be exhausting.
If it could be emulated, what would a narcissist utopia be ?
Would it be a constant replay of separation from one’s mother?