I just want to genuinely thank you. I’m so lucky to have finally found someone articulate the same situation I went through with an ex so called friend, also in hindsight, highly manipulative, controlling and so on, I won’t bore you with the details lol but your situations about the passive aggression, the insane hint dropping, the trying to own your emotions, the expectation of you to give your emotions to them on command. I felt horrible during and after these micro interactions with him and couldn’t figure out why, I’ve been searching and conducting my own research into his behavior and motivations only to be going around in circles. Until I came past your videos. The catharsis is something I’m deeply grateful for. Thank you for your words, I feel validated and not crazy.
You’re welcome! I’m so happy you found it helpful! I’m so sorry for what you went through. Hopefully you’re able to avoid contact with that person. I dealt with a highly manipulative person a few years ago & ended up ruminating about it for a long time, researching that kind of behavior to try to better understand & avoid similar situations. I eventually addressed it in therapy, which can definitely help. An important thing to keep in mind is not to allow them to continue to hold power over you by ruminating on it too long.
@@Sensory0verlord sage advice. Exactly the same issue, yes, the rumination, it’s like a permanent game of tennis in your mind, i know know i may not have communicated perfectly but in all fairness, no matter the communication, it was never perfect for them because the goalposts always shifted. But you are right, its the rumination, we ruminate on it because we are desperate trying to process and make sense of it but the crazy making prevents that and is such a cruel thing when you already have a blindness to others manipulative motivations. It’s so good you managed to pull through it though.
You hit the nail on the head, as a NT person, I wouldn't take the time to read a blog about this subject, but the video form gets the point across. I am married to a ND partner, and my daughter is also ND. I have learned that I have to make many accommodations quite frequently and will admit that it gets tough, always making accommodations. I start to feel like I have to walk on eggshells all the time. Knowing when to bring up a subject, taking into consideration how they will react, and giving time to process. I'm doing the best I can, but it's not easy on the NT either. Can I suggest you do a video on money management? That's a major issue in our house. I need to be on top of finances all the time, making sure my partner is aware of how much we have or how much we spent. Keep up the great videos.
I imagine it can be difficult frequently making accommodations, but it’s great that you’re making the effort. And thanks to all the NTs out there that do! It doesn’t go unnoticed even if our appreciation isn’t always obvious. Money management communication is a good suggestion, btw. Thanks!
12:44 non verbal communication is so underrated! Totally agree and it’s not difficult to learn the basics that communicate the tells that are crucial to communication clarity and efficiency. Great point. Loving your vids! 🤗💪👍
Thanks for the video
I really relate to this and the part1
I just want to genuinely thank you. I’m so lucky to have finally found someone articulate the same situation I went through with an ex so called friend, also in hindsight, highly manipulative, controlling and so on, I won’t bore you with the details lol but your situations about the passive aggression, the insane hint dropping, the trying to own your emotions, the expectation of you to give your emotions to them on command. I felt horrible during and after these micro interactions with him and couldn’t figure out why, I’ve been searching and conducting my own research into his behavior and motivations only to be going around in circles. Until I came past your videos.
The catharsis is something I’m deeply grateful for. Thank you for your words, I feel validated and not crazy.
You’re welcome! I’m so happy you found it helpful! I’m so sorry for what you went through. Hopefully you’re able to avoid contact with that person. I dealt with a highly manipulative person a few years ago & ended up ruminating about it for a long time, researching that kind of behavior to try to better understand & avoid similar situations. I eventually addressed it in therapy, which can definitely help. An important thing to keep in mind is not to allow them to continue to hold power over you by ruminating on it too long.
@@Sensory0verlord sage advice. Exactly the same issue, yes, the rumination, it’s like a permanent game of tennis in your mind, i know know i may not have communicated perfectly but in all fairness, no matter the communication, it was never perfect for them because the goalposts always shifted. But you are right, its the rumination, we ruminate on it because we are desperate trying to process and make sense of it but the crazy making prevents that and is such a cruel thing when you already have a blindness to others manipulative motivations. It’s so good you managed to pull through it though.
This is one of the many reasons i prefer email or texting
Same here!
You hit the nail on the head, as a NT person, I wouldn't take the time to read a blog about this subject, but the video form gets the point across.
I am married to a ND partner, and my daughter is also ND. I have learned that I have to make many accommodations quite frequently and will admit that it gets tough, always making accommodations. I start to feel like I have to walk on eggshells all the time. Knowing when to bring up a subject, taking into consideration how they will react, and giving time to process. I'm doing the best I can, but it's not easy on the NT either.
Can I suggest you do a video on money management? That's a major issue in our house. I need to be on top of finances all the time, making sure my partner is aware of how much we have or how much we spent.
Keep up the great videos.
I imagine it can be difficult frequently making accommodations, but it’s great that you’re making the effort. And thanks to all the NTs out there that do! It doesn’t go unnoticed even if our appreciation isn’t always obvious.
Money management communication is a good suggestion, btw. Thanks!
12:44 non verbal communication is so underrated! Totally agree and it’s not difficult to learn the basics that communicate the tells that are crucial to communication clarity and efficiency. Great point. Loving your vids! 🤗💪👍
Thank you & thanks for watching! 😊