Your videos are quite relatable to me because I also have childhood trauma and am a late diagnosed autistic. I also struggle with figuring out my emotions and tend to have to intellectualise them. I’ll often be like “I feel off, I have no idea why”, then I’ll sit down with my partner and together we’ll figure out that actually it was that thing that happened three days ago or that conversation we had that morning etc that triggered whatever I’m feeling.
@@paulinejulien9191 I can relate to feeling off & not knowing why. That happens to me a lot. It’s great that you & your partner can figure it out together! Sometimes I’m reluctant to approach things & think I need to figure it out all own my own, even though that’s probably also due to the childhood trauma.
years of suppressing my emotions led to all emotions being translated into one big emotion: anxiety. learning to accept my anxious feelings and watch them come and go allowed me to let all my emotions come and go. i love a bit of anger every now and then lol great video as ever👍
@@kirstinline Yes! Observing a thought or feeling & letting it flow past like a leaf on a stream is something I try to practice too! I think I heard it put that way in a video on meditation. Anger can be helpful sometimes when it arises to let me know a boundary is being crossed, etc. Thank you! 😊
I can relate to you. I am undiagnosed autistic/adhd and it seems like the more time I’ve gotten to be with sensations the sensitive I’ve become. It’s overwhelming at times. Like right now for me. My wife is inside listening to music and doing laundry. I can hear everything. I’m anxious about a merchandise exchange that is supposed to happen in 16 minutes but we haven’t hauled it downstairs and out to the car. It’s at least 30 minutes away and we haven’t made a plan to leave. It’s exhausting and I haven’t even finished my coffee ☕️ As far as anger. I spent most of my life scared of myself. I’m a decently sized man that has experienced both ends of violence. I was scared into passivity and victim hoodies (this is an autocorrect that’s to good to fix) 😂but worked through a lot of it with meditation and martial arts. Anywho, I really appreciate you sharing your experience
@@RLWarrior The scenario you just described made me feel a bit anxious on your behalf! 😆 Merchandise exchanges always make me nervous for some reason. Martial arts & meditation seem to be very effective for anger management. I haven’t tried martial arts, but walking meditation/mindful walking & breathing help a lot for me, as someone else in the comments described- observing the thoughts/feelings & watching them come & go. Thanks for watching! 😊
@@Sensory0verlord Guess what? I called the store and told the truth. I hurt my leg and I don’t have any friends to help me. I had to swallow my pride and fess up that I am not strong enough to neither move the furniture nor ask for help. I get reprieve for today until I worry about if my leg is healed enough to move it move it. 🤣
i don't process anger very well. i seem to miss the warning signs, the build up of that emotion, and i just explode: i either cry, or i break everything that's in front of me. i suck at regulating that emotion. i know the only solution is to identify what i'm feeling so i can process it and i kinda dislike this coping mechanism at times. other times i find it useful. that's a bit of an ambivalent way of viewing alexithymia: it can be a blessing and a curse.
@@magicalexchanges9441 It can definitely be both a blessing and a curse. Sometimes it’s inconvenient to take a break, process, & identify what’s going on & sometimes people are in a hurry & want an instant response, so that part can kinda suck. Taking the time to process things has definitely helped me though, especially if I have time to externally process.
@@Sensory0verlord Maybe next time the crackers will be safe and your Boyfriend will be wearing the "entrails" of the printer as a trophy of tribal supremacy!!!! 🙂
Sounds like your Boyfriend is a Stoic........ “Keep this thought handy when you feel a fit of rage coming on-it isn’t manly to be enraged. Rather, gentleness and civility are more human, and therefore manlier. A real man doesn’t give way to anger and discontent, and such a person has strength, courage, and endurance-unlike the angry and complaining. The nearer a man comes to a calm mind, the closer he is to strength.” Marcus Aurelius
@@kylehorner8782 I don’t think he has read anything on stoicism to classify himself as such, but he definitely comes across that way. I like that quote & 100% agree with it!
Mmm, interesting. I tend to get frustrated rather than angry - I usually end up cursing a lot, it can get fairly creative, lol. I can relate to perhaps not knowing what emotions are sometimes or getting "stuck". Sometimes when I watch a film or something and I want to cry, for example, it gets "stuck" and I can't express myself that way and that usually comes out as frustration after the fact or stress. I don't know whether that would be Alexithymia, I don't know much about that condition. I might research it though! Hope this finds you well, hon. :)
@@Feenix102 I can relate! For minor frustration & annoyances, I sprinkle expletives throughout my sentences & it acts like a little pressure-release valve. I feel a tiny bit of relief with each curse! 😆 I’ve definitely been in that state of being emotionally stuck before. It can be really frustrating.
Hi Overlord! I recently stumbled upon your channel as a 23-year old Gen Z'er who has autism. I've been watching a lot of your videos lately, but I never got the chance to properly leave a comment on them, due to my conflicting timezone. I think its really nice to get some insight on a Gen X'er's experience with having autism, since I've been curious to a degree on how the older generations perceived autism and other forms of neurodivergence. From what I've watched of your videos, I take it you've been through a lot of suffering, which was likely an effect of society having a very myopic view on how men and women "should be", with most autistic behaviours not falling in line with that idea. I'm really sorry you had to experience that kind of treatment, and I hope you're in a healthier space now... 🫂 On the topic of today's video, alexithymia has always felt like a foreign concept to me, as its not something I was ever aware of until seeing it be mentioned in a couple of Quora forums. Interestingly enough, I was actually chatting with a Twitch streamer about the societal expectation of "smiling at all times". And both me and her agreed about how unnatural and forced it feels, which is interesting as she doesn't have autism herself. I tend to be quite self-aware when I process and express emotions, even if they are negative ones, so I guess alexithymia is something I can't fully relate to. As for anger, the last time I properly expressed it was as a delayed reaction to being psychologically tortured by a group of women I lived with in university. It affected me more in the sense that my ability to tolerate shortcomings and setbacks was neutered, which would indirectly lead to a couple of misunderstandings when interacting with friends. I hope you don't mind me saying this, but I think you're a really beautiful woman, especially with your tattoos! Its a bit ironic that I'm saying that, as I don't have any tattoos myself and don't ever plan on getting them 😅Sorry for the long comment, I tend to find it challenging to articulate my thoughts properly in short comments. Congrats on hitting 1000 subscribers, and I look forward to more of your videos! :) 😌
@@dylansurendranath3091 Hi Dylan! Thanks for watching! 😊 You’re right about the societal expectations of how men & women “should” be being at the root of a lot of suffering- not just mine but also a lot of other neurodivergents it seems. Everyone suffers in their own way, not that that makes it a good thing- I just recognize that I’m not alone in that aspect. I am in a much better place now. Discovering that I’m autistic definitely helps. I’m sorry about the roommate situation! That can be totally frustrating. Cohabitation can be really rough because even if you have your own space, there’s the whole forced interaction thing that can be very draining, especially if you need quiet time, time alone, etc. Thanks for the compliment!☺️ I get it- tattoos are just one form of self expression. There are lots of other less permanent & less painful ones out there. 😆 Have a good day!
steely dan, yacht rock and southern rock and country music triggers my misophonia. and misophonia makes me very angry. i have to ask my dentist to turn off their music station when i come in for a cleaning.
@@Sensory0verlord Exposure to "Easy" listening music should be treated with Motorhead or repeated listening to BOC's Veteran of the Psychic Wars since you are one after that!!!!!! 🙂
Your videos are quite relatable to me because I also have childhood trauma and am a late diagnosed autistic. I also struggle with figuring out my emotions and tend to have to intellectualise them. I’ll often be like “I feel off, I have no idea why”, then I’ll sit down with my partner and together we’ll figure out that actually it was that thing that happened three days ago or that conversation we had that morning etc that triggered whatever I’m feeling.
@@paulinejulien9191 I can relate to feeling off & not knowing why. That happens to me a lot. It’s great that you & your partner can figure it out together! Sometimes I’m reluctant to approach things & think I need to figure it out all own my own, even though that’s probably also due to the childhood trauma.
years of suppressing my emotions led to all emotions being translated into one big emotion: anxiety.
learning to accept my anxious feelings and watch them come and go allowed me to let all my emotions come and go. i love a bit of anger every now and then lol
great video as ever👍
@@kirstinline Yes! Observing a thought or feeling & letting it flow past like a leaf on a stream is something I try to practice too! I think I heard it put that way in a video on meditation. Anger can be helpful sometimes when it arises to let me know a boundary is being crossed, etc.
Thank you! 😊
I can relate to you. I am undiagnosed autistic/adhd and it seems like the more time I’ve gotten to be with sensations the sensitive I’ve become. It’s overwhelming at times. Like right now for me. My wife is inside listening to music and doing laundry. I can hear everything. I’m anxious about a merchandise exchange that is supposed to happen in 16 minutes but we haven’t hauled it downstairs and out to the car. It’s at least 30 minutes away and we haven’t made a plan to leave. It’s exhausting and I haven’t even finished my coffee ☕️
As far as anger. I spent most of my life scared of myself. I’m a decently sized man that has experienced both ends of violence. I was scared into passivity and victim hoodies (this is an autocorrect that’s to good to fix) 😂but worked through a lot of it with meditation and martial arts. Anywho, I really appreciate you sharing your experience
@@RLWarrior The scenario you just described made me feel a bit anxious on your behalf! 😆 Merchandise exchanges always make me nervous for some reason.
Martial arts & meditation seem to be very effective for anger management. I haven’t tried martial arts, but walking meditation/mindful walking & breathing help a lot for me, as someone else in the comments described- observing the thoughts/feelings & watching them come & go.
Thanks for watching! 😊
@@Sensory0verlord Guess what? I called the store and told the truth. I hurt my leg and I don’t have any friends to help me. I had to swallow my pride and fess up that I am not strong enough to neither move the furniture nor ask for help. I get reprieve for today until I worry about if my leg is healed enough to move it move it. 🤣
Thank you for published this content
@@TheDoomWizard Thank you for watching! 😊
i don't process anger very well. i seem to miss the warning signs, the build up of that emotion, and i just explode: i either cry, or i break everything that's in front of me. i suck at regulating that emotion. i know the only solution is to identify what i'm feeling so i can process it and i kinda dislike this coping mechanism at times. other times i find it useful. that's a bit of an ambivalent way of viewing alexithymia: it can be a blessing and a curse.
@@magicalexchanges9441 It can definitely be both a blessing and a curse. Sometimes it’s inconvenient to take a break, process, & identify what’s going on & sometimes people are in a hurry & want an instant response, so that part can kinda suck. Taking the time to process things has definitely helped me though, especially if I have time to externally process.
For printer problems I recommend the solution presented in the 1999 movie Office Space!!! 🙂
@@kylehorner8782 Ha! I agree!😆
@@Sensory0verlord Maybe next time the crackers will be safe and your Boyfriend will be wearing the "entrails" of the printer as a trophy of tribal supremacy!!!! 🙂
I can imagine an ink/toner war paint, a splattered t-shirt, & armor made of molded plastic 😆
@@Sensory0verlord Then he takes up Calligraphy....🙂
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P.S. Bjork is amazing.
@@matthewgmcmillan4436 She really is! A true creative genius, imo.
Sounds like your Boyfriend is a Stoic........
“Keep this thought handy when you feel a fit of rage coming on-it isn’t manly to be enraged. Rather, gentleness and civility are more human, and therefore manlier. A real man doesn’t give way to anger and discontent, and such a person has strength, courage, and endurance-unlike the angry and complaining. The nearer a man comes to a calm mind, the closer he is to strength.”
Marcus Aurelius
@@kylehorner8782 I don’t think he has read anything on stoicism to classify himself as such, but he definitely comes across that way. I like that quote & 100% agree with it!
Great video!😁
@@roberttravers7587 Thank you! 😊
Mmm, interesting. I tend to get frustrated rather than angry - I usually end up cursing a lot, it can get fairly creative, lol. I can relate to perhaps not knowing what emotions are sometimes or getting "stuck". Sometimes when I watch a film or something and I want to cry, for example, it gets "stuck" and I can't express myself that way and that usually comes out as frustration after the fact or stress. I don't know whether that would be Alexithymia, I don't know much about that condition. I might research it though! Hope this finds you well, hon. :)
@@Feenix102 I can relate! For minor frustration & annoyances, I sprinkle expletives throughout my sentences & it acts like a little pressure-release valve. I feel a tiny bit of relief with each curse! 😆 I’ve definitely been in that state of being emotionally stuck before. It can be really frustrating.
@@Sensory0verlord Yes! Somehow it helps doesn't it, the cursing? Do whatever works, I say! :)
Hi Overlord! I recently stumbled upon your channel as a 23-year old Gen Z'er who has autism. I've been watching a lot of your videos lately, but I never got the chance to properly leave a comment on them, due to my conflicting timezone. I think its really nice to get some insight on a Gen X'er's experience with having autism, since I've been curious to a degree on how the older generations perceived autism and other forms of neurodivergence. From what I've watched of your videos, I take it you've been through a lot of suffering, which was likely an effect of society having a very myopic view on how men and women "should be", with most autistic behaviours not falling in line with that idea. I'm really sorry you had to experience that kind of treatment, and I hope you're in a healthier space now... 🫂
On the topic of today's video, alexithymia has always felt like a foreign concept to me, as its not something I was ever aware of until seeing it be mentioned in a couple of Quora forums. Interestingly enough, I was actually chatting with a Twitch streamer about the societal expectation of "smiling at all times". And both me and her agreed about how unnatural and forced it feels, which is interesting as she doesn't have autism herself. I tend to be quite self-aware when I process and express emotions, even if they are negative ones, so I guess alexithymia is something I can't fully relate to. As for anger, the last time I properly expressed it was as a delayed reaction to being psychologically tortured by a group of women I lived with in university. It affected me more in the sense that my ability to tolerate shortcomings and setbacks was neutered, which would indirectly lead to a couple of misunderstandings when interacting with friends.
I hope you don't mind me saying this, but I think you're a really beautiful woman, especially with your tattoos! Its a bit ironic that I'm saying that, as I don't have any tattoos myself and don't ever plan on getting them 😅Sorry for the long comment, I tend to find it challenging to articulate my thoughts properly in short comments. Congrats on hitting 1000 subscribers, and I look forward to more of your videos! :) 😌
@@dylansurendranath3091 Hi Dylan! Thanks for watching! 😊 You’re right about the societal expectations of how men & women “should” be being at the root of a lot of suffering- not just mine but also a lot of other neurodivergents it seems. Everyone suffers in their own way, not that that makes it a good thing- I just recognize that I’m not alone in that aspect. I am in a much better place now. Discovering that I’m autistic definitely helps.
I’m sorry about the roommate situation! That can be totally frustrating. Cohabitation can be really rough because even if you have your own space, there’s the whole forced interaction thing that can be very draining, especially if you need quiet time, time alone, etc.
Thanks for the compliment!☺️ I get it- tattoos are just one form of self expression. There are lots of other less permanent & less painful ones out there. 😆 Have a good day!
You look very good btw
@@Hi-levels Thank you! 😊
steely dan, yacht rock and southern rock and country music triggers my misophonia. and misophonia makes me very angry. i have to ask my dentist to turn off their music station when i come in for a cleaning.
Yes!! Every single one of those trigger mine too! Gospel music too, but it’s rare to hear that out & about.
Probably need an old fashioned tune up
Steely Dan is very bad but if you want the PURE musical tumor inducing hell check out the 1979 song "sailing" by Christopher Cross!
@@kylehorner8782 😣 That song is awful!! It’s played on Pandora Yacht Rock Radio a lot. Hate it.
@@Sensory0verlord Exposure to "Easy" listening music should be treated with Motorhead or repeated listening to BOC's Veteran of the Psychic Wars since you are one after that!!!!!! 🙂
@@kylehorner8782 Motörhead!🤘🏻I like to do growly death metal vocals to yacht rock songs just for fun 😂
@@Sensory0verlord Have you ever watched the Greta Thunberg sings Swedish Death Metal video ?PURE GOLD! 🙂
Just watched it. That is FANTASTIC!!