Being married to someone you met while they're in prison, and being married to them when you're actually living together after their release, are two different ball games.
Yes. Life in prison and life in freedom are different things and Erik has no experience in living in freedom! He was in his dad's prison before the actual one. So may Tammi and him make it work if he is ever released.
@@Goodneighbourfromcanada If Eric is released, it's going to take him time to be reintegrated back into society. And going straight into married life from being an 18 year old going into prison, and institutionalized, there will be challenges - emotionally and mentally.
A lot of people in comments may not realize all the self growth by doing for others Eric and his brother have done. Also with education. I hope they do get released. Yes, it will be another painful adjustment and I pray they'll be OK ❤
@@SFVGIRL They still haven't lived in society for over three decades. And just because you educate yourself and "do for others" during your incarnation, that's great. However, there's culture shock upon release, and still having to relearn social norms and interactions on the outside.
Yes exactly….I hope he and his brother have been able to build strategies to deal with their trauma when they transition to the outside world. Best of luck to them both ❤️.
I think they’ll be okay. Might have to get used to each others’ habits and personal space. I see the love and respect for each other which is crucial for their success.😢They’ve made it a lot longer than the average American who has 2 to 3 divorces under their belt.
Girrrrl I’d have to disagree. Most women would’ve left him years ago! Their true test has been for the last 20+ years that they’ve been apart. I know women who have left their men while they were in county for 30 days😆
Its easy to stay married to someone who isnt in your personal space. Plus they are married and she still has her freedom. Who's to know if she has a side piece @chelseaclark4738
People always talk about what 'he' and his brother did and spend time asking if they were sorry... What about what HIS SICKO FATHER & MOTHER DID as adult parents to their innocent children? Unbelievable, unspeakable and heartbreaking.
@@Analysis_Paralysis I can imagine they do feel very sorry that they didn't find another way out, but that people judge them with the harsh eyes of a two people in a normal dispute is wrong and heartless. What the brothers endured is beyond, beyond, beyond what any human should ever have to endure and it is obvious they finally snapped. I do wish the brothers would have found another way, for their own sake (like exposing the man - I won't call him a 'father' - for his sick urges and the woman for her enabling and neglect). Those poor men will never get over what happened to them. But It would have been infinitely better if the monster that abused them would have been exposed and delt with in prison... It is sad that it was at the hands of two brothers that suffered more than enough, but the two tormentors got no less than what they deserved.
@@TatyanaValdaBelindaHill What kind of gobbledygook is that? These two men murdered their parents in cold blood, then spent their money. They are not innocent victims and deserve to remain behind bars.
Yeah, I'm glad that she seems to be a good person and that she's not someone who's just here to exploit his situation. She seems to really love and care for him. :)
As with any couple - each is raised differently, have different backgrounds, up bringing, and learn to focus on the future and having and going forward with a same plan; to grow, learn from each other and move forward... A handsome couple....
@kathygrosvenor7900 I agree with the person that said that and its because he's been in there long enough for something that was wring yes but also in a way justified because I fully believe they were both abused in all ways by their father, including sexually and thats the worst one. Parents are supposed to protect. Not to see their sons as something to abuse in any way they choose. The mother is just as guilty for not doing anything to stop it like getting them out of there and leaving him. I think it was her that cared too much about their money and thats why she wouldnt leave and turned a blind eye to it. They deserve to get out and lead normal lives with their wives, and for Erik to be around the daughter even though she isnt biologically his he's clearly the only father she knows because the wife's first husband died a month before the trial from cancer I think they said. Not 100% sure what his illness was.
@kathyg 8:07 rosvenor7900 ...idk...she strikes me as a quiet person not accustomed to be questioned by reporters. I wouldn't place too much emphasis on this point
@@clairelivefreeordie2551 Claire, although I respect your opinion and your right to have one, I fail to see this woman as quiet or nervous while being interviewed. I watch the videos, then I read the transcript. She wanted fame or infamy, which ever came first. While watching his televised trial on TV and becoming enthralled with this young, wealthy, kid, ( he was all of 19) her next move in her new obsession was to write him a letter. Her end goal was a relationship. If you see the situation from the other side, you find a young, entitled, son of wealthy parents. A monstrous murder of both parents by his brother and himself, for whatever the reason, landed them both in prison for life. Yes. People can change in prison. I can’t digest the possibility that out of the thousands of letter writers, he fell in love with Tammi. I would expect inmates to take advantage of these delusional women who claim true love after watching them on TV. His brother married twice in prison. He’d had a three year affair with a woman when he married someone else. They divorced and he married woman # 1. It’s not the real world for them. The women who get involved wouldn’t stand a chance with these two on the outside. Good or bad, it elevates the women to marry these famous or infamous guys.
Her husband passed away and left her behind and their 9month old baby. I imagine Erik got her through her grief and they bonded. They have been married for 25 years now and the little girl considers Erik her dad. Because her own dad died when she was a baby. I guess I personally would not take my child into prison and keep my love life separate but we’re not in her shoes so I’m not gonna judge. We would only know what that situation feels like if we were in it. I hope it works out for them.
What is truly nutty!?? Her former husband abused her other daughter, turned himself in, then killed himself soon afterwards!! Now, talking about the trust and connection these two have for each other. In fact, out of hundreds of the letters Erik read in prison, he specifically set hers aside and started making a connection... They don't say "Don't judge until you walk in their shoes" for nothing. I no doubt believe these two have only love and Trust for each other!! Hope they embrace each other soon...
Right? To me is ridiculous, and the fact her child calls him dad does not sit right to me. Now I support the Menendez brothers and I hope they’re released but this Tammi woman doesn’t have my respect.
They have been in there too long, and I do believe there were abuse and the mother did nothing. She may be afraid of the father herself, me I would do anything to protect my kids
@@CarlaYvonne Whether they were abused or not, does not give them the right to murder their parents, shooting mom in the face. Then blame it on a break in. They did not even live with their parents at the time.
@aponinodin as someone who is old enough to remember the trial, these two murders are where they belong. Read the facts about what they did. Cold blooded murders.
I'm so glad that the brothers are going to be heard at last. Their father was a vile abuser and their mother didn't want to loose her fancy lifestyle. So many extended family members tried to expose what the brothers endured. They should both be released while their truth comes out.
When this happened these two were MEN... They could have left any day and time... but they stayed and planned this murder. No abuse was going on. Get a job... move out... be room mates...Instead , they murdered their parents. They wanted the $$$. And should never be on the streets again. I live in Orange county ca and was here when this happened.
I believe them that their father was an abuser and abused them Sx. I suppose if my father did that to me, I’ll probably would react like they did. It is wrong to take someone’s life, but abuse is also wrong.
@@LisaFerguson-lw8il Any form of abuse is unacceptable, however, it doesn't give you the licence to kill. Instead of reporting the abuse to the police, they planned to kill their parents. This is premeditated murder - murder in the first degree. Eric and Lyle also wasting zero time going out on shopping sprees right after their parents were killed.
@@jeanjones1846- Unless you have been abused yourself in the horrible way these brothers were, you can't possibly imagine the fear it takes to leave - the Father would have tortured them mentally and followed them and ruined their life even if they had left - he had many connections with evil people - you have no self worth, no confidence when you are raised this way - I know this from experience - I pray they get released soon - sorry you can't see what the rest of the world can see
@yourconnection9303 - maybe you should do your research and follow the reason why they went on a shopping spree - there are valid reasons for doing what they did - unless you have experienced what they have, don't be so judgmental, you don't know all the facts
That’s when these relationships fall apart. It just happened with Gypsy Blanchard. Everything was fine while she was incarcerated. She gets out and within 3 months her marriage was over.
Nothing romantic about it. She lives far away from where he is imprisoned and hardly goes to see him now. She is also much older than he is so that makes an impact.
The woman is highly intelligent. Gorgeous as well and empathetic enough to build a relationship with Erik during his darkest times while surviving prison. Their engagement thru mail obviously led to their long term connection. I do agree however that visiting the prison is different than if they were to be released and they join together in a household. I wish them nothing but well in their fight towards freedom
They will be able to handle being in the real world for how they endured this time being married and yet apart. People can have a strong constitution and acceptance is key. I wish them the time to build on this relationship in a real way. He is full of life which is attractive especially under the circumstances and she looks to her spiritually side for peace & solis.
@@suestephan3255 precisely because he is attractive and still young and full of life he will be more likely to find someone else now that he gets out of prison and discovers the new world
@@Chewbacca-e9x disagree I think she's beautiful inside as well as outside and it's the beauty inside that really counts. Tammy has that beauty. God bless her. I wish her every happiness. ❤
I have no idea how someone can marry a man already in prison serving life sentence with no possibility of parole . No physical contact in the marriage , just emotional connection. I could never . I don’t comprehend these kind of relationships. It’s just wild
Not if Erik is Gay.. she said, he’s perfectly alright without the consummation of the marriage.. he also considers her daughter from her previous marriage as his own.. all this with him being a prisoner..
I have no idea how people date online either. People lying about who they are, using heavy filters. How people "connect" online is mind-boggling. It's like marrying a jailbird. HOW? 🤔
@@SimV239who told you that he is gay? you are still hearing the stories of the Ryan Murphy tv series and just because Erik's father called him gay doesn't mean he was gay, he is not gay and he dated women, plus those who have suffered from SA have strong traumas and lead to confusion of knowing if you are gay or not especially when your own father rapes you at a young age and tells you that you are gay
I feel like it’s not fair to either person because one is imprisoned and can be writing others and the other is free and can be dating others. Companionship is good, but locking each other down when neither can experience the true them doesn’t sound healthy. Not only that, but to be married when you met, expose your child(ren) to a tough situation, focus on a man after your own child went through trauma, and being very older than him (another power imbalance) is very selfish on her part. I couldn’t do that to someone who experienced an already controlled and traumatic life even if they initiated the romance because I know better. Trauma bonding is not a healthy foundation for a relationship. I respect others opinion, this is just mine. I wish them the best and respect their decision. I just wish ppl would consider how their pleasure can affect themselves and those around them mentally, physically, spiritually, financially, and emotionally.❤
I'm not sure what motivated her to reach out to Erik, or why he responded to her, but I am thankful that they connected, and now their story can serve as a testimony to the power of human connection and compassion. Goddess bless them.
She's still controlling Erik. This marriage won't last long if she keeps it up. Telling Erik not to do a documentary with his brother Lyle..like who tf is she?
I always loved Erik and Lyle’s relationships with the women they met while in prison. Some convicts are manipulative behind bars and such but these two were described by the creator of series ‘monsters’ said that both brothers are very humble, accountable, respectful men. And Erik’s wife proves that.
@@thruthemotions When you're incarcerated and gained notoriety because of who you killed, you're going to put on your best front hoping it'll to give you more of a chance for an early release. As for their wives, time will tell. People whom are doing long prison sentences are starving for human connection from the outside, and will say anything to lure them in, and to keep them around during their incarceration.
Yes, however I’m not sure which channel I saw them. There was an interview; only bit pieces were shown. She was driving to the prison. During part of the interview, she was asked about her feelings for him after all these years. She said, She Was in love with him. Took a breath, and then said she is still in love with him. I felt her pause, and the weariness on her face after all these years says a lot
@@Wingedbeagle no i Believe they are closer to 10 years apart so idk how old he ? 53? She’s 62 .. lives in Henderson Nevada .. owns dog grooming business
I read a book years ago that discussed women with "intimacy" issues. Some women don't realize they have intimacy issues and blame the distance on the elusive man they are chasing. One example was given of a true story of a woman who was the perfect "prisoner's wife." She was safe with her intimacy issues while he was always behind a glass. She was the devoted wife for years and years. When he got out, this particular woman couldn't handle the intimacy. I think they both will get out of prison. I'm curious to see how things work out.
@@ashleywatkins1380 It was either "Smart Women Foolish Choices" or "Smart Cookies Don't Crumble." I'm pretty sure it was one of those. The book taught me that I had a fear of intimacy but didn't know it. I was hiding behind the guy who had the issue and blamed him haha
I'm that woman, the one who doesn't realise she has intimacy issues and blames it on the emotionally unavailable and elusive man I'm always chasing..... 😂 Legit . I only very recently stopped and started to realise omg I think I'm also commitment phone, afraid of intimacy.... Which is really hard to get my head around bcoz inside the way I've always felt is the opposite of that, like I crave love closeness intimacy etc ... But now I'm realising that actually I may be a version of someone who has intimacy issues and sabotages the chance for me to get that .... 😮😮😮
@@bettywillbrowse Take comfort that you are not alone and an expert wrote about it in at least one book. I think my issue was that I was hurt so badly in the past. I really wanted to love and be loved, but I think on a subconscious level, I felt "safer" in the "infatuation" "intoxication" phase and chose or stuck with guys who had the same problem. I was probably not willing to risk the level of pain in something more deeper. This book helped me understand that I was part of the problem when I was always blaming the guy for being non-committal. I received confirmation when one day I thought he was trying to get closer, and I was SHOCKED because I began to panic. I was so shocked at my reaction. It was what I wanted, strived for, and waited for. I had another surprise regarding my weight. I struggled with my weight my whole life, but when I want, I have the discipline to lose even 90 pounds. I would go way up and then way down. One time when I was planning to lose all of the weight again, something from my subconscious sneaked in and shocked me. I had some resistance because losing all of that weight and being so skinny, I would lose my "suit of armor." Again, I learned something about myself and what was going on behind the scenes with my subconscious, and it was always about "protecting" myself even when I was not aware of it. Best of luck to you! You're way ahead just by knowing how you're wired.
There is more to this story. Come on she was a married woman writing letters to a prisoner, why Erik? Then she tells us that her husband was okay with it??? No LOVING husband would be okay with his wife writing letters to a prisoner. This story doesn't add up. Is she after something we don't know about???? Something tells me the story hasn't ended yet. If/When he is released the story will continue and media is going to be all over it too.
She started writing him when she was still married. I wonder if she was also physically attracted to him & hoping it would turn into something (because she said in the bw interview that in her first marriage she wasn't emotionally supported).
im just wondering if she was so concerned about his pain she felt compelled to write him a letter, then did she also write lyle a letter?? cuz why wouldnt she have cared for his pain too. so idk if im buying her story.
@@Jamesgeeee In that case, Lyle was much better looking than Erik, yet she didn't write to lyle because she knew Lyle isn't someone that she can control, he's not vulnerable enough to fall for someone and just let them control his Life, unlike Erik. Just look at how this woman controls Erik and everything he does... She wouldn't dream of doing that to someone like Lyle because lyle (or just any rational guy) wouldn't let that slide. And Lyle sure as hell won't watch his wife profit off of him...I wish Erik was a bit more mindful of her motives
I wondered the same thing: She said she felt drawn towards Erik & his pain watching him on Court tv. Lyle expressed painful emotions also so why wouldnt she feel compelled to write him? It could be Erik had a pull on her also because of the way he looked & she wasn't mindful of it or was.
@@Jazmine-t9t Oh yes they did deny it. They said they were at the movies and came home and found their parents shot. They chaged their story when they were caught lying. They had several renditions. The one that has garnered everyone's sympathy was being sexually abused, which only came about after Leslie Abramson came onboard. The tale had worked really well for her prior client Salvatierra. With that story she got him voluntary manslaughter for shooting his father with only 5 years probation. They hoped it would work for them, but it did not.
I would like to see them do an interview with Tammy's husband let us hear his side of the story of what went down when his wife started writing to this guy in prison.. I bet you we would hear some juicy stuff
She couldn’t have been happily married if she left her husband for Eric. I think I saw a documentary a few years ago where she moved with her little girl to a small desolate town nearer the prison to be closer to him. It wasn’t long before she moved back where she came from because she said it was just too hard.
Wow. Shes married and starts writing to a man accused of the crimes he was at age 18 meaning he had zero life experience on the outside. At the time he was sentenced it was life no possibility of parole. So she leaves her husband to marry a guy in prison for life. I don’t get it.
She didn't leave her husband 🤦🏻♀️. Her husband was doing improper things to their daughters and when she found out, she reported him. I'm not sure if he still in prison or if he died but they have no contact.
Tammy found out her husband at that time was r***ing their 15 year old daughter, he turned himself into police and then he committed suicide 2 days later
I have watched so many testimonies across UA-cam of how men and women were sexually and mentally abused since childhood, by a family member. The stories are truly sickening.
At 18, he probably felt he had no other options. Tammy said it best, he made a horrible mistake. I hope he is released, and he can experience unconditional love. Something I think he never had 😢
Did it come out during the trial that their father was abusive? I always felt like they should have received time but definitely not 35 yrs. I can understand the ‘why’ in this case. They were just kids. They were living a horrible life and I can’t even imagine their trauma. They should be released.
1st trial the abuse evidence wss o produced. Both Erik and Lyle testified. ( heartbreaking ) 51 witnesses testified about abuse The jury hung . Split down gender lines. Females wanted manslaughter. Males wanted murder. 2nd trial abuse evidence was not allowed.
It did in the first trial and this is why there was a hung jury but the judge didn't allow this information to be presented to the jury during the second trial, which is preposterous and they had no choice but to find them guilty of murder.
@trebleclef3886 Erik WAS still living at home. He had just graduated H.S in June 89. He planned to move away to go to school.his preference was Brown as it was far away from CA . Jose forbid him and told him he was going to ucla and was living .at home Lyle was going back to Princeton and wanted to take Erik with him . They had plans to get away .
Getting proposed marriage during behind bar for a life sentence? Holy crap. I don't know who's the crazier one - the convicted murderer OR the girl who knows nothing about him.😂
she's used him for her books and for the fame then she complains and says she didn't want erik to do his documentary with his brother because it will affect her business...she's a weirdo!
Did you educate yourself on everything known about her first? Her "husband" tried to SA her daughter, she found out, husband got put in jail and unalived himself. I understand why she would feel empathy towards an SA victim, and why she would value an emotional connection with a man she deems innocent and pure-hearted over a physical one.
@@lyannabucket2772Oh please..I have also read her book and she explains that she also felt sympathy for her husband and she didn't want him to go to jail and she waited till he was in jail then allowed her daughter to get therapy after
@@nillyk5671 no, because she was married and they had never even met when they declared their love for each other only through letters and an occasional phone call. Didn’t you watch the interview?
Did you educate yourself on everything known about her first? Her "husband" tried to SA her daughter, she found out, husband got put in jail and unalived himself. I understand why she would feel empathy towards an SA victim, and why she would value an emotional connection with a man she deems innocent and pure-hearted over a physical one.
Yes that’s what I want to know Doesn’t get a hug or human touch from M-F??!!😡 Do you know how many inmates go without human touch for 5-30years or more! 😢
Hybristophilia - This is a woman that is romantically attracted and wanting to be with someone that has committed a crime. The desire to fix him. Yikes 😬
You all think this is a sweet, love story. Is it though? She was married already and was trying to deny falling in love with Erik. I mean if you are going to start writing a man and calling him and this continues over years, chances are you will develop feelings for one another. She knew what she is doing.
It'll last forever I guess...afaik Erik fought with Lyle for this woman...even tho the very reason y he's alive today is because of his older brother Lyle...but you know, "love is blind" I guess, especially when the woman is 10 years older and controlling, which much feel super familiar to him, considering his upbringing.
@ I hear you. I really did not follow the case and have nothing more to say about the Mendez men. However, I wish them the best. Thank you for your reply.
I would be scared to death for him to be released and live with me. Nothing is going to take away the fact that he shot killed his mother and his father. no matter what happened to him. He was an adult and could have left and never spoken to him again. It wasn’t necessary for them to kill both parents.
Adult?! Just barely! People need to educate themselves. 18 is still a child, brains aren't even full formed until 25 and that affects our decision making! When you turn 18 you over night just become a whole responsible human being, huh?! Such an ignorant statement. 🙄
This women must have been instrumental in keep him going strong after all what he went through !!! That is the unconditional love he never received from his parents ! Whether they survive or not as couple in the future it does not matter but hoping it will work out for them cause in the end she was there when he needed it more !!! God bless this couple I wish you all the very best ! Erik broke my heart after watching the Netflix series he just deserve better ! Their parents were monsters !!!
You are crazy wanting your 5 minutes of fame…marriage to someone like this is psychologically messed up and any psychiatrist or therapist will tell you the same you are extremely naïve
@@renegademuse They're young, and their "sympathy" for Erik is as deep as a wading pool. The minute Erik does something they deem "unforgivable," they will want him back in prison. A few months ago they had the same "sympathy" for Drake Bell, now he's out and Erik and Lyle Menendez are all the rage!😁😁🤣
People this woman left her husband for another man. And not just any man, a man in Prison, convicted of cold blooded murder. There is something fundamentally wrong with this woman.
Did you educate yourself on everything known about her first? Her "husband" tried to SA her daughter, she found out, husband got put in jail and unalived himself. I understand why she would feel empathy towards an SA victim, and why she would value an emotional connection with a man she deems innocent and pure-hearted over a physical one.
For those who question the stability of a relationship becoming carnal after years of physical distancing on the part of those involved being prevented from physically consummating that marriage, I recognize that there are other examples of failed relationships in similar situations, which does not invalidate this point of view, but it is also true that since he was a child Erik has learned to face the emotional and mental challenges that life has offered them and putting into practice a marriage that has lasted decades will not be the most difficult challenge for him, which deep down in his soul is what he most desires for his life after all the history of suffering in his life.
In hindsight at 66 he was just a boy. I pray with all my heart knowing now what SA brings to lives that he gets released. That they both get released and that Eric and his incredible wife will flourish!
Menudo came forth as a victim, so seems they are not lying. Knowing how dark the entertainment world is (think P. Diddy), it fits the air of Hollywood. The brutality of the crimes fit the personal damage they experienced.
@@melodymusik261 n how many of those in Hollywood r lying n chose the lifestyle? Again, we don't know any of the accusations r true. But ur saying they are w out facts. All heresy.
@@opena1759theirs proof. The Menudo boy band confirmed they were sexually abused at Joses home (the father's home). The cousines of Erik & Lyle confirmed they were told by both brothers they was abused. They found out at a young age at like 10 about the abuse. Erik has a scar on his leg of his father's abuse. You cant look at those videos of Erik bawling on stand and believe he is an Oscar actor. Those tears at age 18 are very real.
Read an article where it says that her husband had been raping her teenage daughter. He got arrested and committed suicide while in police custody. Maybe Tammi and Erik bonded over their trauma.
Talk about living in a fantasy world! This married woman begins writing to a kid in an incredibly high profile, internationally followed case. Convicted along with his brother for the murder of their parents, “Tammi” (of course) falls in “love” with the inmate after writing him fan mail. He receives so much mail it takes him a month to respond. Game on! She has to win a Menendes! (I wonder if she tried Kyle first. Hmmmm...) Hey! Let’s get married! Let’s have some fantasy kids in our fantasy life! What does Eric care ? He’s in prison for life. In the meanwhile, “Tammi” now has self-importance. She’s married to a famous Menendes brother! Wow, huh? The rest of the fairytale is as predictable as Cinderella.....if Prince Charming we’re in prison for murder, and if Cinderella would feel important for the first time in her life. A celebrity!
Guess no one has heard the most recent news. In a documentary on Netflix that Lyle abd Erik were in, he said she was worried about her business she owns in Las Vegas that people will know she is married to him because of the movie Monsters coming out. She is now 63 years old and looks different from this.
Yep. And she hasn’t visited since at least 2018, when the brothers were finally reunited. Also I have always supported Lyle and Erik. Since 1990 I’ve wanted them to be set free. However, some of the comments here, good lord. Some women truly live in a cuckoo fantasy land. 😬
Kinda wild that she was married while talking to him. I wonder if her husband was like WTF... I would be so weirded out if my husband or wife was talking to an inmate.
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Being married to someone you met while they're in prison, and being married to them when you're actually living together after their release, are two different ball games.
Yes. Life in prison and life in freedom are different things and Erik has no experience in living in freedom! He was in his dad's prison before the actual one. So may Tammi and him make it work if he is ever released.
This! 100% spot on!
@@Goodneighbourfromcanada If Eric is released, it's going to take him time to be reintegrated back into society. And going straight into married life from being an 18 year old going into prison, and institutionalized, there will be challenges - emotionally and mentally.
A lot of people in comments may not realize all the self growth by doing for others Eric and his brother have done. Also with education. I hope they do get released. Yes, it will be another painful adjustment and I pray they'll be OK ❤
@@SFVGIRL They still haven't lived in society for over three decades. And just because you educate yourself and "do for others" during your incarnation, that's great. However, there's culture shock upon release, and still having to relearn social norms and interactions on the outside.
Tammi, Erik's wife, looks like a news reporter herself.
She’s from a Town about 20 miles from me in Minnesota
@@spellingbee2000you’re a celebrity ✨
It’s the hair style 😂
Oh shoot you're right
Sweet woman I can imagine to be in her shoes 😍
I’m actually very surprised on how good this interview is. The reporter was excellent, great questions!
Most of all, she was respectful and empathetic, that's what makes her great!
@ yes, I agree ♥️
Not like Barbara Walters
The marital test will be when he's released. Hope they make it.
Yes exactly….I hope he and his brother have been able to build strategies to deal with their trauma when they transition to the outside world. Best of luck to them both ❤️.
I think they’ll be okay. Might have to get used to each others’ habits and personal space. I see the love and respect for each other which is crucial for their success.😢They’ve made it a lot longer than the average American who has 2 to 3 divorces under their belt.
Girrrrl I’d have to disagree. Most women would’ve left him years ago! Their true test has been for the last 20+ years that they’ve been apart. I know women who have left their men while they were in county for 30 days😆
Its easy to stay married to someone who isnt in your personal space. Plus they are married and she still has her freedom. Who's to know if she has a side piece @chelseaclark4738
YUP! She doesn't even know his bad habits or if he even snores, lol. Something is wrong w/her.
People always talk about what 'he' and his brother did and spend time asking if they were sorry... What about what HIS SICKO FATHER & MOTHER DID as adult parents to their innocent children? Unbelievable, unspeakable and heartbreaking.
Right! The two brothers did nothing that they should be sorry for. They should forgive themselves because they're the victims here!
😂😅😮
@@Analysis_Paralysis I can imagine they do feel very sorry that they didn't find another way out, but that people judge them with the harsh eyes of a two people in a normal dispute is wrong and heartless.
What the brothers endured is beyond, beyond, beyond what any human should ever have to endure and it is obvious they finally snapped.
I do wish the brothers would have found another way, for their own sake (like exposing the man - I won't call him a 'father' - for his sick urges and the woman for her enabling and neglect).
Those poor men will never get over what happened to them. But It would have been infinitely better if the monster that abused them would have been exposed and delt with in prison... It is sad that it was at the hands of two brothers that suffered more than enough, but the two tormentors got no less than what they deserved.
@@Analysis_Paralysis Murdering someone now makes you a victim? Wow, this country has really gone off the rail with liberal justice.
@@TatyanaValdaBelindaHill What kind of gobbledygook is that? These two men murdered their parents in cold blood, then spent their money. They are not innocent victims and deserve to remain behind bars.
She seems so sweet. I hope they're doing well as a married couple. Hope they can be united outside of prison soon!! xoxo
Uh huh, too sweet
Hope so as well
So she basically admitted that he is still abused to this day bybeing r@ped in prison. Did everyone miss that?! How sad!!!!
@@GameChanger597A lot of prisoners are raped.
Yeah, I'm glad that she seems to be a good person and that she's not someone who's just here to exploit his situation. She seems to really love and care for him. :)
I wish Eric and Tammy nothing but peace, joy and happiness. You guys deserve it most!
Why?
As with any couple - each is raised differently, have different backgrounds, up bringing, and learn to focus on the future and having and going forward with a same plan; to grow, learn from each other and move forward... A handsome couple....
You're the kind of broad to fuck with a criminal, get murdered, and then everyone wonders how it could have happened
@kathygrosvenor7900 I agree with the person that said that and its because he's been in there long enough for something that was wring yes but also in a way justified because I fully believe they were both abused in all ways by their father, including sexually and thats the worst one. Parents are supposed to protect. Not to see their sons as something to abuse in any way they choose. The mother is just as guilty for not doing anything to stop it like getting them out of there and leaving him. I think it was her that cared too much about their money and thats why she wouldnt leave and turned a blind eye to it. They deserve to get out and lead normal lives with their wives, and for Erik to be around the daughter even though she isnt biologically his he's clearly the only father she knows because the wife's first husband died a month before the trial from cancer I think they said. Not 100% sure what his illness was.
@@cpmrealty with no morals nor remorse ! both just me me me!
FYI for the ones not getting it ... That Interview is 20 Years old !
Wow she been married to Erik 20 yrs?
How old is she
Of course just look a the hairdos 😅 I remembered I watched it yrs ago!
@@LittlePieceOfHeaven.65 More than that.
I thought so😅😅
Great questions by the reporter that kept this conversation going smoothly and me fully engaged 👀
Did you notice “Tammi” had little or no eye contact? Interesting.
@kathyg 8:07 rosvenor7900 ...idk...she strikes me as a quiet person not accustomed to be questioned by reporters. I wouldn't place too much emphasis on this point
@@clairelivefreeordie2551 Claire, although I respect your opinion and your right to have one, I fail to see this woman as quiet or nervous while being interviewed. I watch the videos, then I read the transcript. She wanted fame or infamy, which ever came first. While watching his televised trial on TV and becoming enthralled with this young, wealthy, kid, ( he was all of 19) her next move in her new obsession was to write him a letter. Her end goal was a relationship. If you see the situation from the other side, you find a young, entitled, son of wealthy parents. A monstrous murder of both parents by his brother and himself, for whatever the reason, landed them both in prison for life. Yes. People can change in prison. I can’t digest the possibility that out of the thousands of letter writers, he fell in love with Tammi. I would expect inmates to take advantage of these delusional women who claim true love after watching them on TV. His brother married twice in prison. He’d had a three year affair with a woman when he married someone else. They divorced and he married woman # 1. It’s not the real world for them. The women who get involved wouldn’t stand a chance with these two on the outside. Good or bad, it elevates the women to marry these famous or infamous guys.
What happened to her first marriage?
Agree! Definitely wayyyy better than that judge in court
What's up with that stupid background music? Is it really necessary?
I love it and not a problem. They've been doing that for decades.
It's so romantic..
Sounds like a random rice sieve 😂
@@timothyfreeseha4056 with suspense 👀 .....
Its annoying as hell
Let's be real he gets attention also because HE IS HANDSOME I don't know if she would write him if he was ugly
Yeah that's the truth
I don’t think he is handsome at all
Facts
or ... they just bonded with each other
He 'used' to be good looking.
Wait, What in the hell? Not only does she WRITE to a guy that’s in prison, but she was MARRIED AND her husband knew she writing to him. Nutty folks
Her husband passed away and left her behind and their 9month old baby. I imagine Erik got her through her grief and they bonded. They have been married for 25 years now and the little girl considers Erik her dad. Because her own dad died when she was a baby. I guess I personally would not take my child into prison and keep my love life separate but we’re not in her shoes so I’m not gonna judge. We would only know what that situation feels like if we were in it. I hope it works out for them.
@HajnalkaGyurgyovics I absolutely love this comment! I, too, wish them nothing but the best! 🥰❤️
@@HajnalkaGyurgyovicsGood to know.
Even married people can have opposite sex friends, ut doesn't make them "nutty"
What is truly nutty!?? Her former husband abused her other daughter, turned himself in, then killed himself soon afterwards!!
Now, talking about the trust and connection these two have for each other. In fact, out of hundreds of the letters Erik read in prison, he specifically set hers aside and started making a connection...
They don't say "Don't judge until you walk in their shoes" for nothing. I no doubt believe these two have only love and Trust for each other!! Hope they embrace each other soon...
Tammi Menendez is not only a very attractive woman, she also has a peaceful, zen-like aura about her. I hope her husband comes home to her soon.
Quite the contrary..she's 🥜
she’s out to lunch for sure…
@@KatharinaK117 you sound bitter and jealous attacking her in every comment
@@RmonK2000 LMAO.. jealous of a woman who "loves" a parents killer 😂😂😂you indeed must be kidding me! Bitter is your strange profile pic 😂 GROW UP!
@@KatharinaK117 why so nasty? The poster asked you a simple question?
I admire her strength and commitment to him!
@thefamouspeopleus until another comes along
What a beautiful soul ❤
@@ritajernigan-md4jo sounds like a nut job stalker
How do you know she's been loyal?
@@faeridollৎ she is a nut job likes prison bad boys
Thank you for loving Erik.
Gay love
I’m glad Erik was able to find love. I hope Lyle found the same. They both deserve to finally feel what love from others feels like.
He did.
You are glad for someone you don't know.
Live your own life.
@@300sl5What’s wrong for being happy for someone you’ve never met? It’s called empathy
@@john7007 i call it not your family not your business. Have empathy for your own people & not for strangers who dont care about you.
@@300sl5 you're chewing out someone you don't even know. Mind your own damn business and live your own life. Hypocrite much?
If he gets out ...that will be the true test for thier relationship.
It gonna fail
"Happily" married, but wrote a letter and initiated a contact with a different man. Give me a break and fool someone else!
Yes there are a lot of sick women out there
She was bored in her marriage so she knew what she did.
Yeah. Disappointing. I wonder what her ex-husband thought of it all. 😒
Right? To me is ridiculous, and the fact her child calls him dad does not sit right to me. Now I support the Menendez brothers and I hope they’re released but this Tammi woman doesn’t have my respect.
@@bbaciliereisn’t I’m the child his?
I'M PRAYING THE BROTHERS ARE FREED ASAP!!! ❤
They have been in there too long, and I do believe there were abuse and the mother did nothing. She may be afraid of the father herself, me I would do anything to protect my kids
Agreed
@@CarlaYvonne Whether they were abused or not, does not give them the right to murder their parents, shooting mom in the face. Then blame it on a break in. They did not even live with their parents at the time.
@@trebleclef3886Nobody said it was right.... We're moving past that.... maybe not you but many of us are 👋🏼
@aponinodin as someone who is old enough to remember the trial, these two murders are where they belong. Read the facts about what they did. Cold blooded murders.
A psychiatrist could explain this better than me.
I'm so glad that the brothers are going to be heard at last. Their father was a vile abuser and their mother didn't want to loose her fancy lifestyle. So many extended family members tried to expose what the brothers endured. They should both be released while their truth comes out.
When this happened these two were MEN... They could have left any day and time... but they stayed and planned this murder. No abuse was going on. Get a job... move out... be room mates...Instead , they murdered their parents. They wanted the $$$. And should never be on the streets again. I live in Orange county ca and was here when this happened.
I believe them that their father was an abuser and abused them Sx. I suppose if my father did that to me, I’ll probably would react like they did. It is wrong to take someone’s life, but abuse is also wrong.
@@LisaFerguson-lw8il Any form of abuse is unacceptable, however, it doesn't give you the licence to kill. Instead of reporting the abuse to the police, they planned to kill their parents. This is premeditated murder - murder in the first degree.
Eric and Lyle also wasting zero time going out on shopping sprees right after their parents were killed.
@@jeanjones1846- Unless you have been abused yourself in the horrible way these brothers were, you can't possibly imagine the fear it takes to leave - the Father would have tortured them mentally and followed them and ruined their life even if they had left - he had many connections with evil people - you have no self worth, no confidence when you are raised this way - I know this from experience - I pray they get released soon - sorry you can't see what the rest of the world can see
@yourconnection9303 - maybe you should do your research and follow the reason why they went on a shopping spree - there are valid reasons for doing what they did - unless you have experienced what they have, don't be so judgmental, you don't know all the facts
If he gets out, then they have to start living a real relationship.
Hmmm🤔
I hope she is safe
That’s when these relationships fall apart. It just happened with Gypsy Blanchard. Everything was fine while she was incarcerated. She gets out and within 3 months her marriage was over.
@@Katiekay.Hahaha 😂 😂🤣
@@commercialzone4141exactly
The interviewer is a professional. Im so glad Eric and his wife will be together, finally, for the rest of their lives. Its so romantic
Nothing romantic about it. She lives far away from where he is imprisoned and hardly goes to see him now. She is also much older than he is so that makes an impact.
This is an OLD interview.
@@zourxz That is true. He's still in California prison and Tammi has lived in Nevada for several years. I don't know why that is.
@@zourxz Where did you hear she hardly goes to see him now? Why would she stay married to him if shes not interested in visiting?
The woman is highly intelligent. Gorgeous as well and empathetic enough to build a relationship with Erik during his darkest times while surviving prison. Their engagement thru mail obviously led to their long term connection. I do agree however that visiting the prison is different than if they were to be released and they join together in a household. I wish them nothing but well in their fight towards freedom
They will be able to handle being in the real world for how they endured this time being married and yet apart. People can have a strong constitution and acceptance is key. I wish them the time to build on this relationship in a real way. He is full of life which is attractive especially under the circumstances and she looks to her spiritually side for peace & solis.
@@suestephan3255 precisely because he is attractive and still young and full of life he will be more likely to find someone else now that he gets out of prison and discovers the new world
@@Chewbacca-e9x disagree I think she's beautiful inside as well as outside and it's the beauty inside that really counts. Tammy has that beauty. God bless her. I wish her every happiness. ❤
@@visionsbyconnieavila5666 I do agree...nice woman, though...
Yea and she is nuts also..I know several attractive women that are smart also but lord they are crazy as can be
“He healed me”, that’s a loud alarm bell right there
I have no idea how someone can marry a man already in prison serving life sentence with no possibility of parole . No physical contact in the marriage , just emotional connection. I could never . I don’t comprehend these kind of relationships. It’s just wild
Not if Erik is Gay.. she said, he’s perfectly alright without the consummation of the marriage.. he also considers her daughter from her previous marriage as his own.. all this with him being a prisoner..
I have no idea how people date online either. People lying about who they are, using heavy filters. How people "connect" online is mind-boggling. It's like marrying a jailbird. HOW? 🤔
@@SimV239who told you that he is gay? you are still hearing the stories of the Ryan Murphy tv series and just because Erik's father called him gay doesn't mean he was gay, he is not gay and he dated women, plus those who have suffered from SA have strong traumas and lead to confusion of knowing if you are gay or not especially when your own father rapes you at a young age and tells you that you are gay
I feel like it’s not fair to either person because one is imprisoned and can be writing others and the other is free and can be dating others. Companionship is good, but locking each other down when neither can experience the true them doesn’t sound healthy. Not only that, but to be married when you met, expose your child(ren) to a tough situation, focus on a man after your own child went through trauma, and being very older than him (another power imbalance) is very selfish on her part. I couldn’t do that to someone who experienced an already controlled and traumatic life even if they initiated the romance because I know better. Trauma bonding is not a healthy foundation for a relationship. I respect others opinion, this is just mine. I wish them the best and respect their decision. I just wish ppl would consider how their pleasure can affect themselves and those around them mentally, physically, spiritually, financially, and emotionally.❤
They have a kid together. You can have sexual visits with your spouse in prison.
I'm not sure what motivated her to reach out to Erik, or why he responded to her, but I am thankful that they connected, and now their story can serve as a testimony to the power of human connection and compassion. Goddess bless them.
She's still controlling Erik. This marriage won't last long if she keeps it up. Telling Erik not to do a documentary with his brother Lyle..like who tf is she?
@@faeridollৎ...and who tf are you?
@@faeridollৎyou think erik will find another girl?
I always loved Erik and Lyle’s relationships with the women they met while in prison. Some convicts are manipulative behind bars and such but these two were described by the creator of series ‘monsters’ said that both brothers are very humble, accountable, respectful men. And Erik’s wife proves that.
This interview was done 20 years ago. She is 63 now, she is 10 years older than him. She's been living in Nevada for several years already!
cringe
@@thruthemotions When you're incarcerated and gained notoriety because of who you killed, you're going to put on your best front hoping it'll to give you more of a chance for an early release.
As for their wives, time will tell. People whom are doing long prison sentences are starving for human connection from the outside, and will say anything to lure them in, and to keep them around during their incarceration.
@@patbrown2699Yes. Some people really need to do research and get actual updates before commenting.
@@yourconnection9303 Yup great point especially if the criminal is a sociopath or psychopath.
My heart will forever ache for these men that never got the chance to be happy and healthy little boys. I hope they have a beautiful marriage🥹
What a sweetheart. So sensitive. So good for him! ❤
Yeah, he can't wait to take his wife home to meet Mom...Oh, wait, he can't.🤣
Interview is 20 years old .. anything current ?
Yes, however I’m not sure which channel I saw them. There was an interview; only bit pieces were shown. She was driving to the prison. During part of the interview, she was asked about her feelings for him after all these years. She said, She Was in love with him. Took a breath, and then said she is still in love with him. I felt her pause, and the weariness on her face after all these years says a lot
For some of us. First time seeing this!
Exactly what I was thinking
She must be around mid 70s now!
@@Wingedbeagle no i Believe they are closer to 10 years apart so idk how old he ? 53?
She’s 62 .. lives in Henderson Nevada .. owns dog grooming business
Informative and impressive.
Give these two the chance to be together without bars separating them
I read a book years ago that discussed women with "intimacy" issues. Some women don't realize they have intimacy issues and blame the distance on the elusive man they are chasing. One example was given of a true story of a woman who was the perfect "prisoner's wife." She was safe with her intimacy issues while he was always behind a glass. She was the devoted wife for years and years. When he got out, this particular woman couldn't handle the intimacy. I think they both will get out of prison. I'm curious to see how things work out.
Do uou remember the book title? Sounds interesting
@@ashleywatkins1380 It was either "Smart Women Foolish Choices" or "Smart Cookies Don't Crumble." I'm pretty sure it was one of those. The book taught me that I had a fear of intimacy but didn't know it. I was hiding behind the guy who had the issue and blamed him haha
I'm that woman, the one who doesn't realise she has intimacy issues and blames it on the emotionally unavailable and elusive man I'm always chasing..... 😂 Legit .
I only very recently stopped and started to realise omg I think I'm also commitment phone, afraid of intimacy.... Which is really hard to get my head around bcoz inside the way I've always felt is the opposite of that, like I crave love closeness intimacy etc ... But now I'm realising that actually I may be a version of someone who has intimacy issues and sabotages the chance for me to get that .... 😮😮😮
@@bettywillbrowse Take comfort that you are not alone and an expert wrote about it in at least one book. I think my issue was that I was hurt so badly in the past. I really wanted to love and be loved, but I think on a subconscious level, I felt "safer" in the "infatuation" "intoxication" phase and chose or stuck with guys who had the same problem. I was probably not willing to risk the level of pain in something more deeper. This book helped me understand that I was part of the problem when I was always blaming the guy for being non-committal. I received confirmation when one day I thought he was trying to get closer, and I was SHOCKED because I began to panic. I was so shocked at my reaction. It was what I wanted, strived for, and waited for. I had another surprise regarding my weight. I struggled with my weight my whole life, but when I want, I have the discipline to lose even 90 pounds. I would go way up and then way down. One time when I was planning to lose all of the weight again, something from my subconscious sneaked in and shocked me. I had some resistance because losing all of that weight and being so skinny, I would lose my "suit of armor." Again, I learned something about myself and what was going on behind the scenes with my subconscious, and it was always about "protecting" myself even when I was not aware of it. Best of luck to you! You're way ahead just by knowing how you're wired.
@Sunshinensea thanks 🙏😊. what is the book ?
There is more to this story. Come on she was a married woman writing letters to a prisoner, why Erik? Then she tells us that her husband was okay with it??? No LOVING husband would be okay with his wife writing letters to a prisoner. This story doesn't add up. Is she after something we don't know about???? Something tells me the story hasn't ended yet. If/When he is released the story will continue and media is going to be all over it too.
That creeped me out…she’s married and then thinks its hot to write and be with a murderer….friggin ew!!! Something wrong there down deep!
Her husband literally ended himself after SAing their daughter.. then she went with Erik..that's how the relationship started
She started writing him when she was still married. I wonder if she was also physically attracted to him & hoping it would turn into something (because she said in the bw interview that in her first marriage she wasn't emotionally supported).
im just wondering if she was so concerned about his pain she felt compelled to write him a letter, then did she also write lyle a letter?? cuz why wouldnt she have cared for his pain too. so idk if im buying her story.
Looks .. she may not have realized it it. She wrote Eric because of looks. If an average looking guy was on that stand…she never writes the guy
@@Jamesgeeee In that case, Lyle was much better looking than Erik, yet she didn't write to lyle because she knew Lyle isn't someone that she can control, he's not vulnerable enough to fall for someone and just let them control his Life, unlike Erik. Just look at how this woman controls Erik and everything he does... She wouldn't dream of doing that to someone like Lyle because lyle (or just any rational guy) wouldn't let that slide. And Lyle sure as hell won't watch his wife profit off of him...I wish Erik was a bit more mindful of her motives
I wondered the same thing: She said she felt drawn towards Erik & his pain watching him on Court tv. Lyle expressed painful emotions also so why wouldnt she feel compelled to write him? It could be Erik had a pull on her also because of the way he looked & she wasn't mindful of it or was.
Tammie you’re the best gift and thing that happened to Erik… you’re a blessing to him. Thank you for coming into his life.
Pretty crappy thing to do to her husband. Wonder if Erik will drop her if and when he gets out.
I mean…he is still beautiful
@@rossanariccio2863Ugh!
What do you mean?
Did she leave her First husband for Erik?
@@lydiadoyle1163 She cheated on her husband and left him for Erik, if I understood correctly. And Erik was fine with that. Trashy 🙁
I've heard of very few prison inmates who will tell you they are guilty. Most everyone in prison is innocent to hear them tell it.
They’ve never denied they killed their parents.
@@Jazmine-t9t Oh yes they did deny it. They said they were at the movies and came home and found their parents shot. They chaged their story when they were caught lying. They had several renditions. The one that has garnered everyone's sympathy was being sexually abused, which only came about after Leslie Abramson came onboard. The tale had worked really well for her prior client Salvatierra. With that story she got him voluntary manslaughter for shooting his father with only 5 years probation. They hoped it would work for them, but it did not.
I would like to see them do an interview with Tammy's husband let us hear his side of the story of what went down when his wife started writing to this guy in prison.. I bet you we would hear some juicy stuff
He died lol, ended himself after she told him to go hand himself to the police when he was caught SAing his daughter.
@@faeridollৎOMG! How can she trust this one now
She couldn’t have been happily married if she left her husband for Eric.
I think I saw a documentary a few years ago where she moved with her little girl to a small desolate town nearer the prison to be closer to him. It wasn’t long before she moved back where she came from because she said it was just too hard.
He’s not a threat to society,he gave his reason in court for doing what he did and went to prison for it.He deserves a second chance.
No he doesn’t they need stay where their are
@@harpergoss4706they are* 😂
@@Buttondor345 bro shut up and stop nitpicking and go do something else
No second chance lady. Grown men killed there parents. They can get out in there 90's
If she did that to her ex husband what makes her think Erik will be faithful to her once he’s out. What goes around comes around.
Wow. Shes married and starts writing to a man accused of the crimes he was at age 18 meaning he had zero life experience on the outside. At the time he was sentenced it was life no possibility of parole. So she leaves her husband to marry a guy in prison for life. I don’t get it.
She didn't leave her husband 🤦🏻♀️. Her husband was doing improper things to their daughters and when she found out, she reported him. I'm not sure if he still in prison or if he died but they have no contact.
Her husband passed away when their daughter was 10 mouths old
Tammy found out her husband at that time was r***ing their 15 year old daughter, he turned himself into police and then he committed suicide 2 days later
@@nillyk5671wow
There are lots of mentally disturbed women who find male murderers in jail attractive...
Sick sad people.
She must’ve found him incredibly attractive and told her husband a line of bs for him to be okay with her writing to him!
And he's just 18.
Her husband was molesting her oldest daughter at the time. Another sicko. Maybe that's why he didn't mind
I have watched so many testimonies across UA-cam of how men and women were sexually and mentally abused since childhood, by a family member. The stories are truly sickening.
What a sincere lady! You are both so lucky to have each other hope a new phase of your lives are about to be explored! Much l9ve Scotland x
What a great woman! Warm greetings from Canada to Tammi and Erik! May he be released from prison very soon. He has served the justice long enough!
She says "He was only 18 when the murders happened" rather than "He was only 18 when he and his brother murdered their parents."
*murdered their abusers
At 18, he probably felt he had no other options. Tammy said it best, he made a horrible mistake. I hope he is released, and he can experience unconditional love. Something I think he never had 😢
He didn't make a "mistake." He murdered his parents!
With what money? Dad has already cut them off
Did it come out during the trial that their father was abusive? I always felt like they should have received time but definitely not 35 yrs. I can understand the ‘why’ in this case. They were just kids. They were living a horrible life and I can’t even imagine their trauma. They should be released.
1st trial the abuse evidence wss o produced. Both Erik and Lyle testified. ( heartbreaking )
51 witnesses testified about abuse
The jury hung . Split down gender lines. Females wanted manslaughter. Males wanted murder.
2nd trial abuse evidence was not allowed.
It did in the first trial and this is why there was a hung jury but the judge didn't allow this information to be presented to the jury during the second trial, which is preposterous and they had no choice but to find them guilty of murder.
They were not living at home yet they killed their parents. Ridiculous that people are being led by the media to see these guys as innocent.
@trebleclef3886 Erik WAS still living at home. He had just graduated H.S in June 89.
He planned to move away to go to school.his preference was Brown as it was far away from CA . Jose forbid him and told him he was going to ucla and was living .at home
Lyle was going back to Princeton and wanted to take Erik with him .
They had plans to get away .
This interview was 20 years ago, she will turn 63 on October 21.
I wish her book was in print. I’d like to know more about the brothers outside of the murders and trial. Please bring her book back into print.
The book was trash tbh. I remember my friend bought one. Tammi usually sold them for around $130 and it had lots of spelling errors in them lol
Getting proposed marriage during behind bar for a life sentence? Holy crap. I don't know who's the crazier one - the convicted murderer OR the girl who knows nothing about him.😂
she's used him for her books and for the fame then she complains and says she didn't want erik to do his documentary with his brother because it will affect her business...she's a weirdo!
Did you educate yourself on everything known about her first? Her "husband" tried to SA her daughter, she found out, husband got put in jail and unalived himself. I understand why she would feel empathy towards an SA victim, and why she would value an emotional connection with a man she deems innocent and pure-hearted over a physical one.
@@lyannabucket2772Oh please..I have also read her book and she explains that she also felt sympathy for her husband and she didn't want him to go to jail and she waited till he was in jail then allowed her daughter to get therapy after
@@faeridollৎ whoa 😮
What they jumped over and maybe should have emphasized is that Erik is STILL being abused 9:19 only now in prison. Such a hard life. 😔😔
I am happy he has you
Ok I admit this is pretty weird….
Why? Because it doesn't match your views?
@@nillyk5671 no, because she was married and they had never even met when they declared their love for each other only through letters and an occasional phone call. Didn’t you watch the interview?
I worked in a prison happens lot , women love a bad boy dark side . Prison or not we’re all ppl , and guards fall for inmates
@@nillyk5671we’re all human beings all we want is someone to love what’s wrong with that?
Not only pretty...a million times weird...
Did you educate yourself on everything known about her first? Her "husband" tried to SA her daughter, she found out, husband got put in jail and unalived himself. I understand why she would feel empathy towards an SA victim, and why she would value an emotional connection with a man she deems innocent and pure-hearted over a physical one.
If the boys get out I hope they stay together
I hope this woman gets her husband home for Christmas.
AGREED! ❤I am praying so hard for these 2 brothers to be set free! 🙏🙏🙏
I'm praying for release for both Lyle And Eric 🙏❤️
Very interesting. I wish you would have ask questions about her marriage and what was the turning point of her getting out of that marriage.
Yes that’s what I want to know
Doesn’t get a hug or human touch from
M-F??!!😡
Do you know how many inmates go without human touch for 5-30years or more! 😢
Could have done without the music in the background 🤦🏼♀️
lmao. Those drums had me dying laughing.
This interview is from 2005 (19 yrs ago), do you have anything more recent?
my own wife barely speaks this highly of me!! LOL
Hybristophilia - This is a woman that is romantically attracted and wanting to be with someone that has committed a crime. The desire to fix him. Yikes 😬
I've heard of that but I wonder if she herself thinks she has that condition.
You all think this is a sweet, love story. Is it though? She was married already and was trying to deny falling in love with Erik. I mean if you are going to start writing a man and calling him and this continues over years, chances are you will develop feelings for one another. She knew what she is doing.
Thank you Tammie for being an angel for Erik. I’m so proud of you. Have more patience and the real freedom will prevail.love you both❤
I wonder how long the marriage is going to last, if Erik is ever released from prison.
It'll last forever I guess...afaik Erik fought with Lyle for this woman...even tho the very reason y he's alive today is because of his older brother Lyle...but you know, "love is blind" I guess, especially when the woman is 10 years older and controlling, which much feel super familiar to him, considering his upbringing.
@ I hear you. I really did not follow the case and have nothing more to say about the Mendez men. However, I wish them the best. Thank you for your reply.
I would be scared to death for him to be released and live with me. Nothing is going to take away the fact that he shot killed his mother and his father. no matter what happened to him. He was an adult and could have left and never spoken to him again. It wasn’t necessary for them to kill both parents.
They didn't feel they could run away cause their dad would find them.
@@detectivedaffodil437 Oh, what a great excuse.
I would feel the same way!
Adult?! Just barely! People need to educate themselves. 18 is still a child, brains aren't even full formed until 25 and that affects our decision making! When you turn 18 you over night just become a whole responsible human being, huh?! Such an ignorant statement. 🙄
The father made it clear if he ever told, he’d be killed. Why would he not believe him?
This woman was called to be his wife
FREE THE BROTHERS!!!!
She sounds like a weak woman though
No freedom
Who called her@? What?
This women must have been instrumental in keep him going strong after all what he went through !!! That is the unconditional love he never received from his parents ! Whether they survive or not as couple in the future it does not matter but hoping it will work out for them cause in the end she was there when he needed it more !!! God bless this couple I wish you all the very best ! Erik broke my heart after watching the Netflix series he just deserve better ! Their parents were monsters !!!
You are crazy wanting your 5 minutes of fame…marriage to someone like this is psychologically messed up and any psychiatrist or therapist will tell you the same you are extremely naïve
The continued abuse his brother and him went through is unforgivable, not what they did to defend themselves
Wait till he gets out. That’s gonna be the real test. An entire generation of 20 year olds are wanting him.
They're thirsting over footage from 35 years ago. I'm sure very few of them are interested in the 55 year old version of him.
@@renegademuse They're young, and their "sympathy" for Erik is as deep as a wading pool. The minute Erik does something they deem "unforgivable," they will want him back in prison. A few months ago they had the same "sympathy" for Drake Bell, now he's out and Erik and Lyle Menendez are all the rage!😁😁🤣
I can imagine women in their 40s or 50s being interested in them not any younger
Enough is Enough FREE The Brothers😢😢😢❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
No. Thank you very much
what's this drumming background
Time served! I hope they get out of prison
What year was this interview conducted?
20 años más o menos.
People this woman left her husband for another man. And not just any man, a man in Prison, convicted of cold blooded murder. There is something fundamentally wrong with this woman.
Her now dead husband is a child molester.
@@lnqxr you’ll still have idiots defending her like she’s the Virgin Mary
@@MissysAngelsshe was writing him while she was still married. She knew what she was doing.
Did you educate yourself on everything known about her first? Her "husband" tried to SA her daughter, she found out, husband got put in jail and unalived himself. I understand why she would feel empathy towards an SA victim, and why she would value an emotional connection with a man she deems innocent and pure-hearted over a physical one.
@@lyannabucket2772so what I’m hearing is she’s only attracted to criminals
For those who question the stability of a relationship becoming carnal after years of physical distancing on the part of those involved being prevented from physically consummating that marriage, I recognize that there are other examples of failed relationships in similar situations, which does not invalidate this point of view, but it is also true that since he was a child Erik has learned to face the emotional and mental challenges that life has offered them and putting into practice a marriage that has lasted decades will not be the most difficult challenge for him, which deep down in his soul is what he most desires for his life after all the history of suffering in his life.
Really do not understand women marrying someone they did not know in their life, who is in prison for life.
Just don't get it.
In hindsight at 66 he was just a boy. I pray with all my heart knowing now what SA brings to lives that he gets released. That they both get released and that Eric and his incredible wife will flourish!
Free the brothers!
I’m confused here 0:52. So she’s married before? Before marrying Erik?
Ya her husband died
Her husband ended himself after he was caught SAing their daughter
If he planned his parent brutal murder, I certainly would not marry him. How do you know he will not turn on you.
Hold on..towards the end, she said that he endures the same type of abuse in prison that he grew up with at home!? 😭
15 shots. Thats beyond brutal. If they are lying about the molestation, then they truly are evil.
@The-Portland-Daily-Blink confirmed the molestation? Or that the dad was a disciplinarian unlike most of the push over Beverly hills dads
Menudo came forth as a victim, so seems they are not lying. Knowing how dark the entertainment world is (think P. Diddy), it fits the air of Hollywood. The brutality of the crimes fit the personal damage they experienced.
Planned, premeditated and covered up. It was murder.
@@melodymusik261 n how many of those in Hollywood r lying n chose the lifestyle? Again, we don't know any of the accusations r true. But ur saying they are w out facts. All heresy.
@@opena1759theirs proof. The Menudo boy band confirmed they were sexually abused at Joses home (the father's home). The cousines of Erik & Lyle confirmed they were told by both brothers they was abused. They found out at a young age at like 10 about the abuse. Erik has a scar on his leg of his father's abuse. You cant look at those videos of Erik bawling on stand and believe he is an Oscar actor. Those tears at age 18 are very real.
Read an article where it says that her husband had been raping her teenage daughter. He got arrested and committed suicide while in police custody. Maybe Tammi and Erik bonded over their trauma.
Talk about living in a fantasy world! This married woman begins writing to a kid in an incredibly high profile, internationally followed case. Convicted along with his brother for the murder of their parents, “Tammi” (of course) falls in “love” with the inmate after writing him fan mail. He receives so much mail it takes him a month to respond. Game on! She has to win a Menendes! (I wonder if she tried Kyle first. Hmmmm...) Hey! Let’s get married! Let’s have some fantasy kids in our fantasy life! What does Eric care ? He’s in prison for life. In the meanwhile, “Tammi” now has self-importance. She’s married to a famous Menendes brother! Wow, huh? The rest of the fairytale is as predictable as Cinderella.....if Prince Charming we’re in prison for murder, and if Cinderella would feel important for the first time in her life. A celebrity!
“The abuse continues in the prison” 😔😔 i hope its not what I think it is
Guess no one has heard the most recent news. In a documentary on Netflix that Lyle abd Erik were in, he said she was worried about her business she owns in Las Vegas that people will know she is married to him because of the movie Monsters coming out. She is now 63 years old and looks different from this.
Yep. And she hasn’t visited since at least 2018, when the brothers were finally reunited.
Also I have always supported Lyle and Erik. Since 1990 I’ve wanted them to be set free. However, some of the comments here, good lord. Some women truly live in a cuckoo fantasy land. 😬
@@JusticefortheMemendezbrotherswhy are you making up things?
It's just money to put on their books
Kinda wild that she was married while talking to him. I wonder if her husband was like WTF... I would be so weirded out if my husband or wife was talking to an inmate.
Sorry, but it's wrong to keep writing to a man in prison while being married. This is an adulterous relationship.
Her husband was SAing his daughter so..
It’s a story written down on a piece of paper. Seems real but when the door is unlocked, reality begins.
I don’t have to be with him to realize how beautiful person he’s. I take a one look at him and I see that.
go seek help from a mental health specialist… urgently…
“Do you think Erik will ever forgive himself?”
“No. He will never…..”