New York State Prisons: How to Avoid Rape in Prison - Men's Orientation

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  • @Nine_883
    @Nine_883 27 днів тому +360

    I was in for 20 minutes before some guy offered me a fresh pack of donuts from his commissary. I said I ate a huge meal before I came in. He laid it on the table and said “Just take it for later. You’re not going to owe me”. I had a news paper and started reading. I left the donuts. Never touched them. Late he put them back in his foot locker. I spoke with people, but took nothing. Turns out that guy was actually a good guy who was the toughest guy on the block and he actually seen my fear. He never threatened me. He kept the peace. When I was released I had $14 on my books and signed that over to him. My whole time he spent making sure nobody got assaulted, robbed, or even had a fight.

    • @mikeludwig1076
      @mikeludwig1076 12 днів тому +25

      One time a guy took my cup, which was 5$ commissary and I had never been in jail before and had didn't want to be look vulnerable, so I confronted him all tough and crazy. He was a foot taller and 60lbs heavier but I had a haircut that made me look kinda nuts, and I gave him the wild-i-don't-feel-pain eyes. He handed me the cup and it was tense for a second and then everyone laughed, it was literally not a big deal, people are usually just people OK we had lunch after that and watched TV

    • @2ndAveScents
      @2ndAveScents 8 днів тому +8

      @@mikeludwig1076yo where can I get one of those haircuts

    • @HandlelessTML
      @HandlelessTML 4 дні тому +3

      Not the direction I thought that story was going. Glad you made it out safely

    • @grap3eblood
      @grap3eblood 4 дні тому +1

      glad this story had a good ending

  • @DarkSpade87
    @DarkSpade87 Рік тому +6221

    Extraordinary courage for a man to admit to others he was raped like this and also commit to helping others like this.

    • @chiefs816kc
      @chiefs816kc Рік тому +180

      He also wrote a book about his unfortunate prison experience. It was a very difficult book to read. Hopefully young men getting into trouble will read it and turn their life around.

    • @slowpoke96Z28
      @slowpoke96Z28 Рік тому +131

      And he said it so non-chalantly. Like someone took his orange juice.

    • @greenaum
      @greenaum Рік тому +230

      It shouldn't need courage and there's no need to be ashamed. He was overwhelmed, there's nothing he could have done to fight his way out of if, and there's nothing he did to make it happen. It's no more shameful than being shot or someone breaking your nose. The shame is all on the people who do it.

    • @umelokarnes5460
      @umelokarnes5460 Рік тому +143

      He was strong. They didn't take his manhood. He wasn't gay, they were.

    • @umelokarnes5460
      @umelokarnes5460 Рік тому +68

      ​@@slowpoke96Z28he's a man! A lot of guys in prison turn gay after a life experience like that. He's mentally a very strong man!

  • @Eljonno
    @Eljonno 9 років тому +14125

    Who else is watching this like "I hope I never need to use this information" lol

    • @inferno0020
      @inferno0020 9 років тому +70

      Jon for sure

    • @abrahimalderwish8274
      @abrahimalderwish8274 9 років тому +440

      Lmaooooooo I don't even know why I'm watching this

    • @zenokazuya5882
      @zenokazuya5882 9 років тому +44

      word

    • @MrDaimed
      @MrDaimed 8 років тому +188

      I'm watching cause it doesn't look good for me, so I'm preparing for the worst.

    • @TyhlerNovac
      @TyhlerNovac 7 років тому +21

      Jasmine xox Mclean My Cousins is down for 6yrs in Attica State and is a first timer

  • @digitalstreetcode5729
    @digitalstreetcode5729 5 місяців тому +1340

    To anyone reading this, i hope you were suggested this video

    • @youdontknowme2508
      @youdontknowme2508 5 місяців тому +83

      Yes I was. Am I going to jail soon?

    • @yadusolparterre
      @yadusolparterre 4 місяці тому +9

      😝

    • @arckmage5218
      @arckmage5218 4 місяці тому +25

      Been watching lots of "how crime works" videos. I'm guessing that's why this has been recommended.

    • @katiepartin7291
      @katiepartin7291 4 місяці тому +2

      Me for some reason 😄

    • @jwill5892
      @jwill5892 4 місяці тому +7

      Nah I looked it up

  • @mikecynic5167
    @mikecynic5167 3 роки тому +10872

    "I was gang raped, I'm telling you this because I don't want this to happen to you"...That's one hell of a motivational speech there bud.

    • @fadedlyricz
      @fadedlyricz 2 роки тому +757

      Bro caught me off guard with that intro

    • @speedpot
      @speedpot 2 роки тому +193

      um yeah and wassup with that mustache

    • @Money_maker12
      @Money_maker12 2 роки тому +179

      Sorry bro hope your doing ok

    • @Dav-hz8mm
      @Dav-hz8mm 2 роки тому +262

      Would've been epic if he immediately followed with " its not for everyone."

    • @surgicalshooter911
      @surgicalshooter911 2 роки тому +126

      How brave and caring of you to share your story. 🥰👍

  • @KarlRock
    @KarlRock 11 місяців тому +3229

    Forget jail, this is life advice.

    • @goyworldorder
      @goyworldorder 11 місяців тому +74

      hindi pewdiepie

    • @porkbunpapi6365
      @porkbunpapi6365 11 місяців тому

      true my G, i aint trying to get raped out here at the Rec Centre in the sauna or steam room!

    • @generalpurpose772
      @generalpurpose772 11 місяців тому +56

      I agree - there is a lot of good information here that you can put to use outside of prison.

    • @SigmaGamingLLC
      @SigmaGamingLLC 11 місяців тому +7

      no it is not.

    • @MrChococat84
      @MrChococat84 11 місяців тому +2

      Right!?

  • @PrimericanIdol
    @PrimericanIdol 2 роки тому +4945

    Been to prison myself. As long as you're laid back, stick to your group, don't join gangs, and don't start shit with others, you will more than likely be fine. If someone tries to cross you, you MUST ALWAYS be assertive and fight back. Respect is EVERYTHING on the inside. You cannot let any affront to you slide, no matter how small. If you let one small thing slide, it will make you a future target.

    • @jerryneal9006
      @jerryneal9006 2 роки тому +432

      Well put. Been there too. Always stand up for yourself and be willing to fight. There are predator's, prey, and dudes doing their own time and minding their own business. The deal is to be the latter. And also someone the predator's know not to f**k with.

    • @KimPham525
      @KimPham525 2 роки тому +49

      That last sentence is exactly like the off-site receipting section of Centurion Transport in Hazelmere.

    • @hoodoo2001
      @hoodoo2001 2 роки тому +187

      I had a client who told me about his experience in Prison.... 5 years for murder (I think he served three), and he said generally the same thing. He was about 25 if I remember correctly. He learned how to become invisible. He was a small black young man who was better educated than most and had been in no trouble before the murder. He had just snapped due to a lot of mental abuse by his girlfriend AND exhaustion from work. The jury gave him probation but the probation department and the judge just looked for a reason to revoke him. He has done OK after prison.

    • @davidz3879
      @davidz3879 2 роки тому +177

      Many inmates are targeted simply because of their vulnerability.

    • @davidz3879
      @davidz3879 2 роки тому +174

      @@jerryneal9006 How about if you can't? If the attacker is much larger, heavier, stronger than you? Or there are two, three etc. of them against you on your own?

  • @Cak3lla
    @Cak3lla 17 днів тому +46

    This is the best "Do not involve in crime" warning I have ever seen.

  • @evanhankinson9225
    @evanhankinson9225 7 місяців тому +2985

    Prison is a place of such contradictions. Convicts claim they hate child molesters but a child doesn't last 24 hours without being raped among them, by them.

    • @BlackJesus8463
      @BlackJesus8463 6 місяців тому +289

      Most people are sociopaths.

    • @JM-md4ri
      @JM-md4ri 6 місяців тому +191

      It’s almost as if there’s different people with different opinions wow what a crazy concept

    • @incarnateflame3462
      @incarnateflame3462 6 місяців тому

      ​​@@JM-md4rilmao aMmmmAaaZzing!!
      I say we thank boss up there cuz we just dumb ole booty doooin felons without him

    • @nathanfreeman7362
      @nathanfreeman7362 6 місяців тому +78

      Damn that's a great observation.

    • @mremu4358
      @mremu4358 6 місяців тому +37

      Not everyone shares the same crimes

  • @jasoncooper3588
    @jasoncooper3588 5 років тому +5251

    My goal is to stay out of jail period

  • @squalace_
    @squalace_ 10 місяців тому +3137

    You know a system has failed when that system needs a video like this.

    • @alphaomega8373
      @alphaomega8373 10 місяців тому +13

      Noting is failed if there's no options.

    • @JackStorm-mx5rt
      @JackStorm-mx5rt 10 місяців тому

      @@alphaomega8373 there is it’s called condoms

    • @eliking3333
      @eliking3333 10 місяців тому +110

      Your absolutely correct. Unfortunately though the people that run this corrupt business feel like that should be part of a punishment for inmates. How is punishment for a rapist when he is still acting out his sick fantasies in prison with no punishment ? Rape in prison is even a joke in mainstream media, and movies.

    • @sticksnstonespatriot1728
      @sticksnstonespatriot1728 10 місяців тому +35

      It's mostly because of the Brothas. They are 20 times more likely to do this 😢
      It's because of a combination of higher testosterone levels and low impulse control

    • @Hyrule409
      @Hyrule409 10 місяців тому +34

      @@sticksnstonespatriot1728 holy shit. redpill moment.

  • @JohnDaker_singer
    @JohnDaker_singer 2 місяці тому +149

    It's sickening that the government puts people in such jeopardy of being assaulted in this manner. No matter what the prisoner has been convicted of, their punishment is a predetermined period of incarceration which does not include being assaulted. The prison system has a responsibility to keep inmates safe.

    • @AlexHarbuz
      @AlexHarbuz 28 днів тому +4

      In theory yes in practice rarely...
      Most who do time are made worse by their time there plus many are badly traumatized. Nowadays I keep my distance from those who done time because they too often think as if they were still inside sadly

    • @zone5breezy
      @zone5breezy 27 днів тому +4

      How can the prison system keep inmates safe, no one actually wants to be a correctional officer. It’s one of those jobs people take bc that’s all that’s in their town paying a little more than minimum wage. They are risking their lives around hard criminals constantly…they are just trying to get in and out alive daily. None of those COs are trying to make a difference. They are massively outnumbered by inmates.

    • @JohnDaker_singer
      @JohnDaker_singer 26 днів тому +5

      @@zone5breezy “How” is not my problem. It’s the government’s problem.

    • @thetortoise4107
      @thetortoise4107 12 днів тому +1

      thanks for repeating what the warden said in the video in your last two sentences, John Daker! Now sing us off with a Catholic hymn!

    • @JohnDaker_singer
      @JohnDaker_singer 12 днів тому

      @@thetortoise4107 I hope you find yourself in prison one day. You’ll change your tune. …and I’m an Episcopalian.

  • @andrewbennefield529
    @andrewbennefield529 3 роки тому +1683

    I've been to prison I was willing to absolutely anything to prevent this from happening. But fortunately there were really good people in prison who hated rapists of any kind. And they pointed out the people who I should avoid.

    • @justinjackson4073
      @justinjackson4073 2 роки тому +49

      Same! I had quit a few bros from the streets in there already and none of that was tolerated. Seen a couple gunners get knotted up with batteries and ran out the barracks. I was never approached like that but I don't come off as an easy push over neither.

    • @flightofthebumblebee9529
      @flightofthebumblebee9529 2 роки тому +65

      Dude I agree. I met some great friends in prison and it became easy to spot the slime bags and cowards. I even actually stood up for people a couples times despite telling myself that was a bad idea. I tried to be patient and understanding and it became easy and I saw a lot of good in seemingly 'bad' people.

    • @pjabber5679
      @pjabber5679 2 роки тому

      Yeah, the disgusting hypocrisy how often you hear "inmates don't take kindly to rpists", yet quite a few of them actually are that themselves inside it.

    • @DongWang-m4n
      @DongWang-m4n 2 роки тому

      @@justinjackson4073 What happens to asians in prison? Did you see any when you was locked up? I 'm thinking if the mufcka is small and has a girlish vibe / look about him, he gets preyed upon. Some horny mufcka makes him grow his hair long, wear daisy dukes, fruit punch powder lipstick and changes his name to suzy wong or some sh t like that and makes him give him massages and cook his ramen.

    • @justinjackson4073
      @justinjackson4073 2 роки тому +49

      @@flightofthebumblebee9529 it all depended on the person. I seen all kinds of dudes bitch out and become a punk but I also seen dudes stand up for own and be just fine. They wasn't swole up or badasses for the most part and they had no real connections that mattered. They were just men and handled their own and they did just fine as far as I knew.

  • @Pulsonar
    @Pulsonar Рік тому +1139

    The guy who introduced the video shocked me with that one liner about his gang rape victim experience more than what the serving prisoners shared. Takes a strong man to survive that shit, acknowledge and deal with it psychologically and then to help others mitigate the potential for that to happen.

    • @SUMMERGIRL4500
      @SUMMERGIRL4500 Рік тому +17

      I agree

    • @Ditch_Head
      @Ditch_Head Рік тому +19

      @jasonvoorhees5640what makes you think it was blacks?
      Fix up dude you’d probably have your cheeks split on arrival

    • @LiamGallagher-x9h
      @LiamGallagher-x9h Рік тому +5

      The book.

    • @Cholo.from.Atlanta
      @Cholo.from.Atlanta Рік тому

      Yeah that threw me off like spitting my food out !

    • @davidsilveiradamota4531
      @davidsilveiradamota4531 11 місяців тому +3

      It really does. Congratulations for his testimony and counselling to young inmates.

  • @tech4life884
    @tech4life884 Рік тому +997

    I was always told the #1 rule was:
    #1- NEVER accept anything from anyone for free or as a loan.

    • @xidiamond6851
      @xidiamond6851 10 місяців тому +49

      But if you don’t accept it it is a sign of disrespect and will receive retaliation so either way you’re screwed

    • @pearlsswine
      @pearlsswine 10 місяців тому +9

      Lol wut? You can accept things as a loan if you actually pay it back lol.
      You're already thinking "what's he finna do when he finds out I intent to never pay back lol".

    • @Hyrule409
      @Hyrule409 10 місяців тому +111

      @@xidiamond6851 People who operate like that were always gonna be your enemy.

    • @stancexpunks
      @stancexpunks 9 місяців тому +18

      I know it’s completely different from prison and also I’m a female but we all shared/gave away our stuff all the time. I was going thru heroin withdrawals so some girls offered me their Advils, and I was only gonna be in for 4 days so I was also offered shower supplies since I wouldn’t be in long enough to get commissary. And since you have zero appetite while in w/d’s, I gave away my food allll the time. Well, more like girls would see most of my food was uneaten and ask if they can have it to which I always said sure. Then when it was finally time to get out, I gave away all my supplies to the other girls in my pod. Never once did anyone expect something back; we gave and took freely and accordingly. Got help and gave help without expectations. God, I love being female lol

    • @thestranger8528
      @thestranger8528 9 місяців тому +16

      ​@@stancexpunks That isn't prison

  • @777moon4
    @777moon4 3 місяці тому +44

    This is actually such an incredibly empowering video. I am so glad sexual abuse prevention measures can be made in such an accessible and heartfelt way. this has definitely helped SO many people, and I’m really impressed with this prison’s response to this crisis.

    • @jocm99
      @jocm99 20 днів тому

      yes, a youtube video will definitely stop rapists from doing rapists things! So empowering! You fucking donkey.

  • @photo161
    @photo161 10 місяців тому +275

    There are no words adequate to convey my admiration for a man who could turn such personal suffering into a life devoted to helping others avoid such cruelty as he had to experience.

    • @Reeeeeee12345
      @Reeeeeee12345 9 місяців тому

      Maybe he just wants all the dong for himself?

  • @horseygurl143
    @horseygurl143 Рік тому +1299

    "Staying safe isn't snitching." So very true. School counselors should have a poster of this in their offices and use the topic as a lesson plan.

    • @bricksquadmonoply8835
      @bricksquadmonoply8835 Рік тому +14

      So is that saying snitching/ratting on some one is justified if your life is on the line?

    • @timorthelame1
      @timorthelame1 Рік тому +46

      Well if you ever have to do some hard time, I would strongly advise you to not snitch inform or whatever else you want to call it. Prison isnt high school.

    • @horseygurl143
      @horseygurl143 Рік тому +4

      @@timorthelame1 I will try to keep my nose clean and stay out of there!

    • @keifer7813
      @keifer7813 Рік тому +26

      ​@@timorthelame1But these guys are talking about a life or death situation. So if you don't snitch, you might get killed anyway

    • @glemmstengal
      @glemmstengal Рік тому +9

      @@bricksquadmonoply8835 Of course. Your life is the most important.

  • @generalpurpose772
    @generalpurpose772 11 місяців тому +2393

    Go into prison for armed robbery with a child’s toy gun, leave prison the victim of gang rape. He came out with more trauma than he came in with, how is anybody supposed to get a fresh start and make better choices when they’re more broken when they came in? Looking at the man I can see he has his life together now, but my heart breaks for what he went through as a young man.

    • @Matthew-qq9nx
      @Matthew-qq9nx 8 місяців тому +18

      Obviously he was able to do it what's your point

    • @generalpurpose772
      @generalpurpose772 8 місяців тому +302

      @@Matthew-qq9nx My point is that he is an outlier. A lot of people who went through what he did don’t get help and they never recover emotionally.

    • @ZRBx4
      @ZRBx4 7 місяців тому +37

      F around and find out. Just live a good life. Especially if you aren’t about that life.

    • @generalpurpose772
      @generalpurpose772 7 місяців тому +105

      @@ZRBx4 Two wrongs don’t make a right - the inevitable result of crime has to be some form of curtailing of personal freedoms and rehabilitation. Truly, as much as I know there are evil humans who I would happily see suffer - SA can’t ever be the way of doing that, because the person committing that act is turning themselves into that same monster capable of doing something like that.
      If it’s another monster, but someone who is twisted in the usual criminal way has no qualms about tearing their soul further to punish someone who has committed acts far worse to those who are totally innocent - I don’t see any moral dilemma about letting one monster destroy another. It’s like the rubbish is taking itself out. But for something like an attempted armed robbery? That is an awful thing to do and that is a traumatic thing to put someone through. It isn’t monstrous enough to deserve Big Bubba, almost nothing is monstrous enough to justify that.

    • @ZRBx4
      @ZRBx4 7 місяців тому +25

      @@generalpurpose772 hello there! I was not arguing 2 wrongs make a right. I simply stated if you wanna dabble in the life, you consent to all that may come with it. That person was lucky they didn’t get smoked when robbing with a fake gun. Prison/jail is wild. I do believe the system is faulty. I feel bad for the truly innocent people who get caught up in mistakes. That’s a tragedy.

  • @itsicearmour
    @itsicearmour 4 місяці тому +31

    The 28 Days Later theme on this is CRAZY.

  • @saintonerism
    @saintonerism 5 років тому +2668

    This documentary makes it look easy to report but ask anyone in the system how difficult it is. Often times the CO's are part of the problem because they're in on the violence.

    • @marccalizaire8848
      @marccalizaire8848 5 років тому +105

      The movies never lied.

    • @StoicObserverS
      @StoicObserverS 4 роки тому +126

      Yes, there are evil COs and good ones.

    • @klosiemorris9896
      @klosiemorris9896 4 роки тому +16

      In South Africa the warden take you to the man who sex with you

    • @chad6288
      @chad6288 4 роки тому +207

      From the sounds of some of the prisons, the CO's are absolute demons compared to these police officers people are freaking out about. Why can't the families and friends on the outside get together and start pushing to investigate and sue the correctional officers for allowing rape or stabbings.

    • @shyrin369
      @shyrin369 4 роки тому +51

      I was thinking the same thing. That n the other inmates do see it as snitching. Should not tell other inmates what's happening either. You'll be a punk then to them.

  • @edwingibson628
    @edwingibson628 2 роки тому +503

    I was in prison and I stopped two men from being raped, I was against that kind of stuff, most men in prison are, and I know a lot of guys still doing time that would help anyone from this happening to

    • @FreedomofSpeech865
      @FreedomofSpeech865 Рік тому +50

      God bless you! I hope you turned your life around

    • @MikeManning-p8u
      @MikeManning-p8u Рік тому

      If you in prison for more than 10 years without having sex, you'll not going to be able to control yourself.

    • @slowpoke96Z28
      @slowpoke96Z28 Рік тому +37

      Thats relatively comforting to hear.

    • @wishingwell_333
      @wishingwell_333 Рік тому +20

      ​@@slowpoke96Z28yeah glad to know there are ppl protectors out there too

    • @redneck_sk8ter_dude891
      @redneck_sk8ter_dude891 Рік тому +4

      Thank you

  • @MrAdrienmartinez
    @MrAdrienmartinez Рік тому +324

    I read a book called "The Perfect Victim" when I was nineteen years old. I learned to be paranoid to take any gifts from strangers, especially food.

    • @christalcotton30
      @christalcotton30 10 місяців тому +6

      Whose the author?

    • @Rob-z7k
      @Rob-z7k 10 місяців тому +5

      Common sense..why would anyone accept a gift? Unless its my girl... No thanks.

    • @Reeeeeee12345
      @Reeeeeee12345 9 місяців тому

      ​@@Rob-z7kEven then, don't take it.

    • @noneisallminussome371
      @noneisallminussome371 4 місяці тому +6

      Read Gift of Fear by Gavin De Becker as well

    • @Hi-xz6on
      @Hi-xz6on 12 днів тому

      ​@@christalcotton30Hi. This is quite late but I have found multiple books under this name but I believe he means the one by Christine McGuire and carla Norton

  • @nemethma
    @nemethma 5 місяців тому +47

    Hell of a video to watch on a Monday!

  • @DemonEvidence
    @DemonEvidence 2 роки тому +920

    This guy is a complete proverbial bad ass, for havng the courage and will, to explain what happened to him, so that others can avoid it. People, like these, are the ones who keep our world, from being any worse than it is.

    • @albertmcfry6322
      @albertmcfry6322 Рік тому

      My older brothers son served 5 years b

    • @abbybarrett4855
      @abbybarrett4855 Рік тому +9

      I completely agree, regardless of what the person did or who they are, prison is not a place for crimes to be committed.

    • @JohnPickup-CDHS-ze6qd
      @JohnPickup-CDHS-ze6qd Рік тому +3

      We have to keep our criminals safe. God forbid anything bad happen to them

    • @abbybarrett4855
      @abbybarrett4855 Рік тому +5

      @@JohnPickup-CDHS-ze6qd people who commit crimes behind bars should be given an extended sentence.

    • @tonydimartini
      @tonydimartini Рік тому

      They are. @@abbybarrett4855

  • @The_Tiffster
    @The_Tiffster 2 роки тому +611

    This is vital information. My ex went to prison at a young age and he was never the same... he passed away almost 30 years ago. There are trolls in the comment section; they are obviously either not secure enough to show amy vulnerability or they are predators who want to establish/maintain a culture of shame and secrecy - don't let their proclivities affect your mindset; these are not people with morals, empathy or honor and have nothing to offer.

    • @patkearney9320
      @patkearney9320 2 роки тому +15

      Regards and respect lol Ireland. Eire32

    • @davesteadman1226
      @davesteadman1226 2 роки тому +13

      Bless you sister!!

    • @toad1988
      @toad1988 Рік тому +1

      *Stepsis heeheheheh@@davesteadman1226

    • @producedby3am344
      @producedby3am344 Рік тому +8

      They are the people who would be doing the assaulting in prison, either that or the ones being assaulted

    • @Mana_Sun
      @Mana_Sun Рік тому +9

      My idea is to shout "I have aids!" Or std and maybe they won't do fuck me. Would it work? Hopefully I won't have to test this out...

  • @ziplink79
    @ziplink79 10 місяців тому +465

    That guy T.J. Parsell wrote a book about his experiences in prison. I read it not long ago and the things he described were absolutely horrific. It's so admirable to see him use his experiences to help others entering the same situation.

    • @bigkahuna3534
      @bigkahuna3534 10 місяців тому +4

      did they turn T.J. out ?

    • @mvj1153
      @mvj1153 10 місяців тому +73

      @@bigkahuna3534 He's the one who said he was gang raped. He's a brave man for telling his story and helping out many people. Big respect!

    • @lourdes-amaliatalbert748
      @lourdes-amaliatalbert748 8 місяців тому +5

      Ziplink, I've looked for T.J.'s book on Amazon but can't find it. Any suggestions as to where else to look?

    • @davidmarchant9386
      @davidmarchant9386 8 місяців тому

      ​@lourdes-amaliatalbert748 maybe UA-cam as an audiobooks, Google play store, Audible and maybe dailymotion

    • @weeniehutjr9977
      @weeniehutjr9977 6 місяців тому

      @@bigkahuna3534wtf

  • @RandytheLatheGuy
    @RandytheLatheGuy 2 місяці тому +19

    The Warden and Officers should be charged, it's their job to run the prison, for rape to be so commonplace is complete incompetence of leadership. these men are sentenced to time, not rape! the state and the entire administration should be held accountable.

  • @Ahmiseysoh75
    @Ahmiseysoh75 Рік тому +929

    All mothers should share this video with their sons. If this doesn't make them think twice about going to jail, I don't know what will.

    • @0101-s7v
      @0101-s7v Рік тому +46

      An inmate came to my high school and alluded to the possibility of being raped. That was enough to make me think that I never want to go to jail, much less prison.

    • @theobnoxiousguy3425
      @theobnoxiousguy3425 Рік тому +65

      Why not fathers?

    • @karlwilliams8906
      @karlwilliams8906 Рік тому +13

      Unfortunately with some of these kids it's a lost cause..

    • @lisasimpson8003
      @lisasimpson8003 Рік тому

      @@theobnoxiousguy3425 the fathers have already left my "community"

    • @Nicolae_Mew
      @Nicolae_Mew Рік тому +55

      The threat of sexual violence shouldn't be an incentive to abide by the law.

  • @quackslikeaduck
    @quackslikeaduck 9 місяців тому +2748

    I think the algorithm has lost its mind

    • @christianmeza4941
      @christianmeza4941 9 місяців тому +40

      😂😂😂

    • @GFFF-xd8oz
      @GFFF-xd8oz 6 місяців тому +1

      The algorithm spamming prison rape videos would def be a good crime reducer

    • @Tyler-sl6vg
      @Tyler-sl6vg 6 місяців тому +108

      Why did we watch it and why are we reading all the comments what is happening!

    • @walterdabrowski918
      @walterdabrowski918 6 місяців тому +2

      lol bravo well said

    • @Nobody18718
      @Nobody18718 6 місяців тому +35

      I was just looking for how to make the best spaghetti, how the hell did I wind up here!

  • @raindrops1942
    @raindrops1942 4 роки тому +587

    I was over here bored at home when I heard him say “I was gang raped”
    Am enjoying being “bored”at home from now on...no need to interact with humans who could send you to prison.

    • @BlackPanther-vk5ew
      @BlackPanther-vk5ew 4 роки тому +47

      Exactly!! We need to show teens alot of videos like this. So, they KNOW REALITY!! .....Not a bunch of fake thug life on media, online, Hollywood, Sports, All star, etc. Many kids, teens, even young adults are not afraid of going to jail or prison. Only cuz most have NEVER even gone to an actual jail or sub station.

    • @landychapman3
      @landychapman3 4 роки тому +9

      better than being BORED. (As in BORING thru a tunnel)

    • @chickenleg820
      @chickenleg820 3 роки тому +12

      It's best to avoid people as much as possible.

    • @Jeremy-sj3pr
      @Jeremy-sj3pr 3 роки тому +10

      This is honestly the best philosophy to have.

    • @Punisher1830
      @Punisher1830 10 місяців тому +3

      @@BlackPanther-vk5ewalso keep in mind shit like this also happens outside of Jail, especially in or around the illegal drug market.

  • @TimBailey-e9c
    @TimBailey-e9c 4 місяці тому +18

    Never been to prison or jail in my life. So far it seems that dropping my ego and pride is working. Not doing drugs of any kind. I also don't drink in public. I don't even chase women anymore. Staying at home seems to be my bread and butter. Books and writing is appealing, I enjoy working out to.

  • @MerryLozza
    @MerryLozza 5 місяців тому +777

    This is some scary shit. They should show this to teenagers in school to keep them out of prison

    • @wailingalen
      @wailingalen 5 місяців тому +7

      Yes!!!

    • @jennifergraham5801
      @jennifergraham5801 2 місяці тому +3

      I agree

    • @standdownrobots_ihaveoldglory
      @standdownrobots_ihaveoldglory Місяць тому

      Except that people do not go to prison because they heard it’s fun. Tell me who doesn’t know about m2m prison rape. This is why well meaning people with no relevant education or experience need to be quiet. That’s how DARE burned millions of dollars with no results. You might want to believe that your idea has merit, but you’re an evil person if you prioritize what you wish was true over reality. No, that absolutely will do nothing to prevent a kid from crime. This topic has been discussed plentifully for over 20 years, how did you learn nothing??? Do you even know what method of prevention marketing is the only one to show any results? Do you know what the top 5 most influential factors are in determining who ends up in prison? Do you even know what I’m talking about? Why dear god would any of you weigh in? Do you tell NASA how much fuel you think a rocket needs? You have no expertise and even suggesting this dumbassery tells me you don’t care if you waste all the money, you don’t want society to improve, you just want to do nothing & find a way to congratulate yourselves.

    • @jamalsalads
      @jamalsalads Місяць тому +4

      When I was stuck in booking they have this old video on repeat telling us we have rights if we get raped until we got into the cell

    • @Nefylym
      @Nefylym Місяць тому +2

      it wont help, theyll just bravado it away and keep on keeping on, remember back then how it felt to be immortal and indestructible.... until life proved you wrong?

  • @audioamz
    @audioamz 10 місяців тому +175

    This world needs more men like T.J. People don't realize how many men, too, are victimized. Most of them push it deep down and take out their rage on others... or sadly end their own lives. This man spoke out in such a brave and healing way. I pray more men feel safer in this society to be vulnerable and share their experiences for the GOOD of others. God bless this man

    • @orppranator5230
      @orppranator5230 6 місяців тому

      More men are grapefruited in prison than anyone is grapefruited on the outside.

  • @dechannigan2980
    @dechannigan2980 2 роки тому +628

    Never trust the 'over friendly' 'over gregarious' either in prison or in the outside world, there's usually a motive..

    • @kathleengivant-taylor2277
      @kathleengivant-taylor2277 2 роки тому +28

      I live in not so good area and alot of the info here applies on outside on street also.

    • @gaywizard2000
      @gaywizard2000 2 роки тому +2

      you must have a nice life!? Sheesh.

    • @ThatGuy-sc5rx
      @ThatGuy-sc5rx Рік тому +12

      ​@@gaywizard2000you must have a sheltered one

    • @gaywizard2000
      @gaywizard2000 Рік тому +2

      @@ThatGuy-sc5rx no, don't think so. On my own since I was 18. 37 years ago!

    • @deathlarsen7502
      @deathlarsen7502 11 місяців тому

      you learn this the hard way? hard meaning a convict's wiener go up your keester

  • @Cortesan2u
    @Cortesan2u Місяць тому +7

    This is universal advice- the same principles of caution apply on the outside.

    • @GravyDog
      @GravyDog 25 днів тому

      Yep, that’s why I glued my balls to my butthole at age four. I shit out my nose and have learned to fart out my ears.

  • @ShoJ369
    @ShoJ369 10 місяців тому +340

    I know two people who were in Prison, when they reported the threat of rape, they were laughed at. The officers turned a blind eye, whike they were being assulted. Sometimes those who run the prison are the inmates !

    • @DS-uo5ie
      @DS-uo5ie 10 місяців тому +36

      The devil 👿 and his henchmen are everywhere!🙏

    • @firstnamelastname6717
      @firstnamelastname6717 10 місяців тому +11

      FACTS

    • @T9RX3
      @T9RX3 10 місяців тому +7

      I saw that episode on HBO too

    • @Vr-cz2zx
      @Vr-cz2zx 8 місяців тому

      I heard stories from a friend who paroled from prison, a creep went inside for molesting and killing his 7 year old niece and he was gang raped and beaten daily. Gaurds would transfer him out to keep him safe, and same thing would happen again..Dude was used and abused on the daily.

    • @MsJonessss
      @MsJonessss 7 місяців тому +2

      i saw how that whole scenario play out in a movie called “lockdown.” And i think in American Me the inmates put something in the guy drink and lured him home an empty cell.

  • @D_Vito
    @D_Vito 11 місяців тому +113

    Big Ups to the incarcerated men in this video, especially the man who exhibited courage in admitting he was gang raped and sought to educate new ones on how not to be a victim. Great video!

  • @abbybarrett4855
    @abbybarrett4855 Рік тому +72

    When that guy said “you really have to trust your gut” it gave me goosebumps. In my life I can definitely relate.

  • @tomsauer3830
    @tomsauer3830 25 днів тому +3

    I've never been to prison, but to jail several times, all because of alcohol. The worst part besides the actual surounding was the feeling of lost hope for myself. Anyone reading this, take to heart what they're saying and use it when you're on the outside.

    • @CompaDv
      @CompaDv 9 днів тому

      Jail is nothing compared to prison been in out many times

  • @christinab9808
    @christinab9808 10 місяців тому +75

    It’s better to be safe than to live with an experience that will last a lifetime. Best advice ever.

  • @macnos
    @macnos 8 років тому +436

    "At the end of the day you have to save your behind". Figuratively and literally.

    • @pancho6255
      @pancho6255 4 роки тому +3

      Macnos and your MOUTH too!!!

    • @jebidiahnewkedkracker1801
      @jebidiahnewkedkracker1801 2 роки тому +2

      Hmm, that might require taking one's head OUT of of one's behind to start with?
      Probably easier said than done, because given all I know (or THINK I know), sticking my head up my "four pointed contact" CAN be an escape of sorts....As far as the "smell"?? No problem....I can tolerate the smell of my OWN lower digestive tract more than I can tolerate the smell of other's. 🤣🤣

  • @Aivottaja
    @Aivottaja 5 років тому +445

    I find it admirable how matter-of-fact the narrator manages to be, despite his experiences. From his eyes and subtle body movements, you can tell it, naturally, still pains him, but there's no crack in his composure.

    • @StoicObserverS
      @StoicObserverS 4 роки тому +52

      Just because someone is violated or harmed does not mean they are weak.

    • @cpf6125
      @cpf6125 4 роки тому +20

      Stoic observer
      Nice comment. Anyone who displays stoicism during hardships gets a lot of respect from me.
      Your username is the best possible prison and life advice I could give in just two words.

    • @crapmonstr
      @crapmonstr 4 роки тому

      maybe he liked it, they drugged him

    • @barrykelly5661
      @barrykelly5661 4 роки тому +3

      It’s very good information for juveniles 🇮🇪👍💯

    • @crapmonstr
      @crapmonstr 4 роки тому

      ZeroWolf maybe I would, they just need to drug me

  • @babydii3487
    @babydii3487 22 години тому

    My uncle did 30 years. I am 30 years old and we have the same birthday! I love you Uncle ❤❤🙏🏽 thank God for preserving you

  • @Avenged7xJunkie
    @Avenged7xJunkie 8 місяців тому +536

    my method of avoiding prison rape by not going to prison has been working exceptionally well

    • @SpartanFitnessMma1
      @SpartanFitnessMma1 4 місяці тому +5

      Exactly, gotta be guilty of shit to go to prison

    • @ERivera403
      @ERivera403 4 місяці тому +52

      @@SpartanFitnessMma1not all the time

    • @ERivera403
      @ERivera403 4 місяці тому +21

      Not everyone is lucky

    • @darthplagueis-z6y
      @darthplagueis-z6y 3 місяці тому

      ​@@ERivera403How can a man rape a man? Through his ass hole?

    • @viderevero1338
      @viderevero1338 3 місяці тому +22

      ​@@SpartanFitnessMma1Definitely not true homie.

  • @ms.t6661
    @ms.t6661 Рік тому +267

    May God be with the men that have suffered sexual abuse in prison and thank you men for sharing your stories, experiences and what not to do.

    • @Iamhere829
      @Iamhere829 Рік тому +4

      Amen ❤

    • @MoriohAnime
      @MoriohAnime Рік тому

      🙏🏽📿💙Ameen

    • @austinhernandez2716
      @austinhernandez2716 10 місяців тому +4

      So you're saying that God was there, watching it happen? Wtf

    • @baileyharrison1030
      @baileyharrison1030 6 місяців тому +1

      @@austinhernandez2716 God sees everything we do, good and bad. That’s kind of the point.

  • @ellajones9844
    @ellajones9844 10 місяців тому +198

    “Trust no one and proceed with caution “ that’s my motto and I’m not even IN prison

    • @sapientum8
      @sapientum8 6 місяців тому +4

      _Don't trust, don't fear, don't ask._ (GULAG wisdom)

    • @boxcutter0
      @boxcutter0 4 місяці тому +1

      Seems like prudent caution & risk avoidance should be better balanced with calculated risk, preparedness & optimistic thriving.

    • @JOAT_AMOS
      @JOAT_AMOS 3 місяці тому

      💯

    • @jennifero1836
      @jennifero1836 2 місяці тому

      This is excellent advice, I agree 💯

  • @takekonakama4318
    @takekonakama4318 3 місяці тому +1

    This is really an eye opening experience to hear what these inmates have gone through. Before watching this video, I was convinced they deserved to be treated harshly, now I am convinced no one deserves to be treated so poorly no matter what they have done. I am glad they are working to improve this type of situation. Serving your time without being brutalized needs to be done without fear. I pray for the ones that have been harmed.

  • @kim3295
    @kim3295 5 років тому +451

    What’s extremely sad are that these tips they’re giving about being wary of ppl being nice for no reason, are the exact same tips parents need to be aware of for their young children and the adults around your children. Be extremely suspicious of ppl that seem to be doing things “for no reason.”

    • @angelchrista930
      @angelchrista930 2 роки тому +35

      You are correct! I always taught my daughter whatever you need or want mommy will provide. You dont need to take anything from anyone whos promising you "goodies". Kids do need to know that.

    • @charleswhite8603
      @charleswhite8603 2 роки тому +7

      Excellent point

    • @susieadams1342
      @susieadams1342 2 роки тому +14

      You're friends will sell you out in prison for smoke food perfection the only friend you have in prison is yourself and trying too play like you're hard only says you're weak ! You're only friend in prison is cashmoney

    • @susieadams1342
      @susieadams1342 2 роки тому +10

      Nothing free nowhere the streets just like prison watch who you trust snakes comes in all shape ages collors ,background

    • @Mister_Listener
      @Mister_Listener 2 роки тому +11

      Yes! And to a certain extent, it applies to the workplace, too!

  • @flightofthebumblebee9529
    @flightofthebumblebee9529 2 роки тому +484

    I spent 13 months in prison at age 36 and it was a COUNTY prison not a state prison. Check your ego at the door, and keep your eyes and ears open until you find friends you trust. The more other inmates see you friendly with other inmates, they'll likely leave you alone. Do your pushups and try to lighten up and not take it so seriously. Don't stare at anyone and always be respectful to both staff and inmates. Say thank you if someone offers you something but never ask for anything. Be polite to staff and they'll be much more likely to help you and give you things. I did very easy time and even tried to help others. I never got in even one fight or argument. It definitely sucks but you CAN make the most of it just by using common sense.

    • @rucianapollard7098
      @rucianapollard7098 2 роки тому +44

      Glad you got out unscathed

    • @cathleenmcmahan8794
      @cathleenmcmahan8794 2 роки тому +7

      That's Great ✨God Bless✨

    • @williamjones6053
      @williamjones6053 2 роки тому +30

      I'll take fictional stories for a 1000 Alex ....you don't have friends in prison ..you have acquaintances ..not friends

    • @gino423
      @gino423 2 роки тому +4

      Well said.

    • @recycled3654
      @recycled3654 2 роки тому +9

      Did you ever hear of or witness rape in a county jail? It's considered pretty disgusting and sickening to practically anybody. I've never heard of it in county jail system. Though in some prisons, there's some pretty disgustingly sick people doing serious time in there, for their own amusement would be very capable of rape.

  • @hedonister
    @hedonister 10 місяців тому +866

    the prison version of don't accept candies from a stranger

    • @vladcraioveanu233
      @vladcraioveanu233 9 місяців тому

      "Fuck your candies, I am not your sweetheart, I am a male slut and I want you to fuck me notromance!" 😅

    • @-Swamp_Donkey-
      @-Swamp_Donkey- 6 місяців тому +36

      Don’t take no cookies from Tyrone

    • @DSM-114
      @DSM-114 6 місяців тому +2

      @@-Swamp_Donkey- 😂😂

    • @PitbullFromSuburbs
      @PitbullFromSuburbs 6 місяців тому +5

      @@-Swamp_Donkey-Tyrone don’t like when you forget to clean up after yourself in the shower neither. Pick that soap up NOW

    • @bioshockfanxxx1122
      @bioshockfanxxx1122 3 місяці тому

      😂

  • @AdrianMunch
    @AdrianMunch 7 місяців тому +241

    It’s terrifying when two man hold you down and take turns. You never look at a man the same anymore. Especially an angry man.

    • @julia-jn5zx
      @julia-jn5zx 4 місяці тому +54

      You’re one of the sadly many men who can truly understand the fear and disgust and shame that comes from s exual assault :( I believe u and you didn’t deserve it and I understand your pain as a teen girl I’ve seen it and been thru it more times than I can count and I wish there were more protections for men especially

    • @julia-jn5zx
      @julia-jn5zx 4 місяці тому +7

      You’re one of the sadly many men who can truly understand the fear and disgust and shame that comes from s exual assault :( I believe u and you didn’t deserve it and I understand your pain as a teen girl I’ve seen it and been thru it more times than I can count and I wish there were more protections for men especially

    • @diesemautokerl2181
      @diesemautokerl2181 4 місяці тому

      ​@@julia-jn5zx Men do get raped you asshole

    • @MyLifeInTheDesert
      @MyLifeInTheDesert 4 місяці тому +42

      Women have known this feeling since the beginning of time

    • @jwill5892
      @jwill5892 4 місяці тому +23

      ​@@MyLifeInTheDesert What immortal women are you friends with!?

  • @pushingthroughthepaperthin9616
    @pushingthroughthepaperthin9616 2 роки тому +336

    They should NOT put underaged kids in adult prison. Especialy for crimes that do not involve violence.

    • @SamathaNLouisiana
      @SamathaNLouisiana 2 роки тому +78

      There should be separate facilities for violent versus non-violent offenders.... but that would require more effort than any state is willing to put in.

    • @pushingthroughthepaperthin9616
      @pushingthroughthepaperthin9616 2 роки тому

      @@SamathaNLouisiana Yep. The only thing that they could be bothered to do is create COMPLETELY different prisons for white collar criminals.

    • @robinmcdaniel3276
      @robinmcdaniel3276 Рік тому +3

      💯

    • @KASH.B59M
      @KASH.B59M Рік тому +23

      Believe it or not but the adult part of jails and prisons are far less worse than the younger kids jails and prisons. For the most part the adults just wanna get it over with and go home but the kids are way more violent and use their time proving they are the hardest kids in the facility (pause). Especially in places like Rykers Island 🤦🏿‍♂️

    • @philip9566
      @philip9566 Рік тому +24

      I partially disagree. Violent Teenaged murderers, child molesters deserve to be put there. For petty crimes though, I agree they should NOT be put in adult prison.

  • @jezebel-uh4qr
    @jezebel-uh4qr 9 років тому +212

    I actually learned a lot even though I'm not male, not in prison, nor do I plan on being, in the future.

  • @pickleriiick7294
    @pickleriiick7294 Місяць тому +4

    Love the entry level job orientation production quality.

  • @gezblair
    @gezblair 8 років тому +156

    Had advice from a friend who done three years. Never accept a favour from anyone. Say thanks but no thanks and always pay your way.

  • @PrincessKaylorOfficial
    @PrincessKaylorOfficial 6 місяців тому +73

    I'm glad men can speak up about how gruesome the action of rape is, I would hope they advocate for the safety of men and women and turn away from a life of crime

  • @JasonBranford
    @JasonBranford Рік тому +143

    Excellent job. What strikes me is how relevant much of this advice is to the world in general - outside of prison. Predators, of all types, exist in every society. The lessons offered here easily can be applied anywhere.

    • @irliamthischool
      @irliamthischool Рік тому +7

      Word, I peeped game and now shower with my clothes on. Saves doing the laundry too

    • @JeromeProductions
      @JeromeProductions Рік тому

      im not sure if you're serious but if you are... i hope you're only keeping underwear@@irliamthischool

  • @kristinefrink5726
    @kristinefrink5726 2 дні тому +1

    Thank you, such an informative video. I pray that fear won't prevent an inmate from seeking to follow ALL the suggested actions.

  • @sunsetheart23
    @sunsetheart23 Рік тому +80

    This is something everyone should watch including middle and high schoolers. Its so easy to commit a crime but get caught and your whole world changes.

  • @k30sking
    @k30sking 9 місяців тому +33

    I just stumbled upon this video. But found it compelling and watched it all the way through. Someone else stated the people who were willing to talk and help fellow prisoners were very articulate. They were also brave to be filmed in this way, and courageous to stand up against people who abuse others in prison. Hope this video is shared widely in schools and colleges as it may aid people in deciding against wrong doing.

  • @jodybogdanovich4333
    @jodybogdanovich4333 Рік тому +341

    Prayers for my 22-year-old grandson currently incarcerated. This is my biggest fear for him. 😢🙏

    • @mrspaulb3889
      @mrspaulb3889 Рік тому +15

      ❤️

    • @uhjeff3651
      @uhjeff3651 Рік тому +11

      What'd he do?

    • @jodybogdanovich4333
      @jodybogdanovich4333 Рік тому

      @@uhjeff3651 Drug addiction and stole cars. He was accepted into rehab and Drug Court and was doing well for over a year and was holding down a job. But then he relapsed and broke his Drug Court contract so he was sent to prison for 3-1/2 years. I pray he realizes he will still have his whole life ahead of him as a young man when he gets out and stays out of trouble.

    • @lightbeing8174
      @lightbeing8174 Рік тому +5

      @@smf2072 yes sir right away sir.

    • @rojamillerover
      @rojamillerover 11 місяців тому +2

      So sad

  • @sillysenpai
    @sillysenpai Місяць тому +3

    This video makes prison so much more scary

  • @KerryDSC
    @KerryDSC 2 роки тому +233

    My step father did 17.5 straight state/fed and did his time in some seriously dangerous Facilities. He used to school me on this type of stuff and how to survive in prison. He never bragged, it was more matter of fact and his ability to read people and situations was out of this world. I really credit him for being a strong male power of example to me at a point were I felt I could have gone either way. He really taught me some powerful lessons and many truths both good and bad

    • @chrismullin8304
      @chrismullin8304 2 роки тому +7

      We all have to do our best to break the cycles. Even after we make mistakes.

    • @cerovk6000
      @cerovk6000 Рік тому +7

      What did he do to get 17.5 years? Lol

    • @Indusxstan
      @Indusxstan Рік тому +4

      @@cerovk6000 same question.

    • @martinvanburen4578
      @martinvanburen4578 Рік тому +10

      "@KerryDSC
      9 months ago
      My step father did 17.5 straight state/fed and did his time in some seriously dangerous Facilities. "
      that's cool...but he did 17 years, not sure how he can be a strong example.

    • @Memory76
      @Memory76 Рік тому +7

      ⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠@@martinvanburen4578Yeah, it’s almost like you read one sentence on the man!
      Of course you don’t understand anything about him

  • @algore4u
    @algore4u Рік тому +133

    I'm terrified for my brother who's in jail because he has a mental disability and very vulnerable. He's coming out soon. I really hope I don't hear this has happened to him.

    • @Pulsonar
      @Pulsonar Рік тому +15

      You’re waiting to hear if anything happened to him after he’s served his time? Didn’t you advise him before he went and visit him in the interim to check that he’s doing ok?

    • @algore4u
      @algore4u Рік тому +25

      @Pulsonar so you just think I'm waiting for bad news? Obviously I would hope this doesn't happen but as I said, he has a mental impairment, so it's not just sitting down and coaching him once about something and he gets it. Learn a little on mental disabilities

    • @Pulsonar
      @Pulsonar Рік тому +14

      @@algore4u No need to be arrogant and cynical like that man, every mental health case is unique. It would really insult you if I were to make base assumption that your unique case falls into some general category and then I behave with condescending and patronising advice like I got your picture. That’s why I asked questions as I have a brother who has mental impairment too and he distances himself from everyone the last 21 years. That’s why you’re comment struck a chord , my questions m wasn’t to criticise or to be negative, it was to learn, understand and perhaps support from a mutual perspective. My apologies if my comment read different and it got your back up.

    • @joewinch7548
      @joewinch7548 Рік тому

      You're a passive aggressive a*hole and troll. That's all I have to say.@@Pulsonar

    • @cardsfan1590
      @cardsfan1590 Рік тому +6

      ​@ali6943 I've been to prison a couple times in my younger days,and turned my life around. 99.9% of the people in there won't pray on someone with disabilities,and most inmates won't respect or allow something like that to happen

  • @joefran619
    @joefran619 9 місяців тому +93

    When I was 20 years old I did 10 days in jail. To many driving violations! That 10 days was so bad of losing my freedom to me I swore I would never be back. That was 44 years ago, I learned my lesson.

    • @pierced.523
      @pierced.523 4 місяці тому

      You were abused by society. They crushed you and made you submissive. Congrats!

  • @elayna3312
    @elayna3312 27 днів тому +2

    Don't know why I watched this but wow, I'm glad I did. Very Interesting!

  • @Cade805
    @Cade805 Рік тому +110

    The number of real world (outside of prison) lessons I learned from this is actually life altering, holy shit. I’m really grateful to the creators of this doc

    • @FreedomofSpeech865
      @FreedomofSpeech865 Рік тому +1

      Same!

    • @ohsnap8572
      @ohsnap8572 Рік тому +1

      Same

    • @86crud
      @86crud Рік тому

      Y’all are young guys? That’s good to know it helps people. Don’t use drugs out here either. Back in the ‘60s and ‘70s there was stuff out here that could be fun. It’s not like that anymore. Y’all got the short end of the stick in that deal, but just let it go and stay away. Your drugs out there today has its own drugs. They aren’t chemists, and you shouldn’t be trusting them to press your pills or mix your anything else. I guess I’m not terrified of green yet but I sure keep waiting to hear stories about them f’ing that up, too.

    • @love-if7wt
      @love-if7wt Рік тому

      Me too 😆

  • @blackflag5148
    @blackflag5148 Рік тому +572

    You shouldn't have any shame or guilt if you've been raped. It was out of your control.
    It doesn't make you lesser then anyone else. What doesn't kill us makes us (stronger).
    🙏🧡

    • @davidtsmith33
      @davidtsmith33 Рік тому +17

      True.

    • @_WF23
      @_WF23 Рік тому +13

      I was in a 4x4 & I did what I had to do to survive.

    • @thomasfowler8212
      @thomasfowler8212 Рік тому

      Just watched a vid by a former inmate who had to listen to a guy get brutally raped over rhe course of a night. In the morning the guards found him tied up and blood everywhere, they tased the rapist and the guy had to be carried out. He now spends his remaining time in a psych ward, smears himself with faeces and has basically lost his mind. It doesn't necessarily make you stronger

    • @warrioremperor6320
      @warrioremperor6320 Рік тому +3

      It’s funny 😂

    • @MARK-f4p8g
      @MARK-f4p8g Рік тому

      watch other youtube show, search TURNED OUT PRISON. warden allows their vices, sex drugs because it kepps them "out of our hair" warden allows men be raped in alabama prison. chek it ot

  • @stevelandry6825
    @stevelandry6825 Рік тому +98

    3 things you must do to survive prison.
    1-don't disrespect
    2-keep your word
    3-mind your own business
    Oh, and LEARN the phrase " Excuse Me"

    • @Frilleon
      @Frilleon Рік тому +4

      excuse me as in "i'm sorry" or what?

    • @ahsaiiara
      @ahsaiiara Рік тому +3

      ​@@Frilleoni think as in please, coming through. Well as in sorry but not I'M SORRY offended kind of sorry. Lol it's hard to explain expression in words 😂

    • @Fallenstartheone
      @Fallenstartheone 10 місяців тому +3

      @@Frilleon it´s a conversation opener if you dont know the person and want to trabble , just like if you bump into someone on the street excvept 200times more important.

    • @420workoutcrew
      @420workoutcrew 10 місяців тому +5

      Those are all very good tips, but what about fighting!? Even if you don't disrespect, keep your word, and mind your business - surely someone will test you to a fight or jump you when you first arrive. Or do you avoid fights by applying these three rules? Bc it seems kinda hard to mind your business when they spiked that guys drink with thorazine :(

    • @pearlsswine
      @pearlsswine 10 місяців тому

      That's four things, Billy. But that's okay, what you lack in counting ability, you make up for in spirit :3

  • @mike.p.1400
    @mike.p.1400 11 днів тому +2

    I don’t ever plan on being inside.
    But you never know.
    I think this was good information.

  • @bengully5076
    @bengully5076 9 місяців тому +20

    “At the end of the day, you have to save your behind !” Greatest summary of the entire video. This was surreal n scary, rape, STDs, depression, suicide, this video can help a lot young men in High School

  • @1usnmsc0
    @1usnmsc0 3 роки тому +337

    Outstanding presentation from the inmates to the entire staff! My son is incarcerated and we've discussed these exact same procedures. Glad to see your agency being proactive and that the transparency is on point.

    • @gaywizard2000
      @gaywizard2000 2 роки тому +1

      in case he likes it and switches?

    • @StoicContrarian
      @StoicContrarian 2 роки тому +5

      How did you fail your son that he ended up in there?

    • @ruledtrendy5066
      @ruledtrendy5066 2 роки тому

      @@StoicContrarian what a dick move from you. Do you feel better for that? Feeling nice and smug sitting around sniffing your own farts thinking they don't stink?
      You didn't want to know what happened out of interest, you just wanted to demean someone to make yourself feel superior for a few seconds.

    • @ChristianGibbons777
      @ChristianGibbons777 2 роки тому +28

      @@StoicContrarian More like the system could’ve failed him maybe???
      You’d be surprised actually.

    • @IsraelCountryCube
      @IsraelCountryCube 2 роки тому

      ​​@@StoicContrarian that's an asqshole thing to say hey asqshole!

  • @KrShou
    @KrShou 10 місяців тому +20

    I have just been through only the first one and a half minutes of the video and have paused to salute this man, a real man 🫡🫡👍 The courage and conviction on his face while narrating his experiences is so brutally honest and amazing already...and I still got 22 odd minutes left😊

  • @jaejun7088
    @jaejun7088 7 днів тому +5

    I'm going to prison next week. Please wish me luck for the next 15 years.

    • @remymuah9223
      @remymuah9223 6 днів тому +1

      May God bless you. I am not sure what you did but neither will I judge you. Fifteen years is a lot of time unfortunately but don’t let this harbour your spirit or your passion. You need to forgive yourself, you need to grow and you need to heal. May God guide you through this process and YOU ARE A CHILD OF GOD. NO WEAPON FORMED AGAINST YOU SHALL PROSPER.

    • @amam5831
      @amam5831 6 днів тому +1

      Wat did u do

    • @CraigMiller-p3t
      @CraigMiller-p3t 5 днів тому

      Bro prep before u go 😂

    • @johngalt3940
      @johngalt3940 5 днів тому

      Good luck man

    • @akIndia10
      @akIndia10 2 дні тому

      What's that crime did you commit?

  • @mandyharrison3799
    @mandyharrison3799 9 місяців тому +238

    Sexual predators walk amongst us on the inside and outside...im a victim of sexual abuse at the hands of my father. I know the signs. You never get over rape and the only people who should be exposed to rape are the rapist themselves. Powerful video and some brave stories. I hope those affected are receiving help.

    • @Auudubillahi
      @Auudubillahi 7 місяців тому +20

      That's f***d . I was abused as a kid from a family member, I can only imagine how it feels coming from your own father. God bless

    • @mandyharrison3799
      @mandyharrison3799 7 місяців тому +10

      @@Auudubillahi thank you for sharing your story. I hope you are doing ok. It is incredibly difficult living with any abuse but it is only by speaking out can we expose the abusers. It's hard to put the past behind us but to survive we need to look to the future and not let the past define who we are. Life is short.

    • @Vyacheslavvvv
      @Vyacheslavvvv 6 місяців тому +4

      Same. Life ruining stuff yet invariably, life moves on. We cannot let those derived individuals win. We must succeed in order for them to have failed

    • @taimurahmad
      @taimurahmad 6 місяців тому +1

      Sheikh uthman ivn faruq....

    • @Thr33God
      @Thr33God 4 місяці тому +4

      I'm sorry that happened to you. I like your cat pfp, if that helps.

  • @calabrais
    @calabrais 6 місяців тому +131

    14:50 "It's alright to be yourself and to not feel as though you have to portray a certain image. The more comfortable you are being who you are the less likely someone else is going to be able to manipulate or turn who you are into something you don't want to be"
    Holly shii dude, this is so well thought out and powerful. True for whatever walk of life you're in right now. 🙌

    • @MatthewThomas-ye1ei
      @MatthewThomas-ye1ei 26 днів тому +1

      Been locked up you have time to think

    • @polishpat95
      @polishpat95 23 дні тому +2

      The last part "Into something you don't wanna be". Is SO powerful because it shows if you pretend. Usually you'll be turned into that person that you don't wanna be. Because they will portray you that way.

  • @punchedhaddock
    @punchedhaddock 9 років тому +336

    "Just report it to a CO" yeah that is totally fine. I'm sure the predator will understand and just back away.

    • @StoicObserverS
      @StoicObserverS 4 роки тому +61

      Nope. Now victims are immediately protected. We COs do not want sofomites hurting vulnerable prisoners. We hate sexual predators more than inmates do.

    • @ashleymarierobinsonmantlow4339
      @ashleymarierobinsonmantlow4339 4 роки тому +8

      Snitches get stiches.....im just sayin....

    • @AkaDazza
      @AkaDazza 4 роки тому +13

      @@ashleymarierobinsonmantlow4339 🖕🖕🖕

    • @PuHLVeRiZe
      @PuHLVeRiZe 4 роки тому +7

      Stoic Observer yeah unless one of the Co getting paid by one of the prisoners

    • @StoicObserverS
      @StoicObserverS 4 роки тому +62

      @@PuHLVeRiZe I can guarantee you I would personally take such a case directly to the directorship if it was reported to me. I have reported other staff in order to protect inmates and yes, got an evil backlash. And I will continue to do so even for inmates that hate all COs. That is called integrity.

  • @stefanpowell7068
    @stefanpowell7068 3 місяці тому +1

    Am I the only one watching this passively at my office job while taking notes?

  • @trock6921
    @trock6921 4 роки тому +144

    Saw a guy get assaulted because of an unpaid debt. It was all a set up. Tried to warn him but I didnt want to expose myself too much. The friendship angle is correct. Still haunts me.

    • @TheBrady0012004
      @TheBrady0012004 4 роки тому +16

      Shoulda warned him

    • @WithoutRemorse12
      @WithoutRemorse12 3 роки тому +38

      @@TheBrady0012004 Then he would of been a target or had to be responsible for that guys debt.

    • @juswolf22
      @juswolf22 2 роки тому

      @@WithoutRemorse12 his name t rock I’m sure he ain’t one to fuck wit. T rock would’ve settled his debts with just his words, that sucks t rocks let dude get his boots knock tho

    • @patriciamharris5664
      @patriciamharris5664 2 роки тому +12

      @@TheBrady0012004 did nt u see him say he tried to warn him?.. come on man. ..

    • @Emalye.Saeeeeeeeee
      @Emalye.Saeeeeeeeee Рік тому

      Oh wow smh

  • @scotsman6712
    @scotsman6712 2 роки тому +46

    I'm 64 years old.never even been to jail . this video scared me straight .

  • @DxmSanchez
    @DxmSanchez 4 роки тому +310

    This is ridiculous that this video needed to be made. The corrections system is a joke. It's broken and needs major reform. No more prisons for profit..

    • @philweed1603
      @philweed1603 3 роки тому +17

      If you don’t want to put yourself in that position, don’t fucking go to prison. Your thought process needs major reform.

    • @thetruth5914
      @thetruth5914 3 роки тому +4

      💯

    • @ayejay4028
      @ayejay4028 3 роки тому +30

      @@philweed1603 shadup

    • @yourtrappedinmygenjutsu
      @yourtrappedinmygenjutsu 2 роки тому +19

      @@philweed1603 that's not how it works

    • @philweed1603
      @philweed1603 2 роки тому

      @@yourtrappedinmygenjutsu Yes it is, my little anime-loving doofus.

  • @CuseTown315K
    @CuseTown315K 14 днів тому

    Fun fact, ive been to 9 different state prisons in new york state. They show this video every time you enter a new prison. And has been that way since at least 2011 when i started going to prison

  • @maximillion8442
    @maximillion8442 2 роки тому +192

    This helped me understand that my history with sexual assault spurred my stubborn independence and discomfort with acts of kindness. Thank you for helping me identify that so I can work past it where appropriate and safe :)

    • @FreedomofSpeech865
      @FreedomofSpeech865 Рік тому

      Please look into trauma informed therapy or looking at reading resources. RAINN can offer you free resources in your community

    • @yuiitodoro7791
      @yuiitodoro7791 10 місяців тому

      Yeah

  • @veronicav1779
    @veronicav1779 10 місяців тому +33

    'Trust has to be earned' . excellent advice to be applied to Life for everyone.

  • @alasdeangel3929
    @alasdeangel3929 7 років тому +750

    who else came here from AfterPrisonShow

  • @HLTrizzay
    @HLTrizzay 4 місяці тому +4

    One minute I’m watching how to make healthy muffins for breakfast and the next I’m learning how to protect myself from getting gang raped in prison. Gotta love UA-cam.

  • @ohsomarvalus4712
    @ohsomarvalus4712 8 місяців тому +86

    Its one of the most difficult things to come out sharing sexual abuse. Im a survivor and i appreciate and thank you who share your stories. Especially with men..it seems to go unnoticed. Coming out helps others as well as provides possible healing to you, the victim. God bless ❤

    • @paullentz1972
      @paullentz1972 7 місяців тому +4

      Fair or unfair, men who are victims of SA...should just keep that stuff to themselves (maybe get some therapy in private). People look at men differently when it's known that they are victims of SA. If something like that ever happened to me...I'd somehow find the will to internalize that SH1T and move on.

    • @ohsomarvalus4712
      @ohsomarvalus4712 6 місяців тому +3

      @paullentz1972 I hear you. I guess it's to each's own. No judgment because I'm not a man and you may know better than myself.

    • @baileyharrison1030
      @baileyharrison1030 6 місяців тому +9

      @@paullentz1972People used to say the same about women but that changed quite quickly.

    • @paullentz1972
      @paullentz1972 6 місяців тому +2

      @@ohsomarvalus4712 Not saying that it's right or fair.....I'm saying that the reality is it's much easier for women to open up about being abused...then it is for men. Again, I'm not saying that just because it's 'easier' for women to open up about SA then it is for men...does not mean that I'm saying that it is 'easy' for women to open up about SA. I'm saying that people (especially men) look at men differently than they would a woman if either was a victim of SA.

    • @paullentz1972
      @paullentz1972 6 місяців тому +1

      @@baileyharrison1030 True...however we arent there yet. Men who are victims of SA are looked at differently (especially by other men).

  • @crok8349
    @crok8349 8 років тому +627

    They should release manual "How to avoid prison"

    • @stevenmitchell3705
      @stevenmitchell3705 8 років тому +2

      Lambert I was thinking the same damn thing bro lol

    • @wowbogazzled1369
      @wowbogazzled1369 6 років тому +40

      Step 1: Don't break the law

    • @YoUtUbEhAnDlEsArEgReAt
      @YoUtUbEhAnDlEsArEgReAt 6 років тому +9

      They already have that. It's known as "The Law"

    • @drgongshankthachef6153
      @drgongshankthachef6153 6 років тому +38

      No, they should release, how to avoid getting wrongfully convicted.

    • @Shycrochetqueen
      @Shycrochetqueen 6 років тому +13

      Step one show major corporations that prison labor is more expensive than hiring actual laborers

  • @derekmahon1652
    @derekmahon1652 9 місяців тому +103

    The men sharing their experiences seem like good guys, I wish them the best.

    • @jimathybindlenim6359
      @jimathybindlenim6359 6 місяців тому +8

      They are in prison so uh probably not. Kinda the point of prison

    • @derekmahon1652
      @derekmahon1652 6 місяців тому +8

      @@jimathybindlenim6359 True, they did stupid things and got a stupid result/prison. I noticed their self-awareness and how they explained things, calm and cool, didn't drop the f-bomb every 5 seconds. That's different from someone who won't accept responsibility for their actions, angry, defensive, etc. That's what makes me think they can move past their mistakes and get a new start.

    • @ChazzZimmermanMedia
      @ChazzZimmermanMedia 6 місяців тому +4

      Good guys....sitting in prison 😂😂

    • @ameyaalincoln864
      @ameyaalincoln864 6 місяців тому +3

      Don't be fooled.

    • @jazzygirl4140
      @jazzygirl4140 2 місяці тому +1

      Ehhh, many psychopaths don't have tells and manipulators are often very charming. So idk. Some of these men have been in prison for 30+ years, which means they did something horrific.

  • @seekinggodfirst754
    @seekinggodfirst754 2 місяці тому +3

    This video breaks my heart. God have mercy on us all.

  • @lm5050
    @lm5050 Рік тому +53

    As someone who lived it - Be extra careful giving even the smallest of things to people who ask for them, that is by far the most common way people get taken advantage of.

    • @cornell833
      @cornell833 11 місяців тому +2

      Stay out of prison 😢

    • @dwl3006
      @dwl3006 11 місяців тому

      You mean taking? How does giving obligate you?

    • @ikotsus2448
      @ikotsus2448 10 місяців тому +5

      @@dwl3006 I guess they see you as easy to take advantage of and keep asking for more.

    • @dwl3006
      @dwl3006 10 місяців тому +7

      @@ikotsus2448
      I didn't carefully read what he said, he said to people who ask for it. So giving to someone who asks for your stuff is like a positive reinforcement for them asking for more, that makes sense. Reminds me of a scene where big prisoners ask another prisoner for his deserts and then keep upping the ante.

    • @mvj1153
      @mvj1153 10 місяців тому

      Can you explain?

  • @eternal.faith408
    @eternal.faith408 Рік тому +53

    Respect goes out to this guy for telling his story, for the safety of others

    • @markelrick5545
      @markelrick5545 Рік тому

      No respect for these people they shouldn’t have gotten themselves their in the first place

    • @eternal.faith408
      @eternal.faith408 Рік тому +7

      @@markelrick5545 My comment never called on you for your opinion either

    • @MrTattitude
      @MrTattitude Рік тому

      Sounds good til you go to prison for manslaughter defending your family.... next thing you know, you're wearing kool-aid makeup, sitting down to pee and holding onto BigDaddys waist band...

  • @7somekindofsomething
    @7somekindofsomething 6 місяців тому +25

    Respect to this man for speaking out on his experience to help others.

  • @jonthesinner
    @jonthesinner 5 місяців тому +5

    mans really t-bagged him during that workout scene lmao

  • @Haaon11
    @Haaon11 7 років тому +1097

    afterprison show brought me here lol

  • @enshk79
    @enshk79 3 роки тому +46

    These guys are really intelligent and articulate. There are good people in there. I hope they’ve learned and gotten better as people.

  • @KenS-f1b
    @KenS-f1b 10 місяців тому +50

    I cannot believe how articulate and well spoken these men are. These men are valuable educators ..

    • @EGarza-mk2mk
      @EGarza-mk2mk 10 місяців тому +6

      New Yorkers are smart

    • @gs325jcbd
      @gs325jcbd 6 місяців тому +1

      @@EGarza-mk2mkwhat drug are you smoking?

    • @peterp2153
      @peterp2153 6 місяців тому +4

      I’m sure for a video like this, they’d want to feature more articulate inmates. Also, the type of inmates that would participate in an educational video like this are going to be the ones trying to make a better life and improve themselves.

    • @Alexthegamer71
      @Alexthegamer71 6 місяців тому +1

      Agree..Also I think they are reading a lots of books in jail since it’s nothing else to do

  • @Salmontres
    @Salmontres 15 днів тому +2

    it's 3am. I've never been pulled over, but i'm watching a doc on how to avoid getting raped in prison...

  • @Skatelifefool
    @Skatelifefool Рік тому +20

    This is one of the better prison documentaries I've seen. Good production and these dudes seem pretty smart about their situation.