I hope you and Kyle find decades of love and joy together. I shared 45 years of an unbroken, monogamous and passionate marriage with my husband until his death ten years ago. I met him when I was 22; he died when I was 67.
I haven’t spoken to anyone in my family for almost 30 years now. Being gay is the best thing that ever happened to me. They have missed out on so many good things in my life. Thank god I can chose my friends.
Amen. I'm with you. Life for us wasn't always easy. We learned the hard way to choose ourselves over hateful family. As a Gay person, you have to put yourself first.
Thanks, I came out to my boss/really co-worker a month ago. I was so afraid. He hugged me. I cried. And things have been so good for me. I am accepted as a gay man.
You're lucky. In 1983 when I came out my Father cried in his basement woodshop and Mom was throwing me out of the house all the while screaming "what are the neighbors going to think" and we didn't speak for over a year. By the way, great video and you're a natural in front of the camera!
Ugh, "What are the neighbors going to think" has to be one of the worst reasons not to accept someone I think I've ever heard. That amounts to a parent choosing their neighbors, popular opinion, over their own child (teen or adult). You didn't need that in your life anyway. -- In 1983, I was still trying to come to terms with myself and not doing very well at it. I knew I had gay feelings, and hard stood up and spoken up for friends, but not yet really for myself. I was in high school and living at home, and scared my parents would not accept me. I didn't ever think I could talk to them about it, and I was probably right. I wish, I hope, that they would have accepted me if they'd known. But if they ever did know and accept me being gay, they never let me know in a way that I understood. Looking back, I wish someone, friends or family friends, had let me know I was accepted for who I was, including if I was gay, and to have a place to go to if needed. That, and just friends I could've talked with, opened up to, and someone back then I could've tested the waters with, tried things out. Instead, I had a very bad time in college struggling with myself, not getting that help, and it was years before I finally did come out. Now, if anyone doesn't know, they aren't paying attention.
The thing I feared most, as a preteen, teen, and young adult, even college age, was that if I told my parents or even tried to talk to them about being gay, that they would not accept me and would not _understand_ or listen. I was afraid that they wouldn't truly _love_ me, that their love was instead _conditional_ on me being straight and not gay. If my parents ever did know and accept that I was gay, they never let me know in a way I understood. I believe they chose not to see it, that they did not wan it to be true and couldn't accept it, so they ignored it so they wouldn't have to accept it or deal with what it would mean for their son to be gay. It became an invisible elephant in the. room and I came to feel that there was a wedge between us, that they didn't fully love me as I was. -- If I had one wish, it would be that everyone could accept people being not-straight, and give not-straight people the same love and the same chances to find love, just as easily as the straight kids can have relationships, can say that they like someone, and if that person doesn't like them back, it's no big deal. If they're gay, no one gets bent out of shape. Just the same as it is for the straight kids. And I wish all parents / guardians could accept their kids and let them know they are loved, including if they are not straight. I wish parents and schools would teach kids about being gay, the same way they (should) cover things about straight relationships, when teaching kids about sex and relationships, "the talk." We need to do better about all this. It damages lives and relationships for years, not to do this.
Mid 50s is young😁. Everyone's story helps others dealing with coming out or sexual identity issues...Several years ago mental health professionals and family social workers felt up to 40% of suicides ages 13-20 were related to sexual identity crisis. Fear of being disowned (not loved) is huge for many. Pushing threw the fear is victory. A win. Boosts self-esteem.
Thank you for sharing this. Very moving. I came out in 1974 at 18. Light years ago. Life was a struggle every day. And by the way, your dad's son is perfectjust the way he is. I'm glad it went so well for you and for Kyle. I keep watching these videos (and YT keeps sending me new ones). I feel so good because I see all you younger Gay Men so happy. And after all, that's why we fought so hard back when we were young - so that life would be easier for future generations of Gay people. It makes all that struggle worth it. I'm glad you don't have to live, breathe and eat being Gay like we did. But also, never forget that there were some awesome, fearless Gay folks who came before, and who paved the way. Hearing your story makes me very happy that all that hard work paid off. I wish you a life filled with love and happiness.
Great video, great story, and beautifully written. I'm so glad your relationship with your parents is closer now. It shows the love that SHOULD be in any family, regardless of sexuality. On a side note, around 7.22, you say that you have been together for multiple years, then take a breath before saying "guys, it's ok" ... when you take a breath, kitty appears at the top and it's almost like she wants to make sure you're ok hehehe
Hey, I'm pretty new to the channel and I just want to say thank you so much. I definitely relate to a lot of the things you describe and I'm so grateful to have someone with a positive story who is on the other side of all this stuff. I have never really considered formally coming out to my parents, but I definitely am now because of you! Thanks!
If you’re still reading comments for this vid, just want to say ‘very nicely done.’ The way we feel when our parents’ love is on the line isn’t like any other kind of stress. Every story like yours that tells the young-uns that it can turn out well helps uncountable people, including parents who may be kinder to us if they realize how critical the moment is in our lives. Great job - oh, and it’s the gold standard to always begin and end a video with a cat (our imperial overlords).
Casey! What a wonderful, heartwarming story. Your family is to be commended for realizing love is what matters, and has eternal significance. And I am so happy for you that they also embrace Kyle! Your experience gives me hope for the future.
@@caseyjourneys1735 hi my name is chetan from England what a beautiful coming out video very heart warming sometimes it can be very difficult to come out to your family and parents I am gay too I came out two years ago my parents were very nasty and horrible yiu have a sexy voice beautiful cat 🐈 you have he or she cat 🐱 seems nice nice house you have nice to meet you
A couple of my family came out to me and I just thought how great it was that they felt comfortable and close enough to me to share with me that part of there life. Sure back in my grandparents day and most of my parents generation it was extremely dangerous and a great risk to come out or even be discovered, but the way I grew up, we never discussed those things, family was family and we loved each other no matter what. To me, if someone liked guys or girls, it was there own personal business and me knowing which just wasn't some set law that I had a need to know. If they wanted to tell me then cool, if not, no big deal.
I know it's been a long time - you may not even follow your posts anymore. I grew up in Grand Rapids, went to GR Christian and Calvin. I came out in my senior year at Calvin. They talked about expelling me (we are talking the mid 70's). But I had some great support from some professors. I hope you are happy. I left not only GR but the US at 25. Lived many years in London and now Cologne. I just wanted to respond and say good for you. d
I LOVE YOU CASEY!!! I love your story.....and I love your cat! If you think it was difficult for you, imagine this: I'm 70, and still tightly shut in the closet...no way was one able to come out in the 50s and 60s or even the 70s! Staying in the closet has made me the saddest, loneliest person on earth. I admire the freedom you guys feel upon coming out. I waited too long, now I live the life of a hermit. I'd like to hear from you! Un fuerte abrazo. FELICIDADES
That’s cool to talk about if . My brother knew that my twin brothers don was gay and his family has no problem with it ! They just say be careful ! Thank you for sharing your story. That was cool !
Thanks man! You could've did without the music because I'd rather just listen to you telling it but whatever. I admire your courage! You got exactly what one would hope to expect it to be in that situation and you're totally right about telling a few people first along the way because it does help. I'm still holding the trigger when it comes to telling my family; mainly out of fear of rejection and the truth is I don't know why I can make myself feel that way. Anyway I loved your video and P.S. I think that I just told you I'm gay!
Glad it worked out for you. Tell us how you told your brothers/how did they find out and their reaction. I'm proud and happy for you. When do we get to meet your family and Kyle? I'm jealous but happy. When you two getting married? I am proud to follow and support you. Sadly, it fell apart and Didn't go so well for me. Ttyl
My brothers learned over a text! Haha! Easier since I am not as close to them. Kyle may appear on a video soon! He's a bit camera shy. We will be getting engaged this year.
Ahw this is So cute! I remember the stress I felt when I told my mom and dad too! It’s horrible I also wanted to run away but I didn’t and my mom and dad reacted great! I am happy you also had a great coming out!
I came out to my parents (or rather they found out while I was in the Royal Garde) 40 years ago. I had a plan to tell them. I wanted them to have a great holiday experience, by taking them to South Florida for three weeks, before telling them, but they found out prior to that. My mother freaked, BUT my father was cool, calm and collected. He was great from the very beginning. He had always been a great Dad, but he became a much geater Dad after I came out. It took him four years to turn Mother around. But she grew with it and became a great support as well. They used to be members of a very conservative part of the Lutheran Protestant Church, but ended up quitting it. Both my parents serviced the regular Lutheran Protestant Church, Dad as a songleader and Mother as an pipe organ player. They continued doing that. Our priest was also great to talk to. I feel so sorry for the people who are disowned by their parents and closest relatives. They don't realize what they are missing. I learned to see that when a really good friend of mine in Germany died of AIDS after 1990. He had a great life with his partner and had had for many years. He was very successfull running an antique store. But that was not what his parents wanted. They wanted him to work in a bank and raise a family. They never shared or gave him credit for his life. When they showed up at his funeral, I will never forget the look in their faces, when they realized what kind of friends he and his partner had. You could tell from the look in their eyes that they knew they had been missing out on sharing his wonderful life. My parents died already in 1994 and 1997 why they unfortunately didn't live to see that I met my partner and husband in 1998. They would have loved him unconditionally and it would have been mutual.
Hi i came out at 57 - amazed how accepted i have been by family, friends and Church too - yes Church too. To a gay man it is natural to love another man and to be loved by a man too. It appears the main barrier was indeed me - sadly though of course I never did tell my parents - did they know - i have grown up in era when gay was really considered antisocial - I say enjoy your love and affection - don't be ashamed of your love with Kyle - I am gay and a Christian so may i offer you - God bless you both. I guess time will tell if I can find a guy right for me and vice versa - better late than never
40 some years ago my mother asked me if I was. I said yes an left for work. My father and I never spoke once about it. Absolutely no doubt of mine that I wouldn't still be loved by my family. Thinking back.....I had much more of a problem about it then they did. I was lost. The only person who was always beside me, who always saved and protected me, who always knew what to do, now was not there for me. She won't admit it now but she was more involved with how it effected her then me. I hope you are still with your guy...you have a huge head start. Be 😊
Id love to know why you had these feelings of “having” to tell your mom/dad..... where does/did that feeling come from? Was it that you felt THEY had to know or was it YOU had to get it out? My generation was much different where back in the 60s some kids never told their parents and it really wasn’t a big deal for them.... it was a much different time, yes, but that feeling of having to get it off your chest wasnt a need so to speak. One of my best friends growing up is gay and he knew it when he was twelve and though he later admitted having a crush on me, he felt he needed to tell me as we were close friends. He told me he felt I needed to know, even though he knew I wasn’t gay. It changed nothing as far as I was concerned and we are still great friends today fifty some years later..... I plan on asking him if he ever did tell his folks this, but your video makes me wonder if he too felt that need. I supported him as a best friend would and he would even confide in me as to who he would think was hot etc. and I would do the same with him checking out girls.... your video shows me that this was VERY important to you and now Im curious as hell if he felt the same. I saw the intense relief on my buddy’s face when he shared this with me as it really made him comfortable..... he told me years later he thought for sure that would end our friendship, but it really meant nothing to me as even then I knew this wasnt some choice he made. We were both raised in very strict environments so maybe that was a part of it but Id really appreciate your honesty with this....or you could tell me to mind my business. Seeing your relief reminded me of his but Id hate to think he also wanted his folks to know but he couldnt tell them...
It comes from social acceptance and the belief that we are not free until we are the people we aspire to be. At least that's how I see it! Everyone's views are different and everyone perceives things in a different way. Cheers!
Another excellent video, thank you for taking the time to record and post it. You come across as very mature for your age so I cannot see you with an immature guy, how old is Kyle ? Jason
If I would accidentely meet you on the sidewalk I would certainly crash into the next lamppost! But seriously: I’m very glad for you that’s there isn’t any reason any more for you to hide, but also for your parents to have a lovely son like you! Live long and be happy Casey!
You are so lucky...first, because you are in a successful long time relationship and because, both you and your boyfriends families are loving and supportive..wow!!!..a suggestion for your show..I teach and also council youth. Mostly kids, from 16-22..I get to hear the bad side of LGBT youth stories...horror stories, you wouldn't believe...I wish that you and every other, kid who does a comming out video, do some research and talk to your audience about things like phone numbers they can call, to get first hand profetional advice about coming out..so many coming out stories, start with "I got my courage to come out, from others on UA-cam!"!!! That's good, but few offer real advice, to the kids at risk..kids, who's Dad will kick the crap out of them and put them on the street....kids at risk, need to have a plan.. safety net.. a place they can go if they are stranded... there are LGBT youth centers,all over the country...list fee phone numbers..list links..do some research.... it's not, just about, kids coming out, it's also about kids being outed, or discovered, because of the history on there phone or laptop...good luck to you and happy New year...
How do I come out my family ain’t that supportive and I’m joining the army soon so I ain’t got a clue what to do don’t want my dad to feel like I’m failing him
Let me put you right on a point you stated in your video. You said something along the lines of “I know my Dad was disappointed about having a son that wasn’t perfect....”, or words to that effect. Now, when someone is about to become a parent, yes, they may have dreams of themselves being Grandparents in the future, or seeing their Son having a wife in the traditional sense. However, once their child is born, all they want is for their child to be happy. To a parent, their child or children ARE perfect.
When my parents found out that I was gay back in the early 70's, the only thing my father said to me is that I could go to jail for being gay. You are lucky that your parents are ok with you
1974. My mother cried all night and my father just said dumb stuff like "you'll never know love " etc. Oh and "you can't tell anyone else." I said "Well, the whole reason I told you is because I'm an activist. I thought I should tell you instead of you reading it in a newspaper. " That was a whole different conversation. Lol
I too was terrified to tell my dad 47 years ago. He was a "woman's man" and the macho kind of guy. So my sister offered too. Then he wanted to meet me when I got off work at midnight at Holiday Inn lounge. Well low and behold he had absolutely no issue with it whatsoever. Mom sadly kinda went over the edge even up to being committed for a short period. Her first question when I told her was "is it going to be known" and I asked do you mean am I gonna carry a purse and swish around town. NO! But in a very short time she was fine with my choice. Yes I did the straight routine up to engagement. But realized I couldn't do that to her. About a month later I got brave and asked the bartender at a local country bar if he would like to come home with me. Well Bruce jumped over the bar yelled to the bar owner he'd see him tomorrow. That was October 12, 1975. 46 years 3 months and 11 days until I lost him on January 23, 2022. We never married in the traditional sense as we felt there was no need to have a document to prove our love. We had our ups and downs just like any couple does. Thru major illnesses and tragedies. We were there for each other. I miss him dearly. I do wish you and Kyle many happy years together! Take care of each other.
Peace be upon you, as a human who has a good natures, you necessary to listen to me, I just want to say that:- If you got anybody in your life that ever speak to you ''how did it come to this'' in the wrong ways, you know what I mean. This is what you tell them, you just look at straight into their eyes and you says: 1. Religion is about Peace and Mercy of God. 2. Either we're good person or we're the type of a person who put a barriers, why should there need to be a barriers to loves between one another. 3. Nobody should ever feel belittled for whoever they love. 4. a) Do you believe in God? Yes. And if God didn’t want them this way, He wouldn’t have made them this way. Correct! 4. b) God have made and want you this way, because He love you. So, you will get closer and come close to God. That's why you have to learn and understand the hidden message of God.
I hope by now you rfealise that you are as 'perfect' as you can be. That we are less than perfect because of our gayness is a self-hate belief we must all guard against
@Gary Lee Sweetie, hello, back with more vitriol and humanity to lighten our lives. Well done. I think our third encounter and not one jot of positivity or compassion to contribute to the debate. Were your parents so terribly demanding and emotionally stunted. Are you still trying to meet their very high standards. Bless! Take care of yourself
The description of homosexuality as a lifestyle is a blatent oversimplification of human sexuality in general and homosexuality in particular. Such indoctrination of the collective societal psyche is paramount to the self validating delusion of heterosexuality possessing moral validity. The reason that we never hear the term " heterosexual lifestyle" is because there is no need to catogorize heterosexuality with such descriptively inherent connotative oversimplification in order to subconciously justify contempt and hatred through subjective comparison.
It’s great you want to inspire people but the reality is that many stories don’t turn out like yours. For the majority what you feared would happen is their reality. So it’s still kind of a crap shoot.
I hope you and Kyle find decades of love and joy together. I shared 45 years of an unbroken, monogamous and passionate marriage with my husband until his death ten years ago. I met him when I was 22; he died when I was 67.
I haven’t spoken to anyone in my family for almost 30 years now. Being gay is the best thing that ever happened to me. They have missed out on so many good things in my life. Thank god I can chose my friends.
Amen. I'm with you. Life for us wasn't always easy. We learned the hard way to choose ourselves over hateful family. As a Gay person, you have to put yourself first.
Thanks, I came out to my boss/really co-worker a month ago. I was so afraid. He hugged me. I cried. And things have been so good for me. I am accepted as a gay man.
You're lucky. In 1983 when I came out my Father cried in his basement woodshop and Mom was throwing me out of the house all the while screaming "what are the neighbors going to think" and we didn't speak for over a year.
By the way, great video and you're a natural in front of the camera!
Ugh, "What are the neighbors going to think" has to be one of the worst reasons not to accept someone I think I've ever heard. That amounts to a parent choosing their neighbors, popular opinion, over their own child (teen or adult). You didn't need that in your life anyway. -- In 1983, I was still trying to come to terms with myself and not doing very well at it. I knew I had gay feelings, and hard stood up and spoken up for friends, but not yet really for myself. I was in high school and living at home, and scared my parents would not accept me. I didn't ever think I could talk to them about it, and I was probably right. I wish, I hope, that they would have accepted me if they'd known. But if they ever did know and accept me being gay, they never let me know in a way that I understood. Looking back, I wish someone, friends or family friends, had let me know I was accepted for who I was, including if I was gay, and to have a place to go to if needed. That, and just friends I could've talked with, opened up to, and someone back then I could've tested the waters with, tried things out. Instead, I had a very bad time in college struggling with myself, not getting that help, and it was years before I finally did come out. Now, if anyone doesn't know, they aren't paying attention.
I agree in that 83 sucked for me too. However, it gets better every generation!
Your Dad’s text - what a great guy - sweet of him. Delighted that your and Kyle’s families support you guys! You and Kyle enjoy your life together!
You are a great kid man. We need more people like you in this world. Congrats to your parents on a job well done, they raised you well.
I'm pleased everything worked out for you. Big HUG.
The thing I feared most, as a preteen, teen, and young adult, even college age, was that if I told my parents or even tried to talk to them about being gay, that they would not accept me and would not _understand_ or listen. I was afraid that they wouldn't truly _love_ me, that their love was instead _conditional_ on me being straight and not gay. If my parents ever did know and accept that I was gay, they never let me know in a way I understood. I believe they chose not to see it, that they did not wan it to be true and couldn't accept it, so they ignored it so they wouldn't have to accept it or deal with what it would mean for their son to be gay. It became an invisible elephant in the. room and I came to feel that there was a wedge between us, that they didn't fully love me as I was. -- If I had one wish, it would be that everyone could accept people being not-straight, and give not-straight people the same love and the same chances to find love, just as easily as the straight kids can have relationships, can say that they like someone, and if that person doesn't like them back, it's no big deal. If they're gay, no one gets bent out of shape. Just the same as it is for the straight kids. And I wish all parents / guardians could accept their kids and let them know they are loved, including if they are not straight. I wish parents and schools would teach kids about being gay, the same way they (should) cover things about straight relationships, when teaching kids about sex and relationships, "the talk." We need to do better about all this. It damages lives and relationships for years, not to do this.
Thanks for sharing your story. Very inspiring and I'm glad that it had a happy ending. Wishing you all the best!
Thanks, Jay!!
Mid 50s is young😁. Everyone's story helps others dealing with coming out or sexual identity issues...Several years ago mental health professionals and family social workers felt up to 40% of suicides ages 13-20 were related to sexual identity crisis.
Fear of being disowned (not loved) is huge for many. Pushing threw the fear is victory. A win. Boosts self-esteem.
That was so beautiful to hear and to watch, may you and Kyle have a wonderful life together 😘😘😘
You and your family are so blessed to share this so well and embrace Kyle as well! I’m so glad you had the guts to tell your mom.
Thank you for sharing this. Very moving. I came out in 1974 at 18. Light years ago. Life was a struggle every day. And by the way, your dad's son is perfectjust the way he is. I'm glad it went so well for you and for Kyle. I keep watching these videos (and YT keeps sending me new ones). I feel so good because I see all you younger Gay Men so happy. And after all, that's why we fought so hard back when we were young - so that life would be easier for future generations of Gay people. It makes all that struggle worth it. I'm glad you don't have to live, breathe and eat being Gay like we did. But also, never forget that there were some awesome, fearless Gay folks who came before, and who paved the way. Hearing your story makes me very happy that all that hard work paid off. I wish you a life filled with love and happiness.
Great video, great story, and beautifully written. I'm so glad your relationship with your parents is closer now. It shows the love that SHOULD be in any family, regardless of sexuality.
On a side note, around 7.22, you say that you have been together for multiple years, then take a breath before saying "guys, it's ok" ... when you take a breath, kitty appears at the top and it's almost like she wants to make sure you're ok hehehe
Thank you! Yeah, that cat knows it all ;)
Casey Journeys hahaha don't they all? ;-)
Hi handsome. Great story. I just came out in 2017 at age 40. Live your life
Hey, I'm pretty new to the channel and I just want to say thank you so much. I definitely relate to a lot of the things you describe and I'm so grateful to have someone with a positive story who is on the other side of all this stuff. I have never really considered formally coming out to my parents, but I definitely am now because of you! Thanks!
If you’re still reading comments for this vid, just want to say ‘very nicely done.’ The way we feel when our parents’ love is on the line isn’t like any other kind of stress. Every story like yours that tells the young-uns that it can turn out well helps uncountable people, including parents who may be kinder to us if they realize how critical the moment is in our lives. Great job - oh, and it’s the gold standard to always begin and end a video with a cat (our imperial overlords).
Very well said. It's a developmental Gay experience without parallel.
Congratulations on being your authentic and true self.
Casey! What a wonderful, heartwarming story. Your family is to be commended for realizing love is what matters, and has eternal significance. And I am so happy for you that they also embrace Kyle! Your experience gives me hope for the future.
Your words are kind, thank youuuuu! :)
@@caseyjourneys1735 hi my name is chetan from England what a beautiful coming out video very heart warming sometimes it can be very difficult to come out to your family and parents I am gay too I came out two years ago my parents were very nasty and horrible yiu have a sexy voice beautiful cat 🐈 you have he or she cat 🐱 seems nice nice house you have nice to meet you
Dude, your story is so similar to my own. Thanks for sharing
A couple of my family came out to me and I just thought how great it was that they felt comfortable and close enough to me to share with me that part of there life. Sure back in my grandparents day and most of my parents generation it was extremely dangerous and a great risk to come out or even be discovered, but the way I grew up, we never discussed those things, family was family and we loved each other no matter what. To me, if someone liked guys or girls, it was there own personal business and me knowing which just wasn't some set law that I had a need to know. If they wanted to tell me then cool, if not, no big deal.
You're amazing and very strong!!! I'm so glad that you are close to your parents!!!! I'm also glad that they love Kyle!!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
You’re a natural on camera. So great! Loved hearing your story :) Excited for more videos
Aww, making this guy blush ;) Thanks!!
Casey Journeys Well then it’s a well deserved blush! 😉
great story, I agree
I know it's been a long time - you may not even follow your posts anymore. I grew up in Grand Rapids, went to GR Christian and Calvin. I came out in my senior year at Calvin. They talked about expelling me (we are talking the mid 70's). But I had some great support from some professors. I hope you are happy. I left not only GR but the US at 25. Lived many years in London and now Cologne. I just wanted to respond and say good for you. d
I LOVE YOU CASEY!!! I love your story.....and I love your cat! If you think it was difficult for you, imagine this: I'm 70, and still tightly shut in the closet...no way was one able to come out in the 50s and 60s or even the 70s! Staying in the closet has made me the saddest, loneliest person on earth. I admire the freedom you guys feel upon coming out. I waited too long, now I live the life of a hermit. I'd like to hear from you! Un fuerte abrazo. FELICIDADES
Loving story. And you're really lucky in this part of your life.
regards from Italy!!! ;)
Be glad for being brave and all the great results take care
I am so happy that things worked out with you and your family.
That’s cool to talk about if . My brother knew that my twin brothers don was gay and his family has no problem with it ! They just say be careful ! Thank you for sharing your story. That was cool !
Great video, thanks for sharing. Such a sweet story!
Thanks man! You could've did without the music because I'd rather just listen to you telling it but whatever. I admire your courage! You got exactly what one would hope to expect it to be in that situation and you're totally right about telling a few people first along the way because it does help. I'm still holding the trigger when it comes to telling my family; mainly out of fear of rejection and the truth is I don't know why I can make myself feel that way. Anyway I loved your video and P.S. I think that I just told you I'm gay!
Glad it worked out for you. Tell us how you told your brothers/how did they find out and their reaction.
I'm proud and happy for you.
When do we get to meet your family and Kyle?
I'm jealous but happy. When you two getting married?
I am proud to follow and support you. Sadly, it fell apart and Didn't go so well for me.
Ttyl
My brothers learned over a text! Haha! Easier since I am not as close to them. Kyle may appear on a video soon! He's a bit camera shy. We will be getting engaged this year.
Ahw this is So cute! I remember the stress I felt when I told my mom and dad too! It’s horrible I also wanted to run away but I didn’t and my mom and dad reacted great! I am happy you also had a great coming out!
So glad others had great experiences too! :)
This brought back a lot of memories of my coming out. Now I couldn't image not being out.
I came out to my parents (or rather they found out while I was in the Royal Garde) 40 years ago.
I had a plan to tell them. I wanted them to have a great holiday experience, by taking them to South Florida for three weeks, before
telling them, but they found out prior to that.
My mother freaked, BUT my father was cool, calm and collected. He was great from the very beginning.
He had always been a great Dad, but he became a much geater Dad after I came out.
It took him four years to turn Mother around. But she grew with it and became a great support as well.
They used to be members of a very conservative part of the Lutheran Protestant Church, but ended up quitting it.
Both my parents serviced the regular Lutheran Protestant Church, Dad as a songleader and Mother as an pipe organ player.
They continued doing that. Our priest was also great to talk to.
I feel so sorry for the people who are disowned by their parents and closest relatives. They don't realize what they are missing.
I learned to see that when a really good friend of mine in Germany died of AIDS after 1990. He had a great life with his partner and
had had for many years. He was very successfull running an antique store. But that was not what his parents wanted.
They wanted him to work in a bank and raise a family. They never shared or gave him credit for his life.
When they showed up at his funeral, I will never forget the look in their faces, when they realized what kind of friends he and his partner had. You could tell from the look in their eyes that they knew they had been missing out on sharing his wonderful life.
My parents died already in 1994 and 1997 why they unfortunately didn't live to see that I met my partner and husband in 1998.
They would have loved him unconditionally and it would have been mutual.
Hi i came out at 57 - amazed how accepted i have been by family, friends and Church too - yes Church too. To a gay man it is natural to love another man and to be loved by a man too. It appears the main barrier was indeed me - sadly though of course I never did tell my parents - did they know - i have grown up in era when gay was really considered antisocial - I say enjoy your love and affection - don't be ashamed of your love with Kyle - I am gay and a Christian so may i offer you - God bless you both. I guess time will tell if I can find a guy right for me and vice versa - better late than never
40 some years ago my mother asked me if I was. I said yes an left for work. My father and I never spoke once about it. Absolutely no doubt of mine that I wouldn't still be loved by my family. Thinking back.....I had much more of a problem about it then they did. I was lost. The only person who was always beside me, who always saved and protected me, who always knew what to do, now was not there for me. She won't admit it now but she was more involved with how it effected her then me. I hope you are still with your guy...you have a huge head start. Be 😊
I sure am!! Thank you!
so glad everything turned out well for you.love this video,thanks for sharing your story,casey.
Your positivity is what I am thankful for. :)
Great job Kyle. I’m glad your mom helped out. I’m a new subscriber to your channel. Where do you live and what do you and Kyle do for a living?
Thank you so much for sharing your story.
Id love to know why you had these feelings of “having” to tell your mom/dad..... where does/did that feeling come from? Was it that you felt THEY had to know or was it YOU had to get it out? My generation was much different where back in the 60s some kids never told their parents and it really wasn’t a big deal for them.... it was a much different time, yes, but that feeling of having to get it off your chest wasnt a need so to speak. One of my best friends growing up is gay and he knew it when he was twelve and though he later admitted having a crush on me, he felt he needed to tell me as we were close friends. He told me he felt I needed to know, even though he knew I wasn’t gay. It changed nothing as far as I was concerned and we are still great friends today fifty some years later..... I plan on asking him if he ever did tell his folks this, but your video makes me wonder if he too felt that need. I supported him as a best friend would and he would even confide in me as to who he would think was hot etc. and I would do the same with him checking out girls.... your video shows me that this was VERY important to you and now Im curious as hell if he felt the same. I saw the intense relief on my buddy’s face when he shared this with me as it really made him comfortable..... he told me years later he thought for sure that would end our friendship, but it really meant nothing to me as even then I knew this wasnt some choice he made. We were both raised in very strict environments so maybe that was a part of it but Id really appreciate your honesty with this....or you could tell me to mind my business. Seeing your relief reminded me of his but Id hate to think he also wanted his folks to know but he couldnt tell them...
It comes from social acceptance and the belief that we are not free until we are the people we aspire to be. At least that's how I see it! Everyone's views are different and everyone perceives things in a different way. Cheers!
Ur open and pure heart shows ur face beautiful and support from india and i kind of like ur cat
Like your story dude. Nice 1.
Great story and well told. I will l watch more.
Thank you!!
Another excellent video, thank you for taking the time to record and post it.
You come across as very mature for your age so I cannot see you with an immature guy, how old is Kyle ?
Jason
Thank you, Jason!! Kyle is mid 20's like me! Thankfully we both have our heads on our shoulders well!
If I would accidentely meet you on the sidewalk I would certainly crash into the next lamppost! But seriously: I’m very glad for you that’s there isn’t any reason any more for you to hide, but also for your parents to have a lovely son like you! Live long and be happy Casey!
Beautiful story, you seem like a really sweet guy
Thank you for sharing
Very nicely done.
Glad you got lovely loving parents x
Are you going to give us a wedding update?
You are so lucky...first, because you are in a successful long time relationship and because, both you and your boyfriends families are loving and supportive..wow!!!..a suggestion for your show..I teach and also council youth. Mostly kids, from 16-22..I get to hear the bad side of LGBT youth stories...horror stories, you wouldn't believe...I wish that you and every other, kid who does a comming out video, do some research and talk to your audience about things like phone numbers they can call, to get first hand profetional advice about coming out..so many coming out stories, start with "I got my courage to come out, from others on UA-cam!"!!! That's good, but few offer real advice, to the kids at risk..kids, who's Dad will kick the crap out of them and put them on the street....kids at risk, need to have a plan.. safety net.. a place they can go if they are stranded... there are LGBT youth centers,all over the country...list fee phone numbers..list links..do some research.... it's not, just about, kids coming out, it's also about kids being outed, or discovered, because of the history on there phone or laptop...good luck to you and happy New year...
Very true, Ronnie! Glad there are people out there who take a pro-active approach! Thanks for all you do!
How do I come out my family ain’t that supportive and I’m joining the army soon so I ain’t got a clue what to do don’t want my dad to feel like I’m failing him
Let me put you right on a point you stated in your video. You said something along the lines of “I know my Dad was disappointed about having a son that wasn’t perfect....”, or words to that effect. Now, when someone is about to become a parent, yes, they may have dreams of themselves being Grandparents in the future, or seeing their Son having a wife in the traditional sense. However, once their child is born, all they want is for their child to be happy. To a parent, their child or children ARE perfect.
Not true
Thank you. I wish you luck.
When my parents found out that I was gay back in the early 70's, the only thing my father said to me is that I could go to jail for being gay. You are lucky that your parents are ok with you
1974. My mother cried all night and my father just said dumb stuff like "you'll never know love " etc. Oh and "you can't tell anyone else." I said "Well, the whole reason I told you is because I'm an activist. I thought I should tell you instead of you reading it in a newspaper. " That was a whole different conversation. Lol
I too was terrified to tell my dad 47 years ago. He was a "woman's man" and the macho kind of guy. So my sister offered too. Then he wanted to meet me when I got off work at midnight at Holiday Inn lounge. Well low and behold he had absolutely no issue with it whatsoever. Mom sadly kinda went over the edge even up to being committed for a short period. Her first question when I told her was "is it going to be known" and I asked do you mean am I gonna carry a purse and swish around town. NO! But in a very short time she was fine with my choice. Yes I did the straight routine up to engagement. But realized I couldn't do that to her.
About a month later I got brave and asked the bartender at a local country bar if he would like to come home with me. Well Bruce jumped over the bar yelled to the bar owner he'd see him tomorrow. That was October 12, 1975. 46 years 3 months and 11 days until I lost him on January 23, 2022. We never married in the traditional sense as we felt there was no need to have a document to prove our love. We had our ups and downs just like any couple does. Thru major illnesses and tragedies. We were there for each other. I miss him dearly.
I do wish you and Kyle many happy years together! Take care of each other.
So cute/adorable. The story is nice as well. =-P
Thank you! 😊
Very lovely video
So cute Congratulations it's hard coming out love you 💜
:) you’re amazing!! so strong!!! you’re great!!!!!!
This makes my heart happy.
Shankkkssss ma dear! :)
Peace be upon you, as a human who has a good natures, you necessary to listen to me, I just want to say that:-
If you got anybody in your life that ever speak to you ''how did it come to this'' in the wrong ways, you know what I mean. This is what you tell them, you just look at straight into their eyes and you says:
1. Religion is about Peace and Mercy of God.
2. Either we're good person or we're the type of a person who put a barriers, why should there need to be a barriers to loves between one another.
3. Nobody should ever feel belittled for whoever they love.
4. a) Do you believe in God? Yes. And if God didn’t want them this way, He wouldn’t have made them this way. Correct!
4. b) God have made and want you this way, because He love you. So, you will get closer and come close to God. That's why you have to learn and understand the hidden message of God.
Why gay man always look so handsome and good looking?
Kyle's a lucky guy. :D
you're beautiful inside and out 😍😍
I don't think I have ever seen Kyle have you ever done a video with him!
Casey, ты молодец, что признался своим родителям хотя это непросто. будь здоров и счастлив со своим другом. Удач Вам во всем!
Quite mature nice voice
So cute I love this ❤️❤️💝💝💝
Love your comment moreeeee
Great click bait I love your parents
Ur cute and I support u cause I’m gay too!
Thank you.
Your parents are great all ways be your self xx
You're as perfect as one can be!!
Exactly.
Respect!
Hey hi there you are so cute. I'm glad it went well .
u are a good son
I am also gay but I am to scared to tell my parents
Get some support for yourself first
Hello where are you from
Very nice.
See its ok even your kitty loves you. 😀
💓
0:39 cat’s homophobic.
No. His gaydar just wasn't on yet.
God bless you
I with you...
Appreciated!
Future husband referrals welcome
Hi, I'm Korey
Roger here: rogerwever@ymail.com
Roger , I just sent you an email & a follow up :)
you must have sent the email to a different address because I just checked mine and nothing in there. make sure that it sent to ymail and not Gmail.
i think i am so in to u
I hope by now you rfealise that you are as 'perfect' as you can be. That we are less than perfect because of our gayness is a self-hate belief we must all guard against
@Gary Lee Sweetie, hello, back with more vitriol and humanity to lighten our lives. Well done. I think our third encounter and not one jot of positivity or compassion to contribute to the debate. Were your parents so terribly demanding and emotionally stunted. Are you still trying to meet their very high standards. Bless! Take care of yourself
I had the feeling your dad knew.
Hmmm, probably..
You are so cute ^-^
Good for you Best wishes for a successful life 👍💙🍀🌈⭐️💪🏳️🌈💜🐻🧸🇺🇸
❤️❤️❤️🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
Unless you're talking about just one parent, your apostrophe is in the wrong place. 🙂
Hmmm your so cute!
The description of homosexuality as a lifestyle is a blatent oversimplification of human sexuality in general and homosexuality in particular. Such indoctrination of the collective societal psyche is paramount to the self validating delusion of heterosexuality possessing moral validity. The reason that we never hear the term " heterosexual lifestyle" is because there is no need to catogorize heterosexuality with such descriptively inherent connotative oversimplification in order to subconciously justify contempt and hatred through subjective comparison.
Im catholic it must be hard but i cant support 🏳️🌈 and im not homophobic for that
Yes you are
It’s great you want to inspire people but the reality is that many stories don’t turn out like yours. For the majority what you feared would happen is their reality. So it’s still kind of a crap shoot.
You are one fucking cute boi
Thank you ;)
Casey Journeys I’m guessing you are a bottom
What a gay
Our God says it's wrong.
don’t force your religion on other people.
@@theborderlinegiant Where do you find force in what I said?