Phew! Felt like a real workout. This was more difficult than I thought but enjoyable nonetheless. Thank you. A bit unrelated, are there easy-to-read books on psychology/emotional intelligence you can recommend? I would appreciate it.
Hi @PeterOsaigbovo! Thanks for the wonderful feedback and glad it felt like a real workout :) Three books came to mind: The Book of Human Emotions by Tiffany Watt-Smith, this is an easy to read and fun book about emotions. There is Brene Brown's Dare to Lead (or Daring Greatly), which is also a super read. Lastly, slightly less easy to read, there is Emotional Agility by Susan David. Happy doings and wishing you the most joyous of days!
I can't answer most of the questions you asked. I rank a 0 in emotional intelligence. Most of the time i feel no emotion. When I do it is an painful emotion like sorrow, rage, or shame. For example i was able to complete the 3 things I am grateful for. Not because i feel grateful but because i can intellectualize it and come up with things i think i should be grateful for. Do you have any advice on how to get started with building EQ because these exercised didn't touch me at all.
Hi @DAClub-uf3br - thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and for giving the Workout a go. Firstly, I would contest that you are 0 in emotional intelligence - the fact that you are giving this exercise a try, that you can think about gratefulness, and know that you have experienced rage, sorrow or shame all indicate for me an awareness of your emotional intelligence :) I resonate with a lot of what you have written; there have been lots of times where I am neutral (not feeling emotions, either high or low), as well as a tendency to think more intellectually about emotions as opposed to just feeling them. It is one of the reasons I started trying to improve my EQ - to experience emotions more regularly. One of the ways I started was strictly intellectual, I set out to improve my vocabulary (literacy) of emotions - I started off knowing only basic emotions and aimed to learn more and more. As I was exploring the new emotions, I would take a moment to reflect when I had felt that emotion in my life or seen it in others or on tv. This has helped me become more aware of my emotions in the present as well. The last smidgeon of advice going through my head is to lean into your strengths - it sounds to me you approach things more intellectually, so lean into that approach. Don't worry if the emotions don't touch you at the moment and if you want to improve your EQ, begin in a thinking way. How does all that sound to you? I'm happy to pick up in a conversation if helpful to you :) wishing you an abundance of warmth and joy.
Phew! Felt like a real workout. This was more difficult than I thought but enjoyable nonetheless. Thank you. A bit unrelated, are there easy-to-read books on psychology/emotional intelligence you can recommend? I would appreciate it.
Hi @PeterOsaigbovo! Thanks for the wonderful feedback and glad it felt like a real workout :)
Three books came to mind: The Book of Human Emotions by Tiffany Watt-Smith, this is an easy to read and fun book about emotions.
There is Brene Brown's Dare to Lead (or Daring Greatly), which is also a super read. Lastly, slightly less easy to read, there is Emotional Agility by Susan David.
Happy doings and wishing you the most joyous of days!
I can't answer most of the questions you asked. I rank a 0 in emotional intelligence. Most of the time i feel no emotion. When I do it is an painful emotion like sorrow, rage, or shame. For example i was able to complete the 3 things I am grateful for. Not because i feel grateful but because i can intellectualize it and come up with things i think i should be grateful for. Do you have any advice on how to get started with building EQ because these exercised didn't touch me at all.
Hi @DAClub-uf3br - thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and for giving the Workout a go. Firstly, I would contest that you are 0 in emotional intelligence - the fact that you are giving this exercise a try, that you can think about gratefulness, and know that you have experienced rage, sorrow or shame all indicate for me an awareness of your emotional intelligence :)
I resonate with a lot of what you have written; there have been lots of times where I am neutral (not feeling emotions, either high or low), as well as a tendency to think more intellectually about emotions as opposed to just feeling them. It is one of the reasons I started trying to improve my EQ - to experience emotions more regularly.
One of the ways I started was strictly intellectual, I set out to improve my vocabulary (literacy) of emotions - I started off knowing only basic emotions and aimed to learn more and more. As I was exploring the new emotions, I would take a moment to reflect when I had felt that emotion in my life or seen it in others or on tv. This has helped me become more aware of my emotions in the present as well.
The last smidgeon of advice going through my head is to lean into your strengths - it sounds to me you approach things more intellectually, so lean into that approach. Don't worry if the emotions don't touch you at the moment and if you want to improve your EQ, begin in a thinking way.
How does all that sound to you? I'm happy to pick up in a conversation if helpful to you :) wishing you an abundance of warmth and joy.