So many women end up being teamed up on by husband and his mother and it's sad. What makes it worse is typically the mother in law is a classic misogynist who thinks her precious adult son shouldn't have to do laundry or do house work. She goes and agrees with him and the two of them together tell you how you're a terrible wife and OTHER wives would baby him! Being a "momma's boy" is a red flag. Run. Not to mention he's saying SHE ruined the trip for enforcing her boundaries that she already made clear. Not that HE ruined the trip for crossing and disrespecting the boundary she already laid out clearly. If he can't respect this boundary and victim blames her when she enforces said boundary, what other boundaries is he willing to disregard for his own gain or pleasure? Red flag red flag red flag RED FLAG.
@@user-fe8gx3ie5v painting this as merely "spoiling your kid" when you know very well that the only reason he's allowed to be inept and the wife is expected to be a house maid is BECAUSE of misogynistic standards...
@@jadecoolness101 No, this is definitely from traditionalism and spoiling the son too much. Basically, the son working as a provider whole the wife takes care of the house.
"My family said I should've sucked it up and done my best to enjoy" Sucked it up??? For your own trip that you took time and money out for??? She shouldn't be anything less than petty for other people ruining /her/ vacation
Man I would’ve been extra mad if I was funding the whole thing just to find out you allocated MY money for someone to go on the trip, especially when I didn’t want them to go. Ooh! Talk about HOT! 😤
I seriously don't understand how he is the TA. He just switched his milk. So what if R got bad stomach. Is he R's caretaker or smt? Why he should be responsible for R's lactose intolerans?
The guy who got cheated on has really messed up priorities and the way his family's reacting this makes me see why. He needs to understand that his ex's actions reflect solely on her and not on him at all. Her cheating does not make him not a man It makes her an asshole. In fact the only emasculating thing here is crawling out the window instead of just walking out.
Story 1: That's such a major red flag. He went behind your back to do that, and he's trying to make other people see you as the problem. I wouldn't let that slide & would start looking with a serious lense at the other stuff he's done. Is it worth it to stay if he trusts & cares that little?
I am so glad that dad stood up for his trans son. I know what it's like for those around me to not stand up like that and I always feel so bad. Obviously nta
@@user-fe8gx3ie5vYour transphobia isn't welcome here. Emkay as a channel is very pro LGBT. I can tell by the amount of comments you've made that you're just here to start drama 🙄
That first story is a fucking bombshell of a disaster. The wife is in the right. Her husband either needs to cut the cord of lose his wife and move back in with his mother. All he's doing is enabling how clingy his mother is while reciprocating the sentiment. As for the final story, the OP was an asshole, but it was a deserved asshole moment. The true assholes were the parents of the Miracle Baby who kept wanting to bring a child to a function that s/he wouldn't sit still for. If you have to tell people like that "No" time and again until you have to make visual cues for said person, it just goes to show they never heard the word in their lives. IP wasn't the asshole of the story, but they were an asshole of comical proportions and they deserve that moment
In the child-free wedding story, Yes using the flashcards and that meant or was a 100% disrespectful. The problem is is that they kind of force something that would make a huge impression because you had spoken to them several times beforehand and they were refusing to listen to you. So while yes it does kind of make you an asshole it's like a two out of 10 asshole and what some of my friends like to call "justifiable asshole"
WE MUST PROTECT THE WHOLESOME TRANS DAD!!!!!!!!! A MAN OF GOD! A TRUE GENTELMAN AND A SCHOLAR 👏👏👑👏👑👏👑👏👑👏👑👏👑👏 Edit: I just realized the sad hilarity of a trans person (myself) seeing this as a feel-good story because of the dad and not horrible because of the sister. Like I expect so much bigotry of b******* that that doesn't affect me at all but the second somebody does even something kind of kind to the trans community it just makes my little gay hearts soar!!!!
Story 3: You weren't even asked. They just assumed you'd be taking careof everything. Your husband's family is treating you crass, and its time to ask yourself if you want to stay with someone who obviously cares more about your money than you. Money changes people, and not always for the better, as we see here.
For the last one i feel like if someone simply does not understand what “no” means, the line of “too humiliating” barely even exist, and this was not remotely close to it lmao
story 6: It's YOUR day, not her. She doesn't get to pick what she wears because she doesn't like the color. Wear it and move on, she's acting like a spoiled toddler. She decided to buy the dress, despite knowing she wasn't supposed to. Why would you need to give money back for something you told her not to wear??
for the not telling the gender of the baby one, nta, the only way for her to be the a-hole is if he was going to something important like a work meeting that cannot be rescheduled, or a different doctors appointment, or something that is actually important rather than fish 'n' chips.
@@user-fe8gx3ie5v yes, but if he cares more about a random hangout with a Freind than his kid, he doesn’t need to care for that kid, if the hangout was prepaid and he really doesn’t want to have wasted money, that’s fine, or if it was an actually important thing, like a business decision, then it’s respectable, however he left to go hang out with his friend with no warning or reason.
@@auragamerytTo play devil's advocate, we don't know the nature of this meal. Maybe this was a close friend whom he hasn't seen in a long time and he'd only be there for a day. Or maybe his friend was in a bad mental state and needed immediate support. If either of these was the case, he'd tell her, but she'd also probably leave it out of the story.
My brother brought one of his step kids to my otherwise childfree wedding. I wasn't too bothered by it, though, because I gave exactly zero shits about it being childfree. That was something my dad and stepmom (who did like 90% of the planning) insisted on. And since none of my, or my then fiance's friends had any kids, we saw no reason to make a big deal about it.
@@TheGhostFart Because my dad and stepmom were the ones who cared about it being childfree (none of our friends had any kids anyway, so there weren't a whole lot of people on the guest list who would bring kids). And they are also the ones who made the exception. All I cared about was making sure the vows were as short and simple as I could get them.
Mm, I'd say ESH for the milk thing. Thats like "i wish you'd stop parking on my lawn, so I hid bear traps in the grass." Hes an asshole for stealing your milk.. but if you just bought dairy itd be fine. You purposefully put it in the almond container... you poisoned him as revenge for milk.
Story 1: nta why would you bring ur mother on a vacation with your spouse you wanna marry ur mom lmaoo Story 2: nta since he defended his trans son Story 3: nta because her mother literally died, and they are thinking she can pay for everything now
Story 10: That's cool their kid is a rainbow baby. What's the relevance to your wedding? Being a rainbow baby isn't an excuse to get away with whatever you want. It's not your choice. He is disprecpeting your wishes by continuously asking when you clearly said no.
Story 2: She made a scene when she decided to dead name. She could have used his name & let him use the correct dress code, but she decided to be transphobic.
Story 7 - It's your house. You could make them pay for every bit & then still just be at your house. Nobody said you had to leave. You're under no obligation to give them anything for free.
To the dad who stood up for his trans son, I'm a trans man and would most definitely leave a family function for deadnaming me, because my family is unsupportive, but I've been no contact for nearly 10 years and only recently have a couple relatives (minus my brother and step sister who both were pretty accepting quickly but just lost contact with them over time) have tried to get a hold of me suddenly using my preferred name after years of belittling me. I still refuse to talk to them because the years of abuse are simply not worth it and I don't want to invite it to happen again, although I have regained contact with my younger step sister and she's very nice and wants to meet up eventually, she's one of the two that weren't immediately in denial about it.
Exactly. Easy clap back. Tell her "you're mad you did bad stuff and someone retaliated, when you tell this story to others for pity make sure you include you deadnamed a trans nephew."
Story 9: Just hearing that first bit makes me think you might want to rethink your marriage. He doesn't put his care in the same places as you, and this could end up really hurting you. Get out now.
For that first story, that wife is not overreacting. Her husband's mom seems like a terrible person. I've met people like these before, i'm related to someone who acts like this person's husband and their mom acts like this person's husband's mom, trust me when I say that the poster of the story was in the right to go home, her husband is a jerk.
The cheating Sarah story is a self asshole.. by assuming being cheated meant he was humiliated he caused a lot of problems for himself (hence self) and they could have most likely been avoided had he just said something sooner. An unusual case where you bring it upon yourself but you weren't really an asshole to others. Sympathetic, but he caused a lot of problems down the line!
The milk one is actually quite illegal in most countries! Tampering with food with the expectation of someone else consuming it and having an adverse reaction, whether they deserved the comeuppance or not, can be prosecuted and result in jailtime. What the roomie did sucked, but what the OP did was seriously illegal, and could have resulted in the biggest blowback of all time.
You're right, they should have never admitted to doing it intentionally. Make up any excuse you can so that the situation is that milk thief poisoned their own dumb ass self. "You're reusing a container to portion from a larger one, you are clueless and don't know shit about shit" and repeat ad nauseum until police let you go.
So... that last one... are we going to ignore the fact that it's probably her fiancé's baby? All of the "failed attempts" coupled with the sil sending pictures of a baby to her fiancé with no context smells like that's the fiancé's baby to me. Maybe I'm just paranoid, but I'd get a DNA test done. Just saying. Be suspicious.
3:29 The bride's anger is understandable, especially if she was from a non-western culture, but she shouldn't call out the trans person out directly like that. People should wear whatever they want, but the bride has some power and the internal family conflicts based on the point of the transition of Connor makes it seem like Connor should have just not gone to the wedding so this whole mess could've been avoided. The poster is not a jerk, but this whole situation could've been avoided if people learned that you don't have to like boy things to be a boy. The bride overreacted, her intentions were ok but the way she did it is not ok at all. Sorry for bad English!
yup, that's the time you stand up when the mother/family says that they need to talk things out, and look the ex dead in the eye, and say clearly enough that all can hear, that you thought that she'd be spending time with her new guy that she cheated on you with. Then look at mom and say that you didn't want to go into detail because it wasn't anyone else's business, and you were trying to "save the ex the embarrassment", but since she was there, the truth had to be told.
Story 1: dude wanted to be married to his mom. Divorce that man and find one who has cut the umbilical cord. 😂
The umbilical cord part made me audibly snort laughing
Yeah uh... I'm not gonna take my in-laws on a trip for only my partner and I. That's pretty weird, and not in a good way.
You are a man.
So many women end up being teamed up on by husband and his mother and it's sad.
What makes it worse is typically the mother in law is a classic misogynist who thinks her precious adult son shouldn't have to do laundry or do house work. She goes and agrees with him and the two of them together tell you how you're a terrible wife and OTHER wives would baby him!
Being a "momma's boy" is a red flag. Run.
Not to mention he's saying SHE ruined the trip for enforcing her boundaries that she already made clear. Not that HE ruined the trip for crossing and disrespecting the boundary she already laid out clearly. If he can't respect this boundary and victim blames her when she enforces said boundary, what other boundaries is he willing to disregard for his own gain or pleasure? Red flag red flag red flag RED FLAG.
@@jadecoolness101 Spoiling your kid isn't "muh soggy knee."
@@user-fe8gx3ie5v painting this as merely "spoiling your kid" when you know very well that the only reason he's allowed to be inept and the wife is expected to be a house maid is BECAUSE of misogynistic standards...
@@jadecoolness101 No, this is definitely from traditionalism and spoiling the son too much. Basically, the son working as a provider whole the wife takes care of the house.
"My family said I should've sucked it up and done my best to enjoy"
Sucked it up??? For your own trip that you took time and money out for??? She shouldn't be anything less than petty for other people ruining /her/ vacation
Man I would’ve been extra mad if I was funding the whole thing just to find out you allocated MY money for someone to go on the trip, especially when I didn’t want them to go. Ooh! Talk about HOT! 😤
Im pretty sure I'm lactose intolerant and I think that the milk story OP is not the asshole.
I seriously don't understand how he is the TA. He just switched his milk. So what if R got bad stomach. Is he R's caretaker or smt? Why he should be responsible for R's lactose intolerans?
@@aysenurozkalkan3671lactose intolerance can range from "my tummy hurt" to "anaphylaxis and death"
The guy who got cheated on has really messed up priorities and the way his family's reacting this makes me see why. He needs to understand that his ex's actions reflect solely on her and not on him at all. Her cheating does not make him not a man It makes her an asshole. In fact the only emasculating thing here is crawling out the window instead of just walking out.
First one: Yeah no,mama’s boy - divorce that man asap
Lesson from this video; Never deal with weddings
Story 1: That's such a major red flag. He went behind your back to do that, and he's trying to make other people see you as the problem. I wouldn't let that slide & would start looking with a serious lense at the other stuff he's done. Is it worth it to stay if he trusts & cares that little?
That dad who just left is amazing.
Always love a good AITA session, gonna have a listen and offer my opinion
8:15 I have divorced parents and I'm not even finished with the story and 99% sure he is nta 😟
I am so glad that dad stood up for his trans son. I know what it's like for those around me to not stand up like that and I always feel so bad. Obviously nta
his daughter*
@@user-fe8gx3ie5vyou mean son
@@Coolhand118 Humans cannot change genders. Please seek therapy.
@@user-fe8gx3ie5vno, his son.
@@user-fe8gx3ie5vYour transphobia isn't welcome here. Emkay as a channel is very pro LGBT. I can tell by the amount of comments you've made that you're just here to start drama 🙄
I read the title of the last story and was like "This could go very different directions and it all depends on what the f a 'rainbow baby' is"
That first story is a fucking bombshell of a disaster. The wife is in the right. Her husband either needs to cut the cord of lose his wife and move back in with his mother. All he's doing is enabling how clingy his mother is while reciprocating the sentiment.
As for the final story, the OP was an asshole, but it was a deserved asshole moment. The true assholes were the parents of the Miracle Baby who kept wanting to bring a child to a function that s/he wouldn't sit still for. If you have to tell people like that "No" time and again until you have to make visual cues for said person, it just goes to show they never heard the word in their lives. IP wasn't the asshole of the story, but they were an asshole of comical proportions and they deserve that moment
In the child-free wedding story, Yes using the flashcards and that meant or was a 100% disrespectful. The problem is is that they kind of force something that would make a huge impression because you had spoken to them several times beforehand and they were refusing to listen to you. So while yes it does kind of make you an asshole it's like a two out of 10 asshole and what some of my friends like to call "justifiable asshole"
WE MUST PROTECT THE WHOLESOME TRANS DAD!!!!!!!!! A MAN OF GOD! A TRUE GENTELMAN AND A SCHOLAR 👏👏👑👏👑👏👑👏👑👏👑👏👑👏
Edit: I just realized the sad hilarity of a trans person (myself) seeing this as a feel-good story because of the dad and not horrible because of the sister. Like I expect so much bigotry of b******* that that doesn't affect me at all but the second somebody does even something kind of kind to the trans community it just makes my little gay hearts soar!!!!
Bigotry is so common in people's families that any story where a parent stands up for their trans kid is feel-good
@@cactus.man_ I was very lucky to have parents that defended me from my hateful school- but I'm the only one of my friends
I wish all the best to Connor I wanted to hug him so bad 🥺
Trans
Man of God.
Pick one and stick with it.
@@privateinformation2960 trans people are actually real soo
Story 3: You weren't even asked. They just assumed you'd be taking careof everything. Your husband's family is treating you crass, and its time to ask yourself if you want to stay with someone who obviously cares more about your money than you. Money changes people, and not always for the better, as we see here.
For the last one i feel like if someone simply does not understand what “no” means, the line of “too humiliating” barely even exist, and this was not remotely close to it lmao
story 6: It's YOUR day, not her. She doesn't get to pick what she wears because she doesn't like the color. Wear it and move on, she's acting like a spoiled toddler. She decided to buy the dress, despite knowing she wasn't supposed to. Why would you need to give money back for something you told her not to wear??
First one - NTA. YOU paid, told her no. You AGREED not to bring her and he did it anyway.
for the not telling the gender of the baby one, nta, the only way for her to be the a-hole is if he was going to something important like a work meeting that cannot be rescheduled, or a different doctors appointment, or something that is actually important rather than fish 'n' chips.
It's petty as fuck. He's still the father.
@@user-fe8gx3ie5v yes, but if he cares more about a random hangout with a Freind than his kid, he doesn’t need to care for that kid, if the hangout was prepaid and he really doesn’t want to have wasted money, that’s fine, or if it was an actually important thing, like a business decision, then it’s respectable, however he left to go hang out with his friend with no warning or reason.
@@auragameryt I must've missed that part. If he decided to hang with friends, then yeah, that makes sense. Still kinda petty, but understandable.
@@user-fe8gx3ie5v,
"Wow. The kid isn't born yet, and he's already a dead beat dad." - Commenter
^^ That should have been your clue.
@@auragamerytTo play devil's advocate, we don't know the nature of this meal. Maybe this was a close friend whom he hasn't seen in a long time and he'd only be there for a day. Or maybe his friend was in a bad mental state and needed immediate support. If either of these was the case, he'd tell her, but she'd also probably leave it out of the story.
My brother brought one of his step kids to my otherwise childfree wedding. I wasn't too bothered by it, though, because I gave exactly zero shits about it being childfree. That was something my dad and stepmom (who did like 90% of the planning) insisted on. And since none of my, or my then fiance's friends had any kids, we saw no reason to make a big deal about it.
why tell everyone you're gonna be doing a childfree wedding if you're not even gonna enforce it 🤔
@@TheGhostFart Because my dad and stepmom were the ones who cared about it being childfree (none of our friends had any kids anyway, so there weren't a whole lot of people on the guest list who would bring kids). And they are also the ones who made the exception. All I cared about was making sure the vows were as short and simple as I could get them.
Mm, I'd say ESH for the milk thing. Thats like "i wish you'd stop parking on my lawn, so I hid bear traps in the grass." Hes an asshole for stealing your milk.. but if you just bought dairy itd be fine. You purposefully put it in the almond container... you poisoned him as revenge for milk.
Story 1: nta why would you bring ur mother on a vacation with your spouse you wanna marry ur mom lmaoo
Story 2: nta since he defended his trans son
Story 3: nta because her mother literally died, and they are thinking she can pay for everything now
story 4: NTA, people don't have a right to your food. It's yours, not theirs. Maybe they can pay for your roommate's milk if they're so concerned.
Story 10: That's cool their kid is a rainbow baby. What's the relevance to your wedding? Being a rainbow baby isn't an excuse to get away with whatever you want. It's not your choice. He is disprecpeting your wishes by continuously asking when you clearly said no.
You can tell that they use that word to guilt trip family into all sorts of things.
3 months, ok, kid can come
3 Years?? No way. That kid will be bored silly and getting into all sorts of stuff.
@@kristic4472 No kids means no kids. I've babysat 3 month olds before. And yeah, the kid would be bored silly.
Story 2: She made a scene when she decided to dead name. She could have used his name & let him use the correct dress code, but she decided to be transphobic.
Story 7 - It's your house. You could make them pay for every bit & then still just be at your house. Nobody said you had to leave. You're under no obligation to give them anything for free.
The first guys mom sounds a lot like on of those weird boy moms. NTA
story 5: this is the second story we've seen about how money can change people. It's yours, not hers. She has no right to say what you do with it.
To the dad who stood up for his trans son, I'm a trans man and would most definitely leave a family function for deadnaming me, because my family is unsupportive, but I've been no contact for nearly 10 years and only recently have a couple relatives (minus my brother and step sister who both were pretty accepting quickly but just lost contact with them over time) have tried to get a hold of me suddenly using my preferred name after years of belittling me.
I still refuse to talk to them because the years of abuse are simply not worth it and I don't want to invite it to happen again, although I have regained contact with my younger step sister and she's very nice and wants to meet up eventually, she's one of the two that weren't immediately in denial about it.
That's his daughter. Humans cannot change genders. Please seek therapy.
I agree! This father is NTA, his sister on the other hand
Good for you for getting out of that toxic environment!
Exactly. Easy clap back. Tell her "you're mad you did bad stuff and someone retaliated, when you tell this story to others for pity make sure you include you deadnamed a trans nephew."
@@RoundShades "Deadnaming" isn't a thing. Humans cannot change genders, and enabling a very harmful mental illness is basically killing them.
@@nyanpug3014 Humans cannot change genders.
Story 9: Just hearing that first bit makes me think you might want to rethink your marriage. He doesn't put his care in the same places as you, and this could end up really hurting you. Get out now.
Oh my God Connor I want to HUG CONNOR SO BAD BECAUSE IK HOW THE GENDER DYSPHORIA FEELS 🥺🥺🥺
“EwWw a LigHt mOde UseR”
People like this are giving 🤓 emoji
In the case of the New Year's Eve post, not the poster is not a jerk. The other stories on here can be debated, but this one is a hard not the jerk.
For that first story, that wife is not overreacting. Her husband's mom seems like a terrible person. I've met people like these before, i'm related to someone who acts like this person's husband and their mom acts like this person's husband's mom, trust me when I say that the poster of the story was in the right to go home, her husband is a jerk.
I tought i had the video speed up 😅
The cheating Sarah story is a self asshole.. by assuming being cheated meant he was humiliated he caused a lot of problems for himself (hence self) and they could have most likely been avoided had he just said something sooner. An unusual case where you bring it upon yourself but you weren't really an asshole to others. Sympathetic, but he caused a lot of problems down the line!
The milk one is actually quite illegal in most countries! Tampering with food with the expectation of someone else consuming it and having an adverse reaction, whether they deserved the comeuppance or not, can be prosecuted and result in jailtime. What the roomie did sucked, but what the OP did was seriously illegal, and could have resulted in the biggest blowback of all time.
You're right, they should have never admitted to doing it intentionally. Make up any excuse you can so that the situation is that milk thief poisoned their own dumb ass self. "You're reusing a container to portion from a larger one, you are clueless and don't know shit about shit" and repeat ad nauseum until police let you go.
trans rights
This Must Be The Same Person Writing These Stories.
So... that last one... are we going to ignore the fact that it's probably her fiancé's baby? All of the "failed attempts" coupled with the sil sending pictures of a baby to her fiancé with no context smells like that's the fiancé's baby to me. Maybe I'm just paranoid, but I'd get a DNA test done. Just saying. Be suspicious.
Are you serious?
@@aysenurozkalkan3671 yeah
story 2 dawg not at all bro
LITERALLY I WANTED TO HUG CONNOR SO BADLY
Lost all respect for narrator knowing he would be OK with his girlfriend funding her ex boyfriends lifestyle
3:29 The bride's anger is understandable, especially if she was from a non-western culture, but she shouldn't call out the trans person out directly like that. People should wear whatever they want, but the bride has some power and the internal family conflicts based on the point of the transition of Connor makes it seem like Connor should have just not gone to the wedding so this whole mess could've been avoided. The poster is not a jerk, but this whole situation could've been avoided if people learned that you don't have to like boy things to be a boy. The bride overreacted, her intentions were ok but the way she did it is not ok at all.
Sorry for bad English!
I'm so frustrated by the guy who would rather jump out a window that feel "emasculated" in front of his mom.
yup, that's the time you stand up when the mother/family says that they need to talk things out, and look the ex dead in the eye, and say clearly enough that all can hear, that you thought that she'd be spending time with her new guy that she cheated on you with. Then look at mom and say that you didn't want to go into detail because it wasn't anyone else's business, and you were trying to "save the ex the embarrassment", but since she was there, the truth had to be told.