I don't compare in physical looks or body composition, but it's in my professional life and my spiritual practice that it comes on strong. I see other people in my profession who are engaged, active, and have all of this knowledge that I don't have. Why am I not more like them? Why don't I care as much about issues in our profession as they do? I see fellow meditators who are seemingly more engaged with their practice and are rising in status in our spiritual community.
Yes 🙌🏾! It leads to negative intrusive thoughts like, “They are so much better than me” or “I’m not good enough” Rehearsing or feeding into those thoughts leads to anxiety and depression if not dealt with. Galatians 6:4 says “Focus on your OWN work, for then you will receive the SATISFACTION of a job well done, NOT COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS! Thanks for this❤
I catch myself comparing myself to others, in how I do things from how they do things in their lives. Thank you for the inspiration Kristina. Will be listening to more of your videos
Encouraging words. Very logical advice. If only we were equipped with an off switch for our feelings. And most of us who play the comparison game intuitively know it's illogical. But just because we're *told* to feel proud of ourselves and not jealous of others doesn't mean, ding, it happens in a blink.
Generally, it comes down to my looks. You are right, I can’t change my face without surgery which is not within my value system. I can make impact on my health and how I take care of my body.
I’m proud of despite how hard it was to be in this rollover van accident I’ve came so far. I haven’t let my trauma become suicide. Even though at moments it feels like I have and I’ve kept going.
every time i go to church i envy those two income couples, that are active in the church, raising a family, nice homes, and i am on the other hand am caring for a sick wife, dealing with recent losses of siblings, and constantly keep getting knocked town, and getting back up
i’m morgen, i am in my first year of college and to be honest i am really struggling… i was unfortunately born with achondroplasia (a form of dwarfism) i constantly get stuck in my head and think of every single negative thought, i feel like everyone is judging me and i feel really left out and thinking everyone hates me
My thoughts and notes on Julia’s UA-cam video (10/31/24):
How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others (and feel GREAT about yourself)
This is one of my favorite topics. I enjoy this topic because it is one of the things I have struggled the most, and now one of the things that I am overcoming! To me, I have always struggled when I had a crush on someone and yet that person is with someone else and I would compare myself to that person. “I am not as attractive as that person. “or “I am not good enough.” Although, there may be some intrusive thoughts, I can take a step back and overcome them by reminding myself, “Chris, look at all the mind management and inner work you have been doing. This feels good and makes me fall in love with myself (in a healthy way) and I am starting to believe because of this work, I am attractive enough. Good job. I am proud of you!”
Here are my notes:
* Ask yourself what is it that you are comparing yourself to that person? * What it takes for that person to get or have what you want? * Am I willing to do the work and put in the effort it takes me to get to that similar outcome? * Be honest, do you really want that outcome? Do you really want to do all that work and effort?
How to overcome the comparison trap: * Be happy for those that you have compared yourself with. Create a list that makes them great. * Be proud of yourself and acknowledge the things that are great about you. * Make a list that shows what is great about you. * There are things that are great about them and there are things that are great about me.
* Keep your eyes on what is important to you and focus on that:
* This is where I'm at. * This is where I am growing. * This is where I am showing up intentionally. * This is how I am investing into the things that are important to me. * Be proud of that and grateful for focusing on yourself for doing that. * Keep the eyes on my own journey. * How do I want to show up today that aligns with my values and my goals?
* If you are going to look at other people, look for them for inspiration, and NOT comparison:
* Look at the possibilities and get excited!
* Be intentional when scrolling through social media:
* Check in with yourself after using social media. Does it make you feel good?
* Look at who YOU are and what YOU have to offer:
* No one can do you better than you can do you. * Only you know where you are at and what you have been through and what's important to you.
* Fall in love with yourself, be proud of yourself, and be your own best friend.
I'm good with,Me! Dont give up, keep going😮😮 love Pam, funny, so said, loved, says I'm good, loved like, pudding the proof in it, well see, not impossible
Share your experiences with comparison in the comments below and let’s support each other on this journey
I don't compare in physical looks or body composition, but it's in my professional life and my spiritual practice that it comes on strong. I see other people in my profession who are engaged, active, and have all of this knowledge that I don't have. Why am I not more like them? Why don't I care as much about issues in our profession as they do? I see fellow meditators who are seemingly more engaged with their practice and are rising in status in our spiritual community.
Yes 🙌🏾! It leads to negative intrusive thoughts like, “They are so much better than me” or “I’m not good enough” Rehearsing or feeding into those thoughts leads to anxiety and depression if not dealt with. Galatians 6:4 says “Focus on your OWN work, for then you will receive the SATISFACTION of a job well done, NOT COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS! Thanks for this❤
I catch myself comparing myself to others, in how I do things from how they do things in their lives. Thank you for the inspiration Kristina. Will be listening to more of your videos
Encouraging words. Very logical advice. If only we were equipped with an off switch for our feelings. And most of us who play the comparison game intuitively know it's illogical. But just because we're *told* to feel proud of ourselves and not jealous of others doesn't mean, ding, it happens in a blink.
Needed this. Thank you
I was having a rough morning. Was all up in my head and you showed up. I am going to watch more of your videos so I can get back on track. ❤
Thank you, Julia!
Abilities. Charlie, here. Thanks very much.
Thank you Julia.
Generally, it comes down to my looks. You are right, I can’t change my face without surgery which is not within my value system. I can make impact on my health and how I take care of my body.
Important tasks
I’m proud of despite how hard it was to be in this rollover van accident I’ve came so far. I haven’t let my trauma become suicide. Even though at moments it feels like I have and I’ve kept going.
Inspire, you!😊
every time i go to church i envy those two income couples, that are active in the church, raising a family, nice homes, and i am on the other hand am caring for a sick wife, dealing with recent losses of siblings, and constantly keep getting knocked town, and getting back up
I just walked to my desk thinking everyone does things better than me. I pickup my phone and see this video.
Julia, how do you know?
John from Africa 🌍
i’m morgen, i am in my first year of college and to be honest i am really struggling… i was unfortunately born with achondroplasia (a form of dwarfism) i constantly get stuck in my head and think of every single negative thought, i feel like everyone is judging me and i feel really left out and thinking everyone hates me
My thoughts and notes on Julia’s UA-cam video (10/31/24):
How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others (and feel GREAT about yourself)
This is one of my favorite topics. I enjoy this topic because it is one of the things I have struggled the most, and now one of the things that I am overcoming!
To me, I have always struggled when I had a crush on someone and yet that person is with someone else and I would compare myself to that person. “I am not as attractive as that person. “or “I am not good enough.” Although, there may be some intrusive thoughts, I can take a step back and overcome them by reminding myself, “Chris, look at all the mind management and inner work you have been doing. This feels good and makes me fall in love with myself (in a healthy way) and I am starting to believe because of this work, I am attractive enough. Good job. I am proud of you!”
Here are my notes:
* Ask yourself what is it that you are comparing yourself to that person?
* What it takes for that person to get or have what you want?
* Am I willing to do the work and put in the effort it takes me to get to that similar outcome?
* Be honest, do you really want that outcome? Do you really want to do all that work and effort?
How to overcome the comparison trap:
* Be happy for those that you have compared yourself with. Create a list that makes them great.
* Be proud of yourself and acknowledge the things that are great about you.
* Make a list that shows what is great about you.
* There are things that are great about them and there are things that are great about me.
* Keep your eyes on what is important to you and focus on that:
* This is where I'm at.
* This is where I am growing.
* This is where I am showing up intentionally.
* This is how I am investing into the things that are important to me.
* Be proud of that and grateful for focusing on yourself for doing that.
* Keep the eyes on my own journey.
* How do I want to show up today that aligns with my values and my goals?
* If you are going to look at other people, look for them for inspiration, and NOT comparison:
* Look at the possibilities and get excited!
* Be intentional when scrolling through social media:
* Check in with yourself after using social media. Does it make you feel good?
* Look at who YOU are and what YOU have to offer:
* No one can do you better than you can do you.
* Only you know where you are at and what you have been through and what's important to you.
* Fall in love with yourself, be proud of yourself, and be your own best friend.
My life
Hi Julia.😂❤
Relationships
Hey blinky😂😂😂❤❤❤❤😍😍
I'm good with,Me! Dont give up, keep going😮😮 love Pam, funny, so said, loved, says I'm good, loved like, pudding the proof in it, well see, not impossible
My home, and liked or not
Do the work woman. 😂😂
Marriage
My body my car family helping them mine doesn't help me 😢
Husband
A job
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