I gave my Barbie dolls to my cousin, it still makes me wanna cry a little when I think about it. I didn't know why at the spark of the moment I felt fine giving them away. But later felt like I lost the love of my life. How cruel was I to just give them away to a new home. I miss them so much, but I guess she will use and cherish them (three of them actually) more than I do now that I am all grown up. I seldom think about it because it makes me think about all the melancholic memories during childhood. But for this video sake, I will think about them for a little bit.
you probably won't hear this but I really enjoy your videos they're very entertaining especially you having pretty much your whole past recorded. Keep it up, man.
@@thebigstick5540 Well there's always a good chance since it is a public high school, on the internet you can't really tell the truth or lie but taking the truth for positive stuff is better for the good
You do make a good point but if the memories were so great you won’t forget it ever and the next time you see said item somewhere else the rush of nostalgia will feel so much better
I couldn't help but smile as you described wanting to hold onto some of your things because I can definitely relate! Thanks for the reminder of letting go of what's useless and holding onto what's most precious. You have a wonderful wife, mother and family. You're all a wonderful blessing. 🙏🏻💖🙏🏻
Frank, the arc of your narration has me in stitches. Starts off normal, then you get goofy describing the extreme lengths you've gone too for your Civic, then evolves into a breathless and prophetic defence of all sorts of off childhood ephemera - hilarious! Nice to see you are a mere mortal like the rest of us. But of course, you leave us with so much wisdom. Back in 2009, my dad died suddenly in the midst of my parents separation. We had to move out of my childhood home AND deal with his belongings on a tight timeline. Ive blacked out a lot of those memories because as you can imagine, it was a very painful time and I had to let go of a lot before I felt ready. I had to rapidly accept that my dads things did not bring him back. Sometimes I wish I had some of the things that are now long gone, but to comfort myself I have no choice really but to meditate and be grateful for the things that are inextricable: our memories, our experiences, all the ways I carry on his best qualities etc. I hope you keep the best of the best in a few waterproof totes for safekeeping! Think of all the new space as room for all the amazing life and fun ahead of you
andie thank you so much for your kind words and support!! I really appreciate your insight and encouragement, and I'm so sorry to hear about the experience with losing your dad. sending you so much love my friend thank you so much for your love and support!!!
Bro most of your videos bring me to the edge of tears, I can relate so much and hearing these things from another person makes it easier to get a grip on reality
I've actually been trying to get rid of all my stuff as well. That new minimalist approach where you spend more time with your family/loved ones and reducing the clutter. I grew up in a poor and my parents always had the mentality of "we might need this later" ingrained into my brain. But stuff gotta change when you're living with so much junk. So I adopted a new rule: If I haven't touched it in a year, I'm gonna get rid of it.
We have the same rule ! I too , grew up poor....even when our financial situation changed, my parents really struggled to cast the trauma they had having poor financials. My family is doing a lot better these days, i have some hope that they will eventually kick the habit..... but the traces are still there....lingering like old horrible memories of the past. it's okay, cuz i'm okay.... i'm married and have a lovely , clean, clutter free, tidy home to come to now . biggest life change i have ever made, and it's helped me gain confidence in growing in other areas. Keep at it! you won't regret it :)
Having attachments to items that have pleasant memories means that you have a big heart. Just remember that the "things"are just that, "things" as good as they make us feel it's the memories that are important. Your fond memories are forever. Don't deny yourself a few items to keep just make sure you are keeping just the cherished ones. As for me, the piano is a keeper. Much love to your family!
Civic Trunk flood in waters... lol. Same here. 😢we haven’t got rid of my brothers clothes... can’t seem to let it go. It’s all we have left of him. You’re lucky to have your wife. She’s a keeper.
My dad passed away in 2019 and my siblings and I had to go through 40 years of stuff he accumulated. We threw away a ton of nostalgic items. I took photos of anything that was important, but then I threw most of them away. Why? Because I don't want to lug it around for the next 30-40 years and put my kids through what me and my siblings had to do for weeks. The truth is, I dont miss a lot of it, and when I see the photos they bring back the memories just as well as if I had the physical item in front of me.
I do like the idea of taking pictures of the things you have to get rid of, that way you still have the memories. But, never let life’s memories pass you by!
I’m so happy I found this channel, been a little lost where I wanna go in life. This channel has helped me alot, thanks for the videos you make and I hope you make more
I can definetly relate to this, a couple of months ago I had old assignments from the 2nd grade all the way up to college, I had report cards, honor awards, I held onto receipts, old wires, broken controllers and keyboards, a random double AA battery, tv remote, phones, toys, old games I played as a kid, stuffed animals, folders, my 5th grade black and gray sweater that was stained with blood on the hoodie, my gym pants, 4th grade khakis, everything. It was really hard for me to let go of these things, although I know the memories are still somewhere in my mind, these objects were what I used to trigger these memories. After letting go of them, yes it helps me move forward and not dwell so much on the past, but it was almost like I let a piece of myself go with every item, every paper. Now I have no way of accessing those memories, or no trigger. Life is really bittersweet man.
Your value as a person is not calculated by the accumulation of objects. it is the accumulation of total growth, as a person, which makes you YOU. Have faith in yourself!
Great conclusion on this topic. Thanks a lot for sharing precious life lessons like this with us! I know it's not always easy to share such private content with your viewers, but I hope you know how much you're helping people like me on their jorneys with videos like this. Thanks for beeing the big bro we never had. Greetings from Germany, best wishes and good health for you and your Family
lols. Nice Civic! The feels. I prefer to drive my 99 Toyota because if someone steals it i’m not going to care but then I end up fixing everything on it because it’s my daily driver. Your things are definitely sentimental! I literally cried when I found out my dad threw away my chrome bmx GT bike. It took me a couple weeks to buy that bike for $500 as a kid throwing newspapers back in grade school. My brother told me somebody picked it right up on the curb. He saw it and never told me! Congrats on the wedding! God bless.
You have such precious home videos which have already captured all your good memories and sentimental items. You can keep some stuff, I still have a couple of boxes of my childhood toys, reports etc. My mother passed away almost 20yrs ago and I kept a few of her clothes and handbags and donated the rest.
I know how difficult it is! I still have a few clothing articles of my best friend who passed away of ALS. When I wear one of her skirts I remember how beautiful she looked in it and it makes me smile! Also, never loss site of the cross your mama wears, save it for your future daughter!♥️
Frank, this is the 2nd video of yours that has made me cry. I am by no means an emotional person, but these past few videos of yours have really struck a chord with me. Thank you for making such genuine and amazing content!
Awe, you guys are a beautiful couple ❤️. Keep up with your stories. It’s refreshing to hear them. My dad’s health has been in decline for awhile. It hurts to them in such pain but honestly seeing your videos reminds me to appreciate them even more.
Lease a storage, these things are great to show your kids in the future to explain your progress and timeline throughout life. My mom threw all of my childhood projects away.
Growing up, I always nagged at my mom for wanting to keep everything. It wasn't until recently that I found myself wanting to keep small things because like you said, it's for the memories. I'll leave one of my favorite quotes here: "Learn the difference between connection and attachment. Connection gives you power, attachment sucks the life out of you!" We never seem to stop learning, and that seems to be the best part about life! Happy holidays
Ooooh boy, Frank... Now imagine being like this (having a difficult time separating the memories from the items) but being in a family of SEVEN KIDS who do the same thing. 🤣 Letting go of things is definitely not easy, but I think being able to share memories with the ones we love is almost (almost) just as good as keeping that 10th grade term paper you were really proud of.
(i'm at 4:30) honestly, as a hoarder myself, this all sounds super reasonable. i couldn't get rid of any of the half-sentimental stuff i threw away over the summer, without taking photos of them or scanning all the old journals that i wrote. i'm glad you made this video.
I feel you. I have so much stuff I can't part with. It's hard to let go of the past but you have to in order to move forward. God bless you for being such a loving son and husband. 💖
I saw videos in regards to dementia and I learnt that knitting helps people with dementia to remember things better. Knitting helps cognition, hopefully this helps
Frank I cannot tell you enough times how much of a gift you've got, to engage people. Your life isn't considered bizarre, its still, calm and regular, yet the way you communicate story tell makes the mundane into something captivating. You have an insane ability to make your life experiences feel relevant to strangers on the internet. Keep at it. If i were you I'd consider more ways I can monetise this gift. It could even help you have even more freedom over your time and spend more time with your mother and wife.
I was always able to throw things out, up until a loved one passed and then it was impossible ..letting it go was like letting them go all over again .. I just did a large give away to good will ...knowing some one else can prosper helps but there is still so much more I need to let go of . When your wife tells you its time to throw more out ...what helps me is pausing and realizing these are just earthly things God gave them to us for a time , we cant take them with us when he calls us home . You make great videos my friend !
I went to Troy HS too! Class of 2018. I had some of those teachers too, Menna, Bainter, Grack, St. Clair. They’re still there 15 years later! Currently a 3rd year mechie at CSULB. You’re truly an inspiration frank!
Totally understand where such an idea came from. I, myself, somewhat having a similar problem; as well, trying to get rid of as much stuff as I can. Indeed your lovely wife must be very patient with you. Good luck, and bravo for caring for your mom that has dementia. Hang in there!
Hey Frank, I wanted to begin by saying thank you for continuing to share content on UA-cam. I first began watching your videos way back when in 2009/2010 when I was in high school, and am really glad you've re-found your love for posting videos and I look forward to watching them on a weekly basis. I, too, am a Taiwanese American, so it's great seeing you embody so much pride in our culture! Keep doing you! This video really resonated with me since I'm the exact same (actually both myself and my wife), holding onto so many things due to sentimental reasons. For example, I still have my starcraft and warcraft 3 battlechest in my room at my parent's house lmao. I still have a long way to go, but about a year ago, around the time that Marie Kondo rose in popularity, my wife and I decided that just because we wanted to get rid of old random stuff that we would never use again, it doesn't mean that we didn't cherish the experience/sentimental value that is associated with that object. We now view things through the lens that for 99% of things, if we haven't used/touched something in the last year, we would acknowledge the value/positive experience it had on us, but opt to throw it away. This has helped us significantly de-clutter our lives and we definitely think we're happier with this change. We still struggle with this, but overall it's definitely been a positive experience for us. I hope sharing this may be helpful to you and your wife!
thank you for the kind words and encouragement. I will definitely take your advice, I can see how its freeing to declutter. much love to you and your wife my friend! thank you
This hit very close to home. As someone who has dealt and is still dealing with parents and siblings who hoard, this is very typical hoarding behavior and mentality, and it’s a lot better that you get rid of your items now before it becomes a hard coping mechanism in response to loss or trauma. When my mom lost her mom in 2012, 8 years later the house is in the worst shape it’s ever been. These leave lasting effects and can ruin relationships between a family. better believe that it’s not just about the stuff and the space that it takes up, but the emotional burden of keeping those things for years as well.
I am a horder too. Don't want to throw anything away because of the sentimental value. So I can totally feel you when you throwing the things away. Happy New Year Frank
At 23, I have a problem throwing stuff out as well. I have old text books from college, I have toys from childhood, I have mail from family memebers stock piled. I haven't thrown away my old gamecube and ps2 even though I've tried to repair them over and over again. It's hard man, every single video I seem more and more like you.
hey man, im actually going through a decluttering phase. I learned that i only need the things that are essential. I took pictures of sentimental items and threw them out or donated them. It helped me declutter my mind as well. There is a bunch of vids on youtube about "decluttering", "essentialism", and "minimalism" that might help you declutter. Good luck on your journey! Hope I helped! Happy New Year to your family!
Just read the description and I'm so proud of you for striving through that week! You will only get stronger from such experiences but I don't need to tell you that. You're the master of reflecting in life :)
So many justifications lol. I too struggle. I've been slowly been getting rid of things, but I still cannot part with my first few PC build empty boxes and sentimental reasons for early 🎮. You are already on the right path, with the perspective of growth 📈.
Reading the title, I'm like "um with ya frank!" Cuz my wife made me get rid of stuff too, but it was stuff we needed like my couch and vacuum and stuff, not sentimental stuff. But then after I saw the stuff, I'm like "nah, Joanne is right." XD But I've found the best way to honor old stuff is to give it new life. With some of ur mom's old clothes or items, could really bless someone else. And wouldn't that be an amazing way to honor ur mom. To use her stuff to bless others who need it. Thanks for sharing as always frank.
Man we have such different lives yet I can relate so much to some of yoyr experiences. I feel the same things when it comes to objects witholding memories. A couple years back I lost my monkey stuffed animal that I'd had since birth. My earliest memory is me playing with it with my parents. When we moved 5 years ago it somehow got lost. Even though I hadn't played with it in years it felt horrible to lose it. Even though I don't possess it anymore I still treasure him with all my heart.
your saying of letting go of the past to make space for new beginnings really resonated with me. Although you probably meant it literally, but figuratively it is a nice saying.
I'm the same way man, super sentimental. Not just with objects but places where memories were made etc. Nostalgia is the same, even songs will bring me back to the days when they were first released and have me thinking about life at that time. 😪
Oh fr same here. Really hard to get rid of things that you grow attached to. I also got a Civic for University and have a feeling I will still be owning it 20 or even 30 years later out of sentimental value alone
I went through a phase in my late 20’s where I felt nostalgia for the things that I had as a child, teenager and young man, and then I realized that it wasn’t the possessions that I had from that time that made me who I was... It was the experiences and life lessons I took away from all of it. Chances are that you’re holding onto the comforts of the past because you’re fearful of discomfort in the future. You repair and mend the sentimental items that break because you see the discomfort of them being broken as minor inconvenience in comparison to the discomfort of losing them, long term. You don’t want to let go of something that made you feel fulfilled, connected, emotional and like you achieved something. That being said, discomfort is inevitable, and no matter how much of an effort you make to save the things that make you feel comfortable, you will always encounter it, regardless of if they’re in your life or not. To let go of these items and perhaps keep only a few for the future, you need to disconnect your ego and your emotional connection from them. It needs to be a conscious decision to be willing to tackle what the future brings, without any reservation or fear of the outcome. We all die, most of us untimely. We can’t bring these things with us into the afterlife. Live for the now, and prepare for the future.
You working on your car is just like how your handle your life or relationships... you rather fix your life and relationships instead of just throwing it away... RESPECT ✊
You are speaking my language! I have the exact seem issue 'problem'...I dont know how to handle "letting go". So hard. Everything I own has sentimental value, and I'm so happy to hear I am not the only one. It's tough and thank you for admitting and that's hard for me. Thank you for being true. You both are so beautiful. God bless you always.
I'm tearing up. I've had to move multiple times and I'm having a hard time letting go of sentimental items too. When you were talking about your grade reports and schedules, I laughed, knowing I've been keeping school projects that I felt proud of. You're one of my favorite youtubers that I've watched since I was younger.
I can relate brother, I'm a recovering pack rat/hoarder who's becoming a minimilist. Going thru several stages of homelessness helped me to detach emotionally from certain possessions although I don't recommend the route I took to anybody! LOL. I know how challenging it can be, bless you on your quest!
Hello Frank, I have the same problem... Always looking for something to fix, old cables, earphones, old textbooks in my bookshelves, you name it... I really appreciate you
Every one of your videos are so inspirational as I can relate to them all so much. Also Joanna is an absolute Angel! You’re lucky to have someone like her!
Amen brother, remember life is a journey and things come and go but memories will stay with you forever. Stay well and happy new year to you and your family!
A good approach for cleaning out old stuff is to put everything on eBay. Everything that doesn’t sell in like a month just gets donated to the local thrift store. I also try to buy very few things because I know it’ll probably just end up sitting in my closet & not get used.
Was listening to this while researching possible solutions to broken TV and broken laptop screen for my old laptop. Suddenly start wondering if I'm a packrat and if getting a new TV would be cheaper. Sorry to hear this week was a struggle. You made it through! Thanks so much for sharing your reflections, they always hit different!
Not sure if it will help but advice that I've gotten in the past was to take a picture of everything if you are going to get rid of it - you keep the memory and photos now a days can be stored without taking up physical space. With the photo you can still relive/remember the memories you've associated with the object and/or place.
Haha, I’m a tinkerer myself. However, the older I get, the more I realize I can’t buy back time. If it’s not a minor repair, I just go new. Have a Happy New Year Frank!
I had a hard problem letting go my 1994 civic. It was a slight front end damage which was fixable. but it was sitting at my sister place on the street. The neighbors was complaining so I had finally had to let go my 13 year old car.
@@ice1cube yes lots of memories. One time after work at around 2am on a two ramp merge onto freeway 101NB. I was forced off ramp and drop 2 foot onto the freeway because the other car and I won't yield to the other to enter freeway. Lol. I put back into gear and continue home. Like you I repair it so many times.
Thxs for sharing this Frank! I found this topic very relatable to me lol...one way of letting things go for me is to have them in the digital format but I guess you are already doing it. Cheers and god bless you and your family!
Your car hoard issue is hilarious!! It's so me!! I have trouble throwing things away too. I feel like I might need it tomorrow, even though I haven't touched it in five years! lol. I save EVERY paper. My daughter is 35 and I still have every picture she drew and all school papers. I can't stop laughing because it's sooo me!!! Too funny!!! If you do figure out the secret of "rid of things", please let me know.
The Goldbergs but YOU and YOUR family. Netflix, that's the show I wanna see. I love your channel mate. These personal logs you make but especially the care you take for your mom. That's the kind of man I want to be. Lots of love brother
I feel like a good Civic project to prevent it from being thrown out is a rattlecan paint job. They can actually look really good and almost professional if you do all the prep right. Look at Moore Motorsport's channel for some ideas. I did my Sentra before I got rid of it with a gloss white Rustoleum rattlecan job with filler primer and it looked really nice. Took tons and tons of wetsanding with 500 grit, though. It'd be cool to see it in a red similar to your old Prelude. Of course a real automotive base/clear job would be more ideal, but I feel like you could knock out a rattlecan job like that with some friends/family in a couple weekends.
The pain of throwing things that were in your childhood is a painful memory for me. After losing both of my parents, my siblings and i had to go through our home to throw out everything. To my knowledge I only have a Dark Magician Yugioh card that I kept from my childhood. Yes it was painful to see many things thrown out, but I believe it's a process we all have to go through. Plus it does help when your moving to a new apartment or house.
Possibly the reason, is that you need to travel through the journey to learn 'how to do things. It's really impressive and you did your bit by not throwing away the washing machine. It's not hoarding it's items laying around waiting for a creative project.
My old room at my mum's house was full of crap. Old schoolbooks, university brochures (lol I didn't even gooooo, just reminders of failure lol ;_;) clothes I haven't been able to fit in for like 15 years, piles of CDs, old toys, a guitar I never learned how to play... when I moved out I said "No no, I want a lot of this stuff, I'll come back to sort through it"... never did lol She got rid of most of it so she can use my old room when my nephews sleep over. When I complained she said "You've been moved out for nearly 10 years, if you haven't missed it in that time, you're not going to bloody miss it now!" lol
God gives us all gifts from his spirit. I now see why you have been so good to your mum. The Lord has allowed you to have a loving and loyal heart. Even when something or someone is broken, you still see their true value.
I went through the same process months back lol. In my parent's garage, I sifted through boxes of class schedules, book reports, annotated books and other crap from elementary to highschool. I ended up throwing away 95%, keeping only certain things. I had the same thoughts though, such as what if, when I'm older, I decide to look through this and show my kids? Most of it was junk though lol so no need for that, so I only kept stuff that made me laugh or defined me as a person at that age. Felt good to go through it though to see how I've changed, and throwing stuff out felt like I was starting anew as well.
Frank, I missed and LOVE your videos so much lmao the old tape where you were kneeling and jumping in happiness was GOLD HAHA I love you so much! please don't ever ever stop making videos xD
Every video u do makes me reflect on life you have real talent for words and insight into life my man hope you and your family enjoy life to the fullest god bless you
Whats up with these 97 Civics filling with water? I had that same model year ages ago, had the same problem with the water there--just assumed cuz I bought it used and cheap from my friend, was a salvage title or something. HA, and broken head gasket, mine had that too past 200,000 miles. Blowing my mind.
even as a 15 year old, it saddens me to think how many toys i've lost from my childhood, how many memories i've already made
better things are yet to come!
@@ice1cube thank you for the reassurance frank :)
@@ice1cube 69 like lol
I gave mine away to a children's home. I hope it made some children happy 😊
I gave my Barbie dolls to my cousin, it still makes me wanna cry a little when I think about it. I didn't know why at the spark of the moment I felt fine giving them away. But later felt like I lost the love of my life. How cruel was I to just give them away to a new home. I miss them so much, but I guess she will use and cherish them (three of them actually) more than I do now that I am all grown up. I seldom think about it because it makes me think about all the melancholic memories during childhood. But for this video sake, I will think about them for a little bit.
This is lowkey his most passionate rant, LOL. Stay blessed man!
Havent seen the one about car or his childhood those are something else
LoL.
ROFL!!
Nobody stays( blessed) may be SANE
happy new year friends! thank you all for your continual love and support!!
Happy New Year, Frack!❤
Hope you had a great xmas, Frank!
What kind of Honda is that next to the Supra
Happy new year Frank! I look forward to Sunday’s to see new posts from you
happy new year frank, good to see you back
“Attachment is the root cause of all misery. Possessiveness is nourishment for the ego.”
well said
Aye man Ice cold I found you
But attachment could also be love
cant agree more... this has been my principle for the last 10 years.
Nodding...
a true engineer at heart to dissect and solve the problem rather than spending the money that went to parts to a new washer lmaoo
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@@ice1cube Happy holidays Frank! As always your videos mean a lot and I always look forward to watching them!
@@SimonLi thank you simon!! I appreciate you my friend, happy holidays!
And then the engineers start complaining that the boss isnt an engineer but an econ dude.
i felt this deep... I hope your doing well man
2:54 that subtle flex of all those AP classes. YOU AINT SLICK FRANK lol
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@@ice1cube even an internship! Damn!
As a fellow man named frank, my meager 3 APs in junior year is crying in disappointment
right, damn that's a lot of APs
And Calc BC grades? I got into Calc AB and quit after the first week. inspiring 😤
@@sean640 sameee 😂
Joanne must have the patience of the youngest-of-all grasshoppers. You're so lucky to have found her!!
you probably won't hear this but I really enjoy your videos they're very entertaining especially you having pretty much your whole past recorded. Keep it up, man.
thank you sajay!!!
I can't believe how much of an underrated youtuber you are.
Love your videos
thank you so much my friend!!
Never thought we'd attended the same high school (albeit different years) and now im watching your videos. The world sure is smaller than it seems
Really?
Cap?
@@thebigstick5540 Well there's always a good chance since it is a public high school, on the internet you can't really tell the truth or lie but taking the truth for positive stuff is better for the good
“Being to anchored in the past can prevent growth and hold back development of new things ahead.”
Wise words.
Just take photos of items from the past, and put them in a great photo album. The memories will remain.
my biggest fear is that once i throw things away i may forget the memories that came with it
You do make a good point but if the memories were so great you won’t forget it ever and the next time you see said item somewhere else the rush of nostalgia will feel so much better
I take pics before I throw it out
@@asura8495 nice
@@Dhead-io4om it’s taken me a good while to realise this but you’ve said it so clearly.
Thanks 👍
@@seraphina2293 no problem I’m glad I can help
It's nice to know someone like Frank also struggles with letting things go
Just take photos of unused items from the past, and put them in a great photo album. The memories will remain.
I couldn't help but smile as you described wanting to hold onto some of your things because I can definitely relate! Thanks for the reminder of letting go of what's useless and holding onto what's most precious. You have a wonderful wife, mother and family. You're all a wonderful blessing. 🙏🏻💖🙏🏻
thank you so much my friend and I appreciate you watching and commenting on so many videos!! THANK YOU!!
Just take photos of items from the past, and put them in a great photo album. The memories will remain.
Frank, the arc of your narration has me in stitches. Starts off normal, then you get goofy describing the extreme lengths you've gone too for your Civic, then evolves into a breathless and prophetic defence of all sorts of off childhood ephemera - hilarious! Nice to see you are a mere mortal like the rest of us. But of course, you leave us with so much wisdom.
Back in 2009, my dad died suddenly in the midst of my parents separation. We had to move out of my childhood home AND deal with his belongings on a tight timeline. Ive blacked out a lot of those memories because as you can imagine, it was a very painful time and I had to let go of a lot before I felt ready. I had to rapidly accept that my dads things did not bring him back. Sometimes I wish I had some of the things that are now long gone, but to comfort myself I have no choice really but to meditate and be grateful for the things that are inextricable: our memories, our experiences, all the ways I carry on his best qualities etc.
I hope you keep the best of the best in a few waterproof totes for safekeeping! Think of all the new space as room for all the amazing life and fun ahead of you
andie thank you so much for your kind words and support!! I really appreciate your insight and encouragement, and I'm so sorry to hear about the experience with losing your dad. sending you so much love my friend thank you so much for your love and support!!!
love the clip at the end of joanne and your mom walking together. happy new year to you and your family frank!
"earn my parents love".. I felt that
His parents loved him immensely honestly. He was probably such a great son too
You're not alone.
"The more stuff you own, the more your stuff owns you." -Fight Club
Bro most of your videos bring me to the edge of tears, I can relate so much and hearing these things from another person makes it easier to get a grip on reality
Just take photos of items from the past, and put them in a great photo album. The memories will remain.
I've actually been trying to get rid of all my stuff as well. That new minimalist approach where you spend more time with your family/loved ones and reducing the clutter. I grew up in a poor and my parents always had the mentality of "we might need this later" ingrained into my brain. But stuff gotta change when you're living with so much junk. So I adopted a new rule: If I haven't touched it in a year, I'm gonna get rid of it.
same! thank you!
@@ice1cube how were you able to find service parts for a 20+ year old washer?
@@destinationskyline07 lol no idea but it was there!! model whre5550k2ww hahaha
We have the same rule ! I too , grew up poor....even when our financial situation changed, my parents really struggled to cast the trauma they had having poor financials.
My family is doing a lot better these days, i have some hope that they will eventually kick the habit..... but the traces are still there....lingering like old horrible memories of the past.
it's okay, cuz i'm okay.... i'm married and have a lovely , clean, clutter free, tidy home to come to now .
biggest life change i have ever made, and it's helped me gain confidence in growing in other areas. Keep at it! you won't regret it :)
Just take photos of items from the past, and put them in a great photo album. The memories will remain.
This sash was a one of one!!! I couldn’t possibly throw away that!
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Having attachments to items that have pleasant memories means that you have a big heart. Just remember that the "things"are just that, "things" as good as they make us feel it's the memories that are important. Your fond memories are forever. Don't deny yourself a few items to keep just make sure you are keeping just the cherished ones. As for me, the piano is a keeper. Much love to your family!
Civic Trunk flood in waters... lol. Same here.
😢we haven’t got rid of my brothers clothes... can’t seem to let it go. It’s all we have left of him.
You’re lucky to have your wife. She’s a keeper.
My dad passed away in 2019 and my siblings and I had to go through 40 years of stuff he accumulated. We threw away a ton of nostalgic items. I took photos of anything that was important, but then I threw most of them away. Why? Because I don't want to lug it around for the next 30-40 years and put my kids through what me and my siblings had to do for weeks. The truth is, I dont miss a lot of it, and when I see the photos they bring back the memories just as well as if I had the physical item in front of me.
much love to you and your family my friend
I do like the idea of taking pictures of the things you have to get rid of, that way you still have the memories. But, never let life’s memories pass you by!
Yes, the photos r the same and less clutter.
I’m so happy I found this channel, been a little lost where I wanna go in life.
This channel has helped me alot, thanks for the videos you make and I hope you make more
Just take photos of items from the past, and put them in a great photo album. The memories will remain.
@@LGAussie thank for the advice🤗
I can definetly relate to this, a couple of months ago I had old assignments from the 2nd grade all the way up to college, I had report cards, honor awards, I held onto receipts, old wires, broken controllers and keyboards, a random double AA battery, tv remote, phones, toys, old games I played as a kid, stuffed animals, folders, my 5th grade black and gray sweater that was stained with blood on the hoodie, my gym pants, 4th grade khakis, everything. It was really hard for me to let go of these things, although I know the memories are still somewhere in my mind, these objects were what I used to trigger these memories. After letting go of them, yes it helps me move forward and not dwell so much on the past, but it was almost like I let a piece of myself go with every item, every paper. Now I have no way of accessing those memories, or no trigger. Life is really bittersweet man.
I hold on to things for the exact same reason
Your value as a person is not calculated by the accumulation of objects.
it is the accumulation of total growth, as a person, which makes you YOU. Have faith in yourself!
Just take photos of items from the past, and put them in a great photo album. The memories will remain.
Honestly, fixing washing machines is a unique hell. I tried once, but I've learned my lesson just to buy new washing machines lol
Great conclusion on this topic. Thanks a lot for sharing precious life lessons like this with us! I know it's not always easy to share such private content with your viewers, but I hope you know how much you're helping people like me on their jorneys with videos like this. Thanks for beeing the big bro we never had. Greetings from Germany, best wishes and good health for you and your Family
Just take photos of items from the past, and put them in a great photo album. The memories will remain.
lols. Nice Civic! The feels. I prefer to drive my 99 Toyota because if someone steals it i’m not going to care but then I end up fixing everything on it because it’s my daily driver. Your things are definitely sentimental! I literally cried when I found out my dad threw away my chrome bmx GT bike. It took me a couple weeks to buy that bike for $500 as a kid throwing newspapers back in grade school. My brother told me somebody picked it right up on the curb. He saw it and never told me!
Congrats on the wedding! God bless.
thank you my friend! much love to you and your family, I'm sorry about your bike haha I totally relate
Damn no wonder he didn’t throw away his schedule look at all the Ap classes
You have such precious home videos which have already captured all your good memories and sentimental items. You can keep some stuff, I still have a couple of boxes of my childhood toys, reports etc. My mother passed away almost 20yrs ago and I kept a few of her clothes and handbags and donated the rest.
thank you my friend! sending you so much love
Very true 👍. Learning to let go of the past really does change your mindset and help you focus on the future.
Just take photos of items from the past, and put them in a great photo album. The memories will remain.
I know how difficult it is! I still have a few clothing articles of my best friend who passed away of ALS. When I wear one of her skirts I remember how beautiful she looked in it and it makes me smile! Also, never loss site of the cross your mama wears, save it for your future daughter!♥️
Frank, this is the 2nd video of yours that has made me cry. I am by no means an emotional person, but these past few videos of yours have really struck a chord with me. Thank you for making such genuine and amazing content!
Awe, you guys are a beautiful couple ❤️. Keep up with your stories. It’s refreshing to hear them. My dad’s health has been in decline for awhile. It hurts to them in such pain but honestly seeing your videos reminds me to appreciate them even more.
sending you so much love my friend! to you and your dad!!!
Thank you. ❤️
Lease a storage, these things are great to show your kids in the future to explain your progress and timeline throughout life. My mom threw all of my childhood projects away.
Growing up, I always nagged at my mom for wanting to keep everything.
It wasn't until recently that I found myself wanting to keep small things because like you said, it's for the memories.
I'll leave one of my favorite quotes here:
"Learn the difference between connection and attachment. Connection gives you power, attachment sucks the life out of you!"
We never seem to stop learning, and that seems to be the best part about life!
Happy holidays
Ooooh boy, Frank... Now imagine being like this (having a difficult time separating the memories from the items) but being in a family of SEVEN KIDS who do the same thing. 🤣 Letting go of things is definitely not easy, but I think being able to share memories with the ones we love is almost (almost) just as good as keeping that 10th grade term paper you were really proud of.
1 john 2:27
(i'm at 4:30) honestly, as a hoarder myself, this all sounds super reasonable. i couldn't get rid of any of the half-sentimental stuff i threw away over the summer, without taking photos of them or scanning all the old journals that i wrote. i'm glad you made this video.
I feel you. I have so much stuff I can't part with. It's hard to let go of the past but you have to in order to move forward. God bless you for being such a loving son and husband. 💖
I saw videos in regards to dementia and I learnt that knitting helps people with dementia to remember things better. Knitting helps cognition, hopefully this helps
thank you amir!!
Frank I cannot tell you enough times how much of a gift you've got, to engage people. Your life isn't considered bizarre, its still, calm and regular, yet the way you communicate story tell makes the mundane into something captivating. You have an insane ability to make your life experiences feel relevant to strangers on the internet. Keep at it. If i were you I'd consider more ways I can monetise this gift. It could even help you have even more freedom over your time and spend more time with your mother and wife.
You don’t need Marie Kondo’s book “The Life Changing Magic of Tidying up”.. you need MARIE KONDO HERSELF IN THE FLESH 😆
I was always able to throw things out, up until a loved one passed and then it was impossible ..letting it go was like letting them go all over again ..
I just did a large give away to good will ...knowing some one else can prosper helps but there is still so much more I need to let go of .
When your wife tells you its time to throw more out ...what helps me is pausing and realizing these are just earthly things God gave them to us for a time , we cant take them with us when he calls us home .
You make great videos my friend !
thank you for your sharing and encouragement my friend!! I appreciate you
@@ice1cube And I appreciate you as well my friend 😊
To you and your family
Stay safe Stay well and Trust in God
Don't throw anything away my friend nostalgia will kill you. Ps god bless you and your family you are a lovely human being.
I went to Troy HS too! Class of 2018. I had some of those teachers too, Menna, Bainter, Grack, St. Clair. They’re still there 15 years later! Currently a 3rd year mechie at CSULB. You’re truly an inspiration frank!
Your children may one day enjoy playing your Mom's piano and also enjoy your valuable toys 😊
God bless you and your family Frank.
Totally understand where such an idea came from. I, myself, somewhat having a similar problem; as well, trying to get rid of as much stuff as I can. Indeed your lovely wife must be very patient with you. Good luck, and bravo for caring for your mom that has dementia. Hang in there!
Hey Frank, I wanted to begin by saying thank you for continuing to share content on UA-cam. I first began watching your videos way back when in 2009/2010 when I was in high school, and am really glad you've re-found your love for posting videos and I look forward to watching them on a weekly basis. I, too, am a Taiwanese American, so it's great seeing you embody so much pride in our culture! Keep doing you!
This video really resonated with me since I'm the exact same (actually both myself and my wife), holding onto so many things due to sentimental reasons. For example, I still have my starcraft and warcraft 3 battlechest in my room at my parent's house lmao. I still have a long way to go, but about a year ago, around the time that Marie Kondo rose in popularity, my wife and I decided that just because we wanted to get rid of old random stuff that we would never use again, it doesn't mean that we didn't cherish the experience/sentimental value that is associated with that object. We now view things through the lens that for 99% of things, if we haven't used/touched something in the last year, we would acknowledge the value/positive experience it had on us, but opt to throw it away. This has helped us significantly de-clutter our lives and we definitely think we're happier with this change. We still struggle with this, but overall it's definitely been a positive experience for us. I hope sharing this may be helpful to you and your wife!
thank you for the kind words and encouragement. I will definitely take your advice, I can see how its freeing to declutter. much love to you and your wife my friend! thank you
This hit very close to home.
As someone who has dealt and is still dealing with parents and siblings who hoard, this is very typical hoarding behavior and mentality, and it’s a lot better that you get rid of your items now before it becomes a hard coping mechanism in response to loss or trauma.
When my mom lost her mom in 2012, 8 years later the house is in the worst shape it’s ever been. These leave lasting effects and can ruin relationships between a family. better believe that it’s not just about the stuff and the space that it takes up, but the emotional burden of keeping those things for years as well.
I am a horder too. Don't want to throw anything away because of the sentimental value. So I can totally feel you when you throwing the things away.
Happy New Year Frank
At 23, I have a problem throwing stuff out as well. I have old text books from college, I have toys from childhood, I have mail from family memebers stock piled. I haven't thrown away my old gamecube and ps2 even though I've tried to repair them over and over again. It's hard man, every single video I seem more and more like you.
hey man, im actually going through a decluttering phase. I learned that i only need the things that are essential. I took pictures of sentimental items and threw them out or donated them. It helped me declutter my mind as well. There is a bunch of vids on youtube about "decluttering", "essentialism", and "minimalism" that might help you declutter. Good luck on your journey! Hope I helped! Happy New Year to your family!
Just read the description and I'm so proud of you for striving through that week! You will only get stronger from such experiences but I don't need to tell you that. You're the master of reflecting in life :)
So many justifications lol. I too struggle. I've been slowly been getting rid of things, but I still cannot part with my first few PC build empty boxes and sentimental reasons for early 🎮. You are already on the right path, with the perspective of growth 📈.
Reading the title, I'm like "um with ya frank!" Cuz my wife made me get rid of stuff too, but it was stuff we needed like my couch and vacuum and stuff, not sentimental stuff. But then after I saw the stuff, I'm like "nah, Joanne is right." XD
But I've found the best way to honor old stuff is to give it new life. With some of ur mom's old clothes or items, could really bless someone else. And wouldn't that be an amazing way to honor ur mom. To use her stuff to bless others who need it. Thanks for sharing as always frank.
Man we have such different lives yet I can relate so much to some of yoyr experiences. I feel the same things when it comes to objects witholding memories. A couple years back I lost my monkey stuffed animal that I'd had since birth. My earliest memory is me playing with it with my parents. When we moved 5 years ago it somehow got lost. Even though I hadn't played with it in years it felt horrible to lose it. Even though I don't possess it anymore I still treasure him with all my heart.
your saying of letting go of the past to make space for new beginnings really resonated with me. Although you probably meant it literally, but figuratively it is a nice saying.
I'm the same way man, super sentimental. Not just with objects but places where memories were made etc. Nostalgia is the same, even songs will bring me back to the days when they were first released and have me thinking about life at that time. 😪
U can always take photos of items from the past, and put them in a great photo album. The memories will remain.
Stay strong brother :) "The measure of a man is where he stands in times of challenge and controversy" -Martin Luther King Jr.
Oh fr same here. Really hard to get rid of things that you grow attached to. I also got a Civic for University and have a feeling I will still be owning it 20 or even 30 years later out of sentimental value alone
I went through a phase in my late 20’s where I felt nostalgia for the things that I had as a child, teenager and young man, and then I realized that it wasn’t the possessions that I had from that time that made me who I was... It was the experiences and life lessons I took away from all of it.
Chances are that you’re holding onto the comforts of the past because you’re fearful of discomfort in the future. You repair and mend the sentimental items that break because you see the discomfort of them being broken as minor inconvenience in comparison to the discomfort of losing them, long term. You don’t want to let go of something that made you feel fulfilled, connected, emotional and like you achieved something. That being said, discomfort is inevitable, and no matter how much of an effort you make to save the things that make you feel comfortable, you will always encounter it, regardless of if they’re in your life or not.
To let go of these items and perhaps keep only a few for the future, you need to disconnect your ego and your emotional connection from them. It needs to be a conscious decision to be willing to tackle what the future brings, without any reservation or fear of the outcome.
We all die, most of us untimely. We can’t bring these things with us into the afterlife.
Live for the now, and prepare for the future.
You working on your car is just like how your handle your life or relationships... you rather fix your life and relationships instead of just throwing it away... RESPECT ✊
You are speaking my language! I have the exact seem issue 'problem'...I dont know how to handle "letting go". So hard.
Everything I own has sentimental value, and I'm so happy to hear I am not the only one. It's tough and thank you for admitting and that's hard for me.
Thank you for being true.
You both are so beautiful. God bless you always.
I'm tearing up. I've had to move multiple times and I'm having a hard time letting go of sentimental items too. When you were talking about your grade reports and schedules, I laughed, knowing I've been keeping school projects that I felt proud of. You're one of my favorite youtubers that I've watched since I was younger.
U can always take photos of items from the past, and put them in a great photo album. The memories will remain.
I can relate brother, I'm a recovering pack rat/hoarder who's becoming a minimilist. Going thru several stages of homelessness helped me to detach emotionally from certain possessions although I don't recommend the route I took to anybody! LOL. I know how challenging it can be, bless you on your quest!
Hello Frank, I have the same problem... Always looking for something to fix, old cables, earphones, old textbooks in my bookshelves, you name it... I really appreciate you
Every one of your videos are so inspirational as I can relate to them all so much. Also Joanna is an absolute Angel! You’re lucky to have someone like her!
Roller coaster tycoon! Oh my gosh! The Scholastic book fairs. This was awesome 😂
Amen brother, remember life is a journey and things come and go but memories will stay with you forever. Stay well and happy new year to you and your family!
“Old things must pass for new things to grow” 👍👍
A good approach for cleaning out old stuff is to put everything on eBay. Everything that doesn’t sell in like a month just gets donated to the local thrift store. I also try to buy very few things because I know it’ll probably just end up sitting in my closet & not get used.
Was listening to this while researching possible solutions to broken TV and broken laptop screen for my old laptop. Suddenly start wondering if I'm a packrat and if getting a new TV would be cheaper.
Sorry to hear this week was a struggle. You made it through! Thanks so much for sharing your reflections, they always hit different!
Not sure if it will help but advice that I've gotten in the past was to take a picture of everything if you are going to get rid of it - you keep the memory and photos now a days can be stored without taking up physical space. With the photo you can still relive/remember the memories you've associated with the object and/or place.
Haha, I’m a tinkerer myself. However, the older I get, the more I realize I can’t buy back time. If it’s not a minor repair, I just go new. Have a Happy New Year Frank!
Don't ever change, Frank! Happy holidays to you and your family.
I had a hard problem letting go my 1994 civic. It was a slight front end damage which was fixable. but it was sitting at my sister place on the street. The neighbors was complaining so I had finally had to let go my 13 year old car.
😭😭😭 I'm sorry I think I'm at the point of needing to let go my civic too
@@ice1cube yes lots of memories. One time after work at around 2am on a two ramp merge onto freeway 101NB. I was forced off ramp and drop 2 foot onto the freeway because the other car and I won't yield to the other to enter freeway. Lol. I put back into gear and continue home. Like you I repair it so many times.
Thxs for sharing this Frank! I found this topic very relatable to me lol...one way of letting things go for me is to have them in the digital format but I guess you are already doing it. Cheers and god bless you and your family!
Your car hoard issue is hilarious!! It's so me!! I have trouble throwing things away too. I feel like I might need it tomorrow, even though I haven't touched it in five years! lol. I save EVERY paper. My daughter is 35 and I still have every picture she drew and all school papers. I can't stop laughing because it's sooo me!!! Too funny!!! If you do figure out the secret of "rid of things", please let me know.
God Bless, Frank. I hope that you understand that you're a role model and inspiration for many young'uns like myself. Keep it up.
I would keep all those cool childhood games and toys that you had ! They are all so very rare and do have meaning! 👍🏽
thank you Valeria!!!
I'm the same way but for all my reports and papers I scanned everything! Glad your back by the way.
frank you really live life on the edge when it comes to that civic huh? XD
hahahahahha it really is, never know if each drive is gonna be its last and if ill make it to my destination🤣🤣🤣
@@ice1cube I’m too scared if I even hear my engine make any irregular sounds 😂😂
I have a 2018 Accord big mistake on my end but when the VTEC kicks in it never gets old
I have admit I'm a bit of a hoarder myself
My mom wants me to clean out my room but I have trouble giving up my possessions
Just take photos of items from the past, and put them in a great photo album. The memories will remain.
The Goldbergs but YOU and YOUR family. Netflix, that's the show I wanna see.
I love your channel mate. These personal logs you make
but especially the care you take for your mom. That's the kind of man I want to be.
Lots of love brother
Frank, all of your videos are a pleasure to watch. Keep at it!
I feel like a good Civic project to prevent it from being thrown out is a rattlecan paint job. They can actually look really good and almost professional if you do all the prep right. Look at Moore Motorsport's channel for some ideas. I did my Sentra before I got rid of it with a gloss white Rustoleum rattlecan job with filler primer and it looked really nice. Took tons and tons of wetsanding with 500 grit, though. It'd be cool to see it in a red similar to your old Prelude. Of course a real automotive base/clear job would be more ideal, but I feel like you could knock out a rattlecan job like that with some friends/family in a couple weekends.
The pain of throwing things that were in your childhood is a painful memory for me. After losing both of my parents, my siblings and i had to go through our home to throw out everything. To my knowledge I only have a Dark Magician Yugioh card that I kept from my childhood. Yes it was painful to see many things thrown out, but I believe it's a process we all have to go through. Plus it does help when your moving to a new apartment or house.
This video hits hard man this dude knows how to explain life in such a relatable way is amazing.
Personally I feel attacked by this video 😂
Good stuff brother keep posting.
RIGHT? 😂
Just take photos of items from the past, and put them in a great photo album. The memories will remain.
Possibly the reason, is that you need to travel through the journey to learn 'how to do things. It's really impressive and you did your bit by not throwing away the washing machine.
It's not hoarding it's items laying around waiting for a creative project.
My old room at my mum's house was full of crap. Old schoolbooks, university brochures (lol I didn't even gooooo, just reminders of failure lol ;_;) clothes I haven't been able to fit in for like 15 years, piles of CDs, old toys, a guitar I never learned how to play... when I moved out I said "No no, I want a lot of this stuff, I'll come back to sort through it"... never did lol
She got rid of most of it so she can use my old room when my nephews sleep over. When I complained she said "You've been moved out for nearly 10 years, if you haven't missed it in that time, you're not going to bloody miss it now!" lol
God gives us all gifts from his spirit. I now see why you have been so good to your mum. The Lord has allowed you to have a loving and loyal heart. Even when something or someone is broken, you still see their true value.
thank you my friend!!!
I went through the same process months back lol. In my parent's garage, I sifted through boxes of class schedules, book reports, annotated books and other crap from elementary to highschool. I ended up throwing away 95%, keeping only certain things. I had the same thoughts though, such as what if, when I'm older, I decide to look through this and show my kids? Most of it was junk though lol so no need for that, so I only kept stuff that made me laugh or defined me as a person at that age. Felt good to go through it though to see how I've changed, and throwing stuff out felt like I was starting anew as well.
Frank, I missed and LOVE your videos so much lmao the old tape where you were kneeling and jumping in happiness was GOLD HAHA I love you so much! please don't ever ever stop making videos xD
All those toys can make kids and toddlers super happy. You can make a virtual catalog or a photo book to look back on and reflect. :D
Every video u do makes me reflect on life you have real talent for words and insight into life my man hope you and your family enjoy life to the fullest god bless you
I thought I was sentimental. Gonna hold your beer. God bless your mums.
Whats up with these 97 Civics filling with water? I had that same model year ages ago, had the same problem with the water there--just assumed cuz I bought it used and cheap from my friend, was a salvage title or something. HA, and broken head gasket, mine had that too past 200,000 miles. Blowing my mind.
lol right??? same defect once they get old I suppose
i love these videos because u are truly trying to better yourself and recognizing ur faults which inspires me to do the same