Such a beautiful story Irene! I wish more people in the world could step in to help parents who are struggling or disassociated from their kids. But so many people fear getting involved. I have so much to learn from you. I’m a mother of 3 boys and another son in the stars, and I can see the impact of my own repressed childhood trauma in them. I can hold space for tantrums and tears well (this has taken a lot of practice) but I have a long way to go to learn to break through my own numbing and fear of play and step into the role of playful mama that they need more of.
Irene Lyoness filled with LOVE! Thank you for sharing this important and powerful experience. Appreciate you stepping into your calling and taking the time to share this with us and I am looking forward to putting this into practise. New to your channell and your youness and am navigating all of the info. See you on the path! Love, Coco Regina
Stress isn’t just from a ‘go, go, go’ career attitude, it’s also from having been abused emotionally and now over reacting to any little perceived stress that happens. When that ‘response’ to a perceived stress happens, it’s nearly impossible to bring that adrenaline down right away. How do you tame down that response so that the adrenaline leaves your system without lingering on for hours, especially when it happens at 3 am?
Great story. Thank you for posting. Do you have children now? I was wondering a good idea to handle a tantrum from NOT getting something they want at home? my son found out his Christmas gifts were delivered but he has to wait another 2 weeks to get them. He went into a rage and unfortunately I got very upset. I understand the basics about getting on his level. But what do I do at home when he goes into fight or flight mode when he doesn’t get something he wants? Thank you
Hi Britney, Seth here from Team Lyon (and also Irene's husband). Irene doesn't have children, but she helped raise mine for a while. One thing that I came to see through my evolution and healing, is that Irene actually had a clearer lens than me when it came to parenting. She couldn't understand exactly how it FEELS to be a parent, but she certainly knew better than me what worked well and what didn't when it came to parenting, and that's simply because she had good parents, and has undergone enough education to understand exactly what the human physiology needs to develop well, whereas I has toxic and abusive parents that screwed up a lot of my ideas about what it meant to be a good parent. This may be tough to hear, but if your child is having tantrums about not getting what they want for any reason, in any setting, it means that something traumatic has happened in their life. Their little system is holding on to rage and frustration and that happens for a reason. This reason could be a difficult pregnancy or birth, surgeries at a young age, or other overwhelming medical procedures, car accidents or near death experiences like choking or almost drowning, or it could simply be from being surrounded by the toxic norms of our society. Also, usually it is at least partially due to what we, as parents, are holding within us - our own unresolved trauma, or even the inter-generational trauma from our entire lineage. So the best way to understand how to work with him and his trauma, is to first understand how to work with any unresolved trauma within yourself. Not only will that help you get on his level, as you heal yourself that will naturally ripple out to him. He will sense your growing regulation, and it will help him feel safer. Also, I don't know if there is a partner in the picture, but if there is, the same applies to them. So keep on watching and learning here, and also maybe consider joining Irene's 21 Day Tuneup, so you can get the education and practices on board that will help you understand and work with yourself at a deeper level, which will in turn help your son.
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Such a beautiful story Irene! I wish more people in the world could step in to help parents who are struggling or disassociated from their kids. But so many people fear getting involved. I have so much to learn from you. I’m a mother of 3 boys and another son in the stars, and I can see the impact of my own repressed childhood trauma in them. I can hold space for tantrums and tears well (this has taken a lot of practice) but I have a long way to go to learn to break through my own numbing and fear of play and step into the role of playful mama that they need more of.
Irene Lyoness filled with LOVE! Thank you for sharing this important and powerful experience. Appreciate you stepping into your calling and taking the time to share this with us and I am looking forward to putting this into practise. New to your channell and your youness and am navigating all of the info. See you on the path! Love, Coco Regina
Hi Regina135, Seth here from Team Lyon. Thanks so much for watching and being here!
❤️ this!
Stress isn’t just from a ‘go, go, go’ career attitude, it’s also from having been abused emotionally and now over reacting to any little perceived stress that happens. When that ‘response’ to a perceived stress happens, it’s nearly impossible to bring that adrenaline down right away. How do you tame down that response so that the adrenaline leaves your system without lingering on for hours, especially when it happens at 3 am?
Great story. Thank you for posting. Do you have children now? I was wondering a good idea to handle a tantrum from NOT getting something they want at home? my son found out his Christmas gifts were delivered but he has to wait another 2 weeks to get them. He went into a rage and unfortunately I got very upset. I understand the basics about getting on his level. But what do I do at home when he goes into fight or flight mode when he doesn’t get something he wants? Thank you
Hi Britney, Seth here from Team Lyon (and also Irene's husband). Irene doesn't have children, but she helped raise mine for a while. One thing that I came to see through my evolution and healing, is that Irene actually had a clearer lens than me when it came to parenting. She couldn't understand exactly how it FEELS to be a parent, but she certainly knew better than me what worked well and what didn't when it came to parenting, and that's simply because she had good parents, and has undergone enough education to understand exactly what the human physiology needs to develop well, whereas I has toxic and abusive parents that screwed up a lot of my ideas about what it meant to be a good parent.
This may be tough to hear, but if your child is having tantrums about not getting what they want for any reason, in any setting, it means that something traumatic has happened in their life. Their little system is holding on to rage and frustration and that happens for a reason. This reason could be a difficult pregnancy or birth, surgeries at a young age, or other overwhelming medical procedures, car accidents or near death experiences like choking or almost drowning, or it could simply be from being surrounded by the toxic norms of our society. Also, usually it is at least partially due to what we, as parents, are holding within us - our own unresolved trauma, or even the inter-generational trauma from our entire lineage.
So the best way to understand how to work with him and his trauma, is to first understand how to work with any unresolved trauma within yourself. Not only will that help you get on his level, as you heal yourself that will naturally ripple out to him. He will sense your growing regulation, and it will help him feel safer. Also, I don't know if there is a partner in the picture, but if there is, the same applies to them. So keep on watching and learning here, and also maybe consider joining Irene's 21 Day Tuneup, so you can get the education and practices on board that will help you understand and work with yourself at a deeper level, which will in turn help your son.